When you are doing all the things, controlling all the things at home ... being the mom who does the house, the kids, the work outside the home. This leads to a life of exhaustion, burnout, and trying to do it all.
Running yourself ragged, and resentful to the responsibilities of the home and kids.
How about this? How about teaching your kids to help out more. How to teach kids to be more independent. Making your kids more self-sufficient AND happy as well.