284: The Way to Stop Rescuing People From Their Problems, with Michael Bungay Stanier
Published February 13, 2017
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    Michael Bungay Stanier: The Coaching Habit
    Michael Bungay Stanier is the bestselling author of the books Do More Great Work* and The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever*. Michael and his team of facilitators help time-crunched managers coach in 10 minutes or less.
    Key Points
    When things get difficult, there are three roles people might fall into:

    The victim
    The persecutor
    The rescuer

    How to bust out of a victim role:

    Figure out what’s really going on.
    Take a deep breath.
    Think, “And what else?”

    How to bust out of a persecutor role:

    Assume positive intent, that people are trying their best.
    Ask yourself what you want in the situation, and make sure you’ve communicated it to others. Then ask the others what they want.

    How to bust out of a rescuer role:

    Ask the victim, “How can I help?” or “What do you want from me?”

    Resources Mentioned

    The Coaching Habit: Say Less, Ask More & Change the Way You Lead Forever by Michael Bungay Stanier*
    Do More Great Work by Michael Bungay Stanier*
    Derek Sivers: Hell Yeah

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