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September 8, 2019
Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan, coauthors of For Hire: Operator and the soon-to-be-released For Hire: Audition, talk about why they write a queer poly superhero universe, how authors can be more inclusive, and what fiction they are reading.
August 21, 2019
Minx and Lusty Guy give poly relationship advice to a listener whose boyfriend's wife cheated on them, and now the boyfriend and his wife are divorcing. The boyfriend and our listener are still together, however, but our listener now feels like a homewrecker.
August 5, 2019
A listener asks what to do when love does feel like a zero sum game. His wife suggested polyamory, took another partner, and now our listener feels like the already-scarce sexual resources became even more scarce. Is her new partner getting all the sex and leaving him with none?
July 1, 2019
A listener asks if her new boyfriend is emotionally unavailable, will poly help? She really likes their casual connection, but recent events led her to feel insecure... and then the topic of polyamory came up.
June 17, 2019
Celebrating the amazing sex-positive activist Allena Gabosch, who gave us a big scare last week. She founded the Wet Spot/Center for Sex Positive Culture in Seattle, and she is the kindest, most tolerant person you'll ever meet. We're so glad she told cancer to f*ck off this week, so we're celebrating her life!
June 3, 2019
My boyfriend and I transitioned from a don't-ask-don't-tell relationship to full honest and transparent communication, more like polyamory. Now I want to meet my formerly DADT metamour when she comes to visit him next month. Is that OK?
May 19, 2019
I'm in a polyamorous relationship. My metamour and I get along great, and I need a roommate. Will it muck things up if I ask them to move in?
April 28, 2019
What do you do when your partner gets so jealous that you feel compelled to give up your boyfriend, while your hubby happily dates away? Can you still be poly if your husband's emotions don't enable it?
April 17, 2019
Koe Creation grew up in a polyamorous home and has just written a new memoir, This Heart Holds Many, answering frequently-asked questions about raising kids in a poly space.
April 4, 2019
We chat with Laura Zielinsky, author of a new poly erotic novel, We Are Three.
March 18, 2019
Sex therapist Dr. Liz Powell rejoins us to talk about how she became a sex therapist and why she wrote her new book, Building Open Relationships. We talk about sex therapy, polyamory, and of course, communication.
March 3, 2019
Joseph Pred shares the Consent Framework, a tool for community organizers to get and enforce consent at events. Plus, polyamory in the news, including on NPR!
February 16, 2019
My partners and I agreed to live together and have kids, but now I'm not so sure. Our poly relationship isn't that solid, and I like my space. Do nonmonogamous families have to live together?
December 17, 2018
Kevin Patterson, Chris Smith, Lusty Guy, and Minx discuss what we mean by "toxic masculinity" and how we should respond to both the term and the thing itself as well as how it relates to polyamory.
November 13, 2018
What do you do when your long-distance partners move into town, and you find yourself with too many poly partners and too little time? Do you break up with some of them? Minx and Lusty Guy give advice on putting yourself first and on respecting others' agency when your polycule becomes unwieldy.
November 5, 2018
Lawyer Melissa Hall shares exciting news about the new poly-friendly parentage act being enacted in Washington state. It enables a third or fourth parent for third-party adoptions and defines "de facto parent" for adults who have acted as and whom the child recognizes as a parent. And this is a uniform law, meaning it's intended to be adoptable as law in all 50 U.S. states. While it's intended to benefit the GLBTQIA community, it holds definite benefits for poly families and polycules as well.
October 15, 2018
Kevin Patterson and Alana Phelan have come out with a new superhero novel in which queerness, polyamory, and people of color are normalized.
September 30, 2018
Listener Kate asks if her partner wants to date a long-time monogamous friend without that friend's monogamous partner's explicit consent, how does Kate object without imposing her poly ethics on her partner?
September 23, 2018
A listener from Germany calls in to ask if his relationship with his girlfriend is healthy except he wants sex more often and to explore his bisexuality, will poly work for them?
September 17, 2018
Chloé is pregnant and now feeling possessive of her husband. Is it OK to ask her metamour to find someone else to date so the metamour is not so in love with Chloé's husband?
August 1, 2018
A queer man writes in to ask how to cope when his partners buy a house and consider adopting a teenager with little to no input from him and his partner. Lusty Guy and Minx give advice on how to communicate your needs and wants and to assume goodwill all around.
July 15, 2018
Sex educator and author Allison Moon cohosts this episode offering advice to a listener who wants to know when to give up on polyamory that is making everyone involved unhappy.
June 22, 2018
We chat with Kat Stark, blogger, podcaster, and author of the new book, Yelling in Pasties: the Wet Coast Confessions of an Anxious Slut, about what it's like to discover polyamory, question one's gender identity, and deal with anxiety and depression in one's mid-40s.
May 29, 2018
A listener who is in her first poly triad writes in to ask about shared calendars after her married partners surprised her by setting a date with another couple, despite their being in a closed triad. Are shared calendars a substitute for communication in polyamory?
May 14, 2018
Listener Heather writes in to ask how to weed out the jerks and cheaters when dating. Should she remove "polyamorous" from her dating profile? Minx gives advice on poly dating.
May 7, 2018
Dr. Liz Powell shares advice on dealing with grief and loss in relationships, both in terms of the death of a partner or metamour and in the breakup of one or more of your polyamorous relationships.
April 22, 2018
What if my metamour won't meet me? My metamour asked my partner to uninvite me to an event he'd invited me to to avoid meeting me, and now I feel displaced. Minx and Lusty Guy give advice on this poly situation.
March 26, 2018
Cesar's wife told him she missed him and then left to be with her lover. Is the solution to tell her not to say she misses him? Lusty Guy and Minx give advice on how to let your partner be the expert on herself, how to ask for what you want, and how to resolve an argument and get to the makeup sex.
March 14, 2018
A listener calls in from Alaska to ask if it's OK to date someone who doesn't communicate well if he's all that's available in her area and she likes him? Alaskan men don't communicate well, but poly standards require communication, and she is afraid of scaring him off if she reveals her personal secrets.
March 5, 2018
Benjamin Shenker, a poly-friendly lawyer practicing in Maryland and D.C., answers listener legal queries about owning property, child custody, and other tricky legal issues for people practicing polyamory.
February 26, 2018
Diana Ryan and Kieland McClellan advise a listener who is frustrated with not being able to find a couple to swing with in Wisconsin on how to get the most out of swinging in her community.
February 19, 2018
Brenda Wiebe, sociologist and social worker turned poly writer, discusses her first book, Catch & Release: How I Used Science to Hack My Love Life.
February 14, 2018
How to you reassure your new poly partner when you're going to be 8,000 miles away for the next three years? A listener calls in for advice on maintaining connection and avoiding jealousy in a new long-distance polyamorous relationship.
February 5, 2018
Erich Viedge interviews Chris Deaton about polyamory and how that plays with the power exchange dynamics in BDSM and kink.
January 26, 2018
Kevin Patterson of the Poly Role Models blog discusses his soon-to-be-released new book on polyamory and race, Love's Not Color Blind: Race and Representation in Polyamorous and Other Alternative Communities
January 12, 2018
Educator, business owner, and burlesque performer Iris Muscarella discusses the importance of nurturing sisterhood in polyamory--what it looks like, and why it's important. Plus an update on relationship anarchy.
January 8, 2018
South African correspondent Erich Viedge put together this fun clip show of our best episodes of 2017, including influential books, movies, and articles that helped shape awareness of polyamory around the globe.
December 29, 2017
Is it OK to use your veto power in a poly relationship if your metamour is a drama queen to the point that your needs aren't being met? How to handle asking for your own needs to be met in a polyamorous relationship when your metamour is a bit of a drama queen and seems to require most of your partner's emotional support.
December 18, 2017
Erich Viedge interviews French poly filmmaker Isa Lutine, a.k.a. Isabelle Broué, about her latest poly film.
December 8, 2017
Relationship coach and poly educator Kitty Chambliss shares insights from her latest book, the Jealousy Survival Guide: How to Feel Safe, Happy, and Secure in an Open Relationship
December 1, 2017
Pepper Mint shares with us insights and readings from his new book, Playing Fair: A Guide to Nonmonogamy for Men Into Women, published by Thorntree Press. Great for polyamorous or wanna-be poly men or those who love them.
November 9, 2017
South African correspondent Erich Viedge interviews sex educator Casey Blake for tips on how to talk about your poly relationships and your general polyamory with your kids:
November 2, 2017
Ignacio Rivera shares their latest work on a variety of topics, including consensual sex education, including the HEAL project for survivors of childhood abuse and Pure Love, the talk show with their daughter.
October 26, 2017
We review Angela Robinson's stellar polyamorous romantic comedy about the lives of the family that created Wonder Woman, Professor Marston and the Wonder Women, with sociologist Mimi Schippers. Joreth of Polyish Movie Reviews contributes.
October 19, 2017
Justine, a physicist by day and asexuality.org volunteer by night, busts asexual myths and shares her experiences as an asexual polyamorous person.
October 12, 2017
We chat with The Ethical Slut co-author Janet Hardy on how poly has changed in the last 20 years and on what has changed the latest edition of The Ethical Slut.
October 8, 2017
A listener asks how to reduce friction and awkwardness in first-time metamour meetings; LustyGuy and Minx respond, and correspondent Erich Viedge offers a relevant interview with and letter from Wilrieke Sophia as well as a book author interview with Page Turner about her new book, Poly Land, My Brutally Honest Adventures in Polyamory.
September 21, 2017
Sex therapist Ruby Bouie Johnson joins us to address a listener question about premature ejaculation and whether he needs to find a partner who also comes quickly to compensate.
September 14, 2017
Iris Muscarella, burlesque performer, jazz singer and new poly educator, shares insights on solo and egalitarian polyamory.
September 7, 2017
Listener AJ asks what are the key political struggles of the poly movement today and what can we learn from the LGBTQ movement.
August 30, 2017
There is a growing demand for poly plot lines in science fiction novels. Guest host Erich Viege interviews sci fi publisher Alisia Gus of Curiosity Quills publishing about new poly plot lines in science fiction.
August 24, 2017
PhD student Chris Smith discusses his latest academic paper on polyamory, nonmonogamy and the Black American
August 17, 2017
What behavioral patterns do you establish at the beginning of your polyamorous (or monogamous) dating relationships, and why do those patterns matter?
August 10, 2017
Cunning Minx and Koe Creation share thoughts on poly "comets," why they are valuable and how they work with solo polyamory.
July 27, 2017
After meeting her at Poly Dallas Millennium, we interview sex positive educator, sex toy party facilitator and intimacy consultant Goody Howard, operating out of Texas.
July 11, 2017
Listener Shanna calls in to ask if her willingness to be poly will help them get past her husband's cheating. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Announcements Minx and LustyGuy will be at Poly Dallas Millennium next month Koe is coaching; hire them at koecreation.com or email koecreation@gmail.com And teaching The Great Wide World of Nonmonogamy at the Armory in San Francisco on August 31. Get tickets here. And they are also working on their memoir as a second-generation poly person! 4:30 Poly in the News Wait for the second date to reveal you’re poly? From Savage Love 5:15 Topic: will poly fix his cheating? Listener Shanna calls in to say that her husband has cheated and she is open to polyamory. How do they move past the cheating and improve their relationship together? 22:40 Feedback We learn the term “parrot gliding”! 23:45 Happy Poly Moment Marie shared a happy poly moment in Swedish! How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
July 3, 2017
What do you do when your partner dismisses your shit-owning? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:00 Announcements We’ll be at Poly Dallas Millennium next month 1:20 Poly in the News Wait for the second date to reveal you’re poly? From Savage Love 4:30 Topic: when owning your shit isn’t enough Listener A writes in to ask when owning your shit isn’t enough—how about treating your partner with compassion and care. Sometimes, people use “own your shit” to mean “I don’t want to do the work that a healthy relationship requires.” Where is the line between owning your shit and being compassionate and caring for your partner? Relationship Bill of Rights 12:45 Feedback A listener calls in to ask why women can have friendships with women but men can’t have friendships with men Queen of Sodomy calls in from Iceland to question if the poly folks should join the GLBTQIA community 20:15 Happy Poly Moment Ivan called in with a HPM about kids meeting metamours 21:45 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
June 26, 2017
Is it OK that I am feeling displaced by my metamour? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Announcements We complain about having to close the windows and turn off the fans in order to record when it’s 90 degrees out. J Also! We’ll be at Poly Dallas Millennium next month Minx learned how to moderate YouTube comments after posting her response video to Mayim Bialik to YouTube. Second Favorite Man poly country western ballad by Tight Pajamas will be our outro music. The music video is here, and you can purchase the song here. 6:30 Poly in the News David gives an audio review of The Secret History of Wonder Woman book about the polyamorous author and recommends it for those interested in comic books, feminism or the fight for birth control 13:30 we also discuss our reactions to the Wonder Woman movie 16:05 Three men in Columbia registered their poly marriage 17:15 Topic: I’m feeling displaced by my new metamour New to Poly is feeling pushed aside by her partner’s relationship with her new metamour, with whom her partner is exploring BDSM. She is feeling displaced because her partner is repeatedly canceling or changing her established chats in order to make plans with her new metamour. Is it OK to feel this way? Yes, it’s always OK to feel whatever you feel! Talk to your partner and own your shit—good job! Work on a shared solution together 25:00 Feedback Andy comments on episode 517 STIs for dummies on a situation in which HSV could be a more important issue—pregnancy AggieSez shares a comment on episode 488 Negotiating metamour meets, reminding us that the metamour gets a say in the timing as well, not just the couple! 31:00 Happy Poly Moment Diva called in with a happy poly moment about coming out to her kid! 34:20 Thank you! Welcome Abby as a new playmate and thanks Leadra in Germany for the $69 donation! 17:30 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
June 19, 2017
Minx addresses Bialik's misconceptions about open relationships. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Announcements Lusty Guy’s My Swinging Origin Story 2:10 Topic: Responding to Mayim Bialik’s video post on open relationships A few weeks ago, Mayim Bialik made a video post about how she doesn’t get open relationships. Here’s my response video on YouTube and on Facebook (with 22,000 views already!) She has quite a few misconceptions! Here are the top six misconceptions I created a response video to clear up: Most primates are monogamous Not true! 97% of mammals are nonmonogamous. Among the primates, a few monkeys and one ape, the gibbon, are monogamous. Every other species is nonmonogamous. It’s all about the sex. She says she gets it’s not all about the sex, but then proceeds to spend six out of seven minutes talking about the sex. So… who’s making it all about the sex here? Male sexuality always equals promiscuity, and female sexuality always equals monogamy and lack of sexual interest. This isn’t about sexual dimorphism; it’s about people’s individual orientations. Male sexuality doesn’t equal promiscuity, and female sexuality doesn’t equal monogamy and a lack of sexual interest. In fact, did you know that, when approaching poly from the point of view of a couple, it’s usually the woman’s idea to open up? If a lifestyle wouldn’t work for me, it couldn’t possibly work for anyone else. Mayim talks about how relationships take time and energy, and she couldn’t imagine having enough focus for another partner in addition to her spouse and kids. Great! But, just as she chose how many kids she could bring into her life and love and care for, consenting adults also get to choose how many partners they can bring into their lives to love. Poly practitioners are at higher risk for STIs. Wrong! The people at highest risk for STIs are those who are uneducated about transmission methods, who prefer lying or cheating to honest communication and who don’t get tested regularly and share those results with their partners. In fact, STI rates tend to be lower among polyamorists because we educate and communicate without shame about STIs. People only practice polyamory because they are unhappy in their existing relationships. Wrong again! Well, OK. Sometimes this does happen. But most people practice polyamory, non-monogamy or relationship anarchy because it’s the truest expression of themselves. And by the way, not all non-monogamy starts with a couple. Plenty of people are solo poly. 9:45 Feedback on episode 518 A listener calls in to say that she was interrviewed for that NYT Magazine article and is glad her story wasn’t included with those who came to poly from cheating AggieSez chastises the journalist for not following journalism 101: not getting direct quotes from people who were not the married partners. If the whole premise is that other people are involved but you never interview or quote those partners, you’re leaving out a huge part of the story! She’s putting together a media guide for journalists wanting to cover poly! 14:40 Happy Poly Moment Free wrote in to share an HPM about helping out a partner’s sick kid. Parenting happy poly moment for the win! 17:30 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
June 12, 2017
A chat with podcaster and author Cooper S. Beckett about his new novel, Approaching the Swingularity. Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Announcements Lusty Guy’s My Swinging Origin Story 2:00 Interview: Cooper S. Beckett Cooper S. Beckett, long time host of the Life on the Swingset podcast, talks about his new fiction novel, Approaching the Swingularity. Our written interview blog post with Cooper about Approaching the Swingularity. Follow him on Twitter and Instagram. 23:45 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
June 1, 2017
A listener calls in from Japan to ask if one can be successfully poly if one is introverted.  0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Announcements Lusty Guy’s Swingtowns article on fighting fair Alan’s poly 101 article 2:20 Topic: Can you be introverted and poly? A listener writes in from Japan to ask if it’s possible to come across as anything other than lonely and desperate when you’re introverted and poly. Then he calls in a few weeks later to say that, after reading our books and listening to our podcasts, he feels GREAT and is good to go! Lusty Guy’s article on loving yourself first 14:15 Feedback Alex asked about my idea of improving the relationships I enter and what Lusty Guy and L would say Minx has improved their relationship? L’s list: L got a friendship with Minx, a cleaner house, international vacations, an active social calendar LustyGuy has more energy and has discovered the value of an attractive, organized space 25:15 Happy Poly Moment 29:45 Thank you! Thanks to anonymous, Kerstin and JA for becoming playmates and for donating to PW! 30:30 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
May 30, 2017
Kevin Patterson and Ruby Bouie Johnson join the team to review that NYT Magazine article on open marriage from May 11. 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:15 Topic: That New York Time Magazine article In this unrepresentative 12,000 word article, New York Times Magazine chooses to show only dysfunctional poly couples and uses Kevin as The Token Black Guy. This is their more representative follow up article Kevin’s response post The Times Piece About Open Marriage Doesn’t Represent My Experience Ruby’s response post What the New York Times Neglected to See 25:30 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
May 11, 2017
Jenn Stauffer of Utah Poly shares her insights on the testing and transmission of four key STIs 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Announcements and host chat I’ll be giving a talk on polyamory at Ignite Seattle on May 18. Keep an eye on the Poly Weekly Facebook page and Twitter account for the livestream if you’d like to watch remotely. 3:10 Topic: Jenn Stauffer of Utah Poly shares the key takeaways from her RelateCon presentation on The Sensible Slut, a review of the transmission and testing methods of the top four STIs: chlamydia, HPV, HSV and HIV. Contact her via Utah Poly. 28:10 Feedback Listener K writes in to talk about the newbie poly mistakes they made and to express gratitude at the educational materials PW provides so they don’t feel so alone! 30:05 Thanks Thanks to our newest anonymous PW Playmate! 29:30 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
May 4, 2017
An interview with Racheline Maltese, co-author of a new poly romance novel.  0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com 1:30 Announcements and host chat I’ll be giving a talk on polyamory at Ignite Seattle on May 18 For more information, read the Eight Things I Wish I’d Known About Polyamory ebook or paperback For a how to guide to setting up your new poly relationship, read Tristan Taormino’s Opening Up; for a guide to poly ethics, read More Than Two by Franklin Veaux and Eve Rickert 8:30 Interview: Racheline, co-author of The Art of Three poly romance novel Racheline Maltese, co-author of the new poly romance novel The Art of Three with Erin McRae, talks about the process of writing a romance novel for poly folks. Racheline Maltese can fly a plane, sail a boat, and ride a horse, but has no idea how to drive a car; she’s based in Brooklyn. Erin McRae has a graduate degree in international affairs for which she focused on the role of social media in the Arab Spring; she’s based in Washington DC. Together, they write romance – often queer, often poly -- about fame and public life. Their work is currently available with, or forthcoming from, publishers including Cleis, Dreamspinner, Riptide, and Simon & Schuster’s Saga Press. As hybrid authors, they also independently publish. Like everyone in the 21st century, they met on the Internet.  Their website Buy The Art of Three here Follow Racheline on Twitter or on Instagram or Like their Facebook page Follow Erin on Twitter or on Instagram 28:30 Feedback Catherine gives feedback on episode 368 Metamour cock block—she was on the other side of a similar situation, and she is happy to hear the advice given! 33:45 Happy poly moment Meredith writes in with a sweet family happy poly moment 35:45 Thanks Thanks to Manfred and Natalie and welcome Stephanie to the Poly Weekly Playmates! 36:00 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
April 27, 2017
Help! Compersion squicks me! Does it mean I'm jealous if hearing about my husband's dates disgusts me? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com Today’s cohost is Lusty Guy 1:30 Announcements and host chat New Dutch bank bunq commercial specifically targets polys! 5:15 Topic: help! Compersion squicks me! Lauren has been married to her husband for 24 years and non-monogamous (mostly swinging) for 12. Five years ago, she discovered he had cheated, and they worked through it. Now they date separately. And while he loves hearing what she does on her dates, but Lauren is grossed out even thinking about what he does on his dates. 15:30 Feedback Matthew writes in to say he tried the And then what? exercise to deal with jealousy/fear/insecurity but didn’t think he learned anything from it. 21:45 Happy poly moment A listener writes in with a happy poly moment of her triad going really well, metamours and all! 25:00 Thanks Welcome to Susan and Rachel, our newest Poly Weekly playmate subscribers! 25:45 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
April 21, 2017
How do I say "no" to a reasonable request from my partner? 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com Today’s cohost is Kevin Patterson 1:30 Announcements and host chat Multilinking conference 3:45 Topic: how do I tell my partner no? Eva writes in to ask how to tell her partner no to a request. Her partner Lisa wants an additional date night each week, but Eva doesn’t feel she can give that and wants to take time to settle into her nesting relationship with Denise. How does she say no to Lisa?  9:15 Feedback Vir Modestus took issue with our advice in episode 507 How do I get control of my fears?, and even wrote up a blog post about his frustration with “you’re insecure” being used as a way to dismiss someone else’s emotional reponse. 23:15 Happy poly moment Kevin shares a happy family poly moment 24:45 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
April 17, 2017
If I'm dating a poly married guy, am I poly? Can he be my core relationship? If I want a core relationship, do I have to go back to being monogamous? Search our blog archives of all episode show notes at www.polyweekly.com 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com Today’s cohost is Lusty Guy 1:30 Announcements and host chat RelateCon was amazing! You should go next year! 5:45 Poly in the news Rethinking monogamy on CNN TV is finally starting to get polyamory right 10:45 Topic: does dating poly make me poly? A listener writes in to ask how to manage her self-identity as she is dating a man in a couple—what happens when she is ready to focus on a core relationship? Does she disclose her existing relationship? Break it off to pursue monogamy? Or can her sweetie be her core relationship? You got questions; we’ve got answers! 26:20 Thank you! Thanks to Spirit, and Craig for their donations! And welcome Blackbird, Fernando, Toby and Brenda to the Playmates! 28:50 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
April 12, 2017
My partner of seven months ghosted me. How can I avoid this in the future? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly 0:00 Introduction and host chat Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com Today’s cohost is Kevin Patterson 1:30 Announcements and host chat Foropoliamor is in Spain June 16-18 2:30 Poly in the news I’m 90% honest; the 10% lying is why our relationship works A cultural moment for polyamory on NPR 14:15 Topic: how do I avoid ghosting? Listener Suzy writes in to ask how to avoid being ghosted (suddenly ceasing all communication with someone you are dating in lieu of breaking up)? 23:30 Feedback Michael gives some kind positive feedback! The Accessible Multi-linking and Polyamory virtual conference is coming up the first weekend in November 25:00 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
March 29, 2017
Help! My metamour wants to post about her relationship on social media, but I'm in the closet, which means she must be, too. Who decides when I come out? Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com Today’s cohost is Lusty Guy 1:30 Announcements and host chat New ebook, No Dick Pics: Your Guide to Creating an Irresisitible Online Dating Profile for just $4.99 Do you love us? Tell a friend about us using #trypod (try this podcast) 4:25 Topic: who decides when I come out as poly? M writes in to ask: my metamour Nina wants me to be out as poly so she can post about her relationship on social media and is convinced that M is only not coming out so she can hold on to her primary status. What to do? 20:20 Feedback Alan wrote in to verify that yes, it’s usually the woman who asks for polyamory and to say he finds that Lusty Guy’s hedonism will give our opponents ammunition to use against polyamory Anonymous poly doctor writes in to give feedback on episode 499 Coming out to your doctor and how to talk to your doctor about poly and STI screenings 32:00 Happy poly moment Jodi shares a first public happy poly moment 33:30 How to make this podcast better Questions? Comments? Feedback? Email polyweekly@gmail.com and attach an audio comment or call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY. Friend us on Twitter or Facebook, leave a comment here. Check out Poly Weekly podcasts at polyweekly.libsyn.com. Share this with a friend or write an iTunes review!  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
March 23, 2017
A chat with Dedeker Winston, author of The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory and host of the Multiamory podcast. Under 18? Stop listening now and visit http://www.scarleteen.com Today’s cohost is Lusty Guy 1:30 Host chat Planet Money NPR podcast And then what exercise Lusty Guy's My Poly Story Lusty Guy will be doing a Poly in the Heartland road trip. Email him at lustyguy@polyweekly.com if you want to be interviewed! The Art of Three blog interview 9:10 Poly in the news A New York judge has officially awarded custody to three parents in a landmark case The Poly in the News coverage 14:20 Interview: Dedeker Winston, author of Smart Girl’s Guide to Polyamory Dedeker Winston   The Smart Girl's Guide to Polyamory.  Facebook and Instagram at @dedekerwinston. Multiamory podcast 37:45 Feedback episode 501 episode 502on coming out to kids 43:00 Happy poly moment 47:10 Thank you! 49:00 How to make this podcast better Email polyweekly@gmail.com Call the listener comment line at 802-505-POLY Twitter  Facebook polyweekly.libsyn.com write an iTunes review  Our intro and outro music is courtesy of Pacemaker Jane, “Good Suspicions.”
March 16, 2017
Loving half a couple after a triad implodes. A listener asks: how do I love only the wife after our triad implodes and her husband won't talk to me? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
March 10, 2017
A poly activist profile with the organizer of Poly Dallas Millennium and LCSW, Ruby Bouie Johnson. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
March 2, 2017
How do I get control of my own fears to be able to handle poly sex situations better? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
February 23, 2017
What if I love him more than he loves me? Should I run to avoid risking deep emotional pain? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly
February 19, 2017
We are trying poly for the first time; it was his idea. I like the idea, but I'm having a hard time. At what point do I decide if poly just isn't right for me? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly
February 9, 2017
Solo poly and getting off the relationship escalator with Aggie Sez. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
February 2, 2017
How to love someone who is in an abusive relationship. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly.
January 26, 2017
I'm meeting lots of guys on OKCupid but can't find one I like. Am I being too picky or too impatient? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
January 19, 2017
If three partners ran off to be in monogamous relationships, does that mean that poly doesn't work for me? Or is it me that isn't working? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
January 11, 2017
How has Dan Savage's position on polyamory changed, and is he poly himself? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
January 5, 2017
How and when to come out to your doctor and how to advocate for yourself when asking for STI screenings. Visit www.polyweekly.com for full show notes and episode archives. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.facebook.com/polyweekly.
December 21, 2016
Meet the creator and partial cast of Compersion, the new poly web series, who are not only awesome but fundraising for season two! Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
December 19, 2016
How to advise a friend of a poly land mine you yourself dearly want to step on. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
December 10, 2016
How do I ask my wife about my setting up a joint bank account to pay for trysts with my sweetie, which involve weekly dinners and a hotel stay? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
December 5, 2016
Key poly terms, defined, along with some fun new terms. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly
November 17, 2016
What do you call your partners? Lover, girlfriend, significant other, anchor? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
November 11, 2016
We react to the U.S. presidential election. A listener writes in to ask what to do when you ask a partner to tell you you are loved and that your relationship is important, but the partner refuses to do so. Do you work on your insecurities that require the behavior? Get therapy? Or just leave? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
October 27, 2016
Is it OK to hit on my metamours? How do I do that without appearing lazy? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
October 21, 2016
Questions to help you define your poly ethics. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
October 14, 2016
Poly 101: what is the real difference between boundaries and rules? And do hierarchies work in poly?Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
October 7, 2016
How "the other woman" archetype affects polyamory and polyamorists. Koe Creation cohosts. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
September 22, 2016
Help! My husband doesn't want to meet his metamours right away, but I do! How do we negotiate this?Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly    
September 15, 2016
What to do when one's need for autonomy and personal time causes one's partner grief. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
September 8, 2016
How to deal with the need for personal space, self-care and and partners with anxiety. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
September 6, 2016
Is desiring poly (without having tried it) a reason to end my marriage? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
August 25, 2016
Is it OK to shift my time commitments as my emotions and priorities change? Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly
August 18, 2016
How to deal with the gossip after coming out as poly. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
August 12, 2016
1:00 Poly movie review: The Ethical Slut, the web series 7:00 Topic: I don’t trust someone in my poly community. What do I do? 14:30 Feedback on episode 475: Hierarchies 20:45 Happy Poly Moment
August 6, 2016
A listener asks if she really needs to be 100% mentally healthy, stable and communicative before trying polyamory. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
August 1, 2016
We talk transgender awareness and alliances with Lee Harrington, author of the new book, Traversing Gender: Understanding Transgender Realities. Email polyweekly@gmail.com, call 802-505-POLY, Twitter @polyweekly or visit www.polyweekly.com or www.facebook.com/polyweekly  
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