Is monogamy dead? Are we expecting too much of Tinder? Do Millennials even want to find love? Get all the answers and more with Dateable, an insider’s look into modern dating that the HuffPost calls one of the ‘Top 10 podcasts about love and sex’. Listen in as Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick talk with real daters about everything from sex parties to sex droughts, date fails to diaper fetishes, and first moves to first loves. Whether you’re looking to DTR or DTF, you’ll have moments of “OMG-that-also-happened-to-me” to “I-never-thought-of-it-that-way-before.” Tune in every Wednesday to challenge the way you date in this crazy Dateable world.
Join us as we talk to Michel about his bachelor lifestyle and his existential debate between clubbing every weekend vs. settling down. We discuss the context of where you meet someone, the perception of age, and how our own belief systems impact our relationships.
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Listen as Elizabeth tells us about one of her funny dating stories that luckily avoided a trip to the ER. We discuss how to deal with unfortunate situations when dating, paying it forward even if you don’t know someone well, and what happens when you’re presumptuous.
Tune in as Jeff tells us about his first date in 12 years with our co-host and producer Julie. We discuss being on dating apps at different stages of life, how the past plays into how you approach dating, and why pursuing a friendship first may not be the worst idea.
Join us as we talk to Dave about how he seems to fall in and out of relationships without thinking much about it. We discuss bringing awareness into your dating life, prioritizing love along with your career, and how to bring more passion into your relationships.
Listen as we talk to Helen Fisher, a world-renowned researcher, and unpack the results of her Singles in America study. We discuss this concept of fast sex; slow love, men wanting women to make the first move, and what singles are looking for in 2019.
Tune in as we talk to members and the staff at Ashley Madison about why people cheat and have affairs. We discuss the motivations of the people coming to Ashley Madison, how the site is designed for discretion, and the psychology behind cheating.
Listen as we chat with Rebecca about dating and meeting her now-husband while raising her daughter on her own. We discuss making decisions that are right for you, turning hard experiences into opportunities, and prioritizing romantic relationships with it all.
Join us as we chat with Ken Page about the revelations he learned along the way after being chronically single for years. We discuss moving out of your own way, how to recognize and overcome avoidant feelings, and why superficial changes aren’t enough. This episode is sponsored by Audible Escapes. Listen free for one month by going to audible.com/lovedateable
Tune in as we chat with Jane about how she broke off her engagement to her college boyfriend for another woman. We discuss the fallout of calling off a wedding, the possibility of falling in love in an open relationship, and how you only know what you know.
Listen as we talk to Gary Kremen, the inventor of online dating, and author David Kushner about the rise of Match.com and Sex.com. We discuss the early days of internet love and sex, how online dating has evolved, and what can be brought to modern-day.
Join us as we chat with Ann Lupo about her painful experience with unrequited love that inspired her movie In Reality. We discuss being consumed with the fantasy of love, obsessing over relationships, and when it’s time to cut situations that aren’t reciprocal.
Listen as we check in with Josh about his journey from not having time to date as CEO of Monday Motorbikes to getting engaged to his fiancé. We discuss the right partner becoming your #1 teammate, how work factors in, and when founders commit, they #commit.
Join us as we talk to Candace Bushnell to see 'Is There Still Sex in the City?' when dating as a 50-something woman after divorce. We discuss restarting life being single, cubbing with younger men, and why Carrie should never have ended up with Mr. Big.
Listen as we share our top Dateable episodes that have changed the way we date and approach finding love. We discuss our own personal journeys and how we’ve learned from our guest's experiences and the discussions we’ve had with them. Also check us out in the 'Top 15 Dating Audio Podcasts' Feedspot: https://blog.feedspot.com/dating_podcasts
Tune in as we talk to Courtney Kay about her top 5 tips to spice up your online dating profile. We discuss what you can do to stand out in a sea of other profiles, authentic ways to highlight your true self, and how to attract the people you want to meet.
Listen as Yue & Julie are interviewed on 'The Wise Woman Podcast' by Erin Rachel Doppelt and we talk about why we started the podcast, the biggest things we've learned along the way, the best advice we've received, and how to enjoy the journey of dating.
Ryan Van Duzer tells us about how he fell head over heels in love, only for it to end almost as quickly as it started. We discuss getting through the deepest of heartbreak, how to really show up for relationships, and why love is still the most magical thing despite it all.
Jenna Birch, the author of 'The Love Gap', shares her research about why men don’t always pursue the women they claim they want. We discuss if it’s timing or the person, the differences between men and women, and why modern day romance isn’t always so linear.
Matthew Solomon of ManSchool and The Good Men Project talks about how men can approach, date, and relate with women in the current climate. We discuss the reverse effect of giving up on dating, balancing consent with conviction, and coming from a place of understanding.
Celeste shares what it’s like to work(and date) as a sex coach and how her practice differs from a sex therapist. We talk about learning how to enjoy sex more, what to do when you and your partner aren’t compatible in bed, and how to reinvigorate your libido if needed.
David & Sammi talk about navigating a long-distance relationship over the last ~2 years. We discuss dealing with international time zones and logistics, making the most of the time together and apart, and how the best relationships can just naturally unfold.
Amanda and Inês share how their dating lives are similar and different at age 31 and 70. We discuss the basic dating dilemmas that seem to prevail, the importance of friendship through it all, and how to embrace life at any age with or without a relationship.
Chris tells us about sexual racism and how this shows up in his life as a black gay male. We discuss the extreme bluntness on Grindr, what it’s like to not live up to the black male stereotypes, and how to call people in instead of out when it comes to addressing racial slurs.
Erin from the Wise Woman Podcast talks to us about what it really means to date mindfully through both eastern and western practices. We discuss honing in on your body and chakras, listening to your gut feelings while dating, and how to attract your highest soulmate.
Donovan shares what it’s like to date as a musician and how it’s not all the glitz and glamour you may think. We discuss the stereotypes associated with musicians, the challenges from this occupation when it comes to dating, and how to overcome these perceptions.
Ali responds to Leon’s PSA to women and shares her story of how she learned to deal with players. We discuss unlearning beliefs that this is just how guys are, recognizing what you have control of in a situation, and advocating for our own needs in relationships.
Caleb and Levina share how they created a sex journal for couples to reflect on and explore their sex life together. We discuss investing in your intimacy, really discovering each other's preferences, and how open conversation in the bedroom translates to the entire relationship,
Ify tells us about her experience being in an abusive relationship and how she finally ended and recovered from it. We talk about abuse spanning beyond just physical mistreatment, recognizing early symptoms, and how to get help if you or a loved one is in this type of situation.
Jack shares the biases that come from dating as a redheaded male – from being ruled out of the dating pool to being fetishized for his hair color. We talk about owning your identity, approaching people as individuals, and the problems leading with pure physical qualities.
Sarah tells us about her newfound active sex life at 35 after breaking away from her Mormon upbringing. We discuss experiencing all the pleasure the body is made to experience, not being hindered by inexperience, and developing your own values/beliefs about sex.
Kiran shares one of his quirkier dates that stood out over the years – and the awkwardness that occurred along the way. We discuss making the most of the situation, when to introduce friends to your dates, and how to determine when it’s time to cut your losses.
Julie and Andrew tell us about their 8-year journey from friends with benefits to a fully committed relationship. We discuss the evolutions that happen over time, navigating the ups and downs, and how a change of perception of the “right” person may reveal someone who’s been there all along.
Leon shares a PSA to women about how men will run all over them if they aren’t smart about dating. We discuss the tactics used to take advantage of a situation, discerning disingenuous from authentic behavior, and how to be trusting without being a doormat.
Caroline tells us about her first love that made such an impression on her that no one else can ever live up to it. We discuss why some people make such an impact, different types of love at different stages of life, and how to prevent living in the past in order to move forward.
Jason shares how he’s had hundreds of first dates that didn’t go anywhere – and will now hear live feedback from 5 of his past dates about why things didn’t progress. We discuss some simple ways to make big changes, how to stay confident despite past rejection, and why feedback is a gift.
Listen as we chat with more past guests about their dating lives. We talk to Kat who set out for new adventures abroad in Season 5, Sheel who's online persona didn't reflect his readiness in Season 4, Bottle Ned who preferred to date outside of the city in Season 5, and some of our own updates!
Tune in as we catch up with some of our past guests to hear about what's happening in their love lives. We chat with Shelby who we set up on a blind date in Season 7, Chris who met his girlfriend in an Uber in Season 6, Farah who got breadcrumbed in Season 5, and past co-host Michael Vargas!
Dr Alexandra Solomon shares how to build loving and lasting relationships from her popular course at Northwestern University: Marriage 101. We discuss navigating conflict in relationships, the changing views of marriage, and how to develop healthy emotional and sexual intimacy.
Robert, Jade, and Larry tell us why they love being single and how they embrace it instead of feeling societal pressure to settle down. We discuss the benefits of staying single, why it’s important to grow as an individual during this time, and how to enjoy life while staying open to future possibilities.
Megan Weks tells us how she started dating like a well-oiled machine which led to meeting and marrying her husband in less than a year. We discuss the “manfunnel” method, why linear dating can be problematic, and how it’s important not to be afraid to rock the boat.
John Graham from the Bachelor in Paradise and the Bachelorette tells us what it’s like to date on reality TV.. We talk about what really happens behind the scenes, life dating before the show, and what to learn (or ignore) about dating from the experience.
Valerie tells us how she met her now-husband Rob first online, only never to meet, and then reconnected with him through a chance encounter. We talk about persistence when you are dating, the paths both people are on, and the magic when things just suddenly line up.
Jonathan from Reflect talks to us about the impact of mental health when it comes to dating and relationships. We talk about the change in stigma over the years, how anxiety and depression show up when dating, and why mental health is the crisis of our generation.
Ms. Emilie tells us what it’s like to be a pro dominatrix and how she transitioned from software engineer into this role. We discuss the range of services of a dom, the reasons and motivations of people seeking this out, and how technology continues to change the sex industry.
Vince talks to us about his experience from the deep end of the dating pool as a middle-aged short guy with no game. We talk about how men also face societal pressures with their looks, how to make the most of what you got, and why average joe’s can be anything but average.
Amanda shares how she took her dating life into her own hands by making the first move with men. We talk about low-risk yet bold ways to approach in real life, taking initiative on dating apps, and how the “rules” of gender roles continue to dwindle every passing generation.
Ellis and Charlotte share their experiences dating a couple where they were the ones entering the relationship as the third. We discuss the terminology of unicorns and unicorn hunters, how perceptions differ from the reality of personal situations, and how these configurations can work or not.
Melissa shares a disastrous hookup story that made her re-examine her dating life and realize it was time for a change. We discuss the importance of self-respect, not letting others control your emotions, managing your alcohol intake on dates, and how to learn from your experiences.
Tripp from Tripp Advice and the "How To Talk to Girls" podcast talks to us about the “nice guy” syndrome and how to confidently meet and attract women. We discuss why being nice isn’t enough to spark attraction, how to break out of this mentality to lead with masculinity, and some tips on how to talk to girls.
Margot is back to share the most surprising and awesome twist in her love life: how she has fallen in love with a woman – with her girlfriend Elisa. We discuss being open to finding love in different forms, the journey from dating men to dating women, and experiencing love at first sight.
Margot tells us about her new approach to finding love and how she’s breaking the “rules” of dating. We discuss social constructs that disadvantage women, how to cut through the BS of dates that don’t go anywhere, and the necessity of direct up-front communication.
Bobby shares how he stays friends with girls he meets on dating apps – and also their current boyfriends. We discuss why being the “nice guy” can lead to dating fatigue, how to date with conviction, and differentiating between what you want vs risks you’re afraid to take.
Yelitsa and Sofaya tell us the struggles of dating as black women in modern times. We discuss racial discrimination in online dating, the judgment formed from extreme stereotypes, and the impact of interracial dating with black men and ones of other races.
Ricky Chachra shares why he is baring his soul on his blog and offering a [now] $25k reward to find his beloved. We discuss a radically different approach, the importance of character in a match, and having the confidence that it’ll happen when the time is right.
Eliza tells us about her intense 24 hour date that fizzled just as quickly. We discuss the false sense of intimacy after a long date, how to keep your expectations in check, the difference between connections and companions, and why communication wins over speculation.
David responds to our episode last season about adult baby diaper lovers as someone with the fetish. We discuss what exactly goes down, why it's such a turn on, how to broach the subject to a significant other, and why this is just a small part of who you are.
Dr Rachel shares what it’s like dating as a therapist and gets real about her own mishaps in dating which has allowed for her to practice what she preaches. We discuss breaking patterns, the importance of self-work, and how to become a more mindful dater.
Mark Greene from the Good Men Project, Remaking Manhood, and Think Play Partners talks to us about the evolving definition of masculinity. We discuss expanding the traditional “rules” of being a man, the impact of gender roles in dating, and how to relate to one another better.
Shelby shares her experience going on two blind dates with Matt and Beau and we also hear their perspectives. We talk about the impressions you give off on a date, ways to form a deeper connection, and how perceptions may differ greatly.
Amy Spencer, the author of Meeting your Half Orange, shares how she rewired her way of thinking with dating optimism to attract her perfect other half. We talk about what you put out into the universe, why being so available often backfires, and how to become so happy that the right person will naturally be drawn to you.
Natalie takes us through her first experience at a sex party where we recorded an Organ House event and talked with other partygoers as well. We discuss what brings people to this community, why a strong consent culture is so essential, and what exactly happens at a play party.
Lori shares how she prefers to date Asian men as a white woman and how she has been the “white horse” even in the US. We talk about cultural perceptions, the differences between healthy interracial relationships vs fetishes, and judgements that are still happening in 2018.
Brian and Jakara aka Team BJ tell us about their elaborate engagement proposal and how they got together – including the hurdles that came their way. We discuss the importance of courage, how to handle one person not being ready, and what equal partnership really means.
Samantha shares her reaction about being propositioned for a diaper fetish and what was actually involved. We talk about different fetishes, how to respond when someone shares a desire that may seem out of the ordinary to you, and ways to present a kink of your own.
David tells us about his experience with Tinder that resulted in many dates, many stories, and ultimately the creation of F*ck Tinder: a love story. We talk about the good, the bad, and the ugly of dating apps, strategies not to become jaded, and how it can be ultimately worth it in the end.
Ariel, founder of Gender Illumination, shares what it’s like to date as someone trans, gender queer, and gender non-conforming. We discuss her own personal journey, all the terms and pronouns, challenges in dating in the trans community, and how to be open and educated.
Jasmine tells us about being in an open relationship from the perspective of someone that never thought about non-monogamy before. We discuss making your own rules in dating, why different relationship setups can work, and how good things come from staying open to possibilities.
Quino shares his struggles with modern dating culture of dating multiple people at once. We talk about the differences in US dating culture vs other countries, the universal problems many face, and how to make dating work for you despite the times or your location.
Kirra tells us about her project, The List, where she interviews and photographs all the women her friend “K” has slept with to paint a picture of him through the eyes of his former lovers. We discuss your own perceptions vs. how others see you, the impact of every sexual encounter, and how to grow from your experience.
Chris tells us about his chance encounter that led to meeting his girlfriend in an Uber, while sharing his personal journey to becoming boyfriend material. We discuss looking inward opposed to blaming modern dating, the progression one goes through, and opening yourself up to all the possibilities.
Heidi, founder of Cannabis Tours and Puff, Pass, Paint, tells us about her slew of weird dates as we figure out why this may be happening to her. We discuss how your dating profile may be representing you, getting what you put out into the universe, and embracing all the weird that comes with dating.
Josh shares how he mastered all the pickup techniques from The Game only to end up with Megan, a dating coach, who told him to loose all the lines. We discuss trying new ways to meet people, gaining confidence during the process, and ultimately attracting someone by being yourself.
Meredith from The League tells us what it’s like being a dating professional by day and actual dater by night – and how through that process she met someone awesome. We discuss optimizing dates for experiences, learning about your preferences, and how to actually enjoy dating!
Brian Howie from the Great Love Debate shares with us what he’s learned from talking to single men and women across the US and beyond. We discuss the differences between cities, the overarching issues nationwide, and the changing gender dynamics especially with the #metoo movement
Coffee Meets Bagel, The League, Luvidya, and Three Day Rule join us at General Assembly where these industry experts tell us the best ways to navigate the paradox of choice, messaging black hole, superficiality in dating apps, lack of mystery/romance, accountability, and how to leverage tech to work for us when it comes to finding love.
Sheryl talks to us about a shift of attitude that instrumentally changed her dating life – and ultimately led her to her husband. We discuss the importance of energy and being approachable, the benefits of dating outside of your type, and how options equate to opportunity.
Judy and Pablo tell us about their experience with Pablo battling cancer and the impact it had on their relationship. We discuss what commitment really means, how to truly be there for your partner, and how overcoming difficult times can make you a stronger couple.
Jupiter, Dylan, and Sean share with us their experience being in a triad relationship. We discuss what this actually means, the dynamics between the three of them, the logistics of dates and events, and of course what goes down in the bedroom.
Erik from Together Guide tells us about what keeps couples together and what brings them apart – from the perspective of a former divorce lawyer. We discuss marriage, reasons for divorce, the phases of relationships, and why conflict isn't always a bad thing.
Chelsea White talks to us about dating with Tourette syndrome and the details of this disorder beyond its media portrayal. We talk about how her ticks play into her dating/sex life, the impact on relationships, and why it’s more about understanding then stigma.
David Cruz from Millionaire Matchmaker, Finding Cupid, and Three Day Rule talks to us about love and romance with Millennials. We discuss using technology as a bridge, the InstaGen effect, modern matchmaking, and how to bring the romance back!
Farrah tells us about how she is constantly being breadcrumbed by men with little bits of attention and hope, but not the real deal. We discuss why this may be happening, how to prevent it, and ways she may be allowing this to occur.
Joe from Gavazza Wealth Management talks to us about money management from the start of dating to building a life with another person. We discuss assessing your financial compatibility, having the necessary conversations with your partner, budgeting, and planning for future goals.
Jena and Kat share their reactions to our most controversial episode yet, Empire Swipe of Mind from Season 4, with Jake back in the studio. They share their opinions about the male: female ratio, Jake’s emphasis on beauty, and meekness of men in the city. With Jake and his friend Tony in the discussion, we hear the perspectives of both sexes and discuss how to resolve some of the biggest frustrations when it comes to dating
MK tells us how she quickly let out her quirky side when she first started dated her now-boyfriend by sending a photo dressed in full-out Hamilton gear. We talk about being your authentic self in dating, taking risks, and the importance of loving each other’s quirks.
Ben tells us about his lack of relationship experience and the impact it's had on his dating life. We discuss recognizing any form of experience as experience, building up your confidence, and overcoming the fear of getting physical (and your first kiss!).
Chris and Amy how they moved from a platonic friendship to being engaged. We talk about how to get out of the friend zone, what changed in their relationship, being open to the possibilities, and the benefits of being friends first.
Dr. Sheila Loanzon shares her own personal experience contracting herpes and how she got back to a place of self-love and acceptance. We dig into the facts about STDs, the stigma they present, and how to disclose this to a new partner.
Confidence & Social Intelligence Coach DJ Fuji talks about the origins of the “pickup artist" subculture and the stark difference in its media portrayal. We get a look into this community, the surprising individuals who seek it out, and the new strategies he now teaches.
Natalie Carey, author of Every. Body. Beautiful, tells us about her decades-long battle with body image. We discuss overcoming the struggles for both women AND men, learning to appreciate your body, and how this impacts dating.
Ned drops the secret of dating successfully in a city where our attention is scattered and options are plentiful. We discuss the impact of technology, urban elite cities, and how to navigate through it all to find something real.
We’ll check in with some more of your favorite past guests for an update since their episode aired. We’ll hear about what’s changed in their lives including new dating techniques, emoji's, and additions to the family.
We’ll check in with some more of your favorite past guests for an update since their episode aired. We’ll hear about what’s changed in their lives including some new relationships, opening lines, and self-revelations.
We’ll check in with some of your favorite past guests for an update since their episode aired. We’ll hear about what’s changed in their lives including some marriages, breakups, and reappearances. One anonymous guest even reveals his identity!
On this episode of the premium ‘Why Series’, we discuss why it’s so hard to meet people IRL and what we can do about it. We give you tips and tactics to start conversations, expand your network, and places to go to meet new people. We even have a 7-day challenge to make this actionable for you all!
The reality is that ghosting and flaking are all too common in today’s dating culture. We've all been there – that great date that turns into radio silence or a last minute cancellation never to be rescheduled again.
On this episode of the ‘Why Series’, we’ll look at why people flake or ghost even if the date seemed to go well. We'll discuss what to do when this happens and how to handle the situation if this person comes back into your life. You’ll get actionable takeaways based on our own personal experiences and learnings from past Date/able guests. You can then apply them to your own dating life to become a better and smarter dater!
For the price of a cup of coffee, you can get some real answers. Join the conversation now to hear more and learn ‘why’ to this common dating conundrum.
Introducing 'The Why' Series, where we answer some of the top listener questions and dating conundrums. The first question: Why do I go on date after date and none of them lead to anything?
One of the most frustrating parts of dating is when none of them seem to go anywhere. You may be the master of the first, second, or even third date, but have trouble turning any of them into a real relationship. Don’t worry – you aren’t alone!
We’ll deep dive into 5 different reasons why this may be happening and leave you with suggested actions of what to do next. We’ll give you answers and actionable takeaways based on learnings from past Date/able guests, our own personal experiences, and general observations. You’ll get over an hour of material, which includes hacks and ways to counteract the reasons this may be happening.
For the price of a cup of coffee, you can get some real answers! Join the conversation now to hear more and learn ‘why’ to this common dating conundrum.
Dave tells us about his evolution from being a serial dater to an engaged, one woman man. We discuss becoming the best version of yourself, how that correlates to attracting the right type of partner, really being ready, and the importance of each step along the way.