It's one of the most common—and heartbreaking—questions after betrayal trauma.This week Amie and Alana discuss what healing actually looks like after betrayal trauma, why recovery often feels painfully slow, and the practices that truly help. They explore support groups, self-compassion, psychoeducation, nervous system healing, somatic work, family-of-origin healing, and the obstacles that can quietly keep us stuck.Most importantly, this episode offers hope. Even if you can't see it today, healing is possible. If you're in the middle of the darkness, keep listening.Chapters01:14 Will I Ever Heal?2:00 Personal Story05:01 Darkness to Sunrise Metaphor07:47 Early Stage Healing Tools11:03 Real Self-Care Explained16:51 Psychoeducation and Roadmap21:24 What Hinders Healing25:14 Advanced Somatic Work32:15 There is HopeRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeQuestions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship.

Why does accountability feel so difficult after betrayal?For many betrayed partners, the answer seems obvious: if someone truly understood the pain they caused, they would simply own it.But healing is often more complicated.This week Alana explores why accountability can feel emotionally threatening for those who have betrayed a partner—not as an excuse, but as a pathway toward understanding the barriers that prevent true repair.You'll learn:The role shame plays in defensivenessHow nervous system responses can block empathyWhy self-hatred isn’t accountabilityWhat betrayed partners should watch for when accountability never comesIf you're navigating betrayal trauma, compulsive sexual behavior recovery, or rebuilding trust after infidelity, this episode offers practical insights grounded in trauma-informed care.Chapters01:40 Why Accountability Feels Threatening03:22 Identity Death and Safety11:11 Grieving the False Self13:20 Mistakes Mean Rejection18:44 Emotional Capacity for Repair25:07 When Accountability is Missing28:25 How Betrayers Build AccountabilityRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeQuestions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.Making Sense of His Behavior - Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. 

Many people spend years reading books, listening to podcasts, attending therapy, and understanding addiction. Yet they still feel stuck.This week Luke and Alana explain why information alone never creates transformation—and what actually does.You'll learn:Why insight feels good but doesn’t change behaviorThe uncomfortable “growth zone”How emotional awareness rewires recoveryWhy habits matter more than motivationHow integration creates lasting healingChapters01:35 The Recovery Expert Trap02:25 Swimming Lessons05:37 Insight vs Practice07:24 Repetition11:15 Integration15:13 Systems18:46 Compassion As You Try to ChangeRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeQuestions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.Making Sense of His Behavior- Group designed for those who are trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. 

Why does an emotionally shut down man struggle to change—even when he genuinely wants to?In this follow-up episode, Luke and Alana respond to listener questions about emotional shutdown, nervous system healing, and what recovery actually looks like for men who have spent years disconnecting from their emotions.***Listen to Part 1 HERE.***Together they explore:Why insight alone doesn't create changeWhat emotional shutdown is really protectingHow attachment wounds shape adult relationshipsWhy some men become more emotional after starting recoveryWhat somatic work actually isHow nervous system healing creates lasting transformationWhat emotional reconnection looks like in real lifeChapters01:23 Why Insight Isn’t Enough07:40 What Shutdown Protects11:50 Control and Safety16:20 Predictability Over Vulnerability20:10 Reconnecting Emotionally28:53 Somatic Work Explained30:14 Healing Takes TimeRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW GroupsMaking Sense of His Behavior - NEW group designed for anyone who is trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. Know Your Story is a group for men who are ready to move beyond surface-level recovery and explore the experiences, beliefs, and patterns that have shaped their lives through guided writing exercises, reflection, and group discussion. Group starts June 22nd and runs for 14 weeks.Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeQuestions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

What does an emotionally shut down man actually look like?Spoiler:Usually not what people think.In this powerful conversation, Luke and Alana explore the hidden reality of emotional shutdown in men—especially the high-performing, successful men who appear “fine” on the outside but are deeply disconnected on the inside.From avoidant attachment to compulsive behavior, emotional numbness, and relational loneliness, this episode helps both men and betrayed partners understand what’s really happening beneath the surface.Healing is possible. Deeper connection is possible.But first—you have to feel.Chapters01:48 What Being Emotionally Shut Down Looks Like04:01 High Performing Shut down09:13 Inside the Shutdown12:39 Signs and Logic16:54 Learning Emotional Safety19:35 Tears and the Body22:27 Busy vs Stillness24:14 Chasing Intensity30:00 Numbness and Dissociation38:35 Individuation and ReconnectionRegister Now!***Use code PODCAST150 to get $150 off any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah. Reclaimed: A Men’s Parts-Work Intensive - A transformative 4-day intensive for men in recovery from problematic sexual behaviors, using the Internal Family Systems model to help participants deepen emotional healing, reduce shame, understand their inner world, and live with greater authenticity and wholeness. August 18-21 in Spanish Fork, UT.💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. NEW GroupsMaking Sense of His Behavior - NEW group designed for anyone who is trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. Know Your Story is a group for men who are ready to move beyond surface-level recovery and explore the experiences, beliefs, and patterns that have shaped their lives through guided writing exercises, reflection, and group discussion. Group starts June 22nd and runs for 14 weeks.Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeQuestions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

What if you're not healing wrong?After betrayal, many people compare their recovery journey to others and wonder if they're making the right decisions. Whether it's disclosure, separation, therapy, support groups, or boundaries, it's easy to get caught in "should" thinking.In this episode, Alana discusses why healing isn't one-size-fits-all and how learning to trust your own intuition can become one of the most important parts of recovery.You'll learn:Why "should" often signals shameHow comparison sabotages healingThe difference between guidance and personal truthWhy you don't need permission to trust yourselfHow to strengthen self-trust after betrayal traumaChapters01:10 The Shame Behind Should04:53 You’re the Expert on You10:48 Choosing Your Own Path13:38 Building Self-Trust18:57 Takeaways on ShouldsRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***🌴NEW: Couples Retreat in Costa Rica! - If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat July 30-August 3.Making Sense of His Behavior - NEW group designed for women trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeQuestions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

You’ve done therapy. Communication is improving. The triggers aren’t as constant anymore. So why does emotional connection still feel difficult?This week, Alana explores the hidden layers of betrayal trauma that continue impacting intimacy long after recovery begins. From nervous system hypervigilance to protector parts, grief, shame, and emotional exhaustion, this conversation explains why closeness can still feel unsafe — even when both partners are trying.This episode offers compassionate insight for betrayed partners and couples working toward deeper relational healing after betrayal.Chapters01:53 Betrayal and the Nervous System06:32 Functional vs Emotional Intimacy12:14 Protector Parts18:38 Shared Grief21:41 Common Blocks To Going Deep28:30 Tools That Build Connection34:39 Slow Steps Toward SafetyIf you want to connect deeper with your partner, consider joining us for our Rise and Renew couples retreat in Costa Rica this summer. If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***🌴NEW: Couples Retreat in Costa Rica! - If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Making Sense of His Behavior - NEW group designed for women trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeQuestions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

Even after trust is rebuilt, many couples still struggle to feel deeply connected.In this episode, Alana and Hali, Choose Recovery Services coach, explore the hidden barriers to intimacy after betrayal trauma — including nervous system dysregulation, vulnerability fears, protector parts, and power dynamics in recovery.You’ll learn:What true emotional safety looks likeWhy conflict isn’t always the problemHow co-regulation strengthens intimacyThe next stage of healing after stabilizationIf you want to connect deeper with your partner, consider joining us for our Rise and Renew couples retreat in Costa Rica this summer. If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!Register Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***🌴NEW: Couples Retreat in Costa Rica! - If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!Making Sense of His Behavior - NEW group designed for anyone who is trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. Courage to Thrive - Join us for this healing retreat for women who have experienced betrayal trauma. It offers a safe, supportive space to process pain, reconnect with yourself, and begin moving forward with strength and hope. Through guided workshops, therapeutic support, and restorative experiences, women leave feeling seen, empowered, and less alone. August 25-28, 2026 in Spanish Fork, Utah.We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeQuestions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

Are you helping… or are you overfunctioning?This week Amie is joined by psychotherapist and relationship expert Terri Cole to talk about the hidden emotional pattern so many women live inside: high functioning codependency.This conversation is especially powerful for women navigating betrayal trauma, divorce, parallel parenting, emotional exhaustion, and the deep work of rebuilding boundaries.Listen to learn:Why strong women become overfunctionersHow betrayal trauma fuels codependent patternsWhat boundaries actually look likeWhy self-trust starts smallHow to stop rescuing everyone around youWhat healing really requiresConnect with Terri: website, InstagramTake the boundary quizGet the HFC Toolkit Chapters01:51 Meet Terri Cole05:18 Defining High Functioning Codependency13:01 Anticipatory Anxiety Control19:30 Boundaries Quiz26:27 What Am I Tolerating?31:07 VIP Section Relationships39:45 Mourning the Dream43:43 Chosen Me MindsetRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***🌴NEW: Couples Retreat in Costa Rica! - If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!Making Sense of His Behavior - NEW 8-week group designed for anyone who is trying to make sense of confusing, painful, and hurtful behaviors in their relationship. Start the group at any time and stay for eight weeks.Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeQuestions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.

When betrayal trauma enters a family, children feel it—even when no one says a word.In this episode, Amie and Alana answer a powerful listener question: What would you do differently with your kids if you could go back?This honest conversation explores the parenting mistakes, emotional repair, boundaries, and healing work that matter most after betrayal trauma.They talk honestly about:validating your child’s experience without correcting itavoiding emotional over-sharingprotecting children without secrecyhelping kids process tension they can already feelboundaries with extended familyemotional repair after mistakeswhy your children need their story, not yoursChapters00:50 Listener Question4:44 Kids Own Their Story06:12 Validate; Don’t Correct10:04 Secrecy vs Oversharing14:31 Isolation and Support15:22 Boundaries18:04 Kids Feel Everything20:00 Repair22:35 Self-Compassion and Growth24:31 Common Mistakes and WinsRegister Now!***Use promo code PODCAST150 to get $150 off when you register for any Choose intensive or retreat in 2026!***🌴NEW: Couples Retreat in Costa Rica! - If you are in a stable place in your relationship and want to reconnect, regulate, and rediscover each other, we invite you to our couples breathwork retreat. Register by May 31st to get our early-bird pricing - $600 OFF!🦋Rise, Renew, Restore Somatic Healing Retreat in Costa Rica -  Ready to experience deep somatic healing? Join us this July for a transformative 5-day intensive created specifically for women healing from betrayal trauma or navigating divorce. This is your opportunity to reconnect with your body's wisdom, release what you've been carrying, and heal alongside other women who truly understand your journey. 💵We don’t want finances to get in the way of your healing. Scholarships and payment plans (including buy now, pay later options) are available for all of our intensives. Get our FREE eBook - Healing From Betrayal Trauma: A Compassionate Guide to Reclaiming Your LifeQuestions or topics you'd like us to address? Send us an email with “Choose To Be” as the subject to [email protected]. Watch us⁠ on YouTube.Follow us on Instagram: @choose_recovery_services⁠Schedule⁠ a complimentary consultation.Join our email list to be notified when new episodes air.More from Choose Recovery ServicesBeyond the Facade Podcast - Helping men live authentically and aligned with their values.Choose Healing - Weekly support group for women navigating betrayal trauma and its effects.Intensives - Immersive healing experiences designed for deep transformation in a short time.Help. Her. Heal - A program for men to build empathy, improve communication, and repair relationships.Beyond the Facade: Men’s Healing Group - Support for men working through addiction, shame, emotional growth, and relationship healing.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠The Empowered Divorce Podcast⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ with Amie Woolsey for those who are leaning toward divorce.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Dating From Within - Learn to date yourself first and recognize when you’re ready for a healthy relationship.Should I Stay or Go? - A self-paced course guiding you toward clarity and personal empowerment.Trauma Trigger Kit - Grounding tools to help you manage triggers using your five senses.Believing in You - Learn brain-based tools to rebuild trust, empowerment, and joy.Intimacy Within ⁠- A self-paced guide to building authentic, vulnerable intimacy from the inside out.