In this coaching episode, Sophilia asks: why does she keep ending up in relationships where things don’t feel right, and the entire weight of making it better falls on her? Leah works with Sophilia to: understand the red flags for this type of relationship, the communication skills that will help screen them out, rethink her own experience of being turned on. Sophilia is a 39-year-old, cisgender woman. She describes herself as queer, single, and multi-racial with a white mother and Black father. In the past she’s been in monogamous relationships, but currently prefers the idea of being in open relationships. She describes her body as curvy and muscular. Leah offers valuable insights and tools to help Sophilia and all listeners to screen potential partners. Find the turn-on cycle explanation here: https://www.goodgirlstalk.com/turn-on-cycles/   Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/red-flags-sophilia  

Last year I found myself in the middle of a shitstorm for daring to expose a community leader's abusive behavior. Today I tell the whole story. The backlash was immediate and intense, with DARVO (Deny, Attack, and Reverse Victim and Offender) tactics used to paint me as the problem. Suddenly, I was not just standing as a representative of this man’s abuse, but also receiving harassment and ostracization from those I once considered my community. Sharing this story isn't just about telling you what’s going on; it's about shining a light on the dark corners of abuse and systemic failure. It's a call to action for change, support, and understanding for those who have had their voices silenced. ALSO: I clarify my pricing structure for coaching and how I serve people with financial challenges.   BEYOND PERMISSION classes: www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/consent-darvo

What happens when your brain is so busy it can't slow down to enjoy having sexy time with the cute guy who's totally into you?  In today's episode, we break down the first two episodes of the HBO show Starstruck with teen sex and relationship educator Julia Sheldon (who also happens to be Leah's dear friend.) We focus on lead character Jessie and how overthinking gets in the way of being present. Upcoming Beyond Permission class schedule: Thursday, Feb. 22 - Embracing your inner MILF with Danielle Tuesday, Feb. 27 - Dating at midlife with Leah Tuesday, March 5 - Sex toys show & tell with Leah Thursday, March 7 - Ask a couple with Danielle & Adam Tuesday, March 12 - What’s wrong with my libido? with Leah   BEYOND PERMISSION classes: www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/starstruck

In this coaching/storytelling episode, Debbie talks about having the best sex of her life at age 63. Her question: Is that usual? While Debbie has always been multi-orgasmic, now she's having dozens of orgasms in a single sex session. And the connection with her new husband is a big part of the reason. Debbie is a 63 year old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, married. She describes her body as slender and athletic. And don't forget: the BEYOND PERMISSION workshop starts next week! Use coupon code "beyond20" to join us!   BEYOND PERMISSION workshop (use code "beyond20" for $20 off your registration): www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/debbie-best-sex

Togetherness is an HBO show that explores the challenges of maintaining a healthy and active sex life in a long-term relationship with small children. In today's episode, Danielle Silverstein from the popular Marriage and Martinis podcast joins Leah to discuss the first two episodes of the show. They dive into the complexities of sexual fulfillment, gender roles, expectations and resentments. Join us for a deep, thought-provoking, and insightful conversation about challenges of maintaining intimacy in a long-term relationship.   BEYOND PERMISSION workshop (use code "beyond20" for $20 off your registration): www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/slow-down-maria Forbidden Fantasies Unleashed: https://www.leahcarey.com/fantasies

Leah joins Danielle of Marriage & Martinis to talk about why Danielle's conversation with her husband  about intimacy and pleasure was explosive and chaotic. Leah breaks down what we need to remember during these very tough conversations: we’ve been conditioned differently from the time we’re very young, and are often simply adhering to the roles we’ve been instructed to fulfill. They talk about why we can’t always trust our bodies’ physical responses during intimacy, games that can be played in lieu of telling our partner, “we’re not satisfied” as means to get a similar message across, and so much more. Join the Beyond Permission workshop at www.beyondpermission.com. Early bird pricing through Jan. 4, 2024. Use the code "beyond20" for $20 off your registration.   Listen to the original "Awakening the sex talk demons" episode of Marriage & Martinis - https://www.marriageandmartinis.com/podcast/episode/8aa167f2/awakening-the-sex-talk-demons   BEYOND PERMISSION workshop: www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching

In this coaching episode, Maria asks the age old question: why is it so hard to ask for what I want?! She's convinced that her problem is in poor communication skills, but it doesn't take long to discover that the issue lies in a complete different area. Leah works with Maria to: understand how gender dynamics are creating friction in the "what do you want?" conversation, rethink how her definition of "sex" makes asking so difficult, practice the way she'd like to initiate a conversation about sex with potential partners. Maria is a 27-year-old cisgender woman. She describes herself as white, bisexual and single. She describes her body as athletic. Leah offers valuable insights and tools to help Maria and all listeners to reconsider talking about their desires.   BEYOND PERMISSION workshop: www.beyondpermission.com Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/slow-down-maria

Leah delves into a deeply personal topic: how trauma and mental health have impacted her ability to show up authentically. She talks about the impact her demanding, charismatic father had on her psyche and sense of safety. In admitting her fear of being viewed as not good enough or too much like their father, Leah discusses the creation of a performative persona and the desire to shift to a more authentic voice.    Who Is Your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego? www.leahcarey.com/quiz Work with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/podcastcoaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/identity-crisis

In this coaching episode, Lisa talks about learning to stay present when she's having pleasure.  Currently her mind wanders during sex to making grocery lists or worrying that what she's doing is wrong. Leah works with Lisa to: understand what's underneath her brain's tendency to wander, reframe her judgments about sex workers, and recognize the effects of early childhood parentification. Lisa is a 44-year-old cisgender woman who lives in Italy. She describes herself as white, heterosexual, single & having fun, and exploring different relationship styles because she's not sure she believes in monogamy anymore. She had a Catholic upbringing and is finally exploring pleasure for the first time in her life. She describes her body as average and athletic. Leah offers valuable insights and tools to help Lisa and all listeners to navigate the challenges of staying present during sex.   Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/session  Become a client: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/tantra-lisa

Leah shares the next step in her health care journey: hypermobility. And this one has even more wide-ranging implications than the endometriosis diagnosis that upended her world six months ago. Take the brand new quiz to find your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego! Find the quiz at www.leahcarey.com/quiz   Links to earlier health update episodes: March 2nd May 25th July 20th Also mentioned in this episode: Hypermobility coach Tracy Rodriguez - www.instagram.com/thetracyrodriguez/ Hypermobility and Proprioception: What’s with the clumsiness? - https://www.mybendybody.com/body-awareness-hypermobility/ Psychiatric and psychological aspects in the Ehlers–Danlos syndromes - https://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/full/10.1002/ajmg.c.31544 Low- and high-anxious hypermobile Ehlers–Danlos syndrome patients: comparison of psychosocial and health variables - https://link.springer.com/article/10.1007/s00296-018-4003-7 Labia Library - https://labialibrary.org.au/photo-gallery/ The Vulvarium - https://vulvarium.com/gallery-and-stories/ The Vulva Gallery - https://www.thevulvagallery.com/stories Why I photographed 100 vulvas : Most women have no idea what’s down there - https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/resources/idt-sh/Why_I_Photographed_100_Vulvas     Who Is Your Sex & Relationship Alter Ego? www.leahcarey.com/quiz Coaching with Leah: www.leahcarey.com/coaching Apply for a free coaching session: www.goodgirlstalk.com/podcastcoaching  Support the show: www.patreon.com/goodgirlstalkaboutsex Full show notes:  www.goodgirlstalk.com/posts/podcast/hypermobility-and-labiaplasty