The Art of Charm
The Art of Charm
The Art of Charm
The Art of Charm is where self-motivated people, just like you, come to learn from the company’s coaches about to how to master human dynamics, relationships, and becoming your best self with the help of Johnny and AJ, the company’s founders. Johnny and AJ bring their 11 years of coaching experience from their famous Bootcamps, where they host clients in Los Angeles from all over the world and they share their stories, best practices and themselves on this weekly podcast. Not only does The Art of Charm help everyday people, including active members of the military, learn how to become higher performers, better spouses, partners, and coworkers, they dig deep into human behavior, the science behind it, and demystify what we do and why we do it.
Leadership Lessons from Navy SEALs, Fortune CEOs & Top Executives
In today’s episode, we dive deep into the essence of leadership and personal transformation with a stellar lineup of guests. Brad Lomenick brings his expertise on impactful leadership and personal growth, drawing from his experience as a consultant and author of influential books including H3 Leadership: Be Humble. Stay Hungry. Always Hustle. We hear from Brett Crozier, whose distinguished career in the US Navy offers invaluable lessons on resilience and integrity. Dan Luna, with his rich background as a Navy SEAL and leadership coach, shares insights on developing leadership skills under pressure. John Mackey, the visionary behind Whole Foods Market, discusses the principles of conscious capitalism and leadership that have guided his successful career. Leadership expert Patrick Lencioni provides practical advice on building effective teams and organizations, while Jake Wood, co-founder of Team Rubicon, talks about the power of vulnerability and integrity in leadership.  How can you bust leadership myths and embrace humility, hunger, and hustle to drive success? What are the key traits all leaders need, and how can embracing vulnerability and integrity transform your leadership style? This episode of The Art of Charm answers these questions and more, providing you with the tools and insights needed to become a stronger, more conscious leader. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What are common misconceptions about leadership roles and titles? Why is self-leadership crucial in today's career landscape? Most people don’t understand this about group dynamics and leadership frames – 10:10 How does the concept of "herd mentality" apply to leadership and fitting into social environments? Why is focusing on your team or people fundamental to leadership success? How do you master leadership skills in your everyday life? – 19:00 Why is practice crucial in developing leadership skills? What makes conscious leadership different from conventional leadership? How effective leaders deal with criticism and their inner critic – 29:44 What can you do to not feel anonymous in your organization and not be that cog? How can leaders effectively show vulnerability to their team? What are the three things employees need to avoid feeling miserable at work? Leading with integrity and handling no’s – 39:05 What is the importance of facing rejection and criticism for a leader? How can leaders remain steadfast and true to their values in the face of adversity? Traits that make leaders effective – 47:48 How do humility and vulnerability contribute to leadership effectiveness? How should leaders approach crisis situations to maintain team confidence and trust? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 18
59 min
Master Your Attachment Style and Accelerate Your Success | Dr. Judy Ho
In today’s episode, we tackle attachment with Dr. Judy Ho. Dr. Ho is a clinical neuropsychologist and a tenured professor and researcher at Pepperdine University, works as a forensic expert and media consultant, and last time she joined us to talk about her book, Stop Self-Sabotage, and today, she's back to talk about her latest book, The New Rules of Attachment: How to Heal Your Relationships, Reparent Your Inner Child, and Secure Your Life Vision. Everyone knows how attachment styles influence romantic relationships, but how do they hold you back in your career, why do you need to understand your attachment style to build healthy relationships, and what can you do to change your attachment style and raise children with secure attachment styles? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What is attachment theory and what are the 4 attachment styles? How do parenting styles produce different attachment styles in their children?  How to avoid raising insecure children – 13:14 What do you need to avoid to raise children to have a secure attachment style?  If you have an insecure attachment style, what can you do to change it to a secure attachment style? How do you change your attachment style – 20:13 What can you do to break the pattern of avoidant attachment and develop a secure attachment style? What are the strengths and weaknesses of the avoidant attachment style? How do I connect with an avoidant attachment style? The secret to living with an insecure attachment style – 33:14 What simple 10 second exercise can you do to accept your attachment style while you’re working to change it so it doesn’t sabotage your relationships? How to deal with your partner’s attachment style – 40:23 What can you do if you’re putting in a lot of work to understand your attachment style and your partner’s, but your partner isn’t interested in doing the same work? What are you supposed to do when a family member’s attachment style creates conflict with yours?  Breaking free of your avoidant attachment style in your career – 49:33 How does your avoidant attachment style sabotage your career and your ability to advance? Should everyone be striving to have a secure attachment style? A Word From Our Sponsors Bombas crafts ridiculously comfortable socks, tees, and underwear, and for every item sold, they donate one to help those facing homelessness — over 100 million essentials donated so far. Not only are their clothes designed for ultimate comfort with features like arch support and buttery-soft fabric, but they also ensure customer satisfaction with a 100% Happiness Guarantee for hassle-free returns and exchanges. Ready to get comfy and give back? Head over to Bombas.com/CHARM and use code CHARM for twenty percent off your first purchase! $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/CHARM. Offer good for a limited time. Ready to start your ecommerce business? Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/charm. Grow your business–no matter what stage you’re in. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you?  That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone?  Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 11
1 hr 4 min
Achieve More By Doing Less: Slow Productivity | Cal Newport
In today’s episode, we tackle slow productivity with Cal Newport. Cal is a leading productivity expert and the author of several best selling books, including a A World Without Email: Reimagining Work in an Age of Communication Overload, Digital Minimalism: Choosing a Focused Life in a Noisy World, Deep Work: Rules for Focused Success in a Distracted World, and So Good They Can't Ignore You: Why Skills Trump Passion in the Quest for Work You Love. His newest book is titled Slow Productivity: The Lost Art of Accomplishment Without Burnout. What if slowing down was actually the secret to achieving more? In this episode, we dive into the intriguing world of slow productivity: Can embracing a slower pace truly catapult your career success? What are the three foundational principles of slow productivity, and how can you apply them to revolutionize your work ethic? Moreover, why is transforming your relationship with productivity essential for not just professional achievement, but for crafting a fulfilling life? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What is pseudo productivity and how does being pseudo productive at work damage your relationships and personal life? What’s wrong with how we think about transparency at work and what is the best level of transparency to maximize team productivity? The evolution of workplace productivity – 13:49 Why did productivity decrease when we have so many tools to be more productive? What can you eliminate from your daily schedule to be 10x more productive than your competition? How do you limit communication to maximize productivity? The reason most people can’t leave their work at the office – 28:18 Why is it important to slow down if you want to increase productivity? What are the 3 biggest takeaways from studying traditional knowledge workers that you can use to maximize productivity? Can you be more productive without using any email? – 40:45 What happpened the productivity of 12 employees in a study where the experimenters disabled their email accounts? What simple framework can you implement on your team to improve transparency, reduce stress, increase productivity, and increase the collaboration between employees and managers? The little known technique to most effectively distribute your team’s workload – 52:23 Why do rude people get promoted faster? What mistake do people make that prevents them from getting promoted without even knowing it? How do you apply slow productivity to being a more productive writer – 1:08:16 What principles of slow productivity should you apply to your writing practice to increase your productivity and efficiency as a writer? What simple trick can you implement in your hybrid work situation to decrease time spent on email, increase communication effectivity, increase meeting effectivity, increase productivity, and increase deep work? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 4
1 hr 36 min
What Evolution and Human Behavior Can Tell Us About Purpose and Meaning | Sam Wilkinson
In today’s episode, we tackle meaning and purpose with Samuel T Wilkinson. Sam is a professor of psychiatry at Yale University, an associate director of the Yale Depression Research Program, and the author of his latest book Purpose: What Evolution and Human Nature Imply about the Meaning of Our Existence. In this episode, we explore the two sides of human nature and how they guide us to find our true purpose. We dive into free will's role in achieving a good life, look at how committed relationships affect our happiness, and share new scientific findings on evolution that help explain our life's meaning.  What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How does understanding the duality of human nature enhance your leadership and communication strategy? Is our success and decision-making process truly random, or is there an underlying order that can be leveraged for personal growth? How do different religious beliefs about free will influence our life choices and purpose? – 14:48 Can exploring various beliefs on free will unlock a deeper sense of purpose and direction in life and career? What are the implications of Monogamy vs. Promiscuity on society and personal well-being? – 20:10 How do shifting norms around relationships impact societal stability and individual well-being? How do relationships define our happiness and purpose, according to the longest running study on human development? How do deep meaningful relationships fuel our search for purpose? – 33:00 How do relationships and attachment theory play a critical role in finding purpose and fulfillment? What are the actionable steps to deepen your connections and harness the power of meaningful relationships in your personal and professional life?  How does parenthood reshape our priorities and enhance our sense of purpose? – 40:16 How does parenthood transform one's priorities and contribute to a greater sense of purpose and societal contribution? What are the unique rewards and challenges of raising children, and how do they impact personal growth and career advancement? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 26
59 min
Supercommunicators & The Secret Language of Connection | Charles Duhigg
In today’s episode, we tackle supercommunicators with Charles Duhigg. Charles is a Pulitzer prize-winning reporter, writer for The New Yorker magazine, and the author of two New York Times bestsellers, The Power of Habit, and his second book, Smarter Faster Better. His latest book, Supercommunicators: How to Unlock the Secret Language of Connection, is available February 20, 2024. We discuss how supercommunicators use 3 types of conversation to their advantage. Charles shares a 3 second preparation routine you can use instantly to make your conversations better. How to skip small talk and take conversation deeper to create connection with anyone, and why recognizing social identities can help you manage difficult conversations effectively. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How do you recognize a supercommunicator in your life, and what impact do they have on your personal development and well-being? What do supercommunicators do so well that most people suck at? The thin line between authentic conversation and interrogation – 16:29 What simple mindset shift can you make to turn boring conversations into fulfilling conversations that engage the other person and make them look forward to talking to you? Social media gets toxic because most people don’t know these rules – 24:13 Why are there rules for communicating through different forms of technology and how do those rules cause social media to be so toxic? If you want lifelong happiness, what do you need to have by age 45 and 65? The little known technique that makes hard conversations easy – 34:28 What are the 3 types of conversations and how do you know which type you’re having with someone so there’s no disconnect? How do you build out the skill set to be more comfortable expressing vulnerability? Quick guide to prepare you for any conversation – 47:43 What are practical ways to mentally prepare for emotional and social discussions, even if you're not accustomed to expressing vulnerability? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 19
56 min
Learned Excellence: Leadership Lessons from the Navy SEALs | Dr. Eric Potterat
In today’s episode, we tackle learning excellence with Eric Potterat and Alan Eagle. Eric is one of the world's leading performance psychologists, a retired US naval commander, a lead psychologist for the US Navy Seals, the Los Angeles Dodgers, and co-author of Learned Excellence: Mental Disciplines for Leading and Winning from the World's Top Performers. His co author, Allan Eagle, is a colleague of Dr. Potterat’s at Google and best selling author himself. He was blown away by Dr Potterat’s lessons and wanted to co-author a book To share Eric's knowledge with the world.  How can the mental disciplines used by the world's elite performers transform not just your career, but how you connect with others? We uncover the secrets to achieving unparalleled success and fulfillment, learning from experts who've coached the best, from Navy SEALs to top business leaders, on learning excellence, becoming visible in elite circles to unlock career opportunities, and the 6 pillars of performance you need to master to become elite.  What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What simple exercise can you do to improve your performance in every area of your daily life? The mindset shift most that causes most people to give up – 14:00 What do you do when effort and hard work are not enough to perform at your best or reach your goals? What is the key to becoming excellent at anything you choose to pursue, even if you’re currently terrible at it? How do you know if you’re on the right path – 27:20 What can you look for to figure out if you’re on the right path or using the right process to solve your problem? What can you do to get yourself ready before a big speech or pitch to manage stress, and how do you manage the stress in the moment? How do elite performers take valuable experience from everything they do – 37:50 What are the 6 pillars you should always maintain in life to create the greatest resilience before life inevitably kicks you in the face? Unlocking elite performance in your children – 45:54 How do you help your children learn excellence? What questions can you ask your kids everyday to achieve their potential? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 12
59 min
Applied Empathy for Strengthening Relationships and Networking
In today’s episode, we tackle empathy with Michael Ventura, Paul Bloom, Geoffrey Cohen, and Rick Hanson. Michael Ventura is the author of Applied Empathy: The New Language of Leadership. Paul Bloom is a professor at the University of Toronto and author of Against Empathy: The Case for Rational Compassion. Geoffrey Cohen is a Stanford professor and author of Belonging: The Science of Creating Connection and Bridging Divides. And Rick Hanson is a psychologist and senior fellow at UC Berkeley’s Greater Good Science Center and NYT bestselling author of Taking in the Good. How can empathy revolutionize your personal and professional relationships? Have you ever considered that empathy could be more than just understanding others' feelings? What if we told you that empathy is not just about being nice, but about wielding a deep, objective perspective that could unlock your true potential and transform your approach to social interactions? Discover how to identify your empathy archetype, why empathy is crucial in leadership, and how it can be a superpower in your interactions. Are you ready to challenge your perceptions and cultivate a skill that guarantees meaningful connections and success? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What is the most common misconception about empathy? How do you develop empathy and why does it seem like so many people lack it these days? Do psychopaths have empathy? – 13:02 What do most people get wrong about empathy and sympathy?  What are the 7 empathy archetypes? Forging a strong and confident brain – 19:12 How do you strengthen your brain and make it confident, and why would you want to?  What tiny habit can you work on for moments each day that will enable you to build relationships with whoever you want? The approach to empathy most people avoid – 31:39 What is the most time-efficient way to maximize your empathy? What is the best way to stand up for yourself if someone says something that makes you or someone else uncomfortable? Leaders ignore this one skill to the detriment of their business – 39:31 How can leaders and team members integrate empathy into their work environment to improve dynamics and outcomes? What 15 minute exercise can you do every morning to cultivate deeper empathy? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Feb 5
55 min
3 Ways To Boost Your Likability For Easy Networking | Toolbox
In today’s episode, we tackle likability with AJ, Johnny, and Michael Herold.  In this episode, we unpack the secrets to becoming irresistibly likable, mastering the art of propinquity, and leveraging your network effectively. We tackle burning questions such as how to build a vibrant social life irrespective of your location, the role of technology in networking, and how to make every social interaction count. Whether you're starting anew in a different city or looking to inject new energy into your current social circle, this episode is a goldmine of strategies and insights. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What is propinquity, and how can it drastically improve your ability to make friends anywhere you live? Stop unknowingly sabotaging your social life – 11:38 Are you unknowingly sabotaging your social life? Learn the common pitfalls to avoid and boost your social presence Want to know how propinquity can boost your career? Discover how one client dramatically improved his professional life using this concept Turn mindless activity into great networking opportunities – 19:12 Why is mindless social media scrolling a missed opportunity? Learn how to turn your social media habits into networking gold How can your reputation skyrocket your likability and networking success? Find out the power of social proof in expanding your circle The secret to boosting your likability – 30:01 How can showing curiosity in others' interests boost your likability? Feeling like your interests are too niche for others? Learn how to find common ground in any conversation The hidden psychological principle that draws people in – 40:15 What psychological principles drive our attraction to others and how can you use those principles to boost your likability? How can you leverage online platforms to showcase your personality and interests? A Word From Our Sponsors Bombas crafts ridiculously comfortable socks, tees, and underwear, and for every item sold, they donate one to help those facing homelessness — over 100 million essentials donated so far. Not only are their clothes designed for ultimate comfort with features like arch support and buttery-soft fabric, but they also ensure customer satisfaction with a 100% Happiness Guarantee for hassle-free returns and exchanges. Ready to get comfy and give back? Head over to Bombas.com/CHARM and use code CHARM for twenty percent off your first purchase! $75 SPONSORED JOB CREDIT to upgrade your job post at Indeed.com/CHARM. Offer good for a limited time. Ready to start your ecommerce business? Sign up for a one-dollar-per-month trial period at shopify.com/charm. Grow your business–no matter what stage you’re in. Curious about your influence level?  Get your Influence Index Score today! Take this 60-second quiz to find out how your influence stacks up against top performers at theartofcharm.com/influence Running out of things to say in conversation… and still struggling to get people interested in you?  That’s an uncomfortable position to be in. Don’t want to risk getting tongue-tied and screwing things up the next time you meet someone?  Check out Conversation Magic now to make sure you don't crash and burn. With our bulletproof formula, you'll be flirting up a storm, sparking fun and engaging conversations, and making high-value friends anywhere! Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 29
52 min
Avoid The Perfection Trap | Thomas Curran
In today’s episode, we tackle perfectionism with Thomas Curran. Thomas is an associate professor in the Department of Psychological and Behavioral Science at the London School of Economics, and the author of The Perfection Trap: Embracing the Power of Good Enough. We tackle the critical issue of how perfectionism can be both a driving force and a relationship killer, dissect the three key dimensions of perfectionism, and guide you on self-assessment to understand your personal perfectionism traps. We also delve into managing perfectionism's impact on work ethic and productivity, especially in the era of social media. Lastly, we provide actionable strategies for high performers to avoid perfectionism pitfalls, ensuring a balanced approach that fosters achievement without sacrificing personal connections or mental well-being. What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 What are the 3 dimensions of perfectionism? How perfectionism destroys relationships – 11:17 What do you need to do to foster healthy relationships with perfectionists? What first steps can you take to overcome perfectionism so it doesn’t destroy your relationships and professional success? Where do you fall on the perfectionism scale? – 20:19 How do you measure perfectionism and what questions can you ask to find out where you fall on the perfectionism scale? How much of your perfectionism is genetic, and how do you manage perfectionism when you have kids who might inherit that trait? Perfectionists sabotage their own work ethic because of this – 30:54 How do you make sure your perfectionism doesn’t have a negative impact on your productivity and work ethic? How should you approach social media as a perfectionist since social media can present you with many opportunities for your perfectionism to take a toll on your psyche? The perfectionism traps 90% of people fall into – 42:31 How do you avoid the perfectionism traps so you can accept imperfection, make mistakes, and be kind to yourself and others, so you can accomplish what you need to get done without leaving a wake of destruction? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 22
1 hr 2 min
How To Use Friction To Draw People In or Push Them Away | Bob Sutton
In today’s episode, we tackle friction with Bob Sutton. Bob is an organizational psychologist and professor at Stanford, a New York Times bestselling author, and is here with us to discuss his upcoming book, The Friction Project: How Smart Leaders Make the Right Things Easier and the Wrong Things Harder.  Bob Sutton sheds light on the double-edged sword of 'friction' in both professional and personal interactions, so why is friction a double-edged sword that you need to master to be successful, what strategies can you use to identify (and minimize) friction in your daily interactions, and how can you use positive friction as a tool to maximize your problem-solving capacity, boost productivity, and profitability? What to Listen For Introduction – 0:00 How do you identify the friction you bring to relationships that makes people not want to work with you or hang out with you? What can you learn from the California DMV about the importance of reducing friction to maximize productivity and boost customer satisfaction? 3 Ways to Make Friction a Force for Good at Work – 19:57 If friction slows things down, how do individuals and businesses use friction to amplify results? What strategies can individuals use to become friction fixers and accelerate their careers? How can understanding a company's culture of handling friction help you in job interviews? Power Poisoning and its impact on Organizational Friction – 34:00 How can leaders avoid falling into the trap of power poisoning so they don’t hurt their own bottom line by introducing unnecessary friction into the organization? The Impact of AI and Technology on Organizational Friction – 44:12 What are the best practices for integrating AI into the workplace without increasing friction? How can listeners apply the insights from The Friction Project to their professional and personal lives? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Jan 15
53 min
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