October 15, 2019
Today we’re talking about bathing and showering—not just having sex in a shower or bathtub, but the whole kit-and-caboodle. You’ll see what we mean once we get started.
October 1, 2019
About This Episode Today's listener questions are: My husband is really interested in me swallowing during oral sex. I don't get it. I honestly don't want to work up to it; it's already taken a lot of effort just to give bjs and oral sex to him. But he keeps asking. I'm not sure what to do - keep saying no, or work through my gag reflex and dislike of the smell and try it? To be honest, it kind of grosses me out even thinking of swallowing. I've tried using the gag reflex sprays too and it doesn't help much. I just need some advice. I’ve read in some books and blogs God’s biblical design and purpose is that sex is a) for reproduction b) for pleasure c) creating intimacy - these three purposes are independent of each other — reproduction is possible without pleasure/intimacy or pleasure can be possible without procreation. -the maximum goal of the Lord is intimacy, for happiness of the couple and because marriage represents intimacy between church and Jesus So.. Do you think it’s possible to have real intimacy without pleasure in sex? Like saying “if sex is not really pleasurable then intimacy is not really close” or “the greatest the pleasure the stronger the intimacy” or “a marriage can’t have actual intimacy without good sex” or “no sex, no intimacy”, etc. I know is a kind of strong question but I am struggling with this thought because I’ve read the three independent purposes of sex at some blogs/books, but I feel some explanations are missing, specially for we wives striving with orgasm or painful intercourse or trouble with arousal, so “pleasurable” is hardly a way to define sex life. Sponsor Learn About Married Dance Here From the Bible In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. – Ephesians 5:28 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. – 1 Corinthians 13:4-7 I have come to my garden-my sister, my bride. I gather my myrrh with my spices. I eat my honeycomb with my honey. I drink my wine with my milk. Eat, friends! Drink, be intoxicated with love! – Song of Songs 5:1 Resources What Are the Real Purposes of Sex? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Sex's Primary Job is not Lust Management - Bonny's OysterBed7 International Pelvic Pain Society National Vulvodynia Association Finding a Good Gynecologist – Hot, Holy & Humorous Do I Have To? - The Forgiven Wife Oral Sex: Spit, or Swallow? - The Forgiven Wife Enjoying Your Husband’s Semen - The Forgiven Wife Dealing with a Gag Reflex - The Forgiven Wife Goodhead Fundamentals Kit from Married Dance (affiliate link) Marital Aid Pilot Program from Married Dance When It Hurts: Maintaining Sexual Intimacy While Dealing with Pain - The Forgiven Wife Maintaining Sexual Intimacy When Sex isn’t Possible - Messy Marriage Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy without Hormones - The Forgiven Wife Episode 65: Female Sexual Health Q&A with J: Should You Just Swallow Already? Is Giving a “Blow Job” Enjoyable for the Wife? Upcoming Webinar Understanding Her Sex Drive (for husbands) - November 14, 2019
September 17, 2019
Today we’re talking about bedrooms, specifically the effect of your bedroom on the quality of sex and intimacy in your marriage.
September 4, 2019
About the Episode Today we're talking about higher desire wives. But whether your sexual interest is higher or lower than your husband, you’ll benefit from our conversation. Let’s begin by defining “higher drive wives.” Are these just wives who want an excessive amount of sex? What makes a wife higher drive or desire? The standard presumption is that husbands want sex more than their wives. Why has this message been so prevalent, and why do we need to change it? What are some reasons why husbands might have less sexual interest than their wives? What do you think lower interest spouses wish their higher desire spouses understood about their sexuality? Are higher desire wives represented anywhere in Scripture? Sponsor FOR 10% OFF, USE COUPON CODE: SEXCHAT10 Click Here to Learn More From the Bible "The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife" (1 Corinthians 7:3-4). "Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried, as I do. But if they cannot control themselves, they should marry, for it is better to marry than to burn with passion" (1 Corinthians 7:8-9). "Let us go early to the vineyards to see if the vines have budded, if their blossoms have opened, and if the pomegranates are in bloom— there I will give you my love" (Song of Songs 7:12). "All night long on my bed I looked for the one my heart loves; I looked for him but did not find him. I will get up now and go about the city, through its streets and squares; I will search for the one my heart loves" (Song of Songs 3:1-2). Resources Episode 59: Myths We Learned from Pop Culture "Dealing with a Low-Desire Husband," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker 5 Truths for High-Drive Wives - Hot, Holy & Humorous I Love My High Sex-Drive Sisters - OysterBed7 Q&A with J: When It Comes to Sex, My Husband Says I’m “Too Much” - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Prayer for Higher-Drive Wives - Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: What If Hubby Is Passive in the Bedroom - Hot, Holy & Humorous High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots - Hot, Holy & Humorous A Letter to the Low-Drive Husband - Hot, Holy & Humorous Hot, Holy & Humorous HD, Facebook group for higher desire wives Click Here to Register or Learn More
August 20, 2019
About the Episode Today, we are discussing female genital and reproductive health. What we affectionately call "hooha" health. What are some issues that women have in terms of genital or reproductive health? Focusing on the vulva and exterior lady parts, what kinds of things are red flags that someone should see the doctor? Thinking about our internal reproductive organs (vagina, cervix, uterus), what are some red flags? Now let's shift focus and talk about sexually transmitted infections and diseases. What other practical suggestions for remaining intimate with health problems or STI/STD can you offer? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More about Everpillow From the Bible "God made him who had no sin to be sin for us, so that in him we might become the righteousness of God." 2 Corinthians 5:21. "If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." 1 John 1:8-10. "Dear friend, I pray that you may enjoy good health and that all may go well with you, even as your soul is getting along well." 3 John 1:2. Resources Sexually Transmitted Diseases - Center of Disease Control Little Known Perimenopause Symptom (Unending Period) - OysterBed7 Is an STD Affecting Your Marriage - Hot, Holy, & Humorous No More Period, Period. - Hot, Holy & Humorous (on endometrial ablation) Finding a Good Gynecologist - Hot, Holy & Humorous Dealing with Vulvovaginal Atrophy Without Hormones - The Forgiven Wife 13 Things I Heard at a Sexual Wellness Class - The Forgiven Wife An Embarrassing Post about Female Sexual Dysfunction (Plus 5 Tips!) - The Forgiven Wife Azo Urinary Pain Relief (affiliate link) Monistat - Miconazole Vaginal Antifungal for yeast infection (affiliate link) Clotrimazole Vaginal Antifungal for yeast infection (affiliate link) Sliquid Feminine Wash from Marriage Spice (affiliate link) Bump Patrol After Shave Serum (affiliate link) Dr. Smith's cream (affiliate link) Click Here to Register or Learn More
August 6, 2019
Many of our listeners are survivors of sexual abuse, or we know someone who is. We’d like to talk today about how that trauma shapes survivors, how it affects their marriages, what healing looks like, and what we can do as the church to support survivors. We are joined by Mary DeMuth, an advocate, author, and survivor herself.
July 23, 2019
We’re addressing the topic of how we talk with our husbands to create a sexier and more intimate atmosphere for the bedroom. What defines “sexy talk”? What does that look like? As Christians, what kind of sexy talk is okay or not okay? How can we incorporate sexy talk into our repertoire? What are some specific ideas to get started or rev things up? Does the Bible have more to say about sexy talk? Sponsor Click Here to Learn More about Lorals This episode was also sponsored in part by the Honeycomb & Spice Community. Click Here to Check Out Honeycomb & Spice From the Bible My dove in the clefts of the rock, in the hiding places on the mountainside, show me your face, let me hear your voice; for your voice is sweet, and your face is lovely. Song of Songs 2:14 Resources Talking Flirty vs. Talking Dirty – Hot, Holy & HumorousSay What? Sexy Talk in the Bedroom – The Forgiven Wife Flirt with Your Husband (12 SFW Text Messages) – OysterBed715 Flirty, Corny, Steamy SFW Texts For Valentine’s Day – OysterBed7 Say the Magic Word! – OysterBed7 How to use Apple iPhone's Invisible Ink Bitmoji Webinars:
July 9, 2019
It's time for listener questions! How do I practically and emotionally manage the messiness of love making? How do I talk to my husband about his premature ejaculation? Is it normal to feel self conscious about the way my vulva looks?
June 25, 2019
We talk about why some women find it easier to enjoy sex on vacation, while others find it to be harder. And we explore ways to extend the definition of "vacation," so that it doesn't always require a lot of time and money. Finally, we look at ways to slow down and make summer less stressful and more enjoyable, whether you take a "vacation" or not.
June 11, 2019
In this episode we talk about the myths the pop culture teaches us about sex.
May 28, 2019
It may be the pinnacle of pleasure, but lots of women still have questions about orgasm. Julie Sibert from Intimacy in Marriage joins us as we answer many of the orgasm questions we get from our listeners and readers.
May 14, 2019
About the Episode We tackle listener questions about gifts for a virgin bride, sex positions, and predicting sex drive. My friend is getting married this year, and she is a virgin. What kind of gifts would you recommend to help her have a more comfortable transition into losing her virginity, and loving sex? My husband and I are newly married and I feel like we repeat the same three positions and we have discussed getting a book to figure out new positions! I'm getting married in a few weeks. Is there any way to know before you're married if you generally have a high or low sex drive? Or is that something that you only know after marriage? Sponsor From the Bible How delightful is your love, my sister, my bride! How much more pleasing is your love than wine, and the fragrance of your perfume more than any spice! Song of Songs 4:11 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. 1 John 1:9 Resources Virgin Bride Guidebook: Wedding Night Answers, Bonny Logsdon Burns What to Pack for Your Honeymoon or Vacation – Hot, Holy & Humorous Sliquid Lubricant Sample PacksNoxzema Bikini Razors (Walmart site, but available other places) Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker Intimacy Revealed: 52 Devotions to Enhance Sex in Marriage, J. Parker Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples, J. Parker "Considering Sexual Positions," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design, J. Parker Sex Position Cards, by Christian Friendly Sex Positions Guy Talk: Men's Sexuality – Sex Chat for Christian Wives Women's Sexual Response – Sex Chat for Christian Wives Our Website
April 30, 2019
Bonny talks with Christian sex therapist Dr. Jessica McCleese.
April 16, 2019
Today, we discuss romance. Is it overrated? 1. What is the definition of romance to you? 2. How does romance change over time? 3. How do you communicate with each other about romance? Sponsor   From the Bible What does God have to say about romance? He Like a lily among thorns     is my darling among the young women.She Like an apple tree among the trees of the forest     is my beloved among the young men. Song of Songs 2:2-3a And the rest of Song of Songs... Resources Why Knowing Your Low Drive Wife’s Love Language Is Important – OysterBed7 Romance Infused with the Gospel – Debi Walter at Hot, Holy & Humorous August Is Romance Awareness Month – Hot, Holy & Humorous Common Myths of Romance Novels – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Romance Book You Can Read – Hot, Holy & Humorous Once in a While, Your Husband Needs a Girlfriend – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Are Romance Novels Okay for Christian Women? – The Forgiven Wife Romance His Socks Off! – The Forgiven Wife The Magic Relationship Ratio, According to Science – The Gottman Institute Love Language Profile for Couples (quiz) – The 5 Love Languages Visit Our Website: For Christian Wives
April 2, 2019
Today we’re talking about the challenge of interruptions, what form they take, and what to do about them so you can still have and enjoy sexual intimacy in your marriage. What are some common interruptions couples face? Why do interruptions make it especially difficult for women to refocus on sexual intimacy? Do you have a story of being interrupted during sex and how you handled it? How can we minimize interruptions? How can we deal with interruptions that happen no matter what? Sponsor Get all 220+ sex position illustrations in playing card format! These sex position cards are an excellent tool for discovering new sex poses that can be added to your lovemaking repertoire. Regular $15. Now only $9.99! Click HERE to learn more. From the Bible Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything. If any of you lacks wisdom, you should ask God, who gives generously to all without finding fault, and it will be given to you. – James 1:2-5 And the two will become one flesh.’ So they are no longer two, but one flesh. Therefore what God has joined together, let no one separate. – Mark 10:8-9 Resources My Many Mental Browser Tabs - Forgiven Wife Get Off Our Marriage Bed, Fido! - Hot, Holy & Humorous Lock the Door, For Heaven's Sake! - Hot, Holy & Humorous Making Love When You Have Teens in the Home - Hot, Holy & Humorous Bedroom Soundtracks - OysterBed7 Behind Closed Doors: Five Marriage Stories by J. Parker GoFundMe CLICK HERE TO DONATE OR LEARN MORE We live in different states and want to come together under one roof to develop material, plan future endeavors (including webinars), and record while actually being in the same room. Our aim is to develop material that will point you toward a more holy marriage bed and a deeper personal commitment to the Lord. Please consider helping us fund the cost of transportation and food for J, Chris, and Gaye as they travel to Bonny's house in east TN. Currently, any money we make from sponsors helps pay for the cost of podcast and website hosting.  We will be incredibly grateful for your donation, whether $5 or $500.   Thank you, faithful listeners.  We wouldn't be here without you.
March 19, 2019
About this episode We're answering your questions today! Is it okay for me to feel hurt that my husband masturbates during my period? Where can I find a Christian counselor? Should I initiate sex even when neither of us is in the mood because I want us to be sexually active more frequently? Should I tell my husband if I had sex before marriage? This episode was sponsored by Scott Means from Heaven Made Marriage. Use the promo code PASSION 25 at the Heaven Made Marriage Store for 25% off (good through March 2019). The book can also be purchase from Amazon.   From the Bible Proverbs 5:19 - A loving doe, a graceful deer-- may her breasts satisfy you always, may you ever be intoxicated with her love. Resources Lay Christian Counseling and Client Expectations for Integration in Therapy - Types of Lay Christian Counseling and their methodology The F-Word I Don’t Like: A Rant - The Forgiven Wife American Association of Christian Counselors Board of Christian Sex Therapists Stephen Ministries Focus on the Family counselor database Psychology Today database Episode 6: Women’s Sexual Response Episode 17: Body Image
March 5, 2019
Today we’re talking about resources for your marriage, and specifically about resources to help you enjoy great sex in your marriage.
February 19, 2019
We'd like to thank today's sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon Disclaimer:  We were provided with a free product. If you choose to purchase this product, Sex Chat for Christian Wives podcast will receive a small commission from Infinitemoon.  All opinions are honestly given and not coerced. Click on the picture to learn more about this giving company and fabulous pillow. About this episode I'm thinking of a number! Can you guess what it is? I’m thinking of the number 2 because, it takes two baby! And, it’s Sex Chat for Christian Wives' 2nd anniversary! Today, we're going to revisit some great information and share some new about: How can you find your sexiness by managing body image issues, stress, and lack of time? What is Female Sexual Response and how do we use it to understand our sex drive for the benefit of the bedroom? How can you find fun with your husband in and out of the bedroom? From the Bible What does God have to say about our sex lives? Here are some of the verses we shared in today's episode: It does not dishonor others, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. – 1 Corinthians 13:5 Or do you not know that wrongdoers will not inherit the kingdom of God? Do not be deceived: Neither the sexually immoral nor idolaters nor adulterers nor men who have sex with men nor thieves nor the greedy nor drunkards nor slanderers nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God. And that is what some of you were. But you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God. – 1 Corinthians 6:9-11 So God created man in His own image; in the image of God He created him; male and female He created them. God blessed them and said to them, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it; rule over the fish of the sea and the birds of the air and every creature that crawls upon the earth. – Genesis 1:27-28 and When the woman saw that the tree was good for food and pleasing to the eyes, and that it was desirable for obtaining wisdom, she took the fruit and ate it. She also gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it. – Genesis 3:6. Moral of the story: Sexual intimacy was encouraged by God and had nothing to do with "the fall." Song of Songs The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife does not have authority over her own body but yields it to her husband. In the same way, the husband does not have authority over his own body but yields it to his wife. Do not deprive each other except perhaps by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control. – 1 Corinthians 7:3-5 Resources Love Like a Woman: Should Your Sexual Response Be Like Your Husband’s? – The Forgiven Wife The Macaroni and Cheese Lesson: Stepping Your Toes Outside Your Comfort Zone – The Forgiven Wife 5 Times of Day to Make Love – Hot, Holy & Humorous Are Stress & Fatigue Killing Your Sex Life? – Hot, Holy & Humorous High-Drive Wives Are Not Crockpots – Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Why Did God Make Sex So Hard Sometimes? – Hot, Holy & Humorous Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker Why Sex Should Be Hot, Holy, and Humorous – Hot, Holy & Humorous Please visit today's sponsor: Everpillow by Infinitemoon Click on the picture to learn more about this giving company and fabulous pillow. Don't forget to use coupon code SEXCHAT10 for 10% off your order.
February 4, 2019
Our guest today is Kevin A. Thompson, the lead pastor at Community Bible Church in western Arkansas, speaks at marriage and parenting conferences, and has authored three books, the most recent one titled Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last. In Happily, you start by talking about how we tend to think happy or unhappy marriages are a product of luck or unspoken rules like marrying the right person. We've also heard this with the idea of sexual compatibility. What do y’all think about that idea? You have eight commitments outlined in Happily, but one stuck out to me in particular about how we can misuse apathy and aggression in marriage. How do spouses misuse apathy and aggression when dealing with sex in their marriage? Kevin, you've been bold on your blog about how women should be treated with respect, speaking for #MeToo and other issues. We've also talked about that here. But how can wives get husbands to understand their experiences with harassment and abuse without seeming like we’re man-bashing? You’re a pastor, and while you can’t speak for all the others, we get this question sometimes and wonder how you’d answer: Why don’t pastors preach and teach more about sex? What if a wife is experiencing sexual issues in her marriage? How should she approach her male pastor, and what safeguards should be in place? Kevin A. Thompson’s book is Happily: 8 Commitments of Couples Who Laugh, Love & Last, and check out his previous marriage book, Friends, Partners, and Lovers and his blog. Our Sponsor CLICK HERE TO LEARN MORE ABOUT THIS RIDICULOUSLY COMFORTABLE PILLOW. Resources Want help talking about sex in your marriage? Pillow Talk: 40 Conversations About Sex for Married Couples by J. Parker. Priced at $2.99 for the ebook only through Valentine's Day! Also check out Intimacy Mentoring from Chris Taylor. Let's Make This Abundantly Clear – Kevin A. Thompson How Football Can Protect Women – Kevin A. Thompson What a Drunk Girl Deserves – Kevin A. Thompson This is how women feel about walking alone at night in their own neighborhoods – Washington Post This List Shows All the Things Women Do to Protect Themselves on a Daily Basis — & We're Exhausted – Cafe Mom Will Your Pastor Preach on Sex? (with a sermon from Kevin) – Hot, Holy & Humorous A Message to Your Pastor (and Mine) – Hot, Holy & Humorous Never Call A Pastor for Premarital Counseling – Kevin A. Thompson What Men and Women Don't Know About Sex – Kevin A. Thompson From the Bible "Jesus said: 'Blessed are the poor in spirit,     for theirs is the kingdom of heaven. Blessed are those who mourn,     for they will be comforted. Blessed are the meek,     for they will inherit the earth. Blessed are those who hunger and thirst for righteousness,     for they will be filled. Blessed are the merciful,     for they will be shown mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart,     for they will see God. Blessed are the peacemakers,     for they will be called children of God. Blessed are those who are persecuted because of righteousness,     for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.'" – Matthew 5:3-10 "Likewise, teach the older women to be reverent in the way they live, not to be slanderers or addicted to much wine, but to teach what is good. Then they can urge the younger women to love their husbands and children, to be self-controlled and pure, to be busy at home, to be kind, and to be subject to their husbands, so that no one will malign the word of God. " – Titus 2:3-5 Our Website
January 22, 2019
Today, we’re talking about creating a new year for intimacy in your marriage. Although we’re already a few weeks into 2019, there’s still plenty of time to make a plan for growing closer to your husband, strengthening your marriage, and enjoying sex and intimacy this year. There are lots of different ways to approach change in general. How do you approach making changes in your life? What changes do you plan to make this year, either in your marriage or in other areas of your life? What’s your best recommendation to a listener who wants to improve sex and intimacy in her marriage this year, but isn't sure where to begin? Sponsor: InfiniteMoon Everpillow Coupon Code: SexChat10 for 10% off InfiniteMoon Resources "Eden" – Online Etymology Dictionary Goals to Grow Your Sexual Interest – Bonny's OysterBed7 What's Your Middle Name? – Bonny's OysterBed7 Pillow Talk by J. Parker (great book for the New Year!) 9 Things to Do This Week to Get Ready for a Healthy New Year - Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 12 Strategies for a CalmHealthySexy New Year – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. How to Feel Sexy This Year – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. Baby Steps for Moving Forward – The Forgiven Wife One Step Forward – The Forgiven Wife From the Bible "See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland." – Isaiah 43:19 Visit our website at
January 8, 2019
Dr. Juli Slattery, president of Authentic Intimacy, joins us for this episode. Her most recent book, Rethinking Sexuality: God’s Design and Why It Matters, challenges us to think about sexuality in new ways. We talk with Juli about sexual brokenness, why the enemy likes to attack our sexuality, and how we can pray about our sex lives (even during sex!).
November 20, 2018
Today on the podcast we’re talking about lingerie. What is lingerie anyway? That term covers both what we wear under our clothes and to bed. Or even just for a few moments before the outfit is summarily tossed onto the floor to make way for other activities in the bedroom. What do you think of lingerie, and have your opinions or practices changed throughout the years? How might our choice of lingerie impact our sexual intimacy? We often hear how husbands want to see their wives in sexy lingerie, but what if he doesn't care? What should a wife do then? Getting practical, how should wives shop for lingerie? What tips do you have? Do y’all have anything biblical to add to this topic of lingerie? Peace. Love. Joy. - 75 Simple Ways to Take Care of Your Health, Happiness, and Marriage this Holiday Season Resources Where to Shop for Lingerie – Hot, Holy & Humorous "Getting Ready for Sex," Hot, Holy, and Humorous: Sex in Marriage by God's Design The 7-Day Lingerie Experiment – Calm.Healthy.Sexy. 7 Ways to Make the Most of Your Lingerie – The Forgiven Wife Torrid Plus-Size Lingerie Honoring Intimates Marriage Spice Website
November 6, 2018
In this episode, we answer listeners' questions about struggling to initiate sex, catching your husband ogling another woman, having an orgasm during intercourse, and filming yourselves having sex.
October 23, 2018
Merriam-Webster defines foreplay as "erotic stimulation preceding sexual intercourse." But what is erotic stimulation? And why is it important for the sexual intimacy in a marriage?
October 9, 2018
It's been a while since the four of us had young kids, but today we're hosting special guest Keelie Reason, marriage and sex blogger at Love Hope Adventure, on the topic of making love when you still have kids in the house.
September 24, 2018
Shannon Ethridge joins us to talk about dealing with our sexual baggage.
September 6, 2018
Thanks for your support! Click here for GoFundMe. We know that oral sex can be a difficult subject in plenty of marriages. Is it okay for oral sex to be part of a Christian marriage? What about germs? What if a couple disagrees, with one spouse wanting to give or receive while the other spouse doesn't want anything to do with it? In this episode, we’re going to tackle these questions. Let’s start with whether it’s okay for oral sex to be part of a Christian marriage. Ladies, what do you think? What kinds of health concerns might come into play with oral sex? If a husband and wife don’t agree about oral sex in their marriage bed, how can they work through their disagreement? More links and resources at our website:
August 29, 2018
GoFundMe - Thanks for your support! Author Charlotte Bronte said, “Flirting is a woman’s trade, one must keep in practice.” And yet, once we get married, we tend to forget how we flirted so successfully in our courtship. Or maybe we were never comfortable with flirting. Everyday life and awkwardness set in, and we fail to pursue our husband’s interest like we could. So today we’re going to talk about flirting with your husband. Why is it important to flirt with our husbands? What are the benefits to flirting? Why would a wife feel awkward flirting? What obstacles are in our way? Now let’s talk about specific tips. What are some ideas for how a wife can flirt with her husband? Any flirting or encouragement to flirt in the Bible that you can think of?  
August 14, 2018
This episode concludes our “Conversation about Porn” 3-part series.  The four of us are return as a group around the virtual kitchen table to help give some perspective and thoughts on moving forward in a marriage after pornography use is discovered.
July 31, 2018
Pornography affects so many marriages--even Christian marriages. Although porn can be a problem for both men and women, we're going to spend some time looking at a situation we know many of our listeners can relate to. Join us for the second of three episodes about a wife dealing with her husband's pornography use. In this episode, Bonny offers advice to other wives based on her own experience. You can find show notes for this episode at  For the first part of the conversation, click here:  
July 17, 2018
Join us for the first of three episodes about a wife dealing with her husband's pornography use. In this episode, Bonny chats with Chris about what she experienced in her marriage. Be sure to check out the show notes on our website.
July 3, 2018
In ancient Judaism, a woman was unclean while she was on her period.  She could only return to the marriage bed 7 days after her period stopped and only then after going through ritual cleansing. So, that means opportunity for sexual relations were not nearly as plentiful as it is for us since Christ came. So, my friends, let’s talk about periods and sex To start, let’s talk about female health in general, what are some things that affect our periods and are signs that a woman should go to her doctor? Is there any reason to prohibit sexual relations while a wife is on her period according to Christian traditions? What are some things to help make it less messy and more comfortable? From the Bible Leviticus 12: "Purification after childbirth." Leviticus 15:19: "When a woman has her regular flow of blood, the impurity of her monthly period will last seven days, and anyone who touches her will be unclean till evening." Leviticus 15:28: "When she is cleansed from her discharge, she must count off seven days, and after that she will be ceremonially clean." Galatians 3:23-25: "Before the coming of this faith, we were held in custody under the law, locked up until the faith that was to come would be revealed. So the law was our guardian until Christ came that we might be justified by faith. Now that this faith has come, we are no longer under a guardian." Resources Learn more about Orthodox Judaism laws surrounding menstruation here. The Unending Period (peri-menopause symptom) – Bonny's OysterBed7  No More Period, Period. – Hot, Holy & Humorous Finding a Good Gynecologist – Hot, Holy & Humorous Sexual Intimacy & Your Period: Tips for Wives – Hot, Holy & Humorous Support Us: GoFundMe
June 19, 2018
It's been a while since any of us ladies were pregnant, but we remember. Mostly. So today, we’re tackling an important issue for many of y’all out there: sex when you’re pregnant. Because when you’re carrying a child, your body changes in so many ways, and those changes impact sexual intimacy. What changes might a pregnant wife face with her libido? How does pregnancy influence the actual act of sex, like arousal and positions? What advice do you have for keeping sexual intimacy thriving during a pregnancy? What if sexual intercourse isn’t possible at some point? What can a couple do then? Does the Bible have anything to say about sex and pregnancy? From the Bible Genesis 1:27, Psalm 127:3, 1 Corinthians 7:3-5, 1 Samuel 12:24a Resources Sexual Positions for Pregnancy, or “My Belly’s In the Way!” – Hot, Holy & Humorous Q&A with J: Pregnancy Bed Rest Makes Sex Forbidden – Hot, Holy & Humorous "(You're) Having My Baby" – Paul Anka Episode 15 – Listener Questions (with talking to husband about sex) 4 Ways Sex Can Comfort in Crisis or Grief – Hot, Holy & Humorous Request If Sex Chat for Christian Wives has blessed your marriage, please consider blessing us. We are asking for donations to help defray the cost of attending the October 2018 Declare Conference in Dallas, TX. This conference will serve as continuing education, helping us hone our skills as Christian communicators. If you've got some pocket change, please throw it into our cup. Sex Chat for Christian Wives GoFundMe Link.
June 5, 2018
We're answering your questions in this episode! How can a wife teacher husband about her body? What can a wife do if she is embarrassed about queefing? Is it possible to relax and enjoy sex when your kids are in the house? What can you do if you ask your husband about his needs and he responds with "I don't know"? For more resources about these questions, check out our show notes.
May 22, 2018
We've encouraged you to use all your senses to better experience sex, and that includes the sense of taste. The Song of Songs is filled with reference to both food and sex. Does that mean we can combine the two? In this episode, we're going to talk about food and sex. You might say this episode is a real treat!
May 8, 2018
The four wives revisit the topic of "Getting in the Mood." How to rev up your engine in anticipation of lovemaking. Each lady brings her favorite idea to the table and they all discuss. Visit our website,, for more resources and links related to this topic. Go Fund Me If Sex Chat for Christian Wives has blessed your marriage, please consider blessing us. We are asking for donations to help defray the cost of attending the October 2018 Declare Conference in Dallas, TX. This conference will serve as continuing education, helping us hone our skills as Christian communicators. If you've got some pocket change, please throw it into our cup.  Agape Love Box Coupon Code:  SC2018 (50% off first month, exp. July 31, 2018)
April 23, 2018
What do we wish we'd known when we first got married? In this episode, the four wives chat about what they wish they'd understood earlier in their marriages and what they would like to advise wives now. Sex is emotional, not just physical. Assume love. Pursue happiness for yourself. Speak up. Breastfeeding dampens sex drive. Get along with your mother-in-law. Your husband is a child of God just as you are. Find more on our show notes, available at our website.
April 9, 2018
Again, we address listener questions. Specifically: I would love if you could discuss how to get OUT of the mood (for those of us with husbands who just aren't that interested). I also long to know what it's like to be a wife who is loved and desired by her husband. I've tried making peace with the fact that this may not be the plan for my life. How do I get past my husband's sexual past? How do I let it go and not let it interfere with our marriage bed? Is it medically bad for you to have anal sex with your spouse? And do you believe it is wrong for man and wife to engage in anal sex? For more show notes and links to resources mentioned in the episode, click over to Thanks for listening!
March 26, 2018
What are the lies that affect our marriages and limit our ability to enjoy sex and intimacy? And what are the truths that we need to embrace instead? We address two more lies in this episode: I am not enough. Christian women should not be sexy.
March 12, 2018
What are the lies that affect our marriages and limit our ability to enjoy sex and intimacy? And what are the truths that we need to embrace instead? The four wives talk about two lies in this episode: Sex is for my husband, not for me. My sexuality should look like my husband's.
February 27, 2018
Today, we’ll try to provide a tutorial on what we wives need to know about our husband’s body to have quality sexual intimacy in marriage. Let’s first break down the actual makeup of male genitalia. What are the various parts down there, and what’s their purpose? How would you characterize the relationship most men have with their penises? Why is that part so important to them? We've talked about body image for women, but do men have those concerns as well? In what way? What about giving your husband pleasure? What are some of the best spots and methods for arousing and pleasuring him in the marriage bed? How can Scripture guide us in accepting, appreciating, and loving our husband’s body?
February 13, 2018
Welcome to the party! We are celebrating. It is Sex Chat for Christian Wives’ first anniversary! (Woohoo! Cue noisemakers!!!) You have allowed us to chat with you for a whole year now. What have some of you had to say about us? We discuss iTunes reviews. We've talked about a lot of things this past year—what did we find most important? How have some of you helped us help others? We discuss your helpful comments. What do we hope to cover in 2018? Be sure to check out our fabulous one-year GIVEAWAY at
January 29, 2018
This episode features your questions about love languages, male-centered sexual expectations, sexual fantasies, and oral sex.
January 15, 2018
Sometimes as Christians, we can focus so much on the deeper meaning of sexual intimacy in marriage, on its emotional and spiritual aspects, that we miss a sense of playfulness—or even downright humor. But we’re not going to miss that today, because we’re going to talk about how real sex can be awkward, embarrassing, and even funny. For more information about our anniversary episode giveaway, head to
January 2, 2018
*UPDATED AUDIO FILE* Taking care of your health can lead to better sex and intimacy in your marriage.
November 27, 2017
We’re entering one of the busiest times of the year – the holiday season that runs from Thanksgiving Day (in the U.S.) through Christmas and on to New Year’s Day. For many women, this is also one of the most exhausting times of the year – those of us who are barely keeping all of our balls in the air will soon find that we’re supposed to juggle even more balls for the next 6 weeks or so! The holidays often take a toll on women’s health and peace of mind. And the busyness they bring can affect our marriages. When stress, fatigue and activities increase, fun, sex and enjoyment in our marriages tend to decrease. Fortunately, our marriages (and our physical and mental health) don’t have to suffer during the holidays. Today, we’re going to talk about things we can all do, starting now and for the next few weeks, to keep things fun, calm and a little bit sexy during the busiest time of the year. We also have a free gift for you. We'd love for you to download this free ebook - 75 Ways to Love Your Life and Enjoy Your Marriage this Christmas - and use it to create a calm, joyful and relaxing Christmas season for you and your family.
November 13, 2017
Our conversation touches on a difficult topic: sexual harassment and assault. We share some of our own stories and talk about how sexually traumatic experiences affect our marriages, about what churches sometimes get wrong, and how we as Christian women can support each other in healing.
October 30, 2017
How can we talk with our kids about their bodies and sex? We continue our conversation with Sheila Gregoire.
October 17, 2017
Talking to our kids about sex can be super uncomfortable. So how do we do it? Sheila Gregoire from To Love, Honor, & Vacuum joins us for a conversation about parents can feel confident talking with their children about puberty and sex. This episode is the first half of our conversation. The conclusion will be in our next episode.
October 2, 2017
The women talk about why initiation matters and share some ideas to help you get things going!
September 18, 2017
We discuss listener questions: Does anyone really have sex like they do in the movies? Is role play okay in a Christian marriage, even if it involves imagining something that would be wrong to do in real life? How can an older couple maintain sexual intimacy? Is it sexual when my husband says he enjoys looking at other women’s feet? See our show notes:
September 4, 2017
Today’s topic is body image, and specifically how our thoughts and feelings about our bodies affect sex and intimacy in our marriages. We want to help you think about how body image might be affecting you and how you can take steps to change the way you think and feel about your body.  1. What do we mean when we say “body image?” And what are some of the things that affect how a woman feels about her body? 2. So why are we talking about this? What does it have to do with sex and intimacy in our marriages? 3. What are some practical things that women can do to improve their body image, to begin to feel good about their bodies?
August 16, 2017
Sex Chat for Christian Wives needs your help! Listen in for more information.
August 14, 2017
J, Gaye, Chris, and Bonny talk about what marriage blogger husbands had to say about what they wish women understood about their sexuality.
July 31, 2017
Gaye, Chris, and Bonny answer listener questions about menopause, communication, breastfeeding, spicing it up, and more.
July 17, 2017
When a woman sees her body's flaws, it can be confusing when her husband tells her that she's beautiful. She wonders how he can see past her flaws. Listen in as five marriage blogger husbands discuss a husband's perception of his wife's body. Then Gaye, Bonny, J, and Chris will weigh in.
July 4, 2017
Today we are exploring mismatched sex-drives and how your marriage can thrive in spite of it. We will be answering the questions: What are some reasons that a mismatched season can arise in a marriage? What do couples need to know about mismatched sex drives so that they work hard toward finding mutual agreement? If you are in a mismatched season, does your spouse know of your needs? Here are some ways to help you talk about this with your spouse. What are some specific things a couple can do to try to overcome the conflict of having mismatched sex drives?
June 19, 2017
Listen in as five marriage blogger husbands answer the question, "Why is sex important?" Paul Byerly (The Generous Husband and The XY Code), Scott Means (Heaven-Made Marriage), Brad Aldrich (One-Flesh Marriage), Tom Walter (The Romantic Vineyard), and Doug Taylor (Big Guy from The Forgiven Wife) discuss the importance of sex. After their conversation, Bonny, Gaye, J, and Chris chat about what the guys had to say.
June 5, 2017
Meet Gaye, J, Bonny, and Chris! Why do we all blog about sex? Why are we podcasting? 
May 24, 2017
Despite making two recordings, we encountered sound difficulties that could not be completely fixed. About halfway through, you may hear some echo (reverberation). But hang in there! It will correct within a few minutes. Thanks for your support! Our topic is tending your garden, “garden” being a euphemism for your lady parts that we borrowed from Song of Solomon. We’re talking specifically about hygiene, “landscaping,” and even decorating your garden. What have y’all learned about what constitutes good hygiene for a woman’s private parts? More and more wives are grooming their garden—by shaving, waxing, or other hair removal. What do you think about that trend, and why has it become so popular? Not only can you landscape but you can decorate your garden—permanent and temporary tattoos, piercings, and vajazzling. What do y’all think about this practice? What does the Bible have to say, if anything, about how we care for our lady parts?
May 23, 2017
We're due for a podcast episode, but we've having audio difficulties. So we're postponing the next episode until we can work out the technical issues. We promise another interesting conversation around the virtual roundtable soon. Thanks for staying tuned!
May 8, 2017
Gaye, Bonny, and Chris tackle some questions from our listeners: What if my husband says my feelings aren't valid? How can I experience multiple orgasms? What do I do about my husband's ED?
April 24, 2017
Is it okay for Christian couples to use sex toys?
April 11, 2017
Today we’re going to make the case that exercising regularly is not only great for your health, it’s great for sex and intimacy in your marriage. We’ll be talking about four areas in which it can make a difference, including your physical health, mental health, body image, and energy.
March 27, 2017
Today we’re talking about women’s sexuality and sexual response.
March 13, 2017
The busyness of life sometimes overtakes our schedules and sexual intimacy is pushed farther and farther down the list of priorities.  In this episode, we consider whether or not to leave sexual intimacy as an afterthought.
February 27, 2017
We're talking about the ways that stress can affect women's interest in and enjoyment of sex. We focus on everyday sources of stress and the things that women can do to reduce the effects of stress in their lives.
February 14, 2017
The 50 Shades novels have spurred a lot of conversation and questions about erotica. And we’re going to address that topic head-on.
February 13, 2017
Practical tips on positioning to help you find gain greater pleasure and intimacy in your marriage bed.
February 4, 2017
How can we help ourselves be interested—and ready—for sex?
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