In the Codependency No More Podcast, Brian and Jennifer take you along on their journey of codependency recovery. While having conversations with experts, other codependents, and each other, they expose you to experiences and points of view to help you in your own journey of codependency recovery.
Psychotherapist, Life Coach, Author, Editor, and Media Correspondent Sherry Gaba discusses obsession with marriage and relationships, how to distinguish between healthy love and obsession, what to do about it, and codependency in the media.
Dr. Germain discusses what codependency looks like in the workplace, the effect it has on our work and relationships with peers and bosses, and how to be aware of and handle people at work who prey on codependent workers.
Dr. Dean Robb provides an overview of "next stage recovery", the part of codependency and addiction recovery after overcoming the original addiction, when one starts to be faced with deeper, often subconscious issues.
Shannon discusses recognizing her codependency more than a decade after it started, her keen ability to lean into discomfort, and why she says accurate self-evaluation is just as important as self-esteem.
Chrstine Askew desribes how codependency and addiction are related; the triggers, cycles, and difficulty in changing behavior, along with a type of therapy that's paricularly effective in addressing codependency and addiction.
Portia describes her unfair upbringing, how it led to a series of unhealthy romantic relationships, and how she ultimately broke contact with all toxic people in order to raise her children in a healthy environment.
Kim discusses characteristics of narcisstically abused people, the steps to leaving a relationship, dealing with cravings to go back to a narcissist, countering limiting beliefs, and why emotional manipulators target codependents.
John Raven, licensed professiona counselor and author of the book Don’t Feed The Ducks: Overcoming Unhealthy Helping In Your Life And Relationships, spends some time with us talking all about boundaries. I enjoyed John’s intellectual approach to explaining things. He has a way of bringing together the “matter of fact” truths with theoretical constructs and a little bit of the neuroscience. Ultimately I walked away with a new understanding that, 1) When my “helping” is accompanied by a negative biological reaction, it’s probably an indication my boundary needs adjusted, and 2) If I’m afraid of pushing or re-establishing a boundary, it’s likely that my “stretch” is actually more in line with what is considered “healthy assertiveness”.
In this episode, we're delighted to have our first outside guest licensed profeesional counselor Jennifer Beall. As we interviewed Jennifer, we each had personal epiphanies and light bulbs going off in our heads, particularly for me when I came to the realization that "people-pleasing" for codependents is actually a form of control in order to make themselves feel safe, not control in the sense of deliberately manipulating other so you can feel in charge. But it is a subtle mechanism they use to empower themselves, i.e. "If I make my wife happy then she will be nice to me so I'll be happy." Paradoxically it's actually empowering to make everyone around you feel what they're feeling because if you do, then theoretically you can control the environment to provide safety for yourself. Great insight!