U Up?
U Up?
Betches Media
U Up? is the definitive modern dating podcast presented by Betches co-founder Jordana Abraham and comedian Jared Freid, where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in. From interpreting dating app interactions and weird sexual encounters, to defining the relationship and everything in between - they’re here to make sure you don’t die alone. For more fun dating commentary, polls, and bonus content, follow @u.up.podcast on Instagram. Become a friend (with benefits) of the podcast and subscribe to receive early release and ad-free versions of all our new episodes, plus bonus subscriber-only episodes. To sign up and become a friend (with benefits) today head to: subscribe.betches.com
A Friends-To-Lovers Story Gone Wrong
We’re talking guilty pleasure shows, that time Jared almost experienced death by pizza bite, and wedding planning ahead of jumping into the episode. Our first email comes from a listener dreading an upcoming wedding knowing they’ll be single, without a plus one, and only know two other guests on an acquaintance level. Then, we receive a “Friends-To-Lovers” story submission in a segment sponsored by Netflix, and this one takes a turn. The second advice email comes from a gay listener in his late 30s looking for long-term love and frequently finding short-term romance. He’s been quick to cut things off once he realized he and his dates weren’t looking for the same thing, but is he missing out on great experiences by doing so? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker” about sleep farts, childhood homes, and splitting the check. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 14
1 hr 4 min
My Husband's Ex Is Being Petty. Can I Be Pettier?
This episode is all about communication and honesty, but it’s not addressed in the usual way. First, Jordana fondly remembers her go-to first date question that she’s no longer allowed to ask. It may have ruffled feathers and ruined a friend’s date, but it gave her all she needed to know to engage with someone early on. Then, J&J play a round of “Petty or Prudent?” about a listener’s reaction to her husband’s ex. Our listener was fine with a filmmaker ex keeping in touch with her husband until his ex made a film about “the ups and downs of ‘young love’” based on their former relationship. She confronted her about the film and, when the ex claimed it was more about love in general, she asked for tickets. Her friends are egging her on to attend, but would that be petty? Next, we hear from a 35-year-old woman struggling with the men she’s meeting on the apps. She finds them all so…boring. She asks J&J a series of questions to adjust her approach (i.e. Should she lessen her expectations? Are these incompatibilities a deal breaker?), but they feel like she’s sidestepping an obvious factor in her problem. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 11
48 min
Can I Turn My Friend-To-Lover Back Into A Friend?
Something’s comiiinnnnggggg – before we dive into the first email, Jared and Jordana have an announcement (spoiler: it has to do with Fra)! Then, the first email comes from a 32-year-old listener in LA with a common issue. She’s going on dates and they’re fine, but she doesn’t really care to push further. Where’s the lapse in connection, and is it safe to assume it must be coming from her end? J&J start at the crux of her dating issues and, like many of us, it has to do with an old situationship. The Awkward Encounter drove one listener to commit to cutting off her ex for good. Next, we get into our first “Friends to Lovers” submission in a new segment sponsored by Netflix. In anticipation of Bridgerton season 3, listeners are filling us in on how their own “friends to lovers” scenarios played out. The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about voice messages, forgetting a first date, and date-crashing friends. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 7
1 hr 7 min
Why The “When You Know, You Know” Spark Might Be Missing ft. Matthew Hussey
This Sunday Special, we’re taking notes from a professional! J&J are joined by Matthew Hussey (@thematthewhussey), a life coach and best-selling author with nearly 20 years of work elevating lives and relationships. We start with what Matthew came to terms with in the modern dating climate as his career evolved, then J&J get him to delve into how his own love life developed over time and the long-distance relationship that led him to say "I do" last year. His wife Audrey enters the chat to give her POV about their early stages and the surprising text she sent that drove him to make a decision. Plus, he answers listener questions sent in from Instagram, talks about raising your standards, and the importance of communication. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
May 4
1 hr 13 min
Could A 'Certified Lover Boy' Ever Commit?
Is it petty or prudent to use your life experiences with others in your life’s work? What if you’re one of the biggest pop stars in the world? Before dissecting listener emails, J&J dish first thoughts on Taylor Swift’s new album, “The Tortured Poets Department.” The first email comes from a listener disputing her latest breakup after her ex questioned whether they truly had long-term compatibility. To her, you have to invest in a relationship first in order to build compatibility, so she leaves it up to J&J to chime in and decide. The Awkward Encounter gave us all the ick. Then, the next email is from a listener who can’t decide if she should follow her heart or the advice of her loved ones. She’s seeing a friend of a famous rapper who flies her out and makes her feel special, but her family disapproves and wants her to come down from cloud nine. Is there a chance for something real to blossom with a lifestyle like his? The episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about picky eaters, invasive date questions, and threatening to break up after an argument. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 30
1 hr 16 min
The Situationship Cycle ft. Dulcé Sloan
This Sunday Special is a full debrief as Dulcé Sloan (@dulcesloan) joins J&J in the studio, catching them up on the dating stories she’s telling publicly for the first time, why she doesn’t call romantic interests by their names, and what she’s learned looking back. She takes us back to the time she was seeing “The Mechanic,” breaks down what they had and why it went on for so long, and confronts Jared about what he's looking for. You may know her as a comedian and host of The Daily Show, but Dulcé is also Jared’s friend and ready to be yours too with her new book, “Hello, Friends! – Stories of Dating, Destiny, and Day Jobs”. For more of her dating stories and lessons learned in life, get your copy of Dulcé’s book here: https://amzn.to/44gUGxW Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 27
38 min
Where Does A Digital Affair Fall On The Cheating Scale?
J&J are back in the studio so nature is healing. Jared talks “peacocking” and shares deets on the commitment he dove into after a weekend in Aspen. Then, Jordana dishes on decision-making with her husband and the tactics that they’re using to get through their home renovations. Next, we receive an email from a male listener who isn’t having much luck making it to date #2. Is there a right way to ask what went wrong? The next email is a listener mid-spiral after her fiancé confessed to a digital affair. Then, the episode ends with a “Red Flag or Deal Breaker?” about a weird house quality, downgraded dinner plans, and lying about age on the apps. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 23
1 hr 39 min
Can I Force A Closure Conversation After A Breakup?
Mercury is in retrograde, J&J are out of studio, and existential thoughts are filling the distance between them today. Still reeling from the earthquake and solar eclipse, Jared and Jordana are getting deep into fears, oblivion, and mental health. Then, they dive into an email that doubles as a "Petty or Prudent?" submission. Our listener was dumped by her fiancé after footing most of the bills in preparation of their wedding, but she still has his grandmother's engagement ring. Should she give it back, or is it only fair that she sells it to pay off the debt incurred? She gets into the details of what's transpired since he called the wedding off to let J&J decide where to go from here. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 20
41 min
I Took My Ex Back and He Dumped Me—Again!
Lovers of long intros, buckle up! J&J are jumping in virtually today, so they do a little catch-up from Aspen and Long Island before diving into the episode. Then, our first email is questioning a man's alleged heartbreak. Our listener's friend broke up with a guy, but she's not sure how to take his reaction. Was he really just romantic, or was his reaction the subtle sign of a player? The Awkward Encounter is the accidental sext situation without the ick. The next email comes from a confused listener after her ex reached out wanting to be "all in" only to change his mind 3 days later. J&J discuss WTF happened and how you can avoid situations like this, then they end the episode with a round of "Red Flag or Deal Breaker?" about an odd joke, a last-minute change of plans, and privacy screens.  Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 16
1 hr 38 min
Should It Matter That My BF’s Mom Dislikes Me?
Weddings are on our minds today! After a few listeners sent invitations to their upcoming “I do’s,” J&J thought about the ideal wedding experience if they could attend one. Then, Jordana needs context on “the chair” text exchange from Jared’s Instagram Story coverage of his brother’s wedding. The “Icky or Picky?” is about having sex with someone who shares the same name as a family member. Then, we hear from a listener whose boyfriend’s mom disapproves so much that she emailed a list of her deal breakers. Should his mom’s behavior be a reason to see herself out of this relationship, or can they work through it? J&J discuss the balancing act between a parent and a partner when everyone isn’t aligned. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Apr 13
35 min
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