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September 11, 2019
In this episode, we talk about making your one goal doable by setting one new rhythm in your life. Notice this next decision also includes a singular focus—one new rhythm. Remember, even with parenting, we become an overnight success a decade in the making. Some of the highlights of this episode include: * Keep your rhythm doable* Vectoring means that small changes over time leads to an entirely different destination.* Why work-life balance is not attainable* Why your first rhythm should coincide with your first goal Show Notes: Download the 7 Core Decisions by clicking here. To follow along and stay accountable with others on Instagram @famousathome, click here. To request access to the private Facebook Group for women to journey together through the 7 Core Decisions, click here. To learn more about The Leader’s Way cohort, click here.
September 4, 2019
When things aren’t going well at home, we feel it. The toll that the pace and added emotional pain of our day has on our marriages and most important relationships can feel overwhelming, and even unmanageable. This week’s episode is the beginning of the powerful, life-changing stories you’ll hear as we journey through each of the decisions.  In this episode, we interview Jerrad and Leila Lopes about their rock bottom moment as a family, and the one decision each of them made to begin their ascent back to one another. Prepare yourself. These two were serious about their decisions! Jerrad and Leila are proof that our circumstances do not need to remain unmanageable. As we like to say, you can’t eat an elephant in a day. Leila’s one decision, one-bite-at-a-time mentality, got the process started. Sometimes, all it takes is just one person. Leila’s one decision was the catalyst Jerrad needed to begin making his own decisions and move him from a place of deep brokenness, to a thriving ministry today. Out of his brokenness he founded DadTired.com, a non-profit ministry focused on equipping men to lead their family well. He hosts the weekly Dad Tired Podcast, listened to by hundreds of thousands of men from around the world.  Jerrad and Leila live in Portland, Oregon with their three children. Their story will inspire you to name your one decision and get moving in a new direction! Show Notes: Purchase Jerrad’s new book, Dad Tired and Loving It, by clicking here. Follow the Dad.Tired podcast, by clicking here. Podcast Sponsors: Get your kids emotionally ready for school by journeying with Sam and friends. You can purchase our brand new What Am I Feeling? kids book by clicking here. Journey through a 6-week study on the fruit of the Spirit with other parents AND your kids. Includes family activities, prayers, and more. Purchase
August 28, 2019
The Famous at Home journey begins this week! We start by discussing core decision #1 — defining your first goal. This fall, we’re journeying together through the 7 Core Decisions of Becoming Famous at Home. Last week, we mentioned that becoming famous at home is a journey to making ongoing decisions about how we pursue one another. In this episode, we invite you to download the e-book, sit down with your spouse or loved ones, and talk about your first goal. Key talking points in this episode include: * We have 100% responsibility for how we show up.* Why our self-medicators may not be working anymore. * What one thing weighs you down the most right now? * The power of starting a gratitude journal as you begin this decision-making journey* How do define your first goal Show Notes: Follow along on Instagram at www.instagram.com/famousathome Download the 7 Core Decisions here: www.famousathome.com/7coredecisions To learn more about the Famous at Home Marriage Coaching Journey, visit www.famousathome.com/coaching
August 21, 2019
You can be famous at home and thrive on your stage. In other words, you don’t have to choose between work and your family. In this episode, we welcome you to the newly titled Famous at Home podcast and discuss all of exciting initiatives ahead–including the upcoming podcast series on the 7 Core Decisions of Becoming Famous at Home. The Famous at Home podcast will feature conversations and interviews about how to: * Have a rock solid marriage. * Stay close to your loved ones, even when work and travel pull you apart. * Show up and make the most of raising your kids.* Avoid the pitfalls of success. * Define and clarify your family values. Show Notes: Download the 7 Core Decisions by visiting www.famousathome.com/7coredecisions To order What Am I Feeling? click here.
August 14, 2019
In this episode, we cast the vision for Famous at Home. Up until this point, our podcast has been affectionately known as “In This Together.” Like so many of you, we spent time in the trenches, having babies, chasing toddlers, and trying to find time in between to still pursue our spouse’s heart. That’s why we’ve been “in this together,” trying to do all of these things well and inviting you along for the ride. But as of today, we have a new vision. And in this episode, you’ll hear all about the vision of Famous at Home! That’s right, starting today, we’ll now be the Famous at Home podcast with Dr. Josh and Christi. You’ll still get both of us–our hearts, our stories, and our journey. And don’t worry, your podcast feed, as well as all of the previous episodes, will remain the same. But what’s new is a fresh vision and clearer direction for what we do and how we serve families, just like yours! So beginning next week, we start a whole new journey together! And we cannot wait for you to join us on it. Listen to this episode for the vision, follow Famous at Home on Instagram, and invite your friends to join us–in this together–becoming famous at home! Show Notes: Follow @famousathome on Instagram To sign up for the 7 Core Decisions of Becoming Famous at Home, click here.
August 7, 2019
Our “Best of” summer series concludes this week with one of our most downloaded episodes of this past season. We believe it speaks to where we are as a culture with the hustle we feel. This episode is about bringing freedom to your life through practical, easy-to-implement, daily habits. The modern world is a machine of a thousand invisible habits, forming us into anxious, busy, and depressed people. The trouble is that our habits are almost invisible to us. In fact, habits form us more than we form them. So what can we do about it? Welcome to The Common Rule: Habits of Purpose in an Age of Distraction. In this week’s episode, we interview Justin Whitmel Earley, a mergers and acquisitions lawyer who nearly crashed and burned in his own panicked lifestyle. As a husband and father to four young boys, Justin knew he needed help. In what turned out to be a fateful moment of self-discovery, Justin’s compelling story led him to create The Common Rule, four doable daily and four weekly habits designed to help us create new routines and transform frazzled days into lives of love for God and neighbor. Looking for a doable routine for your family that leads to freedom and rest for your soul? This episode is for you. Show Notes:  To purchase The Common Rule, or to learn more, click here.  To purchase What Am I Feeling? or to learn more, click here.
July 31, 2019
Our summer “best of” series continues with one of our most listened to episodes on marriage. In this episode, we discuss some of the deeper reasons behind why it’s so difficult to connect with the one we love the most. We also talk about our own marital journey of late and how counseling has helped us work through the baggage, blindness, and busyness of the day. Yes, three “bee’s” that can “sting” your marriage. Dad jokes rock. Of course, the conversation includes practical ways we can connect at a deeper, more intimate level with our spouse. Show Notes: To learn more about Winshape Marriage Intensives and Adventures, click here.  To learn more about marriage coaching intensives we offer, or to set up a discovery call, click here.
July 24, 2019
Welcome to part 2 of our “best of” summer series! Last week, we talked about raising our girls. This week, we talk about raising our boys. Our podcast “resident therapist,” David Thomas, is back with us, live from Daystar Counseling. He talks with us about what our sons need across the developmental lifespan. In this episode, David breaks down what our boys need in the following age groups: Ages 2-4: The Explorer Ages 5-8: The Lover Ages 9-12: The Individual Ages 13-17: The Wanderer Ages 18-22: The Warrior Some of the best nuggets of this interview include: * The biggest hurdle of boys today across the developmental lifespan* Ways that boys self-medicate their pain and why* Why helping boys problem solve and use critical thinking is crucial to their development* The importance of placing your hand on your son’s shoulder and addressing him by name* Why boys need less words, not more* Helping our boys navigate video gaming in a healthy way Show Notes:  To purchase the What Am I Feeling? children’s book, click here. To learn more, click here to purchase David’s book, Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys To buy David’s latest book, Are My Kids on Track?, click here. To learn more, check out: www.raisingboysandgirls.com
July 17, 2019
Welcome to our “best of” series of the summer! The next two episodes are gold medallion interviews with our podcast “resident therapists.” This week, we interview Sissy Goff from Daystar Counseling about what our daughters need. Next week, we interview David Thomas about what our sons need. In this episode, Sissy breaks down what our girls need in the following age groups: Birth-5: The Discovery Years Ages 6-11: The Adventurous Years Ages 12-15: The Narcissistic Years Ages 16-19: The Autonomous Years Some of the best nuggets of this interview include: * The growing epidemic of anxiety in girls today * The years our daughters seem disinterested in relationship with dad * How dads can press into their daughters * Why daughters tend to be ambivalent with their moms in the narcissistic years * How moms can press into their daughters in these years Show Notes:  To learn more, click here to purchase Sissy’s book, All You Need to Know About Raising Girls. To buy Sissy’s latest book, Are My Kids on Track?, click here. To learn more, check out: www.raisingboysandgirls.com Podcast Sponsors: 
July 10, 2019
Be prepared to have your idea of how you “do” family flipped upside down. Our friends Jeremy and April Pryor join us this week to talk about multigenerational family teams on mission, a way of leading their family they have been practicing for two decades. In this episode, we talk about: * The difference between the ancient Jewish and modern day Western approach to family * How the West has redefined family to focus on individuals * Why the Western redefinition of family doesn’t resonate with most men * How we can practically begin to implement a multigenerational family on mission * An innovative way of implementing the Sabbath into your home Show Notes:  Click here to purchase and learn  more about Homegrown: Cultivating Kids in the Fruit of the Spirit Click here to visit www.familyteams.com to learn more and follow all of the Family Teams podcasts and resources. To sign up for the Family Teams event in October, click here. To follow Family Teams on Instagram, click here.
July 3, 2019
What if God has more for your marriage than happily after? Could it be that God intended your marriage to have a life-enriching, hope-giving purpose of sharing God’s love with a hurting world? In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer Smith, founders of the well-loved UnveiledWife.com and HusbandRevolution.com, share their own marital journey of one in crisis, to one built on Christ’s redemptive love. No matter the current condition of your marriage, God still can, and even wants to, use your marriage for His glory. In this episode, Aaron and Jennifer talk with us about: * Their story of marriage in crisis * How God got a hold of Aaron’s heart and gave him vision for their marriage * How to practically lay down our lives for our spouse each day * Why our kids learn to interact with others based on how we interact with our spouse * What it means for your marriage to boldly chase after God Show Notes:  To purchase What Am I Feeling? click here. To purchase the Marriage After God book, click here. Follow Aaron and Jennifer Smith:  To follow Marriage After God podcast, click here. To visit UnveiledWife.com, click here. To visit HusbandRevolution.com, click here.
June 26, 2019
Finding friends once we have children and become “grownups” isn’t always easy. Especially for families who move quite often. Especially for moms who long to talk to anyone who can tie her shoes. And especially since it takes time and trust to go deep. This episode came out of one question from our question and discussion episode. Some of the topics we discuss include: * The struggle it is to find friends you connect with * Practical ways to move from acquaintances to friends * The time and vulnerability required to go deep * How to move from authenticity to vulnerability * Christi discusses practical ways for women to find and cultivate friendships with other women * Josh discusses practical ways for men to find and cultivate friendships with other men Here’s the question that got it all started: From Jenny: First, I just wanted to say thank you. I am so grateful for you. I found this podcast last week and it has already changed my life. I have two kids, 22 months apart, and my youngest is turning one next month. I love them with all of my heart, but it has definitely been a struggle. I feel like I am just coming out of the cloud of postpartum depression and probably still revert back to those feelings on tough days, but your episode about self-care as a parent was so helpful in that stage of finally being able to breathe again. One of the biggest pieces of advice I hear when searching for answers to finding time for myself as a mom or for us as a couple “in the trenches” is to find your community, those really good friends that you admire, because it really does take a village to raise a child. And I really want my kids to have that blessing, too. My question is, how do we do that? I feel like that is often given as a simple answer even though it is so hard to do, especially as an introvert. We serve and are involved in our church, and I try to reach out of my comfort zone at least once a month, but I still have trouble connecting on that deeper level, or on more than an acquaintance basis with people in large group settings. I sometimes say I prefer having one or two good friends versus several acquaintances, but the problem is you have to have acquaintances to have good friends and I just can never seem to make that transition. And taking that to a couple or family level adds even more layers. Do you have any practical tips for finding those people and really connecting? Show Notes:  To learn more about Eden and Vine Magazine, click here.  To read the article Josh refers to about men and friendships, click here: Today’s Problem with Masculinity Isn’t What You Think, by Ben Sledge To learn more about Homegrown: Cultivating Kids in the Fruit of the Spirit, click here.
June 19, 2019
In this episode, we once again discuss your questions. In particular, this week’s discussion points include: * Marriage books to read for non-Christians * Ways to get your spouse to increase more time together and get in sync * Next steps for rebuilding your marriage after it fell apart * How to help our kids navigate adults who lack emotional intelligence / awareness * Whether your child’s enneagram type influences how we discipline and disciple them The Questions:  * From Emily: I really like your podcast and have been feeling this urge to put my husband and I more in sync. He thinks we are great and perfect and that you shouldn’t mess with something that’s not broken. And we are really great most of the time, but I want more. I want us to be “in this together” more. He is fine with watching TV together at night and calling that quality time, however, we don’t say any words to each other. I told him that for my birthday, which is at the end of this month, I want his time. I want to read a book together or something and grow our marriage. I think he would rather spend a $1000 on me than read/discuss a book! lol! A little background: he is not spiritual at all, and I don’t know if I am a believer these days either. We both grew up Christian. He is very scientific and logical and seems to disprove a lot of the Bible. And when he talks, it makes sense. So y’all talked about Fierce Marriage on your podcast and I thought about reading this together, but I CAN NOT push religion on him or he will check out. I am on the fence about Jesus, but he isn’t. So my question is, what book do you suggest we read together to strengthen our marriage and make it even better without pushing religion on my husband too much? Thank y’all! And thank you for being so REAL about marriage and life! * From Brooke: My husband and I are struggling with how to parent our kids through interactions with adults who lack emotional intelligence/awareness. Would you guys talk about that? We do feelings in our home, and we expect emotional honesty. However, grandparents and teachers don’t always deal with things the same way. How do we teach our kids to honor emotion and respect authority? * When trying to rebuild your marriage, how do you heal past hurts and move forward when you each speak a different love language and one seems to take the other for granted, but we didn’t know until it fell apart? * Could you discuss how knowing your child’s enneagram type can help guide the approach used in discipling your child? Show Notes:  To learn more about or to purchase The 5 Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, click here. Marriage books not from Christian perspective: To learn more about or to purchase Feeling Good Together, by David Burns, click here. To learn more about or to purchase The 7 Principles to Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman, click here. Marriage books from Christian perspective:
June 12, 2019
Sex is the elephant in the room. At some point, every spouse feels the unspoken tension. For many marriages, the elephant grows bigger after our kids enter the family. In this episode, we call out the elephant in the room and provide ways you and your spouse can begin talking about sex with one another in an emotionally safe way. We talk about: * Why sex is so difficult to talk about in the first place * How to communicate about sex if past trauma is influencing physical intimacy in your marriage * What to do if only one spouse is interested in talking about sex * How husbands need to approach the conversation * Helpful ways for wives to approach the conversation * Why the word “duty” should be banished from the conversation altogether * Practical ways to talk about sex in an emotionally safe way Show Notes:  To learn more about marriage coaching, or to set up a free discovery call, click here. To learn more about Onsite Workshops, click here. To learn more about Winshape Marriage Intensives, click here. To find a counselor in your local area, click one of the following: Focus on the Family Network Thriveworks Network  Psychology Today
June 5, 2019
Having an emotionally safe marriage doesn’t just happen. The way we listen to and communicate with our spouse makes all the difference. But doing so takes practice–and the willingness to be empathetic. In this second episode of our two part series, we talk about the building blocks to having an emotionally safe marriage. In particular, we talk about: * What it means to be empathetic with our spouse * Why labeling emotions makes a difference * A simple way of communicating for deeper connection * Practical strategies you can implement today Show Notes:  To learn more about marriage coaching, or to set up a free discovery call, click here. To learn more about or to purchase Feeling Good Together, by David Burns, click here. For the blogpost, How 15 Minutes is Changing my Marriage, click here.
May 29, 2019
So often, couples tell us that communication is their greatest problem. But more than communication, empathy for what’s going on within your spouse’s heart is even more crucial to connection and intimacy. In fact, our willingness to genuinely show care and concern for our spouse’s feelings is where great communication begins. In this episode, we talk about what it takes to have an emotionally safe marriage. In particular, we talk about: * What it means to be “emotionally safe” * What hinders us from being emotionally safe for our spouse * The three decisions you need to make for an emotionally safe marriage * Why blame is the greatest barrier to change Show Notes:  To learn more about marriage coaching, or to set up a free discovery call, click here. To learn more about or to purchase Feeling Good Together, by David Burns, click here. For the blogpost, How 15 Minutes is Changing my Marriage, click here.
May 22, 2019
Have you ever been curious about your own family lineage? The marriage that happened you didn’t know about? The hobbies passed down through the generations? Or maybe even the relational dynamics that led to addiction? Or what about the reasons you parent the way you do? Why you treat your spouse the way you do? Genograms can reveal so much about our family history. In this episode, we talk about genograms and how they can help us discover more of who we are and where we come from. We also discuss practical ways we can learn from our family history to stop negative generational patterns and embrace the positive ones. Show Notes:  Click here to purchase What Am I Feeling?  To learn more about genograms or how to create one, click here to download the necessary charts. *Note: You don’t need to buy the software on this site. If you’d like to create your own genogram with a third party, you can check out our coaching services by clicking here and setting up a free discovery call. 
May 15, 2019
Gain insight into two husbands and dads building their family teams. That’s what this episode is all about. Josh interviews Jeff Bethke about the state of the American family, how it stands in contrast to biblical fatherhood, and the practical ways we can build a family team. Specifically, we talk about: * What Abraham might be looking for in a dad today and why. * The biblical foundation and mission of family versus how we actually function in the Western world * The intentional steps you can take right now to lead your marriage and family on purpose, not by accident * What a multigenerational family team on mission looks like * How Jeff and his wife Alyssa manage and thrive on social media as a family on mission Show Notes:  Click here to visit www.familyteams.com to learn more and follow Jeff’s podcasts.  You can learn more about and follow Jeff and Alyssa’s podcast by clicking here. To purchase What Am I Feeling?, click here. 
May 8, 2019
We love getting your questions and discussing the topics dear to your heart. In this week’s episode, we discuss the following topics and questions: * Kids should be allowed to feel anger, but should we allow our kids to stomp off in their anger? It feels like such a fine line to walk. * When our children don’t transition well, or don’t want to transition well, from one activity or event to another, what do I do? * As a single mom, how do I compensate for my children not having a father? * I’m emotionally safe for my kids, but my husband is not. Are there extra things I can do? * I’m a foster mom and our kids are transitioning back to their parents. How can I prepare them? The Questions:  I have a 4-year-old little girl and 1-year-old twins. I can’t wait to get your feelings book. Something you guys mentioned in your Kids Who Can Empathize episode was that we should allow our kids to feel that anger. I think you mentioned allowing your kids to stomp. This may be a ridiculous question, but is stomping always acceptable? My daughter got upset that I didn’t give her way about something and she stomped off to her room. Is this considered disrespectful? Or should it be allowed because she’s expressing I upset her by not giving her what she wanted? I feel like it’s a fine line. How do we teach them when it’s acceptable?  –Jourdan My husband and I have two boys three and six. My husband is transitioning into a new career which has led him yet again to a new schedule. I own a business and work full-time. Our children attend to a private Christian school and are surrounded by a wonderful tribe. My question is an ongoing issue of our eldest son. He is full of life and energy as little boy should be. We struggle with listening and follow through. He does not like transitions at all. He will do anything he can to make sure that we are late. We have tried rewards. We have tried talking about respect and loving. I know that this issue hits a trigger for me because as a child my mother was always late and therefore as an adult I am always early. Each day throughout the day it is a struggle getting up transitioning to breakfast transitioning to backpacks transitioning to getting dressed or getting out the door. Even leaving school we have to go and say goodbye to all of the teachers. And then, when we get home, transitioning into the next thing. I’m not sure where he is coming from and in our conversations his answer is I just want to play mommy. We spent most of our time at home cooking together, doing Legos together, or art, or whatever they want to do. I am a hands-on mother who just wants to help my kiddo. This one just hits the right spot since it affects everyone in the family as well as others around us. –Kristin I just listened to the two podcasts on raising boys and girls, by David Thomas and Sissy Goff, respectively. They were really insightful and helpful for me, especially the one with David regarding boys. I know the father’s role was mentioned in those podcasts, and I wondered if they, or you, have any advice for single parents. I am a single mom, and my kids’ father is not involved. They haven’t even seen him in four years. I have a son, 7 and a daughter, 4. I so appreciated the podcasts and even bought the book by David Thomas but honestly, I am feeling so overwhelmed and kind of anxious right now. Any special words for single parents? –Jenn You talk about how emotional safety of parents is the key of raising children. I couldn’t agree more and am so willing to change things in my life to become more emotionally safe. I’m ordering your book
May 1, 2019
We all seek to find our life purpose. But have you ever thought about your marital purpose? The purpose God has for your marriage? He has one for you–but it may not be for what you think. In this episode, we talk with Ryan and Selena Frederick from Fierce Marriage about how your marriage is designed to bring God glory. But what does that mean? And how can we do that, especially in an age of confusion? Ryan and Selena break down what it means to be transparent in marriage and cover such topics as: * Exposing ourselves to meaningful risk * How to have a “see through” mentality * What it means to be vulnerable with one another * Why self-discovery is crucial for transparency * To be “unoffendable” Show Notes:  To order Ryan and Selena’s book, Fierce Marriage, click here.  To subscribe or listen to The Fierce Marriage Podcast, click here.  Sponsor: For FREE downloadable lunch notes and games, or to order Homegrown: Cultivating Kids in the Fruit of the Spirit, click here. 
April 24, 2019
Sex is our most requested topic lately for the podcast. And the types of questions we receive about sex reveal the power it holds in how well–or not–we connect with our spouse. In this episode, Ryan and Laura Dobson join us to talk about the joys and difficulties of sex in marriage. We discuss: * How to begin talking about sex in your marriage * The power sex has on how well we feel emotionally connected * How to discuss and overcome past hurts to rediscover–or maybe discover for the first time–an enjoyable sex life * Sexual satisfaction and the early years of parenting * What porn does to marital intimacy and some ways to get through it * The spiritual significance of sex in marriage Show Notes: To learn more about marriage or family coaching with the Straubs, click here.  To find a Christian counselor in your local area, click here.  To find a counselor in your local area, click here. To listen to REBEL Parenting Podcast with Ryan and Laura Dobson, click here. 
April 17, 2019
Feeling exhausted, or simply tired of going through the motions? The modern world is a machine of a thousand invisible habits, forming us into anxious, busy, and depressed people. The trouble is that our habits are almost invisible to us. In fact, habits form us more than we form them. So what can we do about it? Welcome to The Common Rule: Habits of Purpose in an Age of Distraction. In this week’s episode, we interview Justin Whitmel Earley, a mergers and acquisitions lawyer who nearly crashed and burned in his own panicked lifestyle. As a husband and father to four young boys, Justin knew he needed help. In what turned out to be a fateful moment of self-discovery, Justin’s compelling story led him to create The Common Rule, four doable daily and four weekly habits designed to help us create new routines and transform frazzled days into lives of love for God and neighbor. Looking for a doable routine for your family that leads to freedom and rest for your soul? This episode is for you. Show Notes:  To purchase The Common Rule, or to learn more, click here.  To purchase What Am I Feeling? or to learn more, click here.
April 10, 2019
This episode is a discussion about what we describe as the “art of becoming.” Too often we get so focused on the day-to-day sleep, discipline, or behavioral issues with our kids that we lose sight of what really influences who they become. Don’t get us wrong, it’s not that these day-to-day issues don’t matter. However, it’s easy to get so lost in the day-to-day, that we neglect who we’re becoming. In this episode, we talk about a recent research study that connected more parenting information to increased parenting anxiety and decreased self-confidence. As one article suggests, we get more anxious when we think there is one answer to our parenting problem, and we don’t have it. Our hope is that this discussion encourages you to create the spiritual and emotional environment you and your kids need to thrive. Show Notes:  Click here to learn more about Homegrown, to watch the video trailer (a must see!) and to receive free downloads for your kids. Click here to purchase the new children’s book, What Am I Feeling? Articles mentioned in the podcast: The Diabolical Genius of the Baby Advice Industry by Oliver Burkeman Becoming Human by Jean Vanier Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well by Joshua Straub
April 3, 2019
The Bible consistently uses botanical growth to describe our spiritual maturity and how we grow. Applied to us as parents, we want to raise children who love God and share His love with the world. But how do you prepare a spiritual seedling to become fully grown? In this episode, we talk about our new parent Bible study that you can do with your kids to cultivate them in the fruit of the Spirit. But what does this look like, especially at a practical level? This week, we discuss: * What botanical growth looks like * The necessary ingredient for the fruit of the Spirit to grow, is to die to our flesh (Gal. 5:24, John 12:24). * Cultivating kids in the fruit of the Spirit is connected to the spiritual environment of our home * Connection to Jesus (John 15) and a Church community is necessary and important for growth * The practical ways you can cultivate and water your seedlings during the four key times of the day (Deut. 6:7, Proverbs 22:6). Show Notes:  Click here to learn more about Homegrown, to watch the video trailer (a must see!) and to receive free downloads for your kids. Click here to purchase the new children’s book, What Am I Feeling? We also talked about the following books in this episode: Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well. God Attachment: Why We Believe, Act, and Feel the Way We Do About God by Tim Clinton and Joshua Straub Faith of the Fatherless by Paul Vitz
March 27, 2019
Our 100th episode! And what better way to celebrate than talking with two amazing humans–Ryan and Laura Dobson–about being emotionally healthy for your family. This is arguably our most raw and vulnerable episode to date. We talk with Ryan and Laura about mental illness, addictions, pornography, and other self-medicators. Even more, we talk about grace and the path to healing. No matter your family history or past mistakes, you have a story you get to live–a story that’s being passed on from one generation to the next. Our discussion is all about how we can engage a path of healing and become emotionally healthy for our spouse and kids. Feel like you’re messing up a lot? You’re not alone. In this episode, you will find grace and a few next steps. Show Notes:  Our next Emotionally Safe Marriage Coaching Group begins April 15, 2019. Click here to learn more. Spaces are limited. Check out Ryan and Laura’s Podcast Rebel Parenting by clicking here.  Check out Winshape Marriage Intensives by clicking here. To learn more about Onsite Workshops, click here.
March 20, 2019
In this episode, we take your questions and talk about them. This week’s questions include the following topics: * What educational apps we would recommend * How to handle a co-parenting situation where you have no control with what’s happening in the other home * How to help our kids with bad dreams and night terrors * How to further talk to your kids about Santa, Easter bunny, Tooth Fairy, etc. * Managing a child who craves being social more than we have the energy for The Questions:  * I am a first grade teacher in public school. I often get asked about educational apps that I would recommend. Knowing what you know about screen time, what is your opinion about using a tablet for educational purposes? * I’m a stepmom of three children who live with their mom 70% of the time. My husband and I do plan to fight for more custody this year. My question relates to how to co-parent with someone who is working from a different worldview. Their mom is more focused on herself and her life than the kids. She frequently leaves them home by themselves (ages 13, 10, and 8) until midnight or later while she is out at the bar. She has had a live-in boyfriend and other boyfriends that are a part of their daily life (most of these men also have kids who come around). They do not have consistency or security with their mom. We have had the kids in counseling for almost a year and even the counselor said it’s a struggle when we can only be consistent with them when we have them 30% of the time. On top of that, I’m the stepparent so I have little influence/say over any interactions with their mom. I have a great deal of frustrations/concerns/questions surrounding this topic and i am trying to keep this brief. –Jamie * I listened to your podcast regarding the holiday season. I loved it. My husband and I LOVE that you say “Santa is pretend and we pretend in this house.” I know you had said that you just make that blanket statement and move on. We are struggling when our 4 year old daughter wants to know more and more about Santa. Last night when we were talking to her at bed time she was asking questions like, “Does Santa sleep in a bed?”, “Where does Santa eat?”, “How does Santa get everywhere?” So, even though she didn’t say, “Is Santa real?”, we did say, “He sleeps in a pretend bed. He eats pretend food.”…etc. Do you have other suggestions? To be honest, she doesn’t like the idea of Santa. She doesn’t like that he goes into people’s houses and she’s scared of him when she sees him at a mall or anything. So last year Santa “delivered on our porch”…but even with that she woke up a few times that night and nights leading up to it and said, “Are you sure he’s not going to come in our house?” Also, do you tell your kids to NOT tell other kids about him being pretend? –Amber * What is your advice for providing opportunities for a child who enjoys/thrives on being social, around people way more than I have energy for? My husband and are social people–he even more than me and we feel like we provide plenty of social opportunities, yet it never seems to be enough from her perspective. She loves serving/helping so we have involved her in some (though limited) of those activities. When as parents do you draw the line? * How to handle bad dreams and night terrors in young kids? How much is a spiritual battle vs normal growing up? This is something my daughter is going through right now. It was really hard the first few times. Any advice? –Bekah Show Notes: 
March 13, 2019
“Mom, who sang the first song?” When Ellie Holcomb’s then five-year-old daughter, Emmylou, asked her this question, Ellie threw the question back at her. “Well, who do you think sang the first song?” Emmylou’s answer is priceless. Yes, you have to listen to find out. But as Ellie thought about it, she had to do some research. Her answers were put into her first children’s book called Who Sang the First Song?  In this episode, we go behind the scenes of this incredible story and what it means that God created each of us with a song to sing. Applied to the family, we talk about the “rhythms” God calls us to. With three children, ages six and under, Ellie and her husband, Drew, have some very practical ways they create rhythm for their family. This is an episode you won’t want to miss. Show Notes:  To download Sing: Creation Songs by Ellie Holcomb, click here. To purchase Ellie’s children’s book, Who Sang the First Song, click here. Start feeling better today by ordering What Am I Feeling? Click here to order.
March 6, 2019
In this episode, we take your questions and talk about them. This week’s questions include the following topics: * How to thrive in the survival years with young kids * Should we send our kids to kindergarten early or hold them back * How to manage our own anger and fear so as not to yell at our kids * How to be emotionally safe in the early years * The stage we set up for our kids in our dining room The Questions:  * Hi! Absolutely love your podcast and have been a fan since episode one. Could you please post a picture of your living room concert stage? I love the idea behind this simple yet impactful and intentional choice you’ve made in making family memories come to life! God bless! –Suzanna * I absolutely love your podcast and Safe House book! It’s completely changed how I view parenting, as I did not grow up in an emotionally safe home. I struggle with control and anger that leads to yelling at my child. How can I safely teach my toddler that she needs to obey her parents without yelling or threatening? – Ashley * Can you please talk about leading your family well in the survival years? We have a 3.5 year old boy and one year old boy. Thank you. – Mandy * I would love some insight in delaying kindergarten. My son (my first born) will turn 5 on June 9th. I never really thought much about delaying kindergarten, and always just knew we would wait and make the assessment towards the end of his PK year to see if he was ready. My husband feels pretty strongly now about delaying it no matter what to help him in the future. There is just something about it that doesn’t feel right to me, but my husband is pretty confident in delaying and I don’t want to push and regret it later down the line in middle school when it seems the age difference really starts to become an issue. I would greatly appreciate and respect your thoughts. – Michelle Show Notes:  Start feeling better today by ordering What Am I Feeling? Click here to order. You can also click here to learn about Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well.       Images of homemade stage outside and inside the house. 
February 27, 2019
In part 2 of our series on kids and feelings, we talk about kids who can empathize with others. This episode is a deeper dive into the “why” behind our new kid’s book What Am I Feeling? So often, it can feel like a pipe dream getting our kids to think about anyone other than themselves. Let’s be honest, our world could use more adults who can empathize as well. In this episode, we talk about being teachable, responding to others in empathy, and how our kids mirror our emotions. We also discuss how fear and busyness become barriers to entering our child’s world and helping her label her feelings. Show Notes:  Start feeling better today by ordering What Am I Feeling? Click here to order. You can also click here to learn about Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well. For a link to the Google study mentioned in the podcast, click here.
February 20, 2019
Teaching our kids to give their feeling a name and then decide what to do with it—is crucial to helping them love God and love others. Turns out, it’s also helpful for juvenile delinquents to develop empathy, and for our kids to one day be successful at major companies like Google. In this episode, we talk about these scenarios and why developing emotional awareness is so important for our kids. As it relates to spiritual growth, this is also where emotional and spiritual maturity go hand-in-hand: the lived out fruit of self-control (Galatians 5:23). But it all starts with us as parents. Being emotionally safe with our kids provides calm to the fear center of their brain. The calmer our kids are in emotionally overwhelming situations, the more likely they are to think straight and make wise decisions. And that’s our privilege as parents—to help our kids learn to name their feeling, make good decisions with that emotion, and begin to think about others. That’s what this episode is all about. Show Notes:  Start feeling better today by ordering What Am I Feeling? Click here to order. You can also click here to learn about Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well. For a link to the Google study mentioned in the podcast, click here. For more insights into the circle of security, click here. For John Bradshaw’s book Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child, click here.
February 13, 2019
Sometimes, a few nuggets of wisdom just isn’t enough. In this episode, we discuss some of the deeper reasons behind why it’s so difficult to connect in marriage. We also talk about our own marital journey of late and how counseling has helped us work through the baggage, blindness, and busyness of the day. Yes, three “bee’s” that can “sting” your marriage. Dad jokes rock. Of course, the conversation includes practical ways we can connect at a deeper, more intimate level with our spouse. Show Notes:  To learn more about Winshape Marriage Intensives and Adventures, click here.  To learn more about marriage coaching intensives we offer, or to set up a discovery call, click here.
February 6, 2019
We live in a beautifully diverse world. Unfortunately, our world is also plagued by racial and ethnic division. As families, we can bring unity and change by embracing our differences. But it requires that we pass onto our kids what it means to walk in love, not fear—a lesson that’s easier said, than done. In this episode, author Trillia Newbell, sits down with us to discuss: * How to talk to our kids about families who look different from ours * Whether or not we should raise our kids to be “color blind” * What it looks like for us as adults to model unity and love in our home * How we should talk to our kids about the history of racial tensions * And most importantly, how the gospel transcends racial and ethnic differences Show Notes: Trillia Newbell is the author of If God is For Me, a 6-week Bible study on Romans 8 (2019), Enjoy: Finding the Freedom to Delight Daily in God’s Good Gifts (2016), Fear and Faith: Finding the Peace Your Heart Craves (2015), United: Captured by God’s Vision for Diversity (2014), and a children’s book, God’s Very Good Idea: A True Story of God’s Delightfully Different Family. You can find her at trillianewbell.com and follow her on twitter at @trillianewbell. Bring the 2019 Parent’s Summit to your church via simulcast! Click here to learn more. 
January 30, 2019
We can get so busy that we allow culture to dictate who we are as a family, rather than our family influencing the culture around us. In this episode, we talk about some of the critical first steps in discovering what makes your family unique. And as Christi so eloquently states, “Your uniqueness is so normal to you, that you often can’t see it.” That’s because our family purpose is often hidden within the generations that went before us–the family stories, patterns, and even moments of overcoming difficult circumstances. In this episode, we outline the beginning steps to discovering your family purpose and why it’s important for your kids. And, if the Your Family Purpose group coaching program sounds like something your family could use, simply click here. Show Notes: Your Family Purpose: 4-week Group Coaching Program begins February 11! Click here to learn more. Spots are filling up. Click here to purchase or learn about Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well. To preorder our new children’s book, What Am I Feeling? click here. It releases March 1.       
January 23, 2019
Welcome to season 5! This week’s episode is full of updates about the upcoming season. In addition, we talk about why we believe “parenting” is the wrong term to use when it comes to raising our children. The best part is that we don’t leave you hanging. We talk about what we believe the right term should be and why it matters in how we relate to our kids. Show Notes: To preorder our new children’s book, What Am I Feeling? click here. It releases March 1.  Your Family Purpose: 4-week Group Coaching Program. Next group begins February 11! Click here to learn more.
December 26, 2018
What a year in the life of the “In This Together” podcast family. As you’ll hear once again through Christi’s tears, we love journeying with you. Your stories, questions, podcast reviews, and encouragement fuel our souls. Thank you for making 2018 one of the most joy-filled years for our family. In this episode, we go back and forth, each offering our wishes for your family in 2019. This is a heartfelt episode, offering our blessing over your family for the New Year. We love journeying with you. Show Notes:  To learn more about the coaching programs we offer, click here. To learn more about our 4-week Your Family Purpose group coaching program for families, click here.  To learn more about Onsite Workshops, click here.
December 19, 2018
Our podcast “resident therapist,” David Thomas, is back with us, live from Daystar Counseling. He talks with us about what our sons need across the developmental lifespan. In this episode, David breaks down what our boys need in the following age groups: Ages 2-4: The Explorer Ages 5-8: The Lover Ages 9-12: The Individual Ages 13-17: The Wanderer Ages 18-22: The Warrior Some of the best nuggets of this interview include: * The biggest hurdle of boys today across the developmental lifespan * Ways that boys self-medicate their pain and why * Why helping boys problem solve and use critical thinking is crucial to their development * The importance of placing your hand on your son’s shoulder and addressing him by name * Why boys need less words, not more * Helping our boys navigate video gaming in a healthy way Show Notes:  To learn more, click here to purchase David’s book, Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys To buy David’s latest book, Are My Kids on Track?, click here. To learn more, check out: www.raisingboysandgirls.com
December 12, 2018
The next two episodes are gold medallion interviews with our podcast “resident therapists.” This week, we interview Sissy Goff from Daystar Counseling about what our daughters need. Next week, we interview David Thomas about what our sons need. In this episode, Sissy breaks down what our girls need in the following age groups: Birth-5: The Discovery Years Ages 6-11: The Adventurous Years Ages 12-15: The Narcissistic Years Ages 16-19: The Autonomous Years Some of the best nuggets of this interview include: * The growing epidemic of anxiety in girls today * The years our daughters seem disinterested in relationship with dad * How dads can press into their daughters * Why daughters tend to be ambivalent with their moms in the narcissistic years * How moms can press into their daughters in these years Show Notes:  To learn more, click here to purchase Sissy’s book, All You Need to Know About Raising Girls. To buy Sissy’s latest book, Are My Kids on Track?, click here. To learn more, check out: www.raisingboysandgirls.com Podcast Sponsors: 
December 5, 2018
As a social entrepreneur and founder and co-CEO of Noonday Collection, Jessica Honegger aims to do everything with boundless courage. But just as happiness is not the absence of sadness, and faith is not the absence of doubt, courage is not the absence of fear. Now leading the largest fair-trade jewelry company in the world, Jessica gives us a behind the scenes look at her highly-successful business and her journey to get there as a working mom. In this episode, Jessica shares stories of motherhood, adoption, guilt as a working mom, partnership, and friendship. Most powerfully, she explains how she made fear her friend. Speaking from her highly-touted book, Imperfect Courage: Live a Life of Purpose by Leaving Comfort and Going Scared, Jessica shares with us her inspiring story and challenges us to have the courage to do the very thing we’ve been afraid of doing. Show Notes:  Buy Imperfect Courage here. It also makes a great gift! To buy gifts from or learn more about Noonday Collection, click here.  Subscribe to Jessica’s podcast, Going Scared. Learn more about Jessica by clicking here. To learn about becoming a Noonday Ambassador, click here.
December 3, 2018
This is a special re-released episode on Christmas topics for families, because there’s nothing we want more than to experience the joy of Christmas. The problem is that Christmas can leave our time feeling pressed and our wallets stressed. In this episode, we go behind the lens of our own crooked picture frame to discuss some Christmas hot topics. We tell stories about how we were raised and what we implement today in our own family. We also discuss topics like: * Is my gift-giving out of control? * What does an entitled child look like? * Is it okay for my kids to believe in Santa Claus? * What will my kids really remember about Christmas? * How can we truly make it about Jesus’ birth? * Is the attitude I’m modeling for my kids at the holidays one of gratitude or grumbling? * What role do traditions play in our family? As you listen to this episode, think about your own family traditions, values, and what you model for and teach your kids. And be sure to engage the conversation. Tell us stories from your own picture frame. We love learning from you.
November 28, 2018
Christmas often comes and goes in the blink of an eye. Not only that, it’s easy to miss the magic of the season. Either things don’t go the way we had hoped with our family, or we get so buried in our to-do lists we need a search and rescue team just to help us come to the surface. In this episode, we talk about decisions you can make to enjoy the Christmas season with your family. We talk about: * Practical ways we can manage our expectations of the Christmas season * Why it’s important to also acknowledge and grieve loss during this season * Being people who include others * How to prioritize Jesus during the holidays–i.e. getting our kids to behave because of Jesus, not for Santa 🙂 * How to make decisions at Christmas based on your family values, not the culture around you * One very practical way husbands can crush it this Christmas * How to be the grace others need at this time of year Show Notes:  To join us in the 25 Characters of the Christmas Story: An Advent Experience for Families, click here! Podcast Sponsor:
November 21, 2018
Bedtime–it’s that sometimes elusive and dreaded time of the day, especially if you have young kids. Yet, bedtime can be the most significant time of the day to connect with your kids, and even your teens. In this episode, we discuss the spiritual and emotional significance of bedtime. We also get super practical about turning it into one of the most memorable–and maybe even enjoyable–parts of your day. Even more, bedtime could be the environment that shapes your family and child’s story for years to come. We talk about: * Why even Moses championed bedtime * When it’s okay to call an audible * Practical ways to keep our kids in bed and not dread the process * Guilt free and emotionally safe ways for either laying with our kids to help them fall asleep or making them stay in bed * Questions we can ask our kids to draw out what’s happening in their inner world Shownotes Click here for 15 Conversation Starters for Tucking Your Kids into Bed. Click here for Dr. Ross Greene’s book, The Explosive Child: A New Approach for Understanding and Parenting Easily Frustrated, Chronically Inflexible Children. For free resources and to learn more about Dr. Ross Greene’s approach to behaviorally challenging kids, click here. Podcast Sponsors
November 14, 2018
For many of us, inviting people into our lives and homes feels more like inviting judgment on our entertaining skills and stress on our already maxed-out schedules. And with the holidays approaching, you may be feeling the pressure. But what if you knew that opening your front door had the power to radically change the world around you? To make an impact and leave a legacy with everyday invitations? Jen Schmidt has set out to reframe how we think about hospitality and to equip us to walk a road of welcome in our daily lives. Jen knows that every time we choose open-door living—whether in our homes or by taking hospitality on the road—those we invite in get to experience the lived-out love of Jesus, our kids grow up in a life-lab of generosity, and we trade insecurity for connection. In this episode, we talk to Jen about how you and your family can offer the life-changing gift of invitation, no matter the stage of life your family is in. We talk about: * The freedom of hospitality, not the burden of it * How invitation gives purpose to our kids and family * The difference between hospitality and entertaining * How your invitation can expand beyond your home * Ways you can see your home as the most likely location for changing the world around you, one open door at a time. Show Notes: To learn more about Jen’s book and Bible study, Just Open the Door, click here.  For information on The Becoming Conference, click here. Podcast Sponsors: 
November 7, 2018
What happens when our son is exposed to pornography at a young age? Or our daughter begins hearing about sex at school and asking you questions? Many of our own parents didn’t model for us how to have these difficult conversations with our kids. Not only that, our kids seem to be exposed to sex at even younger ages today. In this episode, we revisit with Linda Noble and Linda Stewart, two leading voices helping parents talk to their children about body image and sex through THE Conversation Workshop. This is part two of a two part series. In this episode, Linda and Linda discuss with us how to talk to our kids about sex through a simple, yet powerful framework of flourishing. We discuss: * how to talk to our kids about difficult topics, like when they discover their private parts * why a Theology of the Body is an important framework for us as adults as well * age-appropriate ways–from preschool through the teen years–to talk to our kids about sex In the show notes below, you can also gain access to free PDF downloads from THE Conversation Workshop that help you have these conversations with your kids. Show Notes:  To access free PDF conversations of “The Talk” with your kids, click here.  To learn more about THE Conversation Workshop, click here. To subscribe to THE Conversation podcast, click here. 
October 31, 2018
What happens when our daughter tells us she’s fat? Or our son begins to ask questions about his private parts? These questions are enough to throw off any good parent. So how can we raise our kids to have a healthy body image in a culture that has distorted it? That’s the conversation we have today with Linda Noble and Linda Stewart, two leading voices helping parents talk to their children about body image and sex through THE Conversation Workshop. This is part one of a two part series. In this episode, Linda and Linda discuss a framework for the Theology of the Body, and how we as parents can be ready anytime these conversations arise with our kids. We discuss: * the 2 most common parenting approaches to the body and the one we need to take * the 3 truths we need to instill in our kids about their body-selves on an ongoing basis * practical questions we receive from parents In the show notes below, you can also gain access to free PDF downloads from THE Conversation Workshop that help you have these conversations with your kids. Show Notes:  To access free PDF conversations of “The Talk” with your kids, click here.  To learn more about THE Conversation Workshop, click here. To subscribe to THE Conversation podcast, click here.    Podcast Sponsors:
October 24, 2018
There are eyes on your marriage. If you have kids, they watch how you interact. If you lead others in your community, those you lead watch how you live. In other words, your marriage is in a fishbowl. Some feel it more than others. But regardless of who’s watching, if we don’t pursue a marriage we’d wish on our kids, or we keep leading others without tending to our own marital garden, it will catch up to us. And besides, isn’t it better to enjoy life with our spouse than merely tolerate it and go through the motions? We think so. That’s why this episode covers four ways we can become teammates in marriage and why it’s so important. Show Notes: To learn more about our Coaching Programs, click here. To learn more about Winshape Marriage Intensives and Adventures, click here.  Podcast Sponsors:
October 17, 2018
This episode is a treat. Lisa Harper joins us to talk about her newly released children’s book, Who’s Your Daddy: Discovering the Awesomest Daddy Ever. But she’s not the only one to join us! After the break, her daughter Missy joins us – along with our kids – to sing and talk about Sid the Science Kid, the Greatest Showman, and Sing. They also talk about God and people they know in heaven. It is a precious portion we decided to keep in. We hope you enjoy the “real” interaction. The best description of this episode comes directly from the children’s book: Missy has lived with her new mommy (Lisa) ever since she was adopted from Haiti. But when someone asks little Missy a BIG question—”Who’s your daddy?”—she starts thinking and learning a lot about daddies. Missy could be sad that she doesn’t have a “skin” daddy who can make her pancakes and take her to soccer practice. But through lots of talks with Mommy, Missy realizes that she DOES have a Daddy! In fact, no matter what our family looks like, we all have the same amazing Daddy; and Missy can’t wait to tell everyone about the Daddy who loves us more than all the stars in the sky. Told mostly through a mother-daughter conversation, this sweet story is careful to affirm relationships with the good, strong daddies here on earth, but it is also comforting for children who might be struggling due to divorce or the loss of a father. Show Notes:  To purchase Who’s Your Daddy? Discovering the Awesomest Daddy Ever, click here:
October 10, 2018
How we set boundaries with our parents and in-laws is a frequent stressor for many families, especially around the holidays. Whether family lives close by or far away, everyone brings expectations into what that relationship should look like. We navigate this on an ongoing basis as well. The first question deals with that very issue. How do we talk to our parents about it in an honoring way? How can we be united as husband and wife in making decisions and setting our own traditions? In this episode, we also discuss questions related to: * helping kids set their own boundaries and manage their feelings * teaching kids to play independently * how we can avoid showing favoritism when one child is more compliant than another * resources to manage explosive or strong-willed kids The questions:  Question 1: Hi! I’ve recently listened to your grandparent episode – THANK YOU. My husband and I are new parents, and his parents live close by. My (divorced) parents both live out of state. Anytime they come visit they usually stay with us (and they come separately so it’s kind of double visits). I know my husband doesn’t love when they stay with us but he grins and bares it for the most part since he knows it means a lot to me. However, this Christmas my mom had announced (not asked) that she will be visiting and staying with us for over a week. It’s really important to my husband that she does not stay with us on Christmas Eve since we have (and are still) developed our own family traditions. I know that the “guidelines” we set in this first year of our child’s life will live forever, and I’m so nervous to have this conversation with my mom. I want to honor my husband’s wishes and present a united front to my mom and also be respectful to her when I ask that she stays elsewhere for two nights. Help?? How do I handle it? She is emotionally very dependent on me since I am an only child and I don’t want to hurt her feelings but I need to put my own small family unit first. Question 2: Thank you so much for your book and podcast. The book has given me a framework with which to help navigate this parenting world that I am very new to and I am so appreciative! My question is about teaching kids about their own boundaries. It is so important that they are taught to be kind and think of others first, but how do you balance that with the fact that each person is responsible for their own actions and feelings. For example, I watched a 4 year old emotionally manipulate her friend into giving her what she wanted by pouting and her friend said after she just wanted her “to be happy”. Being kind, sharing, and self sacrifice are so important but so is developing the ability to say no. How do you find the balance? Question 3: In episode #42, you referenced a question that my husband and I both responded with “get out of my head!!” but didn’t answer it. The question was something like, “How do you parent/discipline a strong willed boy and a compliant boy without showing favoritism?” We need this one! The strong willed, older boy is in a cycle of feeling defeated while his younger brother just doesn’t deal with defiance as a frequent heart issue. We are on the cycle with him – and its incredibly hard on the entire family. Also – another aspect of the same scenario – since our firstborn is also incredibly strong willed, explosive, and hyper – we wonder these things: was it our doing, especially since we had no idea what we were doing and parented so much out of our own issues and dysfunction...
October 3, 2018
Do you have a recurring issue in your marriage you can’t seem to settle? Perhaps every now and again your marriage is tested in ways you couldn’t even imagine at the time. Some nights you don’t even sleep in the same bed. Maybe right now you just can’t seem to connect with your spouse at all. Just getting on the same page would feel like a win. If you’ve been married for any length of time, you likely experience all of the above. That’s because spiritual warfare is real. Natural and supernatural forces attack our most cherished relationship regularly. In this episode, we talk about how the things that separated Adam and Eve in the Garden are the very things attacking our marriage today. In this episode we discuss: * The three most common enemies of a great marriage * The importance of coming into agreement as a couple * How blame and shame distance us from our spouse * Why the love of God is the antidote to seeing your spouse as the enemy * Effective ways to pray and fight for your spouse Show Notes:  Get the Ransomed Heart App Click here for Moving Mountains, by John Eldredge Podcast Sponsors:
September 26, 2018
Did you know that singing is one of, if not the most, stated commands in all of the Bible? Filling our homes with song has a deep, visceral effect on who we are and what we believe. Perhaps it’s no wonder why singing is arguably the most powerful way to pass God’s truth onto our kids. In this episode, Keith Getty joins Josh to talk about the importance of singing in the home. Keith and Kristyn Getty occupy a unique space in the world of music today as preeminent modern hymn writers. According to CCLI, it is estimated that 40 to 50 million people sing their hymn “In Christ Alone” (penned by Keith and long-time writing partner, Stuart Townsend) in church services each year. With four young daughters, Keith takes us behind the walls of the Getty home to describe how he and Kristyn pass on the truths of God to their kids through song. Even more, Keith gives us insightful reasons for (that are quite convicting by the way) and practical ways to implement song into our kid’s lives every single day. To learn more about the Getty’s, click here. Show Notes: Sing Conference 2019         Getty Kids Hymnal: Family Hymn Sing               Sing: How Worship Transforms Your Life, Family, and Church    Getty Music Tour   Joy: An Irish Christmas Tour     Podcast Sponsors:
September 19, 2018
Thanks again for your questions. These episodes are gold for us because we get to interact with you, our family of listeners, on a regular basis. The questions this week are vulnerable and honest. We appreciate that so much about this community. Let’s keep striving to be better spouses, parents, and all out human beings. This week we discuss: * How being raised in a legalistic home can impact our own parenting and climate of our home * How grandparents can influence the spiritual lives of their grandchildren * How to make Jesus attractive to our kids and grandkids * The one key factor to faith transmission across the generations Show Notes: For more information on the findings of the study on faith transmission across the generations, click here to check out Families and Faith: How Religion is Passed Down Across Generations by Vern Bengtson.  The Questions: #1. My question relates to the spiritual life of my 5 year old daughter. I am a pastor’s kid and was brought up in a very legalistic but loving family. I went astray for a few years of my life but I know for certain that my parent’s prayer is what kept me not too far so that I could come back to Jesus. My husband was brought up in a semi-Christian home, where his mom was/is a very devoted Christian but his dad was/is not. All of this is to give you an idea as to why I am concerned. We both love the Lord, we both serve in the church and are leaders, but we definitely have different views of what a Christian life is or should be. I am more on the legalistic side, where I put all the burden on him being the head of the family. I feel that if I don’t say “Let’s read the Bible or pray,” we don’t do it. It makes me mad that I have to be the one initiating these times. And so I enter into this guilt trip where if I don’t do it, my fear is that my daughter will not grow up in a Godly home. My husband feels that if we serve in an area at church, we do not need to be involved in anything else. I, on the other side, go the extreme of having to be involved in everything the church offers (to the point that it gives me anxiety if I don’t). How do I let go of the legalistic way of thinking? No matter what my decision is I feel like I’m letting someone down. And I feel like my daughter is living in an unstable environment when it comes to our spiritual lives. #2. From Collene: As a grandmother who really failed as a mother, but have sought and received full forgiveness from my son – Praise the Lord, I am puzzled how to be a spiritual guide to my two grandsons, 9 and 12 years old. I don’t get to be around them all the time, but do visit frequently. My son and his wife want their children to be brought up in church (which really didn’t start until 2 years ago). The boys love church and have gone to church camp once last summer. When I ask my grandsons if they would like me to say night time prayers or read the Bible or anything that I would like to do to open the door to spiritual talks they say no. I let it go at that. I grew up in a very strict religious home and was forced to do everything right. So, I guess I am asking for ideas to free our spiritual conversations up. Thank you for your prayers to lead all of us in the Truth of leading our children in His wisdom and love! Podcast Sponsors:
September 12, 2018
In a recent survey of over 700 parents, we found that “being too busy” or “not having enough time” was the biggest parenting struggle of our day. Can you relate? Do you wish you could slow down a bit? Do you seem to use the phrase “too busy” too often? We did. That’s why we’re having this conversation on today’s episode. And it begins by realizing one thing: You are the only person looking out for your family. Starting at a 30,000 foot view, we begin our discussion asking of ourselves one question: “What are we chasing?” Usually we can see what it is we’re chasing when we look at our calendars and see where we’re spending our time. From here we discuss what the Bible says about rest, provide practical ways for creating margin, and why it’s more important than ever to honor the Sabbath. Show Notes:  What Makes a Good Parent? – A Scientific Analysis Ranks the 10 Most Effective Child-Rearing Practices by Robert Epstein. Click here for journal article.  In our conversation we talk about kids being able to play independently. Click here for a blogpost I wrote on it: 4 Ways to Help Your Child Play Independently. Two books influencing our lives right now and that helped birth this conversation: Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work Less by Alex Soojung-Kim Pang The 3 Big Questions for a Frantic Family by Patrick Lencioni  For Pastor John Lindell’s message on the Sabbath, click here.  Podcast Sponsors:
September 5, 2018
Have you felt stuck in the trenches, especially in the early years of parenthood? Trying to be the best mom you can be, yet also feeling the urge to lead outside the home too? Or maybe you decided that in certain seasons you would focus on leading your kids, and wait to find God’s calling for you outside of motherhood after that particular season was over. In this episode, we talk with Kelly King, Women’s Ministry Specialist for LifeWay Christian Resources, about how women can lead in the varying seasons of motherhood. We talk specifically about: * How to navigate raising kids and discovering the call to lead * Not dismissing the little doors because they feel small to us * Why it’s important to stay in your lane * How to overcome mom shaming * The importance of who you surround yourself with * How husbands can champion their wives to lead Kelly’s insights come directly from her own personal lessons. This is a message she has lived in every season of raising her kids. Show Notes:  Click here to register for the LifeWay Women’s Leadership Forum, November 8-10, 2018. To receive a special $20 discount, use Promo Code: FORUM226       Podcast Sponsors:
August 29, 2018
Have you been faced with getting difficult questions from your kids, and perhaps at a younger age than you had wished? Or feeling the need to have conversations with your kids but not sure how to have them? Welcome to parenting in the 21st century. We live in a very different political and cultural climate than in decades past. In this episode, we talk with Dr. Phillip Bethancourt, executive vice president of the Ethics and Religious Liberty Commission, on how he equips parents and church leaders to have these conversations. A very practical episode, you will be encouraged and equipped, especially if you lack confidence with some of the topics. Phillip, who has four boys, also provides super helpful illustrations to matter the age of our kids. In addition, this episode kicks off an online Bible study that Phillip co-wrote and that we’re hosting on our blog called Christ-Centered Parenting: Gospel Conversations on Complex Cultural Issues. It’s a free online study and we’d love to have you join us! Click here for details and to sign up.  These 6 sessions will give you more confidence as a parent, help you instill a biblical worldview into your children, and equip you to talk to your kids about today’s tough cultural issues, including: * Gender issues * Suicide, depression, and anxiety * Pornography * Addiction and coping mechanisms * Technology * Singleness, dating, marriage, and divorce Show Notes Sign up for the Christ-Centered Parenting Free Online Bible Study. Click here. To sign up and learn more about the ERLC National Conference, The Cross-Shaped Family, click here. To sign up for The Weekly, and learn more about today’s cultural issues with the Ethics & Religious Liberty Commission, click here.  Podcast Sponsors
August 22, 2018
Your questions are fuel for us for two reasons. First, you are real and desire to live a great story for your kids. Secondly, your courage to ask questions helps everyone listening to the podcast. If you struggle with something, other families struggle with it too. It’s an honor being in this together with you. These Q & A episodes give all of us encouragement. So thank you! In this episode, we had a number of questions related to being emotionally safe for our kids and why it’s important. In this week’s episode we discuss: * Resources for understanding our own story as a parent * How to connect and talk to our child with grace, especially if he / she is prone to feeling ashamed * If a parent is away for work, ways he / she can connect with the kids from the road * How to plan for a difficult conversation with our teenager (and even our kids), especially when there is a rift in the relationship * Championing our kids in their interests and passions, even if they have no outlets for it in our local area * The importance of kids recognizing and putting words to their emotions As a general takeaway for this episode, give yourselves grace. When we walk in grace, it’s easier to pass it onto our kids as well. The questions:  Jen: In episode 51 you talk about emotional safety for our kids and attachment. I recognize the only way I can address my own attachment style and my tendencies and my reasons for flying off the handle (or why certain things make me go to that place) is if I do the hard work of understanding my past and who I am. But I don’t know where to start. I have very little long term memory, so I don’t know how to dig in? Do you recommend any resources for helping along with this deep work? Annie: My oldest is 6, she is extremely independent and smart. I have raised her almost completely by myself because my husband is in the oilfield and physically absent. Over the last year or so she has developed this habit of every time I try and correct her (often my delivery isn’t with grace) she responds by saying, “It’s because I’m stupid, I’m just stupid.” She just seems so frustrated and defeated. I can’t seem to get through to her to try again or that she isn’t dumb/stupid. I know I have done something maybe to contribute to that. But since it’s already been done, what is something I can say to maybe help navigate or reframe her mindset. I also need to say I have NEVER called her that. However, I know she has heard me say things like, “This is so stupid,” talking about lots of different things. Lindsay: I just found your podcast in a major time of need. I just feel I’m getting it all wrong. I’ve listened to a few of your episodes and know I need to change my parenting style. I have a 16-year-old who previously to this last year was easy to raise. The last year has been a living nightmare and I’m handling it all wrong. I’m disappointing, angry, mean, and just lost. My question is, how do you suggest I start making a change? I know I need to sit down and have a conversation but I don’t know where to start. Shannon: My daughter is nine years old and she hates sports, exercise and being outdoors. She loves singing and performing and creating movies on her iPad. Unfortunately we live in an area where our school only offers athletics – there is no chorus, show choir, drama, or band. My daughter has a meltdown and wants to quit anytime something is difficult. She is a pleaser, is very sensitive and wants to fit in and be included. So we make her play rec sports because a) she needs the exercise and b) we are worried that if we let her quit now that she will regret it once she gets up to junior high and all of her friends are on teams. She currently complains about leaving the house to go...
August 15, 2018
Welcome to Season 4 of the “In This Together” podcast! School is back in session. In this episode, we talk about three ways we can spiritually prepare our kids for the new school year. Whether you homeschool, or your kids go to a public or private school, this episode will help guide your family to spiritually prepare your kids (and yourself) for the school year ahead. Here are the questions we consider to help us: * What is the biggest lesson you learned from last school year? Revisit that lesson. Write it down. What decisions will you make differently this year as a result? * What parental agendas do you have for your kids that you need to surrender this year? What are questions your kids have about the year ahead? * What two values do you want to instill in your kids this school year? * Do you have a family mission’s statement? Put a plan in place to start one this week. * What is one thing you can remove from your family calendar that is adding undo pressure? Podcast Sponsors:
August 8, 2018
The final week of our “Best Of” Series is one that will challenge your faith. We listened to it again and it was like watching a movie the second time around. There was much we missed the first time that we needed right now in this season of our lives. Faith is the currency of heaven. We all need more of it. You may be in a season where you think that a “faith adventure” is just too much… * “But we are in survival mode.” * “Maybe when the kids are out of the house.” * “I’m too afraid.” We ourselves have said everyone of these. Christine Caine shares her family’s story of living a faith adventure and graciously shows us why we can’t afford not to. Here are a few highlights from one our favorite episodes! * How to overcome our, “But, God.” * Why marriage and family is a crucial part of Christian witness in the days ahead. * How our paralyzing fear serves nobody, and how to overcome it. * How to bring our kids on the adventure, no matter their age, and why our kids deserve it! Don’t miss this one. The topic is too important. Show Notes: Purchase Unexpected: Leave Fear Behind, Move Forward in Faith, Embrace the Adventure by Christine Caine, click here.         
August 1, 2018
Welcome to week 3 of our “Best Of” series! As Dr. Townsend states about entitlement, “This isn’t a generational problem; it’s a human problem.” Apparently, a lot of parents in our generation don’t want their kids to be entitled. It was the most listened to episode of season 3! Entitlement, according to Dr. John Townsend, is “a belief that I am exempt from responsibility and that I am owed special treatment.” Unfortunately, you don’t have to look too far today to find entitled kids–and adults! In this episode, Dr. Townsend helps parents learn how to not raise entitled kids. An incredibly practical discussion, you’ll learn the three antidotes to entitlement and hear Dr. Townsend explain the following three ways to apply the antidote: * Change your language * Do hard things first * Keep inconvenient commitments Dr. Townsend encourages us, “Kids need to grow up at a dinner table where mom and dad are doing interesting things.” Here’s to being parents who take responsibility, live well, and show our kids how to be grateful. Show Notes:  Learn from a Role Play Coach. Join TownsendNOW today! To learn more about Townsend Leadership Program, click here. Learn more about earning a Master’s degree through the Townsend Institute. Click here. To purchase The Entitlement Cure by Dr. John Townsend, click here.
July 25, 2018
Welcome to week 2 of our “Best Of” series! Emotional safety was one of the most requested topics in season 3. Not only that, this episode became one of the most listened to of any we did. When we first became parents we were exhausted and overwhelmed by the opinions of what we “should” do. That’s why we decided to start with the end in mind. With the outcomes we most desire in our kids when they become adults. What we found is that emotional safety—more than any other factor—is scientifically linked to raising kids who live, love, and lead well. In other words, the posture from which we parent matters infinitely more than the techniques of parenting. What is emotional safety? In this episode, we answer this question and discuss: * The Golden Rule of relationships * Four walls of a Safe House (exploration, protection, grace, truth) * Four parenting styles (BFF, helicopter, boss, religious) * How to lead in grace and follow up in truth as we discipline * Why being a parent isn’t rocket science; it’s just brain surgery. Show Notes: To order Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well, click here!               Interested in going through the 6-week DVD Safe House Parent Study with your spouse or church small group? Click here to learn more!    
July 18, 2018
We’re kicking off our “Best Of” Series for season 3. During the summer we take a little hiatus to regroup, rejuvenate, and plan for our upcoming season–season 4! In part 1 of of our “Best of” series, we revisit our interview with Frank Tate. As one of the most highly listened to and commented about episodes, we chose it first because of how it will change your view of being a parent. If you’re a regular listener and were unable to listen to this episode, put it at the top of your list. Likewise, if you’re new to the podcast, put it at the top of your list. This is time well spent! In his upcoming book, Foster Kid, Frank tells his riveting story and leaves behind nuggets of wisdom he’s picked up from the screaming data of raising his own two kids. Here’s a few nuggets he discusses with us in this episode: * How to listen to your kids’ screaming data * Why parents should be editors, not authors * How to avoid GPS (Generational Peer Stress) Parenting * What “goodwill shaming” is and why we do it * Why you should give data-based praise * How to champion your child’s inner genius (and potentially save lots of money on a college education) If there is one episode that will change how you think about parenting, this is that episode.
July 11, 2018
Championing kids with special needs or medical disabilities can be quite difficult on many levels. First, there’s the academic needs of the child. For instance, in some school systems, grades become emphasized over emotional development or character. Other schools lack the resources to champion the heart or strengths of the child. In addition, there’s the therapeutic needs of the child. From a financial perspective, this can put quite a strain on the family. We close out this three-part series on families with children who have disabilities or special needs by talking with Kelly Bagwell. She and her husband Jeff are on the latter end of the journey, as their twin boys (who are on the autism spectrum) are about to graduate high school. She is also a high school teacher with special education students and a certified Christian counselor. So her perspective comes from all sides. However, as you listen, especially if you’re a parent, what you’ll hear is raw emotion and honesty about how to champion your family and kids. It’s an honest conversation about the challenges, necessary steps, and gifts of raising children with special needs. Show Notes:  Click here for the 100 Day Kit for Newly Diagnosed Families of Young Children at www.autismspeaks.org. Podcast Sponsor:
July 4, 2018
So often, conversation on kids with intellectual disabilities centers on ministry “to” children with disabilities. What if we instead focused on the ministry “of” children with disabilities? In this episode, Amy Julia Becker presents us with a massive paradigm shift on many levels. After reading her cover article in Christianity Today titled The Ministry of the Disabled, we knew we needed to learn from her. A graduate of Princeton University and Princeton Theological Seminary, Amy Julia’s essays about faith, family, and disability have appeared in the Washington Post, USA Today, Christianity Today, the Christian Century, and online for The New York Times, ABCNews, the Atlantic, Vox, and The Huffington Post. Here are some highlights of our conversation: * Changing how we see the word “need.” Would you describe yourself as “being needy?” What if it were a necessary and good thing? * Why it’s important to receive people (especially our kids) as they are given to us, not through the lens of who we want them to be. * How Amy Julia discovered the core parental fears and idols she had after learning her daughter, Penny, had Downs Syndrome. * Tangible ways we can all come alongside families who have children with disabilities. * How churches can include children with disabilities. * Very practical ways we can celebrate and champion every child, and look for ways to bring everyone together. Show Notes:  Visit Amy Julia Becker’s website by clicking here.  Click here to read Amy Julia’s Christianity Today article title, The Ministry of the Disabled.  Click here for A Good and Perfect Gift: Faith, Expectations, and a Little Girl Named Penny. Click here for Small Talk: Learning From my Children About What Matters Most.               Podcast Sponsors:
June 27, 2018
Parenting children with special needs or medical disabilities brings with it so many added variables. As if having a strong marriage and being a great parent weren’t hard enough, what happens when you have to travel for 20 hours of therapy each week in addition to your other tasks and roles? This is the journey Nick and Jackie Tait are walking. With three beautiful children ages five and under, their five year old was born at 23 weeks. Today, he is a walking miracle. However, he has medical disabilities and developing special needs that require added attention and care. In this episode, we talk with Nick and Jackie (a 22:6 family!) about their story. Their countenance and approach alone speaks volumes. They share with us not only what they have done to maintain a strong marriage, but also what they need from others who aren’t walking the same road. Here are a few highlights from our discussion with Nick and Jackie: * Grieving the loss of dreams you had for your child * The pressure of social media in comparing your family to others * The surprising benefits of reaching out and asking for help * The high divorce rate and how to focus on your marriage * How to genuinely interact with each child * Practical advice on how to interact with families who have a child with special or medical needs Guest bios: Jackie Tait is married to her college sweetheart, Nick, and is a mama to three littles. As a nonprofit writer and communicator, she is passionate about child and maternal health and telling the stories of the world’s most vulnerable people. Her first children’s book, The Adventures of Abuelito, is available on Amazon, benefitting UC San Diego’s neonatal intensive care unit where she serves on the Women and Infants Advisory Council. Based out of San Diego, Nick Tait is a commercial insurance broker at Marsh & McLennan Agency and leads the Life Science Practice Group for the West region. Originally from the U.K., Nick has been married to his wife, Jackie, for eleven years, and together they have three children. In his spare time, Nick enjoys traveling with his family, playing golf and following Formula 1 racing. Show Notes:  Click here to check out Jackie’s children book: The Adventures of Abuelito.               Podcast Sponsors: To learn more about the 22:6 Parenting Community, click here! We’d love to journey with you!
June 20, 2018
Money is one of the single biggest reasons for divorce today. If we don’t have vision for our money, it will own us. Chris Brown, host of Life, Money, and Hope and a Ramsey Personality, joins us this week to talk about two primary topics: A.) How and why to budget from a Biblical perspective. B.) How to teach our kids about money. Here’s a specific overview of what we talked about: * How to tell your money where it’s going * How the Western world and Biblical teaching contradicts one another when it comes to money * Why normal in today’s world is broken * How to shift your mindset about money * Surprising statistics about families and money today * 3 ways to teach your kids about how to give, save, and spend * A surprising perspective on college debt Show Notes: Check out Life, Money, Hope with Chris Brown. Click here.             Click here for Financial Peace University, Jr.  Podcast Sponsors: 
June 13, 2018
With Father’s Day approaching, we want to honor dads. In particular, we share stories from our own dads. In this episode, I (Josh) share about what I’ve learned about being a dad, from my dad. He went to be with Jesus in November, 2016, but his legacy lives on in our family. Christi also shares memories from her childhood and the influence of her dad to this day. In this episode, you’ll hear about: * Dad jokes. Yes, dad jokes. * How to make the most of the moments with our kids and those we love. * The importance of being others-centered. * The power in telling stories of how your dad influenced you. Show Notes: For Celebration of Life Video of David E. Straub, click here.  The Boat!             Podcast Sponsors:
June 6, 2018
Your questions have been so good! We love hearing from each of you. This episode covers more questions related to parenting. In this week’s episode we discuss: * How kids handle emotions * New ways to think about your child’s overwhelming emotions * The difference between a temper tantrum and an act of disobedience * Sibling rivalry * How to handle grief and loss with kids * And how should we handle family members who don’t hold their kids to the same values we hold ours to, especially when we spend a lot of time together with them? Again, if you want to submit a question for a future episode, simply click here to submit your question. It’s an honor journeying with you! Show Notes:  Click here for Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys by Stephen Thomas and David Thomas Click here for Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well Click here for FREE Feelings Chart for Kids! This week’s questions: Emma: I am a part time single parent. My children are 5, 4 and 8 months. Last night, my eldest would not stop slamming things. I told him if he was going to continue this he would not have the sweets he was going to have for dessert when he finished his fruit. He slammed and his sweets were taken away. He then refused to get in the bath, refused to brush his teeth, refused to get into bed, and refused to be quiet so I could put the baby to sleep. I tried many things. He ended up slamming his door and crying in his bed (after 1 hour of all this). When I had gotten the baby to sleep, and my middle child was sleeping, I went into his room, told him his behavior was unacceptable, but that I still love him and always will. I told him that tomorrow was a new day and a new start. I had to keep my physical distance from my son as I was so angry with him that I was afraid of hurting him in my anger (grabbing him, pushing him, etc.). I was so angry that I could not hug him, or try to calm him, when he would not listen. What could I have done? Nichole: I have two things we struggle with in our house more recently. Part I: We have a 10-year-old and 5-year-old boy. I feel like we always have to separate the two of them because they both just can’t play together well without fighting. Or my older son always wants to be away from his younger brother. I want to foster a healthy brother relationship for the boys and for them to grow up loving each other. Can we get more tips or ideas to foster this relationship and teach them better how to love each other more! Part II: We have also struggled this past year with death. We have had 4 huge losses and the kids went to all funerals. I can see they get anxious about things, more teary and worried. So we would love tips in how to continue to make them feel safe and that they don’t have to be scared or so sad. We talk about heaven and Jesus and have a huge love of the Lord,
May 30, 2018
When should I get my child her first phone? Once I get that first phone, how should I set it up? What limits should I set on it? Is my child’s phone different than the one I buy? We get so many questions from parents about what to do, and what not to do, when it comes to their child’s first phone. Navigating the world of screens can feel scary, but it doesn’t have to be! In this episode, we interview Michael Kong, CEO and founder of Forcefield, a parental control product he developed when his girls were in middle school (5 years ago). He shares with us what he’s learned first as a dad, and now as a developer. With your kids home for the summer, this is a fascinating episode on screens you won’t want to miss. Show Notes:  Try Forcefield FREE for 30 days! Just click here. Podcast Sponsor:
May 23, 2018
In 2015, Corie Weathers was named Military Spouse of the Year. That was in large part because of how her husband, Chaplain Matthew Weathers, nominated and championed her. But as we all know, championing your spouse is much easier when you feel championed. In honor of Military Appreciation Month, we wanted to honor and learn from the marriage of a military family who is also in the trenches serving other military families and first responders. In this episode, Chaplain Matthew and Corie Weathers take us behind their own picture frame and teach us how they connect personally as a military family. Even more, they share with us incredibly powerful insights and tools they use to help military and first responder families thrive. The nuggets harvested from this episode are gold. Here are a few of them: * How to praise your spouse * The power in seeing your spouse as a bonsai tree * How to find purpose together in your marriage, especially for families with traveling spouses * How much is too much to share with your spouse, especially in relation to deployment or where trauma is involved * What it means to have sacred spaces in marriage and how not to miss them * The feeling wheel on their refrigerator * The healthy competition that keeps Team Weathers thriving. Show Notes:  Click here to download the Lifegiver App Click here to learn more about Corie’s book, Sacred Spaces: My Journey to the Heart of Military Marriage To listen to Raising Emotionally Safe Kids with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub on the Lifegiver Podcast, click here. Podcast Sponsors: 
May 16, 2018
When you hear the phrase, “faith adventure,” what comes to mind? Excitement. Risk. Trust. Memories. Miracles. Or does the rational, natural side of your brain kick in? * “But we are in survival mode.” * “Maybe when the kids are out of the house.” * “I’m too afraid.” We ourselves have said everyone of these. In this episode, Christine Caine shares her family’s story of living a faith adventure and graciously shows us why we can’t afford not to. Here are a few highlights from one our favorite episodes! * How to overcome our, “But, God.” * Why marriage and family is a crucial part of Christian witness in the days ahead. * How our paralyzing fear serves nobody, and how to overcome it. * How to bring our kids on the adventure, no matter their age, and why our kids deserve it! Christine Caine is an Australian born, Greek blooded, lover of Jesus, activist, author and international speaker. She and her husband, Nick, founded the global anti-human trafficking organization, The A21 Campaign. They also founded Propel Women, an organization designed to activate women to fulfill their God-given passion, purpose, and potential. Christine is the author of six books including Unexpected, which we discuss in this episode. Don’t miss this one. The topic is too important. Show Notes: Purchase Unexpected: Leave Fear Behind, Move Forward in Faith, Embrace the Adventure by Christine Caine, click here.            Podcast Sponsors:
May 9, 2018
First comes love, then comes marriage, then comes that sweet, lovely, and wonderful baby carriage. Then comes our in-laws telling us how to parent. Then comes our parents spoiling our kids. Okay, so that may sound a bit dramatic. At least we hope so for your sake. Truthfully, we loved seeing our parents become grandparents. That doesn’t mean we haven’t had to figure things out along the way, sometimes with difficult conversations. But it does mean that our parents have our hearts. And because they have our hearts, they have incredible influence in how their grandkids are being raised. In this episode, we go behind the scenes to talk about our own relationship with our parents and how they grandparent our kids. We also discuss practical ways for unity and honor to be the soil for the intergenerational relationships in your family to flourish. Podcast Sponsors:
May 2, 2018
If parenting is difficult, single parenting is all the more unyielding and lonely. In this episode, we learn from someone walking the road of single parenting. Even more, she gives us insights into her own ministry to single moms in her church community. Nicole C. Mullen, a two time Grammy nominated recording artist and Female Vocalist of the Year Award winner, who is now a single mom of three, shares her story. Since her difficult divorce, she has emerged from a “night season” stronger than she’s ever been before. Compiling her story into a new album fittingly titled, Like Never Before, Nicole shares how she had to learn to forgive and relates to those who have walked through betrayal and hurt. Church leaders, single parents, and families with single parent friends will find this episode incredibly insightful, practical, and inspiring! Show Notes:  Be sure to check out more of Nicole’s story at www.nicolecmullen.com. For Nicole C. Mullen’s latest album Like Never Before, featuring her kids, click here.  Podcast Sponsors:
April 25, 2018
Welcome to our third Q & A episode! As always, we’re grateful for the opportunity to journey with you. Thank you for submitting your questions. In this episode, we address questions specifically related to parenting teenagers, dealing with respect, the reasons for increasing anxiety and depression in teens, and managing technology in the home. Here’s a review of the questions we discuss in this episode: * What to do with a teen who is rude and disrespectful when spending too much time on technology. * How to manage our own anxiety and depression and not pass it onto our children. * Why anxiety and depression are increasing in kids and teens. * When to say yes to our teens (so they can prove their trust to us) and when to say no (without overprotecting them). * How to encourage our teenagers to be self-motivated. The questions: I am a Christian, and I struggle with anxiety and depression. I am going to counseling to work through these struggles, and my goal is to hopefully not pass them on to my children. Do you have any advice or resources you would recommend?  – Ashley My 15 year-old is rude when he spends too much time with his technology. My husband and I have set boundaries and he continues to break these boundaries. When we enforce consequences by taking his technology (all of it) away for periods of time, his attitude changes. However, this is a cyclical pattern that has been reoccuring for 2 years now. He uses his technology for good purposes. He’s learning to speak 3 languages online. He’s very bright, but sometimes his intelligence gives way to pride and disrespect. What advice can you offer us?  -Jen Depression in teenagers appears to be on the rise. What are the causes? How do we as parents help our teenager?  -Teresa I have 2 teen girls. They have been raised in the church and learning God’s word. Yet, they battle the temptations of this world via social media and public school life. I try to keep them centered on being in the world but not of the world. To rely on God’s word and not the lies of the world. With that said, I struggle with how much slack I give to let them make–and learn–from their mistakes so they will be refined and grow, yet keep them from falling off the cliff (so to speak).  Bottom line, as their guide, I struggle with when to speak up, put my foot down, say “NO,” VERSUS when to be silent, say “YES,” and trust them to make some decisions (even if I do not agree 100%) hoping they will learn as they go.  -Michelle I have an adopted daughter age 14 and I feel that I have missed the mark on a few things. I need your help and would like a do-over on some things. For example technology, respect, and responsibility. I’m married to a wonderful man and we have to move forward and make some changes.  -Helena Show Notes:  Parents –> This episode is super practical -> Episode #47: Screaming Data: How to Hear Your Kid’s Passions and Strengths by Observing Their Actions with Frank Tate The Screen-Balanced Family Workbook (with included Family Media Agreement). Use code: JCPODCAST20 for 20% off. We appreciate you being an ongoing listener and journeying with us! Why Mister Rogers is Smarter Than Baby Einstein Podcast Sponsors: Try Forcefield, the best parental control software on the market, FREE for 30 days! Click here.
April 18, 2018
Entitlement, according to Dr. John Townsend, is “a belief that I am exempt from responsibility and that I am owed special treatment.” Unfortunately, you don’t have to look too far today to find entitled kids–and adults! As Dr. Townsend states, “This isn’t a generational problem; it’s a human problem.” In this episode, Dr. Townsend helps parents learn how to not raise entitled kids. An incredibly practical discussion, you’ll learn the three antidotes to entitlement and hear Dr. Townsend explain the following three ways to apply the antidote: * Change your language * Do hard things first * Keep inconvenient commitments Dr. Townsend encourages us, “Kids need to grow up at a dinner table where mom and dad are doing interesting things.” Here’s to being parents who take responsibility, live well, and show our kids how to be grateful. Show Notes:  Learn from a Role Play Coach. Join TownsendNOW today! To learn more about Townsend Leadership Program, click here. Learn more about earning a Master’s degree through the Townsend Institute. Click here.         To purchase The Entitlement Cure by Dr. John Townsend, click here.                 Podcast Sponsors:
April 16, 2018
With Mother’s Day just around the corner, we wanted to do something special for moms, so I (Christi) decided to host an online Bible study! The study is called Mom Set Free by our friend Jeannie Cunnion, it begins May 17, and it’s good news for moms who are tired of trying to be good enough. We love Jeannie and wanted you to have a special opportunity to get to know and learn from her! This episode describes the details of the upcoming online Bible study and also includes our original interview with Jeannie where she talks about “wrestling with the wild grace of God,” so she could learn to overcome shame and give grace to her kids in their weaknesses and brokenness. To learn more about the online Bible study and to sign up, click here! Show Notes: Click here to sign up for the FREE online Bible study. Have more questions? Check out the Online Bible Study FAQs. To pick up a copy of the Mom Set Free Bible study book, you can order online or pull off the shelf from your local LifeWay Store.
April 11, 2018
Does parenting sometimes feel complicated to you? You can’t even leave the hospital before having to make a decision on whether or not you’re going to immunize your child. Think about some of the other choices we have to make as parents in the twenty-first century. ~  “Is it okay that our baby sleep in bed with us?” ~  “Should we let our baby cry it out?” ~  “Is spanking okay? Or should we do time-outs?” ~  “How do I respond to a temper tantrum?” ~  “Wait, we’re supposed to do time-ins? What’s a time-in?” ~  “Should I stay home with the kids or put them in day care?” ~  “Should we homeschool or send our kids to a private or public school?” ~  “How much screen time do I let my kids have?” To be quite honest, we were exhausted. That’s why we decided to start with the end in mind. With the outcomes we most desire in our kids when they become adults. What we found is that emotional safety—more than any other factor—is scientifically linked to raising kids who live, love, and lead well. In other words, the posture from which we parent matters infinitely more than the techniques of parenting. What is emotional safety? In this episode, we answer this question and discuss: * The Golden Rule of relationships * Four walls of a Safe House (exploration, protection, grace, truth) * Four parenting styles (BFF, helicopter, boss, religious) * How to lead in grace and follow up in truth as we discipline * Why being a parent isn’t rocket science; it’s just brain surgery. Show Notes: To order Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well, click here!               Interested in going through the 6-week DVD Safe House Parent Study with your spouse or church small group? Click here to learn more!                   Podcast Sponsors: For a FREE one month trial for 22:6 Parenting, click here.             For more information on a LifeWay Women’s event near you, click here!    
April 4, 2018
In the spirit of interviewing people who influence us personally, this episode features marriage mentors of our own, David and Claudia Arp. Married for 55 years, their insights on marriage have influenced the types of conversations we have in our marriage today. In this episode, David and Claudia share the secrets that have kept them enjoying their marriage for more than five decades. In addition, they introduce us to their research based marriage program, 10 Great Dates! Here are some insights you’ll hear from them in this episode: * The story of their greatest period of emotional disconnection in their marriage (hint: it was when their kids were young!) * How they overcame this season and the lessons they learned from it * Why having fun in marriage is serious business * The beauty of an anger contract * How both spouses can be right * Why it’s important to walk down memory lane * The amazing benefit of intimacy coupons Finally, we had the privilege of being a part of David and Claudia’s updated 10 Great Dates curriculum. Be sure to check it out and watch our video journals. They were pretty epic 🙂 Show Notes: Order the 10 Great Dates Book + Video Curriculum and Receive 20% off your order! COUPON CODE: together20             Visit David and Claudia’s website at 10GreatDates.org, click here. 10 Great Dates: Connecting Faith, Love & Marriage                 Podcast Sponsors: For more information on upcoming LifeWay Women’s events in your area, click here!               To learn more about Exile International and how you can partner in restoring former child soldiers to become leaders for peace, click here!
March 28, 2018
Welcome to our second Q & A episode! Thank you for submitting your questions. In this episode, we address questions specifically related to marriage, sex, and what to do when you and your spouse are not on the same page. Here’s a review of the questions we discuss in this episode: * How can I stop from feeling wrong and dirty about sex with my spouse? * What do I do when my spouse isn’t “on the same page.” * How can I encourage godliness in my son when his dad isn’t actively growing in his faith? * What is the best way to help our kids heal after years of marital turmoil we are now trying to fix? The questions: From Amanda: My husband and I have been married for about 4 1/2 years and have had sex about 4 times. Every time I begin to feel good I also feel incredibly wrong and dirty. I believe this may stem from my abstinence, true love waits upbringing, but in marriage it’s now time to stop waiting. Mentally, I can grasp this concept but I’m having a hard time letting my body catch up. Are there any resources you can recommend to get past this mental block? From Amanda: How do I implement the great advice and tools you offer if my spouse is “not on the same page”? From Natalie: One of the best gifts that we can give our children is a strong spiritual marriage with our Lord Jesus Christ and our spouse. How do you recommend doing that when your spouse isn’t a strong believer and isn’t actively growing their faith but rather seems to be slipping down the trap doors Satan has planted. What are ways as a wife/mom to encourage godliness in our son when he isn’t seeing that in his earthly father and to encourage repentance in our husbands? From Tara: A question about family healing after turmoil. When a marriage has been through major turmoil or brokenness with many things said and did through anger, hurt, and regret, how do you heal the kids and the family unit once the marriage is piecing back together and healing. How do marital struggles affect the children? How can you help them heal when mom and dad feel they have caused damage with their own struggles in the marriage? Show Notes:  For information related to sexual wholeness in marriage, you can visit our trusted friend and colleague’s website, Dr. Doug Rosenau at www.sexualwholeness.com. A Celebration of Sex: A Guide to Enjoying God’s Gift of Married Sexual Pleasure by Dr. Doug Roseneau Intended for Pleasure: Sex Technique and Sexual Fulfillment in Christian Marriage by Ed and Gaye Wheat Enjoy: The Gift of Sexual Pleasure for Women by Joyce Penner Moving Mountains by John Eldredge Blog...
March 21, 2018
The resurrection of Jesus changed everything. But how do we help our kids understand the resurrection in a concrete way? How can we communicate to our kids the power that Christ has in our life? Don’t get us wrong, we love chocolate and Easter eggs, but how can we make sure Easter isn’t just another holiday for our kids. In this episode, we clarify four ways we can turn the abstract message of the resurrection into a concrete message our kids can begin to understand. * Live out the resurrection for our kids. * Use resurrection eggs. * Raise caterpillars. This is our favorite. * Die to something that has power over you. Being families who live, love, and lead well begins with the resurrection. Let’s not allow Easter to slip by as just another holiday. Instead, let’s be intentional about walking daily in the authority and resurrection of Jesus. Our kids are watching, and always learning. Show Notes:  To purchase Resurrection Eggs, click here. To purchase caterpillars, click here.  For the blogpost, How I’m Dying in my Marriage & Why That’s a Good Thing, click here. Sponsors: To learn more about Exile International and how you can partner in restoring former child soldiers to become leaders for peace, click here!               For more information on upcoming LifeWay Women’s events in your area, click here!
March 14, 2018
If you love stories that lead to practical truths, this episode is for you! Frank Tate is one of Josh’s closest friends on the planet. Even more, his insights as a dad have revolutionized the way we parent our kids. Growing up as a foster kid, Frank came to know “invisible Jesus” as his dad. During that time, Frank began asking Him what good dads do. Then, in Sunday School as a little boy, Frank remembers learning that wisdom cries aloud in the streets (Proverbs 1:20). With this newfound truth, Frank ventured into the world looking for “screaming data” on what it takes to be a good dad, because he never wanted his own children growing up the way he did. The “screaming data” Frank learned through the years and the stories he tells will leave you wanting more. One of the most invaluable truths Frank discusses is that, as parents, we can’t hear screaming data if we’re screaming data. Too often, we don’t listen to our kids’ passions or see their strengths. That’s because we’re too busy trying to make them into the people we want them to become. In his upcoming book, Foster Kid, Frank tells his riveting story and leaves behind nuggets of wisdom he’s picked up from the screaming data of raising his own two kids. Here’s a few nuggets he discusses with us in this episode: * How to listen to your kids’ screaming data * Why parents should be editors, not authors * How to avoid GPS (Generational Peer Stress) Parenting * What “goodwill shaming” is and why we do it * Why you should give data-based praise * How to champion your child’s inner genius (and potentially save lots of money on a college education) If there is one episode that will change how you think about parenting, this is that episode. Show Notes:  To stay up-to-date on the progress of the Foster Kid book, click here. Visit fosterkidbook.com to sign up for updates. Podcast Sponsors:  Sign up today for a FREE one month trial of 22:6 Parenting! Click here to learn more.            Sign up today for a FREE 30 day trial. Click here to learn more! 
March 7, 2018
Jonathan and Wynter Pitts have four beautiful girls. At one point, three of them were in diapers at the same time. As you can imagine, Wynter was overwhelmed. But in the middle of the exhaustion and discontentment, she found purpose and contentment. During this time, the Lord revealed to her a need he wanted her to fill for girls in today’s culture. Today, she leads a ministry called For Girls Like You, a magazine for girls that unravels the heart of God for them. Her passion for raising girls who find their identity in Christ is contagious. In this episode, Wynter, along with her husband Jonathan, who serves as Executive Director for the Urban Alternative (the ministry of Dr. Tony Evans), describe practical ways they shepherd the hearts of their girls. Fellow dads, you also want to listen to what Jonathan has to share. The conversation in this episode is so rich and applicable to each of us, but to dads especially, Jonathan will encourage you. Here are a few highlights from this episode: * How to see the art of parenting as Kingdom work * What it means to invite our kids into our world * How to strive for presence, not perfection * Why we need to give our kids more credit * The power of turning things outward for our kids * The difference between good intentions and intentionality You cannot listen to Jonathan + Wynter without one of their many insights sticking on you. As they state, “The degree we reflect Christ as parents is the degree to which our kids will see Christ.” Show Notes: Visit For Girls Like You and subscribe to the quarterly magazine, click here! Click here to purchase She is Yours by Jonathan + Wynter Pitts               Podcast Sponsors:  To find a LifeWay Women event near you, click here!               We would absolutely LOVE to have you join the 22:6 Parenting Community! Click here to learn more.
February 28, 2018
This is our first Q & A episode! Thank you for submitting your questions. In this episode, we address questions specifically related to parenting young children. Here’s a review of the questions we discuss in this episode: * What are good, practical survival tips for our marriage? * How do I hit the reset button after blowing up at my kids? * I struggle with setting limits on technology. * I’m a single mom and I’m all alone. The questions: From Jody: In September, we will be welcoming into the world our fourth child in 5 years. We are very excited. But it is definitely tough because we have zero help from grandparents and are on our own. What are some good practical survival tips for our marriage in this season to keep it “till death do us part and not till kids do us part?” From Jenny: Two sick toddlers + one sick mommy = a terrible, horrible morning today. After the dust settles though, how do I come back from that? My kids recover more quickly than I do. How do I hit the reset button after blowing up at my kids and show them patience and love again, without needing to take a break from them? From Jenny: I have a three-year-old and struggle with setting limits on technology but also allowing her to explore technology. I don’t want her left behind with knowing how to use it but I want her to be a kid and learn how to be independent of it. I struggle with the balance. From Kerry: I’m a single mom. My boyfriend left when I was 3.5 months pregnant. I’ve now been on my own for the past six years. I am all alone. What can I do? I’m missing the conversation with an adult. I read books, I read the Bible, but I miss socializing with friends. I go to church, but the church is so big. I don’t particularly like hanging out with other couples with kids. I do sometimes and the dads try to include my daughter in wrestling, etc. but it’s just not the same. Help? Podcast Sponsors:  Try Forcefield today for a FREE 30-day trial! Click here to learn more! For LifeWay Women events in your area, featuring Beth Moore, Priscilla Shirer, and more, click here!
February 21, 2018
Jamie Ivey’s Happy Hour podcast was Christi’s gateway drug into the podcastosphere. So you can imagine what a joy it was to have Jamie, and her husband Aaron, join us on our podcast. We love these two human souls because they embody healthy authenticity. Jamie’s new book is called If You Only Knew: My Unlikely, Unavoidable Story of Becoming Free. The title itself is a fitting description of our conversation. As parents to four children, Jamie and Aaron have navigated ministry, marriage, and adoption. Once Jamie navigated her way through her own story, finding identity in Christ, she became free to lead–as a wife, as a mom, and as a successful podcaster. And that’s what you hear throughout the interview: a message of freedom. Jamie and Aaron give us the permission to tell our stories and the importance of doing so for our family. So we can champion our marriage. Get rid of shame as a mom. Be present as a dad. So many of us want rid of the nagging feeling of shame. We desire vulnerability. Jamie and Aaron share how they found it, and lead boldly because of their identity in Christ. Show Notes:  Check out Jamie and Aaron’s book and Jamie’s podcast below. If You Only Knew: My Unlikely, Unavoidable Story of Becoming Free by Jamie Ivey               Steal Away Home by Matt Carter & Aaron Ivey                 The Happy Hour with Jamie Ivey Podcast                 Sponsors:  Forcefield: The best parental control software on the market. Become a digital mentor to your kids. Click here for a FREE 30 day trial!                 22:6 Parenting: A parenting community designed to give you more confidence as a parent.  
February 14, 2018
Why is it that our natural tendency is to become hard and insensitive toward the person we love the most? Rather than being quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to become angry (James 1:19), we’re quick to defend ourselves, quick to cast blame, and slow to understand—a recipe that keeps us enslaved to self-righteousness, and too often, unable to forgive. In this episode, we talk about 5 ways you can create a culture of forgiveness in your marriage: * Forgive from the heart but set boundaries on behavior. * Don’t defend yourself. * Clothe yourself in gentleness, because bitterness is unattractive. * Pray this one prayer each day for your spouse. * Take the Golden Rule and replace the word “do” with the word “understand.” We also reveal the first three actions we give to a couple who call us because they feel stuck in their marriage. If you feel stuck, forgiveness may be the first place to begin. Show Notes: For counseling referrals in your local area, enter your zip code in one of the links below: Focus on the Family Counselor Network American Association of Christian Counselors Thriveworks  Blog Post: How 15 Minutes Is Changing Our Marriage Podcast Sponsors:  LifeWay Women Events. For the latest events in your area, click here.          Exile International. To learn more about how you can serve war affected children, click here.
February 7, 2018
We asked families in our 22:6 Parenting audience this one question: What’s your #1 struggle as a parent? We had over 700 responses. Last week we covered struggles 6-10. In part 2, we talk about the top 5 struggles of today’s parents. We also offer some practical insights on how we can overcome these struggles. In this episode, we talk about the top 5 struggles: 5. How do I disciple my kids? 4. I lose my patience. 3. I feel inadequate. 2. How can I get my kids to obey? (Discipline) 1. There’s not enough time. Also, we invite YOU to ask us questions and be on the podcast. We will have Q&A episodes this season. Just click here to ask your questions or submit your topic.  Show Notes: Be on the podcast! Submit your question / topic here! Christi’s article: A Shame-Free Approach to Teaching our Kids About Jesus written by Christi Straub Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well Other books mentioned in this episode: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brene Brown Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck
January 31, 2018
Welcome to season 3! Last month, we asked families in our 22:6 Parenting audience this one question: What’s your #1 struggle as a parent? We had over 700 responses. Trust us when we say, you’re not alone. In the first two episodes of season 3 we talk about the top 10 struggles of today’s parents. We also offer some practical insights on how we can overcome these struggles. In this episode, we talk about struggles 6-10: 10. Single parenting 9. Technology 8. Raising kids to be independent 7. Communication 6. Respect Finally, in season 3, we are going to focus on topics YOU deal with in your family. That’s why we want to invite YOU to ask us questions and be on the podcast. We will have Q&A episodes this season as well. Just click here to ask your questions or submit your topic.  Show Notes: Be on the podcast! Submit your question / topic here! You can download the electronic nuptial agreement by clicking here. You can also check out The Screen-Balanced Family workbook and digital video series written and produced by Josh + Christi. Click here for the videos + workbook ($29.97). Click here for just the workbook ($14.97).
December 13, 2017
Welcome to our 40th episode! What an incredible and fun year it’s been for the podcast. Having not yet been at this a year, we have learned a lot from each of you. Thank you for becoming a part of our family and making this journey so enjoyable. We thought it would be fitting to close out season 2 by talking about ways we can prioritize our family in the New Year. As the saying goes, “The days are long, but the years are short.” In this episode, we light-heartedly go behind our own crooked picture frame to discuss how we have prioritized–or failed at prioritizing–one another. Throughout the discussion, we also offer practical ways you can have fun with your spouse and make memories with your children in the New Year. In addition, we offer tons of bonuses in the show notes to help you get started. As a fun addition for season 3, we will have specific episodes where we answer listener questions. Therefore, we invite you to ask questions, give us feedback on topics you’d like to hear about, and share the podcast with your friends and family. It is an honor being in this with you! Show Notes:  Receive 20% off The Screen-Balanced Family Digital Videos and Workbook when you use the code: JCPODCAST. Sign up to receive 40 Date Night Ideas + 216 Questions. Click here. To download FREE the 100 Commonly Held Values List, click here.  To download FREE the Marital Electronic Nuptial Agreement, click here. Podcast Sponsors:  Become a digital mentor to your kids. Try Forcefield FREE for 30 days. Click here to learn more.  We would LOVE to have you join our 22:6 Parenting Community! Get monthly discipleship tools, coaching, and a community of like-minded parents. To learn more, click here!
December 6, 2017
When is the last time you and your spouse argued about being too busy? Or maybe you didn’t argue. Perhaps the busyness meant you just passed one another by, like ships in the night. That’s how overcommitment usually begins in our home. It’s not until we feel the stress of trying to manage it all that we begin to argue. That’s when we “see” one another floating by. Let’s face it, overcommitment is plaguing today’s families. Unfortunately, the first casualty is usually our marriage. Whether it’s finances, work, kid’s school activities, or even church, we all feel stretched. Without intentionality, our family life will simply go wherever the winds take it. That’s why we decided to make this episode a special one! We were invited to talk about overcommitment in marriage as a part of “marriage week” on Dr. James Dobson’s Family Talk. This is a conversation we want to invite you in on, especially with the demands of the holiday season upon us. Our hope is that after you listen, you and your spouse are able to recognize and talk more openly about when saying yes is adding too much stress. Podcast Sponsors:  Become a digital mentor to your kids today. Try Forcefield FREE for 30 days. Click here.  Struggle with finding time to disciple your kids? 22:6 Parenting gives you the tools you need without adding anything to your already busy day. Click here to subscribe today!
November 29, 2017
There is nothing we want more than to experience the joy of Christmas. Unfortunately, Christmas can leave our time feeling pressed and our wallets stressed. In addition, the holiday also brings along with it some baggage, especially when it comes to our children and the traditions we hold dear. In this episode, we go behind the lens of our own crooked picture frame to discuss some Christmas hot topics. We tell stories about how we were raised and what we implement today in our own family. We also discuss topics like: * Is my gift-giving out of control? * What does an entitled child look like? * Is it okay to lie to my kids about Santa Claus? * What will my kids really remember about Christmas? * How can we truly make it about Jesus’ birth? * Is the attitude I’m modeling for my kids at the holidays one of gratitude or grumbling? * What role do traditions play in our family? As you listen to this episode, think about your own family traditions, values, and what you model for and teach your kids. And be sure to engage the conversation. Tell us stories from your own picture frame. We love learning from you. Podcast Sponsors: If you buy screens at Christmas, consider a 30-day FREE trial of Forcefield. Click here to learn more about becoming a digital mentor to your kids.  To make the most of the time you have with your kids with creative discipleship tools, subscribe today to the 22:6 Parenting community! 
November 22, 2017
Over one-third of Americans live in, or are a part of, a blended family. So many questions abound for stepparents. Fortunately, in this week’s episode, our dear friend and expert on blended families, Ron Deal, answers many of these questions. Ron serves as Director of Family Life Blended and is the author of The Smart Stepfamily, The Smart Stepmom, The Smart Stepfamily Marriage, and The Smart Stepdad. After listening to this episode, you’ll realize he’s smart too. What’s even better, his approach to blended families is honest, but full of grace. He answers questions like: * What does the Bible say about stepfamilies? * I’m trying to instill good values with my kids but my ex-spouse doesn’t. How do I handle that? * What do I tell my kids when they have a new aunt, uncle, grandparent, etc. * How do we deal with loss during the holidays in our family? * We just divorced and now we are both getting remarried. What do we tell our kids to call our new spouses? * How do we decide whose house to go to for the holidays? * And many more! This episode is rich and full of wisdom. If you live in a blended family, grew up in a blended family, or are now raising kids in a blended family, Ron will bless you. Show Notes:  For more information including articles and links to Family Life Blended events, click here. To purchase The Smart StepFamily, click here. For the article, 13 Ideas to Manage Holiday Step-Stress, click here. Podcast Sponsors:  A Parenting Community for Busy Parents. Click here for more information.  Forcefield: For a FREE 30-Day Trial, click here. 
November 19, 2017
Cooler weather. Peppermint mochas. Hallmark movies. The holidays. For many, it’s wonderful. For others, this time of year can be quite chaotic. The pressure of figuring out what to buy. Making travel arrangements. Deciding which family members to spend the holidays with. We try—emphasis on “try”—to talk about the upcoming holidays ahead of time. We pray and think through how we can make the most of it as a family. Having little kids can make it a bit more chaotic for us, but it can also make it a lot more precious too. What #TeamStraub has found out is that, without a plan, it’s too easy to allow the chaos and busyness to rob us from being truly present with those we love most, especially one another. In this week’s episode, we talk through the acronym E.N.J.O.Y.I.N.G., and discuss eight proactive ways we can enjoy the upcoming holiday season as family. Some of the topics we discuss include: * When and how to say “no” * How to navigate Christmas gatherings with extended family * Ways we can be proactive with potentially awkward family interactions * How to simplify our lives * Ways to take care of yourself during the holidays Show Notes: Podcast Exclusive Offer: Sign up and receive the 25 Characters of the Christmas Story: An Advent Experience for Families, in your inbox each day beginning December 1st! Click here to sign up.  Podcast Sponsors: Click here to join 22:6 Parenting! We’d love to journey with you! To become a digital mentor to your kids, try Forcefield FREE for 30 days! Click here to learn more.
November 8, 2017
Do you sometimes feel like you live in a fishbowl? Especially as a parent of young kids, your every move feeling scrutinized by glaring eyes in the grocery store. Or your teenager’s every post on social media a reflection of how you parent? For many of us, the peanut gallery just adds insult to injury. We don’t need the added pressure of the critics or the perfect family on social media to feel like we’re not living up to the expectations we have of ourselves. One person who lives with these feelings heightened to the nth degree is our friend and America’s beloved “DJ Tanner,” Candace Cameron Bure. In spite of living in the fishbowl of Hollywood, Candace lives, loves, and leads with a confidence so many admire. In this episode, she graciously invites us behind the picture frame of her own family. With candor, Candace describes how she filters out the noise of the critics and who she allows to have access to her heart. Based on her new book, Staying Stylish: Cultivating a Confident Look, Style, and Attitude, Candace talks about how she cultivates confidence. However, as you’ll learn, this didn’t happen overnight. Candace details for us: * What she learned living “in the invisible” as a stay-at-home mom for 10 years while her kids were little * How she decides who can have access to her heart * Why it’s important for moms and wives to feel good about themselves (and their style) and how to do it * How she and her husband, Val, navigate raising three teenagers in a social media driven world * The single biggest factor for her in maintaining confidence as a wife, mom, and actor Show Notes: To preorder Staying Stylish: Cultivating a Confident Look, Style, and Attitude, click here. Podcast Sponsors: 22:6 Parenting–Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love Others Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. 
November 1, 2017
Nobody can really prepare us for the chaos, unpredictability, and self-imposed guilt that accompany becoming a parent. Well-intentioned people may try to prepare you for the sleepless nights, colic, and grocery store tantrums, but let’s be honest, you can’t really be prepared until you encounter them. Instead, it was something subtler, yet much deeper, that nearly took me (Christi) out as a momma. Something nobody else warned me about—I lost my identity. In this episode, we talk about what taking care of ourselves as parents looks like from our own picture frame. Rather than remaining stuck in the ongoing cycle of guilt, shame and feelings of depression, together, we are finding a way out. The reason this is so important to us is because research consistently shows that it’s not necessarily what we know about parenting that matters most for how our kids turn out, but who we are becoming as adults. If you too have lost yourself in parenting, this is a conversation we think you’ll find quite refreshing. We not only share our own journey, but we offer realistic and practical ways we can all come alive and rediscover ourselves, even in the midst of parenthood. Because the reality is: the healthier we are, the healthier our kids will be. Show Notes: For the FREE PDF Download: 7 Ways to Disciple Your Kids, click here. For Christi’s blogpost, 11 Ways to Reclaim Yourself in the Midst of Parenthood, click here. For the book, The Slight Edge, click here.  Podcast Sponsors: 22:6 Parenting–Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love Others Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. 
October 25, 2017
Education is one of the most challenging topics for many parents. Do we homeschool our kids? Is it okay to send them to public school? Or should we invest in private school? What about a parent’s role in their child’s education? How much responsibility should we shoulder versus the school itself? These are questions we tackle in this episode with Mr. Stuart Tutler, the Headmaster of New Hope Academy in Franklin, TN. We describe Mr. Tutler as a student of pedagogy. He has a passion for learning about the methods of teaching. In other words, in this episode, Mr. Tutler shares with us what he’s learning to be the best ways to teach kids. Encouraging parents, he answers for us a few questions: * Who’s responsible for a child’s education? * How important is it that my child gets good grades? * What is the role of experience in a child’s education? * How do we navigate the private, homeschool, or public school discussion? * Why and how should we emphasize wellness (i.e. nutrition, movement, rest, etc.) in our child’s education? * How can we educate our children–and ourselves–about the history and issues related to both racial reconciliation and empowering the poor? Speaking of these latter two topics, one of the reasons we love New Hope Academy is because they are committed to providing an excellent, Christ-centered education to all students while intentionally reserving 40 to 50 percent of their seats for children from low-income households. With an emphasis on economic and racial diversity, the heart is to teach kids to love all people. Our discussion in this episode ends with ways we as parents can help our children do just that. No matter your choice of schooling, this is a conversation you won’t want to miss. Show Notes:  For more information about New Hope Academy, click here. Podcast Sponsors: 22:6 Parenting–Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love Others Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. 
October 18, 2017
For parents in the trenches of the early years, this interview is for you. The heart of our conversation with Christy and Nathan Nockels is the story behind their new lullaby album. The reason we were drawn to the story is because we have played Scripture lullabies in our children’s bedrooms from the time they were infants. Ironically, as you’ll learn, this album was birthed in the early years of Christy and Nathan’s journey as parents. Christy Nockels is a worship leader / singer-songwriter. Her husband, Nathan, is a producer (Passion, Matt Redman, Laura Story). Together, they have three beautiful children. Christy and Nathan toured for several years as the duo Watermark. Today, Christy is a GMA Dove Award winner and podcaster. Her own podcast, The Glorious in the Mundane, came from her own journey as a mom. She shares her journey in this episode. Even more, Nathan shares how he championed Christy’s creativity and career from behind the scenes. Truly, the conversation on marriage in this episode, especially for husbands, is so rich. These two not only talk about how they champion one another, but how they have championed their children’s gifts and strengths through the years. Our favorite song on the lullaby album, Pitter Patter Goes the Rain, includes all five of the Nockels’ family. In the end, they give us hope that we don’t just have to survive the early years, but together, as a team, we can thrive there. Show Notes:  Podcast Sponsors:  TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Community. Content. Coaching. Forcefield: Become a digital mentor to your kids.
October 11, 2017
Our affectionally labeled “resident child therapists,” David Thomas and Sissy Goff are back on the podcast! In season 1, David and Sissy joined us to talk about the emotional milestones of boys and girls. Now that school is in full session, we talk with them about social milestones. Respectively, Sissy eloquently describes how girls can develop socially, and David describes what it takes to help boys do the same. The four core social milestones include: awareness, reciprocity, ownership, and boundaries. In this episode, David and Sissy talk about the milestones, and also give us very practical ways we can help our boys and girls, respectively, reach these milestones. Fortunately, they also counsel us a bit with our kids. Christi took copious notes. David and Sissy are licensed counselors and serve at Daystar Counseling in Nashville. Along with Daystar’s founder, Melissa Trevethan, they host a website of helpful resources for parents called Raising Boys and Girls. Show Notes: For the book, Are My Kids on Track? click here. For David’s book, Wild Things: The Art of Nurturing Boys, click here.  www.RaisingBoysandGirls.com Podcast Sponsors: 
October 4, 2017
We want to ask an honest question: Are you the master of your screen, or is your screen the master of you? Nobody doubts the pervasiveness of screens in our culture today, especially among kids and teens. But when was the last time you stopped and truly asked yourself, “What, about my screen, do I accept without question?” Don’t misunderstand us, we don’t believe screens are all bad. We just want to be honest with ourselves. And after listening to our conversation in this episode, we hope you’ll do the same. Because as research is showing, the subtle lies we have come to believe about our screens may be changing us in ways we never expected. Show Notes:  The Death of Reading is Threatening the Soul by Phillip Yancey Have Smart Phones Destroyed a Generation by Dr. Jean Twenge iGen: Why Today’s Super-Connected Kids are Growing Up Less Rebellious, More Tolerant, Less Happy–and Completely Unprepared for Adulthood–and What That Means for the Rest of Us by Dr. Jean Twenge The Shallows: What the Internet is Doing to our Brains by Nicholas Carr Podcast Sponsors: Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.  TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love Others Join exclusively for a limited time ONLY between now and September 30! 
September 27, 2017
Our guest this week is singer and songwriter, Matthew West. Matthew just released a brand new album called “All In.” When we heard about Matthew’s heart behind the album, we knew we had to interview him. Most noteworthy, our conversation centers around a song on the album called, “The Beautiful Things We Miss.” If you listen to our podcast, you can already tell where this is going. As a self-described “professional Christian,” West knows how easy it can be to coast, to pretend his spiritual life is in a better place than it actually is. “That’s a dangerous place to be,” he says. “That’s what the Bible talks about. Being lukewarm. So I’ve had this idea that I want to be all in like never before. I want to be all in with the songs that I write, I want to be all in with my time with the Lord, I want to be all in with my wife, I want to be all in with my relationship with my daughters.” As a husband, dad, and “professional Christian,” Matthew takes us behind his crooked picture frame, and tells us what it means for him to be “all in.” As you listen to this episode, may you ponder these lyrics: Open up my eyes, Lord Keep me in the moment just like this Before the beautiful things we love Become the beautiful things we miss Show notes: Matthew West’s album, ALL IN Podcast Sponsors:  TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love Others Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days. 
September 21, 2017
Don’t let the title of this episode fool you. Yes, Jeannie Cunnion’s message is helping moms find relief from the pressure to get it all right (i.e. be perfect). But this conversation is for all parents. If you need to experience the grace and gentleness of Jesus today as a mom or dad, this episode is for you. Jeannie’s words are salve to the exhausted parent. You don’t need to listen long before you realize Jeannie really “wrestles with the wild grace of God.” We had the privilege of meeting Jeannie through this episode. Since then, her words have penetrated our home and how we show Jesus to our kids. Jeannie is a wife and mom of four fun boys. Her unique message of God’s grace is so refreshing. In Jeannie’s words, “I spent the first many years of parenting believing that I had to be a perfect example for my kids to follow and worrying that their entire futures were riding on my ability to perfectly orchestrate their lives. My goal was to make very few mistakes and have very little regret. You can probably guess how that turned out. The shame I felt from the mistakes I made was real. And because I wasn’t accepting God’s grace for me in all of my weaknesses and brokenness, I struggled to give grace to my kids in their weaknesses and brokenness.” But Jesus. Yes, but Jesus. This conversation helps all of us wrestle with and apply the grace of Jesus in our homes. Show Notes:  Jeannie Cunnion’s blog and website, click here. Mom Set Free Book by Jeannie Cunnion Mom Set Free Bible Study Launch November 1. For more information, click here.  Podcast Sponsors:  TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love Others Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days. 
September 13, 2017
Our guest this week is Ian Morgan Cron. We invited him on the podcast because nothing has been as significant as the Enneagram in taking our marriage to the next level. What is the Enneagram? Personally, we have been busting at the seams to introduce you to it. But nobody can explain the Enneagram the way Ian can. In this episode, Ian graciously joins us to explain all nine types. As you’ll learn, and unlike all other personality tools, the beauty of the Enneagram is that it doesn’t just show who you are, it shows you who you could be. When you become aware not just of your behaviors, but the underlying motivations behind your behaviors, it changes the view you have of yourself. Subsequently, we unlock barriers to living fully alive. Not only that, it changes the view you have of your spouse as well. That’s why Christi and I also go behind our picture frame to share stories about how the Enneagram has helped us to understand ourselves, and one another, at a much deeper level. We hope this episode leads you on a deeper journey toward intimacy with one another, and ultimately toward your relationship with Jesus. Show Notes: To purchase The Road Back to You Book, click here. For The Road Back to You Podcast, click here. Check out Ian’s NEW podcast, Typology. You can also take his Enneagram assessment by clicking here. Podcast Sponsors: Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.  TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love Others
September 6, 2017
Have you given thought to what it means to be human? Think about what makes you–and your kids–truly come alive. Perhaps not surprisingly, those moments rarely happen on a screen. This summer we challenged ourselves to embrace more of what it means to be human. We took our kids camping. Gave away items to those in need. Went on adventures. Completed projects with our hands. And in so doing, we discovered five ways we can teach our kids to be human. In this episode, we tell stories from behind our picture frame and use examples from our journey this past summer. We also talk through the five ways we can show our kids what it means to be human. Full of stories and practical application, it was one of our favorite episodes to record together. Show Notes: Feelings Chart FREE Download Podcast Sponsors: Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.  TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love Others Join exclusively for a limited time ONLY between now and September 30! 
August 30, 2017
Do you struggle finding time for those you love most? Does busyness tend to disconnect you from the heart of your spouse? In this episode, we affectionately adopt new “podcast parents,” Rodney + Selma Wilson. They join us to explain the secret behind how they can still look at one another like teenagers in love, after 40+ years. Now grandparents, they talk about how they see parenting differently today than when they were raising their daughters. The wisdom and encouragement Rodney and Selma share in this episode comes purely from their experience of loving people so well. At LifeWay, Selma Wilson serves as VP of Organizational Development and Chief People Officer. Cool title, right? She’s also a cheerleader for moms! Her husband, Rodney, is an Associate Pastor and Marriage and Family Counselor. He doesn’t consider himself a cheerleader (bye, bye pompoms), but he is an encourager. You are in for a dose of wisdom. Some highlights include: * How to prioritize your marriage for your kids * The images we can etch into our kids’ minds for a spiritual legacy * How to look at life in seasons * The one perspective that helps moms move from surviving the trenches to enjoying motherhood All in all, the primary theme is about guarding our time and our hearts. Show Notes: Check out Selma’s blog and podcast, Selma on Leadership.  Podcast Sponsors: Forcefield: Screen Time Done Right. Try it out FREE for 30 days.  TwentyTwoSix Parenting: Discipleship Tools for Raising Kids Who Love God and Love Others
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