What happens when adult women discover they're autistic? Cristen busts the gender stereotypes and neurotypical myths of Autism Spectrum Disorder with help from unladies who've been there. The Loudest Girl in the World host and producer, Lauren Ober, details the (expensive!) jungle gym she had to cross for a middle-age diagnosis. Meanwhile, listener Sarah has mixed feelings about self-diagnosis, and listener Anna feels finally free to unmask. Highlights include: refrigerator-mom blame, too-tight ponytails, a queer correlation and America's Next Top Model cringe. Send voice memos and emails to hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop Unladylike doodads Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Exiled from a world of engineered perfection, Demetria crash-lands into the brutal reality of the Outerlands. Distrusted by the defiant survivors, her only hope lies with a mysterious AGI, First Belle. But the secrets it holds could break her... or forge her into the hero she never knew she could be. From Wondery, the makers of Academy and Dr. Death, The Last City stars actors Rhea Seehorn, Jeannie Tirado, and Maury Sterling. Listen to The Last City on the Wondery App or wherever you get your podcasts. You can binge all episodes exclusively and ad-free on Wondery+. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Could an 1873 law that hasn't been enforced in nearly a century be a national abortion ban just waiting to happen? Legal friend of the pod Natalie Birnbaum (Repro Solutions) returns to explain what the Comstock Act is, why it's getting so much attention lately and whether it could it ban medication abortion and even birth control. Highlights include: Gilded Age abortionist Madame Restell, a postmaster general gone wild, fake-out abortion referenda and Justice Samuel Alito's revisionist legal history. Recommended resources: Plan C Pills Yellowhammer Fund ReproCare If/When/How Get more Unladylike: Send voice memos and emails to hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop Unladylike merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. This episode is sponsored in part by Oak Essentials. Get 15% off your first order with code UNLADYLIKE15. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**Unladies' Room Patreon preview** What does it take to erect a monument to women's history? Just ask Diane Carlson Evans, without whom the Vietnam Women's Memorial would not exist... To hear the full, ad-free episode, join the Patreon - and THANK YOU!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Magician Nicole Cardoza has never met another illusionist who looks like her. The reasons why are no stage magic secret. This episode, Nicole debunks the default pale, male magician and his "lovely assistant" and reclaims the power of suspending disbelief. Highlights include: spiritual appropriation; taboo magic; the Queen of Coins; sexist pockets; and America's first Black female magician, Ellen Armstrong.  Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop Unladylike merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What do vision boards and Princess Diana conspiracy theories have in common? They both rely on a kind of magical thinking called proportionality bias. It's one of many cognitive biases that returning guest Amanda Montell connects to all the woo-woo and delulu going around these days. From the sunk cost fallacy of toxic relationships to the halo effect of female celebs to the declinism of everyday doomsday speak, Amanda makes even the most mindboggling and brainrotting realities of today's (mis)information overload more bearable. Highlights include: Beyonce's vegan surprise, Charli XCX stans, Earth Mamas, therapy influencers, TikTok astrologers and "learning to stomach a sense of irresolution." Amanda's new book is The Age of Magical Overthinking: Notes on Modern Irrationality. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**Unladies' Room Patreon preview** A labor-free life of feminine leisure, and/or the ultimate self-care con? The SAHGs (stay-at-home girlfriends) of TikTok have been described as a manifestation of Gen Z, anti-girlboss culture. Except, they’re still getting paid to work!! To hear the full, ad-free episode, join the Patreon <3<3 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

What's the difference between a white feminist and a mean girl? Not so much, as Kim Hong Nguyen explains this episode. From colonial era white women to TERFs on main today, mean girl feminism is a new term for an old problem that's all show, no go and oblivious to racialized white feminisms. We also meet its four familiar faces: Whitesplaining White Lady of Liberal Reason; Girlboss, a Self-Promotional Equity Lady; Karen with Illegible Rage; and Power Couple Wife with Resting Bitch Face. Kim is an associate professor of communication arts, and gender and social justice at the University of Waterloo. Her new book is Mean Girl Feminism: How White Feminists Gaslight, Gatekeep and Girlboss. Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop Unladylike merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Are butch-femme roles in queer relationships just recycling the same old hetero his 'n' hers gender boxes? What happens when toxic masculinity invades queer relationships and spaces? In an Unladylike FIRST, we're re-asking and re-answering a listener advice request–and with empathetic expertise from Autostraddle editor in-chief Carmen Phillips and membership editorial and ops wrangler and writer Nico Hall. Carmen and Nico break down butch misogyny, femme objectification and why lesbian relationships aren't immune to patriarchy. Highlights include: midcentury Buffalo lesbians, helpful dykes, queer signaling and Catholic school unladies. Use promo code UNLADYLIKE15 to get 15% off and a free organic honey-based Restorative Mask with your first order at oakessentials.com. Carmen and Nico's recommended reading: Boots of Leather, Slippers of Gold Kate Bornstein (author of Gender Outlaw) With Gratitude and Struggle: Loving Butch/Femme as a Trans Woman Butch Memoirs to Check Out On navigating femme invisibility The Allure of Chola Femininity To get in touch with Unladylike: Send voice memos and emails to hello@unladylike.co Follow Unladylike on Instagram and TikTok Join the Unladies' Room Patreon Shop merch Contact Multitude Productions for ad rates, etc. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

**Unladies' Room Patreon teaser** With spring a few days away, tis the season to talk BODY HAIR! But my 2019 interview with spoken word artist and performer Sukhjit Kaur Khalsa isn't the same old to-shave-or-not-to-shave body hair binary. Sukhjit is a practicing Sikh, and letting it all grow (aka keeping kesh) is an article of faith. And as you might imagine, that was easier said than done for Sukhjit once puberty rolled around, and visible hairiness attracted ALL of the unwanted attention.  To hear the full, AD-FREE episode, join the Patreon and THANK YOU!! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices