Marriage and Martinis is an attempt to present a real, authentic marriage at its core: the love, hate, teamwork, struggles, laughter, humiliation, and ever-changing dynamics that comprise spousal relationships. Join Danielle and Adam as they explore every hilarious, heartfelt, shocking, embarrassing, and completely inappropriate facet of marriage and parenting. It’s a bumpy ride, but it’s worth it.
Last weekend Danielle went to see Glennon Doyle live in NYC, and during the show, writer and activist, Glennon, said something that was a gut punch to Danielle. She was talking about how one day when she was in her former marriage, she looked around and said, "Isn't it all supposed to be more beautiful than this." It was this phrase that initiated Danielle's idea for her and Adam to check in with each other about needs they might still have within their relationship. What are they not getting enough of which they still desire? What are they currently kicking butt at in their relationship? How has everything been between them these past few months? John Gottman says that the number one questions spouses need to be asking each more is, "how are you doing?" and that is exactly what Danielle hopes this episode will lead to in more relationships. In this episode, Danielle discusses why aging makes it even more important for partners to show love to one another. Adam discusses how he snapped out of being in a bad mood every night after work. The two debate how important romance is in a relationship even if everything else between the partners is completely fine. Danielle describes what she and Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman have in common. Adam talks about needing to take baby steps when getting back to a place they were before. Danielle reads an excerpt from one of her favorite books, "Love Warrior." Episode Sponsors: Fab Fit Fun Promo Code: MNM Modern Gents Promo Code: MARTINI25 Feals
Danielle and Adam have always been very honest that finance has been a big source of stress in their relationship. They've had periods of feeling like they were in a really good place concerning money, and times when it has been a complete disaster. This episode, unlike the other finance episodes they had a few months ago, are not with experts giving advice, but rather, just their personal experiences with finance, both growing up and as a couple. They discuss everything from how Danielle deciding to be a SAHM affected their situation, to Adam's period of binge-spending as a way to deal with his hardships, and how their lack of communication made everything worse. This episode is very relatable for any partner who has ever felt there was a great imbalance concerning spending in their own marriage, and for any couple who is finally trying to get their life back on track. Adam and Danielle discuss: - How private school impacted their feelings of inadequacy and jealousy -Adam's obsession with buying a house he couldn't afford -Danielle wanting Adam to prove his willingness to spend on her when he bought her expensive jewelry -The feeling of having your credit card declined in public -The purchase Adam made that Danielle wanted to smash to pieces -How they used spending money together as a form of therapy Episode Sponsors: Feals 50% Off and Free Shipping Ask Zeta No Promo: FREE! Care/Of Promo Code: MNM50 for 50% Off
Mom shamers unite - and leave....no one wants you here. Danielle and our guest host Tara Clark (aka @modernmomprobs) are talking all things mom shaming. They discuss personal experiences in real life and in the virtual world, and why we need to stop asking people when they’re having kids. These ladies touch on everything from breastfeeding to screaming kids on airplanes, and the time when Danielle let her newborn cry hysterically in an elevator and what ensued with a stranger. Plus, how can we make moms feel more supported? Check out this episode no matter how old your kids are or even if you have no plans on ever having them. And send it to someone who might need a bit more support right now. It’s an episode intended for absolutely everyone. Episode Sponsors: Thrive Causemetics Promo Code: MNM for 15% Off Noemie Promo Code: MNM for $75 Off
Danielle and Adam are joined by actual Millennial, Sarah Merrill (also know on Instagram as @bigkidproblems), who is currently in the midst of planning her own wedding. The three of them discuss the differences that naturally arise when getting married at age 24 verses age 32, how weddings have changed since Danielle and Adam were planning theirs 18 years ago, how technology has completely reconstructed the wedding industry, and the actual costs of being in a bridal party. This is such a fun episode, but also dives into some issues such as what happens when you have to share the decision-making about aspects such as the guest list, venue, and honeymoon with two sets of parents. Sarah tells her incredible engagement story, and also her experiences going to extremely non-traditional, more modern weddings such as the one she recently attended at the "House of Yes" involving bathtubs, twerking, and endless amounts of glitter. This is not the same kind of wedding that Adam and Danielle are used to, and they are super jealous. If you are planning a wedding, know someone who is, or just want to hear all about all the amazing options available to brides and grooms today, you definitely want to tune in to this episode.
It's incredible how the roles and careers we choose to partake in as adults turn out to be nothing like we expected, and how little we were warned what is truly involved in life at work and at home. In this episode, Danielle discusses how shocking it is that being a stay-at-home-mom is not at all how she pictured it, and she's constantly feeling like a failure because she's terrible at the aspects of being a "homemaker" that she never thought about. She also discusses how she spent years being a high school teacher, and that job too came with so many unexpected responsibilities that they don't warn you about when getting your degree. Adam discusses the physical aspects of being an adult that are beginning to wear him down, and the shocks of parenting that are still thrown at him all the time. On the other hand, Danielle and Adam talk all about the awesome things involved in being "grown-ups" and how cool it is to have the freedom that comes with getting older. No matter your role or career, if you ever feel like you had no freaking clue what was coming your way, you'll definitely want to listen to this episode. Episode Sponsors: Noemie Promo Code: MNM for $75 off anything on their site. Zeta
Miriam Kirmayer is a therapist, writer, speaker, and relationship expert who has spent the last decade researching young adult friendships. Her work focuses on helping others navigate life transitions, achieve their goals, and build stronger relationships with the people who matter most. A leading voice in the media, her words and advice have appeared in outlets such as The Atlantic, Forbes, The New York Times, TIME, Vogue, and Women’s Health. As a consultant, Miriam partners with businesses and brands on a variety of initiatives related to social connection and well-being. Website: www.miriamkirmayer.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/miriamkirmayer Facebook: www.facebook.com/miriamkirmayer Twitter: www.twitter.com/miriamkirmayer
Relationship experts will tell you it's the little things partners do for each other that actually wind up going the longest way in a marriage. Big, elaborate gifts are meaningful in their own way, but we need to concentrate on the small moments and favors that help show each other that we are actively thinking about the other person. Danielle and Adam discuss everything from choreplay to compliments to the gift of "the nap" within relationships. Also, how did watching their own parents' interactions affect their own expectations of what partners are supposed to do for one another? How have those expectations changed over the years? What do they feel they would like one another to do more of in the future to show they care? How does Gottman's famous "six-second kiss" affect their daily routine, and what other advice does Gottman give in this area? And, what occurred a few weeks ago to show Danielle that this topic was an absolute necessity as soon as possible? This episode is fun, insightful, and offers just the right amount of TMI, in natural Marriage and Martinis style. Episode Sponsors: Noemie Promo Code MNM for $75 off Birchbox Promo Code MNM for $5 off
Kim Cavill is a sex educator and host of the podcast “Six Minute Sex Ed,” meant to help start the conversation between parents and kids about all things sex and sexuality related. As a sex-positive parent, she is attempting to get rid of the shame that surrounds the teachings of sex that currently exist in schools today. We discuss age-appropriate conversations no matter how old your kids are, where and when the best times to open a dialogue are, which parent should be the one leading the discussion, and so much more. Kids deserve a more positive understanding of how sex can impact our lives, and not just learn about it from a risk-based approach. Giving them a safe space at home to feel they can ask any question is the first step as parents if we want to truly bridge the gap on this topic with our children. No matter the age of your kids or if you’re maybe planning on having kids sometime in the future, this is definitely a very important and insightful episode. Episode Sponsors: Ruggable Italic
Most people know about Alexis Haines from her role in the notorious group of teenagers who robbed over 3 million dollars in cash and possessions from the houses of Lindsay Lohan, Paris Hilton, Orlando Bloom and more. She also starred in the E! network reality show, "Pretty Wild." We sat down with Alexis to talk all about this out-of-control time in her life when she was addicted to heroin, was dealing with the trauma of her childhood, and a prison sentence. But what came after this time was a period of healing, hard work and intense recovery. Now a doula, drug counselor, wife and mom, Alexis is actively ensuring people have a safe space to come forward, tell their truth, and do so without shame or judgment. Her podcast, "Recovering From Reality," helps to show people how fulfilling life can be once we embrace our past and deal with our mistakes. *Trigger warning: this episode contains discussion of childhood trauma and drug addiction. This is Alexis's vulnerable and honest story about going from rock bottom to the top of her game.
*TRIGGER WARNING: Talk of addiction and being the spouse of an addict. Adam and Danielle have experienced both sides of gambling: the fun, exciting side, when winning is an adrenaline rush and getting caught up in the moment feels incredibly fun and exhilarating. But they've also experienced the much more negative aspects of gambling and what can happen when that feeling becomes an escape that starts to get all too familiar and frequent. This episode is really two parts: the first part has a lighter, more nostalgic tone, looking back on how growing up an hour from Atlantic City was a big part of their childhood, and how a portion of the beginning of their relationship was rooted in the more glamorous side of casinos and spending money. The second part delves more deeply into the serious side of when gambling becomes an addiction rather than a once-in-a-while activity. The financial ramifications, mistrust, and spiraling out of control are just a few of the harsh realities they were forced to ultimately face and deal with. How did they deal with it? What were the next steps? Listen to the episode to find out how this regular couple dealt with critical circumstances. If you or someone you know is struggling with addiction, there is absolutely no shame in getting help. *Check Patreon soon for a detailed episode of how Adam once won 1.2 million dollars, and what followed that momentous night. Episode Sponsors: Ruggable 15% off and free shipping Noemie Promo code: mnm for $75 off any wedding band Artkive Promo Code: mnm for $20 off Greenlight 1st month free then $4.99 per month for up to 5 kids.
Over the past few decades, there has been a lot more openness about the fact that monogamy is not the only type of lifestyle for couples. Polyamory, open marriage, swinging and other options are making some partners wonder if any of these experiences are right for them. In this episode, Danielle and Adam discuss how their upbringing formed their understanding and opinions about monogamy. They discuss whether or not trying to have an open marriage would ever be on the table, and what experiences they might want to have if ever given a "free pass." Is Monogamy inherent in our being or is it a social construct created to keep order in society? Why is Danielle mad at herself for something that happened 20 years ago, and how does she wish she had handled her youth differently? How will Adam and Danielle feel about their own children possibly wanting to explore non-monogamy? Listen to episode to find out how and why this is a conversation and topic that is coming up more and more in relationships across the US and around the world. Episode Sponsors: Ruggable 15% off and free shipping Noemie Promo code: mnm for $75 off any wedding band Bambino Promo Code: marriage for $10 your 1st sit. Greenlight 1st month free then $4.99 per month for up to 5 kids.
Adam and Danielle continue their Los Angeles adventure by traveling to "The Valley" to meet Erica and Jamilah from the podcast, "Good Moms, Bad Choices." After realizing very quickly that it was fate for the four of them to meet, the conversation got extremely comfortable and there were pretty much no inhibitions about anything. Thus begins the discussion about everything from Danielle's last visit to LA in which she visited the Menendez Brothers (but, for real....), a clarification of what "The Valley" actually is, anyway, and a whole lot of real talk about teaching our daughters about body image, Jamilah's "free the nipple" movement, how old is too old to be naked in front of our kids, and so much more. If you imagine sitting around with your three best friends all day holding nothing back, and someone came in and just recorded the middle hour, that pretty much sums up this episode. It's fun, it's a tad out of control (in the best way possible), and for sure is going to be continued sometime in the near future. Episode Sponsors: Ruggable Loom Journals Promo Code: mnm
Adam and Danielle sit down with Jodie Sweetin and Celia Behar, BFF's from the Never Thought I'd Say This podcast. The four talk all things friendship, including how these two women met and formed a lifetime bond via social media, how our value of friendship in our lives has changed over the years, how friendship differs for men than for women, and whether or not it's ok for a significant other to have good friends of the opposite sex. Episode Sponsors: Italic Greenlight
While maybe not every single person feels like they've lost some of who they were before they get married and had kids, a good amount seem to agree that in order to gain part of ourselves through parenthood, we sacrifice a large part of our former identity. Passions, dreams, and talents get put on the back burner in order to take care of those around us, and it becomes apparent that we are not the same person we once were. Our physical and emotional selves change dramatically in ways we can't even explain, and it can become depressing to think about the stuff we might never accomplish. Of course we are grateful for what we have and may not want to change it for the world, but there's the thought of one day being able to explore our individuality again once the kids are grown and no longer need us on a daily basis. Will we even know what we're looking for once that happens? Danielle and Adam dive into all of this and more in this episode all about identity after marriage and kids. Episode Sponsors: Italic Greenlight Artikive
Back to school can be such a stressful time for parents and kids when motivation is a struggle and there's enormous pressure in school and extracurriculars. Homework, catching the bus on time, study skills and organization are all things we discuss in this helpful and insightful episode. Fortunately, humans continue developing executive function skills far into their twenties, so there's hope and time for us to keep teaching and building on helpful techniques. This episode is a must listen for anyone who wants to ease the weight of expectations from schools, coaches, and most of all, ourselves. Episode Sponsors: Loom Journal Bambino Noemie Greenlight
Rachel Sobel of the blog Whine and Cheez Its is talking all things co-parenting, blended families, and finding happiness after divorce. What was it like dating again while having a young daughter? What have been the challenges of remarrying and how has she dealt with those hurdles? What advice does she have for others going through a similar situation? How did she know when it was time to end her first marriage and move on? We discuss all this and more in this heartfelt but fun and at times humorous conversation. Episode Sponsors: Kartrite Care Of Promo: MNM for 25% off Greenlight
When was the last time you came up with some new ideas to spice up the romance and intimacy in your relationship? Adam and Danielle decided it was time to take things to the next level after 17 years of marriage, and let's just say the conversation and topics become more than either of them can really handle. Listeners can only imagine where this conversation goes, and let's just say it's not for the faint or timid. But if you're in the mood for some naughty, real, and even helpful information, then sit down, relax (awkwardly), and get ready to hear a whole lot of TMI. Want to be on the Marriage and Martinis podcast? Listen to the end of this episode to find out how! Episode Sponsors: Italic LoveBook
Jamie Lynn Sigler and Jenna Parris of the "Mama Said" podcast talk with Adam and Danielle about things we're no longer giving a f*ck about and how we're saying no to things for the first time since becoming parents. It's empowering to finally prioritize everything in our lives rather than feel like we need to say yes to everything. Adam gives the guy's perspective on canceling because we just can't possibly say yes to everything, while the women feel like it's a lot less easy to cancel on people without the guilt. Episode Sponsors: Hello Noemie Greenlight
In one of their most vulnerable episodes yet, Danielle and Adam discuss a time when Danielle’s OCD was so debilitating that she could not leave the house, make phone calls or hold a job. Unable to understand that was happening, Adam couldn’t give her the help she so desperately needed. The two of them also discuss medication, the complications of being a spouse or being married to a spouse with mental illness, the petrifying aspects of “intrusive thoughts,” and so much more. If you or someone you love suffers from anxiety, you do not want to miss this painstakingly honest episode. Episode Sponsors: Italic Greenlight
Nick He was born and raised in China in an extremely traditional home and community that never discussed sexuality. So when he thought he might be attracted to men, he assumed he must be diseased and broken. We talk to him about his journey from China to America, where he put himself in numerous dangerous situations looking for love on Craig's List, coming out to his parents, and ultimately finding love and creating a family through surrogacy. His story is heartbreaking, inspiring, and completely filled with love. His struggles and accomplishments are beyond incredible and we are so happy his story has a happy ending. Episode Sponsors: Greenlight Noemie Promo Code: MNM
Boundaries are something that most therapists say are healthy within a relationship. What small boundaries do you and your spouse have with one another? What bigger boundaries? Danielle and Adam both admit that they struggle with boundaries on different levels, and it has definitely affected their relationship and their lives. What line did Adam cross on 4th of July that inspired the idea for the episode and reminded Danielle that Adam’s struggle with limits is still very much there. What limits and boundaries do Adam and Danielle think they’ll have as parents of teenagers? For anyone who struggles with doing anything in moderation and is constantly working towards achieving a peaceful balance in life, then this is the episode for you. Episode Sponsors: Greenlight Artkive Promo Code: mnm for $20 Off
Marriage expert Liz from the #1 relationship app, Lasting, is back answering all our questions about trust, including is ok to track your partner? Should you be able to check their social media? How do you truly regain a partner's trust? And giving insight about how to have those awkward conversations about sex. She gives so much great information, and it was so awesome to get a professional perspective about so many topics about which we're uncertain. https://buy.getlasting.com/annual-sale to get the app for ONLY $4.16 a month! That's 40% off the regular price. Check it out.
Throughout society, there seems to be this unanimous ideal of achieving an overall "happy" life. But, what does this mean and how do we get there? How much control do we really have over our emotional state and is it possible to change all of that even as adults? Life coach Amy is back again to give us ideas, exercises and the knowledge we need to become more fulfilled. As always, the conversation with her is fun, the big sister/little sister/brother-in-law dynamic is hilarious, and the conclusion is doable and relatable. If you're looking for easy steps to make your daily living feel like less of a chore and to have more "flow," you do not want to miss this episode. Sonja Lyubomirsky - Science behind happiness Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi- Flow Harvard Study Dan Harris - Meditation Rick Hansen: Negativity Bias and Neuroplasticity Sharon Salzberg Meditation Episode Sponsors: Care Of Promo code MNM Greenlight Duke Cannon Promo code MARRIAGE for 15% Off Lovebook Promo code MNM20
Marriage and Martinis launched one year ago, and the past year has been an absolute rollercoaster ride and adventure. What started as a small idea that seemed somewhat unrealistic to Danielle and Adam has turned into more than they could have hoped or imagined. In this episode, they discuss what they've learned about themselves, life, and each other. Coincidentally, this past year has also been one of the most difficult for the couple, as they've dealt with so much drama within their relationship after many secrets were revealed. How did that all impact the podcast? What have been their favorite episodes so far? Sit back and listen to some fun conversation as they re-hash the memories, shocking moments, and funny aspects of their first year as podcasters. Episode sponsors: Barkbox.com/MNM Get one extra month free when you sign up for a six or twelve month subscription Lovebookonline.com/MNM Promo code: MNM20 (must be capital letters) for 20% off your order
A lot has happened in the lives of Danielle and Adam this past year that has made them totally re-evaluate the idea of what it truly means to feel and be successful. How much do success and wealth overlap? Whom do each of them deem to be truly successful and inspiring? What makes a successful marriage and do they consider their own marriage to be an example of one? What do they not want their kids to lose as they get older and start to equate accomplishment with skill? There's so much more to this topic that needs to be discussed, and it's pretty obvious that there are going to be more episodes to come on this topic.
Doyin Richards is an in demand keynote speaker who goes all around the country discussing modern day fatherhood, how to deal with toxic masculinity, and highlighting what being an involved dad really looks like in today's society. He talks to Danielle and Adam about his experience as a black dad raising two multiracial daughters, why wives need take a step back and let husbands help in their own way, and why he has created a platform that focuses on awesome dads from all different walks of life. Doyin doesn't hold back when talking about his feelings about why men need to step up and do their part, and how we need to shift the conversation to focus on the dads who are in fact good role models, rocking the role of fatherhood. Episode Sponsors: Artkive use code MNM and you’ll get $20 off your Artkive Shipping Kit! Love Book use code MNM20 and you’ll get 20% off
Leah Carey is back by popular demand answering listener questions about dry spells, incompatible sexual preferences between partners, and how to achieve a bit more body confidence in the bedroom. Also, we follow up the “when I’m done I’m done” statement Adam so infamously made in the first sexual communications episode (April 5th). Join us in this fun, important conversation concerning how we can all feel a little more comfortable discussing all things sex related Episode Sponsors: Casper Promo Code: MNM Get $100 toward select mattresses Duke Cannon: Promo Code MARRIAGE for 15% Off
How do we balance our need for safety in our relationship with our need to indulge our wild side? What happens when one person starts to overindulge and the other one has to pick up the pieces? The struggle between these two necessities can be exhausting, and finding a balance is an ongoing process. Danielle and Adam break down the dichotomy and the steps they’re currently taking to get back on track to both getting to enjoy their carefree needs while also creating a safe haven for one another in their relationship. Episode Sponsors: ArtKive Promo Code: MNM for $20 Off Crescent Promo Code: MM50 50% Off Duke Cannon: Promo Code MARRIAGE for 15% Off
We're delving deeper into this idea of "the mental load." Darcy Lockman is a psychologist who researched the myth of 50/50 partnerships between moms and dads, and why it's taking so long for us to finally find an equal ground concerning parenting and household responsibilities. What were Darcy's findings? What did the hundreds of couples she interviewed reveal about their situations? How can we bridge this gap so everyone feels some relief concerning responsibilities? Also, Adam weighs in as a husband and a dad who says that while it's tough to sit there and listen to all of this, he understands where it's all coming from, but he has a bunch to say on behalf of men, too. Episode Sponsors: ArtKive Promo Code: MNM for $20 Off Crescent Promo Code: MM50 50% Off
Danielle and Adam have been co-habitating for almost 20 years. It's no surprise then that there are a bunch of habits they each have that really annoy each other to no end. For the second time on the podcast (the first time was way back on their second episode!) they duke it out about messiness, forgetfulness, dishes, mail, and so many other habits. Do they both come out of the episode alive? Listen to find out. Episode Sponsors: Duke Cannon Promo Code: MARRIAGE 15% Off 1st Order Swig & Swallow Promo Code: MNM 20% Off
After reading the book, The Polyamorists Next Door, Danielle was so interested in the topic that she asked the author and polyamory expert, Dr. Elisabeth Sheff, to come on the podcast to teach them about a lifestyle which they knew very little. Not to be confused with Polygamy, Polyamory is the act of being open to having more than one consenting relationship, and any gender can partake in having multiple partners. As the book title suggests, Polyamorists truly are living around us, but they are often too frightened to reveal their preferences because of all the stigmas attached to that identity. Dr. Sheff answers Danielle and Adam’s questions concerning how jealousy is dealt with in these relationships, how does one find poly partners, and how Dr. Sheff herself became so fascinated with the community. Elisabeth Scheff Episode Sponsors: Brainz Power Promo Code: MNM $30 Off 1st Box Duke Cannon Promo Code: MARRIAGE 15% Off 1st Order Zaca Promo Code: MARRIAGE $5 Coupon *Offers are at the time of this episode release, and may change.
Are our expectations for ourselves, our partners, and those around us too high? Are we setting ourselves up for failure? Is social media causing us all to feel we pale by comparison? Adam and Danielle discuss all of this, how their own upbringings has influenced their set of expectations, and what our expectations for our own kids are. Maybe if we can start figuring out a way to appreciate for what we already have and instead of concentrating on what hasn’t happened or gotten done, we would all walk around feeling even a little more satisfied and content. Episode Sponsors: Indochino Promo Code: MNM Care/Of Promo Code: MNM30 Mumi Promo Code: 15MARTINIS
When Danielle decided she wanted to surprise Adam by finally attempting to organize their house, she reached out to Neat Method to help her. but she had some stipulations: the people who came to help had to be fun, non-judgmental, and not ask her to hug her clothing to see if she still loves it or wants to donate the item instead. She wound up having such a great time, that she asked the ladies to come back and answer some listener questions all about some simple ways to make our routines easier, stop drowning in laundry, and what really is the right way to store a fitted sheet. What ensued was a really fun conversation with some helpful information for parents everywhere who want to make their lives a little easier each day, and so we can stop drowning in clutter and start being able to breathe in our own homes again. Episode Sponsors: Mumi Promo Code: 15martinis Artkive Promo Code: mnm
Valli Gideons joins us to talk all about being the wife of someone in the military who has been deployed ten times throughout their marriage. She's also raising her two children, both of whom are deaf, and uses her blog, My Battle Call, to educate as many people as possible about the hard of hearing. As moms, we are stronger than we often believe and more capable than we often give ourselves credit. Valli is one example of just how tough and unstoppable moms are. We are so grateful that she took the time to speak with us and answer all of our questions on Marriage and Martinis. Episode Sponsors: Myro Promo Code: mnm Lola Promo Code: mnm Crescent Promo Code: MM50
A recent study shows that 86% of us are feeling exhausted and overwhelmed by a this ongoing burden that is now finally being labeled as, "The Mental Load." In honor of Mother's Day, which is quickly approaching, Adam and Danielle sat down with resident Life Coach Amy Alpert to discuss how moms, especially, seem to constantly be weighed down by balancing the schedules, chores, appointments, household duties and emotional burdens that saturate everyday familial life. By opening up a dialogue, breaking down all the moving parts, and "making the invisible visible," we can finally realize what steps we need to be taking to ease some of this burden and share this issue of "the mental load." If you and/or your spouse are suffering from this oftentimes ignored issue, this is definitely an episode you won't want to miss, and hopefully, you will listen to it, together, to get the conversation started. Episode Sponsors: Zaca Promo Code: MARRIAGE Simple Health Promo Code: mnm Therabox Giveaway!
Danielle and Adam are taking you back to when it all first started: meeting, re-meeting, wedding planning, those first few years of marriage, and everything in between. Anyone engaged or newly married will definitely want to hear this episode. Anyone who was married at a younger age will understand how there are so many aspects of their wedding that they would do so differently now. Why was Danielle hesitant about their relationship in the beginning? What regrets do they have about those first few years? What advice would they give younger listeners or their own kids in preparation for tying the knot? It's all here, and as always, they do not hold back in the retelling of their not-so-fairytale love story. Episode Sponsors: Shaker & Spoon Indochino Promo Code: MNM OpenFit Promo Code: MARTINIS
We're so tired of there still being things that we should feel shameful to admit out loud even in 2019. Topics that are considered "taboo" such as parenting hardships, sexual preferences, being on anxiety medication, bottle feeding, breastfeeding in public, (among so many others) need to be discussed as often as it takes until it all becomes commonplace and we no longer feel the need to hide our true feelings and actions. We hope you'll join us on Marriage and Martinis as we try to get one step closer to making this happen. Episode Sponsors: Hello Fresh Promo Code: mnm80 for $80 off your 1st month. Crescent Promo Code: MM50 for 50% Off
So many of us would love to attend couples’ therapy on a regular basis. However, due to reasons such as financial issues, lack of childcare and a partner’s unwillingness to attend, it’s often just not in the cards. Lasting marriage counseling app is offering an affordable and convenient solution to all of that. We had the chance to talk to one of the app’s top researchers about the benefits of connecting with our partner on a more regular basis, why so many partners are so resistant to attending therapy, and which research they have used to develop the app’s daily five-minute sessions. Additionally, we ask Liz for her expert opinion concerning dealing with in-laws, spouses who travel, and how to deal with different levels of emotions in relationships. Episode Sponsor Get Lasting App
Leah Carey is helping us reclaim (or claim) our sexuality and helping us to understand that it's never too late to start getting the greatest amount of sexual pleasure possible. At 42 years old, she realized the power of her sexual identity for the first time, and since then she has made it her mission for couples everywhere to start getting what they truly want in the bedroom, and making it an easier topic to discuss even for the most hesitant and introverted personalities. We ask her a bunch of listener questions and share stories about how we can all start getting the most satisfaction from our sexual experiences. Yes/No/Maybe checklist download Link to new YouTube channel Podcast links: iTunes Spotify Website - www.LeahCarey.com Offer: $25 off their first sexual communication coaching session - DM me to redeem Episode Sponsors: Flirty Girl Simple Health Promo Code: mnm
After going through a reoccurring pattern of Adam becoming distant and seeming aloof, Danielle put an Instagram story out asking if other couples struggle with this, too, and the response was overwhelming. Obviously this is a huge issue for a lot of couples. After 18 years, Danielle finally confronts the issue, and gets an unexpected response concerning why Adam falls into this behavior. They also discuss how much alone time is necessary for spouses to feel a sense of independence, and what activities they wish they could pursue alone if they had more time. As far as parenting is concerned, Danielle expresses her overwhelming sense of feeling bombarded by her younger kids and the need to just not be touched sometimes. Then, Adam and Danielle discuss the issue of how much privacy is appropriate for two of their kids now that they are teens and preteens. Episode Sponsors: OpenFit Promo Code: MARTINIS Hello Fresh Promo Code: mnm80
Danielle and Adam have discussed financial tension in their relationship in several recent episodes. Considering the number one cause of divorce in marriage involves financial disagreement, we need to be doing a better job of getting on the same page about money as couples and parents. Danielle and Adam sit down with finance guy Joel from the How To Money podcast and simplify some concepts that seem intimidating to many people. They also ask Joel a bunch of questions from listeners and discuss issues like budgeting, saving for college, and whether or not a SAHM really needs life insurance. This will be the first part of what we hope will be a series aimed to make money matters seem much more simple to tackle. Episode Sponsors: Care/Of Promo code: MNM50 Zeta Finance App
Do you think that where you land in your birth order or if you're an only child really affects you in life? Have you ever thought about how you and your spouse's place in your birth order affects your marriage and how you act as adults? Where do Danielle and Adam land in their own birth order among their siblings? No matter what you think about the whole topic, it's a fun discussion, and one that hasn't really been researched until the past 20-30 years. No matter if you're an oldest, middle, youngest, only, or wherever you land in your family lineup, you won't want to miss out on this fun discussion. Episode Sponsors: Shaker & Spoon: www.shakerandspoon.com/marriage Save $20 Off of your subscription! LOLA: www.mylola.com/ Use the code: MNM at checkout to save
Danielle and Adam further discuss some issues that arose during the Guilt and Communication episodes, and dive more deeply into the occurrences of the past few years concerning drinking, gambling, and other problematic struggles in their marriage. Plus they discuss and debate what, if any, secrets are acceptable to keep in a marriage and what happens when a spouse finds out about them. How does Adam plan on dealing with honesty going forward, and what will happen if anymore secrets arise in their relationship? Episode Sponsor: www.awesomefuel.com/marriage
Ever wonder how accounts get to have a hundred thousand followers or more? Want to mold your account to help you to become an online influencer, lead people to your website, learn about your brand or business, or sell something you make? Danielle has done all of this and is sharing some of her strategies and inside secrets with you. Forget algorithms, statistics, and spending money on sponsored posts. Gaining organic followers who help build your community and fulfill your ultimate goals is really all about heart and soul. Listen to this episode to learn how to get started, and then keep an eye out for follow-up episodes that will tell you exactly what to do from there. Download our free supplemental guide sheet: https://www.marriageandmartinis.com/podcast/growing-your-instagram-community-part-1
We were so privileged to talk with our friend, Jodie Utter, who embraces vulnerability in order to share her personal experience with marital infidelity and how she got through the immense pain of dealing with her husband's affair. What was her initial reaction? Did she think about leaving the marriage? What made her stay? How did she trust again? If anyone has experienced any form of lying and betrayal in their relationship, you won't want to miss this episode, and you won't believe her bravery in telling her truth. She lets us all know that we are capable of handing so much more than we think we can. Jodie is an inspiration, to say the least. www.utterimperfection.com Episode Sponsors: Open Fit: https://www.openfit.com Promo Code: "MARTINIS" at checkout, or text to 303030 Care/Of: https://takecareof.com Promo Code: "mnm50"
Adam and Danielle continue their discussion of effective communication (or lack thereof) in their relationship. Danielle focuses on Adam's lack of communication in the bedroom and how learning from the BDSM (Bondage Dominance Sadism and Masochism) community might benefit all couples in more open and honest dialogue concerning sex. Plus, more tips from Esther Perel, and a look towards the future with Adam drinking less and trying to be more involved in family dynamics. Episode Sponsor: www.awesomefuel.com/marriage
Adam and Danielle discuss everything from how they communicate well to ways they both need a lot of improvement when manifesting their needs. Raising their voices, avoiding the problem, refusing to get outside their comfort zones are just some of the ways they struggle with communication. Any spouse hoping to better express him/herself won't want to miss this important episode. Episode Sponsor: www.awesomefuel.com/marriage
In this follow-up episode with FlirtyGirl, we discuss everything from how to introduce new sexual ideas to a partner who's less adventurous, to what to do if one spouse has a lower libido, to well, just about everything you were too embarrassed to ask but always wanted to know. It's so much fun when Danielle and Adam get together with Brooke and this conversation is no exception. Plus, what do women really want for Valentine's Day? https://www.flirtygirlguide.com
It's no secret that Danielle and Adam share a great love of good food, and on this episode they're discussing everything from foods that remind them of their childhoods, to the greatest meals they've shared together, their great love of Anthony Bourdain, foods that are aphrodisiacs, fast food as a form of self-care, and so much more. Also, they discuss what happened one night while dining at one of the best restaurants in the world, that led Danielle to have the idea to start the Marriage and Martinis podcast. Get ready for more moaning, drooling, and passion than maybe any previous episode topic. Plus, Adam and Danielle answer some audience questions, and respond to someone who asked why the couple hasn't "just gotten divorced already."
While Danielle and Adam are always open and vulnerable, this episode takes certain things to a new level. What will Danielle not do because she's worried that at 41 years old she'll still disappoint her dad? What sexual position does she despise? What are Adam's serial killer tendencies? Why is he embarrassed about his bathroom habits? They both reveal insecurities that are not easy to admit. If you are easily offended or uncomfortable, this will definitely NOT be the episode for you.
Adam and Danielle sit down to talk about “goals” with Life Coach Amy Alpert, who also happens to be Danielle’s sister. Is it possible to help the hosts of Marriage and Martinis figure out how to get organized and buckle down to commit to some resolutions for the New Year? It’s definitely not an easy task to give anyone, but Amy is up for the challenge and extremely patient with these two slackers. And if nothing else, they definitely had a lot of fun chatting together.
Of course, you can imagine how hard it was for Adam and Danielle to just concentrate on the stuff we do well as parents, cause complimenting ourselves is so out of our comfort zone. But despite how crazy we are, there are a few ways we don’t suck.
Danielle and Adam follow up the guilt episode with a discussion about how they can move forward into the future without anger or resentment. Adam does some research about steps people can take to say they're sorry, and Danielle responds to Adam's progress and intentions for the future of their marriage. Plus, Danielle says what she thinks she needs to do in order for their marriage to be the best it possibly can.
Amber Leventry identifies as non-binary and uses their platform as a writer and advocate to educate people about the LGBTQ community. They explain why they prefer to be referred to using "they, them" pronouns, how they are adjusting and learning while raising a transgender daughter, and how getting sober helped launch a whole new perspective on life and advocacy. Marriage and Martinis is so grateful that Amber was willing to share with us and our community. Join us in this incredibly important information session concerning all things non-heteronormative.
This might be Danielle and Adam's most vulnerable episode yet. What do they both feel guilt about on a daily basis, and what are the more serious issues that they struggle with concerning feelings of shame? Plus, Adam relives a night when he made one of the most horrible and humiliating mistakes in the history of their relationship. If you're a Marriage and Martinis fan, this is an episode you won't want to miss.
What do Adam and Danielle think each other would want for the holidays? How well do they know one another concerning their wish lists? What are the best gifts they have given one another, and when did they feel unappreciated for a present they worked really hard to acquire and give one another? Plus, what do husbands and wives really want from their spouse for the holidays?
At least 20% of women experience some type of postpartum depression. Danielle was one of those sufferers, and was burdened with an extreme mental illness throughout her first pregnancy and even after her child was born. In this episode, Danielle and Adam discuss so many aspects of maternal mental health with fellow PPD sufferer and motherhood blogger, Jen Schwartz. As always, they are honest and forthcoming while sharing their own unique experiences with the topic. What are the signals that indicate someone might be a potential sufferer? What can the spouse, friends, and family do to support the mom going through it? What are some resources out there to help? What happens when a new mom suffers from PPD, OCD and psychosis? This is a conversation you won't want to miss, no matter who you are. Let's work together to end the stigma. We can start by educating ourselves on the subject.
The highly anticipated episode in which Adam and Danielle discuss the role of a SAHM and why it's complicated and misunderstood. Danielle attempts to show Adam that he does not completely realize the extent of her role. They discuss everything from maternity/paternity leave to the benefits and complications of having one parent who "doesn't work." Also, the beginning of the episode follows up the Flirty Girl interview in which Adam and Danielle review a product given to them by the sex expert. More episodes about being a SAHM and working mom soon to follow.
Work, family life, "adulting," and so many other forms of stress pervade our everyday life. Danielle and Adam discuss how they deal with (and avoid) stressful situations. How do each think the other one handles stress? What ideas do they have for how one another could better handle these situations? How much do one another contribute to or make difficult situations better for each other? They discuss all this and more in this episode.
Danielle and Adam discuss and debate everything from our smaller, everyday phobias to more serious fears, nightmares, thoughts on death and everything in between. What keeps us up at night? How have our fears changed? Plus, plenty of random facts and questionable advice seeps in although should be taken with little to no degree of seriousness and validity.
Adam and Danielle have certainly dealt with their struggles when it comes to "keeping up with the Joneses," and they have some pretty unique stories to tell about the topic. One situation almost led to Danielle calling it quits in the marriage. Plus, find out something that happened to Adam that he never told anyone other than good friends about before.
Sure, we don't really understand anything about one another, but let's get married and spend the rest of our lives together. Sounds perfectly logical, right? Adam and Danielle discuss everything from a woman's "ugly cry" to men's fascination with big screen televisions in this fun episode. Why are men in the bathroom so long? What's the hardest part about being a man or a woman? Join us and laugh along while we discuss, argue, and keep it real and inappropriate throughout this entire episode. Plus, it's our longest yet, so you know Adam is telling at least two or three of his interesting stories in it.
It's Adam's turn to choose two movies for Danielle to watch which she would never otherwise see. Of course we all know he chooses at least one sci-fi film (Interstellar) and one war film (Braveheart). Will Danielle understand what's going on in either of them? Find out what she thinks and how she reacts. Spoiler alert: this was recorded after movie swap #1 so Danielle is already a few cocktails deep, and we all know what that means.
Danielle and Adam talk about if/how friendships have changed as they've gotten older, whether or not they would be ok with the other having a good friend of the opposite sex, celebrities they would love to be friends with, and Adam's "bromances."
After years of begging Adam to watch certain movies that she loves, Danielle finally convinces him to view two of her choosing. How did he like them? What did he learn about the making of the films? How long can he spend giving a summary of each movie before Danielle totally loses it completely? So many fascinating topics to be discussed, and we even manage to throw in a bit of a discussion about labiaplasty, because we always like to keep things nice and random around here.
Admittedly having gone through some really tough periods throughout their 16-year-marriage, Danielle and Adam discuss how and why they've made it through, and offer some wisdom and real-life experiences concerning what helps a relationship withstand the test of time, hardships, and loss. Plus, they reveal some very personal information that they haven't yet revealed on the podcast.
What stuff have you done that you wouldn't be so forthcoming about with your spouse, even after being married for so long? Adam and Danielle come out with details of their life that the other may or may not be ok with. As always, they divulge way more than originally intended, so if you're not comfortable with the real life details of relationships and marriage, you may want to skip this episode.
How do men and women's ideas of romance differ? Adam and Danielle discuss everything from their romantic fantasies to which movie couples they think represent the ideals of romance, plus so much more. As always they reveal way more than they originally intended, and keep it completely real in a way that is totally relatable. Get ready to laugh your way through another meaningful but hilarious episode.
Adam and Danielle tell it like it is (as always) concerning what a person really needs to expect when having kids. What could be better than they're non-expert, questionable advice, experience, and ideas for how to raise the youth of the world. Trust us...whether you don't have kids, are planning on having them, or are already a mom or dad, you're going to want to listen to this episode, and then probably forget everything you've heard after you've laughed your way through.
Adam and Danielle discuss the differences and similarities with men and women concerning issues such as weight, height, aging, and plastic surgery. What are men really thinking about women's bodies during sex? What are men self-conscious about? What would Adam and Danielle love to have someone say about them? They explore all of this and more in this completely honest and revealing episode.
Adam and Danielle continue their game series as they try to stump one another with facts and lies about science, celebrities, movies, and their own childhoods. Laugh with them throughout this bonus episode as they reveal personal information about their youth, and as Adam cheats his way through the game.
C-sections, morphine, push presents, baby nurses, and all the other fun stuff associated with bringing life into the world. Danielle and Adam explore everything from pregnancy sex to things you should never say to a woman in labor. Join them as they share their experiences and give their non-expert, always questionable advice on these subjects.
The first of many bonus episodes to come in Marriage and Martinis "Game Nights" edition, in which Danielle and Adam take a popular game and personalize it to fit the show. Play along in the car or at home as they hilariously answer questions made up by each other. As always, the banter, language, and humor is off-color, and truths and realness of marriage come through again and again.
What happens when Adam and Danielle explore their different fighting styles and openly discuss how they feel when they argue? Because they both allow themselves to be completely vulnerable and open in this episode, a lot of unexpected turns of events take place, causing for some pure emotional rawness. As always, they keep it authentic and don't pretend that anything in marriage is sugar coated and easy. There's definitely something something very intimate and deep about this episode (while still being humorous) that we really think listeners will appreciate. Buckle up....it's gonna be a bumpy ride.
When kids are involved, it's a trip, not a vacation. Find out what Adam and Danielle learned after almost two weeks overseas with their family. Spoiler alert: there's some extra bickering in this episode due to jet lag, exhaustion, and just being really sick of one another after 12 days straight of being together.
Millennials, Snapchat, YouTube, texting acronyms....it's nearly impossible to keep up with all the terms and advancements today. Join us as we discuss all these things and more, and then quiz one another to try and figure out who knows more about all the new and trendy concepts. Of course, we do it all Marriage and Martinis style, so expect a whole lot of banter, humiliating one another (and ourselves), and a ton of laughter. email@example.com
Most of us have seen the Friends episode about getting a free pass to sleep with any five celebrities you want. If given the same chance, who would you choose? In this episode, Adam and Danielle reveal who would be on their lists. Spoiler alert: they have at least one of the same people on both their lists.
How far would you and your significant other go to have the experience of a lifetime and add excitement and adventure to your life? In this hilarious, inappropriate, and fun episode, Adam and Danielle compare ideas of what makes the perfect exotic vacation.
Adam and Danielle talk completely openly about dealing with OCD and mental illness. As usual, there's no holding back with these two, as they discuss very private aspects of Danielle's constant battle with anxiety.
What makes us hot mess parents? We talk about the film Bad Moms and then discuss this somewhat new idea of being a "hot mess." What ways do we fall into this category? Hear some hilarious stories and play Never Have I Ever - Parenting Edition.
What are the top pet peeves for couples? If you could list your top annoyances about your spouse what would they be? What do you think they would say their greatest frustrations with you are? Danielle and Adam fess up about what drives each of them insane about the other person. (Spoiler alert: they both come out alive). Movie clips: Father of the Bride
If you could go back in time and give your younger self advice, what would you say? Danielle and Adam explore this and how turning 40 and being married for 15 years has affected them. Movie clips: This Is 40