<p>&quot;Never tell our business to strangers.&quot; That's what Jennifer Mascia was told growing up. But it wasn't until she was an adult that she learned the reason why.<br />
Ruth Wilson (HBO's &quot;His Dark Materials&quot;) reads Jennifer's essay about discovering a dark family secret.</p>

Are You My Husband? | With Renée Elise Goldsberry

For 20 years, the Modern Love column has given New York Times readers a glimpse into the complicated love lives of real people. Since its start, the column has evolved into a TV show, three books and a podcast.

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