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Today we dive into bullying. We go over our experiences both as parents and as kids with this subject. We also give our number one way we believe we can help our kids protect themselves from the emotional impact bullying can have.  0:12- Highs and Lows for the week 2:25- How do we help protect our kids?  3:15- Learning how to help them handle the situations their own way 4:03- Jess- her #1 thought on how to protect kids from bullying  5:45- Alison- Acting out scenarios 7:11- Making sure kids know they are allowed to defend themselves and practice doing it  13:58- Acting out scenerios  17:56- Practicing the scenerios 19:00- One of the biggest reason my husband got on board with Respectful Parenting  20:50- GAME- F, Marry, Unalive  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/2moms0attentionspan/message

Lots of people believe that gentle/respectful parenting is the same as permissive parenting. There is this idea that there are no boundaries or expectations for the kids and that they run the house... So, today we go through scenarios of what it would look like using permissive vs. respectful parenting.  0:15- Highs and lows for the week  2:30- Tantrum in a store- permissive vs gentle 2:50- 1 way to tell a tantrum vs meltdown 3:09- Permissive during a tantrum  3:40- setting expectation ahead of time  4:45- handling store tantrum- respectful parenting 7:25- Teens and curfews- permissive  8:12- Teens and boundaries- respectful/gentle  11:50- GAME- Everyone's favorite 90s sleepover game- F, Marry, U_alive!  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/2moms0attentionspan/message

Today we go through the 3 most asked about scenarios in regards to gentle/respectful parenting. We cover holding boundaries from toddlers to teens!  0:15- Highs and lows for the week  1:45- How to handle phone situations with teens 4:08- When one child self-regulates electronics better than another 6:09- Talking about TANTRUMS 7:27- Co-regulation!  8:40- Learning BASIC child development and what a child is actually ready for 9:45- Getting kids to clean their rooms! 11:20- Alison- story time about a struggle w/ executive function 12:58- Teaching every single step of a process until it becomes habit  13:58- Organizing in a way that makes sense for THEIR brain  17:28- Anxiety around care tasks  19:09- GAME!! 2 Truths and a Lie!    --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/2moms0attentionspan/message

We talk about the big misconceptions about Respectful Parenting (*spoiler alert- its not permissive parenting) and the way that gentle/respectful parenting is portrayed on social media.  00:10- Highs and Lows for the week 2:42- Misconceptions w/ gentle parenting  5:35- Respect is not fear 8:15- Age appropriate behavior 9:55- Theres a fear of the future- kids will be weak/entitled 12:00- "Us vs Them" on social media 14:00- We need a name change  15:44- GAME! Word association game!!  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/2moms0attentionspan/message

Did our partners get on board with respectful parenting right away? Today we talk about getting a partner on board with a respectful parenting style and some of the mistakes we made along the way. We dive into parenting differently than our partners in the beginning and some stories about all of us learning and adapting over time. Enjoy!  0:00- Catching up on our week- Our "highs" and "lows" 4:05- "Were you and Kenny always on the same page parenting?"  5:28- Jess talking about her own dad learning along the way 8:11- Possibly one of the reasons why some men struggle with respectful parenting 15:44- A big mistake Jess made when her husband was starting gentle parenting 19:57- GAME- "Would you rather?" --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/2moms0attentionspan/message

Today we talk about parental oversharing, child exploitation on social media, and the dangers of showing our kids in vulnerable moments publicly online.  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/2moms0attentionspan/message

So much goes into raising teens these days. Are we raising them to have boundaries? Respect for their own boundaries or others boundaries? What about vulnerable situations. How are we reaction to these things?  Are we encouraging mistakes but asking for help when needed. Are we assisting with open communications and expectations?  --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/2moms0attentionspan/message

We keep talking about it well lets learn more. How do we apply it what is it and how does it work? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/2moms0attentionspan/message

Trust is earned and maintained. When should kids have phones? We want our kids to feel confident enough to share with us and know it is safe to ask questions. Are you a reactive parent? We talked about having an honest discussion with our children. What is an age-appropriate conversation? When is a good time to have that discussion?   REF: https://www.ctdatacollaborative.org/story/abducted-victims#:~:text=Age&text=About%20a%20third%20of%20the,victims%20assisted%20by%20CTDC%20partners. --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/2moms0attentionspan/message

How are our kids seeing validation? Are we providing that validation appropriately? Are we, as parents, seeing things one way?   Do our kids have the confidence to share things with us especially when safety and security might be in question? --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/2moms0attentionspan/message