The intention is to awaken, enlighten, enrich, and inspire. Timber Hawkeye, bestselling author of Buddhist Boot Camp and Faithfully Religionless, offers a secular approach to being at peace with the world, both within and around us. As the Dalai Lama says, "Don't try to use what you learn from Buddhism to be a Buddhist, use it to be a better whatever-you-already-are."
The best way to have uncomfortable conversations with family members or friends who don't see the problem or how you perceive them to be part of the problem, and how to avoid finger-pointing so we can have effective discussions rather than arguments. If you find value in this podcast, please show your support with just $1/month through https://patreon.com/BuddhistBootCamp Thank you for being Soldiers of Peace in the Army of Love.
God, Prayer, Grace, Mercy, if any of those topics make you uncomfortable, skip this episode; it's a recording of Sunday's sermon at Unity Church, bridging the gap between my upbringing, religion, and Buddhism, in a way to which people of faith can relate.
Our actions convey our priorities but we often fail to contemplate the WHY behind people's actions. When you argue with someone, you’re trying to prove WHO is right, but in a discussion, both parties are trying to find out WHAT is right. If you find value in the Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast, please show your support with just $1/month through https://Patreon.com/BuddhistBootCamp Thank you for being a Soldier of Peace in the Army of Love.
I am typically calm and collected, so when I experienced a panic attack that triggered serious suicidal thoughts, it was mindfulness, meditation, surrender, and a mantra that brought me back to center. Years ago, I made a commitment to be vulnerable and transparent with all of you, and this was the lowest point in my adult life but I'd be a hack if I kept it from you. This is me. But I'm grateful for the tools with which to work through it all. Your brother, Timber Hawkeye
What changes to incorporate and how to remember which ones we want to implement in our lives when this pandemic is over, getting in touch with what (not who) we are grateful for, and helping each other out on this incredible journey we call life.
On March 22, 2020, Timber hosted a live video broadcast Q&A in lieu of in-person events that have been canceled due to travel restrictions and social distancing. There will be a series of these in the coming weeks for people to tune into via YouTube from all over the world. Visit the Buddhist Boot Camp website for upcoming event information and additional details.
Stop expecting perfection from others, it’s not like you can offer it in return. Consider this a relief from the burden of judgment. Forget the conventional idea of "perfection," and embrace Wabi Sabi instead.
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When you know the difference between feelings and emotions, you can pause between impulse and response to avoid expressing anger when what you're really feeling is hurt, for example. Don't let your mood affect your manners. Inner peace is in the present moment, everything else is an illusion.
We can't see clearly because we often focus on how things used to be, how we want them to be, how we think they should be, anywhere other than focusing on how things actually are. It's 2020, where's your focus?
As Maya Angelou said, "I may be changed by what happens in my life, but I refuse to be reduced by it." We are never broken unless we believe we are. If you find value in this podcast and what to keep it commercial-free, it is available without ads thanks to listeners just like you who donate just $1/month through https://patreon.com/buddhistbootcamp. Thank you for being a Soldier of Peace in the Army of Love.
Can our life's purpose be to do things on purpose? Can something as ubiquitous as shopping be made altruistic if there's meaning behind each purchase? We can't all save the rainforest first hand, for example, but what if the clothes we buy support an organization that does? At the end of the day, it's not about what we get but what we give, so let's give life meaning.
Talking yourself off the ledge by knowing your way home. If you find value in these commercial-free podcast episodes, my online posts, monthly emails, and discussion circles, then head over to https://Patreon.com/BuddhistBootCamp to show your support with just $1/month to keep the conversation going. Thank you for being a Soldier of Peace in the Army of Love.
Is desire the root of suffering as Buddhism suggests? The answer is tricky because it depends on whether you desire the journey or the destination; only one of those is available to you right now. So is desire really the root of suffering or, perhaps better stated, is happiness the absence of desire? Have a listen, think about it, and decide for yourself.
Instead of changing who we are depending on outside circumstances, let's commit to being a certain way no-matter-what. Your response in any situation would be consistent with who you are rather than dependent on the whim of those around you. We don't so much "discover ourselves," we create who we are, so choose wisely.
This might just be the way for us to avoid judgment, segregation, and discrimination by making everyone instantly more relatable. If you find value in the ad-free Buddhist Boot Camp Podcast, Facebook page, public events, books, and programs, please consider showing your support with just $1 a month through https://patreon.com/BuddhistBootCamp Thank you for being a Soldier of Peace in the Army of Love.
I don't meditate to control my thoughts, I meditate so my thoughts don't control me. Visit https://BuddhistBootCamp.com for more information, and if you find value in these commercial-free Podcast episodes, please show your support with just $1/month through https://Patreon.com/BuddhistBootCamp Thank you for being a Soldier of Peace in the Army of Love.
The lifetime we are given (the good times, the terrible, and all the time in between), is a gift from a mysterious stranger. And the natural response to receiving a gift is gratitude, not a sense of entitlement. For more information about Timber Hawkeye, his books, TED Talk, and Books-to-Prisons project, please visit https://www.BuddhistBootCamp.com and consider showing your support for the Podcast, online posts, and monthly emails with just $1 a month at https://www.Patreon.com/BuddhistBootCamp
Why do you do what you do? What are you trying to accomplish? Are your actions fueled by the ego? I ask myself these questions all the time to make sure I don't get into the habit of letting my ego run the show. What motivates YOUR actions?
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Every experience triggers an emotion in us and we then make judgments, decisions, and act out of that emotion, unreliable and variable as it may be. Could the labels that offered us comfort and clarity at one time in our lives later cause our segregation and discomfort? The question to ask yourself is if your narrative is working for you or against you. If you find value in these commercial-free Podcast episodes, please show your support with just $1 a month through https://Patreon.com/BuddhistBootCamp
Distinguish between healthy and unhealthy guilt. As my brother says, "Most of what weighs you down isn't even yours to carry." If you find value in these Podcast episodes, please show your support with just $1 a month through https://Patreon.com/BuddhistBootCamp These podcasts are available commercial-free thanks to listeners just like you who show their support. Thank you for being Soldiers of Peace in the Army of Love.
According to NVC (Non-Violent Communication), Unsolicited Advice is a form of violence; it's a way to bully someone by telling them what you think they "should" or "shouldn't" do. It can be very invasive when unwelcomed, so let's be mindful of what to do when we receive it, how to stop giving it, and the gift inherent in waiting for someone to ask for help. If you find value in these Podcast episodes, please show your support with just $1 a month through Patreon.com/BuddhistBootCamp Thank you.
Life is going to throw some curve balls your way, take you up steep terrain, and surprise you with unexpected twists and turns. Are you ready to face it all like a champion so no challenge is overwhelming, or does everything in your life feel insurmountable? I say intentionally go without the very things you fear losing so you're prepared, trained, and ready! Keep your power instead of giving it away to fear.
Release your tight grip on things like identity wrapped in a job title or financial status, your car, home, or marital status. Keep stretching and expanding a flexible outlook as it ripples outward to encompass everything in the Universe. Turn to vapor, ice, liquid, and back again, without getting attached to any of it.
Do you have a close circle of friends who help you grow and evolve, or do you have an echo chamber in which everyone you know keeps you confined in a loop of destructive behavior, stunting your growth instead of promoting it?
If your image (how people perceive you) is more important to you than your own values, you'd allow people to cross some boundaries (or not even set them in the first place), all to protect your image. Your actions convey your priorities, so where does your image rank compared to your core values?
In response to the Buddhist invitation to "Do No Harm," which I think is impossible, I prefer contemplating "Doing LESS Harm," which triggers awareness of our decisions' ripple effects on ourselves and the world around us until we find ways to minimize (not eliminate) the harm we cause when we eat, drink, read, watch, etc.
The problem with being goal-oriented and future-focused is that at no given point are you where you want to be. When one eye is fixed upon the destination, only one eye is left with which to find the way.
If your happiness depends on something you can lose, you will spend your entire life afraid of losing it. But if your happiness depends on who you are in relation to each moment, then nothing and nobody can take that away from you.
Insecurities are the result of accepting the media's and other people's projections about us as truth until we no longer hear our highest selves reassure us of our inherent worth, which isn't measured by our job title, skin color, tax bracket, waist size, etc.
If we're dependent on outside validation for a sense of self-worth, then we run the risk of living our entire lives polishing an image that pleases others rather than having awareness of our inherent worth by simply living and working with integrity. We've been told a story of hierarchy and then urged to make it to the top so we can look down on others, but I don't think our value is a contest or a competition; we all serve a purpose.
Not forgiving is a form of self-imprisonment. Liberate yourself by doing away with the existing apology-and-forgiveness model that is similar to loan transactions in which one person is indebted to another, and get unstuck by taking the lesson from every experience, throwing away any grudge or resentment, and moving forward.
To better understand hatred, we must first be honest about where it resides within each of us. When we fail to do that, we end up hating the hater, yet justifying our hatred as somehow "superior." Since all hate is rooted in segregation, questioning the labels we assign to everything we know and experience is a good place to start. I say Non-Judgment Day is Near, but your participation is required.
Change is natural and inevitable. The cause of our discomfort and suffering isn't change, it's our resistance to it. So the question is, are you open to change, or are you fighting the inevitable and creating your own suffering?
Is it possible that meddling is just another narcotic, a way to escape having to face our own issues, insecurities, and shortcomings, by pointing out somebody else’s? If drama is an addiction, is mindfulness the cure?
The same way we filter-out harmful germs and chemicals from our drinking water, we need to install some sort of filter in our lives to keep out the harmful information that is found in our media. We need to limit how much negativity we are exposed to, and then balance it with some positive energy. Balance is something we create, not find. And by not being part of the pollution, we are automatically part of the solution.
There is a way to recall our past experiences without triggering any anger, resentment, or even judgment. Do not identify as "broken" or you will actually start believing that you are. The past is in your head. The future is in your hands.
When you feel the impulse to hurt someone (or when someone hurts you), remember we can't soothe our own pain by placing it on someone else. In fact, I think we increase our suffering when we harbor ill-thoughts toward others.
I used to rely on validation from other people in order to have a sense of self-worth, but that essentially meant I was in a co-dependent relationship with the entire world (think about it). Now my sense of value is up to me living a congruent life, striving to make sure that what I think, say, and do, are all in alignment. Give yourself the gift of true happiness, which isn’t contingent on outside validation, but on the goodness within. Namaste.
Perhaps the wisest thing we can do isn't to necessarily acquire additional knowledge, but to unlearn some of what we thought we knew in the first place. Let's hold what we know very lightly, without any grasping or attachment, for we might need to let it go someday.
If life is a road trip in the car, who is driving and deciding which path to take? Are you behind the wheel, or did you get on a bus with millions of other people, all living the same life, heading in the same direction, just sitting there... sometimes until the very last stop? We can get off the bus and change direction at any point if we're not happy with where we are, so the first step is to ask ourselves: who's driving, and are we happy with where we're headed?
I was recently interviewed by Steve Prussack on his Juice Guru Radio Show, and this is a recorded portion of that live conversation. If you know someone who might benefit from the message and invitation in Buddhist Boot Camp, go ahead and send them this audio clip as a good place to start, or enjoy it as a good reminder.
A couple of sample chapters from Buddhist Boot Camp. Each chapter is only a page or two long and can be read in any order. Keep a copy of the book on your nightstand and read just one chapter each day.
Our thoughts are rarely ever truly our own; they are shaped by the people around us, current events, and media exposure. Even when we think of something ourselves (or we think we do), it's important to remember that the mind is strangely capable of believing just about anything in order to avoid internal conflict.
A list of some books I have very much enjoyed reading or listening to, and why I recommend each one. To see the list and links from which to order these titles and more, please visit https://www.buddhistbootcamp.com/bookshelf and then comment back with which books you liked and which you absolutely loved. Enjoy!
Mindful money and time management, raising awareness of our habits, value assessments, enjoying the freedom that accompanies having less instead of more, and introducing joy to generosity. Do you have spending habits or investment habits? Your discipline reflects your priorities.
A couple of questions from this month's live stream. The first is about boundaries with an estranged family member, and the other is about the two ways in which we get our sense of self-worth and value. Prepare questions in advance for next month's live, video Q&A on Patreon, and I'll continue recording additional episodes in the meantime. Thank you for joining our live discussions.
Before adding stuff to your life in an ongoing effort to make it better, contemplate what you can take out that's making it less than ideal in the first place. It could be a person, a job, a closely-held belief, perspective, attitude, opinion, etc.
On a slightly more serious note, in this podcast episode, I explain why I'm "Faithfully Religionless." Not against religion, just don't think we need one in order to be ethical or to have faith. The next episode will be shorter and more lighthearted, I promise! :)
This month's recording of the live Q&A hosted on Facebook was about breakups, death, jealousy, kids, marriage, and unreasonable expectations. To find out when the next live Q&A will take place, subscribe to our monthly email at BuddhistBootCamp.com, where you can also link to show your support on Patreon.
You can't be happy if you're not living in line with your own core values. And you can't live in line with your values if you don't even know what they are. Companies have a vision statement, code of conduct, and ethics that they strive to operate by. Write yours down.
We can only use the problem-solving tools we've got, which is why it's best to have a wide selection instead of just one. Those with only a hammer try to solve everything by beating it to death (not an ideal solution in circumstances that call for a gentle touch), but those with only a white glove are equally ill-equipped in situations that call for elbow grease. So how many tools do you have in your belt? Can you be gentle yet assertive without being aggressive? Loving, kind, and compassionate but never hateful? Because as Maya Angelou said, "Hate has caused many problems in the world, but hasn't solved one yet." Learn the tools of nonviolent communication to use in some situations, for example, and quiet contemplation in others. Gasoline is great for starting a fire but terrible at putting it out. Namaste. Do you enjoy these podcasts? Please show your support on http://www.patreon.com/buddhistbootcamp
I am a lot of things and not one of them defines me. You are also many things, so don't limit yourself to just a few. Do you enjoy these podcasts? Please show your support on http://www.patreon.com/buddhistbootcamp
There is a difference between always being happy and always being in a good mood. Do you enjoy these podcasts? Please show your support on http://www.patreon.com/buddhistbootcamp You can also listen on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/BBCPodcast-Apple SoundCloud: http://tinyurl.com/BBCPodcast-SoundCloud Stitcher: http://tinyurl.com/BBCPodcast-stitcher Google Play: http://tinyurl.com/BBCPOdcast-GooglePlay TuneIn: http://tinyurl.com/BBCPodcast-TuneIn
If you regularly blame other people for something that is not their fault, then you also make it their job to fix what is your own responsibility to maintain, like your inner peace. Do you enjoy these podcasts? Please show your support on http://www.patreon.com/buddhistbootcamp You can also listen on iTunes: http://tinyurl.com/BBCPodcast-Apple SoundCloud: http://tinyurl.com/BBCPodcast-SoundCloud Stitcher: http://tinyurl.com/BBCPodcast-stitcher Google Play: http://tinyurl.com/BBCPOdcast-GooglePlay TuneIn: http://tinyurl.com/BBCPodcast-TuneIn
Anger is a mask that covers hurt feelings or fear. If we learn to explain our anger instead of expressing it, we will immediately move away from hatred and rage, and gently open the door to solutions and understanding.
If you respond to any situation in life by saying, “This shouldn’t be happening,” you will experience anger, anxiety, despair, and hopelessness, which are significantly worse than the situation itself. We have a choice: we can either resist change (which leads to a life-long struggle with everything and everyone around us), OR we can gently navigate through all the inevitable twists and turns.
Ever want to focus on something but your mind keeps drifting away to whatever IT wants to think about, or really want to stop thinking about something but your mind "can't help it?" That's because you've never trained your mind to listen to you, and have allowed it to do whatever it wants. It's time to train it, slowly but surely...
The way we do one thing is the way we do everything. If we practice letting go of the little things, we exercise the same muscle with which we can then let go of the big stuff in life (from old opinions, beliefs, judgments, and resentments).