), we're quick to defend ourselves, quick to cast blame, and slow to understand—a recipe that keeps us enslaved to self-righteousness, and too often, unable to forgive.In this episode, we talk about 5 ways you can create a culture of forgiveness in your marriage: * Forgive from the heart but set boundaries on behavior. * Don't defend yourself. * Clothe yourself in gentleness, because bitterness is unattractive. * Pray this one prayer each day for your spouse. * Take the Golden Rule and replace the word "do" with the word "understand."We also reveal the first three actions we give to a couple who call us because they feel stuck in their marriage. If you feel stuck, forgiveness may be the first place to begin.Show Notes:For counseling referrals in your local area, enter your zip code in one of the links below:Focus on the Family Counselor NetworkAmerican Association of Christian CounselorsThriveworks Blog Post: How 15 Minutes Is Changing Our MarriagePodcast Sponsors: LifeWay Women Events. For the latest events in your area, click here.      Exile International. To learn more about how you can serve war affected children, click here.See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.