Professional nanny here! 🙋🏼‍♀️ I share unruffled with every family I work with! Works time after time, family after family 🤍

While I love the overall philosophy here, the delivery is rough. She reads through the emails from parents as if holding back laughter about how dumb they are that they don’t know what’s so obvious to her (the expert). It comes across very condescending and I would be mortified to have a sincere and earnest question read aloud by her! That said, absorbing her overall philosophy has not only made me a WAY more relaxed parent, but it has enriched my relationship with my child. Episodes are short and easy to digest and simple applicable solutions. If you have a specific parenting question there’s bound to be any episode about it and she almost always specifies the age of the child each episode which is really helpful.

The most recent episode with Gabriel Mate just left me feeling really bad and like I’m failing at parenting. I think most of Janet’s listeners are conscientious parents who love our kids and are trying as hard as we can to do things right. But advice like this feels so shaming. Never use any technology in front of our kids, never let them near screens, always be perfectly attuned to them, if possible spend all your time with them… these are impossible standards to live up to for most of us. Usually Janet’s advice is reassuring and grounding for me so I think this is more about Mate than her, but I found it especially disheartening as I get ready to send my 5 month old to daycare.

I find it profoundly disappointing that Gabor Mate, someone who considers himself an expert in the field of attachment, doesn’t have the courage to tell parents the importance of prioritizing being with their children in those early years (0-3 years old). Of course, for some parents (e.g., very low income families, single parent households), being more present in their child’s life is sadly not realistic. But if a sizable number of parents took a closer look at their finances and made changes to their lifestyle, this is a feasible option. Talking about it as if it’s not possible for a majority of families only perpetuates the problem we have in this country of children not being securely attached to their parents.

Love RIE and love Janet Lansbury. Thank you for everything you do! Please keep episodes coming. I think I’ve listened to every one twice! Whenever I doubt myself as a parent (which is quite often) I come back to listen and find my way toward confidence again. Thank you Janet for being such an incredible mouthpiece for these practices!

The concepts and perspective shifts that Janet teaches have helped me become a better part of society. I'm not a parent, but love children so much and have grown to therefore love the adults who once were children.

This podcast has quite literally been life changing for me. I found it years ago as a new parent struggling to figure out how to be the mother, and even person, I wanted to be. Not only has Janet provided me the North Star I desperately needed in parenting and simply relating to my child, she has become a mother figure in my internal voice that has helped me through some tough times. Thank you for this, Janet!

Please get a professional editor / sound engineer. The sound quality takes me away from the content, (which is wonderful). The editing is very amateur, and the breaths, noise and sound quality is all over the place.

Janet and her accessible, intuitive, and transformative interpretation of be RIE approach has literally changed my life. Sometimes I joke that instead of those old WWJD (What Would Jesus Do) bracelets that were popular 20ish years ago, I need one now that refers to Janet. I don’t think there is one thing she has ever said that didn’t immediately resonate with me, but I never would have thought of it if it weren’t for her! I am incredibly grateful I found her before my son was much older. It’s not an exaggeration to say that she’s a genius and it breaks my heart that she and the RIE approach aren’t more popular. Shoutout to Ezra Klein for having her on his podcast and introducing me to her! Also, I LOVE her voice and tone and she just seems like the most lovely and genuine person with deep emotional intelligence. Love you Janet- I tell literally everyone about you!!

Mostly it’s the same advice over and over again: let your kids feel their feelings and encourage and validate their feelings. Good advice, but What’s missing is how parents can deal with the constant allowance of kids feeling their feelings. What I mean is, I am constantly overstimulated with growing impatience towards my kids and nothing in this podcast helps with that. How do I deal with the exhaustion of allowing my kids to work through their meltdowns without getting impatient?

Useful tidbits and advice in here but I wish she wouldn’t spend so much time rehashing and explaining what the letter writer is saying. She spends most of the episode on this part and sympathizing with the parent on their challenge which is rather obvious. The challenge they are facing is usually adequately described by the advice seeker already. I wish she would dedicate more time on explaining her advice and providing different examples or scenario plays. Still a great resource overall!

So grateful I found Janet’s podcast! She explains things so well and helps me feel confident in my parenting and excited for challenging situations so I can practice my skills. I also work part time at a daycare and her strategies and perspective have helped me enjoy my job and communicate more effectively with the children.

This is the first parenting podcast I ever listened to, years ago, and although my older kids are moved out of the younger age range now, I always go back and keep listening! Many guests cover topics that relate to kids of all ages. And much of the advice and insight is applicable no matter the age of your child, because a lot of it is about your mindset and outlook as a parent. Nearly every time I listen I gain another insight into my own behaviour and thinking, as well as my kids’.

I Really enjoy these podcasts. Out of the parenting/toddler podcasts, I think I enjoy this one best. Janet’s teaching of non judgmental parenting is also presented in a very non judgemental way and I think I like that best. I appreciate her soft, gentle tone. It feels safe for me as a parent just trying to do the fretful-parenting job right bc this stage of life is very hard for me to parent. I have twin 4year old and often listen to these on my way to pick them up for daycare to get me in the right frame of mind.

I don’t understand how it got 4.7 rating. If you want someone to pat on your back, says she understands how difficult it is to raise children, sure, listen to this. If you want a sounded, useful guidance toward your parenting struggle, go elsewhere. 👎

I love this podcast so much I have older kids and still listen because I think some of the advice still applies. The only issue I have is her voice comes through much quieter than most other podcasts. I can only listen in a very quiet room which is not easy to find if you have kids lol!

You have helped me SO much on my parenting journey. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Don’t ever stop what you are doing!! ❤️❤️

I have a 2 & 5 year old and have listened to Janet while cleaning, working out and driving over the last 5 years. The tools provided in the books and podcasts empower me to take on, with confidence and patience, what some days seems to be an exhausting repetitive behavior. I have a fresh new approach that I’m excited to implement after I listen to a podcast, and I love hearing about other parent’s experiences as it is SO relatable and reminds me that I’m not alone in this. Thank you so much for all of your work Janet!

Until I found Janet’s parenting resources, I didn’t know what kind of parent I wanted to be. I knew I didn’t want to use the same strategies that I was raised with, but I didn’t know how to enact the type of parenting I was envisioned myself as. Janet’s warmth, empathy, advice, and insight has become my North Star in my parenting journey. I will love her forever for the help she has given me in learning to be a whole person myself, and to see my children as whole people.

I was born and raised in a small town, with very authoritarian views. Janet, your podcast has been a huge part of my healing journey. Through understanding how children should be loved, supported and understood, I realized the need to heal my inner child, and protect my own children from inheriting generational issues. I could never thank you enough for being a mentor to me, as your gentle voice speaks in my mind as voice of reason when things get “ruffled”. My triplets were around 3 years old when I found your podcast, they are 5 now, and I can tell such a difference, not only in their behavior, but in my relationship with each of them. Blessings!

I wish I had found this sooner! My kids were 4 & 7 when I started listening 3 years ago. It’s still been super helpful for addressing parenting concerns for those ages and beyond, but I wish I had know about Magda’s methods when my oldest was born in 2013. I think it would have changed SO much about how I interacted with him and thought about him — those were difficult times for me, as they are for many first timers. Thank you, Janet, for continuing Magda’s legacy and giving this gift to frazzled parents the world over. ✨💛 Ruth

I’ve sent this podcast to all of my mom friends. Janet’s message in each episode will free you as a parent and allow you to take some pressure off yourself. Thank you, Janet! You’ve improved my mom journey so much over the years and I could never thank you enough🤍

I’m nervous to write this review because sometimes it feels like I have to be facing the right direction, at the right time of day, during the right phase of the moon, to get a yes from my toddler instead of a very physical tantrum. However, I’ve been listening to this podcast for a month, and listed to her book. Tonight I discussed with my toddler why I wanted her to take a bath and brush her teeth. And then…she did it. We have been struggling with this for over a year. Maybe a one off but it feels good to know that I could stay calm regardless of her outcome and not feel panicked over what to do next. Staying with my toddlers emotions helps me to stay with my own. I’m so glad I found this podcast.

I had to stop listening. Most all of her advice is only applicable if you have one kid. As someone with two kids very close in age there were so many things I couldn’t follow. I can’t just pick up one kid and bring them out when they have a tantrum because I have two and the other will start to tantrum. I can’t physically carry both. Was really disappointed in her advice but probably works ok if you have one kid.

Janet speaks honestly, with authority, openness, and empathy. Her advice is more nuanced than others; she doesn’t give “strategies” or “scripts.” She stays true to the concept of a unique relationship between parent and child and the complex ways parents provide “helpful” interventions on the surface but often communicate other mixed-messages in action, tone and manner. She encourages parents to think about their role in an alive dynamic with their children. I love this about her approach. Janet stimulates thinking! Personally, I love this about her podcast. There are so many “things to do” as a parent, instead she shows you how to be in the process, reflect on your contribution as a parent, think deeply (beyond surface behaviors) and trust your child. And for this reason alone, she is an invaluable resource and unlike any other parenting podcast out there.

I have been listening to this podcast for nearly five years. Each episode I note similar repetitions. 1. She often avoids a direct answer 2. She often states how someone has misinterpreted her previous advice (not surprising when she’s so vague in her responses) 3. I find she embarrassed some of the vulnerable parents who so humbly write in 4. One a note of personal observation, I find the letters that parents submit to her (to be read aloud and responded to) to be very…. Edited. It’s hard to believe that each person who submits a question a. Starts with an abundance of praise for her 2. Has such strong vocabulary…. It just seems like the unruffled team really modifies these to be consistently shaped the same to the point where it’s unrelatable. As I mentioned, I’ve been listening to this podcast for a while but when I compare this to “good inside” or other helpful parenting podcasts…. I’m quite easily discouraged by this one and definitely recommend others rather than this.

Janet, I LOVE YOU! I’m a long-time follower of your work and everything you do is A+ in my book. I support that you do this as a business and you should be compensated for the invaluable advice/expertise that you offer so I wouldn’t dare take off a star, but I had to let you know that your new ads are so abrupt! I loved the former model of your voice advertising for companies that you really stood behind. Random product ads and political ads (the worst) abruptly placed at the beginning AND end of the podcast are an unwelcome change for me. They won’t keep me from listening altogether, but I may not add to my playlist as I did before because I can’t stand the content when I don’t have my phone close enough by to skip it! We live in a digital world where there’s almost no corner untouched by obtrusive advertising, and my old favorite podcast is now no exception. I would love to escape the rat race while listening to parenting advice!

I work in Pediatics and I recommend this podcast to all families. Janet Lansbury is compassionate and clear on how to navigate all scenarios that present in raising children. Encouraging and understanding, she is a lifeline for all parents.

I am so thankful for this podcast! I’ve learned so much, not only about my children, but also about myself. Learning how to be a benevolent + strong leader is hard, but with your help, I’m understanding how to do that! Thank you Janet and guests!

Janet has a way of helping parents help their kids. She did for me and my toddler using her RIE approach. Whenever I have a parenting challenge, I look to search Janets archives and listen to her podcasts to help me navigate the challenge. Her wisdom and knowledge has helped me become the best parent I can be. Thankful for all the free content she has put out there and loved her book No bad kids. Thanks Janet for helping our family navigate toddlerhood.

Recent episode featured Dr. Jean Cheng who kept talking about forgotten traumas and repressed memories. These are claims that have been repeatedly debunked by established science. Not only is it bad science; it has the potential to tear apart families over allegations of abuse that never happened (and rewriting childhood memories). This episode implied that if you feel uncomfortable with certain behaviors from your child, you may well have repressed “traumas” that you do not recall from your own child. This advice is faulty and negligent. I no longer feel I can trust the content of this podcast.

Absolutely love this podcast. Janet is so great to listen to, her voice is calming and always makes me feel better! Love her take on children and our relationships with them. Thank you!

Very grateful to stumble upon this treasure of wisdom. The advice and stories have had a big impact on my caregiving. Bought her book too!

This podcast was so helpful and enlightening! loved the differences between validating and acknowledging. while I had been doing the other one and it wasn’t helping I feel like this will be so helpful thank you so much!

This show has been my beacon of hope for parenting through the toddler years. My son is 2 and 8 months old, I knew the type of parent I wanted to be but I wasn’t sure how to get there bc I was raised so differently than these methods. Janet is my inner voice through all the hardest moments of parenting and I couldn’t navigate this period of life without her help. Before I had children my friend would talk about her book Respectful Parenting, and gifted it to me at my baby shower. I soon went on to download No Bad Kids on audio and have listen through it about 3 times, always retaining more information than the last time I listened. I walk every morning and have listened through almost all of the podcasts and it sets the tone for the day for my mindset around parenting. I couldn’t be more grateful for the work Janet is doing and can’t recommend her enough to my fellow mamas and friends. Thank you Janet!!

I have to acknowledge how I have looked up to Janet for much of my learning through out year 2 through 4 of parenting. There was alot of information that helped guide me in how I wanted to be as a parent. For that I’m grateful. Anddd I need to acknowledge, that this episode really just missed the mark. By ending the episode with a phrase such as, this is the easier way to parent… that right there is the gaslighting the Facebook poster was referring too. I heard Janet’s, vague understanding that it is not easier, but there was an opportunity there to really acknowledge that it is not in fact easier. Even if said Mentor Magda Gerbers perspective is that it is, and is referring to that through this approach we have better outcomes in parent child interactions that leads to an easier job in parenting. But when is this said easier time, developmentally speaking it’s always on to the next thing, challenge, or process whatever. Most importantly what I want to say, that’s one person’s opinion. Nothing is easy about Trying to retrain ourselves when we’ve been wired a completely different way. There’s extensive work that goes into trying to create new patterns and parent our kids different. I think it’s sad to truly ignore that process and over look how hard it actually is. This episode actually does in fact show where the gaslighting statements feels true. I do believe that Janet means the best and truly cares about the work she does. This is why I’m sharing this. I also think there’s this gap in “set boundaries early”. Ok so then what. I set a boundary that I need five minutes to sit before I bounce up to get snack number 20, or you can offer choice for child to get the pack crackers, and that still leads to a epic tantrum and there is no Said five minutes that was needed to begin with. There’s like this vague message that if you set boundaries early it is going to lead to a different outcome. Where that really doesn’t make sense. I know I haven’t listened to much of this shows lately so I am probably over looking more of the features regarding boundaries. I just think there’s so much that goes into parenting, including different child temperaments/resources/history etc that make all of this a spectrum of hard for many of us. Also, putting the pressure back on the parents who is identifying “gentle ish” as the reality, yes gentle/respectful parenting does include us acknowledging we have to offer this to ourselves… but the pressure there is bc we know this is better for our kids, we have way more awareness, research data etc, and we want our kids to thrive in their lives, so it’s scary to think that our patterns (that actually come from generations before us) may not be promoting that. I think that an opportunity to address the nuances of all this would have better served the attempt to acknowledge this Facebook post. I never leave comments. This one feels harsh but that is not my intention, neither is it to say gentle/respectful parenting is too extreme, I believe in it and know it is also not the easy way.

As a homeschool mom of 5 (8 & under) who has been shifting our parenting style a lot from what my husband & I grew up with - this podcast has been very insightful. I also enjoy her voice and talking style - it’s often a more soothing noise for me, to pop some headphones on while I do housework.

I found Janet during my pregnancy and fell in love with her work. My husband and I wanted the kind of relationship with our child that Janet talks about. I dived in and was ready to begin. When my son arrived, I struggled to live up to the expectations I had of myself as a parent. In the latest episode, Janet reminds me that it’s okay to be ‘unruffled-ish’. We are only human, and it’s okay not to be the idyllic parent we imagined ourselves to be, that doing our best in any given moment is enough. I am so grateful for this podcast, thank you for sharing your work and experience with us!

The podcast, the blog articles, the books, I would not be the mom I am today without Janet Lansbury’s work. Any time I have a parenting question or doubt, I google “Janet Lansbury + my issue” and there is always something to refer to to help me through those times. I recommend her work to all the parents I work with as an early childhood educator, to my own family members, and I am forever grateful to have her work as a guide.

I love this podcast and the thoughtful, nonjudgmental advice Janet provides. I always walk away feeling more confident in my abilities to parent!

In real life I tell everyone I know about this podcast. It’s life changing in a positive way. I have taken something insightful and important from every episode that I listened to so far. Even the ones I think aren’t relevant. They end up being super relevant and I’m always glad I listened

I appreciate Janet’s calm and gracious help, I always feel encouraged vs shamed about where I am at with my parenting. I have whole heartedly bought into her approach and seeing results in my children and more joy in my parenting. I love when a new episode comes out as they are short so easy to find time to listen and serve as a great check in to me about how I have been doing and motivation to keep trying. If anyone doesn’t have a lot of mother figure support, she has been invaluable to me. I like to think of her as my podcast mom:)

Janet’s advice and podcasts have truly saved my sanity and my parenting. I will be forever grateful. Please don’t ever stop doing podcasts, they are my therapy!

Honestly I know I am a good mom. I am a good mom partially due to this podcast and hearing Janet’s voice in the back of my head as scenarios arise. Highly recommend!

I found Unruffled when my kids were 2y and 6m old. I was stumped. After diving in to a few episodes, I was hooked. Unruffled addressed and gave guidance on almost every (very specific) parenting issue I was dealing with. That was 2 years ago, I think I’ve listened to every episode, many of the 2 or 3 times. My only critique is that I would like more frequent episodes!!! I need to hear from Janet on the daily!!

Janet’s approach to parenting has been such a relief. My relationship and interactions with my daughter and my connection to her as so much improved. I can’t think of a better way to be a mom than to give my child the gift of being safe in ALL of her feelings. I am beyond grateful to have found Janet’s content when my first child was just a baby. With a growth mindset, anyone can develop the perspective and change their approach to child behavior. If I can do it (a deeply unmindful person), then anyone can. They say that children don’t come with a user manual. Well Millennials and younger, I’m happy to report that, for you, they do.

I love most of Janet’s work and listen to her podcast weekly. Today I was a little sad to hear a sponsor ad for pre-made plant-based meals. I hope her listeners will skip that and move on to the parenting advice. Plant-based is definitely not going to help any behavior issues since it is lacking in many vital nutrients and good fats. Pre-made is loaded with preservatives and often vegetable oils—skip it!

this is my go-to when i have a parenting question. her guidance and advice feels straightforward, respectful, and clarifying— things i greatly appreciate while parenting a toddler!

Don’t get me wrong: I’m about to celebrate all the ways in which Janet has offered me so much solid perspective as a parent. But, it hasn’t come without my own questioning and frustration at times. I’ve wondered, what are her credentials?, is she qualified?, should I be trusting this?, her tone is driving me crazy!, she spends her life analyzing these things and then expects me to be as perfect?, she doesn’t get it, this is rich white woman parenting luxury… and so on. But once I put those thoughts aside and just listen, she is often spot-on and I am beyond grateful when it clicks. It sometimes takes practice and trust before it clicks… this is when that rampage of questions tends to rise. This is why I balance Janet’s work with the work of others who resonate with me. Dr. Becky, Curious Parenting, Concious Kid, etc. Listen to Janet, but don’t JUST listen to Janet. Find a circle of influencers that help you round out your perspective. And above all, listen to yourself. Side note: this stuff applies to our adult partners and friends, too! It’s really amazing.

I didn’t really envision myself as a parent, although I knew that once I had a child I would love them an extraordinary amount. For the first year of my son’s life I was resigned to take the “good” with the “bad”, an idea that was reinforced by those around me, with an emphasis on the bad. I was bracing myself for the “terrible twos”, trying to research different approaches when I stumbled upon this podcast and…PHEW! What a big sigh of relief this has been! Janet put into words things that I suspected ever since my son was a few months old: that he was an actual person who had preferences, that he didn’t want to be “entertained” every waking minute, that he needed space and his discomfort shouldn’t just be “fixed” nor “ignored”, but explored and understood. I could not put that into words because the voices around me were always louder and sometimes conflicting so it was a very confusing first year. Listening to this podcast and subsequently reading the books has been like organizing a messy messy closet into boxes that are appropriately labeled. It has given me confidence when speaking to those who are giving me well intentioned but wrong advice, and confidence that I am the leader my son needs. I have so much more work to do, mainly on myself, but I am now welcoming every phase of my sons life, enjoying every moment, every challenge and every giggle without the looming threat of the “bad”, which I now know as “healthy expression of emotions”. Thank you, Janet, for the work that you do, for the confidence that you inspire and for being a voice for these little humans. They deserve a champion who can change adults’ perception. You are relentless in doing that and I so appreciate you changing mine!