Self Obsessed
Self Obsessed
Tam Kaur
Tam Kaur’s Self-Obsessed is the ultimate guide to everything society didn’t want you to learn. In a world where women are criticised for wanting and being ‘too much’ it's time to change the narrative. Join our host Tam in learning how to be self-obsessed. After all, it’s only about prioritising your self-love, self-care, self-confidence, self-worth and self-growth. ‘Self-Obsessed’ simplifies the process of closing the gap between your current self and your desired self. Every episode is a straight-to-the-point carefully curated guide to help women everywhere fall in love with themselves. Each episode will provide actionable advice while navigating topics such as building confidence, embracing authenticity, setting boundaries, cultivating healthy relationships, and pursuing your passions. So, consider this your safest space on the internet as Tam gives you the life secrets no-one else ever shared. It’s time to be your own idol.
MID YEAR RESET 2026: the 1% plan to become unrecognisable in 6 months
if you've been waiting for a sign to reset your life, let this be it. the middle of the year is one of the most powerful times to pause and reflect because you still have enough time to completely change how this year ends. in this video, we'll talk about what a true mid-year reset actually looks like and why the second half of the year can completely change the direction of the first. from letting go of what no longer serves you to being more intentional with your time, energy, attention, and money, this is about creating a life that feels aligned with the person you're becoming. because you don't need a new year to start over. you just need the willingness to begin again. chapters:01:34 chapter 1: mid-year rest06:08 chapter 2: mid-year cuts13:00 chapter 3: mid-year investments19:44 chapter 4: mid-year resetBOOK JOURNALWEBSITEPODCAST VLOGSINSTAGRAMTIKTOKFor brand and press enquiries: [email protected]
Aug 5
29 min
mastering your self-concept is the answer to your desires
if you've ever felt invisible, believed you were "just shy," or convinced yourself that confidence was something other people were born with, this conversation is for you. we explore why your self-concept is the foundation of every change you want to make, and how the identity you've carried for years may be quietly shaping your reality without you even realizing it. when you stop using your past as proof of who you are, you create the space to become someone new. confidence isn't something you wait to feel—it's something you begin to embody the moment you choose a different story about yourself.chapters:02:40 01 — the pitfalls you're stuck in08:59 02 — how it transforms your life and manifestations13:57 03 — the ultimate self-concept methodBOOKJOURNALWEBSITE PODCASTVLOGS INSTAGRAM TIKTOKFor brand and press enquiries: [email protected]
Jul 24
23 min
why are women getting dumber on purpose?
if you've ever caught yourself saying "i'm just a girl," embracing girl math or girl dinner, or believing that helplessness is part of being feminine, this conversation is for you. we explore how the identities you repeat shape your self-concept, confidence, and self-worth, and why social media trends can quietly reinforce limiting beliefs. true confidence isn't about playing small or pretending you don't know something. it's built through emotional intelligence, financial independence, and becoming a woman who trusts herself. so, it's time to stop shrinking and start building a life rooted in capability instead of helplessness. chapters:01 — the cult of girlhood 02:1202 — your self-concept doesn't know you're joking 07:0303 — you are manifesting your limitations 08:1504 — competence is part of the glow up 09:3205 — the self-obsessed woman 12:03BOOKJOURNALWEBSITEPODCASTVLOGSINSTAGRAMTIKTOKFor brand and press enquiries: [email protected]
Jul 17
15 min
why undeserving people always seem to succeed
if they could do it without the credentials, the only thing standing between you and that outcome is not capability, it is belief. if you've ever wondered why people with less experience or fewer qualifications are achieving the success you want, this video is for you. we explore how your self-concept, confidence, and self-worth shape your reality, why comparison on social media fuels scarcity and limiting beliefs, and how jealousy can reveal what you truly desire. it's time to overcome imposter syndrome, build genuine confidence, develop an abundance mindset, and create success on your own terms by becoming the highest version of yourself. BOOKJOURNALWEBSITE PODCASTVLOGS INSTAGRAM TIKTOKFor brand and press enquiries: [email protected]
Jul 9
12 min
why quitting man hating was the most feminist thing i ever did
this video is for the woman who believes that hating men is the same thing as healing. somewhere along the way, man-hating became synonymous with female empowerment. it became the proof that you had healed, evolved, and finally de-centered men. but what if true feminism requires something entirely different? in this video, i break down the 7 reasons why letting go of man-hating changed the way i viewed healing, self-worth, dating, and female empowerment. from emotional attachment and unresolved hurt to avoidance, resentment, and the surprising similarities between man-hating culture and the manosphere, we unpack why the goal was never to spend your life loving men or hating them. the goal was always to make yourself the main character.♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:01 — STILL OBSESSED 1:5102 — THE OPPOSITE OF LOVE 2:3603 — HEALED OR HURT? 4:0504 — THE AVOIDANCE STRATEGY 5:5105 — PICK-ME IN REVERSE 7:4106 — SAME OBSESSION 9:3007 — FREEDOM 10:30BOOK & LINKS:BOOKJOURNALWEBSITEPODCASTVLOGSSTAY CONNECTED:INSTAGRAMTIKTOKFor brand and press enquiries: [email protected] Used:Epidemic Sound
Jun 29
13 min
REALITY CHECK: why you still don't have the love you want
if you’re constantly overthinking texts, stuck in situationships, comparing yourself to girls in relationships, or feeling like everyone else finds love so easily except you...this reality check is for you ❤️ in today's video, we’re talking about self concept, attachment styles, manifestation, boundaries, confidence, detachment, and the small daily choices that either move you closer to healthy love or keep you stuck in the same toxic cycle. if you’re tired of settling, obsessing over unavailable people, or feeling like you always have to earn love, this video is for you. because the healthy, secure relationship you want starts with becoming the version of you who truly believes she deserves it ✨🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:Shop my Abbott Lyon Collectionuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALPODCAST INSTAGRAMLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: [email protected] Used:*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!Epidemic Sound
May 29
22 min
how to transform your life before summer (you have one month)
this is your mid-year reminder that you do not need to wait until january to become the woman you said you wanted to be. in this video, we reset your space, your phone, your mind, and your habits so you can stop avoiding your goals and start rebuilding discipline, self-trust, and momentum before 2026 slips away. if you have been feeling stuck, burnt out, inconsistent, or disconnected from your future self, this is your 30-day reset to get back in alignment ✨♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:02:30 Chapter 1: The Reset12:59 Chapter 2: The Method🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:Shop my Abbott Lyon Collectionuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALPODCAST INSTAGRAMLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSMY OTHER LINKS\For business enquiries please contact: [email protected] Used:*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!
May 22
17 min
how to finally silence your inner critic (for the women who have already done the work)
this one is for the woman who has already done the work. who knows the tools. who has grown and who keeps hitting the same wall every time she tries to go higher. your inner critic does not disappear when you evolve. it evolves with you. it gets quieter, subtler, and far more dangerous. it stops sounding like self-hate and starts sounding like wisdom. and that is when it does the most damage. this video covers the neuroscience behind why the inner critic gets loudest exactly when you are closest to your next level, the specific methods to silence it at the root, and the daily identity work that makes the silence permanent. this is not beginner self-help. this is the advanced version. watch until the end.♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:02:30 Chapter 1: Meet Your Built-in Bully10:09 Chapter 2: The Self-love Protocol16:12 Chapter 3: Identity Homework🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:Shop my Abbott Lyon Collectionuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALPODCAST INSTAGRAMLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: [email protected] Used:*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!
May 12
21 min
how to be a b*tch — why being nice is sabotaging your entire life
you already know how to be a b*tch. parts one, two, and three gave you the tools. part four goes somewhere the others never did. this one is about the bigger picture. why being nice is quietly sabotaging your goals, your self-esteem, your energy, and the company you keep. why your body is paying a physical price for every emotion you've swallowed to keep the peace. why the women who get treated well in relationships aren't always the kindest...they're the most self-possessed. and how to build a daily life that actually reflects the woman you are becoming, not the one you were conditioned to be.♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:01:06 Chapter 1: Good Girl Syndrome07:34 Chapter 2: The New Mindset16:05 Chapter 3: The Bad B*tch Lifestyle🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:Shop my Abbott Lyon Collectionuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALPODCAST INSTAGRAMLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: [email protected] Used:*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!
May 8
21 min
why women who put themselves first win every time
for the woman who has always been the reliable one. the one who shows up, gives everything, and somehow still ends up last on her own list — without being able to explain why. this video is the explanation. and the way out. there is a system built into friendships, families, relationships, and culture itself that keeps women small. it does not announce itself loudly. it uses guilt, shame, and a single word to ensure you never fully choose yourself. this video dismantles it completely. we cover the cultural mechanism behind why women are punished for self-prioritisation, the exact patterns keeping you stuck at level one of your own life, and five non-negotiable actions to finally ascend.featuring lola and athena of course. watch until the end.♡ WHAT'S IN THIS VIDEO:01:18 Chapter 1: The Con07:06 Chapter 2: The Proof16:52 Chapter 3: The Ascent🛍️ SHOP & LINKS:Shop my Abbott Lyon Collectionuse my exclusive code TAM2FOR1 buy one get one FREE sitewide!SELF OBSESSED JOURNALMANIFESTATION JOURNALPODCAST INSTAGRAMLISTEN ON OTHER PLATFORMSORDER MY BOOKTHE SELF OBSESSED SCOOP NEWSLETTERSTAY CONNECTED:MY INSTAGRAMMY SNAPCHAT [BTS]MY YOUTUBEMY VLOGSMY OTHER LINKSFor business enquiries please contact: [email protected] Used:*my intro and outro music was made by the incredible @raaginder!
Apr 21
21 min
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