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November 12, 2019
Judith and I discuss her work, including The Realization Process that she developed and teaches.
November 5, 2019
An interesting discussion about the ingredients of a life with meaning, character, depth, and compassion.
October 29, 2019
Tony Wrighton is a regular on Sky Sports News, the author of 3 books, and the creator and host of the Zestology podcast. In this episode, Eric and Tony talk about managing and optimizing your energy, ways to build fun into your day, techniques from Neurolinguistic Programming to help with anxiety and a lot more. This conversation is all about being intentional and smart about how you structure your days in order to support and promote your own well being. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Tony Wrighton and I Discuss Managing your Energy and …Trying to meditate with a 4-month-oldHow there’s not a good and evil wolf – rather, many different wolvesHis training in NLPThe role of control in our livesParentingWhy he named his podcast Zestology – and what it means to himThe idea of managing energy – without it, you can’t do anything. With a lot of it, you feel you can conquer the worldThe thing that helps with energy and well being as well as what counts as a “fun” activity for him.Meditating, sleep, good food, intermittent fasting, exerciseThe thing that, when he didn’t do it, caused his daily energy level to decrease by 30%How he tracks the variables that contribute to his energy levelsHis books: Confidence in a Minute, Persuade in a Minute, and Relax in a MinuteThe NLP technique of anchoring in addition to managing your inner voice.How we get used to anything in life so it’s important to switch things upAcceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)Authenticity Tony Wrighton Links: tonywrighton.org Twitter Facebook Instagram Netsuite by Oracle: the world’s #1 cloud business system. Netsuite is a business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf Nimble: Get great electronics you can feel really good about. Nimble makes premium, everyday tech products (like portable chargers, wireless chargers, protective phone cases and more). They use only sustainable materials, work with ethical factories, and ship in 100% plastic-free packaging. They’ll recycle your old electronics, too. To get 25% off your first Nimble order, go to  www.gonimble.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF Phlur: Eric created his own sampler set that you can try! Get this curated sampler set or create your own. Get 20% off your first 3 Phlur samples at Phlur.com/wolf
October 22, 2019
James and I discuss his vast body of work about contemplation, awakening, and the true self.
October 15, 2019
Reba Riley shares her journey of healing and hope while exploring 30 religions before the age of 30
October 15, 2019
Ideas are coming at you every day from all directions. How can you process it all? You can start with The Next Big Idea. Host Rufus Griscom and legendary thought leaders Malcolm Gladwell, Adam Grant, Dan Pink, and Susan Cain, will be your personal “idea” curators. Open your mind and get ready for something big, because the right idea--at the right moment--has the power to transform your life. Listen now at http://wondery.fm/TNBIWondery
October 8, 2019
Discussion about Human Behavior and Motives
October 1, 2019
How to Start Finishing with Charlie Gilkey
September 25, 2019
Mark Henick and I discuss his journey of attempting suicide and depression
September 21, 2019
This mini episode is about the tactical and emotional aspects of changing behavior.
September 18, 2019
Living with Chronic Pain
September 10, 2019
Eric Kaufmann and I discuss his work that involves teaching conscious leadership
September 3, 2019
Brent Williams and I discuss his journey through depression.
August 27, 2019
A conversation about learning to navigate your romantic relationships
August 20, 2019
Eric and Gabe Howard discuss mental illness, including how Gabe manages his bipolar disorder and depression.
August 16, 2019
Hi Everyone! Here is a mini episode that was made for our Patreon members called A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem (and sometimes a bad joke!) Teaching: We Can Always Grow and Change Poem: The Trees- Philip Larkin Song: Tomorrow- James  If you'd like to get one of these every week, you can become a member of our community by going to oneyoufeed.net/join By supporting and joining The One You Feed Community, you'll get access to:A Teaching, a Song, and a Poem mini episodesPost Show ConversationsAd Free Episodesand more! Your support is greatly appreciated!
August 13, 2019
We talk with Lauren Zander about uncovering your limiting inner dialogue so that you can truly catapult yourself forward in life.
August 7, 2019
Father Richard Rohr on The Universal Christ
July 30, 2019
Maia Szalavitz - A Different Lens on Addiction
July 24, 2019
Hal Gregersen on Asking Better Questions
July 17, 2019
Eric Tivers on ADHD in Adults
July 10, 2019
Cindy Stulberg on Relationships
July 3, 2019
Claire Booth on Curing Achiever Fever
June 26, 2019
Adyashanti is an American born spiritual teacher devoted to serving the awakening of all beings. His teachings are an open invitation to stop, inquire and recognize what is true and liberating at the core of all existence. Adyashanti also runs the Omega retreat which Eric has taken part in many times. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part interview, Eric and Adya continue their conversation about his latest book, The Most Important Thing: Discovering Truth at the Heart of Life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss…How his relationship to his wife has become more of a mystery over their 23 years togetherThe role of play and being sillyHow our spiritual striving can get in the way – in meditation, specificallyHow meditation is the relinquishing of an agendaThe way we engage with the mystery of beingThe curiosity that was sparked when he realized he was a mystery unto himselfThat spirituality is an experiential encounter with the unknownThe paradox we’re embracing with meditationStart meditation by listening to the quiet spaces inside, let go of trying to control what’s happening in your mindWhen you realize you’re lost in thought during meditation, kindly and gently encourage your attention back to your meditation anchor or listeningObserve your relationship with failure – or things going some other way than the way you want them to – during meditationGratitude for popping out of the dream or trance state Encountering life attitudes during meditationSpiritual insight during real life – what do you value at any given moment?Chasing a spiritual highAsking “what am I in service to?”Not having to have the feeling in order to engage in right actionAdyshanti Links: adyashanti.org Twitter Facebook Instagram The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial TalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. Visit www.talkspace.com and enter Promo Code: WOLF to get your first week free! If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Adyashanti (Part 1) 2018 Adyashanti (Part 2) 2018 Adyashanti (2017)
June 19, 2019
Adyashanti on Living in the Service of Truth
June 12, 2019
Donna Hylton on Healing and Hope
June 5, 2019
David Kadavy is a best selling author, blogger, podcaster and speaker. Through his blogging and podcasting, he helps people find satisfaction through following their crafts even if it takes them down an unconventional path. His book, The Heart to Start: Stop Procrastinating and Start Creating, is what he and Eric discuss in this episode. If you ever struggle with procrastination, you’ll find this episode helpful, informative, inspiring and empowering. There’s some real, practical wisdom here that will enable you to get started with whatever it is that you want to do in your life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, David Kadavy and I Discuss…His book, The Heart to Start: Stop Procrastinating and Start CreatingHow to get startedThe things that stand in the way of us startingWhat it means to be creative, or to createThe resistance that comes from the ego surrounding getting startedMotivational JudoTricks to get yourself to just get startedGive yourself permission to suckYou can’t do good work without doing bad work firstPerfection paralysisWhat happens when the scale of a creative project is too bigFortress fallacyThe role of curiosity in getting startedBalancing exploitation and explorationFollowing your curiositiesDavid Kadavy Links: davidkadavy.net Facebook Twitter Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription Capterra – find the right software for your business – read thousands of real software reviews. Capterra is the leading free online resource to find the tools to make an informed software decision for your business. Software selection simplified. Go to www.capterra.com/wolf for free today Quip – looking for a gift for a dad or a grad? Give them the gift of good oral hygiene made automatic, affordable and easy. Go to www.getquip.com/wolf and get your refill pack for free If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Tim Pychyl Tim Urban
May 29, 2019
Alan Castel, Ph.D. is a professor in the Department of Psychology at The University of California Los Angeles. His research focuses on how cognition changes with age and how people selectively remember important events. His work has been supported by the National Institute on Aging and has been featured in The New York Times and Time Magazine. In this episode, Eric and Alan discuss his book, Better with Age: The Psychology of Successful Aging. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Alan Castel, Ph.D. and I Discuss…His book, Better with Age: The Psychology of Successful AgingHow mindset matters in agingRole models in successful agingThat life can get better with ageSocio-Emotional Selectivity TheoryThe realization that time is finiteThe ways that life can get better the older we getWhat helps prevent cognitive declineThat older adults often have less regret than younger adultHow we’re better at focusing on what’s important as we ageWalking or getting physical exercise (getting blood flow to the brain) is key in preventing cognitive declineThe importance of balance training when it comes to healthy agingHow illuminating it is to test your balanceHow helpful it is to be around people who do the things that we’re looking to do in our livesThe challenges that come with retirement – and how to overcome themThe middle way as it applies to retirementThe two most important things in life Alan Castel, Ph.D. Links: memory & lifespan cognition lab google scholar Netsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial. If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Jonathan Rauch Parker J. Palmer
May 21, 2019
Mary O’Malley is an author, teacher, and counselor whose work awakens others to the joy of being fully alive. Her inspired and transformative approach to compulsions offers a way to replace fear, hopelessness, and struggle with ease, well-being, and joy. Through her individual counseling and coaching, books, classes, retreats, and ongoing groups, Mary invites people to experience the miracle of awakening. Acknowledged as a leader in the field of Awakening by many Mary clearly sees both the big picture and the details of human patterns and conditioning. She possesses an extraordinary ability to understand and connect with people. And she is skilled in empowering people to work with difficult mind states resulting in greater inner awareness and presence and a greater capacity for joy.  Eckhart Tolle says, “Thank you, Mary, for your contribution to the evolution of human consciousness.” Her latest book is called What’s In the Way, Is the Way: A Practical Guide to Awakening. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Mary O’Malley and I Discuss…The intertwining of good and bad, the yin and yangDealing with eating problemsHow what we fight, we empowerCreating a relationship with the dark sideThe impact of the early years of our livesThe conditioned selfHow we are addicted to struggleBeing present to life instead of thinking our way through lifeThe “low-grade suffering” that permeates our livesThe storyteller in our mindsThe Four LetsLearning to not listen so closely to the storyteller in our mindThe difference between being here for life and being in a conversation about lifeThe power of curiosityThe 8 core spells that we tell ourselvesLook to UnhookThe power of human attention to healSticking with these practices even when it seems to be going slowWatching for tightness in yourself as a trigger to let goLearning to be here for whatever life presentsThe gift of our compulsionsHaving a set of beliefs that empower us versus take our power awayLife is set up to bring up what is bound up so we can open up to be freed up so can show up for lifeNot being the victim of lifeHaving the ability to come back to the heartMary O’Malley Links: maryomalley.com twitter facebook
May 15, 2019
Ruth Whippman is a regular contributor to radio shows, television, and podcasts, having made appearances on shows including NPR’s Brian Lehrer Show, To the Point, CBS news and Morning Edition amongst many others. She is also a regular speaker and has given talks at Google, Princeton University and UC Berkeley as well as many other venues. Her book is, America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of Happiness is Creating a Nation of Nervous Wrecks and it is this – along with the flaws of the self help that she and Eric talk about in this episode. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Ruth Whippman and I Discuss...Her book, America the Anxious: How Our Pursuit of Happiness is Creating a Nation of Nervous WrecksHow many people in the self-help industry are trying to sell easy answers and life is incredibly complexSitting with a certain amount of complexity in lifeThe flaws with studiesThe one thing consistent across all research and people’s experience about happinessThe American tradition of self-relianceThe victim blaming myth that we’re completely responsible for how we feelThat circumstances absolutely play a role in our degree of happinessWhat’s behind the positive psychology movementHow we need to think of well being as a shared responsibilityThat it’s easy to lose compassion when you go too far down the road of “your happiness is completely within your control and completely your responsibility”The flaws in The Law of Attraction theoryHow to cope with the anxiety-producing stuff going on in the newsThe importance of social support, community, and connectionThe challenges of social mediaRuth Whippman Links: ruthwhippman.com twitter facebook instagram The Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get a free trial with access to their entire library at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Netsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Jonathan Rauch Paul Dolan Michelle Gielan
May 7, 2019
Skip Prichard is the fifth president of OCLC, a global library cooperative that supports thousands of libraries in making information more accessible and more useful to people around the world. Among Skip’s many passions is his leadership insights blog where he interviews authors and thought leaders and shares his views on a number of topics. His new book is The Book of Mistakes: 9 Secrets to Creating a Successful Future. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Skip Prichard and I Discuss…His book, The Book of Mistakes: 9 Secrets to Creating a Successful FutureHow what you focus on growsThat he looks at everybody as a teacherThe riddle that’s perplexed him throughout his lifeSuccess is when you’re filled with ambition and peace in equal measure at the same timeThe mistake of accepting excusesBuilt-in personal accountabilityHow nobody but you can work on your healingOk, that happened – what are you going to do about itThe microphone in our mindAllowing temporary setbacks to become permanent failuresHaving GritThe very real pain of failureHow do you keep going through despair, failure, depression – it’s resilienceAre you showing up to the people in the room intentionally? Skip Prichard Links: www.skipprichard.com twitter facebook Calm app – Reduce your anxiety and stress and help you sleep better. Meditations for anxiety, adult bedtime stories, soothing music, calm masterclasses with may One You Feed Guests. Visit www.calm.com/wolf for 25% off a Calm Premium Subscription The Great Courses Plus – learn more about virtually any topic – beyond the basics and even master a subject if you want to. Get a free trial with access to their entire library at www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Quip – Check out the new kid’s Quip! Now the whole family can brush using an affordable and effective Quip toothbrush Go to www.getquip.com/wolf to get your refill pack for free If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Sam Weinman Emma Seppala Carol Dweck
April 30, 2019
Dr. Ellen Hendriksen is a clinical psychologist who helps millions calm their anxiety and be their authentic selves through her award-winning podcast, The Savvy Psychologist, and in the clinic at Boston University’s Center for Anxiety and Related Disorders. In this episode, she and Eric discuss her debut book is, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social Anxiety. If you suffer from social anxiety, you will learn a lot of practical tools to use to help you overcome it and suffer less. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Dr. Ellen Hendriksen and I Discuss…Her book, How to Be Yourself: Quiet Your Inner Critic and Rise Above Social AnxietyThe positive qualities that often accompany social anxiety in a personThat the opposite of social anxiety is actually psychopathyThe neuroscience of social anxietyHow if you face your fears you can change your brainThe problematic nature of avoidance when it comes to social anxiety Overt avoidanceCovert avoidanceThinking that the worst case scenario is a foregone conclusionAvoidance means we never see what actually happensThe inner criticThe buckets that the Inner Critic likes to attack: Appearance, the Signs of Anxiety Themselves, Social Skills, One’s Entire PersonalitySocial Anxiety Mad Libs: When I ______, it will become obvious that I _______The tool, ReplaceAnxiety is vague – ask, what particular thing are you afraid of?4 Magic Questions: What’s the worst that can happen? How bad is that? What are the odds that the worst case scenario will actually happen? How will I cope?/What will I do?The tool, EmbraceThe role of mindfulness in anxietyMaking your inner world a kinder, more hospitable environmentSelf-compassionCreating structure in our social situations – giving yourself a mission to fulfill, a purpose, a goalDr. Ellen Hendrisken Links: ellenhendriksen.com twitter Netsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsuite’s free guide, 7 Key Strategies to Grow Your Profits, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there www.phlur.com. Enter promo code WOLF to get 20% off your first custom sampler set. The Upper Room – a global ministry where you can join a worldwide community of Christian believers in daily prayer and devotional practice. Go to www.upperroom.org/welcome to get a free 30-day trial If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Johann Hari Matthew Quick Eric Maisel
April 23, 2019
Sister Joan Chittister on Fruits of the Spirit
April 16, 2019
Donna Cameron has spent her career working with non-profit organizations and causes as an executive, consultant, a trainer and a volunteer. She’s the recipient of multiple awards an has published numerous articles. In 2011 she co-authored a book with Kristen Leathers called One Hill, Many Voices: Stories of Hope and Healing. In this interview, Donna and Eric discuss her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around You. You’ll hear insights into what it means, feels like and looks like to live kindly and your perspective on kindness will be broadened and enriched – possibly even changed – as a result.  **Spiritual Habits Workshop – Enrollment ends 4/21/19! There’s still time to discover how spiritual habits connect you back to your deepest, truest self. Learn how to put personalized Spiritual Habits to work in your life in a special, one-time program with Eric and a small group of listeners. Click here for more information: thespiritualhabit.com Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Donna Cameron and I Discuss…Her book, A Year of Living Kindly: Choices That Will Change Your Life and the World Around YouThat incivility is contagiousThat kindness is contagiousListening for the missed note instead of the musicPlaying “Gotcha” in the way you look at lifeThe negativity biasThe power of kindnessThe difference between nice and kindHer year of living kindly and blogging about itQuantifying the benefits of kindnessBeing indifferent and still being niceHow you can’t be indifferent and still be kindThat it takes courage to be kind, it doesn’t take courage to be niceExtending yourself beyond what is comfortableCaring, making an effort without worrying about getting anything in returnThe chasm between kindness and unkindnessNot being unkind doesn’t mean that you are being kindKeeping score and being kindThat when we say yes to one thing means we’re saying no to something elseThe health business of kindnessHow kindness alleviates social anxietyEmploying curiosity instead of judging people – “I wonder what’s going on in their lives?”Various kindness practicesPracticing a pauseAsking yourself “What is the kind response here?”Receiving graciously as an act of kindness Donna Cameron Links: ayearoflivingkindly.com Facebook Twitter Robinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options, and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.com Quip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing and it’s an affordable $25 www.getquip.com/wolf get your first refill pack for free The Great Courses Plus offers thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. Get a FREE trial and lock into their lowest price of $10 per month (50% off the regular price!) when you sign up for a 3-month plan thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Johann Berlin Barbara Bonner
April 10, 2019
Elisha Goldstein, Ph.D. on Mindfulness and Depression
April 3, 2019
Oren Jay Sofer leads retreats and workshops on mindful communication and meditation at retreat centers and educational facilities around the United States.  He is the founder of Next Step Dharma and Mindful Healthcare and he holds a degree in Comparative Religion from Columbia University. In this episode, he and Eric discuss his new book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent Communication. In it, you’ll learn an updated model on how to skillfully communicate – especially in difficult situations. Practical strategies and helpful perspectives are what you’ll get in this episode.  Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. In This Interview, Oren Jay Sofer and I Discuss…His book, Say What You Mean: A Mindful Approach to Nonviolent CommunicationThat we’re not stuck, our minds can learn and it depends on the choices we make moment to momentThe three steps to create effective conversationLead with PresenceCome from Curiosity and CareFocus on What MattersHow most people live with fragmented attention and it takes training to be fully present with another personThat you can feel whether a person is fully present with you or notBringing awareness and attention to the body to come into the present moment (the body is always in the present moment)Bodily sensations happen in the present momentThe power of pausingHow our rate of speech is connected to our nervous systemThat when we are present, we have a lot more choicesThat our intention shapes our verbal and non-verbal communicationsThe intention to understandThe intention of kindness and careHow you can practice kindness to someone you don’t likeKindness can be about protecting your own heartThe phrase “Let me see if I’ve got it…”Listening for what matters to the other person – what do they need?The difference between needs and strategiesThe Nonviolent Communication ModelObservations, Feelings, Needs, RequestsCommunicating in the workplaceOren Jay Sofer Links OrenJaySofer.com Facebook Twitter Instagram
March 27, 2019
Dr. Tererai Trent is an inspiring and dynamic scholar, educator, humanitarian, motivational speaker, author and the founder of Tererai International. Dr. Trent is one of the most internationally acclaimed voices for women's empowerment and quality education. Named by Oprah Winfrey as her all-time favorite guest, Dr. Trent's latest book is called The Awakened Woman: Remembering and Reigniting Our Sacred Dreams. She tells her incredible story in this episode and you will be so deeply moved, so deeply touched, and so deeply inspired by it. We'ver never heard anything like it and are honored that she would tell us about her astounding life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait - there's more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It's that simple and we'll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Dr. Tererai Trent and I Discuss...Her book, The Awakened Woman: Remembering and Reigniting Our Sacred DreamsThe two hungers in our life - the little hunger and the great hungerThe hunger for a meaningful lifeAsking yourself, "what breaks my heart?"The rural community she grew up inThe wisdom of her grandmotherThat her grandmother was defined by her wisdomHer answer to the question she was asked - what are your dreams?The moment she was told that her dreams were achievableWhen her mother said to write down her dreams and bury (i.e. plant) them in the ground.How she broke the cycle of povertyThe baton of poverty, illiteracy, early marriage, and abuse that she redefinedThe baton of wisdom, that she receivedThe four dreams she wrote downWhen her mother said, "your goals in life will be more achievable when connected to the greater good of your community"The difference between culture and customsThe 8 years it took for her to graduate high schoolGetting into Oklahoma State University but not having enough money to fly to AmericaFeeding the deep hunger that says - you can achieve your dreamsWhen she reconnected with the woman who first believed in herWhen she finally earned her PhDShe worked 3 jobs and took 18 hours of coursework and took care of 5 kids getting her food from trashcansHow she is not a victim, she is part of the solutionWhere her kids are now"It is acheivable"How many girls her work has now impacted
March 20, 2019
Oliver Burkeman is an award-winning writer for The Guardian and his book, The Antidote: Happiness for People Who Can’t Stand Positive Thinking explores the upsides of failure, difficulty, and imperfection – which we discussed in our first interview with Oliver several hundred episodes ago. Each week in his column in The Guardian, “This Column Will Change Your Life”, he writes about social psychology, self-help culture, productivity, and the science of happiness. In this interview, he discusses his take on time management in today’s world. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Oliver Burkeman and I Discuss…His take on the modern time management worldThat technologies of efficiency don’t seem to bring peace of mindHow your to-do list is never going to go awayThat having emails in your inbox is not necessarily a problemTime management whispers of the possibility of true peace of mindThinking of “a simpler time”How processing through your inbox is like climbing up an infinitely long ladderThat tough choices have to be made when deciding what to do with your time – no matter how many productivity assists you haveHow it’s often easier to spend time on trivial stuff than the big projectsDavid Allen’s book, Getting Things DoneHow no one beats them self up for not being able to jump a mile in the air because they never thought they could in the first placeSimilarly, accepting the real limitations in how much time you have and how much you can get done is incredibly liberating Productivity advice from Warren BuffetThe role social media plays in our expectations about how productive we could or should beHow digital distractions help us numb outOliver Burkeman Links Homepage Facebook Twitter
March 13, 2019
Eli Jaxon-Bear founded and currently teaches through The Leela Foundation, a non-profit organization dedicated to world peace and freedom through universal self-realization. Eli is also the author of many books, including the one we discuss in this episode, An Outlaw Makes it Home: The Awakening of a Spiritual Revolutionary. In this episode, he talks to Eric about accessing and experiencing your true self and things that get in the way of that. Also, he hits on a perspective of the Enneagram that we bet you’ve never considered before.  Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Eli Jaxon-Bear and I Discuss…His book, An Outlaw Makes it Home: The Awakening of a Spiritual RevolutionaryDiscovering who is feeding the wolves withinThat to know your true self you have to turn away from your false self – the self you construct in your mindNLP, the Enneagram and hypnosis integrated into his therapyHis lasting enlightenment Knowing what you really want and staying true to it in each momentThe journey from “me” to “I” Symptom cure and habit controlHis book, Sudden AwakeningHow your heart is already intelligent and aliveThat the Enneagram Personality Types is actually the Enneagram of Character FixationAsking, does this bring me freedom, true love, happiness? Go deeper than the character fixation and find your characterWaking up from the act, from the show, and stop taking it personally having to prove thingsThe character fixation of an Enneagram type 9The “Chief Feature”All of our experience has a Mental, Emotional and Physical component and the ego encapsulates all three of thoseThe history of the origins of the EnneagramHis book on the EnneagramEli Jaxon-Bear Links Homepage Facebook Twitter The Great Courses Plus thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere get a full month for FREE thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set Robinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.com If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Belinda Gore Amoda Maa
March 10, 2019
This mini episode is about the importance of taking small steps and how being consistent is not about being perfect.
March 6, 2019
Catherine Gray is a listener favorite guest on the show. She’s been on once before to talk about her book, The Unexpected Joy of being Sober and we received so many messages about how people loved the conversation Eric had with her. In this episode, she’s here to discuss her new book, The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single Serenity. Are you single? Then obviously this episode is for you. Are you in a relationship? Then – unexpectedly – this episode is also for you! Too often, people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being alone. You don’t want to feel trapped where you are – you want to be empowered knowing that where you are is where you CHOOSE to be – not where you HAVE to be. So, re-framing what it means and what it’s like to be single opens up everyone’s world by bringing you to the point of choice about your relationship status, rather than the point of “panic settling” or “victim mentality” about your relationship status. Trust us, you’re going to like this one. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Catherine Gray and I Discuss…Her book,The Unexpected Joy of being Single: Locating Happily Single SerenityThat being single is not terrible!How being single is a whole lot better than “panic settling”That being single can be nourishing and refreshing – it has everything to do with reframing the way you see itEnjoying where you are at the timeThat there are pros and cons to being in a relationship and there are also pros and cons to being singleThe “if-then” happiness loop that’s a moving targetHow you get used to what you have and then you shoot for the next thingChoosing your perspective on your life and counting up your gratitudesThat being single is WAY BETTER than being in a bad relationshipHow people stay in bad relationships because they’re afraid of being single, afraid of being aloneWhat being a “love addict” meansHow you need bonding with 5 people in your life – not just 1 – to be happyHow essential it is to like yourself in order to be happy in a healthy relationshipThe three different attachment styles that are created in early childhood (but can be changed in adulthood): anxious attached, secure attached, avoidant attachedHow feminism – in other words, equality – has made it socially acceptable for women to be single nowA thought doesn’t have to lead to an actionDon’t let yourself get too “HALT” (Hungry Angry Lonely Tired)Catherine Gray Links Homepage Instagram Twitter Daily Harvest – they deliver absolutely delicious organic, carefully sourced, chef-created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more. To get 3 cups free in your first box, visit www.daily-harvest.com and enter promo code: feed Thirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolf Quip has guiding features that are a built-in support system for better brushing and it’s an affordable $25. Visit www.getquip.com/wolf get your first refill pack for free If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Catherine Gray (First interview 2018) Mary O’Malley
February 27, 2019
Jonathan Rottenberg is an Associate Professor of Psychology at the University of South Florida where he’s the director of the mood and emotion laboratory. He’s also the author of the book, The Depths:  The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression Epidemic“, which he and Eric have discussed before. In this interview, they discuss some of the studies and research he’s involved with specific to those who go on to flourish after having depression. Why do they? What can we learn from them? There’s hope and practical wisdom in this episode for you. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Jonathan Rottenberg and I Discuss…His book, The Depths: The Evolutionary Origins of the Depression EpidemicThriving after depressionThe studies and research he’s involved withPeople who thrive after depressionThe destructive and recurring nature of depressionThe typical low expectation for those with depression about life moving forward and how it should be differentWhat is mental “health”?Psychological well beingExperiencing positive emotionsExperiencing negative emotions to a lesser degreeFeeling of balance in lifeHaving meaningful relationshipsFeeling a sense of autonomy over your lifeHow happy should we expect to be?Having elements of wellbeing amidst struggling with depressionThe 3 things that seed a low mood: events, temperaments, and routinesRuminationWays that people can work with depression more skillfullyHaving a different relationship with your negative thoughtsHaving connections with othersResearch on flourishingHow much control do we have over our state of flourishing?That it’s never too lateThere is hopeOur culture that idealizes euphoriaThe role of our basic temperamentFactors of wellbeing other than emotion and moodThe organization he helped found, Depression ArmyThe interesting and transformative experience of depressionThat his depression has been defanged and it doesn’t break the skin anymore Jonathan Rottenberg, Ph.D. Links: Depression Army Facebook Twitter Instagram Blinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less, go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7-day free trial Policy Genius helps you compare insurance plans and find the right policy for you at a price you can afford and then they handle everything – negotiating your rate and booking your appointment. Visit www.policygenius.com Robinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, you can get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.com If you liked this episode, you might also enjoy these other episodes: Johan Hari Lisa Feldman Barrett Therese Borchard
February 20, 2019
Susan David is a psychologist on faculty at Harvard Medical School. She’s also the co-founder and co-director of The Institute of Coaching at McLean Hospital and is CEO of Evidence-Based Psychology. Her book is, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and Life. Have you ever gotten hooked by a difficult emotion? In other words, have you ever felt compelled to act on a strong feeling without having any space to think about your action first? If so, you will find really helpful wisdom in this episode that you can take, apply today and live a more skillful, open-hearted life. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Susan David and I Discuss…Her book, Emotional Agility: Get Unstuck, Embrace Change, and Thrive in Work and LifeHow emotions are a guidance systemThat emotions can help us adapt and thriveThe thinking “unless I’m happy all the time, something is wrong”Emotional AgilityLoosening up, calming down and living with more intentionThe space between stimulus and responseEmotional rigidityAllowing the story in our head to drive our actionsBeing who we most want to be in this worldMoving away from the idea of “I have a thought and the thought is fact and I have to act on it”Getting hooked – accepting thought as factThat we are not our emotions – our emotions are a data sourceThe story that imprisons and keeps us from acting in an open-hearted wayHow to get unhookedGetting curious and compassionate about our emotions when we’re hookedI’m noticing that I’m feeling ____Creating a safe psychological space for ourselves“Walking your why”Choice points: do I move towards my values or away from my values?Social contagionKeeping your values front of mindDiscomfort is the price of admission to a meaningful lifeThat our difficult emotions (like anxiety, for example) don’t have to go away in order for us to live according to our valuesUnder our difficult emotions are signposts for our valuesPremature cognitive commitmentStories help us to make sense of our worldNaming our stories Susan David, Ph.D. Links: susandavid.com Ted Talk – Susan David, Ph.D. Facebook Twitter Instagram Daily Harvest delivers absolutely delicious, organic, carefully sourced, chef created fruit and veggie smoothies, soups, overnight oats, bowls and more! To get 3 cups free in your first box, visit www.daily-harvest.com and enter promo code: feed The Great Courses Plus offers thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. To get a full month for FREE, visit thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and enter promo code: WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set.
February 16, 2019
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February 13, 2019
Parker Palmer is a writer, teacher, and activist whose work speaks deeply to many people in many different walks of life. He’s the founder and senior partner in The Center for Courage and Renewal. He’s the author of many books, including his newest one which we talk about on this episode: On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting Old. Parker is one of our favorite guests of the show and after you listen to this episode, you’ll know why he’s back for a second conversation. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Parker Palmer and I Discuss…His book, On The Brink of Everything: Grace, Gravity and Getting OldHis reflections looking back on his lifeThe resilient fabric of his lifeHow perfection is an illusionThe role mistakes can play in one’s lifeThe gift of age: Looking back on one’s life and saying “It all belongs”Another gift of age: Deep appreciation and gratitude for the present momentFeeling like you’re one of the lucky ones that you’re “old”Asking “What’s there for me to learn?” when facing problematic moments in life (like feeling down, or feeling self-pity)Moments of life that are burdened with egoThe correlation between ego concerns and anxietyThe importance and role of perspectiveThe what and why of the things we’re doingThe question (and trap!): Does my life have meaning?My legacy vs Our legacyHow we’re all embedded in community“I planted some seeds and found some people I wanted to garden with…”How life and work are profoundly communalReflecting on the question, “Have I been sufficiently open to and aware of the significant contributions others have made in my life – and in such a way to do a deep bow to them in the work that I do?”Turning attention outward vs inwardBeing one among many vs trying to be something or someone specialThe healing impact of getting out into the natural worldHis poem “Harrowing”To know when to say, “enough” because the rest of the world and the rest of my life is waitingParker Palmer Links Homepage Facebook Twitter The Great Courses Plus – Thousands of courses in virtually any topic and you can listen on demand anywhere. Get a full month for FREE! thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Thirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolf Robinhood is an investing app that allows you to buy and sell stocks, EFTs, Options, and Cryptos all commission free at any level. All it takes to do so is 4 taps in the app on your smartphone so it makes investing easy for beginners and experienced people alike. For The One You Feed listeners, get a free stock like Apple, Ford, or Sprint to help you build your portfolio by going to  youfeed.robinhood.com
February 5, 2019
In This Interview, Dean Sluyter and I Discuss…His book, Fear Less: Living Beyond Fear, Anxiety, Anger, and AddictionRight View and how it relates to having less fear in your lifeHow right view is always liberatingAsking, “does it help?”“One mustn’t assume burdens that God doesn’t lay upon us. The state of worry is not itself meritorious.” CS LewisThe problem with trying to control your mindTranscendental MeditationHanging out in tasklessnessThe open space of awarenessHow thought doesn’t have to go away in order to meditateRelax your grip, and relax back into yourselfIt doesn’t grip you, it has no power to do that. You grip it.What it means to relax at the moment of contactRelax into it, stop the resistance of itPain is inevitable, suffering is optionalsuffering = pain x resistance Dean Sluyter Links Homepage Meditation Youtube Twitter
January 30, 2019
Megan Devine is a pioneer in the fields of grief support and emotional intelligence. Since 2009, she’s been writing and talking about grief and love, shaking up our culture’s ideas about both all along the way. In this episode we discuss these topics along with her newest book,It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t Understand Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Megan Devine and I Discuss…Her book, It’s OK That You’re Not OK: Meeting Grief and Loss in a Culture That Doesn’t UnderstandThat the way we deal with grief in our culture is brokenHow grief is a no-win situation for everyoneThe fact that we don’t like to talk about griefHow we carry losses with usThe myth that happiness is the same as health and that if you’re not happy, you’re doing something wrongThat some things cannot be fixed, they can only be carriedHow cruel it is to say everything happens for a reason and that you create your realityOur limited tools for going through difficultyVictim blamingHow we can’t be 100% safeThat we aren’t 100% in control of how we react to thingsIf we think grief is a problem to be solved, all of our tools will fail usSadness isn’t a problem eitherHow you can’t “get over it and put it behind you”The importance of having pain Heard, Honored and ValidatedThe power of listening and curiosityThinking of pain as an experience to be tendedThe things we have to live through and endure, that we can’t escapeMaking these difficult things gentler on usDecreasing suffering inside of griefWellness vs. worsenessPaying attention to the cause and effect of thingsThe hierarchy of griefTreating compassion as the abundant resource that it isHopeMeeting people where they areAsking: Do you want empathy or a problem solved right now?Asking: What do you need in this moment? What would feel useful right now?You can’t heal someone’s pain by trying to take it away from themThe importance of showing yourself kindnessMegan Devine Links Homepage Animation on Grief Instagram Twitter
January 23, 2019
Jonathan Rauch is a senior fellow at the Brookings Institute, the author of 6 books (and many, many articles) and is a contributing editor of The Atlantic. His latest book is The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50. See what you think about the trends of happiness in your life compared to the tendency he describes in his book and this interview. It may be that the emotional peak of life is different than when you’d expect. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Jonathan Rauch and I Discuss…His book, The Happiness Curve: Why Life Gets Better After 50Connection to othersGenerosityThe factors that most contribute to our happinessThe U shape curve of happiness in lifeThe emotional peak of lifeHow our expectations change as life goes onThat our values continue to changeThe fact that our brains change over the course of a lifetimeHow the effects of connectedness are cumulative and durableThe hedonic treadmillWhat to do to be happier at the bottom of the curveThe suffering that comes from social comparisonStaying in the present momentInternal criticismGuilt vs Shame in mid-lifeThe benefits of being other-directed, other-orientedHow the voice of impulsiveness isn’t our friendJonathan Rauch Links Homepage Twitter The Great Courses Plus gives in-depth knowledge on a variety of topics like psychology, science, philosophy, cooking, photography and more. Watch or listen to a course whenever, wherever for FREE. To start your free trial now go to www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf Phlur makes stunning, non-toxic perfumes, listing every ingredient and why it’s there. Visit www.phlur.com and use promo code WOLF to get 20% off first custom sampler set.
January 16, 2019
John Zeratsky shares how to manage your time and energy, understand will power, and find more meaningful moments every day.
January 9, 2019
Marilyn Nelson on Her Beautiful, Powerful Poetry Marilyn Nelson is an American poet, translator and children’s book author. She’s a professor emeritus at The University of Connecticut and the former poet laureate of Connecticut. In this episode, Eric and Marilyn discuss several poems she’s written as well as the meaning behind them.  Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Marilyn Nelson and I Discuss…Her book, How I Discovered PoetryHer poem, MississippiHer book, A Wreath for Emmett TillThe poetry form of a heroic crown of sonnetsHer poem, Rosemary for RemembranceHer poem, Let Me Gather Spring Flowers For a WreathHer poem, Like His Gouged EyeHow poetry comes out of silence and leads us back to silenceThe value of silence in a life well livedSilence, contemplation, and self-knowledgeOur quiet centerHer book, CarverHer poem, Professor Carver’s Bible ClassHer book, Snook Alone Marilyn Nelson Links Homepage Facebook Netsuite by Oracle – the business software that handles every aspect of your business in an easy to use cloud platform. Get Netsweep’s free guide, Crushing the 5 Barriers to Growth, by going to www.netsuite.com/wolf Thirdlove – they have 70 sizes including their signature 1/2 cup sizes! Find your perfect fit online in 60 seconds with their no tape measure needed fit finder. Get 15% off our first order at www.thirdlove.com/wolf Blinkist – Do you have an ever-growing list of books to read? Blinkist can help! With thousands of non-fiction books distilled down to their most salient points that you can consume in 15 minutes or less go to www.blinkist.com/wolf for a 7 day free trial
January 2, 2019
We talk with Roger Housden about how poetry helps during difficult times and he reads a stunning version of some great poems.
December 26, 2018
Steven C Hayes is Nevada Foundation Professor at the Department of Psychology at the University of Nevada. He is an author of over 35 books and over 500 scientific articles. He is considered one of the founders of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy. In 1992 he was listed by the Institute for Scientific Information as the 30th “highest impact” psychologist in the world. His work has been recognized by several awards including the Exemplary Contributions to Basic Behavioral Research and Its Applications from Division 25 of APA, the Impact of Science on Application award from the Society for the Advancement of Behavior Analysis, and the Lifetime Achievement Award from the Association for Behavioral and Cognitive Therapies. He is best known for his book Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life: The New Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Steven C Hayes and I Discuss…The One You Feed parableHis book, Get Out of Your Mind and Into Your Life The ACT approach to therapyThat you know if your thoughts are good or bad by the fruits that they bearThe difference between pain and sufferingThe importance of putting the human mind on a leashThat suffering comes from when we mishandle the present moment, and we amplify certain thoughts and feelingsThe meaning of Cognitive Fusion: when we can look only from our thoughts and not at our thoughtsThe importance of and various types of contemplative practiceVarious diffusion techniques (listed in a free episode download!)The concept and practice of experiential avoidanceThe full impact of acting for “short term gains with long term pains”The idea of creating larger behavioral patternsThe role of values based actionSteven C Hayes Links Homepage Facebook TED Talk
December 19, 2018
Paul Hannam has started, owned and managed a number of successful businesses and he taught business and environmental management at Oxford University. His new book is The Wisdom of Groundhog Day: How to Improve Your Life One Day at a Time. Before you jump to thinking you know what he’s going to say about this – wait and listen to this episode. You’ll be surprised and intrigued by his insight and recommendations based on this movie. Need help with completing your goals in 2019? The One You Feed Transformation Program can help you accomplish your goals this year. But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Paul Hannam and I Discuss…His book, The Wisdom of Groundhog Day: How to Improve Your Life One Day at a TimeThe controlled experiment of Groundhog Day (the film)The life skill of experimentationInvestigating our behaviorWorking on changing one variable at a timeKeeping a journalAsking “what is my role in creating my mood?”Looking inward for the answerMaking change 1 day at a timeThe action of our inner lifeNarrowing the spectrum of life through routineThe inner monotonyHow you have everything you need to be happy nowSlowing down with mindfulnessGrounding yourself in your sensesConnecting with natureThe conditioned selfThe authentic selfConditioning, Circumstances and Our MindHow our brain doesn’t like changeThe 5 characteristics of our conditioned selfTry looking at things in a new wayTrying to control our inner stateLetting go of outcomes Paul Hannam Links Homepage Twitter
December 12, 2018
Tim Pychyl is an Associate Professor of Psychology at Carlton University and hosts a podcast called I Procrastinate. His book that we discuss in this episode is on that very topic – it’s called Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for Change But wait – there’s more! The episode is not quite over!! We continue the conversation and you can access this exclusive content right in your podcast player feed. Head over to our Patreon page and pledge to donate just $10 a month. It’s that simple and we’ll give you good stuff as a thank you! In This Interview, Tim Pychyl and I Discuss…His book, Solving the Procrastination Puzzle: A Concise Guide to Strategies for ChangeHow it’s in the getting on in life that makes a lifeThat procrastination can be an existential matterWhat he tells his children: I didn’t ask what you want to do or how you feel, I told you it’s time to make your bed.When we procrastinate we delay getting on with our livesBeing an active member or your own lifeThe two ways procrastination compromises our healthStressFewer wellness behaviorsTreatment delay “I’ll look after that later”Procrastination being a problem of self-regulated behaviorI won’t give in to feel goodGoal Intentions and Implementation intentionsWhen….then…Giving the monkey something to doWhat’s the next action?Keeping it smallHacks to work around our irrational thinkingMotivation and then Action or Action and then MotivationThe meaning behind our goalsMeaning and ManageabilityAsking what will this cost me if I put it off?Prefer tomorrow over todayThinking “I’ll feel like doing it tomorrow”Affect forecastingThinking of your future self as a strangerDeveloping empathy for future selfSelf-handicap to preserve self-esteemTim Pychyl Links Homepage Twitter Tim’s Psychology Today Page Blinkist – Join the 5 million people already using Blinkist to read or listen to non-fiction books in 15 minutes or less! Free 7 day trial www.blinkist.com/wolf Quip Electric toothbrush – the perfect stocking stuffer that will be used every day and everyone needs! They’ll think of you every day when they use it. www.quip.com/wolf get your first refill pack free TalkSpace – the online therapy company that lets you message a licensed therapist from anywhere at any time. Therapy on demand. Non-judgemental, practical help when you need it at a fraction of the cost of traditional therapy. www.talkspace.com/wolf Promo Code WOLF to get $45 off your first month.
December 4, 2018
Hilary Jacobs Hendel is a psychotherapist who switched from practicing traditional talk psychotherapy to accelerated experimental dynamic psychotherapy. She teaches us that our core emotions are automatic and grounded in universal physical experiences. Her new book is called, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic Self. In this episode, she goes into great instructional detail about how to identify and process your emotions in the moment. If you’ve ever felt a strong emotion (and who hasn’t), this episode will teach you how to move through it skillfully, rather than having your strong emotions wreak havoc in yourself and with others.  RxBar & RxNut Butter wants to build delicious food the right way – with transparency on their simple, real ingredients. Get 25% off your first order of their best seller variety pack. Use URL http://www.rxbar.com/wolf and enter promo code WOLF at checkout (the US only) Ancestry DNA- unlock your family story – the perfect holiday gift. To get it for the special price of $59 use URL http://www.ancestry.com/wolf In This Interview, Hilary Jabobs Hendel and I Discuss…Her new book, It’s Not Always Depression: Working The Change Triangle to Listen to the Body, Discover Core Emotions, and Connect to your Authentic SelfThe 7 C’s of our authentic selfThe science and biology of emotionsThe change triangleThe Core Emotions: Fear, Anger, Sadness, Disgust, Joy, Excitement and Sexual ExcitementThe 3 Inhibitory Emotions: Anxiety, Guilt, and ShameHow core emotions have energy and want to come up and out- to be expressedInhibitory emotions dampening our core emotions The difference between defenses and inhibitory emotionsHow to work The Change TriangleTrauma vs traumaThe power of naming your emotionsOur open-hearted stateWhen our emotions overwhelm us, it can be helpful to have someone else process themGrounding and breathingThe role of core emotions is to ready us for action so they are first physical sensations, traveling from the brain down the vegus nerveAll core emotions have impulses associated with themHow harmful self-criticism and self-judgment can beRelating to ourselves as a small childHealthy shame vs toxic shame Hilary Jacobs Hendel Links Homepage Twitter
November 28, 2018
Neil Pasricha is a New York Times bestselling author with books published in over a dozen languages. He’s spent 7 years (and counting!) on best-seller lists and his books have sold millions of copies. You may know his blog – 1000 Awesome Things – it’s won 2 Webby awards for the Best Blog in the World and has had over 50 million hits. His most recent book, The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have Everything, is what we focus much of this interview on. You’ll learn really practical advice, grounded in research and science, on what you can do to be happier. Fin – Do you feel like you can never get everything on your to-do list done? Get a little extra help getting tasks crossed off with Fin, a digital personal assistant which can do things like book travel plans or find contractors to fix things around the house. Send Fin a couple of requests for free! Use the link www.fin.com/wolf Ancestry DNA – give the gift of finding out your family history www.ancestry.com/wolf $59 Quip – an electric toothbrush that makes brushing better at an affordable price $25 www.getquip.com/wolf get your first refill pack free In This Interview, Neil Pasricha and I Discuss…His book, The Happiness Equation: Want Nothing + Do Anything = Have EverythingThe 9 critical steps in achieving the happiness equationThe 7 ways to be happy right nowThe benefits of 3 brisk 30-minute nature walks each weekThe power of random – or conscious – acts of kindnessA complete unplugWhy you should never retireSocial, Stimulation, StoryThe importance of structureThe bench test for all major life decisionsHis upcoming audible book on resilienceThe war between more and enoughNeil Pasricha Links Homepage Instagram Twitter Neil’s New Audible Show
November 7, 2018
How we can heal the racial wounds inside us and inside society.
October 31, 2018
Chances are, you've heard the name James Clear. Especially if you have done any research whatsoever about building habits. That's kinda his neck of the woods. His work has appeared in The New York Times, CBS This Morning, Time, Entrepreneur and he has taught in colleges around the world. In this episode, part 2 of a 2 part series, he talks more about his new book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad Ones. You'll learn some really specific, easy and flat out "why didn't I think of that" genius methods to apply to your life and habits. Get Ad-Free Episodes and More Quip electric toothbrush fraction of the cost of other electric toothbrushes www.getquip.com/wolf and get first refill packet free Bombas INCREDIBLY comfortable socks which is reason enough to wear them but they ALSO donate a pair to a local homeless shelter for every pair that they sell get 20% off first purchase www.bombas.com/wolf offer code WOLF Blinkist- read or listen to thousands of nonfiction book summaries all on your phone in under 15 minutes www.blinkist.com/wolf to start your7-day free trial    In This Interview, James Clear and I Discuss...His book, Atomic Habits: An Easy and Proven Way to Build Good Habits and Break Bad OnesHabits are a response to the physical cues in our environmentIncreasing the friction it takes to complete the taskThe more you increase the steps between you and the bad behavior or decrease the steps between you and the good behavior the betterHabit stacking/Anchoring"After _____ I will _____"The more specific the betterSocial environment and habitsYou want to join groups where your desired behavior is the normal behaviorMake it easyThe two-minute ruleA habit must be established before it can be improvedOptimize for the starting line rather than the finish lineMake it satisfyingFeel successful at the endBring the long-term consequences into the short term James Clear Links Homepage Instagram Twitter     Please support the show with a donation
October 17, 2018
This week we talk to Dr. Gabor Mate´ about addiction A renowned speaker, and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, stress and childhood development. For twelve years Dr. Maté worked in Vancouver’s Downtown Eastside with patients challenged by hard-core drug addiction, mental illness and HIV, including at Vancouver’s Supervised Injection Site. As an author, Dr. Maté has written several bestselling books including the award-winning In the Realm of Hungry Ghosts: Close Encounters with Addiction; When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress; and Scattered Minds: A New Look at the Origins and Healing of Attention Deficit Disorder, and co-authored Hold on to Your Kids. His works have been published internationally in twenty languages. Dr. Maté is the co-founder of Compassion for Addiction, a new non-profit that focusses on addiction. He is also an advisor of Drugs over Dinner. Dr. Maté has received the Hubert Evans Prize for Literary Non-Fiction; an Honorary Degree (Law) from the University of Northern British Columbia; an Outstanding Alumnus Award from Simon Fraser University; and the 2012 Martin Luther King Humanitarian Award from Mothers Against Teen Violence. He is an adjunct professor in the Faculty of Criminology, Simon Fraser University.   In This Interview, Dr. Gabor Mate´ and I Discuss...  The One You Feed parableThe degree of choice we have in lifeWhat is the Realm of the Hungry Ghosts?What is addiction?The characteristics of addictionRecognizing what addicts get out of their addictionThe fundamental question is not “Why the Addiction” but “Why the Pain”How all addiction comes out of some hurt or traumaThe different types of traumaThe role of neurotransmitters in addictionHow drugs and alcohol destroy the parts of the brain that allow us to make sound decisionsWhether or not genetics play a significant role in addictionWhether our culture breeds addictionHow our children get most of their leadership from other childrenHow the breakup of family, community and clan is contributing to addictionThe critical role of the culture in our the development of our brainsRecognizing our inherent valueTo what degree we have freedom over our choicesWithout consciousness, there is no freedomPaths to recoveryHow compassion can help with recoveryDeveloping compassionate curiosity towards ourselves Dr. Gabor Mate´ Links Homepage TED Talk Facebook
September 26, 2018
Miguel Chen is a meditation practitioner, a yoga instructor, a yoga studio owner and the bass player for a punk rock band. He has also published a book called I Wanna Be Well: How a Punk Found Peace and You Can Too. In this compelling episode, Eric and Miguel explore the connection between punk rock and Buddhism and they dive into the experiences in his life - both traumatic and positive - that have shaped his spiritual path of awakening. Please support the show with a donation Bombas INCREDIBLY comfortable socks which is reason enough to wear them but they ALSO donate a pair to a local homeless shelter for every pair that they sell get 20% off first purchase www.bombas.com/wolf offer code WOLF LinkedIn Find talent whether they're looking for a job or not. Focus on finding the right people regardless of their employment status. www.linkedin.com/wolf $50 off your first job posting Phlur Expertly crafted sustainably produced perfumes without all the bad stuff sold at an honest price. Go to their website to view pictures, listen to sounds and connect with words...if you like those, chances are you'll like the scent associated with them and they'll send you a 3 sampler kit to see. www.phlur.com use the promo code WOLF to get 20% off your custom Phlur sampler set  In This Interview, Miguel Chen and I Discuss...His book, I Wanna Be Well: How a Punk Found Peace and You Can TooHow he owns a yoga studio and plays in a punk rock bandThe way he suppressed grief for dead family membersAsking himself why he wasn't happyThe connection between punk rock and BuddhismThe other as selfForgetting who we areThe importance of being mindful throughout lifeNot being present with stuff we likeNot being present with stuff we don't likeEating mindfullyHow if you're used to disconnecting from things you don't like, it starts creeping into the things you do likeHow he stays in the present momentTraining the mindHis morning routineNon-attachmentBeing criticized for his spiritual practiceHis spiritual practice while on tourThe danger of taking people in life for grantedHow grateful he is that he woke up early in his lifeWhy some people get motivated to get sober and others don't Miguel Chen Links Homepage Instagram Twitter   Please support the show with a donation
August 15, 2018
Jillian Pransky is a Certified Yoga Therapist, a teacher and an author of the new book, Deep Listening: A Healing Practice to Calm Your Body, Clear Your Mind and Open Your Heart. In this interview, Jillian dives deep into the topic of somatic listening; what it is, why it's important, how to do it and the benefits you can expect. Restorative Yoga is an avenue for this type of work and it can be life changing to say the least. Do you experience tension in your body? Do you have unpleasant feelings? Do you feel exhausted? If your answer is yes or sometimes to any of these questions, you'll want to hear what Jillian Pransky has to say in this episode. Fin digital assistant knows your preferences, can pay bills, email on your behalf, on demand, only pay for what you use, integrate with your calendar and email try it for free at www.fin.com/wolf $60 of Fin's time/tasks to see if you like it Bombas socks Jacob a friend of the show has switched his entire sock drawer to Bombas! Donates a pair of socks for every pair sold save 20% www.bombas.com/wolf offer code wolf Simple Habit on the go to calm your nerves make mindfulness and meditation easy www.simplehabit.com/wolf to get a free 7 day trial of their premium library   In This Interview, Jillian Pransky and I Discuss...Her book, Deep Listening: A Healing Practice to Calm Your Body, Clear Your Mind and Open Your HeartHow she used to believe anxiety and depression was a choiceLearning to be with the bad wolfBefriending her bad wolfThat not everything can be fixedWhen surrender is neededNot being able to fix some way someone has treated usRestorative YogaPaying attention to our body and mind so that we're aware of how we shut down and open up and to be with it with opennessDeep listening to yourself can leave you more hard and cutoff or open and tenderThe tension in our body signifying the stress responsePaying attention long enough that it softens and shiftsJudging the tension we find in our bodiesGetting curious about the tension we find, breathing into itAsking "How am I still guarding myself when I don't have to be?" during Restorative Yoga"Doing Less"How the busier we are the less we have to feelListening is the act of allowingLove is the act of allowingAllowing yourself to be supported even when you're activeThat which is regular is way better than that which is a lotA little bit all the time re-wires usHow exhausting it is to be somewhere we're notOur thoughts are like social mediaForward thinking and past thinking after present moment beingLetting go vs Letting beAnalogy of salt in water: shot glass vs mason jar"The practice isn't about learning how to stay here but learning how to come back." Jillian Pransky Links Homepage Facebook Twitter Instagram
August 8, 2018
Judson Brewer MD PhD is widely considered an expert in the areas of habit change, the "science of self-mastery" and mindfulness training for addiction. He has published a number of peer-reviewed articles and book chapters, he has trained US Olympic coaches, and his work has been featured on 60 Minutes, TEDMED, Time, Forbes, BBC, NPR, Businessweek and others. So - you get the idea...this guy knows what he's talking about and what he's talking about is fascinating. It's a very different approach to ridding yourself of addiction and it works. it works much better than even currently accepted "gold standard programs" and it's something you can learn how to do today. In fact, you can learn how to do it by listening to this episode. Please Support The Show with a Donation Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.   Sanebox Biggest time waster at work - automatically filters out the emails that don't need your focus. Get your email under control free 2 week trial and get a $25 credit www.sanebox.com/wolf The Great Courses Plus app streaming service where you can learn anything that interests you. iRest research based form of deep meditation 10 step meditation practice Feed your curiosity. Feed your good wolf. thousands of lectures and lessons on human behavior, history, science, cooking, photography, drawing Get a full month of unlimited access for free www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf   Want to feel like you're sleeping in a 5-star hotel? Try a Casper mattress at no hassle to you and get $50 off select mattresses Go to www.casper.com/oneyoufeed promo code oneyoufeed     In This Interview, Judson Brewer and I Discuss...His book, The Craving Mind: From Cigarettes to Smartphones to Love - Why We Get Hooked and How We Can Break Bad HabitsTrigger, Behavior, ResultRewards and PunishmentsHabit LoopSubjective BiasAddiction: Continued use despite adverse consequencesAddiction: a way to avoid somethingEvery time we give in to a craving, we reinforce that habit loopCravings are like stray catsIf you don't feed a craving it will burn itself outSurfing a cravingThe way cravings feel like they're going to crush us and last forever - cognitive distortionCraving Wave: come - crest - go away\Awareness helps us surf these craving wavesWhat does this feel like in my body right now?Paying attention to the craving rather than avoid it or make it go awayRAINThis method had 5x quit rates than the gold standard smoking cessation programSubstitute behaviorIn their quest for happiness, people mistake excitement of the mind for real happinessInvestigate the craving and the rewardExcitement brings contractionGet curious about your experiences - it helps you remain openDefault mode networkConceptual vs Experiential SelfThe contraction of egoHow we relate to our thoughts and feelings makes all the difference Jusdon Brewer Links Homepage Twitter Please Support The Show with a Donation
August 5, 2018
I'm talking about the fears that come with leaving my job and how I'm working with that. And I'm sharing the thoughts about going from your full-time job to something else you might love.
August 1, 2018
Josh Korda is the guiding teacher of Dharma Punx in NYC and a fully empowered Buddhist teacher in the Against the Stream lineage. He has led numerous online and residential retreats and is also widely known for his podcast and as an author. His new book is called Unsubscribe: Opt Out of Delusion, Tune in to Truth. In this conversation with Eric, he talks about how to make changes in your life and he bases much of what he has to say on this topic on his Buddhist principals and own life experience. It's a comprehensive look at how we as humans can experience the impermanence of life. Since we all face this impermanence, it's a pretty important thing to grow more skillful in the way we interact with it. Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Please Support The Show with a Donation   The Great Courses Plus app streaming service where you can learn anything that interests you. Feed your curiosity. Feed your good wolf. thousands of lectures and lessons on human behavior, history, science, cooking, photography, drawing Get a full month of unlimited access for free www.thegreatcoursesplus.com/wolf   LinkedIn worlds largest professional network 70% of the workforce is already there - not just those looking for jobs. A new hire is made every 10 seconds using LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/wolf $50 off first job post   Blinkist read or listen to thousands of nonfiction book summaries all on your phone in under 15 minutes www.blinkist.com/wolf to start your free trial or get 3 months off your yearly plan   In This Interview, Josh Korda and I Discuss...His book, Unsubscribe: Opt Out of Delusion, Tune in to TruthHow he deals with his depressionWestern mindfulness practiceHow it's not about always accepting or settling for toxic circumstancesHow it's not about always running away from healthy yet difficult circumstancesThe wisdom to know what to do with difficulty in the momentHow to make significant life changes (based on his experience doing just that)Being willing to set boundariesMaking change by talking harshly oneself only creates stress and you then associate the stress with the goal itself and you begin to procrastinateHow our inner critic makes us want to avoid the very things we want to grow intoThought arrives after feeling and impulsesWays to change behavior without relying on thought"Corrective emotional response"The importance of an empathetic, safe therapist in effective therapyJosh Korda Links Homepage Twitter   Please Support The Show with a Donation
July 31, 2018
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July 25, 2018
Anne Bogel is an author, podcast host, avid reader and personality assessment expert. That's what you'll see when you read her new book, How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes Everything. In this interview, Eric and Anne cover a lot of ground; from book recommendations to the value and application of personality tests. If you are at all interested in personal growth, this episode will excite and inspire you to use valid personality tests as a tool to fuel that endeavor. If you've written off personality tests in the past, we encourage you to revisit the topic with an open mind as you listen to this episode. You may think differently 45 minutes from now. Please Support The Show with a Donation Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Bombas INCREDIBLY comfortable socks which is reason enough to wear them but they ALSO donate a pair to a local homeless shelter for every pair that they sell get 20% off first purchase www.bombas.com/wolf offer code WOLF   In This Interview, Anne Bogel and I Discuss...Her book, Reading People: How Seeing the World Through the Lens of Personality Changes EverythingRecent fiction books that she's read that she lovedHow we all have pain during the course of our livesThe joy of reading literary fictionWhat is personality?The coping strategies we learn vs fundamental personality changesHow our mind is inclined to workThe way we see thingsTaking a personality test and answering questions based on how we want to be vs how we really areThat if you don't know how you're really like, you can't move forward and grow as a personCommon thoughts, feelings and behavior = our personality typeOur character and our behavior are two things we can impact and change within ourselves with a lot of effortPersonality tests not being a limiting thingPutting your strengths to work for youPutting effort towards things we can change vs things we can't changeI'm the kind of person who _____ being a powerful phraseFixed vs Growth mindsetHighly sensitive peopleThe emotional bank accountIntroverts vs ExtrovertsWhat you do consistently over time mattersthe 5:1 ratio when it comes to positive and negative experiencesThe Enneagram - https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/Anne Bogel Links Homepage Facebook Twitter Instagram   Please Support The Show with a Donation
July 18, 2018
Culadasa is a meditation master with over 4 decades of experience in the Tibetan and Theravadan Buddhist traditions. He taught classes in neuroscience and psychology at the Universities of Calgary and Brittish Columbia. He now lives in the Arizona wilderness and leads the Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sanga. His book on meditation, The Mind Illuminated, is the book Eric calls the best book on meditation he's ever read. This is a two-part interview. In this episode, part one, Eric and Culadasa talk about how the mind and brain works - knowledge that is essential to understand before one can successfully implement the meditation techniques that will be discussed in part two. These techniques have the very real potential of transforming your meditation experience. So listen up in this episode and get ready to radically re-understand this thing we call the mind. Please Support The Show with a Donation   Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Sanebox helps organize your email inbox for a www.sanebox.com/wolf free trial for 2 weeks and a $25 credit Eric just replaced his entire sock drawer with all Bombas socks because of how much he loves them get 20% off first purchase www.bombas.com/wolf offer code WOLF     In This Interview, Culadasa and I Discuss...His book, The Mind IlluminatedThe power of setting an intention for meditationGetting all of the mind on board for meditatingAccepting whatever comes upTrying to enjoy your meditation, celebrating the times you come back to the present moment vs scolding yourselfRoadmap of the stages of meditation over timeHow knowing the developmental nature of things over time can be problematicThe difficulties of being a beginner at anythingLooking for the pleasure and joy in wherever you are The 4 step process of settling in to meditateFeeling your breath at the noseThe Mindful ReviewBeing aware of the motivation behind your thoughts and speechWhat could I have done differently?Please Support The Show with a Donation
July 11, 2018
Culadasa is a meditation master with over 4 decades of experience in the Tibetan and Theravadan Buddhist traditions. He taught classes in neuroscience and psychology at the Universities of Calgary and Brittish Columbia. He now lives in the Arizona wilderness and leads the Dharma Treasure Buddhist Sanga. His book on meditation, The Mind Illuminated, is the book Eric calls the best book on meditation he's ever read. This is a two-part interview. In this episode, part one, Eric and Culadasa talk about how the mind and brain works - knowledge that is essential to understand before one can successfully implement the meditation techniques that will be discussed in part two. These techniques have the very real potential of transforming your meditation experience. So listen up in this episode and get ready to radically re-understand this thing we call the mind. Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. New science and research has changed the formula of improving hair and stopping hair loss 1st months supply with a subscription for $10 www.nutrafol.com promo code WOLF  Read or listen to thousands of nonfiction book summaries all on your phone in under 15 minutes www.blinkist.com/wolf to start your free trial or get 3 months off your yearly plan   In This Interview, Culadasa and I Discuss...His book, The Mind IlluminatedHow the mind and the brain worksThe basic distinction between attention and awarenessHow when we give labels to something we can know and understand it betterThe moments of consciousness modelNon-perceiving moments of consciousnessThe dullness of meditationSleepiness in meditationThe goal of vipassana is to increase the total power of our cognitive abilitiesThe mind system model (how the mind works)The conscious and unconscious mindSensory sub-mind (taking in info through senses)Discriminating sub-mind (cognitive thinking/feeling)These sub-minds are competing for attentionThe conscious mind is a place that the sub-minds project intoThe power of setting intentions on the sub-mindsThe role of the narrating sub-mindWe are a collection of the processes of the sub-mindsMaking intellectual sense of the experience of not-self
July 3, 2018
Amoda Maa is a contemporary spiritual teacher and author. You may recognize the titles of some of her books: How to Find God in Everything, Change Your Life Change Your World and Radical Awakening. Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every Moment, is a powerful look at what awakening means, looks like and feels in your everyday life. She stresses that you can't think your way into awakening but that rather you feel your way into it. During this interview she talks about what that means and how to do it. Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Casper mattress 4th of July offer July 9th www.casper.com/savings up to $225 off your order  Quip electric toothbrush fraction of the cost of other electric toothbrushes www.getquip.com/wolf and get first refill packet free   In This Interview, Amoda Maa and I Discuss...Her new book, Embodied Enlightenment: Living Your Awakening In Every MomentAwakeningWaking up out of the dream of separationWaking up out of the dream of thinking that we are our thoughts and feelingsAwakening not dependant on or a precursor to one's psychological healthSurrendering the need to uphold oneselfSurrendering the psychological selfThe need for psychological safety giving rise to egoic tendenciesThe defense and attack found in righteousnessThe verticality of beingNot having an agenda of the outcome when opening ourselves to our experience and meeting it as it isHow to be free from sufferingThe strength of life's intelligenceThe ripening that happens within oneself when you've finally had enough of running away from painNo real relief from pain and no final freedom from pain when all you're doing is running away from itAm I willing to meet this exactly as it is?Trying not to tryTrue fulfillment is the emptying of the spiritual shopping basketThe paradox of trying not to tryAccumulating agendas = committing to a particular spiritual path and expecting that you'll feel worthy and good enoughLove is seeking to know itselfSilence is ever present in everything    Please Support The Show with a Donation
June 27, 2018
Johann Hari is an author and a journalist. His previous book was a New York Times Best Seller and his newest, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected Solutions, is no doubt on its way to share the same status. It proposes a more holistic, societal look at the causes and treatment of depression - more than the singular chemical imbalance explanation we traditionally consider. The core principal of getting our needs met is a thread that runs throughout this discussion and the deep dive that Johann Hari does on the subject will fascinate you and cause you to stop and think very differently than you have before on this topic that affects so many people in this world.  Please Support The Show with a Donation Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Madison Reed - affordable, salon quality at home hair color kit get color matched www.madison-reed.com 10% off plus free shipping on first kit promo code WOLF   In This Interview, Johann Hari and I Discuss...His new book, Lost Connections: Uncovering the Real Causes of Depression and the Unexpected SolutionsThe two kinds of human connectionIntrinsic (internal) and extrinsic (external) motivations"Junk" valuesThe more you're driven by extrinsic values, the more likely you'll suffer from anxiety and depression in your lifeOur society drives us to live in this extrinsic wayThe whole point of advertising is to make us feel inadequate and our problems can be solved by buyingExtrinsic motives can crowd out the more fulfilling intrinsic motivesThe 9 causes of depression and anxietyThe need to look more holistically at anxiety and depression than just a chemical imbalanceThat the book is NOT saying not to take medications that help with anxiety and depressionThe loneliest culture that has ever beenThe importance of addressing the deep environmental factors/reasons why we're so depressed and anxiousOur sense of home and sense of belongingThe problems manifested by being isolated and aloneThe benefit of being part of a "tribe"Realizing that you're not the only one who struggles and feels the way you doGrief and the diagnosis of depressionJust having a chemical imbalance means your pain doesn't have meaningDepression and not having your needs metFollowing the pain to its sourcePathologizing DepressionJohann Hari Links Lost Connections Homepage Twitter Facebook    Please Support The Show with a Donation
June 20, 2018
This week on The One You Feed we have Andrew Solomon. Andrew Solomon is a writer and lecturer on politics, culture and psychology. Solomon’s recent book, Far From the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity, published on November 13, 2012, won the National Book Critics Circle award for nonfiction among many other awards. The New York Times hailed the book, writing, “It’s a book everyone should read… there’s no one who wouldn’t be a more imaginative and understanding parent — or human being — for having done so… a wise and beautiful book.”  People described it as “a brave, beautiful book that will expand your humanity.” Solomon’s previous book, The Noonday Demon: An Atlas of Depression (Scribner, 2001), won the 2001 National Book Award for Nonfiction, was a finalist for the 2002 Pulitzer Prize, and was included in The Times of London‘s list of one hundred best books of the decade. A New York Times bestseller in both hardcover and paperback editions, The Noonday Demon has also been a bestseller in seven foreign countries, and has been published in twenty-four languages. The New York Times described it as “All-encompassing, brave, deeply humane… a book of remarkable depth, breadth and vitality… open-minded, critically informed and poetic all at the same time… fearless, and full of compassion.”  In This Interview Andrew and I Discuss…The One You Feed parable.Using work to make the world a better place.The urgent business of living a moral life.How to decide what we should change and what we should accept.How hope can become the cornerstone of misery.The challenges and joys of parenting disabled children.The perfectionism of privilege.The importance of the choice to celebrate what is versus wishing it to be different.How we can grow through difficult circumstances.The poison of comparison.The idea of the “psychological supermodel”.Layering feelings of failure onto depression and how damaging that is.Learning to celebrate our difficulties and differences.A beautiful and hopeful reading on depression.How critical humor is in dealing with depressionNew approaches to treating depression.His ongoing challenges with depression and anxiety.The shame of mental illness.If you banish the dragons, you banish the heroes.A life that is only luxury and pleasure tends to feel rather hollow and empty.How sparing our children from all adversity is a bad idea.The choices we face.How encounters with darkness give us the energy to feed our good wolf.
June 13, 2018
Susan Piver is a New York Times bestselling author of 9 books and a renowned Buddhist teacher. This is Susan's second time on the show because we love her and her work so much. Her new book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern Relationships walks us through the Four Noble Truths of Buddhism as they apply to relationships. You don't have to be a Buddhist or study Buddhism to get a lot out of this conversation and her new book. She teaches universal pieces of wisdom that, when applied, will grow and deepen and enrich your relationships to a whole new level. Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. Please Support The Show with a Donation  Quip toothbrush "brush better" on Oprah's list of good things, new brush heads every 3 months (dentist recommended) for $5 including free shipping worldwide! First replacement brush heads free www.getquip.com/wolf   LinkedIn www.linkedin.com/wolf $50 credit towards your first job post - a better way to find talent for your organization In This Interview, Susan Piver and I Discuss...Her book, The Four Noble Truths of Love: Buddhist Wisdom for Modern RelationshipsThe emotions underneath fear, hatred and greedDepression being a calcified sadnessTurning towards sadnessThe four noble truths of love: Relationships are uncomfortable, Thinking that they should be comfortable contributes to that uncomfortableness, Meeting the discomfort and instability together IS love, There's a threefold path to do all of thisFeeling your feelings without the story - what does it feel like in your body? In the environment?The difference between anger and irritation in the bodyThe enormous space that opens up when we drop the expectation that when we solve "this" problem, the relationship will stabilize and we'll be happyLook at the problem itself as a team in relationships rather than blaming one anotherThe threefold path: Precision, Openness, Going beyondThe role and importance of good manners and honesty in relationshipsGood manners = thinking of the other person and making some accommodation, some space for them in your actions and your wordsOpening to the other person as they are in a relationshipIntimacy has no end, it can always go deeper. You can always reveal more and you can always discover moreIn a relationship, commit to intimacy over loveAddiction and abuse not included in this picture of relationship!How you can't think your way into intimacy or inspiration - they come when you make the spacePassion between two people will constantly arise, abide and dissolve and though difficult, this is not a problemWishing you were in a different part of the cycle is a problem, howeverRelax with what is and a space will open upHer take on sufferingHer beautiful explanation of the concept of non-attachment/detachmentA spiritual practice frees people up to feel everything in the moment, as it isYour life IS the spiritual pathIn meditation we're not trying to get anywhere, we're trying to BE somewhereMeditating in't about focusing on something but rather, bringing the brain down from some dreamworld into reality in the moment Please Support The Show with a Donation
June 6, 2018
Michael Pollan is a writer whose books have topped the New York Times bestseller list time and time again. He teaches writing at Harvard and The University of California Berkley. In 2010, Time magazine name Michael Pollan one of the most influential people in the world. His books and essays have historically focused on our interaction with nature and this new book takes that theme to a whole other level. Its title gives you a great idea of what it's about: How to Change your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and Transcendence. No matter how many interviews you've heard of Michael Pollan talking about his new book, our interview will offer you a fresh perspective, things he has not previously discussed and things that you may not have previously considered. The very last concept discussed in Eric's conversation with Michael Pollan will for sure leave you thinking anew.  Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.  Our sponsor this week is Casper Mattress visit  www.casper.com/oneyoufeed and use the promo code theoneyoufeed for $50 off your purchase  In This Interview, Michael Pollan and I Discuss...His book, How to Change your Mind: What the New Science of Psychedelics Teaches Us About Consciousness, Dying, Addiction, Depression, and TranscendenceHow fear is a big motivator in people's action and inactionThat your obstacles are all between your earsHow consciousness is a big mysteryWhat the newest science tells us about psychedelicsThe way psychedelics affect us by allowing us to look at normal, everyday consciousness in new waysThe default mode network going quiet during a psychedelic tripThe ego, idea of self in the brain and our lifePsychedelics impact on the sense of selfThe experience of the dissolution of the egoThe mind-expanding power of mystical experienceThe theory of the entropic brainHow the brain works to reduce uncertainty and surpriseThe narrowing of consciousness by rigid thinkingThe stories our brains tell usInsufficient entropy in the brain perhaps leading to mental illnessesPsychedelics disordering the brainThe similarities between a tripping brain on psychedelics and a meditative brainAn ego-free state of consciousness through the use of psychedelicsThe mistake of seeing spirituality as the opposite of materialismThe opposite of spiritual being egotisticalThe ego keeps us from having a deep connection with everything around usHow psychedelics are "wasted on the young"That those in the 2nd half of their lives may benefit most from the use of psychedelicsThe importance of breaking the rigidity that growing older bringsHow psychedelics can help us make peace with our deathPsilocybin benefiting those facing imminent death with great fearHow psychedelics and a psychodynamic approach are not opposites"Psychedelic assisted psychotherapy"Positive trauma in the brainAdministering an experience rather than a drugThe importance of set and setting when taking a psychedelicHow a spiritual experience alone doesn't make a spiritual lifeThat ego is nothing but a contraction  Please Support The Show with a Donation
May 30, 2018
Austin Channing Brown is a writer, speaker, and practitioner who helps schools, nonprofits, and religious organizations practice genuine inclusion. She is passionate about the advancement of racial justice and reconciliation and her words will most certainly move you to action. In her work, she shares her experiences as a black woman who "navigates whiteness on a regular basis". After listening to this interview and reading her book, your mind and heart will be broadened towards understanding and inclusion - regardless of where you are on that spectrum today.   Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program. In This Interview, Austin Channing Brown and I Discuss...Her book, I'm Still Here: Black Dignity in A World Made for WhitenessThe importance and value of angerHow we can fight the monsters without becoming the monstersThat anger reveals something is wrongWhite fragility - sadness and angerNaming the things that can come in the way of a discussion, before the discussion happensRealising racial biasTransformation comes after a moment of realizationThe idea of "whiteness being normal"Books to read to gain an understanding of racial injusticeDisunity in ChristWhy Are All the Black Kids Sitting Together in the Cafeteria?: And Other Conversations About RaceHow to look for opportunities to talk with others about topics of racial injusticeCheck out "Be the Bridge"The white confessional being a shortcut to true reconciliationSkipping the confessional story and moving straight to the action step you'll take nextWhat reconciliation means to herRacial justice and reconciliationRadical ReconciliationHow reconciliation should revolutionize the relationships we have with each otherThe celebration of blackness that is throughout the bookCultural misappropriation       Please Support The Show with a Donation
May 23, 2018
This week on The One You Feed we have Frank Turner. In honor of Frank's new record we are re-releasing one of Eric's favorite interviews. This was the 22nd interview of all time for The One You Feed. We will be back with a new episode next week. Frank was a singer in a hardcore band, Million Dead. When they broke up he started out on his own with an acoustic guitar. He has released  five solo albums, two rarities compilation albums, one split album and five EPs. His seventh studio album Be More Kind was recently released In This Interview Frank and I Discuss…The One You Feed parable.The feeling that there is never enough time.The importance of friendship in feeding your good wolf.His role as a CALM Ambassador.Building a community around music.What punk rock meant to him as a kid.Staying connected to his values of openness and community as he gets more famousMusic as a refuge for those that don’t fit in.Music that he turns to to feed his good wolf.Writing the press release for John K Samson’s latest record.The challenges of alcohol and drugs.Getting older and the changes in identity that come with that.His love of dogs and his amazing “dog policy” at showsHis forthcoming record.Frank Turner Links Frank Turner Homepage Buy Frank Turner music on Amazon Frank Turner on Twitter
May 16, 2018
Please Support The Show with a Donation Adyashanti is a renowned and gifted spiritual teacher. He's written many books, hosts meditation retreats and speaks around the world to large audiences at a time. With such a wide audience, it's amazing that when you experience Adya's teaching, it's as if he's speaking directly to you - to your very heart. Whatever your experience with or preconceived notions of spiritual awakening, allow yourself to re-engage with the idea through this interview. As you turn the inquiry towards yourself this time, you may be surprised, moved and/or transformed by what you find - if you are brutally honest in the process.   Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.     In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss...Self-InquiryStarting with I am not _____Starting with all inclusiveness - I am _____Being open to being wrong about thingsExperiencing an "uncaused" sense of well beingSelf-transcendent valuesIt works best in life to ______When you have less internal conflict you treat the world in a different way than if you have more internal conflictRemoving the religious and cultural compass removes the moral north starWe reorient ourselves to comfort being the north starNothing mattering AND everything matteringThat Adya is oriented towards truth and loveActivities are neutral - it's what we bring to it that gives it meaningWhat is it about awakening that you want?What is meaningful moment to moment and day by dayAt every moment, we are giving expression to what we valueHow nothing shuts down awakening faster than judgmentThe spiritual persona of "I'm going to get out of this human game" or "I'm going to be here but not really be here"The importance of coming to grips with the human experience of imperfection......without turning it into an excuse for unwise behaviorBe aware of your human limitations and don't see them as "wrong"The problematic experience of existential unworthinessThe economic catastrophe of a collective human awakeningPlease Support The Show with a Donation
May 9, 2018
Please Support The Show with a Donation Adyashanti is a renowned and gifted spiritual teacher. He's written many books, hosts meditation retreats and speaks around the world to large audiences at a time. With such a wide audience, it's amazing that when you experience Adya's teaching, it's as if he's speaking directly to you - to your very heart. Whatever your experience with or preconceived notions of spiritual awakening, allow yourself to re-engage with the idea through this interview. As you turn the inquiry towards yourself this time, you may be surprised, moved and/or transformed by what you find - if you are brutally honest in the process.our inner life.  Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.   In This Interview, Adyashanti and I Discuss...Eric's awakening experienceThe awakened state in perpetuityThe shift in perception that happens with awakeningThe paradox of wanting something like awakening yet wanting it stands in the way of having itWill gets you to the cushion and once there, it's important to let go of itDoes one need a spiritual teacher when seeking awakening?The teacher evoking something from vs the teacher giving something to the studentHow people work with unconscious patternsHow you can't not be awakened - even if you don't feel it, it's thereEmotional conflictPaying attention to what's recurring in youAnything that's happened to us that was too big for us to remain conscious while we experienced it, gets trapped in our system - turned into some other emotion or it just gets stuffed and is now just there waiting for you. The universe is now asking, "can you experience this now?"Being fine with being sadLet everything be exactly the way it isHow dealing with life's experiences as they come transforms youA clinched fist vs an open hand metaphor"Let" vs "Let go"If you can't let it go, can you let it beFailure as part of triumphFailing your way through something consciously can cause a sort of transformationWhat it looks like to build a spiritual practiceDaily quiet meditation, Engage in some precise self-inquiry (a wonderment of "being")How spirituality is the direct investigation of YOUR experienceThe only way to get self-inquiry wrong is not to be ruthlessly honest about what's happening in your experienceThe fear of getting something wrongThink of your spiritual teacher kind of like a college professor Please Support The Show with a Donation
May 1, 2018
Please Support The Show with a Donation Mark Epstein is a psychiatrist in private practice in NYC and the author of many books about the intersection of Buddhism and psychotherapy. He's currently the clinical assistant professor in the postdoctoral program in Psychotherapy and Psychoanalysis at New York University. His most recent book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over Yourself is what he talks about in this episode. His wisdom is so incredibly practical, applicable, and helpful. Ideas like whether or not naming your feelings would be a helpful strategy for you and how to work with clinging in its many forms - even the clinging to inner peace - abound in this discussion. Take a listen and enrich your inner life.  Visit oneyoufeed.net/transform to learn more about our personal transformation program.   In This Interview, Mark Epstein and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Advice Not Given; A Guide to Getting Over YourselfThe duality that we all struggle withFreud and the Buddha's nearly identical conclusionWhat it means to take personal responsibility for our selfish concernsThe clinging to that which gives us a sense of control over lifeThe clinging to that which nurtures our egoThe eightfold path of the BuddhaThe conversation with his terminally ill father that inspired this bookRight View - being realistic about one's self and the nature of thingsHow change and death is happening all of the time, moment to momentTrying not to try as it relates to meditation"Take the backward step" in meditationFInding balance in "right effort"Exploring the feelings that we are otherwise afraid of through psychotherapyThe link between being with uncomfortable feelings and empathy to othersHow anything that's happening in the body or mind can be the object of meditationHow useful it is to name a feelingMaking a feeling "intelligible" by naming itHow useful it can be to find where feelings show up in the bodyWhen your mind is not aware of what's making you act this way (in addiction, compulsive behaviors etc) it's important to put the words on the feelingsWhether or not all emotions show up in the bodyHow clinging takes many forms - even the desire for inner peace"Don't chase her, let her find you."That our lives are made dull by our efforts to over control things Please Support The Show with a Donation
April 25, 2018
Please Support The Show with a Donation Barbara Bonner started as an art historian and then went on to spend much of her professional career in nonprofit management, fundraising and philanthropy. Most relevant to this show, Barbara is the author of two books; Inspiring Generosity and Inspiring Courage. In this episode, she talks about both, using beautiful poetry, powerful quotes, and illustrative real-life stories. If you've ever wanted to cultivate these two qualities in your life, then this episode is for you. If there's one thing Barbara does through her work, it's inspiring action towards both of these qualities in the lives of everyday people. RxBar 25% off first order www.rxbar.com/wolf promo codeWOLF Nutrafol 100% drug-free hair growth, made in an FDA approved facility, first months supply for $10 www.nutrafol.com promo code WOLF    In This Interview, Barbara Bonner and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHer books, Inspiring Generosity and Inspiring CourageThe power of putting ourselves in the way of inspirationHow we're different at the end of a book than at the beginningReframing how we look at generosityHow generosity flows from a sense of abundanceHow a sense of abundance flows from being generousThat generosity and courage are action verbsThe fact that you should feel a pinch when you act generouslyThat saying the loving-kindness meditation can be generousWhat it means to lead a courageous lifeHow no one who was courageous seems to claim courageThe spontaneity of courageHow authenticity seems to coincide with courageThat you see a pattern of courage throughout people's livesPost-traumatic growthHow a strong childhood isn't necessary in order to lead a full lifeThe role of listening in generosity and courageHow important listening is in all of lifeThe correlation between generosity and couragePracticing generosity and courage and growing the ability to act on these qualities over timeHow to live a life of meaning you have to step forward"Do something every day that doesn't compute" - Wendell Berry  Please Support The Show with a Donation
April 17, 2018
Please Support The Show with a Donation Ulrich Boser is a best selling author and senior fellow with The Center for American Progress. He has been a contributing editor for US News and World Report and his work has appeared in the NY Times, Wall Street Journal, and Huntington Post. His latest book, Learn Better: Mastering the Skills for Success in Life, Business or School - or - How to Become an Expert in Just About Anything, will equip you with actual skills to get better at what some have called the ultimate survival tool: learning how to learn. This topic is relevant to literally everyone. To be alive is to learn and grow and change (whether we're aware of it at times or not!) so it's important to sharpen our skills in order to get better at getting better. What is discussed in this episode will confirm some of what you know about how people learn, challenge some beliefs you might have about this topic and teach you a few things in the process that will make you a better student of life.   Bombas - enter offer code WOLF at checkout for 20% off your first purchase www.bombas.com/wolf In This Interview, Ulrich Boser and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Learn Better: Mastering the Skills for Success in Life, Business or School - or - How to Become an Expert in Just About AnythingLearning how to learnGetting better at getting betterThe ultimate survival toolBeing actively engaged in the learning processMaking meaning out of somethingThe hypercorrection effectGiving our brain time to make sense of the information, reflectionHow critical it is to understand relationships between thingsVarying the circumstances in which we learn/apply informationHow it's easier to remember something new if you can hang it on to something oldA systematic approach to learning somethingValue: valuing what you're learningTarget: learning small pieces of info at a timeDevelop: practice & get feedbackExtend: elaborating on something, looking at it from different anglesRelate: analogies are the essence of thought, relating something to other thingsRethink: take time to process informationMetacognition: thinking about thinkingWhat are you going to learn and how will you know that you know it?How intertwined emotion and cognition areDigestible parts: learn less at a timeAt 90 minutes of learning, adults are kind of doneActive learning strategiesHypotheticals: what would happen if...Why it's important to stay away from cramming Please Support The Show with a Donation
April 11, 2018
Please Support The Show with a Donation Tim Freke is a truly pioneering philosopher. His many books, talks, and retreats have touched the lives of hundreds of thousands of people worldwide. Tim is the author of 35 books, the newest being Soul Story: Evolution and the purpose of life. As you listen to this interview, your ah-ha moments will grow in scope and scale throughout the conversation. He is a radical thinker and one of the great minds of our time. His big view of where we've been, where we are and where we're going will hit you as perhaps surprising, remarkably realistic and fundamentally inspiring. Listen and see for yourself.   Molekule for $75 off your first order, visit www.molekule.com enter promo code WOLF In This Interview, Tim Freke and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Soul Story: Evolution and the Purpose of LifeThe deeper level of evolution going on inside of ourselvesThe evolution of the psychePerhaps it's all one evolutionary journey: physical evolution, biological evolution and then an evolution of the psyche or soulWhat if rather than the concept of God creating the universe, we've evolved such that we've created a godMaybe God is where we're going towardsIn life - the deepest things happen at the endAn arriving of conscious onenessThe point of view that life in the world is getting better over timeCreativity is the heart of the universeThe great religions of the world were created at a time when people still thought the world is flat. We've moved on and so can our recognition of spiritualityThe ark of time pointing towards a better world nowRather than the passing of time, perhaps it's the accumulation of the past meeting the possible.The past meeting the possibleThe weight of the past that can limit us and pull us backParalogical thinking: both AND (not either or)Transcend and IncludeHow he teaches others to have the experience of "deep awake"Allowing vs. Pushing AwayBeing pulled towards the better while living in the presentBeing a spiritual being in an animal, human bodyCause and Effect, Meaning and Magic - all of the levels are interacting all of the timeThe power of realistic thinking that's inspirationalDeep Awake: being spiritually awake, you experience the oneness of life and that feels like loveWaking up doesn't mean we ditch our individualityThe form of consciousness that comes through our senses which are rooted in the bodyThe form of consciousness that is in the psyche and imaginationThe form of consciousness that questions itself and realizes that our essential nature has no form    Please Support The Show with a Donation
April 4, 2018
Please Support The Show with a Donation Cheri Huber is the author of 20 books and has been a student of zen for 35 years. She founded the Mountain View Zen Center and the Zen Monastery Peace Center, both in California, where she and other monks teach workshops and hold retreats. She is also a truth telling, light hearted delight to listen to. In this interview, she talks all about what is going on in our mind and how we can better work with it to produce a better experience in life. Her wisdom is so practical and so powerful. See for yourself in this transformative episode. Visit Bombas www.bombas.com/wolf and enter offer WOLF at checkout for 20% off the most comfortable socks in the world In This Interview, Cheri Huber and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHer book, I Don't Want To, I Don't Feel Like It: How resistance controls your life and what to do about itHow the process IS the outcomeThat now is the only moment there isHow the quality of your life is determined by the focus of your attentionEverything comes into being, togetherShe doesn't believe that there's anything that ISN'T GodOur dualistic thinkingAll of the ways to refer to the egoThe unique ability that humans have to experience themselves as other than lifeThe ego is a survival systemBelieving we are not connected to lifeEverything is a verb! A gerundThe illusion of being separate from lifeMy ego is the no to life's yesAlways asking what's lacking, what's missing, what's wrong keeps the ego as the center of the universeHow we are deeply conditioned for negativityAwareness being able to watch the conditioned mindI hear it in my head, it sounds like me, it must be me, it's who I amApproach the stuff that's going on inside our heads by imagining that it's somebody next to you saying itRecording and ListeningMake recordings of what's true, what I appreciate, what I loveHearing what's true for you in your own voiceTalking ourselves into a life that's trueHow we direct our attention is the be all and end all in lifeWe have these tendencies to see what's negative so we need to bring ourselves to what is true that isn't negativeWe transcend the conditioned mind, we don't resist itThe key is to turn your attention away from the negative voices not to change what they are sayingThe habit of going with the conversation in your head is so powerfulIf we can wake up out of it, we can decide to go somewhere else in our attentionHear Cheri Huber talk about her book,  I Don't Want To, I Don't Feel Like It: How resistance controls your life and what to do about itCheri Huber teaches that the process IS the outcomeCheri Huber explains what she means by this: your ego is the "no" to life's "yes"Do you believe that we are deeply conditioned for negativity or hardwired for negativity?Here's a tip: Approach the stuff that's going on inside our heads by imagining that it's somebody next to you saying itThe quality of your life is determined by the focus of your attention Please Support The Show with a Donation
March 27, 2018
Please Support The Show with a Donation Rick Hanson, PhD is a Neuropsychologist, teacher and author of many books. He is the founder of the Wellspring Center for Neuroscience and Contemplative Wisdom and an affiliate of the Greater Good Science Center at UC Berkley. This is the 2nd time Dr. Hanson has been a guest on the show and we invited him back because of how great his work really is. In this episode, he talks all about the fact that who we become is a result of what we grow inside of ourselves. Using the analogy of tending a garden, he teaches us very practical ways to grow and enrich ourselves through the experiences in our lives. Get a pen and paper - you'll probably want to take notes on this one! Visit Bombas www.bombas.com/wolf and enter offer WOLF at checkout for 20% off the most comfortable socks in the world In This Interview, Rick Hanson and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Resilient: How to grow an unshakable core of calm, strength, and happinessWho we become is a result of what we grow inside ourselvesHow you manage your challenges, protect your vulnerabilities, Increase your resources: out in the world, in the body, and in the mindGrowing resources in our mind is a good focusConverting an experience into lasting changeSlowing down content delivery so that the nervous system in our brains has a chance to receive it and rewire accordingly5 ways to enrich a beneficial experience:Extend the experience (make it longer)Intensify the experience (really lean into it)Embody the experience (how does it feel in your body and your mind)Freshen the experience (see what's novel about it? Bring a beginners mind)Value the experience (see the relevance to you)Asking what is the challenge? What resource would be the most beneficial?The mind is like a garden - to grow things, focus on:Mindful witnessingMindful releasing of what's negativeMindful receiving (replace what we release or simply receive what would be beneficial)Fighting what's negative only makes it workGrowing a fundamental core of resilient wellbeingSafety, Satisfaction, and Connection are basic needs we haveHow it takes time to tend a gardenHow adversity isn't the only way to grow in lifeWe have to experience what we want to grow insideWe have to turn that experience into some kind of lasting change in the brain      Please Support The Show with a Donation
March 24, 2018
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March 20, 2018
Check out our new Stress Reducer Course Jeff Warren is a former journalist and more recently is a researcher, writer, and teacher of meditation and personal growth practices. His most recent book, written with Dan Harris, is called, Meditation for Fidgitty Skeptics: A 10% Happier How to Book. Jeff is a likable, relatable guy who carries a lot of practical wisdom in his conversational style of communicating. If you've ever felt like you're not good at meditating or that meditation just isn't for you because your brain never turns off, this interview is for you because that's how Jeff would describe himself, particularly at the beginning of his practice years ago. We all know that meditation is good for us but for many, it just feels inaccessible and out of reach. If that is how you feel, what Jeff has to share in this interview will make that gap shrink in size so much so that you can hop right over it and try again. Audible www.audible.com/oneyoufeed 500-500 text oneyoufeed RxBar www.rxbar.com/wolf Promo code WOLF 25% off your first order=  Casper www.casper.com/oneyoufeed use promo code ONEYOUFEED for $50 off select mattresses In This Interview, Jeff Warren and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book with Dan Harris, Meditation for Fidgitty Skeptics: A 10% Happier How to BookThe role of meditation in living with depressionThe voice in our headsNot identifying with the voices in our headsComing out of the conversation in our headsThe idea of "I can't meditate"Thinking we're supposed to stop thinking when we meditateChanging the relationship with your thoughtsFocusing on an anchor, getting lost in thought, realizing you're lost in thought and coming back to your anchor = mediationHow quick we are to conclude that meditation isn't for usThat meditation is a practiceCelebrating the coming back from thought in meditationTraining affability during meditationFinding enjoyment and curiosity during meditation Asking "What's the attitude in my mind right now?" during meditationThat attitude is what you're training during meditationLooking at the world with interestEquanimity = a lack of pushing and pulling on experienceOpening to experience so that there's no frictionWhen everything has permission to express its self fully Check out our new Stress Reducer Course
March 19, 2018
Sometimes the workplace can get crazy and messy, that's where the podcast Safe For Work comes in. Join the former head of marketing for Nike, NatGeo, and the Oprah Winfrey Network, Liz Dolan and recovering lawyer turned comedian and executive recruiter, Matt Ritter as they take your calls about the workplace and help you get through Monday to Friday with a little less stress, more confidence and a little more fun. Subscribe to Safe For Work on Apple Podcast, wherever you listen to podcasts or click wondery.fm/safeforwork
March 14, 2018
Please Support The Show with a Donation Robert Wright is an author and a scholar. His most recent book, Why Buddhism is True, is an analytical look comparing the ancient concepts of Buddhism and the more recent findings of modern science. The title of his book may be a bit provocative, but we challenge you to hear him out before assuming what he writes about in his book on the topic. We think you'll find this interview thought provoking and interesting as well as instructive and helpful. Whatever your reaction to the episode, we'd love to hear about it.   $30 off your first week of Hello Fresh www.hellofresh.com Enter Promo Code Feed30  UltraMax 3 Ultra Pure Omega 3s www.tryomax.com/wolf box of Omax 3 UltraPure for free In This Interview, Robert Wright and I Discuss...The Wolf ParableHis book, Why Buddhism is TrueEvolutionary PsychologyThat according to Evolutionary Psychology we're wired to do what's best to propagate our genes into the next generationAnd how sometimes doing that might not be what's best for ourselves or the worldThat we're wired for a recurring dissatisfaction or discontented so we'd keep doing the things that would move us toward our goal of passing our genes on to the next generationCraving and AversionNot following craving and aversion as guides are central to BuddhismAccording to Buddhism if we don't run from unpleasant feelings like sadness, anxiety etc, they will actually become less painful over timeThat the Buddha intuited a lot of things that we now know to be true according to modern science and evolutionary psychologyHow our thoughts can sometimes subtlely influence us - ex Cognitive BiasCognitive Bias being driven by emotion rather than being rational & Buddhism teaches thatThe Buddhist conception of the mind/brain and modern psychology's conception of the mind/brain are very alignedIn the cognitive battle for attention, the thought that "wins" is the one that has the most feeling attached to itHow meditation can help give you clarity on thoughts and feelings and the difference between the twoCBT & questioning your thoughts and feelings in BuddhismMindfulness-Based Cognitive Behavioral TherapyAllowing and observing rather than acting on our strong feelingsThe anguish we add to physical pain by the anticipation of it or the lamenting of itEssences that we impute into thingsThe idea of not self and what it meansThe benefit of parceling out the things that we identify - like anxious feelings - as not being ourselvesThinking you're not cut out for meditation Please Support The Show with a Donation
March 10, 2018
We all want answers, but often they aren't forthcoming. Learning to live within and with the questions is a art to learn. If you like these mini episodes Patrons get a bonus episode every month. Details here
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