We might not be able to stop bad days from coming, but there are things we can do to make a bad day better.
We can take action to make a bad day better
No matter how positive we are or how productive we are, everybody has a bad day sometimes. Recently I had one of those days, which got me thinking about what we can do to turn a bad day into a better day. In this episode, I share ideas and resources I researched as well as some wonderful ideas the women of the TPW Facebook group shared with me.
What makes a day bad?
I want to be clear that I'm not talking here about a true crisis such as a death in the family, major illness, natural disaster, 0r job loss. Although many of the ideas we’ll discuss will help in a situation like that, these are more complicated than what I talk about in this episode.
A bad day, as we discuss in this episode, might be a physically bad day--perhaps you don't feel well, or you are sore or exhausted--or an emotionally bad day--perhaps you feel sad or down (whether or not because of some event or situation you can identify), or feel shame because of something you did (or think you did), or you may be annoyed or crabby.
How to make the day better
If the bad day is a result of a mistake we've made or a problem we've caused, we can often make the day better by finding a solution to set things right (rather than just dwelling on our mistake) and creating a system to prevent mistakes from happening again.
Sometimes we need to simply push through. We can’t always just check out when the day is bad since children still need to be cared for, our job still needs to be done.
Often what's needed to make the day better is to change our mindset. As a starting point, we can remember to focus on the things we can control:
Several members of the TPW community find it helps to take action - do something good for yourself, something productive, or something nice for someone else to shift your focus off yourself. (Natalie Eckdahl, in episode 225, mentioned this as something she does when she’s having "one of those days.")
Consider getting outside. Even if it’s cold, bundle up and go for a walk. The writer of 11 Scientific Benefits of Being Outdoors explains the benefits of being outdoors, which include an energy boost, the effects of natural sunlight in mitigating pain or alleviating Seasonal Affective Disorder, the free aromatherapy of nature's scents, restoration of focus, and more.
Taking time for self-care, both physical and mental, can vastly improve a bad day.
* Pamper yourself - Take a bath or shower, read a light book, sleep, cuddle with your pet, drink a glass of wine.
* Sleep - When we're not rested, everything is harder to cope with. Many of the bad days we have are at least partly because we don't get enough sleep.
A key to improving a bad day is managing our own thoughts. I get a lot of help in this area by listening to Brooke Castillo’s The Life Coach School Podcast. Her recent episodes on modern mental health (