November 7, 2019
Hello! I am back from vacation and wishing I never left! In all seriousness, I had a great time. But now I'm back with another great episode for you. This episode is a recording of a live stream that I did on Mxiety's Mixer stream. She interviewed me and we cover a lot of ground. Included in the topics we discuss are: The origin of my professional style Why I think a lot of mental health content is inherently unempathetic Resisting the lies anxiety tells you How I feel about life coaches The "end goal" of CBT treatment Interesting future directions in the field Mxiety is part of an amazing group of streamers that talk openly about mental health. Please go and support her at the following links: Her Mixer page. Her Twitter. Her website.
October 31, 2019
Hello, friends! Happy Halloween! This is a re-release of an episode I did a couple years ago. Humans are amazing creatures, but we also have a dark side. In this episode, I dive into some of the social psychology experiments that help us understand some of the not-so-great sides of humanity. AND I do all of it in a dramatic reading voice with eerie music in the background. Enjoy!
October 24, 2019
This is a great interview with rehabilitation neuropsychologist, Meghan Beier, Ph.D. While she focuses mainly on individuals living with multiple sclerosis (M.S.), we cover a lot of topics that are applicable to anyone living with a chronic illness. We discuss the mental health and cognitive impacts of chronic illness as well as navigating issues such as family and finding providers that "get it". Is there a topic you'd like me to interview someone about or cover on my own? Shoot me an email to
October 17, 2019
Hello, friends! There are several episodes of the podcast that I refer back to constantly. Episode 26, where I talk all about sleep is one of those. I talk about it in other podcast episodes, I talk about it with my patients, and I talk about it with people in my daily life. It turns out that at 180 episodes of the podcast so far, episode 26 is kind of hard to find. A lot of podcast players only keep the most recent 100 episodes. So, I'm re-doing it. This is not a re-release of that episode, but a re-recording of it with some new thoughts added in.  In this episode, I talk about why sleep is important for memory, health, and mental health. From there, I talk about important sleep hygiene tips that will help you get better sleep. If you have any trouble falling asleep or staying asleep, this episode is for you! If you have questions or topic suggestions, please send them to! Sponsors for this episode are Creating Better Days CBD products (coupon code SELFHELP) and Warby Parker!
October 10, 2019
Hello, friends! In this episode, I talk to licensed psychotherapist and sex advisor, Alison Leigh. Alison specializes in helping people in relationships overcome barriers to happiness and fulfillment, which often involves looking at the sexual relationship. In this interview, we talk about common barriers to intimacy, the impact of stress on relationships, and some strategies that she uses with her clients to encourage intimate connection. It was a good episode and I hope you enjoy it! As a reminder, my comprehensive online course to help you take your live back from anxiety is $200 off up until 10/15/19, so act now if you want to take advantage of this offer. Use the coupon code "five" at checkout, or simply follow this link to the course page. This episode is brought to you by Creating Better Days CBD products. Creating Better Days has a wide range of pure CBD and full-spectrum products to help you with stress, sleep, and pain. They submit each batch of their product to independent lab testing and provide the results to you so you can know exactly what you're getting. For 20% off your first purchase, head to and use the coupon code SELFHELP.
October 3, 2019
Hello, everyone! Happy to bring you another great question and answer episode today. Before that a quick announcement. October is my birth month and this year marks 5 years since starting the Duff the Psych brand. I'm so excited to continue this journey with you all and feeling immensely grateful. So all this month, I will be doing giveaways, freebies, discounts, and special events. Follow along on my Facebook page to get notified about all the good stuff coming up! The first exciting announcement for this month is that I will be temporarily providing a $200 discount on my Kick Anxiety's Ass online course until October 15th. That means that you can get the entire 10-module course for just $100, which is honestly an insane value. Use the coupon code "five" or follow this link to check it out! Anyway, here are the questions I answer in this episode: I feel like my issues are not bad enough for therapy and I should just suck it up. What can I do to start getting over it? How can I help my severe anxiety and nausea that starts in the early morning? My friend's boyfriend has depression and has become distant. What should she do? This episode is brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats! Check out more about their amazing 7-day retreats in Jamaica, which are fully legal and exceptionally well-reviewed! As always, you can send me your questions and topic suggestions to
September 26, 2019
This episode features an interview with Jen Lumanlan from Your Parenting Mojo. In her own words, "I don’t have much in the way of parenting instinct but I make up for it with outstanding research skills." Interestingly, by way of analyzing the research on parenting and starting her own podcast, she has been able to develop a true intuition and ease for parenting. Jen has a blog and podcast called Your Parenting Mojo that looks to the research to answer questions like "How do you parent a highly sensitive child" or "How do you use non-violent communication with kids?" This episode is an interesting one because we actually dive deep into problem solving some issues I was having with my own kids at the time. I actually held off on releasing this for a while because I felt like I may have been a bit defensive or negative. Jen was awesome though. Funny enough, the issues that we talked about are largely non-issues now just a couple months later. Kids amirite? Some links: First off, go check out Jen at She also talked a bit at self-determination, which you can learn more about at Finally, she referred to Parentifact, which you can see here:   Next week should be another Q&A, so if you have questions for me, please send them to or head over the and see the contact page.
September 19, 2019
Hello, friends! In this episode podcast, I do a little Q&A with some really awesome questions. For one reason or another, I also felt a little silly so have fun with my rambles and random laughter. Here are the questions that I cover: How can I make gaming a healthy part of my life and not let it interfere with more important things? What does it mean to "process" trauma? What can I do about my postpartum social anxiety? As always, you can check out the full show notes at and you can learn more about me at If you have questions, send them over to This episode of the Hardcore Self Help Podcast is sponsored by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats. MycoMeditations provides a legal means of experiencing the transformative and healing properties of the psilocybin mushroom. They provide 7-day retreats in Jamaica that involve guided psilocybin treatments, group processing, massage, accommodations, and authentic Jamaican cuisine. Learn all about MycoMeditations at their website or on episode 171 of the podcast, where I interview their founder.
September 12, 2019
This was a fantastic interview with public health psychologist, Dr. Perry Halkitis. We talk about disparities in health and mental health treatment for LGBTQ individuals and how they have changed over the years. He also shares some information about his own unique personal and career path. Unfortunately, my side of the audio is a little blown out, but Dr. Halkitis sounds great and I think that his message was too good to not share with you all. I think it's well worth a listen.  Full episode show notes are available at Sponsor: This episode is brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats. They provide legal 7-day retreats in Jamaica that use the psychedelic psilocybin compound to help you work through significant mental health issues. For more information about MycoMeditations, check out their website or listen to episode 171 of the podcast where I interview their founder. 
September 5, 2019
This is a really great question and answer episode. If you hear some crickets chirping in the background, that is because it's hot as balls outside, even at 11pm and there was no way I was about to record with the window closed. Here are the questions that I cover: How can I address my anxiety about driving on the highway? What do I do about my husband's overly affectionate mother? How can I prevent burnout as a mental health professional? As always you can send me your questions to and full show notes are available at This episode is brought to you by Better Help and Warby Parker
August 29, 2019
This week I have an incredible and inspiring interview with Tiffany Jenkins. Tiffany is a wife, mother, author, content creator and a recovering addict, she’s the face behind Juggling the Jenkins and author of “High Achiever: The Incredible True Story of One Addicts Double Life”. She described this episode as a free therapy session, which I take as a compliment. I think you will really enjoy this interview. Full show notes available at If you'd like to learn more about me, check out Next week should be a Q&A, so please send your questions and topic suggestions to
August 22, 2019
Hello, friends! This is an awesome Q&A episode where I take three great listener questions and try my best to offer some helpful advice. Here are the topics covered: Do you NEED to recall trauma in order to move past it? Why would my therapist want me to bring my mom into session? How can I move past the ghost of my past affair? As always, you can send me your questions or suggestions to and full show notes are available at This episode was brought to you by MycoMeditations Psilocybin-Assisted Retreats and BetterHelp!
August 15, 2019
This is a special episode. I was approached by a company called MycoMeditations that wanted to sponsor the podcast. They actually were very persistent and approached me a few times about it because they were really interested in the opportunity to speak with you all. MycoMeditations is a company that hosts retreats in Jamaica that use the psilocybin mushroom, also known as the magic mushroom. It's an often misunderstood substance that research has shown to be an effective way to reduce the impact of treatment resistant mental illness such as depression and anxiety.    Since this is a topic that is somewhat sensitive (psilocybin is not legal in the US), I wanted to do things a little differently. Rather than just running a short ad, I wanted to have the opportunity to dive deep and fully explore the issue. So this is a sponsored episode. MycoMeditations did pay for this interview spot, but I am approaching it just like all of the other interviews that I do on the show so that you can be appropriately informed and make your own decisions.    My guest for this episode is Eric Osborne, who is the founder and head facilitator of MycoMeditations. He has a very interesting background in that he is a wild mushroom expert and mycologist. This enables him to approach things from a very unique angle, which you will hear in the episode. Rather than administering the mushroom in it's raw form, he uses a process to make measured capsules of it to have better control of the dosage.    I really hope that you enjoy this episode. It was very interesting for me. Please have a look at the full show notes at and reach out to Eric if you have any questions after listening!   Check out MycoMeditations at their website to learn more!
August 8, 2019
Hello, friends! In this Q&A episode, I take three awesome questions that listeners sent in and try my best to give some helpful advice. These cover a range of topics including health anxiety, PTSD in literature, and coping with a sexless marriage. As always you can send me your questions to and full show notes are available at
August 4, 2019
This episode is a super interesting interview with psychiatrist Dr. Anna Yusim. She is a practicing psychiatrist from a family of hyper-rational mathematicians. She was never spiritual or religious. However, about 10 years ago, she started to experience things that she could not explain and began to develop an interest in the intersection between spirituality and psychiatry. If you know me, this is not in line with my view of things, so I thought it would be super interesting to have this interview with someone who sees things from a different perspective.  Full show notes are available at and please continue sending your questions and topic suggestions to
July 25, 2019
Hey, everyone! This episode is missing some of the normal bells and whistles that you are used to. No intro music. No disclaimers or fancy editing. I am currently out of town and my remote desktop failed me, so I don't have access to my normal episode template. In this episode, I take one really good listener question about whether it's strange to feel upset about their counselor dying and what they can do about comparing future counselors to their last one, since it was a good experience for them. As always, you can send your questions and topic suggestions to and find the full show notes at  
July 18, 2019
This is a fantastic interview with Dr. Laura Copley, a trauma specialist, who focuses on posttraumatic growth and resilience. We go through many important facts and misconceptions about trauma. We talk about the difference between resilience and posttraumatic growth. We even dive into a couple exercises that people currently contenting with trauma reactions can use to start living life on their terms. If you have questions or topic suggestions, please send them over to me at!
July 11, 2019
Hello, friends! This is a Q&A episode in which I tackle the following: When is it time to move on from my boyfriend that just recently broke up with me so that I can "find myself"? What advice do you have for someone that is pregnant with an eating disorder? How long will it take for therapy to help with my borderline personality disorder? As always, you can send me questions and topic suggestions to Full show notes also available at  
July 4, 2019
This is a really nice interview with psychiatrist Suvrat Bhargave. We talk about lessons that he has learned in his practice including how to let go of shame and why you don't need to hit rock bottom to have important moments of insight. He is very personable and cares about meeting people where they are at rather than speaking in jargon and working hard to seem like the expert. He challenges the stereotype that psychiatrists are unapproachable and only want to focus on medication management. Full episode notes available at Next week is another Q&A episode, so send your questions or topic suggestions to
June 27, 2019
Hey, all! On the last episode, I had my wife on to answer your relationship communications. We got SO many awesome questions that I wanted to tackle some more on the podcast today. This is a solo Q&A episode and I take questions directly from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. Here are the questions I address: What can I do about my family that doesn't understand my anxiety? How can I tell the difference between reinforcing boundaries and being manipulative in my relationship? I'm about to move and I'm freaking out. What can I do? Full show notes are available at and if you'd like to send in a question, shoot me an email at
June 20, 2019
In this episode, I have my beautiful wife Joelle back on the podcast. We take a few minutes to update you on our crazy life and then discuss some listener questions that mainly focus on communication in relationships. Enjoy! Next week will be another Q&A, so send me your questions to For full show notes, visit
June 13, 2019
Hello, friends! It's very very hot over here this week, but I still decided to lock myself in my office without a fan and record this Q&A episode! There are three really great (and different) questions that listeners sent in, and I try my best to give some helpful advice. The questions are: What can I do to make my family member understand my past alcoholism? How can I plan and execute my days better when I have ADHD? What can I do about my chronic depersonalization and dissociation? As always, full show notes are available at and you can send me your questions to
June 6, 2019
This week, I have the amazing Quinn Gee of Magnolia Mental Health back on the show again. She is a "unicorn" in the mental health field. As a black, gay, female therapist, there are many people out there who really benefit from her perspective. She's also really good at her job. As such, she is BUSY. No, I mean BUSY. She puts my work ethic to shame. Unfortunately that also comes at the cost of her own well-being, which she is working on. In this episode we talk about the realities of being a therapist. We also brainstorm ways that she can take better care of herself for the sake of her own health and for the sake of her clients. It's a really interesting insider peek at those of us that work in helping professions and I think you will enjoy it. Next week will be another Q&A episode, so send me your questions and topic suggestions to
May 30, 2019
Hello, friends! In this episode, I answer some awesome listener questions about some very interesting topics including: How can I fix my stress-related erectile dysfunction? Is my desire to show off my body online bad? How can I better manage my strong emotional reactions? For full show notes, be sure to stop by and check back next week for an interview episode! Please send any questions or topic suggestions to
May 23, 2019
This episode is an awesome conversation that I had with educational neuroscientist Dr. Jaren Cooney Horvath. We talk about common misconceptions about the brain, how it actually works, and what that means for learning information or trying to teach other people information in effective ways. He has a new book called "Stop Talking, Start Influencing: 12 Insight from Brain Science to Make Your Message Stick", which I highly suggest checking out! Next episode will be a Q&A, so please continue sending me your questions and potential topics to
May 16, 2019
Hello, friends! We have a nice question and answer session for you today. Please be forewarned that one of the questions mentions the topic of suicide, so if you are particularly vulnerable to that topic, feel free to skip question #2. Here are the questions covered: How can I go back to work after having panic attacks due to a medical procedure? How can I improve my self-concept? What can I do about my therapist moving offices? Next week should be another awesome interview. In the meantime, please keep sending me your questions and topics to
May 9, 2019
Hello, friends! This episode features an interview with the author Gary John Bishop. He wrote the best seller Unfu*k Yourself and juuuust released a new book called Stop Doing That Shit.  We had a great conversation about what people can do to start moving forward with their lives and we even dive into the personal story behind why Gary started making this type of content. Please stop by and check out Gary's stuff at
May 2, 2019
This episode is a straightforward question and answer episode. Not too much preamble in this episode, just straight to the nitty gritty. As always, if you'd like to learn more about me and what I do, check out And if you have questions or topics for a future episode, send them over to
April 25, 2019
This is a super interesting interview with Jonah, who was kind enough to get very person in discussing his experiences with Electroconvulsive Therapy (ECT). ECT is a safe, but sensationalized, treatment for depression that does not respond to typical treatments such as medication and therapy.  Jonah is also a transgender man who happens to be in a committed polyamorous relationship with two other men. All of these aspects are intertwined in Jonah's story.  Next week will be another Q&A, so be sure to send me your questions to Full show-notes available at
April 18, 2019
This is a special Q&A episode in which I pull questions directly from the private Hardcore Self Help Facebook group. If you aren't yet a member, request access at I took four questions from the group that cover a wide variety of topics. I think you'll really enjoy this one. As always, you can send me your questions and topics to See you next week for an awesome interview episode!
April 11, 2019
I think that a lot of you need to hear this episode. It's simply me talking with you a bit about the topic of letting go, especially of things that you don't have control over, and then guiding you through a forest visualization to help you relax. No ads or interruptions in this episode. Just sit back, pop in some headphones, and bliss out. Music in this episode is:  Rushing Stream.mp3 by acclivity 20071104.forest.04.binaural.mp3 by doboride
March 28, 2019
Today's episode is an interview that I did with Dr. Sherrie Campbell. Her specialty is helping people recognize toxic family members and work to productively cut ties with them and thrive in the aftermath. We get into some really interesting content including how to recognize when a family member is toxic and Dr. Campbell's deeply personal experiences that have driven her work.   I wanted to let you guys know that in addition to the audio, we also have full blog posts and show notes for each episode on my website. For instance, the episode last week about productivity tips is a full-fledged blog post in itself that you could easily read through if you forget some of the tips. This is something that I've been happy to hire an assistant to help out with. So make sure you stop by to see the full notes for this episode.   As always, send me your questions and topics to and don't forget to review for a chance to win free access to my online course!
March 21, 2019
We are doing a bit of a deep dive episode this week. I wanted to share with you my 10-11 best tips for staying productive even when you don't feel like it or may struggle with disorganization. We talk about many different personal tips that work well for me as well as universally good ideas when it comes to productivity and getting stuff done. Next week's episode will be an interview, but be sure to send your questions and topics for future episodes to
March 14, 2019
This episode is a wide-ranging conversation with Abhishek Chandra, a co-founder and CTO of Spring Health, which is a comprehensive mental health benefit for employers that goes beyond the traditional employee assistance program. We talk about the role of tech in mental health including machine learning, genetic testing, and online therapy. It's really interesting stuff! Next week should be a normal Q&A, so send your questions and topics to
March 7, 2019
This week's episode is a question and answer session. I cover three awesome questions that cover a variety of important topics. As always I'm impressed by the bravery in posing these difficult questions and I hope that I do a good job of being sensitive AND realistic in my responses. Here are the questions: How can I manage my anxiety after I had my first panic attack? How can I deal with my abuser, who is also my father, when he wants to stay at my home? Should I continue pushing or call of my problematic engagement? As always, I would greatly appreciate a share or review of the podcast and if you have questions or topics that you'd like me to cover on the show, please send them to
February 28, 2019
Hello! In this episode, I interview a friend of mine, Dan Fields, from the Save it for the Show podcast. I thought this would be an interesting episode because it's essentially just me talking to a friend of mine about life on the internet, creating, modern mental health, families, working from home, and all sorts of other topics. I hope you enjoy! Next week will be a question and answer episode, so be sure to send me your questions to
February 21, 2019
Welcome, everybody! Today's episode is going to focus on a single topic. I have gotten a lot of questions recently about nighttime anxiety and nocturnal panic, so today we are going to focus on things that you can do to help you get a little bit better sleep and some relief from that nasty anxiety that can pop up during the night. Thank you to our sponsors for this episode, Open Fit and Daily Harvest! Text the code DUFF to 303030 for a free 30-day open fit trial or use the code DUFF for 3 free cups in your first Daily Harvest Box! If you have questions or topics for a future episode, please send them to me at
February 14, 2019
Hello, everyone! Super excited because this week I have my beautiful wife, Joelle Duff on the podcast again. You always have such great feedback when she's on the show and it's honestly just nice to have a good excuse to sit and talk with my favorite person. We talk about her getting back into her career after taking a mental health, baby, life-clarity break. We talk about communication in our relationship. We talk about harnessing the power of bipolar and planning for the inconsistencies. We talk about a lot of awesome stuff. You'll love it. Next week will be a normal Q&A or single topic episode, so shoot me your ideas to
February 7, 2019
Hello, friends! This week, I have an interview with the wonderful Bipolar Barbie. She is a mental health advocate from Australia. In this interview, she describes her experiences with bipolar and talks about why she is passionate about being a mental health advocate. We cover topics from her first manic episode during law school to the importance of medication in her journey. I think you'll really enjoy this one. Congratulations to the winner of this week's free book, @kellydutrisac! If you'd like to win a free print copy of one of my books, just share your favorite quote from this episode on social media and tag me. I pick one winner each week.  If you have a question or topic for a future episode, send it to
January 31, 2019
This week, I have a nice Q&A session for you. Three really great questions that cover a variety of topics. Some of the content in here is sexually related and there is also plenty of talk about trauma. Be advised. I forgot to announce it during the episode, but this week's free book winner is @inkblot_ace on twitter. Congrats! If you want to win a free print copy of one of my books, simply share your favorite quote from this episode on social media and tag me! Here are the questions I cover in this episode: What can I do when I feel myself slipping back into depression? Are my BDSM fantasies unhealthy given my trauma history? How can I support my partner with severe PTSD? As always if you have questions or topics that you'd like to submit, just send them over to
January 24, 2019
On this episode, I have an interview with Larry Gifford from the When Life Gives You Parkinson's podcast. He was diagnosed with early onset Parkinson's disease at age 45. This was a serious curve ball for someone with a spouse, a child, and a blossoming career in radio. We talk about his show, coping with a Parkinson's diagnosis, honest conversations with family, and misconceptions about Parkinson's disease. As a reminder, if you'd like to win a free print copy of one of my books, just like @passtlivess did this week, share your favorite quote from the episode on social media and tag me! I'll pick one each week. Next week should be another solo-show. If you have a question or topic that you'd like discussed on the show, send it to
January 17, 2019
Hello, friends! I have a Q&A episode for you today. This is an extra special episode for a couple reasons. First off, I'm starting a new weekly tradition. If you share your favorite quote from the episode on social media and tag me, you might be selected to win a free copy of one of my books! Second, my nearly one-year-old kiddo, Leo was very present in this episode. I had to squeeze in the recording between other appointments, so you hear some babbling and such in the background. In terms of the questions, here what I covered: How can I move on from the guilt caused by ending family relationships due to an extreme fundamentalist upbringing? How can I balance significant psychological issues and still be a good parent? What can I do about my recurrent panic attacks? As always, if you have a question for the show, please send it to 
January 10, 2019
Hello, all!  This was an episode that was supposed to air a while back. I postponed it due to a shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline night club in Thousand Oaks. I felt that the topic just wouldn't be appropriate for that day.  However, now that we are in a new year, it's the perfect time to think about your values, your goals, your aspirations, and how to live better in the now. That's exactly what we talk about in this interview. In this episode, I interview Kate Manser from You Might Die Tomorrow about the concept or mortality awareness and how that can be used to help you make decisions and appreciate the present. As always, you can send me questions to and if you like what you've heard, please rate or share the show on social!
January 3, 2019
This is a short and sweet episode that I recorded before leaving for an end-of-year vacation with my family. We talk about making goals for the new year.  At the end of the year, many people start thinking about goals and resolutions. I see absolutely no problem with that. However, it's important to try to do them in a way that sets you up for success rather than failure. Here are a few quick tips: Establish goals as part of an overall year-end review. Keep your goals reasonable. You can also include larger overall aspirations, but use those as guiding lights rather than attainable goals. If you have too many goals, or goals that are too far from your starting point, you can set yourself up for success and continue the negative feedback loop. Subdivide your goals into small manageable steps. Even if you're not starting with your full capacity in any given goal, you are still doing more than you did before. Start small and build from there. 2018 was a great year and I'm so pumped to knock 2019 out of the water. Thank you so much for all of your support, and for contributing your questions to the podcast. This would not be possible without you. Please continue sending me your questions, feedback, and ideas to
December 20, 2018
The last episode of 2018! Wowwwww. It's been an awesome year and I thank you so much for all of the support, attention, and of course questions. I thought that I would end things strong with a nice Q&A episode. Here are the topics covered: What is Neuroptimal (neurofeedback)? How can I help myself when depression steals my motivation? How do I know if therapy is working? I am so excited to get back into the swing of things in January. Please keep sending me your awesome questions and topic requests to!
December 13, 2018
This is part 2/2 for my series of interviews about Ketamine treatments. In this episode, I interview Jamie AKA "The Gloomy Optimist" about her personal experiences with the treatments that she says saved her life. We go deep into her life-long struggles with anxiety and depression. Jamie is someone who has put in the work. She has tried numerous medications and therapy, but nothing seemed to stick until Ketamine. She describes going into the first infusion suicidal and coming out with hope for the future. Powerful stuff.  Please say hi to Jamie... On Instagram: At her website:   And as always, you can find the full show notes for this episode at
December 6, 2018
Friends. If there is one interview of mine that you listen to, let it be this one. In this interview, I talk to Dr. Steven Mandel, the founder of the Ketamine Clinics of Los Angeles. Ketamine is one of the most effective mental health treatments that very few people seem to talk about. To me this is a shame. It's amazingly effective treatment for depression, suicidality, PTSD, and bipolar.  In the interview, we talk about why Ketamine works, what an actual session looks like, and how it is a very low-risk procedure. We also address some common misconceptions and even get into the nitty gritty of cost/feasibility. Please share this episode with your friends, families, and networks. This is the first of a two-part series. Next week, I will be sharing an interview with an individual who describes their personal experience and amazing benefit from Ketamine treatments for depression. I should note that I have no personal stake in the Ketamine Clinics. I simply believe that it's a treatment that should gain more exposure.
November 29, 2018
Hello, everyone! Great to be back recording a normal Q&A episode this week. Between the unexpected non-episode a couple weeks back and the re-run episode last week, I haven't actually sat down and addressed your questions in a while. Here are the awesome questions that I cover on today's episode: How can I break the cycle of self-sabotage and self-doubt in my relationship? How can I overcome my fear of wrists? How can I better decide what activities to engage in at home and stop getting paralyzed? As always, you can send me questions to and check out the full show-notes at
November 21, 2018
Hey, everyone! This is a re-release of an episode that I did last year. I am busy this week with holiday stuff, so I didn't want to record something new, but I thought it would be a good opportunity to repost episode 85, which originally aired on 11/21/17. It's all about tips that you can use to survive the holidays. The holidays are crazy for everyone, but it's stepped up a notch when you also struggle with mental health issues. Have a listen and take great care of yourselves. Much love!
November 15, 2018
Super excited to have the awesome Kati Morton on the show with me today. I'm sure you already know who she is, but if you need a refresher, she is most well known for her Youtube channel where she answers questions and gives mental health advice. Kati is a licensed therapist and brings a down-to-earth approach to the content that she puts out. In this interview, I learn a little more about Kati the person. We also talk about how her work as an influencer has affected her professional life. We discuss her new book, "Are You Okay?", and how you know that it's time to get some professional help. I really hope you enjoy this broad conversation. Be sure to show Kati some love on Youtube and pre-order her book, which will be released in December! 
November 8, 2018
The regularly scheduled podcast interview is postponed this week. There was a tragic shooting at my alma mater's college night at the Borderline bar in Thousand Oaks, CA. In this short message, I talk about what happened, how I'm feeling, and a few tips for coping.
November 1, 2018
I did an episode last year around Halloween time about spooky social psychology experiments and what they say about humanity. I figured I'd keep the trend going and do an episode all about creepy treatments from the origin of psychological health care. Before listening any further, just know that some of these are cruel and gross. We've come a long way since the different treatments that I will talk about, but they are important in that they are the predecessors to the treatments that we have now. In some cases they were mean and cruel. In others they were well intentioned, but limited by the lack of knowledge that we have today. Either way, if you are sensitive to topics like this, feel free to skip this one. Next week should be a more standard episode, so if you have a question or topic for me, send it to and the full show notes for this episode are available at
October 25, 2018
Fantastic episode for you today. We go deep into the different types of medication for anxiety, how to know when it's time to stop taking them, and ways to cope with anxiety that you can use with or without medication.   This is the third episode taking a slightly different approach with just one question per episode, with the intention of diving deeper into topics. Now it's time to give me some feedback. If you go to the episode notes at, there will be a short survey. If you could take it, it would help me out so much!   As always if you have a question or topic that you'd live covered on the show, email me at
October 18, 2018
In this episode, I take a question from someone about how they can help their romantic partner who is great most of the time but gets suicidal or violent every so often. How can she get him to go to therapy or recognize the that there are actual issues going on? I give my perspective on this question and also spend some time defining bipolar disorder. Enjoy! For full episode notes, check out and if you have a question or suggestion for the podcast, send it over to
October 11, 2018
In this episode, I'm trying something slightly different. Rather than taking three questions, I'm taking one and using it as a jumping off point to go in-dept into topics related to the question. Sort of combining the deep-dive and Q&A formats. I'm going to try this for a few weeks and then ask for your opinions. Today's episode is all about C-PTSD or complex post-traumatic stress disorder. See full show notes at If you have a question that you'd like me to answer on the show, send it over to  
October 4, 2018
In this episode, I do a deep dive talking about a requested topic: dementia. It can be hard to find good information and advice about dementia online, so I hope that this episode can serve that function. I go in-depth and cover the following: Dementia terminology What kinds of dementia there are How to get a diagnosis Managing difficult behaviors Support available for caregivers If you have a suggestion for a future deep dive topic or have a question that you'd like me to answer, send it to
September 27, 2018
Back to the Q&A this week. Before I answer the questions, I talk about a recent psychiatric hospitalization that I had to do with the hope of helping you understand that it's not a purely black and white situation. Here are the questions I cover: How can I make friends when my depression gets in the way? Should I be avoiding stress rather than exposing myself? What advice do you have for a future therapist? As always, you can send your questions for the show in to
September 20, 2018
Hello! I thought it would be nice to have my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. She's usually a listener favorite guest and I always love talking with her, so I hope you enjoy our conversation! We talk about all kinds of stuff including: Our life and recent move Changing psychiatric meds Parenting with anxiety How I keep work at work As always, you can send me questions for a future episode to 
September 13, 2018
Another round of awesome questions from you, the listeners. Here's what we cover this week: What can I do about the exhaustion that comes from fighting anxiety? How can I deal with my explosive anger? How can I mend the relationship with my step-daughter? As always, you can send me your questions to
September 7, 2018
Hello, friends! Sorry for anyone that missed last week's episode. I messed up a little with the technical side of things. We should be all back track this week. If you don't already, please subscribe to the podcast on iTunes or whatever podcast player you use, so you never miss out.  Here are the questions for this week: How can I get help when I can't afford therapy and I don't have insurance? What can I do when my emergency anxiety medication doesn't work? I feel pressured to have kids. What should I do about it? As always you can send me your questions to
August 30, 2018
Three totally different questions today ranging from relatively basic to quite intense. I hope you enjoy. Did a little something different with the format of this, please feel free to send me feedback about it. Here are the questions: As a transgender male, how can I cope with my dysphoria while having sex with my partner? Should I increase my dose of Klonopin or change medications for my anxiety? I feel like I don't have any reason to live. What else can I do? As mentioned in the podcast, check out for my audiobooks! If you have a question for a future episode, send it over to
August 23, 2018
Hello! Fantastic questions on today's Q&A episode. I am always amazed by your honesty and vulnerability when sending these in. Here's what we cover today: Could porn be causing my depression and lack of pleasure in life? How can I deal with my constant panic attacks? Should I talk to my therapist about new fleeting thoughts of suicide? As always, you can send me your questions for an upcoming episode to
August 16, 2018
Another full question and answer episode this week. Awesome questions, as always. I wanted to quickly say thank you for everyone who enrolled in the course. It was a very successful launch and I'm so happy that my hard work over the past year has paid off. THANK YOU! Here are the questions covered this week: How am I supposed to show my partner love when I have borderline personality disorder? How can I best support my suicidal friends? How can I stop procrastinating and stick to habits with anxiety? As always, please keep sending me your questions to
August 9, 2018
Back at it! This episode is a full three question episode for you. Thanks for your patience over the past few weeks with the short episodes. That helped me out a lot. On a related note, the course is out! In fact, by the time the next episode drops, you will no longer be able to buy the course!! Get on it Here are the questions answered in this episode: How do I get over my anxiety about death? What can I do about my crippling regret? I feel attached to my therapist. Is that bad? If you have a question for a future episode, please send it to  
August 2, 2018
It's time! Kick Anxiety's Ass is now live! You can get instant access to all 10 modules of awesome anxiety slaying content at If you purchase before Monday, 8/6 and use the coupon code PODCAST, you will get $100 off. You can check out a bunch of free lessons from the course before you decide. I think you are going to get a lot out of it. In this episode, I answer one listener question about what to do when you are uncomfortable with your therapist walking behind you to their office at the start of session. We should be back to regularly scheduled programming next week. Until then, keep sending me your questions to
July 26, 2018
Hello, friends! Another mini episode this week as I gear up for the launch of Kick Anxiety's Ass, which is next week OMG fjkdlasnfkljd!  This week I am taking a question about what to do when dealing with a toxic mother that lives in the same city. A tough one, but a really important topic. Next week will be one more short episode and then we will be back to regularly scheduled programming. Keep your awesome questions coming! Send them to  
July 19, 2018
Hello, all! This is another mini-episode with just one question, but boy is it a good one. If you didn't catch the last episode, I am doing a series of short episodes while I crank out the finishing touches on my online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass.  In this episode, I take a question about parenting with borderline personality disorder. Full show notes can be found at   If you want to send me a question for a future episode, please send it to  
July 12, 2018
Hello, friends! For the next few episodes, I will be just taking one question, so that I can free up some of my time to put the finishing touches on the Kick Anxiety's Ass Course. For this week, the question is: Would online therapy be a good option for me, since I'm too depressed to do regular in-person therapy? If you have a question for me, be sure to send it to 
July 5, 2018
Hello, friends! Super excited to bring my wife, Joelle, back on the podcast today. As usual, this is a super candid and honest conversation naturally flows into a variety of topics, but we broadly focused on issues related to communication and supporting one another in a relationship where one partner has significant mental health challenges. We bring our own personal experience into it and keep it super real. I hope you enjoy it.  Just a reminder: You have until 7/9/18 to enter the Kick Anxiety's Ass giveaway. Good luck! 
June 28, 2018
This episode is a little different. It's basically a deep-dive episode, but it's a little more off-the-cuff than usual. Given the multitude of troubling events in the US news today, I wanted to give some thoughts and advice about dealing with the news and the state of the world. It can be exceptionally hard for someone with mental health issues to know what to do when the state of the world becomes overwhelming. I hope the thoughts that I present here help. Here are a few tips: 1. Realize that no matter WHEN you hear about news or how much you worry about the event... those have absolutely no bearing on the fact that the event happened. In other words, the events are happening whether or not you already know about them.  2. Regulate your flow of information. Consider waiting to "plug in" to the world until you've gotten ready for the day and consider unplugging for at least an hour before you go to sleep.  3. Fight back against the false sense of immediacy that anxiety gives you. 4. Remember that you are allowed to feel, but not taking care of yourself may limit your ability to help or make a difference. 5. Taking good care of yourself allows you to funnel energy into action, which can make you feel less helpless.  Quick update: HUGE giveaway going on right now at   Thanks!
June 21, 2018
Why hello there! This is a regular question and answer episode. Couple updates first:  1. The audiobook for Hardcore Self Help: F**k Anxiety has been updated and is WAY better. Check it out here: 2. There are three free lessons from my course that you can check out without any signups required at Here are the questions covered in this episode: What can I do about my intense anxiety and stomach pain when I have to go to school? How can I go about telling my new romantic partner about my mental health issues? When is the right time to stop therapy? As always you can send me questions to
June 14, 2018
Hello, friends! This is a straightforward question and answer episode. First a couple updates: I changed the free preview content that is available on Now you can get three free lessons that cover defining anxiety, breathing strategies, and thinking traps. Good stuff. The audiobook for F**k Anxiety will also be new and improved probably near the end of next week. I'll update again when the changes are processed. Here are this week's questions: My husband and I want to explore polyamory, but how can I get over my anxiety about him liking someone else more than me? How can I get my family to stop abandoning me due to my bipolar? What can I do now that my disability prevents me from doing the things that I used to love? As always you can send me your questions to
June 7, 2018
In this episode, I do something a little different. This is a highly requested deep dive episode into the topic of ASMR, or autonomous sensory meridian response. You know, those videos where people tap things and whisper on youtube? I used to make those videos. For almost 6 years, in fact.  I talk about what ASMR is and give examples from different videos. At the end, I even give you a bonus ASMR audio sample recorded by yours truly. Enjoy!  Here are the videos that I used samples from: ASMR 1H OF TAPPING NO TALKING! more than 1 hour! by Chiara ASMR ASMR 1 Hour Tapping | No Talking by ASMR Glow ASMR Purely Close Up Whispers | Ear to Ear by LauraLemurex ASMR ASMR Dmitri Talks about a Dream - Soft Spoken Voice by Massage ASMR Cranial Nerve Test with Pat LaFontaine & Dr. James Kelly by brainline Asheville Mall Manicure Nail Buff, Great Gift by Ask Asheville OLD ~ Cranial Nerve Examination Roleplay by Cutebunny992 Binaural Dual Trigger Sounds ASMR by me [ASMR] Hearing Test Nurse (Soft Spoken) by GIBI ASMR
May 31, 2018
Hey, friends. This was a really good episode thanks to the awesome questions that I was sent in. In fact, I think this episode would be a really great one to share with your friends if you wanted to give them an example of my podcast ;). Here are the questions that are covered in this episode: Are repressed memories real and what should you do about them? How do I know that I've fully processed recent losses in my family? How can I get help when I'm 15, depressed, and embarrassed? As always you can send me your questions to And be sure to check out my new online anxiety course at  
May 24, 2018
This episode is kind of a hybrid. It's not quite an interview. More of a collaborative question and answer session. I sat down with my friend Skye Stifel, a school psychologist that I went to grad school with, to answer your questions about kids and adolescents. Good stuff! Please head over to to learn more about my 10-week intensive anxiety bootcamp!  As always, please send me your questions for future episodes to  
May 17, 2018
Hello, friends!! Today's episode is a question and answer session. I think it turned out pretty well despite some annoying flooding that happened in my office this week, which I talk about in the episode.  Hey, if you are interested in taking your anxiety from a 9 to a 3 and taking back control of your life, be sure to follow me on twitter at and on facebook at because I will VERY soon be opening up pre-orders for my 10-week online course, Kick Anxiety's Ass. Stay tuned. Here are the questions covered in this episode: What can I do about my step-mother who does not support me being in therapy? How can I make friends in college? How can I build a thicker skin in the face of rejection? If you have questions for a future episode, please send them on over to 
May 10, 2018
Hi, friends! Thanks for tuning in again. As always, I really appreciate your support and participation in this podcast. In this episode, I am interviewing Quinn Gee. She is a therapist, business owner, and all around badass. We talk about how she got into therapy, her own identity development, what it's like being a therapist, and some concepts related to black mental health. It was a great talk.  Next week should be a regular question and answer episode, so send your questions to Be sure to show Quinn some love at:  
May 3, 2018
In this episode, I talk about options for depression that just does not seem subside despite your best efforts. If you have tried therapy, medication, and all of the other things that we are supposed to do to tackle depression, but you still can't put a dent in it, you may have "treatment resistant depression". It can be extremely frustrating to fall into this category, but I want to reassure you that there is still hope. In this podcast, I talk about different options and techniques that can be used to move past resistant depression.
April 26, 2018
Today's episode is a very interesting interview with "The Muslim Hippy" herself, Sakinah. I love this interview for several reasons. First off, we covered some great topics and Sakinah was totally open and real about her struggles with severe mental illness. It was also a very authentic picture of how you can persist and do cool things like a podcast interview in the context of your mental illness. Sakinah second guessed whether the interview was good quality because she was just coming off of an episode and felt that her thoughts were scattered. Regardless of this, I think that she did an amazing job and serves a a great model of having mental health issues AND kicking ass. Enjoy! If you have any suggestions for topics or potential guests, send them over to me at
April 19, 2018
This is a deep dive episode of the Hardcore Self Help mental health podcast that was prompted by an email question that I got. In this episode, I talk about the different types of therapy that are available. Of course, I don't cover every single one, but I describe some of the types of therapy that you are most likely to encounter including: Psychoanalysis and psychodynamic therapy Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Dialectical Behavior Therapy EMDR Family Systems Therapy Integrative or Eclectic Therapy
April 12, 2018
Hello! This is a special episode. I got the chance to interview Dr. Andrea Letamendi. She is a clinical psychologist and the host of the Arkham Sessions podcast. She uses comics, nerdom, and pop culture as a vehicle to explain psychological concepts. We had a broad conversation about these topics, her background, and the field of psychology in general. I hope you enjoy! Please send me your questions about children for an upcoming episode where I will enlist the help of a school psychologist to answer questions about kiddos. You can send them (and other questions) to Please show Dr. Letamendi some love on twitter at and visit her website at    
April 5, 2018
Hello, friends! This is another question and answer episode. Next week will be an interview with the amazing Dr. Andrea Letamendi all about comic books, pop culture, and mental health.  I would really appreciate it if you would rate the show on iTunes OR share the show with your friends this week.  Here are the questions covered in this episode: How to I get over traumatic flashbacks when it has been over a year? Do I have borderline personality disorder or bipolar? Should I feel pressured to have sex? As always you can send me your questions to
March 29, 2018
Today I have an interview with an amazing guest. Dr. Ron Holt is a psychiatrist who stepped away from direct clinical practice to focus directly on advocacy work related to LGBTQ issues. As a proud gay man, he describes his experience growing up and a variety of other topics such as tips for coming out safely.  Please check out Ron's work at and at Next week will be another question and answer episode, so be sure to send your questions to
March 22, 2018
Hello, everybody! We are back to the normal question and answer format this week. I really enjoyed episode 100, in which my friend Dan Fields interviewed me as a guest. If you haven't checked that one out yet, I suggest it! Next week will be another interview as well with an awesome guest. Here are the questions that I tackle this week: What should I do to have a better work-life balance when my colleagues work all weekend? Why do I have a great memory for school, but a terrible memory for social information? Is stimming a valid coping strategy for fatigue and burnout as a person with autism? If you have a question for the podcast, shoot me an email to or go to
March 15, 2018
Hello, friends! This is episode 100 of the podcast and as such I wanted to do something a little different. I invited my friend Dan Fields from the Save It For The Show podcast on to interview ME as a guest. We had a really interesting conversation about all kinds of stuff. Honestly, I wish we had another 2 hours to talk. Let me know if you'd like to hear a part 2 in the future. Super huge thanks to Dan for volunteering his time to this episode. I also just wanted to say THANK YOU. This has been a really special project and I'm proud of what we've created here. I can't believe it's been 100 episodes. I am so honored and thankful for your support.
March 8, 2018
Episode 99, guys! Next week is big 100. I'll be doing something a bit different for that episode, so make sure you tune in for that one. This week is my first interview of the year. In this episode, I talk to Erez Shek about his experiences with bullying, bipolar, being a gay man, hospitalization, and social media. It was a great conversation!  Please show Erez some love on twitter at: and check out his website at: Do you have a guest that you would love to hear me interview? Let me know! Shoot me an email to This episode was brought to you by Sudio. Check out for some awesome Swedish-designed bluetooth headphones. Use the offer code SELFHELP for 15% off! 
March 1, 2018
This episode is actually ripped from a long video that I recorded. I have been thinking a lot about exposure for anxiety lately for multiple reasons. For one, I'm in the middle of creating my online course for anxiety and recently wrote the content for the module on exposure. I have also been frustrated by people that I see in my clinical practice who have gone through years of therapy for their anxiety, but never engaged in exposure treatment for their anxiety. Research indicates that exposure is a vital component of successful anxiety treatment. It's about facing your anxiety head on and teaching your body to stop reacting so strongly to it.  In this episode, I talk about exposure in general and then break down two methods for gaining exposure and increasing your tolerance for anxiety. If you'd like to submit a question for a future episode, send it over to
February 22, 2018
Today's episode is sponsored by Sudio headphones. To see some seriously stylish headphones with great functionality check out and use the code SELFHELP for 15% off of your purchase.  This episode is a normal Q & A. My voice progressively died as I recorded the episode, so you get croaky Robert again. Great variety of questions this time including: How can I find a positive male role model for my boys since their father died? Should I talk about my trauma in therapy even though I haven't spoken about it for 30 years? Has my history of hydrocephalus affected my speed of thinking? How can I improve? As always you can send me your questions to Thanks!
February 15, 2018
Hello, friends! I'm back from my paternity leave. Thank you for the support, the great feedback, and the patience during my absence. Excited to be back at it. Some exciting stuff coming up in the coming months including some really awesome guests. Look forward to that. This episode is a question and answer episode with questions from my private Hardcore Self Help facebook group. If you aren't a member yet, go to and request access! Here are the questions: How can I prepare for a big life change? How can I get over my relationship insecurity? Is procrastination related to anxiety? If you have questions that you would like me to answer, please send them to
February 8, 2018
Heyoooo! This is one more mini-episode where I am answering a single question rather than 3. If all goes according to plan, this will be the last episode of my paternity leave and I'll be back to normal next week. Thanks for your patience! Keep sending me your amazing questions to  
February 1, 2018
Hello, everyone!  Today is a mini-episode. I'm still on my paternity leave, so I'm coming at you with a single question and answer, rather than my typical 3 per episode. I hope you enjoy this quick bite of information and I also hope that you're taking great care of yourself. If you want to send me a question, please do so at
January 25, 2018
Hey, friends! I'm currently off on paternity leave, so my friend and fellow psychologist, Amber Baker, Ph.D., is stepping in to answer your questions today. The episode is very similar to my normal question and answer episodes, just with a different host. I think she knocked it out of the park. Be sure to stop by the following links to show her some love and say thanks for doing such a great job. Please keep sending me your questions to I'll be doing mini episodes for the next two weeks and then I should be back at it with normal episodes. 
January 18, 2018
Hello, friends! It's only been like 3 episodes since I've done a Q&A, but it feels like it has been forever. Super happy to be back here answering your mental health questions. The next 3 episodes will be a bit different due to my paternity leave, which I explain at the top of the episode. Here are the questions for this week: How can someone with anxiety/depression prevent burnout? Is it possible to overcome anxiety without medication, especially with vertigo? I've been burned before, but I want to date again. What are the signs that I'm dating a healthy/good guy? As always, you can send me your questions to  Thanks!
January 11, 2018
My wife, Joelle is back on the podcast today. We talk about lots of stuff including anxiety and pregnancy, our plans for the new baby, communication within our relationship, and we also answer some listener questions. Enjoy!  Next week will probably be a normal episode, but after that there will be some mini-episodes and guest spots, as I go on paternity leave. Definitely keep sending me your awesome questions to
January 4, 2018
Here we are. It's 2018. Crazy. In this episode, I reflect on the past year and talk about my hopes and goals for 2018. I talk a bit about my personal life, my professional life, and this podcast. Please stop by Twitter or Facebook and let me know what your hopes for the year are!  If you want to send me a question for a future episode, you can reach me at 
December 21, 2017
I know I already did a holiday themed episode, but I figured you guys could use a little more love as you continue through the holiday season. Rather than answering your questions today, I'm going to lead you through a guided relaxation designed to help you de-stress and relieve some of the stress that often accompanies the holidays. Give yourself the gift of relaxation. Put in some headphones. Chill with me. I got you.  No episode next week. Back at it the week after. Keep sending me your questions to   Background music credit:
December 14, 2017
Today is a question and answer episode. I'm doing two questions instead of three today, just because I've gotta get up early for a talk I'm giving tomorrow. I think these are two really great questions though. In one of the questions, I reference a video with Kristen Bell, which you can check out at: In the other, I reference the cycle of abuse image, which you can see here: Here are the questions: How can I help my children, who are starting to show signs of depression and anxiety, when I can't even help myself? How can I recognize and move past abuse when I'm unsure about whether I have been abused? As always you can send your questions in to
December 7, 2017
Hey, friends. I'm not sure if you saw the news, but southern California is on fire. I'm safe, but a lot of friends and acquaintances are not. I'm in this eerie spot where we are very close to the fires, but at very low risk, so "normal" life continues on. Decided to do an episode with some of my tips for getting through disasters like this including: Understanding stress vs anxiety Prepping to avoid freezing Mental rehearsal Importance of rest Focusing on what you DO have control over Mindfulness in disaster situations Finding comfort in the small moments Keeping routine where you can Talking about event without re-traumatizing Processing your feelings Getting help Managing social media consumption Not sure what format next week's episode will be, but please feel free to keep sending your questions over to and be sure to check out the info for my upcoming course at
November 30, 2017
Hello, my friends! This episode is just a straight forward question and answer episode with some really awesome questions. This week I am also working on a book proposal for a traditional publisher, which means that you would be able to buy this potential book in stores. That's a bucket list item of mine and I'm excited to keep you updated in the coming weeks/months.  Here are the questions for this episode: How can I get help when I'm too anxious to call a therapist? How can I get over my fear of vomiting? How can I get through high school when I have been depressed for years? As always you can send me your questions to
November 21, 2017
The holidays are crazy for everybody and they can be particularly stressful if you deal with any mental health issues. In this episode of the podcast, I share a few tips that can help you stay afloat during the Holiday season.  If you have other tips that work well for you, please share them with my on twitter at and I will RT them for my audience! 
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