October 14, 2019
Racial tensions in America are as high within the church as outside of it. My guest Latasha (aka Tasha) Morrison believes Jesus followers must become the leaders in the conversation. That we must, “build a bridge” to bring justice, healing and transformation. It starts with awareness and then acknowledging the pain and brokenness. We didn't create it, but it is all of our responsibility to be a part of the solution. And no one gets an ‘out’ here. Tasha founded the organization Be the Bridge in 2016 'to encourage racial reconciliation among all ethnicities, to promote racial unity in America, and to equip others to do the same.' Now she’s written a book of the same name that comes out this week. We talk in depth about racial healing, biblical justice and the diversity of God’s kingdom. It’s not an easy conversation, but it’s a necessary one. I pray you will listen with an open mind and heart for all God wants to do to bring unity to the body of Christ.  Every culture is an expression of who God is and not one ethnicity can represent the totality of who God is. We serve a diverse God. If you’re thinking that God looks just like you and talks just like you, remember, Jesus didn't speak English. Sometimes we need a reality check on that. Just because something is different doesn't make it wrong. What we chat about: * How Tasha became an advocate for racial reconciliation* The inherent racial lines and segregation of cities that persist from Jim Crow laws* We serve a diverse God and no one race or expression on humanity is the “right” way to be* How lamenting and crying out to God about injustice can cause God to move * Social justice vs biblical justice* Defining privilege from a historical perspective and why we can’t ask others to ignore past injustice and just “move on”* The history of racism in America pre-dates independence. The first slaves arrived 400 years ago* Be aware of the many facets of history and who is writing the history books* Don’t insulate your kids from people who are different from them* Tasha invites us to: listen, learn, lament and leverage.   Connect with Tasha: * Website:* Facebook: * Instagram: @latashamorrison and @beabridgebuilder Links mentioned: * Be the Bridge organization [WEBSITE]* The 1619 Project [WEBSITE]* Be the Bridge by Latasha Morrison [BOOK]* EP 216: Help Your Children Embrace Differences [PODCAST]* ColorFull by Dorena Williamson [BOOK]* Book List from Tasha's Website* Kid President Returns -- Part Two in Selma, AL Featured Sponsor: Phonics Museum When your child enters the Phonics Museum, a learning adventure full of games, stories, and art awaits! With a clever mix of lessons, activities, games, and sing-along songs, young learners won’t get bored at Phonics Museum.
October 7, 2019
As parents, we are keenly aware of the peaks and valleys of our kids’ emotions. Anger, sadness, excitement, and all the other feelings can make us feel like our child is on a roller coaster we’re just trying to slow down. It’s true that we all feel highs and lows throughout our day, but we rarely talk about what it feel like when we’re “in the zone” and feeling calm and ready to go. My guest today is sharing about the window of tolerance and how to regulate ourselves and our kids to help stay in that window.  If I am dysregulated, I cannot regulate my child. So if I'm in fight or flight and I'm yelling. There's no amount of yelling that brings my child back into the window. And sometimes parents think the yelling is working, but what you're doing isn’t getting your child in the window. They're going into collapse and into a place of fear. Charissa Fry is a Licensed Professional Counselor and believer. Her passion is to come alongside those who are hurting and struggling to help them find truth, hope, healing, connection, and growth. She shares some eye-opening information and statistics to get us on the path to helping our kids build resilience and stay in that window of tolerance.  Charissa shares from a faith-perspective that we as believers are not alone. She reminds us that we can lean on God to regulate our emotions as we love on our kids and go through the hardships of life.  God himself through Jesus is the ultimate attachment figure. He is always reaching for us. He never fails to respond to our needs. He always loves us. He's never judging us and never shaming us. So to know that when we need to be co-regulated, that when I am feeling like I'm going to leave the window, I can remember the truth of who God is and I can reach out to him in prayer. What we chat about: * The window of tolerance is when our brains function well and effectively process input to make rational decisions calmly without feeling either overwhelmed or withdrawn* When we’re out of the window of tolerance, our thinking brain is not in control and we don’t register consequences * Many of us don’t live in the window of tolerance, but we’re too busy and stressed to stop and assess how we’re feeling at any given moment* Hyper-arousal, otherwise known as the fight/flight response, is often characterized by hypervigilance, feelings of anxiety and/or panic, and racing thoughts.* Hypo-arousal, or a freeze response, may cause feelings of emotional numbness, emptiness, or paralysis.* Learning how to stay in your window of tolerance builds resilience, both for us and our kids* When our kids live outside the window, they become “masters of survival” and often turn to negative coping strategies* What our children's emotions look like when we are co-regulating * Philippians 2:13 “For it is God who works in you to will and to act in order to fulfill his good purpose.” * We can lean on God to bring us to that window of tolerance and into the fruits of the spirit Connect with Charissa: * Website:* Facebook: Links Mentioned:   * Window of Tolerance Infographic -- FREE resource [WEBSITE] * Regulation Pack -- FREE resource [WEBSITE]* Rosie’s Brain [BOOK] Featured Sponsor:
September 30, 2019
It’s a popular (and sometimes controversial) typology system that can help you understand yourself and others better, but how can we use the Enneagram in light of the gospel to help our marriages thrive? Beth McCord of Your Enneagram Coach is here to walk us how to look at our marriages and close relationships through the lens of the Enneagram and the Gospel.  With the Enneagram, you can see that we all struggle. We all need Jesus. It's just we need it in different ways. And he makes us more like him in different ways as well. It's called the body of Christ and we reflect Christ differently. We all need to bring our uniqueness to glorify him and bless each other. We talk about how using the Enneagram can improve communication and compassion in our marriages and what to do if your spouse has no interest in learning his type. (hint: the answer isn’t to bug him about it)  Beth shares that no one pairing out of the 45 possible Enneagram matches in marriage is better than any other, but it’s our surrender to Christ that makes all the difference.  I can guarantee you there is not a combination that is better or worse. Any two types that are surrendering and depending on the grace of God through Christ’s work on the cross on our behalf will be a blessing to one another. What we chat about: * The origins of the Enneagram as a personality tool and why it matters how we use it* Learning where we need to depend on Christ more as you understand more about your Enneagram type* Using the Enneagram to help relate better in your marriage* What to do when your spouse is resistant to learning about the Enneagram * Learning about all nine types can help you have more compassion for your close relationships* Embracing the unique ways Christ made each person can help put an end to comparison* The resources Beth has for using the Enneagram within marriage Connect with Beth: * Website:* Facebook: * Instagram:  @yourenneagramcoach  Links Mentioned: * Becoming Us: Using the Enneagram to Create a Thriving Gospel-Centered Marriage [BOOK]*** Ep. 232: The Enneagram and Motherhood :: Suzanne Stabile [PODCAST]* Enneagram Type Summaries from Your Enneagram Coach [WEBSITE]* FREE Marriage Assessment from Beth [WEBSITE]* Becoming Us Marriage Course [WEBSITE] Featured Sponsor: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. NOW offering KETO MEAL PLANS! Imagine…all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss!
September 23, 2019
When a child processes sensory information just a little differently than his or her peers it can mean BIG emotions, meltdowns and a huge struggle for us as parents. Often these kids are labeled as “sensitive” or “intense” and they might cause us to avoid playdates and public places because we’re never sure what seemingly small issue will cause the next explosion.  Lynne Jackson of Connected Families joins me to uncover the mysteries behind our kids with sensory struggles and how we can help them thrive. We talk about Sensory Processing Disorder and the wide range of sensory processing symptoms.   As a mom who had two kids with sensory processing needs and as a licensed occupational therapist, Lynne encourages us to become a student of our kids and try to understand their point of view. Imagine if the volume on all your sounds and the sensations in your body was turned up and you were to trying to fall asleep, that would be really hard. Car rides and meals are often torturous. So then what are the kids doing? They're trying to cope. They're jumping down. They're complaining about the food and squirming in their seats. They're trying to do something so they feel in control. We talk about what to do if you suspect a sensory processing problem in one of your kids and where to seek help. I share my story of working through this with one of my boys and why I wish we’d gone to see a therapist sooner.  What we chat about: * Sensory processing disorders and what they look like in younger kids* 20% of kids have nervous systems that process information differently than their peers* The differences between over-sensitive and under-sensitive sensory processing * Some indicators that your child may struggle with sensory processing* Learning what helps calm down the sensory overwhelm and staying connected with them to help them regulate during stressful situations* How to learn more about sensory processing and when to seek professional help Connect with Lynne:  * Website:* Podcast: Connected Families Podcast* Facebook:* Instagram:  @connectedfams Links Mentioned:   * Solve that After-School Crabbiness [BLOG]* Viewing your child through a different lens [BLOG]* Equipping Kids to Calm [BLOG]* Sensory Processing Questionnaire [Child] [PDF]* Sensory Processing Questionnaire [Ages 12 –18] [PDF]* Sensational Kids by Lucy Jane Miller [BOOK]*** Out-of-Sync Child by Carol Stock Kranowitz [BOOK]*** STAR Institute for Sensory Processing Disorder [WEBSITE]* Similar pyramid to the one I reference in the show:
September 16, 2019
Author, blogger and podcast host Sarah Mae joins me to share her story of working through the generational bondage of alcoholism and the verbal and emotional abuse she suffered from her mother. I remember yelling out, 'I'm going to kill myself,' and her saying, 'Go ahead, I dare you.' And that was it for me. I just bawled because I felt so unloved and so confused. In her new book The Complicated Heart, Sarah takes us into her painful past and all she experienced with her mom. She also shares the hope and victory of how God wooed her heart and changed the direction of her family forever.  Dysfunction does not have to be your legacy. It does not have to be your identity. And you do not have to pass it on to your kids. It doesn't matter if you were born into it, married into it or you created it yourself. There is always victory on the table. We just have to be willing to pick it up. Throughout our chat, Sarah is candid and encouraging. She shares openly about the abortion she had at 16 and the healing she’s experienced from bravely speaking out against the shame of past sin and accepting God’s grace as all-sufficient.  What we chat about: * How Sarah learned to love and forgive her alcoholic mother* Practical advice for daughters who are hurting from parental woundings and hope for parents who have failed* The verbal and mental abuse that Sarah endured as a teenager* Honoring Sarah’s mom’s story by including her journal entries in the book* Sarah’s path to healing and the many ways God wooed her heart * The story behind Sarah’s abortion at 16-years-old* Creating a new legacy for your family by bravely working through the places of sin and shame in your life* Wounds from your parents are valid things to grieve Connect with Sarah Mae:  * Website:* Podcast: The Complicated Heart Podcast* Facebook:* Instagram: @sarahmaewrites Links Mentioned:   * The Complicated Heart: Loving Even When It Hurts [BOOK]* EP 93: I Am Restored :: Stacy Reaves [PODCAST]* Forgiven and Set Free: A Post-Abortion Bible Study for Women [BOOK] Featured Sponsor: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef and dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. NOW offering KETO MEAL PLANS! Imagine…all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 1 MONTH of meal plans for $4! Go to
September 9, 2019
Access to the internet is everywhere in our modern world. And that means access to pornography and sexual imagery is everywhere too. Rather than bury our heads in the sand or cross our fingers that our kids won’t see porn, we can choose to be proactive and to give them a plan for how to react. Kristen Jenson, the best-selling author of "Good Pictures, Bad Pictures", joins me to share some simple ways to talk with our kids about porn and protect their minds.  Pornography makes a child more vulnerable to sexual abuse. So if you porn-proof your child by starting these conversations early, you are actually helping your child to be more protected from child sexual abuse. When you start these discussions it's not as hard as you think. And once you do, you've begun this journey with your child to trust you for answers. You tell them, ‘Don't go on Google to ask these questions. Come and talk to me.’ This may feel like a super heavy topic, but I promise it’s worth taking the proactive approach now vs waiting till you have teenagers. Kristen shares a lot of resources and makes it easy to get started.  What we chat about: * What led her to write Good Pictures Bad Pictures**, a book that helps porn-proof young kids, and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.*** How pornography is a public health crisis and the negative effects it has on children and adults* Taking the proactive parenting approach helps kids be more resilient when they see porn* When a child has any exposure or access to the internet you need to warn them about the dangers of the internet in simple, age-appropriate ways* These conversations are the same as talking to your kids about why we don’t eat or drink poisonous chemicals-- it’s all about safety. * Helping kids learn about their “thinking brain” and their “feeling brain” and how to use them appropriately* Teaching your kids a simple plan for how to respond when they see porn* CAN DO: Close your eyes, Always tell a trusted adult, Name it when you see it, Distract yourself, Order my thinking brain to be the boss. Connect with Kristen: * Website:* Facebook: * Instagram: @protectyoungminds  Links Mentioned:   * Episodes with Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson from Birds and Bees [PODCAST]* Birds and Bees Curriculum [RESOURCE]* Good Pictures Bad Pictures: Porn-Proofing Today's Young Kids [BOOK]* Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr.: A Simple Plan to Protect Young Minds [BOOK]* Resources and a Quick-Start Guide for Proactive Parents [WEBSITE] Featured Sponsor: Pr...
September 2, 2019
My guest today is Ruth Chou Simons. She’s a mom of six boys and an author and entrepreneur. You may know her best from the beautiful watercolor prints and products she creates for her business on In her newest book, Beholding and Becoming: The Art of Everyday Worship**, Ruth shares about how every day is an opportunity to be shaped and formed by what moves our hearts and captures our gaze.  We dive into what that looks like in Ruth’s life and how choosing to focus on Christ changes everything from our perspective on our parenting and work to how we look at others.  The most unhappy I get is if I get preoccupied with somebody else's story. And I don't give thanks and I don't jot down reminders of how he's provided for the ultimate story of redemption in my life. And also how he's working that out day by day and writing my story anew. We talk about how our fast-paced, hustle culture steals the joy and the beauty away from the everyday faithfulness of growing in God. My favorite reminder she shared is, “You don’t have to be blooming to be growing.” So true. How often do we start something and expect instant gratification and quick wins? We want easy-to-share glossy images of success. But God looks at our hearts. At the slow growing happening under the surface. We are all in process with God until we see him in heaven.  Let’s celebrate the small wins and focus on turning our eyes toward God and away from the distractions and hollow gratification of social media. As Ruth reminds us, we become what we behold. Those small, unseen decisions really add up to who we are.  Because at the end of the day, every action we have is really stemming out of our belief in our worship. And so how you think, and how you believe, and what you believe is the most beautiful and worthy of gazing at in your life will actually translate into what you do next. What your little moments every day are accumulating to be for a lifetime. What we chat about: * Focusing on the beauty of what God has created vs comparing our lives to someone else’s on social media* At the root of dissatisfaction in our lives is an underlying struggle with identity. Is our identity found in Christ or is it found in everything going our way?* Growing our appetite for the things of God by choosing to fill our time with his Word.* The struggles women have with wanting to do something perfectly or not at all * Celebrating the process of growing vs seeing immediate fruit in our lives* What you believe is the most beautiful and worthy of gazing at in your life will actually translate into what you do next* The goal isn’t just to experience God’s provision, but to trust that his presence in our lives is enough* “Nearness to God brings likeness to God. The more you see God, the more of God will be seen in you.” - C.H Spurgeon Connect with Ruth:  * Website:* Facebook:* Instagram: @ruthchousimons and @gracelaced Links Mentioned:   * GCM Ep 23: Beauty creator. Unity builder. Mom. –Ruth Simons [PODCAST]* Beholding and Becoming: The Art of Everyday Worship** [BOOK] Releases September 10*
August 30, 2019
For a variety of reasons, childhood anxiety rates are soaring, especially among girls. My guest Sissy Goff is here to share some of her insights on how to recognize worry and anxiety in your daughter and empower her to overcome. We talk about tools we can use to help us understand why our brains are often working against us in times of anxiety and grounding techniques to slow and stop the emotional spiral that often ensues. We always want her to know she's stronger than her worries and that she has a voice to talk back to the worry. A lot of people who work with kids call it the worry monster because that separates it out from her voice. We don't want her to think it's the truth, which is what kids are going to think when they have voices in their heads telling them things. This is a short, hope-filled bonus episode that just scratches the surface on all that we can learn about equipping our kids to work through anxiety. For more encouragement, follow Sissy and her team at and watch for her book Raising Worry-Free Girls coming out September 17.  What we chat about: * 1 in 4 kids are dealing with anxiety of some kind and girls are twice as likely to feel it* Anxiety is hard to recognize in kids. Sometimes it comes out as anger or meltdowns and other times it’s deeply buried* People whose personalities lean toward Type A tend to have baseline anxiety at all times. If your child’s personality leans that direction, it’s important to give them tools to deal with it* Anxiety is always an overestimation of the problem and an underestimation of ourselves* Techniques to help a child with anxiety calm down and redirect blood flow to their prefrontal cortex* Integrating our faith as we teach our kids to fight back against fear and worry Connect with Sissy:  * Website:* Podcast: * Facebook: * Instagram: @raisingboysandgirls Links Mentioned:   * Raising Worry-Free Girls [BOOK] Releases September 17, 2019* [Ep 160] Emotional Milestones:: Sissy Goff and David Thomas [PODCAST]* [Ep 141] Raising Girls:: Sissy Goff [PODCAST] Featured Sponsor: Treasured Study The “tween” years are a critical transition period in the life of a young girl. Girls this age are changing in profound ways, which makes it a little more complicated to know how to connect with them. My friend Courtney DeFeo felt this tension as a mom of tween girls and has created an incredible resource designed for moms and daughters to help them have meaningful conversations during these critical years.    Loaded with fun activities and engaging content, the Treasured Study and the Treasured Journal will help moms and daughters talk about things they both care about. Things like: Identity, body, emotions, friendships, technology, and faith. You can get the Treasured journal and go through it a...
August 26, 2019
Fellow boy moms, this episode is for you! This chat with Monica Swanson another mom of four boys and author of the new book Boy Mom dives into a lot of your questions about how to raise your boys to be godly men. We talk about encouraging strong friendships between brothers, teaching boys to be strong AND gentle, and about the importance of giving our sons ways to experience excitement and adventure while getting some of their natural aggression out in safe physical activities. I am a big believer that boys were made for adventure that they need to have some excitement in their lives I think is just how God wired them. They're little warriors who need to experience some thrills. A lot of the trouble boys can get into is related to when they're lacking authentic adventure, when they're not facing challenges and overcoming obstacles. Monica has two boys out of high school and two still in the nest, so she offers a lot of hope for those of us in the trenches of parenting to keep pressing into relationship with our sons and to make the practicals of faith an anchor in all that we do.  God is so big and so powerful and he can move mountains on behalf of your son. He wants your son's heart more than you even know. We get our boys plugged in everywhere we can. We want them to have so many positive spiritual models in their life that there's no denying that God is the best way to go. It about coming alongside them and saying, ‘This is for your best. God is for you. Let's walk this life with him.’ What we chat about: * Monica’s four boys and working with very different personalities * Building healthy brother relationships and dealing with kids who hit* Boys need to let out their energy with exercise and physical activity* Setting healthy boundaries for your kids with manners and learning to laugh with them about it too* Teaching boys how to balance strength and kindness by pointing them to the stories of godly men* The power of shoulder to shoulder conversations with boys and why to keep pressing into conversation with them* Motivating boys to get excited about school and finding hobbies and interests* Ideas for how to foster adventure for your boys and learning not to parent from a place of fear* Fostering faith in your sons through time in the Word, prayer and modeling Connect with Monica:  * Website:* Podcast:* Facebook:* Instagram: @monicaswanson_* Twitter: @thegrommom Links Mentioned:   * Boy Mom: What Your Son Needs Most from You ** [BOOK]* What Your Kids, Marriage and Ministry Need :: Monica Swanson [Ep 82] PODCAST* Strong: How God Equipped 11 Ordinary Men with Extraordinary Power **[BOOK]* Knights in Training: Ten Principles for Raising Honorable, Courageous, and Compassionate Boy **[BOOK]* 20 Ways to Make Your Son Feel Loved [PRINTABLE] ** As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. Featured Sponsor: Technology and Teens Summit
August 19, 2019
Small is the new huge. With the ability to connect with anyone, anywhere in the world, feels like we’re more isolated and ineffective than ever. But what if we worried less about making a big impact. And focused more on doing the things in front of us with quality and depth? I’m a big fan of today’s guest, Shontell Brewer. She’s a wise mom to five kiddos (some she's launched out into the world). And she has an excellent sense of humor. More than that, she has discipled her children to love and serve others around them. Discipleship can be organic. Keeping your ministry small enough. To be present wherever God has placed you. In this episode, which originally aired in October of 2016 (Ep 140), Shontell and I talk about discipleship during dinner conversations. She shares her method of asking really specific questions. And giving her kiddos a challenge for the day to love others in tangible ways (e.g., encouraging a 4 year old to compliment his preschool teacher). My most favorite thing we talk about is Taco Tuesday. The last Tuesday of the month, the Brewer family serves up meat & tortillas. They invite coaches, teachers, friends, neighbors (any one who interacts regularly with their kids) into their home.  We love on our community one taco at a time. I shared the idea with my boys and they wanted to do it the next night (“Taco Tuesday, but on a Monday”). I’ll let you know how that goes. We may go the Pizza Friday route (love our community one slice at a time). Shontell also inspired me to help open my boys’ spiritual eyes. And to encourage them to fight over who is going to put the other one first. What we chat about: * How women apologize for their carpet* Keeping your ministry small* Specific questions to ask during dinner time conversations* How Shontell helped her daughter minister to her Starbucks’ manager* Sending your kids to school with a basic challenge to bless someone* Setting the habit of conversation and other family “norms”* Learning to not be offended when our kids aren’t performing* Parenting small with intimate corrective conversations* The BEST idea to invite people into your home monthly–> Taco Tuesdays! Connect with Shontell: * Website* Facebook* Twitter* Instagram Featured Sponsor: Cultivate What Matters Ever felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children’s heart but you don’t know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust. You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. This month they launched a new journal: Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too! The Cultivate team is offering Don’t Mom Alone listeners an exclusive disc...
August 12, 2019
Being a mom reveals your most broken places. I often think motherhood would be easy if my boys behaved better. Or maybe if I read one more parenting book. Or if I finally caught the magical contentment unicorn just beyond my grasp. Of course, none of those options really pan out (especially the unicorn). It’s my own junk. Every day the yuck in my heart rises to the surface. But with the pace of life and needs of my people, it’s hard to stop and examine the “yuck” more closely. A few years ago our small group attended a recovery program at our church. Through some honest self-examination and community, God showed me where I’ve held wrong beliefs. And how they impacted my relationships. Today’s podcast guest, Lynn Hoffman, helped start our church’s recovery program 15 years ago. And God also led her to write “Steps into God’s Grace”, a bible study based on the 12 steps of recovery. In this episode, Lynn shares her own struggle with performance, people pleasing and codependency. She gives insight into why recovery isn’t just for addicts. And she encourages us to identify our own emotions so we can teach our children to do the same. Recovery became a safe place where I could go and be with other people who were willing to be honest. Stop pretending and start talking about the reality of the problems in their life. And lean on God to change and discover new realities in their life. Connect with Lynn: * Website: What we chat about: * Lynn’s divorce/remarriage and struggle with wanting to do everything right.* How she got her significance from her work and struggled to lean on God.* The discovery of recovery and God’s call for her to write a 12-step based Bible study.* Learning the lies Lynn believed and how they controlled how she behaved.* The lies that go along with “working hard”.* Why should anyone consider going through a 12-step recovery program.* The spiritual/Biblical roots of recovery.* The value of identifying your emotions in the moment.* The difference between shame and guilt* When we feel like a “mom failure” and how our worth is tied to our kids’ behavior and performance.* Getting in touch with our own emotions to help our kids with their own emotions. Links Mentioned: * “Steps into God’s Grace” by Lynn Hoffman *** Jim & Lynne Jackson “You are Safe. You are Loved” (Ep 80)* Feelings chart: * Celebrate Recovery* Recovery for Life at Northwest Bible* **As an Amazon Associate I earn from qualifying purchases. Featured Sponsor: Cultivate What Matters Ever felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children’s heart but you don’t know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust. You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters.
August 5, 2019
Ever want to hear from the woman behind literal rock star kids? In this episode, Helen Smallbone, mother of 7 grown children including Christian music stars Joel and Luke Smallbone (For King and Country) and Rebecca St. James, shares stories of motherhood and practical advice she’s learned along the way. She and her husband moved their family from Australia to America more than 25 years ago. It was a faith-building journey that changed their family forever.   Sometimes when you face life crises what God’s doing is setting a new foundation. In this time, he took everything away from us. We had no money, no resources, no family and no friends.  But in that refining process, he gave everything back to us, but with a new foundation where he was the provider. He showed himself to be faithful for providing all our needs. This episode originally aired in May of 2017 as episode 166. What we talk about: * Stories of living by faith and God providing for the Smallbone family when they moved from Australia to America* Homeschooling a large family and fostering responsibility and work skills in your kids* Teaching family values while dealing with bad attitudes and behaviors in your kids* Taking a “time out” as a mom to pray for your children and waiting on the Lord for breakthrough for specific ways to resolve behavior problems* Focusing on the eternal value of building relationships with our kids versus the temporary focus on everyday tasks* Spending time with children who may be acting out because they need more attention* How quantity time often becomes quality time with our families* Taking a traditional nap time or quiet time after lunch with fill yourself up to finish the day strong as a mom* Keeping the communication line open with your children no matter their age. Featured Sponsor: Cultivate What Matters Ever felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children’s heart but you don’t know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust. You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. This month they launched a new journal: Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too! The Cultivate team is offering Don’t Mom Alone listeners an exclusive discount. Head to to order your Write the Word for Kids journal today and receive 10% off with the code DONTMOMALONE. Don't Mom Alone LIVE EVENT 2019
July 29, 2019
As a licensed marriage and family therapist and life coach, Kim Fredrickson counseled and taught others about self-compassion for years. When she received an unexpected terminal diagnosis of pulmonary fibrosis, a rare side-effect of the treatment she had received for breast cancer, she wrote a book to leave for her children on giving that same compassion to the grandchildren she will never meet. On June 3rd, 2019, Kim passed on to be in the presence of her Savior. We want to honor her legacy by re-releasing this fantastic mentoring which originally aired in January of 2018. When people feel ashamed, they blame other people because they feel like if I really look at my shame then I’m going to collapse inside. That’s why self-compassion is desperately important because kids feel shame a lot. They fail at everything at the start. What we chat about: * Kim’s story of receiving a devastating diagnosis after completing treatment for breast cancer* How she’s chosen to spend the years she has left with her family * The new book she wrote for when her children have kids called “Give Your Kids a Break: Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children”* How it’s a process to develop a compassionate inner voice* Applying grace and truth to every situation in our lives* Variety of temperaments--some that are harder on themselves than others.* The difference between self-compassion and self-pity* Encouraging your children to practice self-compassion and reinforcing it by showing ourselves that same* Giving our kids the language to identify their failings and separate them from their self- worth* Moms have a really hard job. It’s ok to acknowledge that.* The importance of taking care of ourselves as moms* How to talk to your kids after you’ve been hard on yourself and reframing it with self-compassion Connect with Kim's Legacy: Links Mentioned: * Kristi Clover -- Simply Joyful Podcast* Give Your Kids a Break : Parenting with Compassion for You and Your Children *** Give Yourself a Break ** * Compassionate Self-Statements and Self-Soothing Exercises (CD and download)* Kind and Compassionate Words to Soothe Your Soul  (Download) **Amazon affiliate link, with no additional cost to you, the podcast receives a portion of your purchase. Featured Sponsor: Cultivate What Matters Ever felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children’s heart but you don’t know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust. You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. This month they launched a new journal: 
July 22, 2019
Oh friendship! A gift that can bring incredible joy and cause great pain. If female relationships weren't tricky enough, our wounded selves bump into each other causing even deeper hurts. But what are we to do? How do we heal, move forward and develop lasting friendships? Thankfully, my friend, Lisa-Jo Baker came on the show back in April of 2017 to help. With content from her book, "Never Unfriended", on episode 159 we talked about friendship wounds. And Lisa-Jo pointed us to Jesus, the only One who promises to heal and never leave us. Jesus is never tired of me always needing Him. Instead, He is delighted by how desperately I need His validation and He never, ever withholds it from me. Or from you. - excerpt from "Never Unfriended" by Lisa-Jo What we chat about: * What do we fear most in friendship* How to include the new girl and ignore the "cool kid" lies* How to heal past friendship wounds.* Turning to Jesus for meat and potatoes soul-filling.* Not blaming social media for our heart issues.* How do you survive a friendship break-up.* The hope of reconciliation and knowing when to let go. Connect with Lisa-Jo Baker: * Website * Facebook * Twitter* Instagram Links Mentioned: * "Surprised by Motherhood" book**  by Lisa-Jo Baker* Shaping of a Mother: Episode 21* Incourage Community* Carey Bailey--Life Coach* Hallowed Places by Tim Keller* "Never Unfriended" by Lisa-Jo Baker* "The Middle Matters"** by Lisa-Jo Baker --available now **Don't Mom Alone is a participant in the Amazon Services LLC Associates Program, an affiliate advertising program designed to provide a means for sites to earn advertising fees by advertising and linking to Featured Sponsor: Cultivate What Matters Ever felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children's heart but you don't know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust. You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. On July 17th, they are launching their brand new Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too! The Cultivate team is offering Don't Mom Alone listeners an exclusive discount. Head to to order your Write the Word for Kids journal today and receive 10% off with the code DONTMOMALONE. Don't Mom Alon...
July 15, 2019
The first guest in our mentorship series is Nancy Williams**. She is known by her 9 grandchildren & 4 great-grandchildren to label each family gathering as "the best ever". Her phrase perfectly summarizes this podcast. The show first aired in February of 2014 (Episode 11) and was titled "Best Ever Life". Based on the title you may be surprised to discover Nancy's motherhood journey includes many trials and heartache. But she views each challenge as an "opportunity" (her word) to see the power of God at work. This interview is bursting with Truth and wisdom. Here's a brief summary of the topics we cover: * How to keep your thoughts and perspective in check when your husband works long hours.* Where to turn with your parenting questions.* How to respond when the consequences of sin enter your children's lives* How to share a simple family tradition of gratitude and love (fabulous idea!)* How to deal with mom guilt (a.k.a., the part of the podcast where I get emotional)* How to help your children turn to God when you can't meet all their needs. SUCH good stuff. I was most encouraged to hear this message from Nancy: This can be the "best life ever", no matter the circumstances, if it includes eternal salvation for our children and unconditional love in our homes. Show Notes: Nancy's "best ever" life verse-- Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us. {Ephesians 3:20} If you are looking for encouragement with "that thing" you just can't defeat/restore/heal/change/overcome/undo on your own strength, then I would highly recommend, Priscilla Shirer's new book, God is Able*, which is based on Eph 3:20-21  (*Amazon Affiliate link, which means I receive a small portion of the purchase price at no additional cost to you.) Featured Sponsor: Cultivate What Matters Ever felt like you really want to plant the seeds of faith in your children's heart but you don't know how? You need something simple and easy that you can trust. You are not alone. Thousands of women all over the world have felt the same and are now cultivating the hearts of their little ones with Write the Word for Kids Bible journal from Cultivate What Matters. On July 17th, they are launching their brand new Write the Word for Kids: Fruit of the Spirit. It has everything you loved about the first Write the Word for Kids with a new theme, and including new fruit-theme stickers! Your kids will love it, too! The Cultivate team is offering Don't Mom Alone listeners an exclusive discount. Head to to order your Write the Word for Kids journal today and receive 10% off with the code DONTMOMALONE.
June 24, 2019
Kat Armstrong, the guest from one of my most popular episodes is back on the podcast to share the message of her new book, No More Holding Back. The first question we talk about is, “Can a woman learn too much about Jesus?” A light topic, right? The greatest commandment says we have to love God with our heart, soul, mind and strength — all of it. And it's the priority. It's the priority over anyone's role in our home. We have to be all-in for Jesus. We can't let our fears, our insecurities, our roles, our titles, or anything to do with our spouses impede our progress to learn about Jesus. Kat shares powerfully about our role as an image bearer of God, the importance of elevating women’s voices in our communities of faith and living completely into the assignments God gives us. We also talk about giving what we have to offer even if feels imperfect or broken in the same way that the widow in Mark 12 gave out of her need. If you have a broken heart, it counts. I have a broken heart right now about my dad. I still want to love God with it all and I don't have to have it all together or healed yet to apply it to the Great Commission. And if you have a weary soul and you're questioning your faith, you can give that to God and he counts it as worthy. If you have a confused mind. If you're struggling with anxiety, depression, decision making, and things don't make sense in your world, you can give that to God. What we chat about: * Kat walking through the grief of losing her dad and how her family dynamic has changed* The refining process of book writing and about her new book, No More Holding Back.* The false idea that a woman can learn too much about Jesus* Men and women are not in competition when it comes to serving God* Living completely into our calling or our assignment and what God's given us to do* Fully embracing the way God made us and how we can purposely live into our callings* Women can be strong and submissive at the same time because Jesus was too* The story of the widow’s mite in Mark 12 reminds us that what we have to offer Jesus is enough even if it’s a broken heart* Jesus runs his economy on love. When we give, even out of our need, it’s more than enough through Jesus* Barriers Christian women face and how to deal with competing assignments* Inviting family and friends to be on your team when God assigns you something new and hearing God for the timing of an assignment* Ask: Who are my neighbors? Am I loving them well? How can I be equipped to love them better? Connect with Kat: * Website:* Facebook:* Twitter: @katarmstrong1* Polished Ministries: Links Mentioned: * Previous episode with Kat Armstrong: Motherhood, Career, and Identity [Ep 171] * BOOK: No More Holding Back by Kat Armstrong** * BOOK: Wonder Women: Navigating the Challenges of Motherhood, Career, and Identity by Kate Harris*** BOOK: Are Women Human? By Dorothy Sayers**
June 17, 2019
After my recent trip to Oaxaca, Mexico, I’m so excited to introduce you to Tess Clarke. We process some of what we learned on the trip to visit refugees from Central and South America and hear about the work Tess and her husband are doing with their non-profit, Seek the Peace. Tess feels called to a ministry of presence in the same way that Jesus enters into our lives. It doesn’t mean that the circumstances are changed, but He takes away our aloneness, our guilt, our shame and our fear by being present with us in those hard circumstances. The numbers are staggering and everyone knows that this is an overwhelming issue. Which is why I think we can't become jaded and paralyzed, but we have to keep looking at it from a human point of view. When we were in Oaxaca, a lot of it was really about learning why people were fleeing and what their lives looked like and what they were hoping for when they came to the United States. Every person I had an opportunity to talk to said, 'I want to be safe.' No matter where you may fall politically on the issues of immigration and the current refugee crisis, I think Tess’ perspective on entering into the broken places and loving the marginalized and lonely around us can bring us together as believers. It has made a big difference in my own parenting when I invite my kids into loving others. Something my kids and I talk a lot about is the line in the Lord's prayer, ‘Thy kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.’ And we asked Jesus, show us where heaven is not. Show us where heaven is lacking. Lead us there because we want to join you in that space and we want to do what we can to bring heaven there. What we chat about: * Tess, her family, their non-profit Seek the Peace and her role at We Welcome Refugees* The work Tess and her organization have done at the border. * Seeking to understand the plight of refugees and the work and role of U.S. Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE)* Family separation of refugees at the border and the humanitarian crises happening in Central and South America that are causing an increase in the number of refugees* Stories from refugee centers at the border of South Texas* Tess feels called to a ministry of presence in the same way that Jesus enters into our lives. * The trip Heather and Tess made to Oaxaca, Mexico to visit refugees there* A poem by Warsan Shire about why people leave their homes as refugees* The legal ways to enter America are being shut down by the current administration* Our experience visiting the unaccompanied minors shelter* Femicide, being killed because you are a woman, is a big cause of death in Mexico* Partnering with Jesus to love the marginalized and bring Heaven to Earth* The call of God to love the oppressed and care for the broken in Isaiah 58 Connect with Seek the Peace and We Welcome Refugees: * Seek the Peace* Website:* Facebook:* Instagram: @seekthepeace* We Welcome Refugees* Website: * Facebook:* Instagram: @wewelcomerefugees Links Mentioned:
June 10, 2019
Just in time for Father’s Day we have a great conversation with Joel Fitzpatrick, a pastor and author, who encourages dads (and moms) to have gospel-focused conversations with their sons. There’s power in having conversations with your kids that opens up your relationship. It’s a freedom that gives your kids a safe place to talk to someone. But then it also gives you the ability to speak God's truth into their lives. We talk about the barriers that keep us from going deep with our kids and how to fight back against the fear and complacency that can become commonplace. Joel also shares how Jesus is the ultimate picture of biblical masculinity and how to be an emotionally safe parent for your son or daughter. We need to be very careful with our emotions when our kids come and they confess their sins to us. When your son comes to you and he's been angry, you need to be careful not to respond in anger, but to respond with love and with kindness and with using your strength to provide a place of safety. This is an episode that would be perfect to share with your spouse and the dads in your life. Joel shares a lot of truth for both moms and dads about how we can stay actively engaged with our kids and keep the gospel message at the forefront. For more on this topic, Joel has a new book out called Between Us Guys. Also, my recent podcast with Vicki Courtney [Ep 239] has some more great information on having deep conversations. As Joel shares, it comes down to setting aside intentional time to go deep with our kids. What step can you make this summer to have a gospel-centered conversation with your son or daughter? What we chat about: * Joel’s background as a construction worker and as a minister* What are gospel conversations and how do we have them with our kids* How to fight against fear and complacency to continually engage with our kids* Biblical masculinity vs worldly masculinity* Working with a son who is displaying aggression and violence* Keeping our emotions in check when we’re having tough discipline conversations* Look at your kids’ lives as a timeline and not a snapshot* Learning to process emotions in a healthy way with our kids* Being aware of your sons’ emotions and actively engaged with how he is processing them* Teaching sons how to think about and interact with women in light of the gospel Connect with Joel Fitzpatrick: * Website:* Twitter: @joeldfitz* Instagram: @joeldfitz* Podcast: Front Porch with the Fitzes Links Mentioned: * Book: Between Us Guys: Life-Changing Conversations for Dads and Sons*** Book: Emotionally Healthy Relationships*** Podcast: [Ep 219] Idols of Motherhood :: Elyse Fitzpatrick **As an Amazon associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Featured Sponsor: Val Marie Paper It doesn’t matter how much we want to pray more,
June 3, 2019
As moms, we are like a life support system for our kids. To keep our families healthy, we need to be healthy. A key part of our overall well being is setting healthy boundaries. But boundaries are hard. They require uncomfortable, direct conversations. We may need to put a limit on really good things or draw a line in the sand with our in-laws or parents. My guest, Dr. John Townsend literally wrote the book on boundaries and he shares some deep wisdom on how to set healthy boundaries while honoring our family members and others. You've got to take care of your energy, your heart and your emotions. You've got to take care of yourself and your health. If you don't guard that heart, then the wellsprings of life won't come out from it. Boundaries are basically about how to set healthy, loving limits in our life. So we have something to offer to our children. Townsend answers your tough questions about set limits with in-laws, making healthy boundaries for the holidays and even models having a tough conversation with a parent about a boundary. This is an episode packed with great information and Townsend has several books and resources available if you want to go deeper. Let’s make setting healthy boundaries a priority and guard our hearts and our time to bring life to our family! What we chat about: * “Above all else, guard your heart, for everything you do flows from it.” Proverbs 4:23* Setting boundaries is guarding our wellspring of life so we can love our kids* His book, Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life* Is setting boundaries biblical? YES!* The difference between hurting and harming someone when it comes to setting boundaries* Honoring vs obeying your parents as an adult* What it looks like to have a boundary setting conversation* Conveying love in hard conversations and not getting hijacked with emotions or blame* Giving three chances when you set new boundaries and how to have consequences when they aren’t respected* Turning to spiritual family when biological family isn’t what your kids need* Keeping the lines of communication open with grandparents and communicating boundaries in love * Looking for mild, moderate and severe reactions to suggestions and boundary setting* Suggestions for setting healthy boundaries for the holidays* The idea of people fuel and relational nutrients that help us fuel up Connect with Dr. John Townsend: * Website:* Facebook:* Instagram: Links Mentioned: * Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life*** Relational Nutrients:* People Fuel: Fill Your Tank for Life, Love and Leadership ** Pre-order now **As an Amazon associate, I earn from qualifying purchases. Featured Sponsor: FabFitFun Who else has tried FabFitFun? If you don't already know about it, it’s a seasonal box,
May 27, 2019
Whether your kids are school age or not, summer typically brings a big shift to our family routine and to our mindset. Joining me today to talk through strategies to thrive this summer are Laura Hernandez and Courtney Cleveland. We talk about systems, tips and plans for making the most of the time you have with your kids this summer. Laura even shares an acronym for how to plan with the word ENJOY. That’s right! We can absolutely enjoy the summer and these ladies have some great ideas to get you started. It doesn't need to be a family bucket list and it doesn't need to be a hundred goals. It's just a simple focused looking at your summer and saying, what do I want it to feel like? What do I want it to look like for our family? And you will reap the benefits of it. If you’re like me and want to figure out a way to involve your kids in household jobs without the whining and complaining or make a plan for using screen time effectively, we cover it all in this chat. We also talk about summer road tips and ways to stop entitlement behavior when it rears its ugly head. There is so much life in slowing down and spending time with our kids in the summer. Whether you are on summer number 2 or summer number 14 (like me) with your oldest, I pray that you embrace the time you have and ENJOY your summer! What we chat about: * Laura Hernandez, her family with nine children (and one on the way) and how she started you business called Mama Systems* Courtney Cleveland, her family with three children and her takeaways from implementing systems in her life* ENJOY the summer with a handy acronym from Laura* Evaluate last summer-- what was stressful? What was life giving? What did your kids enjoy?* Note things down. Set up your calendar with the needs first and write down your big priorities and dreams from your summer.* Jot down your kids’ dreams for the summer. Who do they want to have come over? What activities do they want to do?* Order. Choose and order for your days, your weeks and your summer. * You. Make a priority to take care of yourself so you can care for your people.* Delegating household jobs to your kids-- how and why it’s important* Taking time to intentional plan your summer and prioritize blessing others vs just doing fun things and making it all about your kids* Alarms and ticket systems to help your kids stay on task with various jobs and managing screen time* Road trip tips from Courtney and her podcast All the Best Days* Enjoying your summer with your kids and feeling free to take the ideas that work for you that may not be what works for others Connect with Laura Hernandez: * Website:* Facebook:* Instagram: Connect with Courtney Cleveland: * Website:* Instagram: Past Summer Help Episodes: * Summer (and Sibling) Survival Guide with Kirk Martin [Ep 77]* When Someone Makes Your Summer Awesome Links Mentioned:
May 20, 2019
Jada Edwards is a Bible teacher and truth speaker. She brings the word with fire and conviction. Her words encourage and gently convict as she points others to God. But, her story hasn’t always been pretty and her platform hasn’t always been large. She’s wrestled with shame and doubt and feeling unqualified. I try be like David when he says, ‘I keep my sin before me.’ Not because of shame, but because of that reminder that every time God uses me, every time someone is encouraged by something that comes out of my mouth, I think, God is good. He can use anybody. There's a fine line between feeling disqualified and just feeling grateful and humble. So I try not to let that send me into a place of immobility. I’m personally grateful that Jada is following after God’s call on her life. She has so much passion for teaching and preaching the word. She has a new Bible study series out with Zondervan on women in the Bible called Known by Name that focuses on the same three questions we all still ask today: How does everyone else see me? How do I see myself? How does God see me? Good stuff! We talk about her journey to motherhood and how inviting others to be influences in our kids’ lives can bring a freedom for the places we are weakest. She has some great suggestions for how to not mom alone and why we don’t have to strive to be a mother that we’re not. I think I day-by-day I find my footing a little bit saying, ‘Okay, these are the kids God has given me to shape and I know there's going to be deficits. I know there's going to be gaps, but I'm going to trust the Lord for the gaps and I'm going to do what I can with who I am. I'm not going to try to be anybody else. I'm going to be a failure at trying to be like my mother, it's going to go badly. I can be the best mom that I can be. And then where I'm lacking, I can be honest about that.’ What we chat about: * What it was like to adopt children after 12 years of marriage and 5 years of church planting * How Jada starting teaching and preaching God’s word* The importance of walking through obscurity and the wilderness before coming into a public ministry* Jada’s experience wrestling with faith in college and her journey of working through doubt* Living in the tension of feeling grateful for what God has done and not getting stuck in shame or feeling disqualified* Mothering in your strengths and feeling confident in how God made you to operate* Not trying to mother like someone else, but relying on God to fill in the gaps for areas you aren’t gifted in* Friends, family and community bring a roundedness to our kids’ experience growing up. We don’t have to be all things for them. Connect with Jada: * Website:* Instagram: @jada_edwards* Twitter: @jadaedwards1721 Links mentioned: * One Community Church:* BraveLove* Zondervan "Known by Name" Series:* Rahab: Don't Judge Me, God Says I'm Qualified*** Naomi: When I Feel Worthless, God Says I'm Enough*** Hagar: In the Face of Rejection, God Says I'm Significant** **As an Amazon associate, I earn from qualifying purchases.
May 13, 2019
Every nine seconds a woman is assaulted in America. It’s the kind of staggering statistic that shocks you into silence. It can make you feel powerless to help. When Jan Langbein first heard that statistic, it rocked her. She found an avenue to get involved with violence intervention and was eventually hired to run Genesis Women’s Shelter & Support in Dallas. Now, she’s worked to end violence against women and children for more than 20 years. God’s plan for her was bigger than she ever dreamed. On the podcast, she shares from the wealth of what she’s learned about: * How to identify abuse in your own life and in others’* How to respond to a friend in an abusive relationship* What we can all do to work toward ending and preventing violence, especially in faith communities It's very hard being friends and family of someone who's being abused, because it's as if they are overcome by smoke. We see the house burning down, but they're tripping around in a house filled with smoke. So you say things like, you know what, when you are ready to talk about this, know that I'm going to be here for you. When you do feel like you ready for some resources, I'll have them for you. Warning: There are some very hard things to hear in this episode and some potentially triggering things if you’ve been in an abusive relationship of any kind. I’m so thankful for Jan’s guidance and clarity on these hard topics. As believers, we’re called to press in to these uncomfortable places and be God’s hands and feet for women and children who are suffering. I pray you will listen with that in mind. I think God hates divorce. I know he hates abuse even worse. I think this makes God cry that women are not allowed to live the fullest life. We can serve others, but that doesn't mean at the risk of our own bodies and souls and our children's lives. What we chat about: * How Jan got involved with violence intervention and eventual hired to run Genesis Women's Shelter & Support * Every nine seconds, a woman is assaulted in this country and 1 in 3 women have experienced abuse* The ways abuse affects the children in a marriage/relationship* How to respond to a friend who may be in an abusive relationship* The services offered at a shelter like Genesis can provide for multiple needs from housing to legal help to counseling* Faith communities and other men can be a part of the solution calling out abuse and not sweeping it under the rug* Fear is an indication of abuse and verbal and emotional abuse precedes physical abuse* Helping a friend go through the stages of change in coming out of abuse* Abusers have the power and control in the relationship and the person being abused has the responsibility to serve their abuser* What to watch for in our kids for signs of abuse Connect with Genesis Women's Shelter and Support: * Website:* Hotline: 214-946-4357* Instagram:* Facebook: Links Mentioned: * Prochoska’s Transtheorectical Model (stages of change) * National Domestic Violence Hotline: and 1-800-799-7233.* It’s A Girl Documentary
May 6, 2019
Jeni B is a single mom raising and homeschooling her four children. It was not the life she expected when she married as a young grad student and not the life she worked hard to create as she struggled for 10 years in an abusive marriage. She shares her story of coming to a very painful place of seeking a divorce and fleeing with her children. We talk about the loss of community and friendships that followed and the guilt and shame that threatened to hold her captive. There can be so much shame and there's so much responsibility on the shoulders of the woman that it can feel like her job is to respect and to uphold and to encourage and that love covers a multitude of sins. And I'm sure that that works totally fine in a partnership where you've got two people under the headship of Jesus Christ who are wanting to please and obey him and serve each other. But when only one person is doing that, it just opens the gates wide for rampant abuse in a relationship. But her story did end there. Three years later, she is walking with God in a deeper way than she thought possible and finding freedom through healing. In her hardest places, God has been faithful and she shares what she’s learned about his character along the way. He didn't love my marriage more than he loved me. He loves me. So a huge part of my own growth and my own awakening is knowing God. It's a day-to-day walk and I feel the Lord shining on me. It is this beautiful experience of having been reduced to pretty much nothing and having all of my dreams destroyed to a place where God is building a city on top of that very same spot and he's using other people in the process of rebuilding. I’m thankful for Jeni’s openness in sharing her journey with God and how he is restoring and rebuilding her life. If you or a friend are going through anything similar, check out the online support group Jeni is in for more resources or visit the National Domestic Violence Hotline website What we chat about: * Jeni’s story of a 10-year abusive marriage and its painful ending and divorce* What it felt like for her to pick up the pieces and move forward as the sole breadwinner for herself and four children* The damaging cycle of abuse and why popular marriage books and teachings don’t work in a one-sided relationship* How God met with Jeni in her lowest point and the power of the Holy Spirit in that process* Why homeschooling her four kids as a single mom was the right choose for her and the stability it brought for her kids* Helping children adjust to shared custody and the differences of living in two homes* Tips for other single parents who are juggling everything* Training your kids to help with household chores in a joyful, loving way* Getting into community and taking care of yourself as a single mom* The healing she found from an online support group for Christian women coming out of abuse* How Jeni has learned to deeply connect with God in the day-to-day and the healing work he is doing in her Connect with Jeni: * Website:* Jeni’s Podcast: Links Mentioned: * BOOK: Streams in the Desert by L. B. Cowman *** Flying Free Online Support Group: **Amazon Affiliate Link.
April 29, 2019
I’m so excited to share my dear friend Erin Morgan with you in this episode! We go way back in friendship and in motherhood. She is the introvert to my extrovert and in this chat we’re diving into how to thrive as an introverted mom. When she and I had younger kids, the constant togetherness of parenting was very draining for her. I was just completely overwhelmed, which causes me to withdraw and isolate big time. I just had no energy for other people. I wanted to pursue my friends and my relationships with other people, but there was just no margin for that in my mind. We talk about how she learned more about herself as she learned about the gift that introversion can be. As she asked God where she should invest her life, he encouraged her that focusing on motherhood and a few deep friendships was his best for her. I had to get with the Lord and be reminded that what I'm doing in this season of life with my children and my family is a true ministry and is where God has me. And I really felt like he was impressing on me this kind of motto for my life, which is that a small and faithful life is pleasing to the Lord. I’m so thankful for Erin and her introvert “super powers” of listening and passionate, faithful prayers. She is a thoughtful friend who has a lot of wisdom and encouragement for other introverted moms out there. Extroverts can learn a lot about their introverted friends by hearing what she shares too! What we chat about: * Some background on Erin’s and my friendship* How Erin introduced me to Kat Lee of Hello Mornings* What Erin learned about being an introvert after she started having kids* The validation she feels knowing who God made her to be* Where introverts fit into the modern Evangelical church* Hearing God for what you are called to and not focusing on what others are doing* “A heart at peace gives life to the body” Proverbs 14:30 * Introverts can isolate themselves too much and miss out on investing deeply in friendship* Being present in someone’s life to listen to and empathize with them is a super power* Introverts and extroverts process information differently and a different speeds* God’s design for the different types of personalities is good Links Mentioned: * BOOK: Introverts in the Church** * Podcast Episodes with Francie Winslow* Family Camp Erin and I attend: Pine Cove Family Camp **Amazon Affiliate link. A portion of your purchase supports the production of this podcast. Featured Sponsor: FabFitFun Who else has tried FabFitFun? If you don't already know about it, it’s a seasonal box, with full-­size beauty, fitness and lifestyle products. The box I received is epic. Each season’s box features a variety of amazing, quality brands like Tarte, Kate Somerville, Anthropologie, Free People, Dr. Brandt and that’s just the beginning of it. Don't miss out, because they sell out fast. Check out and use the special code mentioned in this week's episode to save $10 off your first box, making it only $39.99. You deserve to treat yourself!
April 22, 2019
When Ericka Young and her husband made the choice to get out of debt, they had two small kids and $90,000 to pay off. In the midst of the expensive, hard season of raising their daughters they worked hard for five years to get debt-free and now Ericka teaches the budgeting principles they used to help others find freedom. She believes that while many of us see a budgeting as restriction it can actually bring a lot of freedom. You can be creative if you want, you can call it a spending plan, you can call it a cash flow plan, whatever want to call it is totally fine. But when I say the word budget, everybody has a response, good or bad. And many times it's bad. It is the straight jacket. It's restriction, it's lack of freedom, that kind of thing. But here's the deal. It's what you make of it. Your budget is your own, make it your own. We chat about teaching our kids about money and tithing and how we are ultimately stewards of the resources God has given us. I love numbers. And so how I get out of my head is to realize that God is my provider. I am not the fixer of all financial issues. God is the provider. He also leads the way. And so when things come up and I have to shift or do a detour or what have you, I still know that he's in control. And so the budget is the guide. It's the plan. But when life happens, I also know that God's got this. What we chat about: * Her and her husband’s history with debt and money * Finances while you are raising young kids* Parental peer pressure can cause us to spend money we don’t need to* Why having a budget and money goals can help you get a handle on your finances* Having shared financial goals with your husband* Track your spending for the past three months and see if it aligns with your priorities* Plan for out-to-eat meals in your budget and use wisdom on when to eat out* Teaching your children about the costs of items and how to spend within limits* Being committed to tithing and how to discuss it with our kids* Responsibilities, allowances and working with kids on money* Why we need cushion in your budget for emergencies. It helps takes stress off an already stressful situation.* Your budget can bring freedom from the stress of not knowing where your money is* Connect with Ericka: * Website:* Facebook:* Instagram: @tailormadebudgets* Twitter: @budgetsbyericka Links Mentioned: * 7-Day Money Challenge:* iAllowance App: Featured Sponsor: FabFitFun Who else has tried FabFitFun? If you don't already know about it, it’s a seasonal box, with full-­size beauty, fitness and lifestyle products. The box I received is epic. Each season’s box features a variety of amazing, quality brands like Tarte, Kate Somerville, Anthropologie, Free People, Dr. Brandt and that’s just the beginning of it. Don't miss out, because they sell out fast. Check out and use the special code mentioned in this week's episode to save $10 off your first box, making it only $39.99. You deserve to treat yourself!
April 15, 2019
Depending on your personal background with puberty, sex and the often avoided topic of masturbation, having open conversations with your kids on these topics may feel daunting. You may want to avoid it or get “the talk” over and done with as quickly as possible. Or maybe your kids are really young and you don’t want to think about it right now. My guests Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson walk us through why starting early talking with our kids about body awareness and establishing our family story about sex is so important. What we're trying to get rid of is this idea that this is a one-time conversation in parenting. The world that we are raising our kids in has changed so drastically that the way we as parents talk about sex has to change drastically as well. We can have multiple age appropriate conversations and a little-by-little approach where we establish a conversation pattern where we are the loving authority in our child's life on this topic. They have great book recommendations and advice on talking with your pediatrician so you know when puberty is imminent for each child. We cover ways to pursue conversations with your kids and how to talk to them calmly without overreacting. Finally, we dive into the deeper waters of talking to your older children about masturbation, dealing with our emotional baggage when it comes to sex and how to strike the difficult balance of teaching what is normal and beneficial. We're hearing from a lot of youth ministers and pastors that work with college kids that this is an epidemic of a great addiction. So there needs to be more of a warning of how this is normal, but not beneficial. That why it's such a difficult topic. You can say, yes, honey, this is absolutely normal. You're learning about your body and how it works, but it can become a habit of comfort. And if this is where you go when you're upset or when you're angry, if this is how you comfort yourself, then this is not beneficial to you in your future. What we chat about : * Introducing Mary Flo Ridley and Megan Michelson from* Why we need to have consistent, intentional talks with our kids when they are young to lay the foundation for them to learn about sex and their bodies from us as parents* Starting with our young kids will make the conversations leading up and into puberty less awkward* Giving your child space to read an age-appropriate book on puberty and changes and chatting with them about it* Books and resources the Mary and Megan recommend so you can have a game plan to stay ahead of where your kids is developmentally* Talking with your pediatrician about puberty and where your child is in the process* Pursuing these conversations even if your child wants to avoid them* Using a matter-of-fact, calm tone when we talk about touching their bodies and not overreacting * Addressing masturbation. Normalize the behavior, but talk about how it isn’t beneficial for it to be a habit or a comfort measure* These hard topics of puberty aren’t just one-time conversations, we want to keep an open dialogue and focus on relationship over rules* Masturbation can train you in selfish and false intimacy which will affect your future relationships* Bringing these topics to the light takes away the guilt and shame Previous Episodes with Birds and Bees: * Birds and Bees? Oh, help me please :: Mary Flo Ridley {GCM Ep 25}* When to Have “The Talk” :: Mary Flo Ridley {Encore}*
April 8, 2019
To celebrate our 20-year wedding anniversary, Bruce and I are answering your questions! We have a fun time reminiscing on our wedding, the early years of parenting and all the twists and turns our lives have taken since we joined them together. We talk about parenting styles, balancing our roles and how I learned not to micromanage him when it came to caring for our boys. We're different people. And most people aren't marrying somebody who is identical to them. So there's going to be natural differences in how you parent. I think that probably goes for every single person that's listening to this. Embracing that early and giving each other space was critical. As much as we enjoy looking back at our years before kids when we traveled a bunch, the fun concerts we went to, and friends we made, we wouldn’t change what we have now. Bruce makes a great point that if we stay focused on the past, we’ll miss the great things happening now. If the time is spent trying to get back to something, a prior moment, you're missing the current moment and future amazing moments. It's easy to jump on the phone and get distracted when you're with the kids and there's all sorts of just day-to-day hectic stuff. But if you always have the view that more and more amazing things could happen and that the best is yet to come, it opens the door towards appreciation and cherishing your relationships now. Stick around to the end of the episode to find out which one of us said, “I love you” first and my personal philosophy on procrastination. We share our ideas for a perfect weekend (they aren’t the same) and how Bruce plans a typical date night. Thanks to all the listeners who submitted questions on Instagram! Follow me @dontmomalone to submit questions for upcoming interviews with guests. What we chat about: * How Bruce and I met and a lil about our dating years* Fun memories from our wedding and our married years before kids* Why we chose to have four kids* Staying connected as a couple when you have small kids* Our Saturday morning connection tradition* The importance of getaways and dating your spouse and how to guard that time* How we balance parenting and household chores* When we pray together as a couple and with our boys* Driving time = Bible time in the mornings * Looking forward to better and better things in marriage and not dwelling on the past* Who said, “I love you" first and other fun questions in a rapid fire Newlywed game More Episodes with Bruce: * The Right to Change My Mind :: Bruce and Heather [Ep 196]* This is Us :: Bruce and Heather {Ep 145}* Goals, Roles and Superpowers :: Bruce and Heather MacFadyen {Ep 112}* When your Husband has a Demanding Job :: Bruce and Heather {Ep 38} Links Mentioned: * Our Wedding song, Latter Days by Over the Rhine:* Tea Time for Boys* Featured Sponsor:
April 1, 2019
Though millions tuned in to TLC’s hit show 'Little People, Big World' to watch their wedding, the entirety of Jeremy and Audrey Roloff’s love story is significantly less known. Audrey joins me to talk about her marriage, motherhood, and how she and her husband are on a mission to help married couples thrive. The Roloffs have founded a ministry called Beating 50 Percent which is focused on reviving covenant marriages. They share resources and ideas for couples to inspire them to make their marriages more than average. One thing that has been our lifeline since before becoming parents is our marriage journal. It's essentially our communication tool in our marriage. When life is crazy, we know that every Sunday night we're going to have our time to do our marriage journal. We call it our navigator’s council time. But it's basically just a time for Jeremy and I to connect and communicate about things that have come up in the week that maybe there wasn't never that good time to talk about it. We chat about how she’s balancing marriage and motherhood since the birth of her daughter, why it’s important to share interests and activities with your spouse and how to balance strong personalities in marriage. It’s important to take humble perspective and ask God, what do our roles in this marriage look like and is this something that you are pleased with and how can we be a better reflection of the gospel through our marriage? I feel like God has really been impressing on my heart since the beginning of the year to let Jeremy be my forerunner and to view that as a helpful, beautiful thing that helps me and allows me to run the race better. What we chat about: * Audrey’s background and how she met her husband Jeremy Roloff* Jeremy and his family are featured in the reality TV show, Little People, Big World* What it was like for her to have her wedding televised for the show* Her life verse from Ephesians 3:20 and mantra “Always More”* Beating 50 Percent the marriage ministry she and her husband have* Their focus is inspiring couples to invest more than 50 percent effort into their marriage * How she’s balancing marriage and motherhood since the birth of her infant daughter* Their Sunday marriage journaling time and how they’ve turned it into a book, The Marriage Journal* The principle of sharing interests and activities with your spouse and how that can knit you closer together* Submitting in marriage when you have a strong personality or leadership gifting* What Audrey loves about being a mom Connect with Audrey: * Website: * Instagram:* Twitter: * Facebook: * Podcast: * Marriage Ministry: Links Mentioned: * BOOK: A Love Letter Life by Jeremy and Audrey Roloff *** Always More Sherpa* The Marriage Journal (Navigator's Council) *
March 25, 2019
Choosing a school for your kids can be hot-button issue. There are more school and educational model choices now than ever before and there can be a lot of emotions tied up in those choices. In this episode, Wendy Speake, a mom of three, shares her journey with schooling options for her boys and how God has led her and her husband through the process. We talk about choosing schools based on your family values, individual child’s needs and your needs as a mom. Whether our child is reading at 3 years old or struggling academically, we all want to see our kids succeed. But what defines success? We've been given this command to train up our children in the way they should go. And when they are old, they won't depart from it. So when they are young, we get to say, alright, they need to learn to read and write. They need to be able to take personal responsibility for their studies by the time they're x years old and those are all important things. But if they're going to leave my house with three things, what should those three things be? Wendy shines a light on the places we can feel guilty or overwhelmed in making choices about educating our children. She encourages us and speaks hope and grace for parents who are facing challenges with their kids. Ultimately, we can lean on God for the wisdom we need to make these hard decisions in love. 'Lord, give me wisdom as I lead this great people of yours.' And as I pray that it's amazing how you transfer the responsibility off of your shoulders onto the shoulders of the one who is able to carry every burden: Christ. And he is so good to speak to us through his Holy Spirit. Personally, Bruce and I have sought God's direction as we've pursued a few different education options for our boys. Peace comes when we depend on God, the One who understands our children and their future needs better than we ever could. What we chat about: * Looking at all the options for schooling your kid can feel overwhelming* There are so many more choices today- public, private, charter, homeschool, online* Vicki’s experience with various schooling options* Questions to ask yourself when considering school options: What are your family’s values? What are my child’s needs? What are my needs?* When your child is older, you need to teach them how to persevere and not change learning models* When they are young, there are some many factors that are individual to each child* It’s important to think about how you feel too* These decisions can be fluid. You aren’t “stuck” with one model.* We want to be in the “school of dependency on Christ” when it comes to making decisions about our children’s education* A prayer Wendy uses when making big decisions: “Give me wisdom as I lead this great people of yours.”* Hope and encouragement for parents who are fearful of their child’s learning challenges* Some of the most incredible women and men were the hardest kids to raise* Partner with your kids in their challenges and be expectant of all he will do in their lives Connect with Wendy: * Website- * Facebook- * Instagram- * Twitter- Links Mentioned: * BOOK: 100 Top Picks for Homeschool Curriculum: Choosing the Right Curriculum and Approach for Your C...
March 18, 2019
Our kids are growing up in a culture that is less friendly to the Christian faith than ever before. As moms we have a choice to parent from fear or to bravely engage with our kids and make time and space to have hard conversations. My guest Vicki Courtney walks us through why it’s worth it to help our kids wrestle with their questions about faith, culture and learning to trust God. She shares about her experience raising three kids of her own as a newer believer and the power of parenting with humility and love. We are going to have to learn as parents to have conversations in such a way that we teach our children to walk in truth, but we need to lead with love. In past generations as parents, we could teach our children, 'Well, here's the truth. And the Bible says this, so you need to live this way.' And a lot of times we forgot about the love part. While we may tend to look at culture and our children’s generation and feel hopeless, Vicki reminds us that Jesus is the hope the world is looking for and keeping an open, loving line of communication with our kids can make all the difference in how they own their faith. Now nothing is different about this generation in the sense that they are chasing after something to feel the void. We all have that void, right? We all have chased after things along the way and that nothing will fill that void other than the love of Christ and his Gospel. And so for our children, they are going to feel an awareness of that void sooner. But the hope is we have the answer and the hope is I feel like we are ripe for massive revival out there. For more on the Must Have Conversations to have with your kids, check out Vicki’s books. What we chat about: * How Vicki came to know Jesus and God's direction to her ministry * Her books 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter and 5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Son* The culture our kids are growing up in isn’t friendly to the Christian faith* As we have conversations with them about God’s truth, we need to lead with love* Making room for these important conversations by giving your family margin * Avoiding triggers that make you as mom feel like you aren’t doing enough* It’s ok if your kid doesn’t do all the activities like sports and music* If it’s God’s plan for your child to be gifted in an area, it will happen for them regardless of our actions* Letting our kids have room to fail and learn from failure* Parenting from an place of humility and not shaming or finger wagging* Staying open to our kids and helping them feel comfortable sharing anything with you* The different mentalities of the prodigal son and the older brother from the parable of the Prodigal Son in the Bible and how both see God’s grace from the wrong perspective* Viewing God’s grace rightly and understanding the fear of God helps us lead with love* How to help your kids wrestle with the idea of “hipster Jesus” and losing the idea that God should be feared/awed Connect with Vicki: * Website* Facebook* Instagram * Twitter Links Mentioned: * BOOKS:
March 11, 2019
God often uses our areas of weakness to bring blessing to others. The things we long to keep in the dark can actually bring light and life when we say, “Yes.” to God. That is JJ Heller’s story. As an independent singer/songwriter, she has experienced a lot of ups and downs in professionally and personally. One of the hardest things has been her struggle with fear and anxiety. I would pray every night that I would wake up in the morning and I would never have another panic attack again. Because, you know, sometimes God answers prayers that way, just totally, completely instantly. And yet that is not how he chose to answer my prayer much to my disappointment. Instead, it was just a very, very long journey of like gradually getting better every day and learning to trust God and learning to trust myself. I'm learning to trust that God has given me what I need to get through each day. Through that process of learning to trust God, she has shared openly about working through anxiety and has written and recorded a lot of songs and albums that help connect others with God’s peace. We talk about her beautiful lullaby albums and the impact music can have on people of all ages. As a mom of two girls, JJ writes music with moms in mind. Her new single Big Love, Small Moments serves as reminder that the small, unseen things we do with our kids can have the biggest impact on their lives. I wanted to write a song just as a reminder that God sees the work that you're doing and he is so delighted. I think that God delights in mothers and I think it brings him joy. You know, every time you feed your child or you play with them or you put them down for a nap time, that is worship and he is so pleased with you. That perspective helps me to have eyes to see the beauty around me and to find joy in the little moments. What we chat about: * The big change in college that started JJ down the path to music* How JJ connects with listeners emotionally through her songs* A song she wrote about learning to trust God in the midst of suffering made it on a national TV show and on Christian radio* JJ’s journey with fear and anxiety and how God brought her healing* The importance of community and trusted friends when you need freedom from anxious thoughts* How motherhood has changed her career and calling* Her lullaby albums and why she’s so drawn to music for kids* Her song Big Love, Small Moments and how she wants moms to feel celebrated by God* It’s the small moments and the daily decisions that help us focus on turning up the warmth and grace in our families Connect with JJ: * Website* Facebook* Instagram * Twitter Links Mentioned: * Lullaby Albums: I Dream of You**and I Dream of You Vol. 2 *** Jennifer Naraki on Instagram* Joy Prouty Filmmaker* Set Free From Shame with Jeannie Cunnion [Ep 190]* Instagram post by Jeannie  --turning up the warmth in our homes* JJ sharing about her panic attacks-- “You’re Not Going Crazy”
March 4, 2019
If you’ve been parenting for more than a day or so, you know that there is no one-size-fits all way to raise and discipline children. There are so many experts with great resources for parents (a lot of them have been on the show), but in the end each one of your children is an individual with individual needs. But what if they have needs that go beyond what’s typical? That’s just where my guest Karis Murray found herself when her second daughter started school and struggled to keep up with her classmates. After years of struggle or a lot of fear of the unknown, Karis and her daughter were both diagnosed and treated for ADHD. Karis takes us through how she supported her daughter with high needs. She gives advice and encouragement to moms who have children in similar situations. Special or unique needs are things that are unique to our particular child that might not be true of everyone. And so this is kind of a sneaky one because you have to approach every person as an individual and it's really easy to forget that our kids are people. They're all individuals. So a lot of the time their behavior at home or at school might be an attempt to get a unique need met, a special need that is not getting dealt with. We also get into how to set appropriate boundaries and how grace based discipline can help us separate the sin from our child’s heart and shift to focus away from our own feelings. Good discipline is responding, not reacting. When we're reacting, we're not thinking about what's best for our kids. Very often we're thinking about what's best for us. If we choose to take it personally, then we stay stuck in our emotions. I'm not saying take the rules away or don't have the same expectations, but when we can see our kid the way that God sees them, we can approach them with love and kindness. What we chat about: * Karis’ background with ADHD personally and in her family* Having good expectations about parenting teens instead of dreading it* Discovering one of her daughters had ADHD and the signs and symptoms she exhibited * The way her daughter struggled in school and when they decided to seek help* The evaluation process and how medication has helped both Karis and her daughter with ADHD* The stigma around mental health and medication* A lot of discipline problems can stem from our child’s unmet needs (that they often can’t express)* Decoding your child’s behavior to see if they have any unique or special needs * As parents, we are the first lens through which our kids see God and his character* The danger of letting fear drive your response to problems in your child’s behavior or development* Setting appropriate expectations and boundaries for children with special needs* Karis’ new video series on Grace-Based Discipline available on RightNow Media and on her website Connect with Family Matters: * Website* Facebook* Instagram * Twitter Links Mentioned: * Grace Based Discipline :: Karis Kimmel Murray [Ep 150] * Grace Based Discipline** by Karis Kimmel Murray* Grace Based Parenting** by Dr. Tim Kimmel* Video Series on Grace Based Discipline available at and on
February 25, 2019
Depending on your church and faith background, you may of heard of Lent or even observed it in the past. Similar to the Advent period which leads up to Christmas, Lent is a season of prayer and fasting before Easter. It is a practice recognized by millions of Protestant Christians and Catholics. Though it isn’t mentioned or required in scripture (neither is Advent or Christmas), the practice of Lent can enrich your worship and deepen your focus on the meaning of the cross and the victory of the resurrection. My guest Erin Moon takes us through the practice and purpose behind Lent and answers some common questions you might have about the practice of fasting during the Lenten season and more. I think as a culture we are so far away from being uncomfortable. We have put in every safeguard that we can think of for our comfort. And I think we are doing ourselves a massive disservice. Lent is based on Jesus' 40 days of fasting in the wilderness before he started his ministry. And so I think it's so good for us to deny ourselves the things that make us comfortable. Though much of the focus at Lent can be about fasting or denying something that distracts us from God, there is also place to feast on God’s Word and fill that emptiness with more of Him. These disciplines are meant to empty us so that the Lord may fill us. We are making ourselves available to Christ in hopes of growing our faith. When we get into a mindset closely related to Jesus as he fasted and prayed, we are getting closer to him. We are removing distractions. We're waiting, but we're not wasting our time. Lent begins this year on Wednesday, March 6 and continues for the 6 weeks leading up to Easter. Erin has created an in-depth guide for Lent that is perfect for beginners and for those who have observed it for many years. If you are unsure about Lent, I encourage you to take a moment and ask God if this is for you in your current season. If you have a friend who has observed Lent before, ask questions! Get curious. (Don’t Lent Alone!) Or, take a leap and try it out. There are so many spiritual disciplines and ways we can connect with God. If Lent helps you grow in God’s grace, then doit. But if it doesn’t, then don’t. I hope you enjoy our chat and connect with Erin on Instagram @erinhmoon for some of the most fun and funny Instagram Stories on the internet. She has a separate account you can follow for more about Lent: @OHeavyLightness. What we chat about: Erin’s background as a Southern Baptist and her transition to an Anglican tradition The liturgical calendar and rhythms of worship in the Anglican faith Lent’s background and the purpose of fasting Lent is based on Jesus' 40 days of fasting in the wilderness before he started his ministry Determining what to fast is about removing a distraction and then filling that space with something that brings you closer to Jesus The idea of both fasting and feasting Processing grief and anger through Lent Praying the hours during Lent Erin’s Lent study, Oh Heavy Lightness, A Guide for Lent and Holy Week (Use code MOM15 for 15% off) Lenten and Easter services like Palm Sunday and Tenebrae Services and the rhythm of daily prayers during Lent Connect with Erin:
February 18, 2019
When a friend or loved one receives a heartbreaking diagnosis, it’s hard to find the words to say or know what to do to love and support them. Today’s guest, Marissa Henley, has a unique perspective to share with us on how to support a friend with cancer. Marissa Henley is now cancer-free, but for several months her world was turned upside down with cancer treatments that took her away from her family made it impossible for her to care for her husband and three kids. She tells her cancer story and gives us a lot of practical advice to empower women to confidently and compassionately minister to their friends with cancer. I have sadly heard from other cancer survivors who hear me talk about this and they didn't have that same kind of support I did. And it just grieves me so much to hear. I get that we're all busy and it's difficult, but I do feel like it's so important for us as the body of Christ. This is part of our calling. If we belong to Christ, we don't just belong to him. We belong to each other. I think it's important that we try to foster relationships before these things happen and that we're preparing to be the body of Christ that we need to be to those who are hurting. She talks through different circles of friendship and how to determine what your role can be for a friend in need, tips for bringing meals and what to say (and not to say) to your friend with cancer. Marissa also highlights how key it is to ask God to show us what support role we can play for our friends before overcommitting or burning out. And one thing that I have seen in my own life and over and over again with other friends is that the Lord really does provide and he provides in a lot of different ways. And usually he is weaving together this tapestry of support to provide for our friends needs and we're just one thread. We don't even necessarily see all the other threads that he's using to meet those needs. So I think that it's good to pray and ask the Lord what your role should be. What we chat about: Marissa’s history with cancer and her surprise diagnosis with angiosarcoma Her prayer to beat the 5-year odds for her cancer How Marissa had to move to another city to get treatment The impact of her cancer treatment on her kids and what they remember now several years later The support her friends provided to her family during her health struggle Three circles of friendships: inner circle, middle circle and outer circle Fostering inner circle friendships and being aware of the margin we have in our lives Making specific offers of help with a time of day or specific tasks you can do to help is better than a general offer of help Tips for going the extra mile when bringing a meal Letting go of expectations of spending time with a friend when bringing them a meal God provides a tapestry support for friends in need and we are just one small piece of that Pray and ask God for what your role can be in supporting a friend to avoid burnout Finding the right words to say to a friend with cancer and not letting fear to keep you from being present with them When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent. Proverbs 10:19 Ask, “How are you today?” Connect with Marissa:      Links Mentioned: * In Light of Eternity:: Jenn Clouse [Ep 100]
February 11, 2019
Whether you’ve been married for a short time or you’re nearing a milestone anniversary, a healthy marriage takes a lot of work. A marriage is made up of thousands of small moments and habits that over time result in God-honoring, joyful marriage or a self-centered, strained marriage. Speaker and author Paul David Tripp joins me to lay the groundwork for how to cultivate healthy habits in our marriage and identify the ones that need to be uprooted. He shares what he’s learned in almost 50 years of marriage and how to look at our marriages in light of the gospel. What's a biblical view of marriage? Well, it's a sinner married to a sinner in a fallen world. Are you encouraged yet? But with a faithful God. Now that means we can't just coast in our marriage because there are things inside of me and things inside of my wife that are potentially destructive to marriage because we're not perfect people yet. And we live in a fallen world that is a threat to our marriage. Paul also calls us to take a new view of our spouse’s differences and see how God created us for unity, not uniformity. There is no call anywhere in the Bible to uniformity. The call is for unity. Unity is only ever needed in the face of difference... We have to stop making those differences a matter of right and wrong, If it's not named as sin by God, then it's just a difference and God actually glories in those differences because those differences point to his grandeur as a creator. I hope you are encouraged and equipped from this conversation to re-engage with your spouse with fresh faith for experiencing all that God has for you in your marriage. What we chat about: Marriages are made up of thousands and thousands of little moments The kind of relationship we have built in those moments determines how we handle the big moments We naturally structure our marriages around habits How to identify good and bad habits in your marriage Sin makes us self-focused and anti-social, but marriage is a covenant of community Helping our spouse access what God wants for them instead of arguing or nagging them We will always be working on our marriages. There is no place for coasting Confession and forgiveness can change the direction in disagreements Jesus did not just bare our guilt. He bore our shame God made us for unity, not for uniformity A look at why we are so vastly different from our spouse Even when we are formed into the image of Jesus, we will still be different from our spouse Tips for showing gratitude in your marriage and fostering joy The fruits of the Spirit are key for a good marriage If you are struggling in marriage, engage with community and your church family. Isolation is the enemy of a healthy marriage Connect with Paul David Tripp:      Links Mentioned: Gospel Parenting Paul David Tripp [Ep 176] * Opportunity vs. Disruption Paul David Tripp [Ep 212] * My Favorite Paul David Tripp Devotional: New Morning Mercies (Great gift for a spouse) * Sinners Married to Sinners Cheryl Scruggs and Jae Carpenter Ep 195
February 4, 2019
Even though it seems like you are never alone, motherhood can feel like a place of deep isolation. But it doesn’t have to stay that way. My guest Sally Clarkson shares her insight on how she learned to invite others into friendship and into her home to build a community of girlfriends in the midst of multiple moves and parenting four kids. I think finding really true, deep, godly friendships is hard. But I think that the more I realized that other women felt like I did, they felt insecure. They felt like they were failing. Sometimes they felt like they were isolated. And I realized that if I was ever going to have friends, I was going to have to reach out because it's rare that somebody comes to me and says, I want to be your friend. Whether you have recently moved to a new community or simply want to connect with more women in your own hometown, Sally shares so much practical wisdom and encouragement to be brave and invite others into your life so you won’t mom alone. Loved what she shared in how extroverts vs. introverts cultivate friendships.  We've got to fight for it because I feel like the home is disappearing. Relationships are disappearing. One-on-one is disappearing. And I feel like if God really wants us to show his love to the world, we've got to keep going and trying to find a way to love women and to care for them just to keep our own souls alive.  What we chat about: Sally’s story of coming to faith and inviting other women into friendship What she’s learned along the way about cultivating friendship How to keep going when no one you invite shows up Hospitable = taking care or considering the someone else’s needs We hope friendships will just happen, but we have to create ways for inviting people over Extroverts might choose to invite groups of women over and introverts can start with one or two Look for women who call you to your best self Fostering mentor relationships with women Don’t worry about having lots of playdates for your elementary-aged kids. Invest in friendship with your kids as a foundation. Making friends is a messy process and it doesn’t always mesh Jesus wanted us to go out into the world and love people Building a foundation with whoever you want to relate to with unconditional love and speaking words of affirmation in their lives You will have a legacy of relationships if you continue to cultivate life in such a way that relationships can be formed Managing disagreements between your kids to keep the lines of friendship open between them Connect with Sally:      Links Mentioned: * Don't Mom Alone Podcast Clubs * Loving Your Different Child -Sally Clarkson [Ep 149]  Girls' Club: Cultivating Lasting Friendship in a Lonely World [BOOK] Featured Sponsor: Paul David Tripp's Marriage Conference Every marriage is guided by a set of habits. The question is: Are they healthy habits that result in a God-honoring and joyful marriage, or are they bad habits that lead to a self-centered and strained marriage? In this new 4-lesson seminar, pastor, marriage counselor, and best-selling author Dr.
January 28, 2019
You’ve definitely heard about it. You’ve probably talked about it with girlfriends or you’ve read books or articles discussing the nine types, but what is the Enneagram all about and what does it mean for your motherhood? Suzanne Stabile joins us to share her motherhood story and a lot of information about the Enneagram, an ancient typology system that is finding new popularity as a tool that can transform the way you interact with others and understand yourself. The Enneagram is about how you see and you can never change how you see. All you can do is change what you do with how you see. And I think we expect other women to be more like us than they are. And I think we struggle to accommodate difference because when we're tired, insecure, amd over-committed, then we settle for sameness. But, there needs to be recognition that there's not one right way to do things. There's not one method to follow. There's not one way of being a mom. Suzanne is an internationally acknowledged Enneagram master. She has authored acclaimed books on the topic and has her own podcast that goes in-depth on the different types. But, as a believer and a mom of four adult children, she brings wisdom and perspective to parenting in light of the Enneagram. Parenting is really, really tricky. I don't think we ever know what the loudest voice in (our kids’) day is. Often it's not ours. And I think grace is covering all of us and it falls on all of us equally. There are moments when we just need to stand under that grace and with an open heart and pure intentions and do the best we know how to do for ourselves and for one another. We can’t possibly answer all of your Enneagram questions, but I hope this episode excites you for how this tool can bring unity and grace to relationships with your kids, with other moms and with your spouse. If you want to go deeper in learning about the Enneagram, Suzanne has you covered with her trainings and online resources available at her website. What we chat about: Suzanne’s family background and experience with divorce and living as a single parent of three. How she met her current husband of 31 years and her parenting journey. Enneagram types as they relate to mothering Type 3, 7 and 8 are aggressive numbers on the Enneagram. They think/do dominant and their challenge is to bring up feelings. How to use the Enneagram to unite moms and not increase divides The Enneagram is about how we see. We cannot change how we see, only what we do with what we see. Types 4, 5 and 9 are withdrawing numbers Types 1, 2 and 6 are dependent numbers Discussion of the nine types and how they act/react Your Enneagram number is determined by motivation and not by behavior It’s not a good idea to try and type your children on the Enneagram or to tell them what you think they are. Thinking of the Types as Animals: Ones are Worker Bees. Twos are Kangaroos. Threes are Eagles. Fours are Butterflies, Fives are Owls, Sixes are Bunny Rabbits. Sevens are Monkeys, Eights are Lions and Nines are Turtles. The three stances: aggressive, dependent and withdrawing. The triads: feeling, thinking and doing. Knowing more about the Enneagram won’t keep us from making mistakes Grace covers the places we fall short Connect with Suzanne:      Links Mentioned: The Enneagram Journey Podcast https://www.
January 21, 2019
When Karen Harmon found out she was unexpectedly pregnant at 40 with her third child, she had a lot of mixed emotions. With a history of autoimmune disease, her doctor advised her against her having more children. In the midst of processing her emotions surrounding the pregnancy and the fear of how her body would react, Karen experienced a rare complication that put her on crutches for the final three months of the pregnancy. In this place of extreme physical limitation, Karen felt stripped of any control of her life. I don't think I've ever actually been in that place with the Lord where there was literally no control. I had never had a crisis of faith, if you will. I had never been in that moment where I literally had to take my hands off the wheel and say, ‘I may not understand God, but I'm going to trust you anyway.’ In our conversation, Karen takes us through how praising God in the midst of her pain slowly changed her perspective about her situation. Every morning instead of crumbling in a pile of tears down on my knees for just the miserable life that I was living, I thought: 'God, I'm going to praise you for this and I will trust that you know exactly what you're doing and that your plan and your will is the best way. Better than anything I could plan anything I could think of. You will never waste anything and I'm going to trust you no matter what.' What we chat about: Karen’s background as a working, homeschooling mom and encouraging women to live out their giftings Her work speaking with Propel Women, traveling and feeling some independence at a mom of older kids The surprise of her third pregnancy and how she processed her emotions with God Her health journey with autoimmune diseases and her concerns about the pregnancy Another unexpected complication with the pregnancy that caused her to experience hip fractures How taking her pain to God and receiving the assignment to praise him in the midst of the pain and even for the pain made a huge difference Expressing our emotions honestly can bring freedom vs holding them inside Trusting God to increase your desire for his word and prayer even when you don’t feel like it As moms we can still be ministers in our daily life. We are called to be faithful servants of God in small, consistent ways The miracles and healing she experienced in the birth of her son and right after Postpartum depression and what worked in Karen’s experience Connect with Karen:      Links Mentioned: Propel Ministries * Episode with Jenn Jett: Featured Sponsor: Discipline that Connects Online Course by Connected Families Raising kids in today’s culture is harder than ever. Despite the vast array of resources and methods available, finding one that offers lasting solutions can be challenging. The Discipline That Connects online course stops that search. When you complete the 8-session course (30 minutes each session) you'll learn:  Four key messages that will shape what your children believe about themselves in a way that make them WANT to behave better. To communicate these four powerful messages in ways your kids can’t miss.
January 14, 2019
As parents, we want more of it, our children desperately need it, and oftentimes it feel like a mystery we can’t solve… it’s SLEEP. Getting children to have a consistent sleep pattern for night time and naps is one of the biggest challenge parents of young children face. My guests today, Robin and Jenn from SleepyCues, are professional sleep consultants. In this episode they share fantastic tips I wish I’d had when my kids were younger. We dive into the myths of sleep training and discuss strategies for staying consistent when responding to frequent wakers. People don't come to us out of a lack of information. You can find all this information for free on Google. But people come to us because they've “tried everything,” and it hasn't worked. And what that means is I read an article on Monday and I implemented it that night. But Tuesday I read something that said something different so I switched to that. Then Wednesday I decided to replace the paci, but Thursday I decided to unswaddle. We have so much information coming at us that really the missing piece is that consistency and making a plan and actually sticking with it. That's the hard part. Whether you are in the thick of it with small kids who won’t sleep, or have a friend who is, I hope this episode will encourage you that consistent sleep is possible for your children. It’s going to look different for each of your kids and it’s a lot of work, but hang in there and don’t mom alone! What we chat about: Meet the Sleepy Cues team- Robin Brient and Jenn Haskew Changing the narrative around the idea of sleep training Investigating various methods for soothing your children Each child is so different with what helps them get healthy rest How to identify if your child has specific sensory or physical needs with sleep Look at your child’s sleep needs as accomodations and not as coddling or crutches Swaddling methods and timelines for safe swaddling Co-sleeping recommendations and why coaching is key We can sabotage our efforts by constantly switching methods to try to get baby to sleep Try responding consistently to your child waking. Every time say or do the same thing till they surrender to sleep. How many hours of sleep kids need for restorative sleep Taking care of yourself is an important key to caring for your small children Baby wearing, slowing down schedules and reducing stimuli to increase sleep quality Seeking professional help for children with disabilities or sensory processing needs Strategies for taking care of a newborn when you have older kids Connect with SleepyCues:      Links Mentioned: Here are a few of SleepyCues favorite on-the-go products (they are not paid to promote these, truly their faves): Carriers: Ergobaby or Kindercarry
January 7, 2019
Priscilla Shirer has authored many books and Bible studies. She is a motivational speaker and evangelist and she founded Going Beyond Ministries with her husband Jerry. But in addition to the amazing opportunities God has opened for her in ministry, she is a mom of three boys ages 16, 14, and 10. Priscilla gets real in our chat about how she juggles motherhood and ministry and encourages moms that we all deal with the mundane parts of the job. I think people assume that I'm like sitting on a mountain top and praying and fasting about messages all the time, but no. I'm actually doing laundry and trying to figure out new ways to cook chicken for dinner because my kids eat incessantly. We talk about her upcoming movie, a great book series she wrote for kids ages 8 to 12 and about how she has processed the passing of her cousin Wynter Pitts who was also an author and speaker. And she reminds us not to mom alone, but to press into friendships with moms who will cheer you on and to give yourself a break when you need one. I would encourage that for women who are struggling, don't let your expectations make you disappointed and frustrated about your reality. Just do what works for you. If that means that you're using a crockpot most days and not making these gourmet meals that everybody else has got up on Instagram. Girl, use the crock pot… Relaxing your expectations and circling yourself with people who are cheerleading you can make all the difference. What we chat about: Following God as he opened the doors of ministry for Priscilla How she has balanced being a mom and an author, speaker and actress Her upcoming movie Overcomer which will release in August 2019 The background of her epic adventure fiction series The Prince Warriors and how it invites kids into the topic of spiritual warfare Letting our story be our story even when it looks different than our expectations and giving ourselves grace The value of surrounding yourself with friends who will cheer you as you follow after God’s plans for your life How she has processed grief with the sudden death of her cousin Wynter Pitts Avoiding comparison in our mom journeys and in how we grieve Connect with Priscilla:      Links Mentioned: Movies: War Room ( ) & Overcomer ( The Prince Warriors Boxed Set **  The Armor of God Bible Study by Priscilla Shirer** It’s Almost Wynter video by Jonathan Evans: **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Featured Sponsor: Discipline that Connects Online Course by Connected Families Raising kids in today’s culture is harder than ever. Despite the vast array of resources and methods available,
December 17, 2018
In this clip (from a previously recorded video) we go beyond the fact that you are 'not alone in shame'. Sheila offers hope and Truth to remind you that Christ took the shame so you can walk in freedom. 'Mercy' is a short word that weighs so much. . . Jesus came to give us life, not survival. As the author of the new book, "It's Okay Not to be Okay", Sheila shares her journey to release the grip of shame. To embrace what Christ had done for her on the cross. And shares how she keeps Truth-daggers ready change her internal dialogue. She also reminds us that God can be trusted with our honest thoughts. Step one is dare to have an unedited gut level conversation with God. We feel like we need certain words or attitudes with God. But we can let it all out. To the level we are able to be honest with God is the level with which we can trust him. In this clip of our video chat, Sheila answers a listener's question: Has shame always surfaced as depression?  Or are there other ways it has appeared? This conversation was recorded as a part of our Not Alone Community for our November focus on "shame". What is the 'Not Alone Community?' The Not Alone Community is where you can connect with other moms. Find focused transformation on a different topic each month with curated podcast episodes, articles and resources. And join Heather and a mentor on live video chats. And also get access to the library of past mentor conversations. This month Heather has created a Spiritual Growth Guide to help you establish a morning habit, know what to study, how to study and how to pray. She will be inviting Kat Lee (her morning mentor!) on December 13th at 10am to answer your questions. Connect with Sheila: * Website * Facebook * Instagram * Twitter Links mentioned: * It's Okay Not to Be Okay** by Sheila Walsh * Shame and Grace: Healing the Shame We Don't Deserve** by Lewis Smedes * Dan Allender * Loved Back to Life: How I Found the Courage to Live Free** by Sheila Walsh Have a wonderful Christmas and a Happy New Year! The Don't Mom Alone Podcast will be back with new episodes on January 7th.
December 10, 2018
Back in October I recorded a video chat with my good friend, Kay Wyma, on the topic of overwhelm. I've decided to share some of it with y'all in the midst of the holiday crazy. Get ready for some fabulous truth bombs like: In the world’s economy your identity is achieved. In God’s economy your identity is received. As the author of the new book, "Not the Boss of Us", Kay reminds us that we get to choose what we allow to overwhelm us. Be loved by Whose you are not 'who' you are. In Isaiah 43 the Lord God says, 'I know you, You are mine. I know your name. . .' He is Lord over all. He sees all. Can I receive that? Have my tank filled with that? In this clip of our video chat, Kay answers one listener's question about overwhelm: Do you have any encouragement for managing the to do lists and yet still engaging with our children in spending meaningful time with them? This conversation was recorded as a part of our Not Alone Community for our October focus on "overwhelm". What is the 'Not Alone Community?' The Not Alone Community is where you can connect with other moms. Find focused transformation on a different topic each month with curated podcast episodes, articles and resources. And join Heather and a mentor on live video chats. And also get access to the library of past mentor conversations. This month Heather has created a Spiritual Growth Guide to help you establish a morning habit, know what to study, how to study and how to pray. She will be inviting Kat Lee (her morning mentor!) on December 13th at 10am to answer your questions. Connect with Kay: * Website * Facebook * Instagram * Twitter Links mentioned: * Not the Boss of Us: Putting Overwhelm in its Place in a Do-All, Be-All World** by Kay Wyma Other questions answered in the full chat with Kay available in Not Alone Community Video Archive:  How do you determine which practices to engage in and those to let go? How do you discern where to put your energy? My pastor told us parents that it’s our #1 job to help bring our children to faith. To help them learn to love our God, to walk with Him. After church my son tells me how he doesn’t believe, he hates church, it’s a waste of time, and all the other defying hurtful things he could think of. I straight up ugly cried in my room when we got home. I know I need to love on my son harder when he acts out but during this time I felt like a complete failure. Completely overwhelmed by the fact that the devil has his grips on my sweet boy and I don’t know what do to or where to turn.
December 3, 2018
The holidays are here and often that means family gatherings. While it can be a joyful time, it can also be a place of pain as we fall into unintended conflict or feel the sting of old woundings from those we love the most. But, there IS hope for healing and reconciliation. And we CAN connect to God’s deep, sacrificial love for help to love our family. Church planter, pastor and mom of four Andi Andrew takes us into her journey of forgiving her mom and learning how God made us for reconciliation. The change has to begin in our own hearts. I think a lot of times with reconciliation and with some of these friendships that have been reconciled, what I've had to always deal with my own heart first. So then when you do come to the table, you're not still throwing your own stuff at people. Then you can walk them through  what I realized about yourself and I apologize. Andi shares candidly about how motherhood and several stretching seasons of life brought a lot of things to the surface she needed to process with God. We also chat about reconciling close female relationships and managing unspoken expectations in friendships. It starts with choosing to listen to who God says we are instead of what the world is saying. I've had to let love define who I am, not what people say, not what my past is, not what I've walked through, not how love has been manipulated in the past, but to look to love and ask, who do you say that I am? What we chat about: Andi’s family and her background for how she became a church planter The big plot twists in Andi’s early years and how she encountered God’s love tangibly Her experience of having three kids under the age of three How God walked her through forgiving her mom The concept of Soul Ties and how to release another person to God and find reconciliation Reconciliation happens in the constant bumping into each other. Even when it’s uncomfortable How having kids reveals your need for healing When we feel the need to control situations, there is something God wants to do in us Reconciling close female relationships and the hard place of unspoken expectations Jesus models friendship in how he related to the disciples We don’t need a ton of close friends. Jesus was closest to three disciples. The importance of the church as the body of Christ and living in community Love is sacrificing and laying down your life for another Learning to recognize when we are listening to the world vs listening to God How to turn away from anxious, fearful thoughts and toward God’s love Avoiding family conflicts in the holidays and asking earnest questions to expose Connect with Andi:      Links Mentioned: Fake or Follower ** * She is Free** * Parks and Recreation Season 4** * Enneagram book The Road Back to You** (Andi is a 9w8, Heather is a 4w3). **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Not Alone Community--Spiritual Growth Guide If you are looking to grow spiritually in 2019, then I'd love to help you!
November 26, 2018
KJ Perdomo isn’t a mom (yet). But as a daughter, she has experienced a what seems like a lifetime’s worth of pain and rejection. She shares her story of loss and brokenness and about the bullying she experienced growing up. But it doesn’t stop there. God pursued her through an aunt who adopted her and a timely invitation to church when she was contemplating suicide, then again through a community of believers in college who radically loved her and helped her hear God. Through her own story of redemption, KJ found a passion for connecting others to revival and for discipling people to hear God’s voice instead of the world’s. It is not worth my time to dwell on and think about a thought that was not from the Lord. There's a verse that says we need to take our thoughts captive. The original context literally means to capture and interrogate our thoughts... It's not worth your time to believe anything less than what heaven is speaking about you. KJ’s story will fire you up to see revival in your own family and communities as we seek to follow Jesus’ example. We have to be people who radically live for the Lord. And it seems funny, but what we think is radical, Jesus really called normal. Since he shared himself with everyone, that should be our normal, right? Because Jesus only did what he saw the Father do. So we should do what we see Jesus do. What we chat about: KJ’s story of family brokenness, adoption and growing up learning about Jesus Her struggle with self worth during her school years and the effects of bullying in her life Hearing God for yourself and helping your children learn to hear God is so important KJ’s experience growing closer to God in college How community pressing into God on KJ’s behalf made a powerful impact on her Learning to hear the voice of God Taking every thought captive and how to interrogate your thoughts to see if they are from God It's not worth your time to believe anything less than what heaven is speaking about you Opting into community with other believers and how it can be messy, but worth it Seeking revival for our communities and for us personally Revival starts with reconciliation Believing the truth of who God says you are and that he can heal your deep heart wounds To see revival in the world and in our families we have to be willing to be the hands and feet of Jesus Living radically for Jesus and sharing our faith The nuts and bolts of modern-day discipleship Asking the right questions to point people back to Jesus Connect with KJ:   Links Mentioned: * William Lane Craig * The Lost Art of Disciple Making** * A Guide for Listening and Inner-Healing Prayer by Rusty Rustenbach** * Group Heather mentioned, the "Spiritual Authority Cohort" by CRM Leaders * Freedom Tools by Andy Reese** * Can You Hear Me: Tuning Into the God Who Speaks by Brad Jersak** **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Featured Sponsor: Prep Dish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table.
November 19, 2018
Tommy Nelson serves as the pastor of Denton Bible Church in Denton, Texas. He's a husband, father, best-selling author, and well-known speaker. But not too long ago he walked through an unexpected journey of depression and anxiety that stemmed from overcommitting in his job. Stretched too thin, his body and mind began to break down under the strain. My mind couldn't stay focused. I lost 20 pounds and got to where I couldn't work out. I would just put myself to sleep at night on some kind of medication and then I would jolt awake in the morning and go through the day unable to relax. All I could do was pray and just try to make it through the day. It's scary, you know, you can't define it. Tommy shares about his path to healing after identifying why he was feeling the effects of anxiety and depression. He also shared about the role his wife played in praying for him and keeping his faith up in the midst of the storms. When you're going through this the whole world is made of salt and you're an open wound. Everything can be painful. And I remember her just laying on the bed with me and putting her arms around me… Just knowing that she was there meant so much. She would fuss at me, but in a good way, you know, she'd keep my faith up. If you or your spouse have experienced anxiety or depression in the past, or even today, there is encouragement for you in this episode! Tommy also shares about a 4-hour teaching he has available for streaming right now online. The Journey Through Depression & Anxiety Click Here to buy live stream access to the conference, The Journey Through Depression and Anxiety. If you have never heard of The Hub before, it's your best source for Bible Studies, Online Resources, and Live Christian events. You can tune in to some of the most anticipated live events of the year from the comfort of your own home or church. You can learn more at under the "Live Events" tab. Check it out!" What we chat about: Tommy’s backstory of overwork and his physical/mental breakdown because of it How proper care and medication helps level the playing field with depression and anxiety The importance of protecting your mornings and protecting your evenings and balancing your schedule How spouses can support each other when depression or anxiety strikes No on goes through life without stressful situations. Sometimes God uses these times in to stretch us How vital sleep and relaxation are for your body to restore itself God is not a genie. Healing takes time and trusting in God’s goodness Staying strong in the word and strengthening yourself in the Lord can Sometimes the struggle with depression and anxiety can bring you closer to God For the unbelieving husband has been sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife has been sanctified through her believing husband. 1 Corinthians 7:14 Praying out loud for your spouse is powerful Connect with Tommy: Links Mentioned: * Morning and Evening by Charles Spurgeon BOOK: Walking on Water When You Feel Like You're Drowning: Finding Hope in Life's Darkest Moments**  Hope for Life Ministries with Steve Leavitt www.
November 12, 2018
This week’s guest Janay Wilborn is a mom of two kiddos who are just 20 months apart. She shares a lot of hope for moms of multiple children and moms who are transitioning from one kid to two. You have such overwhelming love for your first child and you wonder how could I possibly have the same level of capacity for another one? That's where God is amazing because his love is limitless and he puts this limitless love inside of us as parents. As we answer some of your questions about parenting young children and the transitions in motherhood, Janay shares some remedies to the mom guilt that tries to steal our joy and about the best way to teach our kids about Jesus. (hint: it’s not a specific Bible study or theology cards) We round out our conversation with some tips about connecting with your spouse during the little years of parenting with date strategies to keep the fun in your marriage. Janay also shares with vulnerability and openness about the need to grieve the things you lose when you become a mom. You have to recognize as a mom that what you're doing with your kids is super valuable, but it's okay to miss what you used to do. And I think when you acknowledge that it helps you value what you're doing even more. What we chat about: Janay’s experience as a mom of two and the transition to caring for a baby and a toddler God has endless love to help us love our kids Engaging with older kids when you have a newborn Connection time with our kids is more important than our task lists Perspective on how quickly we go through the various stages with our kids. What is hard now will not be in the future! Mom guilt and the fear that we’re not a good enough mom How the constant comparison of social media contributes to bad mom self-esteem The biggest way to teach your children about Jesus is the way you live Transitioning to motherhood and grieving the loss of what you lose as a mom Remembering that the time we have with little ones is precious Connecting with your husband during the little years of parenting The importance of sexual intimacy for a healthy marriage  Date strategies and how to get back to the fun you had when you were just dating Recognize that what you are doing as a mom is valuable Connect with Janay:      Links Mentioned: * Discipline & Toddlers -- Hailey Bain & Meredith Woodruff * For the Mom with Lots of Littles -- Hanni Go **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Featured Sponsor: Prep Dish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss!
November 5, 2018
Sandi Patty is Christian music icon who provided the soundtrack to a lot of my youth. She’s an inspiration on and off the stage. In our interview, she opens up about a lot of struggles she’s had in her past and the fears and shame she’s carried for a long time. I'm just being very real with you about how even now at 62, I'm still processing the 'should haves'. You know, I often say, ‘I should’ to myself. You know, I should've done this. I should've done that. I should have. She shares the freedom she’s still finding in learning to focus on what God says about her identity as a wife, mother and as an artist. And about how connecting with God through community and counseling have made all the difference for her. As a mom of eight grown kids from a blended family, Sandi does not mom alone! Finally, Sandi shares what a huge impact it made for her when she really grasped that God not only loves her, He likes her too. A friend told me once that God likes me. Really. If he was giving a party, he'd give you an invitation. If he had a refrigerator, your picture would be on it. Like he likes you. He delights in you. And you know, there's a lot of people that we think of that we love, but we may not necessarily like. It really connected for me because I would think, yeah, of course he loves me. But he's God, that's his job. But that he likes me. That's really cool. What we chat about: Sandi’s blended family which includes eight kids It’s ok to have two oldests or two youngests in a blended family Acknowledging that every blended family is born out of loss Sandi’s family background and her experience with sexual abuse How Bible Study Fellowship played a big role in helping her connect with God’s word The important role that counseling can play in healing from trauma How sharing your story truthfully and openly can bring healing Every day in your marriage isn’t going to be perfect and it’s ok to model that for your kids Processing an injury her son had almost 30 years ago and how Sandi has carried the guilt of that incident Motherhood brings feeling of guilt and shame to the surface God loves and worries more about our kids than we ever could Learning to believe the truth that God loves each of us (and likes us too!) You cannot get shame off of you without help God’s word is our biggest tool against fear and doubt Connect with Sandi:      Links Mentioned: * Bible Study Fellowship -- find a group in your area or do the study online The Voice: Listening for God’s Voice and Finding Your Own** Broken on the Back Row** **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Featured Sponsor: Prep Dish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...
October 29, 2018
Candace Cameron Bure is an actress, producer, New York Times bestselling author, beloved by millions worldwide from her role as D.J. Tanner on the iconic family sitcoms Full House and Fuller House and of course Hallmark Channel movies. (Christmas is coming and she has a new one coming out Nov. 25) But, she’s also a mom of three children ages 16 to 20 and an outspoken Christian in the entertainment industry. She shares what it was like to grow up working in entertainment and the values her parents passed on to her. And about how she walks out her faith now as a busy working actress, a career she returned to after choosing to be a stay-at-home mom for 10 years. Now sometimes I literally have to roll out of my bed and onto my knees every morning and start my day. I don't feel connected if I don't do that. But throughout my day I'm constantly having conversations with God. It might just be under my breath asking Jesus to help me because I want to snap at that person right now or I'm going to lose it with my son who just talked back to me. It's a constant dialogue and I trust that he hears me. We talk about her new children’s book “Candace Center Stage” and how it focuses on the values of hard work and courage, especially for our strong-willed children. It’s very reflective of my own life growing up and the lessons that I've really tried to instill in my own children. Like don't be afraid to fail just because you'll never know what you're capable of unless you try. And don't be afraid to work hard at it. If you quit too early you may not realize how good you can be and if you're not, that’s OK. You can pick something else, but you’ve got to try. As she takes us into her world, she talks through how she stays calm and kind under pressure and lives for Jesus as she juggles the roles and the callings God has put on her life. I want to be that influencer for positivity and kindness and showing my love for Jesus. And I would love for people to know Jesus because of me because I've shared a good word. What we chat about: Candace’s strong foundation from her own parents Fostering a good work ethic in your kids without pressuring to perform for your love and approval Candace’s family and what her older children are up to How she and her husband share the responsibilities of raising their children Maintaining balance with changing priorities and calls on your time Learning to say “No” without feeling bad about it It’s really more about juggling priorities and trusting that God partners with us as we make decisions Candace’s walk with the Lord and how she lives out her faith in San Francisco Praying throughout the day and how Candace talks with God through all she does How to work with people who have anti-Christian sentiments and responding with kindness What it was like growing up in the entertainment industry Her new children’s book Candace Center Stage and the background on why she wrote it * Preparing for the teenage years now and looking forward to them Connect with Candace:      Links Mentioned: Candace Center Stage** **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Not Alone Community
October 22, 2018
For day two of Don’t Mom Alone Live, Jim and Lynne Jackson are back to talk all about relationships and answer listener questions. If you’ve ever felt like a bad parent because of your child’s disobedience or struggle to referee the sibling arguments and fights in your home, this episode is for you! The Jackson’s share their Peace process and how to be confident before God in how you are parenting. It's not a sprint, it's a marathon. So we need to have confidence in our ability to be peaceful and not let this child's behavior define me or tell me that I'm a bad parent. And have the long-term view that God can do anything in a child's life as I persevere in encouraging and teaching and training. They share great practicals for blended families and for how to navigate parenting when you and your spouse or co-parent aren’t on the same page. We also dive into teaching your children empathy and social cues as a way to foster great friendships. In the end, our goal can be to equip our kids to be conduits of God’s grace to the world both through their relationships with others, but it starts with their relationship with us. When I thought about that the kind of relationships in life that Jesus bought for our kids on the cross, not just with each other but whatever relationships they'd have. I just had this image of "trickle down grace" starting from the cross and just trickling down through us to our kids and then out to the world and our kids. We can grow to become profound dispensers of grace in life to others. What we chat about: Getting feedback about our kids that makes you feel like a “bad parent” Keeping the long-view when you are training your children There is a dramatic increase in anxiety and depression in children, teens and young adults. It is five to eight times greater than it was 50 years ago. What to do when you and your spouse aren’t on the same page with parenting Ask penetrating questions when your spouse is struggling to parent in kindness. “What are you hoping our kids will learn right now?” Blended family dynamics and how to co-parent well You are building trust with your kids and when you are confident before God in how you are parenting, you can be at peace with how someone else is parenting Ask kids: What do you want to tell me about how you’re feeling and how your time went? Sibling rivalry and how conflict is an opportunity to teach our children how to reconcile The Peace Process the Jackson’s teach: Calm > Understand > Solve > Celebrate Celebrating that your kids reconciled is an important step to future success When your kids feel encouraged and successful when working through conflict, you can see the momentum begin to change Learning empathy as a family and equipping your kids to be more successful in friendship Quick connects with individually with your kids can be more effective than playing with them for longer periods. Find ways to show that you delight in who they are! Use mission trips and giving back to the community as your vacation/connection time as a family Connect with Jim & Lynne Jackson:      Links Mentioned: * Previous Episodes with Jim & Lynne -- Ep 80 , Ep 81,
October 15, 2018
For the first part of our 2018 Don’t Mom Alone live event, Jim and Lynne Jackson, co-founders of Connected Families, joined me & my husband Bruce to answer listener questions about discipline and how to use their framework for biblically-based parenting. We share lots of stories of how we have failed as parents and learned along the way. But then I started to realize maybe my humility was my greatest currency for influence to help her learn the lessons and the values and the things that mattered most… Our kids need to know we're not perfect. They need to know that we'll come back to them and say, ‘Hey I blew it. I'm sorry. Would you forgive me?’ And get back to reconciliation in those relationships. -- Jim Jackson. So good! Jim and Lynne talk us through the parenting framework they’ve developed and redefining how we view discipline with our kids. Ultimately, it comes down to connecting with their hearts and leading them to Jesus instead of trying to control their behavior. We can help kids embrace the wisdom of the righteous. And that really prepares the way for the Lord to come in our family in a strong way. Because in today's day and age with all the craziness that's going on, these kids need a form of discipline that's not just about punitive correction but that's about a whole way of life that teaches our kids how to be followers of Jesus. -- Lynne Jackson And it’s not just vision for how we want to parent, the Jacksons also share some super practical tips and give us some ways to respond to our defiant, strong-willed or sensitive kids. What we chat about: The basis for Jim and Lynn’s parenting framework How do you parent proactively instead of reactively when you feel like you're just surviving minute What is our goal in parenting? Is it immediate obedience from our children or fostering their ability to make wise choices? Bringing God’s grace into our messy moments Why connecting with God is so essential to how we parent Go into a situation asking, “Lord, what is the opportunity here?” Helping our kids build wisdom instead of feeling the need to express our disappointment when they mess up Trusting that our kids really want to do better Separating behavior from identity in our kids Humility and apologizing well may be our greatest currency as a parent The idea of a parent do-over Tips for parents of younger kids and encouragement for parenting kids who bite or hit We tend to think of behavior as either all good or all bad When our goal is to control their behavior, it doesn’t build trust You don’t have to be mean to be strong as a parent Big, loud, and loving energy can make a big difference in the middle of conflict Luke 1:17- "And he will go on before the Lord, in the spirit and power of Elijah, to turn the hearts of the parents to their children and the disobedient to the wisdom of the righteous—to make ready a people prepared for the Lord.” Strong-willed kids and the importance of calling out their giftings and how God made them Sometimes it’s sensitive and intense children are labeled as strong-willed Psalm 73:21-24 "When my heart was grieved and my spirit embittered, I was senseless and ignorant; I was a brute beast before you. Yet I am always with you; you hold me by my right hand. You guide me with your counsel, and afterward you will take me into glory." Connect with Jim & Lynne Jackson:   
October 8, 2018
Tricia Goyer is an author, speaker and homeschooling mom of ten. She also knows what it's like to parent children with chronic anger. If you've ever felt alone in how to calm your "angry kid(s)," Tricia has a lot of wisdom to share from parenting both biological and adopted children. In true Don't Mom Alone fashion, Tricia and I answer several listener questions about how to respond in love and help kids of all ages process their anger and emotions. We talk about how much harder it is for the current generation of moms who have to factor in busier schedules, social media and more as a part of their children's environments My oldest is 29 and my youngest is 8. It is so much harder now. I feel like I'm on the second generation of kids. Now there is social media. There is more television. There are more video games. The access that they have to all these things brings so much anxiety and tension. Not only do they have to go to school, but then they would come home and see on social media that people were talking about them. It's just so much more involved now even than it was when I had my first generation of kids. But it's not impossible! Tricia shares so many great practical tips and suggestions for how to help our kids (and ourselves) work through anger in a healthy way. But beyond all the tips, it all comes down to leaning into God and praying for the Holy Spirit to fill them that will make the biggest difference. It's really the Holy Spirit in them and the fruit of the Spirit is God in them that's going to change them. I could try all these activities. You know, we could do calming bags or coping skills. I mean we do all the things too. But really it is God in them. And the more they lean on God and the more they depend on him that they'll truly change. What we chat about: Tricia's family, career and unique calling as an adoptive parent Her new book, Calming Angry Kids Determining if your child is struggling with how to process anger in a healthy way Giving our kids time, attention and praise is a powerful antidote to anger Everyone gets mad, what we do with the anger makes the difference When they are in the middle of the emotions, it's not the time to discipline them Kids learn to apologize when we model it for them Anger is often a secondary emotion from a deeper wounding like shame or feeling unloved or anxiety Family schedules are busier than ever before and it heightens anxiety in kids and parents Take time to process emotions with your kids and say "No" to more activities or events if they need a break Tricia shares both how we can process our own anger and how to help our angry kids The idea of an anger log to help track anger over time Calming bags and items you can include in them Give your kids time and space to calm down Specific tips for pre-teens and teens and helping them with anger and hormones Connect with Tricia:      Links Mentioned: Calming Angry Kids: Help and Hope for Parents in the Whirlwind ** Prayer Journals Big Kids ** Little Kids ** An Interview with Tricia Goyer {GCM Podcast Ep. 7} How to Discern God's Will Stick With It :: Tric...
October 1, 2018
We’ve all been there. Your kid throws a fit in public and you feel the sting of embarrassment and the subtle lie that you aren’t a good enough mom. You fear what others will say and feel like the entire day is ruined in this one encounter. My guest Elyse Fitzpatrick has lived in this place of fear and presents another way to view your worth as a mother -- resting in the righteousness of Jesus. She shares about the very common and subversive idols of motherhood to slip in when we try to control our children’s performance. But see that's absolutely soul destroying because you either end up in fear and despair or pride and despair. That's where you always end up when you're living for your own righteousness. So in the days that I can lay down and in bed at night and say, ‘Yeah nailed it,’ then I am in pride. If you’ve struggled to feel “OK” in your own power or have found your personal joy tethered to your kids’ behavior, this episode is for you. Elyse gives us the simple reminder that we have the power through Jesus to topple the idols in our life. I began to understand this is really idolatry and I'm driving my kids insane trying to prove that I'm really an OK person. That I'm OK when they're good and I'm a complete train wreck and bad and a loser when they're not. But, when Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, then idols lose their power to entice us. What we chat about: Elyse’s blended family structure and her son’s adoption The balance of the disciplinarian and the more fun parent Insecurity about our own faith and the lie of trying to control our kids The danger of looking for identity in the way our kids behave Looking for the places in our lives where we feel afraid, angry or worried as a barometer for where we aren’t believing God Identifying idols in our lives and what they can look like How our children make us look or feel in front of others can bring up anger in us Elyse’s relationship with her mother and the background of her perceived need for control When Jesus becomes who he should be in our lives, our idols lose their power Not letting our joy be tethered to our kids’ behavior, or even our behavior Our self-centered struggle to feel “OK” in our own power How living for our own self righteousness leads to a soul destroying cycle of pride and despair Resting in the righteousness of Christ and remembering we are forgiven Connect with Elyse:   Links Mentioned: * Front Porch with the Fitzes Podcast * Give Them Grace: Dazzling Your Kids with the Love of Jesus by Elyse M. Fitzpatrick ** * The Expulsive Power of a New Affection by Thomas Chalmers** * No Other Gods Bible Study Book by Kelly Minter** **Amazon affiliate link. A small portion of your purchase will help produce this podcast. Not Alone Community Are you looking for more support in your motherhood? We have good news! You can become a member of the Not Alone Community and connect with people and resources to help you feel less alone. As a member you get: * Special access to Heather doing video interviews (archived and live) * Curated content on each month's topic (in October--'Not Alone in Overwhelm') * past podcast episodes * articles written by Heather * book list
September 24, 2018
It's all too easy slip into believing lies over God’s truth. My guest today shares that healing is possible and opens up about her personal healing journey from both physical and emotional abuse and chronic illness. An author, radio host, and national speaker, Susie Larson, talks about how intertwined our emotional, spiritual, and physical health are. We talk through stories that are in her new book, "Fully Alive", and she shares about some powerful experiences she’s had with the Lord. “The Lord whispered through the chaos in my bathroom. The storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth we need. The enemy's railing and saying I'm going to get you. I've got you by the throat and I felt like my throat was starting I could swallow and my esophagus was spasming. It's just horrifying to hear the whisper again. Storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth who need.” There’s so much hope and truth in this episode for all of us who are believing for healing this side of heaven. For more inspiration from Susie, I highly recommend her book, "Fully Alive"**, which is available for pre-order right now. What we chat about: Susie’s experiences with abuse both physical and emotional How our bodies hold onto trauma and hindrances to the healing process Storms reveal the lies we believe and the truth we need The idea of blessing guilt and surrendering to God for healing The lie of learned helplessness and the truth that we’re not helpless with Jesus Rejecting the lies of the enemy and addressing unbeliefs in our soul Confronting the scar tissue of our past and the life that’s on the other side of it God absolutely heals and it isn’t specifically a lack of faith that keeps us from receiving healing Jesus entered in to other’s pain and suffering, that’s our calling too The dangers of over medication and distraction that can keep us from being healed The integral role of rest in the healing process Links Mentioned: The Uncommon Woman * Fully Alive: Learning to Flourish--Mind, Body, & Spirit** * Your Powerful Prayers** **Amazon affiliate link to help support the production of this podcast. Transcription: Download by Clicking Here Featured Sponsors: Songfinch Songfinch is a personalized gifting platform that brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. It’s the perfect, unique gift for weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, Newborns and many more of life’s special occasions. Special coupon code: GODCENTEREDMOM get $20 off your personalized song Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepa...
September 17, 2018
So much of the Old Testament in the Bible is devoted to the traditions and celebrations of the Jewish faith. It is all a part of the rich heritage that Jesus was born into and the prophecies he fulfills. As Christians, we often skim over the Jewish feasts and traditions and focus on the New Testament. My friend Amber Lee shares why we should all consider celebrating one or more of the traditional Jewish feasts and how the rhythm of pausing and celebrating the Lord’s provision can be a life-giving practice for you and your family. For me it's a gift that the Lord continues to unfold. It's like a dad saying, ‘Hey, here's a way to live life better. Here's something that is better for your soul. If you would just pause the crazy rat race that you're running for just a minute, for just two hours, and talk with people that you love about what's going on.’ We talk about the various feasts and about the practice of keeping the Sabbath. But, more importantly, we acknowledge that participating in these traditions is not about being a better Christian or another thing to put on your to do list. It’s really about intentionally pausing life to celebrate God and inviting others into that celebration. And in each of the feasts, there's this foreshadowing of bringing in the Gentile or bringing in the outsider. I think it's just beautiful and the Lord saying it was always my intent to include everyone. What we chat about: How and why Amber started celebrating feasts The biblical background of Jewish feasts and how Jesus interacted with them It’s about pausing and celebrating how the Lord has provided The names and differences between the various feasts The way the feasts were meant to include outsiders and Gentiles Learnings about Jewish traditions and observing the Sabbath The Sabbath is really about pausing with intention and processing life with the Lord All about the feast of Pentecost and how the layers of prophecy fulfillment enrich the understanding of all that Jesus did How to start with Jewish feasts and tips for starting in small ways Links Mentioned: * Website to learn more --> Hebrew4Christians * Celebrating Jesus and the Biblical Feasts** * Celebrating Biblical Feasts** **Amazon affiliate link to help support the production of this podcast. Featured Sponsors: Songfinch Songfinch is a personalized gifting platform that brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. It’s the perfect, unique gift for weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, Newborns and many more of life’s special occasions. Special coupon code: GODCENTEREDMOM get $20 off your personalized song Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...
September 10, 2018
Many of us avoid and struggle with conversations about race or disabilities because it’s uncomfortable. When our children ask innocent questions about someone who is different than they are, it can make us feel tongue tied or embarrassed. Author Dorena Williamson has created some lovely children’s books to help parents respond and invite their children to join them on the journey of learning to love and speak worth over every person that God created. And I kept feeling frustrated thinking that's not the solution to teach your children to be colorblind because that's minimizing the beauty of God's handiwork. And as Christians we should be the biggest proponents of celebrating the beauty of our racial diversity and not minimizing it or sort of washing it away and this colorblind land. She shares powerfully about how to engage with your children about racial and cultural differences and how we can model what it looks like to grow in the area of loving and accepting people who are different than us. As our children get older, I think that these are valuable conversations to have with them because the beauty of it is that it tells your children you are teachable and that you don't get it right all the time and that you're continuing to learn and grow. What we chat about: All about Dorena’s family and their multiracial church, Strong Tower Bible Church Her book ColorFull and the background behind why she wrote it The creativity of God and how he uses color in all that he created Looking for opportunities to share the beauty of racial differences with our children Language for parents to use to help teach children and avoid shaming Reinforcing the idea that “Different is not bad” and calling out the worth of people Why equipping kids early is important Modeling how we are all growing when it comes to loving and accepting people who are different than us Encouraging our children to ask questions even when they are uncomfortable Engaging with our kids about other cultures whether we can travel internationally or experience cultures in our own cities Connect with Dorena:   Links Mentioned: * ColorFull: Celebrating the Colors God Gave Us** * ThoughtFull : Discovering the Unique Gifts in Each of Us** Other books/sites that Dorena recommends:  * site with helpful resources (created by a Godly woman Dr. Lucretia Berry) * The Beatitudes by Carole Boston Weatherford * The Other Side  by Jacqueline Woodson * * A list of 28 picture books (aren't about boycotts, buses or basketball)  --listed created by ScottWood **Amazon affiliate link to help support the production of this podcast. Featured Sponsors: Songfinch Songfinch is a personalized gifting platform that brings your stories,
September 4, 2018
Contemporary Christian musicians Chris Rademaker and Jodi King followed God’s call to pursue a musical adventure as the husband-wife duo Love & The Outcome. They share their experiences of selling their home, walking through grief, newlywed life on the road as musicians and their transition into parenting. Jodi especially talks through how she leans on the Holy Spirit in her parenting, managing expectations and other people’s reactions. I've had to learn how to just know the Holy Spirit. So in the moments when we're in public and I'm parenting, I focus on Him. It's so easy to turn and see everyone else's reaction to what I just did was or I can just try and do my best to really listen to the Holy Spirit in the moment so that I can feel confident in my decisions. I love how Chris and Jodi open up about playing shows and bringing their two young sons Milo and Ziggy along for the ride. There’s so much encouragement for moms of littles in this episode, including letting our standards slip a little so we can still experience community even if it’s messy and involves take-out food instead of handcrafted meals. Maybe it's just a season. But maybe it's forever. I don't really know what the Lord has. But letting go of some of my ideals has been so good. I have to acknowledge that I have a 2.5-year-old and a 1-year-old. Life looks like this right now, and it is the dream if I choose to be present to it and enjoy it. What we chat about: When Jodi and Chris met and started a touring band Their Enneagram types and how they work together as a couple How the Lord directed their path through grief and loss Parenting and challenges that come when touring with kids Dwelling in the Holy Spirit to make decisions Transitions in parenting and learning to lean into the Holy Spirit vs worrying what others think The concessions you make to connect with community when you are in a busy season Freeing yourself up from pre-conceived plans of what life “should” look like A new way to look at living the dream and choosing to be present in what your life is like now Connect with Love & the Outcome:   (You should follow them on IG. . .cutest pics and Jodi is drops some serious encouragement!) Links Mentioned: * The God I Know music video * The King of My Heart music video * He is With Us music video * L&TO albums: These Are the Days** &  Love & The Outcome** **Amazon affiliate link to help support the production of this podcast. Featured Sponsors: Songfinch Songfinch is a personalized gifting platform that brings your stories, feelings and memories to life through one-of-a-kind songs from scratch. Using your unique stories along with your desired genre, vocalist gender and song moods, they curate the perfect professional songwriter to handcraft the most personal gift you can give. It’s the perfect, unique gift for weddings, anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas, Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Valentine’s Day, Newborns and many more of life’s special occasions.
August 27, 2018
It’s an uncomfortable and often controversial subject, especially in the church, but homosexuality and same sex attraction is something we all need to understand from a Biblical perspective. This week’s guest Jackie Hill Perry shares how the power of the gospel in her life rescued her from the sin she was living in as a woman with same sex attractions. She not only brings us into her amazing story, but absolutely preaches the word of God and brings a lot of clarity to what can feel like a gray area for many Christians. My conscience would not allow me to shake the truth that Jesus died for sin and that he is not pleased with sin at all. So I tried my best to shake him and I couldn't…And I felt God speak to my heart and say that my girlfriend or my sin would be the death of me. That the wages of sin equals death. Because I saw it wasn't my girlfriend or my lesbianism alone. It was that my entire life would be the death of me. Jackie shares stories and insights from her new book Gay Girl, Good God. She also answers listener questions about how to share God’s love with LGBTQ friends and family by treating them as a whole person and keeping the gospel centered on God’s truth and not culture’s. What we chat about: Jackie’s background, home life and beginnings of same sex attraction. Her belief that same sex attraction is choosing sin. How sexual sin is a specifically addicting sin. God does not rank sins. Homosexuality is not better or worse than any other sin. Insight into black lesbian culture and false masculinity. How God pursued Jackie through people and circumstances and reminded her of who he made her to be. Jackie’s experience wrestling with the truth that the wages of sin is death. The power of a very close discipleship relationship when you are needing breakthrough from sin or trauma. The process of learning to have healthy same sex friendships. Dealing with temptations and how Jesus empathizes with us and gives us power to overcome sin. How to love LGBTQ people and pray for them, but not condone the sin. Evangelism needs to be God-centered and not centered on a person’s sexuality. Dialoguing about same sex attraction using the Bible as the explicit answer for all questions regarding it. Jackie’s response to gay marriage and why we are called to love God more than we love people who are living in sin. Connect with Jackie Hill Perry:   Links Mentioned: * Gay Girl, Good God** **Amazon affiliate link to help support the production of this podcast. Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 2 weeks of meal plans FREE! Go to and use coupon code: GCM
August 20, 2018
Often the hardest assignments in our lives bring us the greatest good. I've seen it to be true in my own life. And have walked this Truth with friends on their journeys.  In this episode I’ve invited my friends Alice and Candace to share their stories of adoption. And the process of discovering their adopted children have special needs. We also discuss how God has led them each into new ministries because of the children He's brought into their families.  I love seeing God's purpose for Alice & Candace unfold alongside their leaning on Him for strength and guidance. Not to mention how they follow Him obediently with humor and grace! I don't know if God made Millie have autism or if that is a result of living in a fallen world. That's something that I question every day. But I do know that the struggles that she has had more than anything else have shaped our family in a way that I think brings glory to God, more than the easy and fun and good things.--Alice Alice and her family:  Candace and her family:  What we chat about: Meet Alice, Candace and their families Why each of their families chose to adopt Alice’s story of adopting internationally vs adopting domestically Discovering their adopted children’s special needs How growth for our children and our families happens in hard places It so good that God doesn’t show us the big picture of what he’s doing in our lives The struggles and joys of parenting a child on the autism spectrum Alice’s future plans for offering therapy with horses and assisting with children with special needs transitioning into jobs as adults Candace’s plans for helping foster children in a bigger way Praying through big decisions like adoption with your spouse and letting God change your hearts Adoption is hard on marriage, so you need to be on the same page How friends and community can support adoptive families Links Mentioned: * Pine Cove Family Camp * Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 2 weeks of meal plans FREE! Go to and use coupon code: GCM Don't Mom Alone Live Event Tickets Tickets are officially on sale starting today!! This year we are adding more seats and options!! Check out all the details and get your tickets HERE. Parenting -- Streaming Event 2018 Parenting is hard work, but what could be more important in your life than being one of God's tools to form a human soul? In his brand-new streaming event, pastor and best-selling author Dr. Paul David Tripp will share four principles that can radically change the way you raise your children. This conference has on-demand st...
August 13, 2018
In the thick of parenting it is easy to get our perspective skewed or react to our children from a place of emotion or our own sin. My guest Dr. Paul David Tripp gives a course-correcting pep talk reminding parents of their deep calling from God and how to look at discipline as an opportunity to connect our kids with God’s goodness. “You're never just dealing with behavior. You're always dealing with what controls the child's behavior and that's his heart. And if God consciousness doesn't rule my heart, self orientation will. That's what has to change. No I can't create that change, but I can I can give God's Spirit an opportunity again and again to work in the heart of my child” Tripp  is a pastor, international event speaker, and best-selling author. As a father of four grown children, he shares candidly from his own experience. This encouraging episode is packed with a lot of truth! Share with your spouse and friends! What we chat about: The deeper calling of on our lives as parents We cannot rely on our kids to give us hope for parenting them. How opening our children’s eyes to see God everywhere pulls them away from a self centered existence. God created the world so that it’s very physical nature reveals him. Root the rules that you have for your children in God's goodness and his love and His grace. Every opportunity we have to discipline or correct is not an opportunity first to threaten  with punishment but to talk about how good God is. Ask the question, “What is God wanting to do in the heart of this child?” Behavior is really about a child’s heart orientation God way of parenting isn’t efficient, but it is transformational  . The values of the world push against our calling as parents. We have to consider where we are placing our treasure and hope. A God perspective for how to respond when your children sin God is exposing something in my child so I can be part of his help and rescue. Parenting is about planting seeds. We aren’t going to see them bloom overnight. Dealing with rebellion and authority issues with grace and consequences Parenting adopted children and helping them with identity Connect with Paul David Tripp:   Parenting -- Streaming Event 2018 Parenting is hard work, but what could be more important in your life than being one of God's tools to form a human soul? In his brand-new streaming event, pastor and best-selling author Dr. Paul David Tripp will share four principles that can radically change the way you raise your children. This conference has on-demand streaming access until November 30. With a Streaming License, you, your friends, or your entire church will be encouraged by biblical and practical wisdom. Your Streaming License will also include a free study guide, loaded with questions for further discussion. Transcript of conversation: Download Here Links Mentioned: * Parenting: 14 Gospel Principles That Can Radically Change Your Family** * New Morning Mercies** * Gospel Parenting Episode with Paul David Tripp from 2017 **Amazon affiliate link
August 6, 2018
In a time when biblical truth is often narrowed down to a greeting card slogan or a small subset of feel-good encouragements, the She Reads Truth community takes a different approach. The bible studies and reading plans from She Reads Truth take a deep dive into scripture with the goal to understand the big picture of who God is throughout history and our need for his grace. SRT co-founder and CEO Raechel Myers shares the community’s origin and her personal story of encountering God’s goodness amidst the loss of her daughter. Jump in to hear Raechel share her heart for studying scripture and relying on the Holy Spirit in the difficult places of parenting. I can base my understanding of God on the 36 years that I’ve experienced with him, but that is a mistake. God’s story is so far back before I ever existed. And so one of the important reasons that we read the Bible is to understand the broader story of who God is and how I fit into his story, not how he fits into mine. What we chat about: Raechel’s writing background and the purpose behind her first blog How God trained and equipped Raechel through various experiences before She Reads Truth began The origin of the She Reads Truth community Taking God’s word for what it is and not relying too heavily on devotionals or feel-good scriptures alone She Reads Truth has options for everything from free reading plans to beautiful, bound books A new children’s story book they’ve produced called This Is the Gospel Addressing faith and trusting that God is who he says he is with your older kids Why scripture plays such a key role in our understanding of who God is beyond our own experience with him The importance of modeling Christian life for our children’s spiritual formation Connect with She Reads Truth:   Links Mentioned: He Reads Truth  * Kids Read Truth Judges study - New Kids Book - This Is the Gospel Romans study * Matthew study * Mourning and Dancing * The Color Method with Lacey Dobrient  (Ep 63)  * Focused15 with Katie Orr (Ep 101) * The Evans Family Discuss Loss & Faith **Amazon affiliate link Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”.
July 30, 2018
**Live Event Details in this Episode--Don't miss the intro & middle  (31:20) for details about the upcoming "Don't Mom Alone" Live Event!! ** "They just keep fighting!" Summer, for us, means lots of unstructured time together as a family. Which is great. . . until it's not. Perhaps you can identify. Maybe you see yourself in one of the following situations: Situation #1 - The kids are fighting - again! The harder you try to make it stop, the worse it seems to get - and the kids seem more and more resentful. Situation #2 - One minute they love each other and the next minute they’re arch enemies. The older they get the louder and angrier it gets. You hate the way this affects everyone’s mood, including your own. Situation #3 - Time-outs, required apologies, and firmness temporarily curb the fighting, but it soon comes back with more intensity. Situation #4 - Your young kids are beginning their rivalry and you worry where it’s heading if you don’t learn some better strategies.  (copied from Sibling Conflict Online Course description). Jim & Lynne Jackson from are back to equip us in training our children to solve conflict well. And instead of just wishing they would "just stop fighting", to recognize the gospel work of guiding our family to reconciliation. Jim & Lynne have been on the show before sharing their fabulous 4-layer framework for discipline that connects (Listen here to Episode 80 & 81). And again helping connect in any situation (Ep 98). And recently helping us work with our kids on all of our entitlement issues (Ep 200) Today, they are talking us through The Peace Process. A simple but effective way to guide our kids to a lifetime of reconciled relationships. Here's their great graphic with the four steps moving us from "crazy mountain" to peaceful reconciliation (Click here to print your own copy): Conflict is inevitable. Instead of just getting frustrated and annoyed, I've found having a plan to reconnect hearts and train empathy so helpful. I also loved all the phrases Jim & Lynne modeled to use as we guide our children through the process. Here are some of my favorites (I'll be bookmarking this page and referring to often): * "Sounds like y'all are having a hard time. Do you need my help or are you able to work it out on your own?" * "Solving brains won't work until we're calm. Why don't we each find a comfortable place. How long do you need? 5 min? 10 min? Then we'll come back together to work this out." * "Did you hear that? How does she feel? Do you like that what you did made her feel that way? You two are listening to each other. How does that feel?" * "Your big feelings are a gift. And they are an even greater gift with you can use them to help understand other's big feelings." * "What's going on? What was important to each person? How have you solved this problem before? Would you like to think of ways to solve the problem or do you want me to help give you choices on how to solve it?" * "Are there four things you could say that are ...
July 23, 2018
You desire your children to walk with God. But how do you lead them to that place? Is that only your husband's job? What if you are a single mom or functionally single mom? What about your role as a leader in your faith community? Should women leaders be gentle and quiet? Today's guest is Jen Wilkin, author of "None Like Him" and "Women of the Word".  She debunks some myths we believe about spiritual leadership, inside and outside of the home. Her desire is for women to be grounded in the truth of God's Word. To study with both their hearts and their minds. To know God and who He is. Then from knowing Him and His character see how He crafted us uniquely and our high worth in His eyes. In this episode Jen and I chat about spiritual leadership. How we can expand the definition of what we think that means. How leading our children changes over the years. How her own single mom prayed fervently for her and for God to grow big in her life. We also discuss how to be a spiritual leader in your community. How to manage that responsibility with humility and boldness. And how women need to not just see cute Instagram posts but know who God is from His Word.   Connect with Jen: What we chat about: * Jen's young mom journey with three kids in four years. * The need for accountability and structure in studying the Bible as a young mom. * How the Wilkins describe leading children spiritual--the differences over the years. * Tips for the woman who is spiritually leading her children. * Expanding the definition of "spiritual leader" in the home. * Jen's journey of spiritual growth having a single mom. * Self-reflection asking "Am I stepping on people? Limiting the contribution of others?" * How to be a woman in spiritual leadership/ministry. * What do you do if women think you are more "spiritual" than them. * How to be grounded in theWord and not cute, Instagram posts. * What does it mean that God is transcendent. Links Mentioned: * Revolutionary Parenting by George Barna** * When Dad Doesn't Disciple by Jen Wilkin * None Like Him by Jen Wilkin ** * In His Image by Jen Wilkin** * Flower Mound Women's Bible Study * Jen's Bible Study at the Village Church this Fall on Genesis * Jen's Published Bible Studies --> * Sermon on the Mount** * 1 Peter: A Living Hope in Christ** * God of Creation : Study of Genesis 1-11** **Amazon affiliate links Featured Sponsor: The Declare Conference Declare is a Christian conference to equip and encourage women bloggers, writers, speakers, artists, online marketers, leaders, and disciplers to know God and make Him known through deep community.
July 16, 2018
"In this world you will have trouble, but take heart I have overcome the world." John 16:33 Pain is inevitable. In James we are told to "consider it all joy" when we encounter trials. James also wrote to ask God for wisdom and He will give it generously. Which I realized from a sermon this week has more to do with wisdom we gain from the challenging circumstances, not necessarily wisdom to get out of them. But how many of us share our broken places with others? How often do we wait until the pain has passed and life is back to "normal" to share and minister to others? What if God longs for you to offer up the wisdom you are gaining in the midst of the challenge? This week's guest is Dr. Peggy Banks (Global Ministry Director for TWR Women of Hope). I'm a big Peggy fan. Years ago she discipled me in a deeper understanding of God and His Spirit in me. She modeled how to pray intimately with my heavenly Father. She taught me all the Spirit does in and through us. She inspired me with her passion for women around the world to know the healing available through Jesus Christ. Peggy last week at a TWR Women of Hope event with leaders from West Africa, South Africa, Mozambique and Interns from the US In this episode Peggy shares her own painful places. A past that includes abuse. A journey of learning to trust and stop striving in performance. She encourages us to meet with Jesus daily. And what that looks like for her. Peggy encourages us to gather with others in small groups to spur each other on in our spiritual journeys. Sharing what He is doing and lifting one another up in the process. Peggy was a minister of Spiritual formation at my church for years. And now she leads a global ministry to women, TWR Women of Hope. God is using her pain for a purpose. Every day women around the world are hearing the gospel in their own language through the power of the airwaves. As a podcaster, I'm so inspired by the work of Women of Hope and Trans World Radio. "As a small Army-surplus transmitter went on the air in Tangier, Morocco, in early 1954, the first step had been taken toward the development the world’s largest evangelical media organization" - Trans World Radio Such a cool idea to realize the gospel has been traveling via airways since the 50s. What a joy to join Him in the work of spreading the good news! Connect with Peggy & TWR Women of Hope: What we chat about: * Peggy's hidden pain while looking perfect on the outside and performing for approval. * The "spiritual mom" who helped Peggy get healing from the bondage and brokenness of abuse. * Learning to vulnerably share your struggles with those you are leading. * Advice for the listener who is in the middle of the painful place. * What does it mean "to be with Jesus". * Gathering together with a group to be real and share your current pain. * How Peggy's tattoos helped her minister to a specific group of women. * Peggy's personal mission statement: "Helping hurting women around the world helping to find hope and healing in the person of Jesus Christ." Links Mentioned: * **If you or someone you know is involved in a domestic abuse situation, here is an online resource: * Focus Ministries *
July 9, 2018
Teens. Toddlers. Moms. No matter the age. We all struggle to remember (or know) the truth about who God says we are. And our position in Christ. When we forget, we let friends, circumstances, or lies feed our souls with identity. And that takes us down the path of uncertainty,  harmful activities and a broken path. Thankfully, today's guest, Kristen Hatton, helps "Get Your Story Straight". When her daughter was in 6th grade, Kristen started teaching her and a group of friends truth from the Bible. Unfortunately, there weren't a lot of great resources available for preteens/teens. So she used notes from her husband's sermons and wrote her own Bible study. (click here to check it out)** In this episode, Kristen and I talk about the struggle for our kids to know how "justification" applies to daily life. (And define what 'justification' means). We also chat about how to help teens navigate the challenges of social media. And Kristen vulnerably shares her daughter's battle with an eating disorder (which began with internalizing social media posts). Lastly, Kristen helps us start to keep communication open with our kids. So when they are teens they will keep talking. I'm in the stage with lots of little people all trying to be with me and talk to me (at the same time). But after three blinks I'll have a home full of teen boys. The time I spend listening now will impact how much they talk to me in the future. Very thankful for the help, perspective and wisdom from Kristen. Now I can see the teenage years as an age of opportunity not a season to be feared. Connect with Kristen:   What we chat about: * How quickly our kiddos grow into teenagers. * How Kristen saw a need for good bible study materials for teens. * Helping our kids be anchored in who God says we are (not who their friends on social media says they are). * Importance of teaching our kids the concept of justification. * When the world is measuring perfection and performance but we know we are only perfect in Christ. * How to communicate worth and identity to our kids. * Why teens stop talking to their parents. * Listening and asking probing questions. * Responding with grace instead of condemnation. * How internalizing social media posts led to her daughter's eating disorder. * How boys struggle with social media. * How Kristen talks to her kids about the impact of social media. * Talking to your sons & daughters about pornography. Keeping an open conversation. * Reorienting your kids to the message of the gospel, moment-to-moment Links Mentioned: * Get Your Story Straight: A Teen's Guide to Learning and Living the Gospel by Kristen Hatton** * The depressing Eggo commercial * Why Teens Don't Talk to Their Parents * Connected Families--
July 2, 2018
No matter the battleground . . . Marriage challenges. Child struggles. Health trials. Overwhelming circumstances. How do you maneuver the daily attacks that rob your joy and peace? This week's mentor is Jan Greenwood, author and pastor of equipping at Gateway Church in Southlake, TX. In 2009, Jan was diagnosed with Stage IV breast cancer. After the first battle, she experienced years of healing. Then four days shy of her 6 year recovery anniversary, cancer resurged in her body. In this episode, Jan shares what God's taught her about waging war. And how the football term #squareup impacted her battle strategies differently from the first and second time she fought cancer. Jan shares what it means for her to rest and let God fight for her. And encourages each of us to get a word and direction from the Lord for our unique situations. Here are a few of my favorite quotes from this episode: This time my mindset has had to become one of agreement and not one of opposition. And squaring up is not about being steadfast in the Word of God, but its really about can I square up in such a manner that I can look at Jesus and trust Him. I’m not very brave and not very strong. When I’m weak there’s a strength that shines through. And when I’m afraid, He makes me courageous. I know how to fight but I don't know how to rest. Connect with Jan Greenwood:    What we chat about: * How God spoke to Jan at the news of cancer's resurgence. * How Jan found comfort in her son’s football word “square up”. * The difference between how Jan has fought cancer the first time and the second time. * What “square up” means for her in this season. * The story behind the hashtag Jan uses: #bravestronggirl. * How her battle with cancer impacts her mothering. * Jan’s desire to get women to war together instead against each other. * The revelation to choose life and not succumb to death. * What rest looks like in Jan’s every day. * How you need your own word and direction from God. Links Mentioned: * "Women at War: Declaring a Cease-fire on Toxic Female Relationships" ** ( * The #SquareUp story on her site * Brave Strong Girl --- The Invitation -- A Collaborative Devotional  **Amazon Affiliate Link How to listen to the podcast: 1.Listen on the blog. Click through to and click the play button at the beginning of this post. 2. Listen on your smartphone, iPad or iPod Touch – There are a lot of great podcasting apps. Apple has a free one (that I mentioned) in the app store, there is also one called Downcast. It allows you to search for shows, subscribe to them and even speed up the audio.
June 25, 2018
Chrystal is a real life friend. And one wise woman. Since this episode went live three years ago, she's become. . .a grandmother to two adorable kiddos! But I'll give you a tip. . .before you call her Granny. . . Chrystal prefers the title "MMC" (aka, "Mother of the Mother of the Child" ;). In twelve years of parenting I've learned a thing or two. I've gained confidence in my ability to handle high fevers, distinguish between a backhoe digger and a tractor, and (somewhat regularly) plan weekly meals. But most days I feel just as clueless as my first day home from the hospital.  When I sat on the closet floor cried buckets while cradling a screaming newborn. And had no idea how to stop either of our tears. These days it's sibling arguments I fear may rival world wars. Or strong wills that no military force could conquer. Or the noise, chaos and never-ending mess that leave me feeling like a pair of dirty socks in the spin cycle. But I have one strategy that always helps. . . Asking moms who've gone before me for perspective. Showing me what matters and what doesn't. Helping me navigate these days with faith and grace. On today's podcast I've invited Chrystal Evans Hurst, mom to five to fill our mom hearts with nuggets of truth and wisdom. What we talked about: * The realization Chrystal had when she turned 40 * What Chrystal wants to make sure every mom knows * The parenting advice Corrie Ten Boom gave Chuck Swindoll * How to handle the shame or blame from those around us * How to grow in confidence as a mother * How to help and give grace to new moms * How knowing the commonalities between ages 2, 12, 20 helps you parent better * How to be the compassionate counselor to your children * How to calmly set boundaries and appropriately direct emotions * What God can accomplish and inspire you through prayer * The impact of how your face communicates acceptance * Three final tips Chrystal wants moms to know Connect with Chrystal: Site :: Instagram :: Twitter :: Facebook Links Mentioned: * Chrystal on Ep 172 "Rescuing the Girl Inside You"  * Chrystal's Chronicles Podcast * "If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you." James 1:5 * Toni Morrison on Oprah (video below. . .if reading via email click here)   What are your top 3 mom strengths? How to listen to the podcast: 1.Listen on the blog. Click through to and click the play button at the beginning of this post. 2. Listen on your smartphone, iPad or iPod Touch – There are a lot of great podcasting apps. Apple has a free one (that I mentioned) in the app store,
June 18, 2018
Just like last year we'll be republishing older episodes for the next six weeks. I'll be enjoying a much needed Sabbath and y'all will get a chance to hear episodes you may not have heard yet (or reminded of ones you loved in the past)! Here's a preview of what's coming: Our first featured mentor is the fabulous Sheila Walsh!! "God had no grandchildren. He only had sons and daughters. Faith is something you have to choose for yourself." Those words started Sheila Walsh on a journey to know God and His love for her. From the tragic death of her father to professional success as 700 club co-host to discover freedom and peace in a psychiatric ward, Sheila shares a bit of her beautiful broken story. "Suffering can be a gift from God. Because it really draws you closer to His heart. And a greater understanding that it's never about me getting it right its about Christ who came to make everything right." This may be a "top ten favorite" interview for me. I've been a fan of Sheila and her work for years. But her wisdom and God's grace in this episode ministered to me in a way and time that I needed most. Resonating with my soul that "through the broken places Christ's love is closest to us." We also talk about fun ways to share the good news of God's Word with your kids. How to keep the conversation open and allow our kids to ask hard, unanswerable questions. To give them the freedom to speak truth and know it doesn't change God's love for them. Upcoming Live Streaming Event:  "It's Okay Not to be Okay" with Sheila Walsh We've all experienced that moment where we wish we could start all over again. Failed marriages, lost friends, addictions, lost jobs. This is not the life we imagined. Yesterday can sometimes leave us stuck, sad, shamed, scared, and searching. In this brand-new livestream event, best-selling author and trusted Bible teacher Sheila Walsh encourages viewers to face the pain head on and then start again, from right where they are. She shares that when she discovered "I'm not good enough and I'm good with that," everything started to change. This four-session video event is streaming live on September 14-15, 2018, with unlimited replay access until November 30. With a Streaming License, you will also receive a free discussion guide to with practical questions and supplemental Scripture study, perfect to use in your personal devotions, with a group of friends, or as a women's event at your church! Connect with Sheila:   What we chat about: * Sheila's incredible testimony * How brokenness is where God brings His love to us * The story behind "Gigi, God's Little Princess" series * Fun ideas of how the Walsh family did "devotion time" * Allowing our kids to be free to speak truth and ask hard questions * Her latest book in "The Bible is My Best Friend" series to help lead your child to Jesus Links Mentioned: * Will, God's Mighty Warrior** * Gigi, God's Little Princess** * Passion Conferences * The Bible is My Best Friend Bible Storybook** * The Bible is My Best Friend Family Devotional**
June 11, 2018
We’ve talked a lot about calm parenting techniques on GCM in the past. It’s something many of us moms have seen work. But this episode is one you may want to listen to and invite your hubby to as well! Founder of Celebrate Calm, Kirk Martin, shares the powerful story of how he went from an angry, tough dad to a calm, coaching dad and why a dad’s role in parenting is so important. I believe this to be true most of the time. If you do not change and if you do not forge that connection with your son, most of those boys will grow up and become angry young men… And I would tell the men too if you have a daughter and if she doesn't know that you like her. And that you accept her as she is even if she is difficult. I guarantee when she gets to her teenage years she's going to seek a man's affection in some teenage boy. What we chat about: Getting dads onboard with Calm Parenting techniques. Working with strong-willed children and how anger and tough punishments don’t work. Fear of failure as a parent is a strong motivator for us in discipline. Kids need to know that we can control ourselves as parents even when they are out control. Discipline means to teach, not to punish. It’s important to build trust with our kids so they know we have their best interests at heart. The idea of first-time obedience and whether it’s Biblical. Strong-willed children may never listen the first time and may do things their own way (but still obey). How our struggle to obey God often mirrors our kids’ struggle to obey. Leading our kids to contrition instead of demanding an apology. Coaching and role playing with our kids to teach them how to respond better in emotional situations. Think of calm techniques as a different tactic for problem solving.  It’s ok to give in from time to time to keep from going crazy (not the same as being “soft”). Try doing the opposite of what you are doing now and see what the response is. Connect with Kirk & Celebrate Calm:   Links Mentioned: * Men’s CD or download: “I Want To Be A Good Dad & Husband!” (2 CDs, 2 hours)   * * How to Stop Yelling, Lecturing & Power Struggles   Episode 62 * Calmly Parenting the Strong Willed Child  Episode 69 * Summer (& Sibling) Survival Guide  Episode 77 * How to Stay Calm with School Stress Episode 88 * Q & A with Kirk Martin Episode 104 * 10 Ways to Stop Meltdowns & Arguments Episode 139 **Amazon affiliate link Featured Sponsors: Write the Word for Kids Cultivate What Matters just debuted their brand new Write the Word for Kids Bible journal! Inspired by their popular Write the Word Bible journals — now uniquely for kids! This journal was created to help kids ages 5-12 dive ...
June 4, 2018
As moms, we know we need rest. We usually equate rest with sleep or with a vacation, but this week’s guest shares a broader picture of our need for rest in multiple areas of our lives. Saundra Dalton-Smith is a medical doctor, wife and mother to two boys. She had everything she’d dreamed of and worked hard to achieve, but wasn’t enjoying it. I kept pushing and pushing myself till I got to the point where I literally burned out. I wasn't happy with my job. I couldn't see how my marriage would survive. I didn't want my kids anymore. I was just at the end of myself. I didn't want the life I created. After reaching this breaking point, she went on a journey of restoration and healing where she learned to connect with God and with his plan for rest. Now she shares her research and methods with her patients and with all of us. If you’ve ever felt tired and at the end of yourself, this episode is for you. We already have permission to rest, but the mommy guilt that sometimes comes tells us we don’t. That is really a lie. I look at it as the John 10:10. 'The thief comes to steal, kill, and destroy.' And he's doing it to a lot of us through our inability to rest, our inability to trust God that when we lay things down that he is able to uphold them. What we chat about: When Saundra reached her breaking point from stress and lack of true rest We have physical limits to what we can do as moms How Saundra researched rest and looked at scripture for clarity on how God rested The seven types of rest: physical, mental, spiritual, emotional, social, sensory and creative. The difference between a vacation and resting Paying attention to a place that feels painful in your body in the moment vs ignoring it Finding emotional rest through connection with friends, even through video chat if getting together is impossible The importance of authentic, open friendships with women who can relate to your life situation Ideas on how to stay engaged with your husband and reignite your marriage Putting limits on social media time so that your mind has down time Tips for getting mental rest and release ideas that make your mind race Sensory rest-- what it is and ways to get it It is not selfish to prioritize resting. It keeps you from having a toxic reaction to those around you. Connect with Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith:         Links Mentioned: * Marco Polo App--way to socially connect * Sacred Rest by Dr. Saundra Dalton-Smith** * Adventures in Odyssey Club--hundreds of episodes * Rest Quiz Online **Amazon affiliate link Featured Sponsors: Write the Word for Kids Cultivate What Matters just debuted their brand new Write the Word for Kids Bible journal! Inspired by their popular Write the Word Bible journals — now uniquely for kids! This journal was created to help kids ages 5-12 dive into scripture with carefully-chosen verses to write and draw out, Bible Bingo, coloring pages, and sections to write what’s on their heart. The Write the Word for Kids Bible journal is all about planting the seeds of God’s word deep in the heart of your child, and is the perfect activity for them to enjoy alongside you in your...
May 29, 2018
In a world where devices, video games and screen-based entertainment dominate our time and space, we can choose to make our family culture different. It isn’t easy and it isn’t always fun, but there are huge benefits for us and our kids when we take time away from devices. This week’s guest Andy Crouch is the author of “The Tech-Wise Family: Everyday Steps for Putting Technology in Its Proper Place”. He shares about our calling to be image bearers of God and how his family has seen a lot of growth by putting limitations on time with technology and building in Sabbath rest from devices. Have moments as a family where you talk about what have been your best moments. What's been the flourishing moments in our family? It's very unlikely people will say, 'Oh that time we made it to level 16 in whatever video game.' Kids and parents will remember moments that had this kind of real authority and real vulnerability. As we head into summer, I hope this episode encourages you to embrace the power of your kids being bored so they can tap into their God-given creativity, abilities and interests. Just hang in there through the first third of the time! Listen to see what I mean. What we chat about: Image bearing as it relates to authority and vulnerability Video games and screened-based entertainment simulate authority and vulnerability Andy’s family’s Sabbath for screens and devices- one hour each day, one day each week and one week each year How to work toward unity on device- and technology-free time with your spouse Start small and do what’s stretching when it comes to taking time without devices Talk as a family about the best times you’ve experienced together and plan to have more of those moments The first third of the time is really hard, but in the second two-thirds you’ll see creativity and really good things for your family Changing your physical space to make the main thing we do together different Work and rest vs. Toil and leisure Not looking at your phone first thing in the morning till you’ve been outside Having a rhythm of disengagement with technology that reconnects us with real rest and with who we really are in God's image. Connect with Andy:   Links Mentioned: "The Tech Wise Family: Putting Technology in its Proper Place" by Andy Crouch ** * "Strong and Weak" by Andy Crouch** **Amazon affiliate link Featured Sponsors: PrepDish Prep Dish meal plans were created by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf to help save you time and put home-cooked meals on the table. No meal time stress. No more answering the dreaded question, “What’s for Dinner?!”. Developed by chef & dietician Allison Schaaf, Prep Dish is a healthy, whole food based meal plan subscription service. Allison does all the planning for you- including easy-to-follow shopping lists and prep-ahead instructions so you know what to prepare and when. Imagine...all of your meals prepped and ready to go for the entire week. We like to call this meal time bliss! Get 2 weeks of meal plans FREE! Go to and use coupon code: GCM FabFitFun Seasonal Subscription Boxes  Who else has tried FABFITFUN? If you don't already know about it, it’s a seasonal box, with full-size beauty, fitness and lifestyle products.
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