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Love + Relationships with Debra Fileta
Debra Fileta, M.A., LPC and Creator of TrueLoveDates.com
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The hotline style podcast where we talk about love and relationships for every age and stage.
© 2019 - Debra Fileta
May 26, 2020
Hope For Heartbreak (with Ben Courson)
Today’s question is about finding hope after heartbreak. I’m joined by my new friend, Ben Courson, a young pastor and ...
May 19, 2020
Struggling With Singleness: A Conversation with Mandisa
Do you feel like you’re struggling with singleness? I know that the struggle can be heightened during this season of ...
May 12, 2020
Play Hard To Get (and other bad relationship advice)
Play hard to get. If you’re in the world of dating, or were at some point in your life — ...
May 5, 2020
Marriage Should Make You Happy (and other bad relationship advice) with Gary Thomas
Marriage should make you happy. That’s the relationship advice we hear all the time. But is it even true? How ...
April 28, 2020
You’ll Just Know When You Meet The Right Person (and other bad relationship advice)
You’ll “just know” When You Meet The Right Person…that’s what they try and tell you. “You lock eyes, as you ...
April 21, 2020
Women Should Not Initiate (and other bad relationship advice)
When it comes to relationships, have you ever heard the phrase, “women should not initiate”? This is all too common ...
April 14, 2020
Happy Wife = Happy Life (and other bad relationship advice)
We’re continuing our bad relationship advice series with the bad relationship advice that says, “A happy wife makes a happy ...
April 10, 2020
A Single’s Guide To Thriving In Quarantine
I’ve heard from so many singles over the past few weeks who are struggling and looking for some encouragement as ...
April 7, 2020
Just Wait on God (and other bad relationship advice)
“You just need to wait on God to bring you a relationship.” If you’re single, there’s a good chance you’ve ...
April 1, 2020
Married Couples Need A Weekly Date Night Out (and other bad relationship advice)
Married couples need a weekly date night out…you’ve heard that advice before, but is it good advice? The answer might ...
March 27, 2020
Quarantine Ep. 5: Managing Conflict in Close Quarters
There’s a higher potential for conflict in relationships when everyone is together all the time. Can I get an amen? ...
March 26, 2020
Quarantine Ep. 4: “Social Distancing” from Toxic People with Gary Thomas
There are toxic people everywhere. In churches, schools, at work, and sometimes right in the middle of your own household. ...
March 25, 2020
Quarantine Ep. 3: Hand Washing and Heart Washing
There’s been a lot of talk about hand washing lately, as the CDC continually reminds us of the importance of ...
March 24, 2020
Quarantine Ep 2: 10 Self Care Tips For Mental and Emotional Health (Part 2)
This week on the blog, I released an article called 10 Quarantine Self Care Tips for Mental and Emotional Health, ...
March 23, 2020
Quarantine Ep 1: 10 Self Care Tips for Mental and Emotional Health (Part 1)
While we’re all on Corona Quarantine right now, and since our world has come to a halt for a period ...
March 19, 2020
How To Deal With Uncertain Times: Corona, Quarantines and Managing Anxiety
I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “uncertain times” come up a lot lately. The days, the corona virus has completely ...
March 17, 2020
Taking a Break In a Relationship: How To Do It Well
Are you thinking about taking a break in a relationship? Is it possible to take a break from a relationship ...
March 10, 2020
The On Again Off Again Relationship
What do you do when you find yourself in an on again off again relationship? Do you end it, or ...
March 3, 2020
8 Ways To Pray For Love (Even Before You Have a Relationship)
How do you pray for love? And what if you don’t even have one yet? Should you still pray for ...
February 25, 2020
10 Places To Meet Christian Singles
Are you looking for places to meet Christian singles? Why am I even asking – you must be. Because you’re ...
February 18, 2020
12 Signs Your Marriage Needs Help
Do you ever wonder if your marriage needs help? If so, you’re not alone. The natural trajectory of marriage is ...
February 14, 2020
Valentines Day BONUS Episode! DO THIS TODAY!
SURPRISE!!! Bonus Valentines Day podcast episode today!!! It’s Valentine’s Day, and I just had to release an extra Valentines Day ...
February 11, 2020
3 Ways To Avoid Valentines Day Disappointment (No Matter Your Relationship Status)
How do you avoid Valentines Day Disappointment? You know, that terrible let down feeling when the day just doesn’t go ...
February 4, 2020
Should I Marry Him/Her? 5 Signs You Shouldn’t.
Should I marry him? Today’s caller is having some doubts in the relationship she’s in. She’s not sure if she ...
January 28, 2020
Winter: The Frost of Apathy (and how to deal with it).
We’re in the thick of Winter, here in Pennsylvania. And there’s a lot we can learn from this season when ...
January 21, 2020
Colors of Fall: Questions To ASK Your Partner Not ASSUME
Today we’re talking questions to ask your partner, because we often assume instead of ask…and end up with some major ...
January 14, 2020
Summer is When Things Get HOT: On Intimacy in Relationships
Summer is the season of intimacy, and it’s when things get hot in a relationship. I can’t wait to share ...
January 7, 2020
Spring: Is Your Relationship Growing?
We are just ONE WEEK away from the release of my new book, Love In Every Season. So today’s question ...
December 31, 2019
How to Make 2020 The Year of Better Relationships!
Do you want better relationships in 2020? Because that is absolutely possible!! It’s time to do things better this coming ...
December 24, 2019
Dating Someone Who Is Divorced
Q: What advice do you have on dating someone who is divorced? Dating someone who is divorced is a topic ...
December 17, 2019
Leadership, Submission and Headship in Marriage with Tim + Anne
Today on the podcast, my friends Tim + Anne join me to talk about headship in marriage. If you’ve ever ...
December 10, 2019
15 Get To Know You Questions
Looking for some good get to know you questions? What are some questions to ask when you’re trying to get ...
December 3, 2019
3 Ways To Show Her You’re Interested
Last week we talked about some things a woman can do to show a man she’s interested in him. Today ...
November 26, 2019
3 Ways You To Show Him You’re Interested
I’m always getting asked by women what they can do to show interest in a man without being too obvious ...
November 19, 2019
Is It Possible To Fall In Love With the Wrong Person?
Is it possible to fall in love with the wrong person, or is falling in love the ultimate goal? What ...
November 12, 2019
Walking Away From Toxic Relationships: With Gary Thomas
Today we’re talking toxic relationships both in dating and in marriage. Q: When it comes to general relationships, how do ...
November 5, 2019
Compatibility in Relationships: How To Know You’re A Good Match
Compatibility is key. Just because you’re a Christian, and just because someone else is a Christian – doesn’t mean you’re ...
October 29, 2019
Should Obesity Be a Deal Breaker in Dating?
Today’s question about obesity in dating comes from Will who asks: Q: Hi Debra. I’m feeling conflicted that a woman ...
October 22, 2019
Healthy Dating Looks Like This: With Ben Stuart
Q: What does healthy dating look like and what are the key ingredients to a healthy dating relationship? A: Today’s ...
October 15, 2019
Time = Love: A Conversation with My Husband (Part 3)
Time is everything. In fact, it’s one of the most valuable things you have to give to the people around ...
October 8, 2019
Boundaries With The Opposite Sex: A Conversation With My Husband (Part 2)
Boundaries with the opposite sex may not be something we’re comfortable talking about, but it’s a necessary conversation. It’s easy ...
October 1, 2019
Our Secret Sauce To Marriage: A Conversation With My Husband!
How do you protect your marriage? What do you and your husband do to keep your marriage strong? What’s your ...
May 14, 2019
Casual Dating: How casual is too casual?
There’s a lot of casual dating going on these days…and it’s starting to get confusing. Is it okay to date ...
May 7, 2019
Spiritual Warfare & Relationships: Is it a relationship problem or a spiritual attack?
Spiritual warfare isn’t something we discuss too often in the context of our day- to-day lives, much less in the ...
April 30, 2019
How To Guard Your Heart Without Being Too Guarded
“Guard your heart”. That’s pretty much sums up the relationship advice you get when you ask someone within the Christian ...
April 16, 2019
Just Say NO: How Doing Less Is More w/ Jeff Bethke.
Are you the type of person who has a hard time saying no? Because if so, the inability to say ...
April 9, 2019
Faith & Romance: Attracted to a Non Christian
Have you ever found yourself attracted to a non Christian? Someone who is living out a different belief system, or ...
March 26, 2019
5 Differences That Add STRESS To Marriage
Personality differences, age differences, cultural differences. We often come to relationships with a set of differences; things that set us ...
March 19, 2019
Biblical Dating: Camels, Arranged Marriage, and Starbucks.
What does it look like to pursue biblical dating? You might be surprised to know. Being a Christian who also ...
March 12, 2019
Ready to Wed: When you’re ready to marry but your parents say no.
What happens when you think you’re ready to wed – but your parents want you to wait? That’s the dilemma ...
March 5, 2019
Me, You, and Jesus: What A Christ Centered Relationship Really Means.
“I just want to have a Christ centered relationship.” In the Christian dating culture, the term “Christ centered relationship” is ...
February 26, 2019
Let’s Talk About SEX Drive In Marriage: Dealing With The Ups and Downs of Drive
Let’s talk about sex drive in marriage. Because there are a lot of false expectations out there about what sex ...
February 19, 2019
Single in Your 30s: How To Hold On To Hope
What do you do when you find yourself single in your 30s – your mid 30s, in fact – with ...
February 12, 2019
Practical Oneness in Marriage: The Reality of Two Becoming One
Oneness in marriage. What does it look like for two people to practically become one? When we talk about oneness ...
February 5, 2019
10 Girls You Shouldn’t Date: How To Avoid Heart Break
Heart break doesn’t have to be the norm…if you know what to avoid, that is. In this episode of the ...
January 29, 2019
10 Guys You Shouldn’t Date: How Can I Avoid Dating The Bad Boys?
Q: Hey Debra! I have a pattern of dating the bad boys. How do I recognize the type of guy ...
January 22, 2019
Birth Order & Your Love Life: How Birth Order Impacts Your Relationships
Q: “Hey Debra, I’d love to hear your thoughts about if and how birth order impacts a relationship”. A: Are you the oldest ...
January 15, 2019
Break Up Advice: 10 Ways To Heal After A Break Up
You just got out of a relationship that you thought was going somewhere – and you’re looking for some break ...
January 8, 2019
Communication In Marriage: How To Stop The Drift
When you think about communication in marriage, what comes to mind? When I was gathering data for my book, Choosing ...
January 1, 2019
5 Ways To Build Trust In A Relationship
How do you build trust in a relationship? Do you give trust right away, or do you hesitate to trust? ...
November 20, 2018
Am I Going To Be Single Forever? Trusting God With The Unknowns
Does God want me to be single forever? How do I know whether or not I have the “gift” of ...
November 13, 2018
The Only Three Dating Rules You Need: Know Your Reds, Greens, and Yellows.
Dating rules and advice can change with the passing of time. (Hence, I Kissed Dating Goodbye in 1990 vs True Love Dates ...
November 6, 2018
Can A Woman Make The First Move? On Women Initiating
Can a woman make the first move in a relationship? This is a question that’s always on my radar, because ...
October 30, 2018
Top 10 Relationship Killers: Small Things That Cause Big Relationship Problems
It’s not usually the big things that cause relationship problems…it’s the small things. It’s the little things that go unaddressed ...
October 23, 2018
Oversharing in Relationships: 10 Things NOT To Talk About Too Soon
Have you ever found yourself oversharing in a relationship? You know what I mean, right? I’m talking about those conversations ...
October 16, 2018
Does God Have One Person Out There For Me To Marry? 3 Things You Need To Know About The One
Is there such a thing as “the one”? Do you believe that there’s only one person out there for you to marry? ...
October 9, 2018
How Far Is Too Far? Physical Touch Before Marriage
How far is too far when it comes to physical touch before marriage? I’m sure you’re not shocked to hear that ...
October 2, 2018
You Don’t Have To Like Being Single: 10 Ways To Survive Singleness
You don’t have to like being single. Yes, even you, Christian person. It’s okay to struggle with being single! It ...
September 25, 2018
The Ultimate Date: Date Ideas From First Dates to Married Dates
What are some fun date ideas and practical suggestions for a successful first date? On the other end of the ...
September 18, 2018
Sex Drive & The Single Life: Controlling Your Lust Before It Controls You
What do I do with my raging sex drive while I’m single? I get that question a lot. But the ...
September 11, 2018
No More Pretending: Depression, Suicide, & The Church w/Jarrid Wilson
It’s easy to pretend we’ve got it all together. Especially in the Church. It’s easy to put our best face forward, ...
September 4, 2018
How Important Is Sexual & Physical Attraction: A Candid Conversation with Christian Men
How much does physical attraction matter in a relationship? What if you know someone is really good for you, but ...
August 28, 2018
When Life Doesn’t Go As Planned: Grief, Loss & Remarriage w/ Daniel and Brittany Price Brooker
Have you ever been through a hard time in your life where you thought to yourself, “This is not what ...
August 20, 2018
The Art of Conversation: Secrets to Good Communication
Good communication isn’t something you’re born with. It’s not even a gender thing. It’s something you have to learn (CLICK ...
August 13, 2018
Junk Food Relationships: Healthy Relationships AREN’T Convenient
There’s a reason junk-food is so popular. It makes you feel good for a little while, it’s quick, and most ...
August 6, 2018
Online Dating Tips: Up Your Odds of Finding A Good Match
If you’re single, I know you’re looking for online dating tips. Because, ugh, online dating? It’s a love-hate relationship for sure…especially ...
July 30, 2018
The One Sided Relationship: What It Tells Me About You
Have you ever found yourself in one sided relationship where you are doing ALL the work? Where you are giving, ...
July 26, 2018
90% of Couples Who Got a Divorce Had This One Issue
Did you know that conflict can break your relationship, but it can also make it? You can’t avoid conflict, but ...
July 26, 2018
Just Not That Into You: 10 Signs To Look For
How do you know if someone is just not that into you? “You should never have to convince someone that ...
July 26, 2018
Trust Issues: Is the problem in your relationship or is the problem in you?
We’ve all got demons that we carry into relationships; experiences from our past that can impact the way we do ...
July 26, 2018
The Love and Relationships Podcast [Trailer]
Get ready to talk about love and relationships in a way you never have before…because the love and relationships podcast ...
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