The Catholic Gentleman
The Catholic Gentleman
John Heinen, Devin Schadt
The Modesty Problem: What She Wears = What She Gets
1 hour 3 minutes Posted Jul 9, 2026 at 9:50 am.
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Other modesty videos mentioned:
Jackie Angel on Modesty in the Real World: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bKACACmlW3U
Leah Darrow on Modest: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SQ84oSJcrFE
While reading the comments from a previous video, we came across this one:
"Please make a video giving husbands tips on how to help their wives dress more modestly, or help those women that struggle with modesty."
We read every one, and this time, we didn't just reply. We built an entire episode around it. It doesn't start with policing her wardrobe. A woman dresses from how she's been convinced to see herself and the culture has spent decades doing the convincing.
In this episode, we address: What modesty actually is according to St. Thomas Aquinas and why clothing is further down the list than you think. We explain the four real reasons women dress the way they do, why men feel they can't say anything, why women feel they can't be told, and we provide five practical actions a Catholic man can take that don't involve a single word about her outfit.
👉 Devin Schadt's new book The Rule: ⁠https://sophiainstitute.com/product/the-rule/⁠ 
Video Producer – Pietro Damasceno
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