Are there people in your life you find challenging to work with or be with? Why do we find some people so irritating and how can we utilize those irritations as opportunities for growth?
The way we perceive sensory input, information from others and data gathered about the outside world determines if we will react from old programming or respond in wise and helpful ways. When we take others’ upset personally, we are not able to see from their perspective or offer help.
Listen in as Ali Oliver, Director of Professional Development for Conscious Discipline and former transformational Principal, shares strategies for working with the most difficult staff, parents and students in our lives.
The quality of relationships shapes the function of our brain. When challenging people come to us, it’s important to QTIP (Quit Taking It Personally) and be present so they feel heard and we can better understand what they are communicating. Breathing and preparing ourselves in these moments allows us to connect during upset and respond in a helpful way rather than react.
Steps for Tomorrow
• Build a way to connect within the building
• Prepare yourself by learning your own triggers and upset tendencies, and then practice active calming
• See from the other person’s point of view and know their upset is not about you
Wiring the Brain for Success: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cjVJV7G8x3s
Power of Perception Webinar: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cjVJV7G8x3s
• Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Classrooms
• Time Machine (Conflict Resolution Mat)
:20 What is Conscious Discipline
1:28 Working with those who challenge us the most
3:30 Understanding our states of consciousness
5:58 Introduction of guest Ali Oliver, former transformational Principal and current Director of Professional Development for Conscious Discipline
6:50 Working with difficult parents and teachers
11:18 Reframing and providing empathy to diffuse others’ upset moments
15:11 Working with the most difficult children
18:32 Using Conscious Discipline with adults
21:07 Working with staff members in conflict moments
23:20 Changing the language we use during adult upsets
27:06 Importance of connecting the faculty
28:14 Steps for tomorrow
30:34 What it means to see from another’s point of view