Dr. Reedy takes questions from family, and friends of Evoke. He talks about how to be support your loved one while they are at Evoke. He talks about power-struggle and the nature of Intensive Workshops. He talks about how to sit with our more vulnerable and insecure parts of ourselves.
Dr. Reedy give a fave review to Harriet Lerner's Dance of Connection. He summarizes many key points and tools and touts the book as a wonderful invitation to be your "highest self" and be kind to yourself along the way. He talks about how connection starts with Self work and boundaries.
Dr. Reedy interviews Chelsie Newkirk, Primary Therapist at Evoke Entrada. Chelsie talks about what brought her to wilderness therapy and how the wilderness calms the nervous system and assists her in her work with clients. She talks about brain-spotting and the somatic work she does with clients.
Dr. Reedy welcomes Birgit Show, Primary Therapist at Evoke Cascades. Birgit talks about her upbringing in Germany and her journey to find wilderness therapy and Evoke. She talks about her approach to therapy and the influences that impact her work with her clients.
Dr. Reedy welcomes Lauren Roberts, Assistant Clinical Director and Primary Therapist at Evoke Cascades. Lauren talks her approach to therapy and supervision. She talks about being a mother and the lessons that has taught her about working with families. She talks about her passions and some of her most memorable moments and lessons in wilderness therapy.
Dr. Reedy talks about random topics and takes live questions on mental health related issues in parenting. He talks about the effects of leaning into resistance instead of trying to control others. He shares a case study. The talks about the difference between identifying ways we impact our children and the guilt and blame that is so prevalent.
Dr. Reedy talks about the new book "Breaking Up With Sugar." He talks about how Molly Carmel uses her own story to break down the stigma and shame associated with disordered eating. He talks about how Carmel draws clear parallels between sugar addiction and other addictions, including the addictive thinking present in both. The author explains how this is not a diet book and how our relationship with sugar and food deserves our attention. The book offers insight, hope, and practical tools to those who may have struggled weight and eating issues for many years.
Dr. Reedy welcomes Molly Carmel, author of "Breaking Up with Sugar" and founder of The Beacon Programs in New York City. Molly talks about her new book and the journey to telling her story with raw honesty and courage. She talks about her decision to share her bypass surgery in a field where that is frowned upon. Molly talks about how sugar can hijack your thinking and the parallels between addiction to alcohol and drugs and the addiction to sugar. She talks about following the "middle way" and finding a way out of addictive thinking. She asks listeners to explore their relationship with food and sugar, in an effort to break free and find hope and empowerment. She talks about the toxic cycle of dieting and how to get out of self-defeating patterns.
Continuing our series with our therapists, Brad interviews Evoke at Entrada Assistant Clinical Director, Tina Grater. Tina talks about bringing heart to her work. She talks about "seeing" her clients reveal themselves and what it means to honor their defenses. She talks about motherhood and her connection to nature.
Dr. Reedy talks attachment and seeing your child. He talks about the barriers to seeing and hearing your child. And he talks about how the development of the parents' sense of Self is the key to the ability to provide the child with what they need.
In this interview with Dr. Matt Hoag, learn how he uses wilderness and the community in his work with young people and their families. Matt Hoag is a pioneer in the field of wilderness therapy and the foremost authority on research within wilderness therapy. Listen to him talk about his early days and the evolution of the field.
Dr. Reedy talks about the challenges, pitfalls, and hope in co-parenting. He also talks about parental alienation and the do's and don'ts when dealing with and grieving the effects of parental alienation.
Dr. Reedy begins by discussing topics from Evoke's recent clinical training meeting. He talks about what it means to show up differently in the world and with those we love. He talks about how we decide whether to set boundaries or to compromise. He discusses the reason for "wilderness" in wilderness therapy.
Dr. Reedy talks about the work that parents do with a home therapist while their child is away in therapy and how that impacts their children. He talks about the need for self-care and support so children don't feel the pressure to take care of the parent at the sacrifice of their authentic self.
Dr. Reedy talks about how parents might unconsciously ask children to take care of them emotionally. He talks about the appropriate use of "I feel statements." He talks about how to listen to and honer the symptoms of our children, even the siblings of Evoke participants.
With the new year upon us, Dr. Brad Reedy talks about therapy goals for children parents. He talks about the importance of remaining differentiated from those we love. He also discusses the format as well as the pros and cons of behavioral contracts.
Evoke therapist Judith Sadora talks about her back ground and her passion for family therapy. She talks about how she uses attachment to understand her clients. She also talks about issues surrounding therapy and people of color.
Dr. Reedy talks about self-harm and how responding to it with curiosity instead of fear helps individuals to recover. He explains that we can respond to mental illness symptoms in ways the increase our understanding and compassion. He talks about how self-harm (and suicidality)are attempts to escape pain and symptoms of self-hate. He explains how self-harm can become an addiction
Dr. Reedy talks about the difference between loving and needing, giving and taking. He talks about how vulnerability is only one side of the equation in intimacy. He explains the greatest gift parents can give to their children is greater self-awareness and greater self-development and how these will lead to parents being able to "carry around" their inadequacies so their children won't.
Dr. Reedy talks about how parents can be dismissive of their children's feelings, especially when feelings and directed at the parent. He describes the narcissistic wound that we all suffer from, to one extent or another. He explains how embracing our unacceptable parts lead to spiritual freedom.
Cascades' Therapist, Judith Sadora, takes us through the understanding of attachment and how it relates to racial identity development and secure relationships. Judith uses examples pulled from her experience working with transracially adopted families and interracial families.
Brad talks about factors that can lead to emotional dysregulation: exceptions, alcohol use, critical family members, and poor self-care. He describes emotional dysregulation and associated mental health issues. He encourages listeners to be kind to themselves and allow for all feelings rather than trying to force feelings we are told we "should" have.
Dr. Brad Reedy welcomes Sanford Shapiro to the Evoke Therapy podcast. Sanford is our new Learning Specialist & Executive Consultant at Evoke Therapy Programs. He brings a wealth of experience from the cognitive sciences to help Evoke support clients with learning differences. Sanford talks about educational trauma and how universal design can help to cast a wider net to help more clients.
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about the idea of the "inner-child" and how that relates to parenting your own children. He encourages parents to explore their histories through the inner-child concept as a way to increase bandwidth in dealing with a child struggling with mental health and addiction issues.
Dr. Reedy talks about the stages and phases of growth that Evoke participants go through. He talks about how metaphor and stories bypass resistance. He talks about the risks of reducing children, or others, to their behaviors and suggests that we listen to what behaviors are trying to tell us before we try to change them.
A review of Brainspotting from David Grand's book, Brainspotting: The Revolutionary New Therapy for Rapid and Effective Change. Dr. Reedy talks about Dr. Grand's evolution from EMDR to developing an accessible and efficient model for treating trauma.
Dr. Reedy explains intensive programming at Evoke Therapy Programs. He talks about psychodrama and how these experiences are for the novice or the experienced therapy goer. He suggest that there is no better thing you can do to support a loved one struggling with mental health or addiction issues, than to attend your own intensive.
Dr. Reedy talks about Autism Spectrum Disorder and how wilderness therapy works with individuals with ASD. He offers practical take-home ideas for parents and emphasizes the need for continued support. He suggests that we shift to see things through their eyes.
Dr. Reedy talks about the need for children to explore their anger and grievances towards their parents and the benefits when parents are able to hear them. He debunks the myth that giving your child a stage to complain about how you hurt them doesn't mean you can't hold them accountable--it doesn't cause them to be a victim. Listening allows them to move through their feelings.
Dr, Reedy talks about codependency and attachment. He talks about what it means to be human and contrasts it with being raised to be good or right. He talks about what to look for in an adequate therapist.
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about outcomes. He explains quantitative vs qualitative outcomes and their advantages and disadvantages. He shares some of the outcomes at Evoke, compared to other programs and approaches. He also talks about what it means to let go of outcomes and how this practice, ironically, leads to better outcomes!
Dr. Reedy talks about the nature of accountability and what we can do to encourage accountability in others, including our children. He also talks about modeling accountability and how guilt and shame are barriers to accountability and prevent awareness. He talks about our right to feel hurt and take our time to trust again.
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses the impact of our family of origin (the family we grew up in) on our current day challenges and difficulties. He also talks about how the pathway out of our children’s struggles runs through looking at the ways we, as parents, hurt them and came up short. He talks about “emotional proximity” and how this is passed on in families. He talks about the need to balance our ability to hold our children psychologically (containing) and having a secure self with clear boundaries.
This book is a must read. Dr. Reedy reviews what he calls "the most important book on the subject of child development and parenting." He talks about the dynamic where a child is able to perceive what a parent needs and then gives it to the parent at the cost of the real self. He explains how many of our challenges are related to our childhood wounds and how it is only by discovering those early wounds that we are able to move past many of the pitfalls in our lives today.
Dr. Reedy talks about codependency and healthy detachment. He offers a definition of healthy detachment and describes the art of boundaries. He suggest healthy detachment is synonymous with healthy connection, attachment, and intimacy.
Evoke Therapy therapist, Judith Sadora, introduces the concepts of social graces and how it incorporates racial and cultural Identity in working with adolescents of color. She discusses the importance of normalizing and creating space to talk about concepts related to racial and cultural identity. This podcast also discusses a few strategies that adopted parents can incorporate when discussing race with their adopted children from different racial and cultural backgrounds.
Dr. Reedy talks about facing our fears & insecurities and how doing so reduces the power they have over our life. He talks about how doing so helps our children, our spouses, and our friends to feel safer. He talks about how sometimes we have to do things while we are still afraid and how therapy can help with that.
Brad talks about how decisions for length of stay are made and the kinds of things to consider. He challenges parents to avoid the mistake of thinking that treatment is a fix, but rather to approach it like it is the start of a life-long process. He talks about why so many clients go on to some residential programming after Evoke.
This broadcast is for parents new to the experience of wilderness therapy or residential treatment. Dr. Reedy discusses the benefits of experiential therapy. He talks about the adjustments families and siblings go through and where to look for support. He also discusses the benefits and ideas behind parental work in the therapeutic process.
Dr. Reedy talks about vulnerability, shame, and how we can focus on what is beneath the symptom to facilitate healing. He talks about how it can be difficult for all of us to lean into our work because we grew up in a culture of right & wrong, good & bad, blame, shame, and guilt.
Dr. Reedy discusses the stages of change for children and parents as they move through the therapy process at Evoke. He talks about regression, relapse, and how to let go of outcomes when it comes to your children's thoughts and feelings,
Dr. Brad Reedy, Clinical Director and Co-Founder of Evoke Therapy Programs, explains Evoke's wilderness therapy for those who have a family member or friend at Evoke. He talks about how you can support your loved ones as they navigate the difficult path toward healing from mental health and addiction issues.
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about how communication skills can be used to gain clarity and transform a relationship from enmeshment and reactivity to clarity and connection. He talks about the fundamental tools of communication and listening and the ideas that they rest on.
Dr. Brad Reedy discusses "The Four Agreements," by Don Miguel Ruiz. He highlights how closely this book aligns with what we know about child development, attachment, and parenting. He talks about guilt and shame. He talks about learning to un-learn many of the things our parents taught us and their parents taught them. Brad recommends this book to parents and children alike as a spiritual guide to our psychological development.
Dr. Reedy takes questions from siblings, family, and friends of Evoke Therapy Programs participants. He talks about how to support a loved one in treatment. He talks about honoring siblings struggle to reconnect to their sibling in treatment.
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about how we communicate with our children reveals qualities of our relationship with them. He provides guidance for writing letters to your child and connecting those to the underlying ideas of intimacy, connection, and differentiation.
Dr. Brad Reedy, Clinical Director of Evoke Therapy Programs, discusses the concept of our inner-child: the lost parts of ourselves, the authentic or real self. He talks about how it is lost through messages of shame and how to regain and integrate those parts of ourselves. Brad talks about doing you own work and shares some stories about his own inner-child work.
Dr. Reedy talks about how being right is the opposite of being a Self. He talks about how children and parents can get stuck in the battle over who is right and who is wrong. He talks about how trying to be good and right is the enemy of personal growth.
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about entitlement in children and offers a unique perspective. He explains how terms like "spoiled," "selfish," and even "entitled" are used by adults to shame children so that the adult doesn't have to own and deal with boundary setting. He explains barriers to setting boundaries and encourages parents to do their own work to improve in this area. He also talks about how parents are shamed through labels like "helicopter-parent," "enmeshed," or even "codependent."
Dr. Reedy discusses the dynamics of trust and forgiveness as it relates to parenting a struggling child. He talks about how trust is something we own and decide to give away on our own time schedule. He talks about how healing and forgiving are at the discretion of the hurt part, not the one doing the hurting. He empowers parents to own their feelings a not be responsible for how others interpret them.
Dr. Reedy talks about the 8 Tools he has seen made the biggest impact on the children and families he has worked with for the last 23 years: I statements, listening, clarifying intent, avoiding imperatives and polarizing language, developing a practice of compassion, and taking time-outs. He shares stories and examples of each of the tools as well as how they help foster differentiation in relationships.
Dr. Reedy discusses the shift from the identified patient model to treating the family system. He talks about seeing beneath the symptoms to the underlying wound that is being expressed. He also invites parents of struggling children to model vulnerability and openness in the therapeutic process.
Dr. Reedy answers questions from siblings, friends, and extended family members of Evoke participants about wilderness therapy, siblings, and mental health. Some of the topics included here are how to support a loved-one while in treatment, how to deal with a sibling at home resistant to family therapy, and how to deal with guilt for sending a child to treatment.
Dr. Reedy discusses the hot new book "The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck by Mark Monson. He talks about how the book offers an accessible entry to some Buddhist concepts like radical acceptances, the inevitability of suffering, detachment, and the beginners mind. He also talks about some of the book's limitations and short comings, specifically the lack of insight on how to effectively deal with resistance.
Dr. Reedy talks about the challenges that occur when co-parents don't support each other. He discusses strategies and tools for creating cohesion. At the center of the idea is that if one becomes focused on the other parent, it can increase division and polarizations.
Dr. Reedy talks about who can benefit from attending 12-Step support groups. The benefits of attending, sharing, working the steps and having a sponsor are reviewed. Dr. Reedy suggests that the 12-Steps could benefit everyone regardless of their specific circumstances.
Dr. Reedy explains that when the identified patient is removed from the family in treatment the parents often redirect the energy towards the marital relationships. He explores qualities of a healthy marriage beginning with the development of healthy self development in each of the partners. He debunks some common ideas in our culture surrounding love and marriage.
Dr. Reedy talks about risk taking behavior, the adolescent brain, and how development informs us about our children’s risky behavior. He uses it to explain addiction and other seemingly irrational choices.
Dr. Reedy talks about dynamics underlying family conflict. He warns that conflict is not simply a measure of a child's struggle and that it may signal a need for a parental shift. He discusses concepts and tools that help in navigating conflict.
Dr. Reedy reviews Refuge Recovery by Noah Levine. He praises it as a simple and straightforward approach appealing to those who may want a non-theistic approach to recovery. He also talks about how it doesn't tend to provoke defensiveness as some other models, due to it's avoidance of dogmatic principles. He talks about it as both an alternative and a compliment to other approaches to treating addiction. He discusses mindfulness and other Buddhist inspired elements of the approach.
Dr. Reedy talks about Delay of Gratification and Low Frustration Tolerance and the developmental science behind it. He talks about how these traits related to other issues. He teaches parents how to support healthy development in these areas. He explains that Wilderness Therapy, specifically nomadic primitive living wilderness therapy, is an effective way at fostering growth in these areas.
Dr. Reedy discusses the work of John Gottman, Ph.d. and his concept of emotional coaching (in contrast to dismissive, dissaproving, or laissez-faire parenting). Gottman explains how learning to hear and validate children leads to resiliency and the reduction of mental health issues. Parents who focus on behaviors rather than emotions, tend to overvalue cooperation. Parents who see a child's "negative" emotions as an opportunity for intimacy are better suited to provide healthy guidance. He explains how this is all built upon the foundation of a parent's self-awareness.
Dr. Reedy discusses the vulnerabilities and underlying issues that may lead to electronic addictions. He discuses and compares substance abuse disorders with process addiction. He talks about parenting a child struggling with self-sabatoging and self-medicating behaviors.
Dr. Reedy discusses some of the concepts underlying wilderness therapy and how those dynamics are intensified in the winter and during the holiday season. He talks about how we support and celebrate holidays and how wilderness in the winter creates mindfulness and a greater appreciation for family.
Dr. Reedy discusses the need for listening before talking or teaching. He describes how the brain's higher level functioning, when feeling threatened or stressed, is hijacked and the individual is unable to take-in information or reason. He talks about the need for parents and others to listen to children to quiet the flight or fight responses, before launching into lectures or lessons, so that those lessons may sink-in.
Dr. Reedy takes questions from family and friends of Evoke Therapy Program clients: How can you support someone who is in treatment? What does a typical day in wilderness therapy look like? What happens after wilderness therapy? What if a sibling doesn't want to talk or write letters to our child while they are in treatment?
Dr. Reedy discusses the difference between being real and being right. He discusses how our contexts impact us. He discusses how therapy can help us to repair our wounds and how the authentic self is fostered through connection.
Dr. Reedy discusses finding yourself in parenting. He explains how selfless parenting is a trap and how the first ingredient in a healthy parent is a healthy sense of self. He talks about how to combine the idea of supporting your child while taking care of yourself directly rather than indirectly.
Dr. Reedy reviews The Dance of Anger and what it can teach us about boundaries. He talks about how boundaries are hard work and how we use threats, nagging, lecturing, and all other sorts of behaviors in parenting instead of setting boundaries. He also talks about how setting healthy boundaries is akin to developing and modeling a healthy sense of self and helps to foster that development in our children.
Dr. Reedy discusses how strictness and control are not the same thing. He discusses emotional coercion and how it is harmful in parenting. He talks about how most permissive parents use emotional coercion in lieu of boundaries.
Dr. Reedy is a guest with Derek Siddoway on Summit County Health Department's podcast in preparation for his talk on Raising Resilient Children, Monday September 17, 2018, from 6-8 p.m. at the Blair Education Center in Park City, Utah. Go to https://summitcountyhealth.org to learn more or to subscribe to their podcast.
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about the intersect between parental guilt and accountability. He describes how guilt can rob us of our ability to hold boundaries and practice self-care. He makes a case for the value of parents doing their own work without the negative effects of blame. He describes the "idiot" parent intervention.
Dr. Reedy takes questions from family and friends about how to support your family member at Evoke Therapy Programs. He addresses relapse and how a parent can be confident a child is telling the truth while in treatment. He also talks about what makes wilderness therapy differ from other forms of therapy.
Dr. Reedy talks about why attachment is so important and what a healthy attachment does for a child's brain and development. He also talks, practically, about what healthy attachment looks like and what gets in the way of creating it.
Dr. Reedy discusses the letter writing process at Evoke and what we can learn about communication and relationships. He discusses how we, as parents, ask children to remove their defenses when it is often we that contributed to the need for the defense in the first place.
Dr. Reedy interviews Joye and Morgan, a mother and daughter who went through Evoke's Wilderness Therapy Program. Joye and Morgan share their journey of hope and healing in the hopes that others won't feel so alone.
Dr. Reedy discusses what it means to "let go of outcomes" and how this practice can lead to exactly what we want. He talks about what gets in the way of letting go, including pain, hurt, fear, and our instinct to control. This discussion and Q&A portion of the podcast focuses, in part, on co-dependency and how to heal from it.
Dr. Reedy talks about coming out for LGBTQ+ children. He talks about it from the perspective of the child (using thoughts from Ash Beckhams TED Talk) and how best to receive and celebrate your child. He offers do's and don'ts for parents whose children come out.
Dr. Reedy discusses the value in our lives of living in different contexts. A difference context allows you to see your own context and provides perspective for understanding the implicit, unwritten, and unspoken messages of your family of origin and your day to day life. A safe therapeutic context can help repair shame and the feeling that you are not okay. A safe context is the starting place for healing and addressing symptoms that started as coping mechanisms.
Dr. Reedy discusses regression and what to expect during transitions. He talks about how parents can focus on their own relapse and avoid addictive thinking. He explores various ways parents can utilize resources to prepare for the inevitable struggles that occur during and after transitions.
Dr. Reedy reviews Evoke Therapy Programs' communication model, including the I-feel statement and reflective listening. He also delves into the principles the underly communication theory and how people often express feelings to try to change behaviors in others. He explains that the reason we share may be more important than why we share our feelings.
Dr. Brad Reedy talks about how simple cause and effect thinking in parenting relates to objectification and shame in children. He explains how differentiation and the development of a self in a parent is the foundation for healthy attachment.
Dr. Reedy welcomes new families to Evoke Therapy Programs wilderness therapy experience and explains the theory behind wilderness therapy. He talks about the goals and objectives of wilderness therapy and how experiential therapy bypasses resistance and creates change.
Dr. Reedy discusses practicing self-care and setting boundaries with unsupportive friends and family. He talks about empowering parents to assert their needs in relationships with children and others. He explains how creating a supportive network begins with courageous and bold steps towards developing an authentic self.