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November 18, 2019
Are your kids ever on the receiving end of name-calling? Do they get their feelings hurt by other kids, and you find yourself struggling with how to deal with it or help them through it?  In this episode we’ll dive into some ways you can help your children become healthy and strong individuals by coaching them through the friction and conflict they’re bound to experience throughout their childhood.                      [3:11] Name calling and hurt feelings are par for the course and aren’t as bad as you might think.   [4:54] Our natural tendency is to be empathetic and protective...but sometimes we overprotect. [6:59] Being overprotective can make our children feel incapable of handling conflict.                      [8:04] We also don’t want to just brush it off as no big deal.  [9:40] There will be times when you need to involve other people (parents, teachers, etc.).  [10:41] Not every single conflict between kids is “bullying” or “unsafe.”[12:47] We need to experience friction & conflict in childhood to help us learn how to deal with it.                   [18:22] The 3 “un-truths” explored in The Coddling of the American Mind.  [20:09] Give a little bit of empathy, but mostly focus on coaching them.           [21:52] The untruth of fragility. [24:09] The untruth of emotional reasoning. [30:52] The untruth of us vs. them. Let’s do our best to reframe the conflicts our children experience as opportunities to coach them and help them develop into healthy and strong people who can handle whatever life throws at them.   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.  Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital. Links & resources mentioned: Book The Coddling of the American Mind https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/events/ Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/44
November 11, 2019
Consumption...gifts...toys. If you're like me, you live in a society where materialism and the availability of toys and “stuff” is overwhelming, you likely struggle with the desire for “more” vs. minimalism and mindful consumption. In this episode we discuss how we can be eco-conscious when it comes to gifts and the holidays. [3:33] The deck is stacked against us when it comes to consumption and materialism...especially in the U.S. [6:29] The real issue is with our own internal struggles with mindful consumption. [6:42] We also need to give ourselves the grace and freedom to live a joy-filled life. [8:12] The world (and our children) needs less consumption. [15:29] Idea #1: Adopt an animal from a shelter. [16:48] Idea #2: An experience. [18:20] Idea #3: Second hand (used) items. [19:58] Idea #4: Long lasting/high quality toys. [21:40] Idea #5: Digital gifts. In the end what makes the biggest impact is minimizing and making special occasions less about “stuff” and more about what really matters.    If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital. Links & resources mentioned: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/events/ Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/43
November 4, 2019
In this episode I interview Julie Bogart (author of the incredible book The Brave Learner and founder of https://bravewriter.com)! Join us as we discuss ideas for making learning fun and how you are responsible for your child’s education even if you don’t homeschool.  [6:53] “How you relate to your child around their education is the key to successful growth of their love of learning.” [10:47] We can partner with our children to give them an education that they enjoy and gives them a hunger for learning.  [13:13] Bring play and enchantment into learning instead of forcing kids to leave play to do hard work. [15:59] Whether we homeschool or not, an involved parent leads to the best outcomes for our child’s education.  [19:15] The more we support our children, the sooner they choose to try on their own. [19:36] We need to provide the corresponding level of support to the presenting need.   [22:34] Sometimes the teacher is the leader, sometimes the child is.  [32:56] Don’t miss out on opportunities for your child to learn how to teach, even if it means you have to play a game you don’t particularly enjoy (Pokémon anyone?? 😂 ) [34:49] Learning is invisible to parents (you can’t see in their head) so we often seek “paper and pencil” for reassurance that learning is occuring.  [38:35] Kids are constantly pay attention and learning...but what they’re paying attention to doesn’t always register in our minds as learning, according to traditional academics.  [39:04] The best approach to screen time (spoiler alert; there isn’t one). [45:58] We all struggle at times, but we shouldn’t stay there. No one can live in “struggle” long-term. There needs to be a pivot; we need to find a way to move forward, out of the struggle. [47:12] The way to move forward is subjective, not prescriptive. It depends on the needs of our individual families and what’s best in each season.  [49:20] “Liberation comes when you take back your right to explore as many options as necessary to find today’s right fit for you and your family.”  Whether we homeschool or not, we are ultimately responsible for our children’s education and need to be as involved as possible to fuel their love for learning.  If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.  Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital. Links & resources mentioned: Julie’s book The Brave Learner https://thebravelearner.com/ (be sure to download the free companion guide from this website!) https://bravewriter.com/  Julie’s podcast & blog info @JulieBraveWriter Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/42
October 28, 2019
Do your children lie to you? Or if they’re too young, are you worried they will in the future? I get questions about lying quite often, and in this episode we’re going to talk about why children lie and what we can do about it.  [4:13] Lying is a natural part of a child’s development.   [5:45] Younger kids sometimes don’t differentiate between reality and their imagination. [8:04] They start using their imagination to attempt to alter reality. [9:27] They start to lie because they’re aware of what we want to hear or to avoid trouble.  [14:58] Let’s try to be less offended and angry when our children lie. It’s part of growing up and it’s going to happen.  [16:11] We really don’t value the truth as much as we say or think we do. We lie to ourselves and others frequently.  [18:55] We even lie to our children.  [22:03] We often lie to protect ourselves. [22:37] Our kids lie to us because they think we can't handle the truth.  [23:25] We need to model honesty.   [25:22] Let’s show our kids that we value honesty over smooth sailing (and keep calm when they tell us the truth).  [26:03] When they do lie, it’s important to guide them back to honesty without shaming and punishing them.  [30:56] There’s a powerful link between truth and trust, and it goes both ways (our trust in them, and their trust in us).  [34:25] We can respond playfully and calmly when we catch our children lying.  This will set a foundation for connection with our kids, creating trustworthy and truthful relationships for years to come.  If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.  Links & resources mentioned: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/events Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/41
October 21, 2019
Does it frustrate you when you ask your children to do something, and they don’t do it? Do your kids ever tune you out or not hear you when you’re trying to talk to them? Do they ever dig in their heels or do the opposite of what you’re asking them to do? Doesn’t it just drive you CRAZY sometimes?? Or is it just me?  In this episode we’re going to talk about why children don’t “listen” and what we can do to improve the odds they’ll cooperate and comply with our requests more often.   [3:56] The term “listen” has become a euphemism for “obey.”  [7:05] Let’s aim for this instead of obedience. [9:40] There are times when we need our children to comply with a request. [10:38] There are many reasons why kids...even you and me...don't listen. [13:09] They might be busy or in "flow.” [13:56] They might have a more pressing need. [16:04] Don't have what they need (tools, skills, etc.) to fulfill a request. [17:03] They might not understand what we’re asking. [18:24] They don't want to do what we've asked them to do. [20:39] Hunter Clarke-Fields explains how we’re often the ones not listening.  [24:31] How do we make ourselves heard? There has to be some friction that breaks their concentration. [26:39] Go down to their level, make eye contact, and speak calmly, clearly, and in a way they can understand.  [28:15] If you’re interrupting them, let them know when they can get back to what they were doing.  [30:47] Sometimes you will still have to follow through and help them. [32:38] Minimize the number of requests we make and only request things that are really important.  [34:36] We must model listening by listening to them (as much as possible).  We won’t (and can’t) do all of these things perfectly every single time, but it’s something to work toward.  If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to Instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on Instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.  Resources Mentioned:  Why obedience is NOT my goal Obedience vs. Respect  Hunter Clarke-Fields Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/40
October 14, 2019
Is the battle over your children’s screen time a constant source of frustration (and tantrums!)? Are you concerned they’re spending too much time on screens and that it might be unhealthy and even stunting their mental, social, and physical development?  🙋🏽 I’m right there with you. In this episode I talk with Dr. Alok Kanojia (a world-class addiction psychiatrist and reformed gamer) and his wife Kruti about gaming and screen time, breaking down the intricacies and nuances that will help each of us address the issue in our own families.  [3:05] What is Healthy Gamer?  [7:16] It’s challenging to balance children’s screen time without isolating them from their friends and community.  [8:48] If it causes a problem in a major area of life (mental, social, physical, etc.), then it is a problem.  [11:04] Reframe conversations with our children about video games/screen time and avoid being antagonistic.  [12:00] Consider having weekly check-ins where you discuss gaming & screen time with your child, creating a sense of shared responsibility and goals.  [13:27] Figure out what type of gamer our children are (do they like to build & create vs. high intensity and competition). It will help us find offline activities that they’ll be interested in.  [16:40] What’s a healthy amount of game/screen time? [19:30] Research indicates that violence in games doesn’t increase violence in real life. The communities that form around games are more concerning than the games themselves.  [20:10] Move away from headsets to speakers so we can hear what our children are hearing when they play (especially any conversation that’s happening with other people in the game).  [21:43] Watch for when our children have that blank stare/zoned out look. That’s a good time to transition to something else.  [22:18] Watch out for dopamine burnout. That’s when addiction can set in, and may require more direct intervention.  [24:00] How do we set healthy boundaries and expectations? [27:20] Find other ways for children to enjoy the characters and stories they love (soundtracks, short stories, etc.).  [29:47] Kids who gravitate toward games are often intelligent and are seeking ways to be challenged. [32:52] Should we limit screen time? There’s no one-size-fits-all.  [34:32] We’re trying to model and teach our children restraint, not restriction.  In the end, we need to trust our parental intuition to determine what’s right for our families. And we need to have grace for ourselves as we try things and figure out what works best for each unique child.  To find out more about Dr. Alok and Kruti Kanojia's work, head over to https://www.healthygamer.gg/. If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to Instagram stories, and tag me @parentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital. Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/39 
October 7, 2019
Have you ever seen a parent who really knows how to connect with kids? I think we all know someone who knows how to get them laughing and win them over with ease. One who can speak to kids at their level, calm them down when they get a little crazy or help them feel better when they’re upset. My brother is like this and it’s amazing to watch him in action. I wish it came as naturally to me as it does to him. Can you relate?  In this episode, we’re talking about what playful parenting is, why it works, and how you can incorporate it into your life right now.   [4:48] Playfulness is a superpower when it comes to interacting with children. [6:58] Responding to a situation playfully not only calms our children down but also calms ourselves down. [8:16] Play is how children learn, communicate feelings, connect with others, and deal with stressful situations. [9:45] Playfulness can help children express complex emotions. [11:05] Children can learn how to overcome fear when we role-play and teach them how to “talk” to fear. [11:55] Teach them to overcome shyness. [12:36] Teach them about diversity and being kind to people who are different.   [13:21] Prepare them for a difficult situation, like going to the doctor.  [15:25] Help them learn how to deal with sibling rivalry.  [17:06] Use play to get their cooperation and diffuse power struggles...like when you’re in a rush to go somewhere and your child is moving very slowly.  [18:49] Become contrary and silly about something you want them to do (like washing their hands with soap).  [20:14] When they’re resisting you, try the “full agreement” game.  [22:25] Additional ideas Playful parenting has so much potential to transform life with your children. All it takes is a little imagination and a good dose of silliness! If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to Instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on Instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.  Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital. Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/38 
September 30, 2019
In this episode I talk about the reality that as our children grow into adulthood, they may “veer off” the path that we hoped for them. Have you ever worried about that? Have you thought about how you may feel if they turn out to be different than the person you wanted them to be? How would you handle it if you’re disappointed about who they become?    [4:25] We have a lot of influence in their early years.  [5:51] Then there are the teenage years… [6:58] We want our children to be able to think for themselves, but we also don’t want them to make “bad” decisions. [8:39] What’s our long term vision for our relationship with our children?  [10:30] We need to start accepting them for who they are.  [12:36] What I mean by acceptance (and what it's not). [16:35] How can we not only accept who they are today, but also who our children will become?  [18:21] What are some of those things you think you wouldn’t be able to accept or tolerate?  [19:49] Not accepting our children may result in losing our relationship with them. [23:38] Not accepting our children may cause them to lose relationship with themselves.  [25:32] Let’s not let our own agenda for our children overpower our unconditional love for them. [27:12] Tolerance isn’t enough. We must accept, love, and celebrate who they are (and who they’re becoming).  [29:30] The byproduct of this level of acceptance will be more influence.    Resource Show Notes  
September 23, 2019
In this episode we’re going to talk about religious practices, faith, and religious communities. People often ask me about how they can combine their passion and commitment to parenting from a loving and respectful place with their commitment to their faith (which might be based on a type of rewards system itself!) It’s a tough but important question to answer. And this doesn’t apply to just organized religion; it’s applicable to any sort of belief system or way of life (like veganism, atheism, or any of the other “isms”).    [4:08] How do we get our children to adopt our belief system without controlling or manipulating?  [6:20] Dr. Shefali shares her thoughts on religion and parenting. [11:44] Those raised in a religious home often feel obligated to “carry the torch”.  [15:15] Any religion, belief, or way of life can come from a place of love or fear.  [16:59] Trying to force others into our beliefs is a sign of insecurity.  [18:09] Others raised in a religious home completely abandon their faith as they come of age. [19:25] It doesn’t have to be “all-or-nothing”. We can throw out what doesn’t serve us and keep what does. [23:06] Use critical thinking and discernment. [24:34] Check our motives; are we doing (or not doing) something because we’re afraid of what others might think or say?  [26:22] Do our beliefs make us separatists? [27:41] Is there duality in our beliefs?  [29:41] We should share our beliefs with our children and give them space to explore and make their own interpretations.  [30:15] Instead of forcing, controlling, or manipulating religious activity, let’s inspire it. [33:20] Try to create positive interactions. Make the positive to negative ratio 5:1.   Links & Resources Gottman Institute article 
September 16, 2019
In this episode we’ll discuss spirituality in parenting, regardless of one’s religion.   [6:50] Are religious people happier? [8:29] Organized religions often facilitate social ties and community. [10:15] Religious people create time to pursue spiritual feelings and emotions. [13:25] We can harness these same feelings and emotions in our parenting. [14:58] If you’re curious about my personal spirituality… [17:50] Parenting itself is an act of spirituality. [18:21] Gratitude [21:13] Giving [24:45] Create a gateway to your emotions and spirituality and make it part of your day-to-day life.   Links & Resources Show Notes Quote from Brené Brown at 4:50: “Spirituality is recognizing and celebrating that we are all inextricably connected to each other by a power greater than all of us, and that our connection to that power and to one another is grounded in love and compassion. Practicing spirituality brings a sense of perspective, meaning, and purpose to our lives.” This definition was first published in The Gifts of Imperfection. For some people, that power greater than us is God; for others, it’s fishing. Some are reminded of our inextricable connection by faith; others by expressions of shared humanity. Some find that religion is the best expression of inextricable human connection that is guided by love and compassion, and others believe that no entity has done more to corrode that connection than organized religion.”
September 9, 2019
How you can be an effective leader for your family by conjuring up images of the inspiring leaders in your own life.
September 2, 2019
The word authority gets a bad rap when it comes to peaceful parenting because it tends to get lumped in with the authoritarian parenting style which is the “do as I say or else” style. But authority is actually well rooted in the authoritative style where you have high expectations but you also provide high support and warmth.    When we choose to abdicate our role as the authority, our children are then left to make decisions they are not ready to make. Instead, if we become that empathetic firm leader, our children can relax because they know there's someone at the helm.   We need to get comfortable being the authority figure. As Janet Lansbury said “Children NEED parents. They feel no real freedom without boundaries. They are not little adults with the maturity to make healthy, thoughtful, sensible decisions about screen use, sugar intake, etc.” I couldn’t agree more.    In this episode, I’ll share why being the authority figure in your family actually liberates your children and 3 ways to get comfortable being the authority figure...here’s what you’ll hear:   [6:19] It’s our JOB! [7:30] Authoritative vs. Authoritarian [11:06] Legal and moral responsibility [12:47] Social and physical responsibility [15:50] Is authority harsh? [16:41] Don’t throw your kids in the deep end 🏊‍♀️ [18:47] Downside of democracy (in the home) [22:23] Janet Lansbury’s take on parenting by democracy [25:42] Eventually you will have no more authority… [26:44] #1 - Give small choices [30:44] #2 - Get comfortable [33:02] #3 - Why it’s an act of generosity     Remember, when children have a leader and have clarity around the expectations of the home they are liberated and free to enjoy the ride.   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.    Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/33
August 26, 2019
With all the great information and examples of parenting the way you desire to out there, do you ever feel like you constantly fall short? Like you’re failing as a parent and just not measuring up?    You’ve heard it before, “comparison is the thief of joy.” But, in this information at our fingertips world we are living in, it can be difficult to not fall into the trap of comparing.    We can also get discouraged even when we don’t compare ourselves to others but to some ideal version of ourselves that we constantly fail to be.  It can feel like a mountain towering over you with SO many areas to work on, and no one is immune (myself included).    In this episode, I’ll share the cause of this distress and 3 things to help you overcome it...here’s what you’ll hear:   [4:22] Information overload 📚 [7:43] Check your expectations [10:30] Breathe with me (bookmark this for later if you’re driving or want to keep coming back for more! 🧘‍♀️) [12:38] #1 - What to do if you MUST Compare [15:50] #2 - What we can learn from Warren Buffett [19:49] #3 - 🎶Celebrate good times, come on! 🎶   You can do this, you ARE doing this, treat yourself with compassion and celebrate your wins!   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.    Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/32
August 19, 2019
I was chatting with a friend who’s recently become a first time mom. Her baby is just turning one and she told me: “I’ve really let myself go”... she described how she hasn’t been to the gym since her pregnancy, how she’s enslaved herself in service of her baby and how she hasn’t been out with her girlfriends in months.   If this is you, I’m going to share a mindset shift that will help you break free of victimhood and enslavement parenting - and how your child will benefit greatly from this shift as well.   You’ve heard it before, you’ve probably even said it - my children are my WHOLE world, my kids are my life. I know I have. It’s true that when we become a parent our children take a place in our lives that’s greater than anything that has come before them. We would literally lay down our life for our children.    While we would sacrifice our lives to save our children should we also sacrifice our life, well-being, and happiness just to care for them?  And if we do so what are we actually modeling for our children? What type of parents will they grow up to be when we choose this path? Parenting like this can lead to burnout. Maybe it’s time we also focus not just on parenting the whole child but on being the WHOLE parent...here’s what you’ll hear:   [4:29] What is a whole life? [6:37] Tying our worth to our sacrifice [9:08] More sacrifice, more work = better parent? (spoiler alert: NO, it doesn’t) [11:12] This does NOT mean become a narcissist [14:10] You make me… [16:46] The solution! Yes please! [18:14] Nourish yourself 🧘‍♀️ [19:51] Drop “or” - use “and” instead! [20:55] You are MORE than just a parent   Remember, you are the curriculum. How you show up, including most of all, how you treat yourself, is what your child will learn. Are you treating yourself the way you hope they grow up to treat themselves?   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.    Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/31
August 12, 2019
Are you a working parent who tends to feel guilty while at work that you should be with your kids but then also feels guilty while with your kids that you should be working? Or perhaps you’re not a working parent but you are trying to meet your needs and desires in some way be it fitness, or a hobby and also feel guilty when trying to balance the two?   If you’ve ever felt like you’re a failure on all fronts this episode is for you!   This episode will mainly focus on balancing the needs from a work perspective but you can apply it to any faucet of your life. When we try to show up as different versions of ourselves and hide the parts of ourselves we don’t feel belong under that hat we can be left feeling fragmented, like we are a failure in both areas of our lives.   You’ll learn how to change your language to change your mind (spoiler alert: realize you have ONE life). Also, you’ll realize that it is ok and even expected if your experience in one role affects your experience in the other because after all, you are one integrated person.    In this episode we’ll discuss “work-life balance.” Is it an illusion to think that you can truly balance your work life and home life, especially in modern times when there is less separation between the 2? Here’s what you’ll hear:    [5:01] Conform to Society’s Desire? [6:58] Bring home the bacon AND spend more time with your kids [10:39] It’s all in how you frame it [13:11] Drop “or” choose “and” instead! [14:26] You don’t have to hide your “momness” at work [17:17] You don’t have to hide your professional self at home [18:41] Forget work-life, you have ONE life [20:59] Working IS good parenting - drop the guilt! [24:03] What are you teaching your children? (You don’t wanna miss this!) [28:37] Resent the “2nd shift”? If so this is the reframe that will change your life!   So is work-life balance achievable? Yes, of course. But only when you stop treating them as separate things and treat them as faucets of the one integrated life you have.    If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.    Come join the messy middle and connect to like minded parenting junkies! Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/30
August 5, 2019
We’re faced with many decisions in this parenting journey, and many options seem to be extreme on one side or the other.   Should you be a whole life unschooler, or punish your children when they don’t get straight As in school?   Should you work outside the home and climb the corporate ladder or should you surrender to a life of staying at home, giving up on your interests and income in favor of parenting?   Should you give them free access to screens or should you be completely screen free?   Not only does it feel polarizing but it also can make us feel like we don’t really fit in anywhere if we aren’t on either end of the extreme.    I’m going to offer up an alternative - the radical middle. I won’t say it will be easy. Let’s face it, when you make the decision to stay curious and not sit on either end of the extreme it can be hard. You’re choosing to create a path instead of following one that’s already laid down. Being in the middle means we think about all the decisions and what works for us right now and we stay open to learn more and change our minds if a different decision would better meet our families needs.   In this episode we’ll discuss how you don’t have to choose one extreme over another, and that most of us fall somewhere in the middle of the spectrum. Here’s what you’ll hear:    [5:03] Decision fatigue is real  [8:36] How to combat decision fatigue [9:53] Example 1: Discipline [13:27] Example 2: Sleep training [17:11] Example 3: Education [19:18] Example 4: Boundaries [23:00] What is my identity in parenting? [24:02] The radical middle. [25:50] Pick what’s best and leave the rest. [29:19] The middle is hard [32:44] The middle is brave  [34:44] The middle is radical.   The middle can be messy. It’s not always neat and clear because there is no one size fits all.  At the end of the day the answer is always “it depends.”    If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.    Come join the messy middle and connect to like minded parenting junkies! Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/29
July 29, 2019
Are schools like prison? A human rights violation? Is forced education immoral and abusive? If so… what are the millions and millions of parents with school-going kids to do? If this concerns you, listen up.  You've heard the experts like Ken Robinson and Alfie Kohn weigh in that "schools kill creativity" or that "schools are feel bad education." In fact, schools have been compared to prison in that they limit children’s freedom and choices.  In many cases they also do not give the education we want for our children, I know this is true in my case.   But I also know that what works for me does NOT work for everyone. If you are in a situation, whether it be financial, psychological, etc, in which homeschooling does not work for you, I’m here to reassure you that is ok too!   Often times we look at the negative aspects of the school system but we forget to look at the possible negative impact of switching to homeschooling if it’s not a good fit for the family.  Switching to homeschooling could lead to a burnt out mom, stressed from trying to figure out how to replace her income now that she quit her job to homeschool and stressed about whether her child is keeping up or not and what activities she needs to plan. Is that really better for the kids in the long run?    Even if you have accepted your reality that homeschooling is not right for your family perhaps you still worry about the school available to you. Maybe the school focuses a lot on grades creating a very competitive environment. Or perhaps they have the homework “rule” of an hour per grade level. Or maybe it’s just the context of school in general - the “cool” kids and the potential materialism that could lead to or processed sugary foods being the only real foods available.  Whatever it is that you are worrying about I’ll remind you why you need to let it go. You’re worrying does not serve anyone, especially your children, in-fact it may even be making their challenges in school more difficult.   Even if you’ve made your decision and feel completely comfortable in your choice you’ll still gain something from this episode, we even have an expert guest (spoiler alert: Dr. Shefali Tsabary!!) Here’s what you’ll hear:   [6:13] Schools are prisons (at least according to some people)  [15:24] Should my kids stay or go? 🤷‍♀️ [17:19] Does that serve your children? (or you?) [18:15] Pause and take a breath before deciding 🧘‍♀️ [21:38] There’s always a cost 💰 [23:40] Get real [24:26] Accept it [26:04] Be fluid and flexible [27:58] What would Dr. Shefali do? 💕 [30:41] We all need to calm the 🤬down [31:54] You can bring the change you want to see! [33:16] Hack the system!   At the end of the day you have to accept your reality.  You need to find a way to work with whatever you cannot change.   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.    Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/28
July 22, 2019
Should we follow & encourage our children’s passions - like animals, robots or ballerinas - or drill into them the things they need to know, like math, science, and literacy? If you are homeschooling do you find yourself wanting to follow your child’s interest and NOT simply replicate the school system in your home but worry they will miss out on the important skills we need to teach them?   Or maybe your child attends school and it seems you always have to fight with them to finish their homework or to study.   No matter what your path, this episode has some inspiration and practical tangible steps to bring the enchantment back to learning!   So, how can we motivate our children to learn the common core subjects? How can we make sure they get the knowledge without undermining their intrinsic motivation? It can feel like the options are to follow the child completely, as in radical unschooling, or impose our agenda on them either by sending them to school or following a set curriculum at home are our only options.   What if I told you there was a third way? In this episode we’re going to explore how to do both. How to follow your child's interests AND make sure they are learning the skills they need to know. I’ll give you 3 actionable steps as well as 3 practical examples to get you started. Here’s what you’ll hear:   [3:51] How will my child learn math if princesses is all she will talk about? 👸 [6:25] Can’t I just force them to learn? [7:07] What’s wrong with candy in exchange for long division problems completed? 🍭 [8:24] Learning IS fun, right? [11:29] You can learn EVERYTHING through ANYTHING [13:22] Step 1: PJ masks, paw patrol, fairies… what is it? [15:22] Step 2: Map it out [15:57] Step 3: A little planning goes a long way [16:36] Example 1: The world through Lego [23:39] Example 2: Enchant with Harry Potter [33:06] Example 3: Yes even Princesses can be educational!   By using this method we become a partner in their education. We collaborate with them by following their interests all the way through to the myriad of ways it can actually provide the education we may have on our adult agenda. When we teach and guide children in this way much of the resistance falls away and makes way for passion. With this education then becomes a fun and creative endeavor. If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can! Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.    Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/27
July 15, 2019
Are you an entrepreneur or trying to get a business off the ground but have no idea how to fit it all in with young kids? Are you interested in unschooling or radical unschooling and are unsure of what that even looks like? Or do you just simply struggle to feel brave in your parenting choices given all the uncertainty and conflicting information you find? No matter your situation this episode has something for you!   In this episode you’ll hear a conversation I had with Kim Constable, The Sculpted Vegan. Kim is a yoga teacher, and a competitive vegan body-builder who started her business in the health and fitness industry founding multi-million dollar deyogatox and the sculpted vegan.   If you ask Kim what her first and foremost role is she will tell you it is being a mother.  She decided to take her two eldest children out of school and embark on a journey of radical unschooling. If you’re wondering what radical unschooling looks like, you’re in luck, Kim shares her beliefs, biggest struggles, and biggest wins when it comes to radically unschooling (spoiler alert: it’s okay to not know everything 🤔).    In this episode Kim shares how she scheduled her time and did it all while starting her business before she had any help as well as her views on hiring help. This also includes how her and her husband handled their respective roles in the family and how to stay crystal clear on your vision even through the hard times. We also get to hear what it is like to radically unschool 4 children and how that works in her family.   In this heart to heart talk between two vegan, unschooling, entrepreneurial mothers of 4, you’ll hear: [2:50] How do you have time for it all? 🕰 [9:21] Finding a way to replace your roles [15:12] Thinking of starting a business? The first thing you should do! [17:31] Laundry is not going to grow you or your business 🧺 [21:30] You can’t see the success happen from the beginning [24:31] What opened the door to Kim learning about alternative parenting choices [31:04] Jumping on the trampoline at 2am!?  [32:52] No rules? What!? 🤯 [38:11] What about screens? [47:33] We all get triggered 😡 [53:35] What about the mess!? 🧹 [57:13] Without rules on food won’t my kids just eat cookies? 🍪 [1:02:34] What do you mean you don’t know??🤷‍♀️   The work lies in truly coming to accept your child for who they are and not who you want them to be.   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.    Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/26
June 24, 2019
In this episode, we’ll explore why you can have a clean and beautiful house or you can care for your children, but you can’t have both…at least, not if you want to stay sane.   Or can you? Let’s find out.   [3:59] The sanity triangle. [6:25] Dichotomy vs. integration. [8:09] Can we find a balance? [10:54] Embrace the wobble. [12:58] Life is made up of seasons. [15:05] The interconnectedness of all things. [19:16] You’re worth the effort it takes. [22:10] Your worthiness isn’t dependent on a clean and tidy home. [23:34] You own your sanity.   Links & Resources Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/25 Related Blog Post: How to Get Your Kids to Do Chores   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can! Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.
June 17, 2019
Do you desperately need help, but you’re worried you can’t afford it? Do you want a mother’s helper or assistant, but you’re not sure where to find them or how much they’ll cost? Do you wonder if there’s an affordable option for those who are less privileged? Do you feel guilty at the thought of paying for help?   In this episode we’ll discuss getting the help you so desperately need!   [4:24] Nicole’s story: How she found a free mother’s helper. [6:38] Your need for help is someone else’s opportunity for connection, community, & meaningful contribution. [7:54] Find or create a co-op with other parents. [8:30] If you can, pay for help! [10:07] What to do if there’s no wiggle room in your budget. [12:40] Be open and receptive to help. [13:46] It’s not as expensive as you think. You’d be surprised to see how far a few dollars can go. [14:38] Sometimes “I can’t afford it” is an excuse for not prioritizing it or placing enough value on it. [15:42] Help is a worthy expense. [18:20] You may need to rearrange your budget. [21:42] Abraham Hick’s quote: “You can’t get sick enough to help sick people get better. You can’t get poor enough to help poor people thrive. It is only in your thriving that you have anything to offer anyone…” [22:08] Sometimes it comes down to choice. [23:31] You are worth it. [25:47] Don’t kill the golden goose. [29:19] Consider the cost of not getting help.   Links & Resources Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/24 Related Blog Post: Supermom Syndrome (https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/let-go-of-supermom-syndrome/ Podcast episode on Parental Burnout https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/22) Podcast episode on Parenting Like an Olympic Champion (https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/15)   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can! Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.
June 10, 2019
Do you desperately need a break, but feel like you can’t trust anyone with your kids? Do you fear what might happen to them (some disaster or catastrophe), what might be said to them, or what might be taught to them if you’re not there?   In this episode we’ll address some common fears that parents have about leaving their kids with other people.     [5:04] Are these fears holding you back? [7:37] Anything that’s rooted in fear will not lead us down the path of joy. [8:26] The inability to trust others with our children leads to burnout. [9:25] There are risks when you don’t trust your kids with other people. [11:49] Allow your children to have secure attachments to more than one adult. [12:43] Are you the only perfect caregiver for your children? [14:04] You can’t work on any job, project or relationship 24/7. You need time off. [15:11] It’s time to get help. [18:03] I get it…some relatives make it really, really hard. [19:12] Practice an attitude of gratitude. [19:48] Practice compassion & mindfulness. [20:22] Have faith in your child’s competency. [20:44] Model politeness & affection without forcing it.   [21:02] Set firm, empathic limits when boundaries are crossed. [21:52] Get professional help with toxicity. [22:44] Don’t be afraid to use mother’s helpers, baby-sitters, or nannies.     To checkout the role play series with Dr. Laura Markham mentioned in this episode head over to the blog.   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/23
June 3, 2019
Have you ever looked at your kids and wondered why you had them? Do you find yourself why you got into this or wanting some way out at times? Whether you’re feeling burned out or want to prevent burnout, this episode is for you. Burnout is a very real risk we face as parents, and if you’re experiencing it now (or have ever experienced it), you’re not alone. And if you haven’t experienced it yet…prepare yourself, because it’s inevitable unless you take these precautions.   In this episode, I’m sharing what parental burnout is, why it is important to avoid, and practical steps to take to avoid burning out...here’s what you’ll hear:    [2:27] What is parental burnout? [8:31] Your warning light is on [14:29] One more “B” to add to Attachment Parenting [15:36] Take a Break 🏝 [19:27] Get Help! (More on this in upcoming episodes!) [20:31] Just say NO! [24:11] Bundle! 💕 [26:34] Talk to someone [27:07] Back to basics   You are worth it. Your children are worth it. You deserve to enjoy this season of life and your kids deserve to see a parent who enjoys life and who takes good care of herself. Don’t wait until you burnout. Start taking these steps today!   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/22   If nursing happens to be one of the things causing you to feel burnt out checkout my blog post on Gentle Weaning here.
May 27, 2019
Do you ever feel like an imposter? Like one day someone will catch you out as a fraud? Like your kids will need therapy to recover from the dark secrets in your life?   A quick google of imposter syndrome will result in articles all relating to imposter syndrome within our careers or professions.  But what about parenting? Imposter syndrome is just as real in parenting as it is in the professional world and it can leave us feeling frozen, low, alone and end up robbing us of the joy in parenting.   In this episode you’ll discover how to overcome imposter syndrome as a parent. Here’s what you’ll hear:   [3:43] What is imposter syndrome? [8:29] Make it go away!! [9:59] You’re not alone! [12:55] Live in integrity [16:07] There’s more than one way to do it [18:29] It’s not ALL about you! [20:13] Own your greatness! 💪 [23:16] Mistakes are okay [25:33] Put it down! 📱 [26:17] Be weird! [31:06] Your Super Power 🦸‍♀️ [32:31] Fake it ‘til you make it [34:17] You’re a different you [35:35] Be an eternal student [36:44] Extinguish Imposter Syndrome! 🧯 [37:48] Life is short   If you want to see the ways I feel like an imposter check out my blog post here.   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital.   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/21
May 9, 2019
No matter where you are on your parenting journey - just found out you are expecting, have a newborn at home, toddler, kids in school, kids at home, one child, 10 children, today’s episode is for you!   Being a parent can feel overwhelming, exhausting, isolating, confusing, and challenging.  The good news is it doesn’t have to.   In this episode, I’m sharing my advice for new parents, advice for parents of toddlers, and advice for parents that have been parenting for awhile now...here’s what you’ll hear:   [3:28] Let me tell you a story 📖 [8:26] Expectant Parents or New Parents - this one’s for you... [14:13] Have a toddler? This one's for you... [20:01] Permission Granted (not that you need it) [22:32] Have older kids? Multiple kids? This one’s for you… [27:07] Find your tribe 👯‍♀️   Remember, childhood doesn’t just happen, you get to CREATE it if you so CHOOSE!   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital   Present Play is now Open (through May 15th)! Come see if this is the tribe for you!   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/20
May 2, 2019
For the first time in two centuries in America children are expected to have shorter life expectancies than their parents.  Luckily there is a free resource available to almost everyone to help combat this statistic.   In the past 2 episodes we’ve been discussing major obstacles to independent play and what can be done about them.  In episode 17 we discussed decluttering which addresses the environment as a hindrance to independent play. Then in episode 18 we outlined what strewing is which addresses dependency as a hindrance to independent play.  The last major obstacle to independent play is time and there is one way of spending time that yields phenomenal gains!   In this episode you’ll discover a free, simple and healing practice to introduce into your flow as much as possible to ensure a healthy, vibrant and happy childhood for your kids...here’s what you’ll hear:   [6:21] The real threat to our children’s health [9:32] A different type of medication [11:17] You CAN do it! [12:42] The challenge [14:20] A total game changer [16:18] The secret to healthier children 💪 [20:56] Going to get a little vulnerable here… [23:46] Yes you CAN!   Remember, this week (or anytime) you are feeling overwhelmed at home and the kids seem stir crazy head outside and reap the benefits!   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital   The (free) three week Reclaim Play challenge is dropping April 15th Grab Your Spot NOW!   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/19
April 25, 2019
Are you sabotaging your children’s behavior in subconscious ways, without even realizing it? You have a hidden power of influence that you may not even be aware of. Think about the last time you were at an airport or bus station, did someone have to verbally tell you or physically show you what to do?  Would you act the same way in an airport as you do in a church? Or do you feel really creative and expressive in either of those places? Chances are you behave very differently depending on the location you are in and do so without being explicitly told to do so.   In this episode you’ll discover a way to influence your children, your husband - even your own behavior - without the use of words. You can create more ease and flow in your life and reduce friction around day to day activities using this powerful tool. Here’s what you’ll hear:   [5:56] Stop feeling like a nag [9:57] The hidden power that changes everything [11:05] How our behavior is influenced without any words [16:56] Use this to your advantage! [18:43] Clutter creates chaos [19:24] Items hold an energy (from a woo woo and a psychological perspective) [22:52] Create cohesiveness [23:41] Strewing!!! 🎉Spoiler Alert: You do NOT need more Toys!! [28:14] Take it to the next level!   The things we see subconsciously trigger certain thoughts and associations in our mind which make us feel a certain way which make us behave a certain way. Are you using this to help you achieve the behavior you want to see?   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital   The (free) three week Reclaim Play challenge is dropping April 15th Grab Your Spot NOW   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/18
April 18, 2019
“No mommy I love this, this is my all time favorite toy” – said every kid whose parent ever tried to declutter the toy that they have not touched in 2 years.   Sound familiar?   Tens of thousands of parents have gone through this free and simple process with me and it can make such a dramatic difference in their child’s play.  The problem parents run into is not due to the complexity of decluttering but is actually due to their own beliefs sabotaging the efforts they make.     On the surface decluttering toys doesn’t seem like a big deal.  What parents don’t realize is that it usually leads to a pandora’s box of emotions and fears.   In this episode you’ll discover the seven most common reasons people have too many toys and why it’s difficult to downsize. It’s time to overcome these limiting beliefs and clear the way for a decluttered, soothing play space!   [3:37] “You’re not a real minimalist!” [5:36] But EVERYTHING sparks Joy 🥰 [11:20] #1: It’s all about Love! 💕 [13:23] #2: The hidden ball and chain [15:16] #3: How else will she become the next Einstein? [17:42] #4: Gotta keep up with the Jones’ kids! [19:32] #5: The most seductive of our methods [21:49] #6: Don’t pay for it twice! [23:24] #7: Fear Fear Fear 😱   Ultimately the relationship we have with our stuff mimics the relationship we have with ourselves and the world.   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can! Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.    Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital    The (free) three week Reclaim Play challenge started April 15th Grab Your Spot NOW!   Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/17
April 11, 2019
How can we discipline our children in a way that’s effective, meaningful, and peaceful? Do you ever feel like you are under incredible pressure to “discipline your child” but aren’t quite sure what exactly that means or what to do? It can be difficult with culture’s mandates and our own irritation levels to know exactly what to do.   In this episode, you’ll discover the true meaning of discipline.  I’ll be giving you 3 actionable steps to take toward better disciplining your child.   [2:55] How do punishments work? Hint hint - not the way you think [3:55] What does discipline even mean anyways? [6:51] I’ve told him time and time again [10:05] What does practice have to do with discipline? [13:49] Step 1 - Show, don’t tell [19:28] Step 2 - We get what we pay for [26:14] Step 3 - Be the student   Be the change you wish to see in your child and guide them along the way!   If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.    Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital    The (free) three week Reclaim Play challenge is dropping April 15th Grab Your Spot NOW    Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/16
April 4, 2019
Do you want to create a meaningful relationship with your children? One that you have earned their trust and respect? A relationship that even a teenager (or any age for that matter) will still find some points of connection or interest in the relationship with you? What does it take to sustain a true relationship? What if we approached our relationship with our children the same way Olympic athletes approach their sport and their training? In this episode you’ll discover how you can be the best parent you can be, worthy of a gold medal. You’ll learn how to develop a game plan and feel confident you’re focusing on the right things – the right things for YOU and YOUR child. Here’s what you’ll hear: [3:20] Why meaningful relationships require a game plan [6:17] Who we are really competing against [9:10] Olympic athletes choose their sport - are you owning your choice? [11:40] Step 1 - Find your area of genius and focus on that [20:51] Step 2 - How to compound your results [25:37] Step 3 - Be Consistent [28:05] Step 4 - Your environment is your biggest supporter or your biggest saboteur. [32:12] Step 5 - Who are you as a parent? Who do you want to be as a parent? What is your identity as a parent? [37:19] Step 6 - Fill your own cup first [39:44] Step 7 - Celebrate your successes and learn from your failures Remember, this journey of parenting is an important, meaningful, and worthy endeavor, let’s show up to it with the same enthusiasm, passion and joy that an olympic athlete shows up to her sport. If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.   Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital    The (free) three week Reclaim Play challenge is dropping April 15th Grab Your Spot NOW    Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/15
March 28, 2019
Which school should you send your kids to? What extracurricular activities should they participate in? What books should we read? We’re obsessed with providing the best for our kids. In this episode I’m going to tell you why none of that matters as much as we think it does, and what I believe we should focus on instead.Spoiler alert - it's not what (or how) you think.  Think back to your childhood - what were the biggest lessons you learned? Were they the ones that were dictated to you? The ones taught directly in school via a lesson plan?   Or perhaps were they the ones that weren't directly spoken or intended? Usually the real lessons came between the “lessons.”  How the adults in our lives spoke to us, spoke to each other, how they behaved, how they viewed the world - these were the real lessons for better or worse. In this episode, I’m sharing my belief that *I* am my children’s biggest and most powerful curriculum, and you are YOUR children’s biggest and most powerful curriculum...here’s what you’ll hear: [3:14] The “real” lessons we learned in our childhood. [5:47] The default way you are probably parenting, for better or worse [7:53] What is the true curriculum of childhood 📚 ❓ [8:52] Lecturing does not work. Do you learn best by being directed? [12:06] What educational institutions are teaching your kids (🤦) [15:29] The real curriculum is you (what you do, not what you say). Where to find the real curriculum [20:53] Don’t abdicate! (spoiler alert this is uncomfortable) [22:25] What we must demand of ourselves [28:46] How kids learn Social Skills 👯 [31:27] How your kids are learning to Life Management skills 🕐 [35:05] Model a healthy mindset. Mindset 🧠 How you show up, how you treat others, how you manage your life, and the mindset you carry through it all - this is what our children will learn. If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about it and know your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me @theparentingjunkie or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe here so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5 star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can leave one here.  Want to connect to like minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community Love Parenting with Avital  The (free) three week Reclaim Play challenge is dropping April 15th Grab Your Spot NOW  Show Notes: https://www.theparentingjunkie.com/14
March 21, 2019
In this episode you’ll discover a powerful way of viewing your parenting role so you can remove yourself from the drama of childhood and offer the meaningful support your children need.   [1:28] How much should we intervene and solve problems for our kids? [8:11] Intro to the Story Framework. [8:59] Basic structure of a story. [12:48] What does this have to do with parenting? [13:56] We are not the hero. [17:32] We are the guide. [23:02] We give them a plan. [23:49] We call them to action. [26:14] We help them succeed and avoid failure. [26:58] Measure every situation against this framework.   Links & Resources Donald Miller’s book “Building A Story Brand” theparentingjunkie.com/challenge   Show Notes: theparentingjunkie.com/13
March 14, 2019
You’ll discover 3 potent techniques to get back on track to loving your kid so you can flip the script when you start feeling annoyed, irritated or out of love with your child. I’ll even share some personal truths that I don’t usually talk about. [1:26] Giveaway winner! [4:10] You love your child, but sometimes you don’t like them. [6:52] You may not be struggling with this…yet. [7:30] You might be burned out. [9:35] There might be a mismatch in expectations. [14:33] Pretend they are someone else’s child. [17:40] Pretend you’re being watched. [20:26] Pretend it's your last day on earth with them. [22:44] Flip “I can’t” to “I can.”    Links & Resources Show notes: www.theparentingjunkie.com/12 Present Play
March 7, 2019
I'm sharing my experience and thoughts on sleep training so you can hopefully feel calm, cool, and confident in offering your child the best sleep. I hope you can listen to this episode in its entirety, because this is a nuanced and triggering topic that deserves in depth conversation. I wouldn't want you to miss the full context of the ideas presented here. [1:20] Giveaway winner! [4:47] 2 Emails I received from concerned parents [11:02] We’re all torn over the approach to helping our babies sleep better. [21:00] Every child is different and much of their temperament is “baked in” (they’re born with it). [23:59] Flaws with thinking that there’s only one way to do it. [25:34] What does sleep training mean? [27:45] What can be learned from nature? [30:24] What does crying mean? [39:34] Is sleep deprivation respectful? [42:22] Is frustration bad? [48:01] Is it all or nothing? [49:48] The process with my last child. [55:29] We have to trust ourselves. [1:01:02] Summary [1:05:19] What’s coming next week   Links & Resources Present Play Batya the Baby Coach 3 Things I Love About the RIE Approach Show notes: www.parentingjunkie.com/11
February 28, 2019
Stress… We don’t want our kids to be stressed, but I think it’s safe to say we all want our children to be able to handle stress. In this episode I discuss ways to help develop resiliency and anti-fragility in your children so they’ll be prepared to handle the stress of the “real world.” [1:37] Giveaway winner! [4:43] Stress is inevitable. [7:15] Stress can be a positive thing. [10:37] Too much stress can be damaging. [12:42] Not enough stress can be damaging as well. [15:39] Definition of fragile, resilient, adaptive, & antifragility. [20:17] Don’t overprotect your children from information. [28:07] Don’t overprotect your children from social discomfort. [30:17] Don’t overprotect your children from risks. [33:27] Don’t overprotect your children in their relationships with other adults. [35:03] Don’t overprotect your children from their feelings. [38:41] Don’t overprotect your children from responsibility. [40:35] Share stories with your children (especially inspiring biographies). [42:37] Label your children as strong and resilient. Links & Resources Peaceful Parenting Meditations TED Talk: "How to make stress your friend | Kelly McGonical Book: “The Coddling Of The American Mind” Book: “Free-Range Kids” “Who Is…?” series on Audible Show notes
February 21, 2019
We’re bombarded by society (our culture, parents, neighbors, friends, religious institutions, schools, movies, magazines, internet, etc.) with all sorts of inputs and directives about how we’re supposed to raise our children. It’s time to dispel some common myths about parenting and relieve the pressure of trying to be the “perfect parent.” Myths we’re busting: You are in control of your children. There’s one right way to parent. Harder is better. Parents aren’t sexy or interesting. Raising children is boring. You should do it alone. The days are long, but the years are short. Parenting is a “job.” Links & Resources: Show notes: Theparentingjunkie.com/9 Potty Time Course
February 14, 2019
Have you ever had thoughts or conversations about natural consequences, logical consequences, punishments, rewards, positive or negative reinforcement, etc., and felt like there was something missing – like there’s a deeper level to it all?   Today we’re going to dive into these terms and get some clarity on what consequences really are, how we can apply them mindfully, and common pitfalls to avoid. What I cover in this episode: Why you should avoid punitive consequences and positive/negative reinforcement. How natural consequences are good, but often aren’t enough. Extend yourself grace. You won’t get it right 100% of the time. I don’t always get it right, and neither will you. 3 types of consequences you probably haven’t heard of Show notes: https://theparentingjunkie.com/8 Learn more: https://theparentingjunkie.com/empathiclimits
February 7, 2019
You might have been reasonably happy in your marriage before kids came along – but we all know that going from two to three is a major life change and some marriages don’t survive it very well. It’s really hard to go from wife to mom, or husband to dad. Although parenting is hard, many find that it’s easier than marriage. And so we get stuck in our parenting role and neglect our marriage role. You may feel you have more control, influence, and even love for your kids, which can make you feel more and more disconnected from your partner. If any of this sounds familiar, there’s hope! What you’ll hear in this episode: How just like mainstream parenting advice is no longer working for families today, mainstream marriage advice is failing us. A new approach to relationships is needed. How it’s possible to have a type of home life dynamic where: We can all become extremely content and even in love with exactly what we have as we have it. We can manage conflict with relative ease and experience high levels of connection and presence with our partners even with very young children. How you don’t fix or find a soulmate you BECOME a soulmate. Peaceful partnering – creating a loving, lasting, sustainable, and synchronized marriage. 3 secrets behind the Parent In Love method. Show notes: theparentingjunkie.com/7 Watch "How Peaceful Parenting RUINED My Marriage and How I Saved It": theparentingjunkie.com/marriage
January 31, 2019
It doesn't take two to tango. Do you ever feel frustrated, disconnected, or misaligned with your spouse or partner? Does it seem like the spark and passion you once had is gone? Have you ever thought that maybe your relationship has run its course, and it’s time to go separate ways? If so, I've got good news for you! There is hope for you, AND change is possible, even if you have to work on it without your partner. Free Masterclass: “How Peaceful Parenting RUINED My Marriage...and How I Saved It.” theparentingjunkie.com/marriage In this episode, I interview Meredith. Things we discussed: How she felt overwhelmed by the demands of life, the unrealistic expectations of society for partners and parents. She was so tired of how everyone paints this [phony] picture of what life is supposed to look like, and how it can make us all feel like we’re missing the mark. How Meredith and her partner were on the verge of splitting up. Not completely miserable, and they had their up moments, but there were a lot of down moments, and it was wearing on them. She knew that something needed to change. She was tired of trying to figure it out on her own by reading articles, asking friends for advice (who often ended up reinforcing the negativity), etc. They were having the same fights over and over. Budgeting and money. Misaligning over approaches to parenting. Arguments over where they should live. How as partners, we’re supposed to fill each other up, not deplete each other. Remember you have choices (own your own choices). Just because you feel it doesn’t make it true. You can always choose how you respond. Don’t let your emotions rule you. You can take a break, clear your head, and come back with a fresh perspective. Stop saying yes to everything. Prioritize your time. It’s ok to say no and spend more time with your family. Give yourself permission to say no, to have some downtime, to just be. Instead of shoving everything down, putting on the game face, dig in and investigate when you’re feeling angry or stressed. Outsource/delegate to give you more time. Crystal clear communication (learn to really listen and not take what your spouse is saying personally). Think about what kind of memories you want your children to have of you, of their childhood. (what helped her decide to go through the course). Investing in the course is a no brainer. We all want our children to grow up to be amazing adults, and feel connected to us. The course not only helps you learn how to improve your relationship with your partner, but also helps you deal with other people. It doesn’t take both parents. Change is possible even if only one partner is working on it.  Links & Resources Show Notes: theparentingjunkie.com/6 Free Masterclass: “How Peaceful Parenting RUINED My Marriage...and How I Saved It.” theparentingjunkie.com/marriage
January 24, 2019
Deal with distractions, enjoy them while they're young and bring peace and calm to your mind. In this episode I’m going to give you actionable ways to bring more presence into your life so that you can experience regret -free living, enjoy your children (even while they’re young) and feel satisfied that you’re living life to the fullest. Here’s the best part: It takes less than a minute a day. In this episode you’ll hear: ● What presence is (and isn’t). ● How you’re not the only one who’s constantly feeling distracted. We all are! ● Why you shouldn’t wait for the “perfect circumstances” to be present, avoiding the “I’ll be present when...” trap. ● Why this is crucial for everyone (even if you think you’re already present or think it’s not for you). ● How to parent a child who grows up thinking “my parent connected with me and was there for me.” ● The 5 simple ways you can pull yourself into any moment and be present.   Links & Resources: ● Show notes: theparentingjunkie.com/5 ● The Top Five Regrets of the Dying: A Life Transformed by the Dearly Departing by Bronnie Ware ● Sponsorship: theparentingjunkie.com/design ● Parent in Love Course: theparentingjunkie.com/parentinlove ● Facebook Community: theparentingjunkie.com/loveparenting ●
January 17, 2019
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January 10, 2019
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December 31, 2018
Links & Resources: Show notes at TheParentingJunkie.com/2 Show #1: TheParentingJunkie.com/1 Video about bedtime routines https://youtu.be/UR5u5d4YVew Video about allowance & chores: https://youtu.be/36NOM0FAhbc
December 28, 2018
Do you ever wonder how some people make it look so easy and seem to “do it all?” They homeschool their kids while also growing a business. They’re highly productive, yet spend time with their loved ones and are fully present and engaged.   People often ask me how I do it all; run a business, homeschool my children, take care of our home, take care of myself, my spouse, etc. In this episode we’re going to dive into the topic of how I do it all.   First, it’s important to dispel the myth that any of us can do everything.     You can do anything, but you can’t do everything. I believe in doing all of the IMPORTANT things, then outsourcing, reducing, and/or eliminating the rest. I believe in working and taking action and accomplishing things, but I don’t believe in busyness.   How to do it all:     Don’t do it all! Get help! Get as much help as you can. As your situation allows, outsource things that other people can do to enable you to do the things that only you can do. Outsource things you don’t enjoy doing. Things that take you away from things that bring you joy and fulfillment.  It takes a village! You need other people in your life. There are people who will help for free. Drop your kids off to play with your friend’s kids so you can run some errands. There are people who’d love to come play with your kids so you could take a break or work on some other things. Multi-task. It’s not for everyone for every time. In caregiving times and other times when I need to be present and engaged, I’m not multitasking. But while I’m driving, walking, or doing other things that are autonomous where you could be listening to audio books, podcasts, etc. Routine & rhythm. We have a predictable weekly and daily flow. It drastically cuts down on power struggles throughout the day (getting out the door, meal times, getting to bed, etc). And because it’s so predictable, I have blocks of time where I know I can get my work done and schedule in my self-care. Declutter like your life depends on it...because it does. Declutter both physically (in your home, office, etc) and in terms of your time/schedule. There are many things that don’t happen in this season in my life: I don’t answer every email, I pursue every project that comes along, and I say no to a lot of things.Everything that comes into your home and schedule needs to earn it’s place. It needs to be deserving of the energy it takes.  If there are things in our home that aren’t serving us, that are adding to the clutter, I get rid of them. If there are relationships that are draining and not bringing me joy, I let them slip away.This helps me bring my full energy and enthusiasm to the things that I’m doing and keeping in my life. I don’t watch much TV (maybe 45 min a week). I don’t go out much. I try very hard to reduce or eliminate mindless scrolling on social media.   Supreme self-care.If you want to bring your best to everything you do, you need to take care of yourself. Our bodies and minds need time to rest and rejuvenate. Running yourself ragged is a recipe for burnout and depression. Once you feel rested, nourished, and taken care of, then everything else flows and you can give in a way that is never a sacrifice. It just flows from you naturally. There will be days that are hard and you’ll fall into a victim mindset. But you’re responsible for your own self-care and well-being, and when you take care of yourself, the bad days will be few and far between instead of normal.  You need to stop putting yourself last. Stop putting everything and everyone else before your own well-being. When you leave your self-care for last, there’s never enough time and energy. Start making self-care a priority and schedule it in first. Then take care of others with whatever time and energy is left.   I would love to hear what you’re saying “no” to so that you can say “yes” to self-care. Take a screenshot of this podcast episode and tag me on Instagram. Tag me (@parentingjunkie) and use the hashtag #parentingjunkie, and let me know what you’re doing to reclaim self-care.   One final tip: Focus on being relentlessly optimistic! Focus on gratitude, abundance, and resilience. See challenges and problems as opportunities to grow; rather than being something done to me, they’re opportunities for me.     Links & Resources:   Show notes at TheParentingJunkie.com/1 Note: You mentioned bluetooth earbuds. Do you want to include a link to them? Do you have an amazon affiliate account (or whatever it’s called) where you can get a small commission on the sale of anything purchase from your links? Note: You mentioned they can listen to episode 2 to get an outline of your weekly/daily routines. Link to episode 2? TheParentingJunkie.com/2 Sponsorship: TheParentingJunkie.com/design TheParentingJunkie.com/review
December 12, 2018
Do you struggle with feeling like you’re not good enough, or that you don’t measure up? There are so many different parenting philosophies out there: Attachment, RIE, simplicity, unconditional, Montessori, Waldorf, Reggio, gentle, respectful, conscious, peaceful…but which one is right for you?   Join me as I dive into this topic and reveal my parenting philosophy.   The problem: Every book, expert, & philosophy seems to contradict the others. It can make you feel like you don’t measure up when you can’t or don’t 100% follow a particular philosophy. Some of these groups can be so judgmental and unsupportive when you don’t fully stick to their philosophy. There’s so much out there and it’s hard to decide what will work for you. The solution (and my philosophy): Love parenting and parent from love. Love Parenting Parenting should be enjoyable. We should feel good about the way that we parent. No one benefits from you being a martyr (including your children). Not that it’s always easy. There are definitely hard times in parenting. But overall, you should not parent in a way that feels like constant suffering & misery. Design a life that you love. You could go through your entire life…many people have and are currently doing so…not enjoying life. Keep your cup full and spill out onto others. What would make parenting fun for you? Minimize/reduce/outsource as many of the negative things as possible. Parent from Love When you’re truly motivated from a place of love & care, you’ll find the right words & actions (vs. operating out of fear or anger). Holding your goodness to light. Self-compassion. Do things that are kind. Trust your intuition. Break down old paradigms. Keep it flexible enough and use as a clear guideline. It liberates you from attachment parenting or from mainstream parenting. PERMISSION to LOVE parenting, permission to parent from LOVE.   Links & Resources: Show notes at TheParentingJunkie.com/00 TheParentingJunkie.com/review TheParentingJunkie.com/partners TheParentingJunkie.com/loveparenting (FB Group)
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