The Honestly Adoption Podcast features real voices, sharing real hope and encouragement to parents on the journey of foster care and adoption. Hosts Mike and Kristin Berry, and Nicole Goerges share open and honest perspectives from the journey of foster, adoptive, and special needs parenting. Their goal is to be real and honest but also bring hope and encouragement to parents, all over the world.
Are you a transracial adoptive family, foster family or mixed race family? Are you a person with fantastic curly hair? Whoever you are and whatever type of hair you have, you will love Janine Beachy. She was a true delight to interview. Janine talked with us about the importance of haircare in the Black community, why we should teach our daughters to set boundaries around others touching their hair and how her curly hair journey led to becoming a resource for transracial adoptive families.
One of the greatest resources for us as adoptive and foster parents is adoptees, and adoptee's voices. We are fortunate to partner with many adoptees from all ages and walks of life. We have learned so much from them, and will continue to do so. On the latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast we are pleased to welcome transracial adoptee and advocate, Tori DeMartile.
Why is it necessary that we are regulated, and respond to our children calmly and firmly? Why do our children need to learn steps to peace that they can eventually apply to their lives on their own? And why is re-regulation so necessary to building trust and a healthy connection with our children? All of these questions may seem obvious, but oftentimes, we misunderstand the big goal of re-regulation strategies. That's what we're discussing on our latest episode.
Re-regulation strategies are commonly misconstrued as enabling, or letting off the hook, when a clear consequence for behavior is warranted. However, as caregivers of children with a trauma history, we are working on a bigger picture. In our latest episode we explore why this is...
We often don't consider the importance of body awareness when it comes to helping our children re-regulate, but teaching them to connect to the feelings and emotions they are experiencing within their body can be a powerful tool in helping them find a place of peace quickly. Here's why...
We know that some children with trauma histories can display extreme behaviors (aggression, belligerence, disrespect, or even violence). But what about the child who deals with major anxiety, stress, nervousness, or often seems physically out of control of his or her body? That's where emotional regulation is key.
Because our children have come from hard places, they often feel powerless to speak up for themselves, advocate for themselves, and even make decisions that affect their lives. The loss that lives within them often propels this. That's why it's critical that we empower our children. In this week's episode we once again take you behind the scenes of writing our latest book, but also answer the question, "Why is it important to empower our children?"
Fostering, adopting, or even simply parenting teenagers is no small task and it's certainly not for the faint of heart. It's challenging. But when you consider the reality of trauma histories, and how they determine present behavior, the question must be asked- "Is this a teenager being a teenager, or is there something else going on here?" That's the question we answer in this episode of the podcast.
We've all seen the signs with our children. Rubbing their eyes, irritable, erratic, frustrated, disobedient, you name it. They're tired. But often, we can mistake lack of sleep for bad behavior. It's not, but in our busy lives, it's easy to miss the signs...
It's easy for parents who are caring for children with a trauma history to mistake triggered behavior for disobedience. But, when you understand the origin of behavior, your entire perspective changes.
We often confuse the need for sensory input for bad behaviors, or a child who just can't settle down. But for children who have a trauma history, and have lost control of that area of their life, there is a deep need for comfort and security that they do not know how to articulate. So, it comes out through behaviors. In today's episode we discuss strategies to help your child receive the sensory input he, or she, needs.
On today's episode of the The Honestly Adoption Podcast we are continuing our series called "Is It Disobedience Or Something Else," by answering the question, "Is it disobedience or lack of executive functioning?"
For the next several weeks we are asking the question, "Is it disobedience or something else?" The reality is, children who have experienced significant trauma display behaviors that can often be misinterpreted as disobedience. But the truth is, there is so much more going on.
The word support can be a trigger word for many foster and adoptive parents. The reason is that often, they lack it, desperately need it, but have no idea how to find it. And many organizations are at a loss as to how to provide it. In this latest episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we talk about 3 keys to establishing genuine support.
Annemarie and Roger Jackson had a dream. They wanted to use their skills in interior design to better the lives of children in foster care. Being foster parents themselves they saw the need. In the process, they also desired to create home goods that people wanted to buy, and made the home warm and welcoming. The result of this dream is Through The Sea.
In this brand new episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, our amazing producer, Matt McCarrick, chats with Mike about his brand new book, Winning The Heart Of Your Child, how to be an influence in your child's life, why your kids sometimes seem like they aren't listening at all, and some of the hardest stories he told in the new book!
Deborah Gray specializes in the attachment, grief, and trauma issues of children in her practice, Nurturing Attachments. Her method of working with children and families reflects her strong developmental and infant mental health perspective. Her passion is to help families develop close, satisfying relationships. She has worked for 20 years in children’s therapies. We are pleased to have her on this week's show.
It's almost Christmas. Presents, Christmas trees, visits to see Santa, dinners with extended family, piling in the family car to see Christmas lights at the zoo, and also potential disaster for those of us parenting kiddos from past trauma. Listen in to the newest episode of our podcast as we talk about keeping it simple and small during Christmas. Shannan Martin knows firsthand how to keep it small and simple during the chaotic holiday season. As a wife and mother of 4 active children, it's her goal to keep the holidays memorable, but also sane. Listen in as Kristin and Shannan have a fun-filled and heartfelt conversation about life, living in the country, making lasting memories during Christmas, but also living life as small as possible.
The holiday season, specifically Christmas break, is often a dreaded time for foster and adoptive parents because it means a lack of normal structure for their kiddos. How do you navigate through this time successfully? In this special Encore episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Mike and Kristin discuss tips and tricks for maintaining a level of regulation during the chaos of the Holiday season with Licensed Mental Health Counselor and therapist, Ruth Graham. This was part of our 2017 special Holiday Podcast Series called "Holiday Survival Tips and Tricks."
Some of our children have gone through some really tough circumstances early in their lives. It can bring us to tears to even think about the darkness they walked through. But will they ever be able to live free of it later on in life when they are adults? Tune into the our latest episode to find out... On today's show we are so excited to welcome Best-Selling Author, Anna LeBaron on to talk about the effects of childhood trauma and how she has worked to overcome them and live free. As a child Anna grew up in a polygamist cult and experienced horrific abuse at the hands of her father. Her story is one of hope and triumph and we know you'll find immense encouragement from her words.
"How do I know if I'm called to do this?" It's a common question, even for people who have already adopted, and are thinking about going on the journey again. On this week's podcast episode (and Season 11 debut), Mike and Kristin talk to author and speaker, Alison England about how to know if you're called to adopt. If you think about it, it wasn't that long ago that you were asking this very question, and pacing the floor, looking to the heavens, wondering what the right answer was. Alison England has been there. She is an adoptive mom and the award-winning author of Tandem: A Devotional for Adopting with God in the Lead. Alison and her husband, Joel, have been together since college and have three children. She cofounded Momentum Adoptions, a licensed adoption agency and is a professor at Arizona State University. Alison’s passion to encourage adoptive parents extends through her Tandem ministry, including Alison’s blog and speaking engagements.
We work hard to connect to our children, because connection is the most important thing we can do on the foster and adoptive journey. But what happens when you have honestly exhausted all of your resources, and you realize you legitimately cannot care for your child anymore?
Your child will always have first family. And as much as possible, we believe you should work to formulate a solid relationship with them. After all, they gave your child life. But what if there's a possibility this will hurt your child in the long run?
The disastrous car rides, the grocery store trips that abruptly end in fights, the movie nights that turn into tears. What do you do when one of your children continually causes all your children to be disregulated? How do you stop them? On today's episode of the podcast, we're answering this big question...
They are two hot topic words that can either bring a smile to a person's face, or make them grimace. Marriage and money! But they are both intimately connected and they both matter significantly. In this week's episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, you'll discover why...
On this week’s episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we’re continuing our special series called “I Have A Question,” with a great question about how to better help our kiddos focus.
It’s a struggle that many foster and adoptive parents have with their children. How to help them focus? In this episode, hosts Mike and Kristin Berry walk listeners through 5 key strategies that can change everything for you and your children.
It's a big question that many foster and adoptive parents have when it comes to their children- "What do I do with a child who just doesn't seem to care about anything, or anyone?" On today's episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Mike and Kristin bring insight to this lingering question.
On today's episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we're taking you back, back, waaaay back to an episode Mike and Kristin hosted a few years ago with their good friend Nicole Goerges, entitled How To Love A Child Who Won't Love You Back.
On this week's episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we're kicking off a brand new season entitled "I Have A Question." We asked you to send us your biggest questions and we received a ton of great feedback. Today Mike and Kristin begin with "How Do I Help My Child Who Doesn't Have Services?"
This week we are wrapping up Season 9 of The Honestly Adoption Podcast. Be sure to listen in as Mike talks with Jason Johnson, author of Reframing Foster Care: Filtering Your Foster Parenting Journey through the Lens of the Gospel. Jason shares honestly about the fears, and will encourage you to reframe how you think about how foster care might affect your biological children.
In today's episode you will get a chance to listen to a replay of a live training that our host, Mike Berry, recently gave at Christian Alliance for Orphans Summit (CAFO) in 2018. It may not be something you are looking forward to, but developing and maintaining a safety plan doesn't have to be a negative experience. Listen in for some tips and encouragement for getting this job done well.
This week, Mike is interviewing Lori Word, a new friend he met at CAFO this year, to talk about adopting from disruption. Lori and her husband have been married for 29 years and have spent most of that in full time ministry. Lori and her husband have adopted 7 children from disruptions and now have a passion for helping to equip adoptive families to find resources to help adopted children stay in their homes and avoid disruption if possible.
Feeling isolated and alone? Have you found it hard to connect with other foster or adoptive parents in your area? Maybe there aren't many in your area. Even if you do have a great support system in real life, would you love more training and resources to help you navigate this journey?
Oasis Community is here to be your virtual support system that offers 24-7, 365 days a year online access to practical resources, relevant training, and parent to parent support.
Mike is interviewing Jamie Worley, adoption blogger at seejamieblog.com, which was one of Healthline.com's 2018 Best Adoption Blogs. Jamie is passionate about encouraging other adoptive families and helping to educate those considering foster care and adoption. Don't miss this opportunity to be encouraged with some practical steps and words of hope in understanding and dealing with the invisible special needs of adoption.
Season 9, episode 83. We hear it often: hundreds of thousands of children are without families and homes, all over the world. Whose problem is this? What does that really have to do with us and what can we do about it?
On today's episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we talk openly with Think Orphan's Phil Darke about why the orphan crisis is everyone's problem. If you've ever wondered how you can be involved, beyond or in addition to foster care and adoption, this is an episode you won't want to miss
Mike and Kristin are so excited to welcome their good friend, Jamie Kaeb to this 82nd episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast. Jami is the director of The Forgotten Initiative and The Forgotten Podcast. She and her husband have an interracial family with seven children by birth and adoption, both international and from foster-care. Jami and the Forgotten Initiative have just written a new book series to encourage children within the foster system to know that they are dearly loved and cared for.
For today's podcast episode we wanted to throw it back to this past fall when Mike was joined by his Road Trip Co-founders and leaders, Jason Morriss and Andrew Schneidler. You are going to want to listen in to this episode. Early bird registration is now open for 2018 but will be ending on April 30th. Visit our official Road Trip Page here to learn more!
Season 9, episode 80. We know that the goal of foster care is reunification. But how do you successfully transition children out of your home and back with their families? In today's episode of The Honestly Adoption podcast, Mike and Kristin interview blogger, speaker, and foster care expert, Jamie Finn on the importance of having a transitional plan in place, and how to establish one that helps the children in your care transition as smoothly as possible.
We are kicking off Season 9 of the Honestly Adoption Podcast with an incredible episode! Brian and Cherie Lowe join our hosts, Mike and Kristin Berry, to talk about why eliminating debt can help bring peace to your home, your heart, and your marriage and share some practical strategies for how you can do this even in a large foster or adoptive family.
Season 8, episode 78. It's our Season 8 finale of The Honestly Adoption Podcast and today we're talking all things new book, and how the Berrys began this whole adoption process in the first place...
We are celebrating this week’s book launch of Confessions of an Adoptive Parent from our very own co-founder and host, Mike Berry. Guest hosting the show today is Matt McCarrick, who will interview Mike and ask all the questions you’ve been dying to know about the book, the launch, and where this all
Season 8, episode 77. That first real hug. Hearing "I love you mom," and knowing she means it. These are all things that most parents are accustomed to on a daily basis. But when your child has come from a traumatic past, these are moments you cherish more than gold.
In today's episode of Honestly Adoption we discuss this openly and share some practical advice on navigating the tricky waters of reactive attachment disorder. You're not alone! There is hope!
Season 8, episode 76. Fourteen years ago we began the adoption process for the first time. To say that we had no idea what we were doing is an understatement. We were clueless. We had more questions than answers. A few years ago, Mike sat down with Julie Craft from The Adoption Support Center in Indianapolis to discuss the process and procedure couples will find in a private adoption agency. In today's episode we're sharing an encore presentation of that podcast.
Season 8, Episode 74. When you're parenting a sensory-seeking child, you are often exhausted and at your wit's end. Before you give up hope, tune into today's podcast episode.
We are welcoming our good friend, and fellow foster and adoptive parent, Carrie Blaske to The Honestly Adoption Podcast today. We're talking about a huge topic when it comes to the foster and adoptive journey: how to create a blueprint for helping your sensory-seeking child.
Season 8. Episode 73. You've been asking and we listened! We are thrilled to welcome our good friends, David and Jayne Schooler from Back2Back Ministries, to the show today. They bring valuable insight and in-depth expertise to the discussion. Today we are talking about how to provide a healing home for children who have been deeply wounded.
Perhaps for you, this school year has been filled with challenges for your children. Have you ever wondered how to adequately express those issues to your child's teacher or principal?
Mike and Kristin were recently interviewed by our good friend, Jami Kaeb from The Forgotten Initiative Podcast on how to navigate school challenges with children who have experienced significant trauma. In this replay, they are practical advice to help parents navigate the challenges their children experience at school.
The holiday season, specifically Christmas break, is often a dreaded time for foster and adoptive parents because it means a lack of normal structure for their kiddos. How do you navigate through this time successfully?
On today's episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Mike and Kristin are joined by Licensed Mental Health Counselor and therapist, Ruth Graham as they discuss how to create structure during the chaos of the holidays. This is the conclusion of our series, Holiday Survival Tips and Tricks.
Season 8, episode 70. The holiday season can be full of magic and wonder, expectations and fantasies. What can a parent do to help their child, who struggles during this season, to make sense of how their own story fits in?
Join us this week as we welcome Brooke Randolph (LMHC) to our show for part 3 of our 4 part series, "Holiday Survival Tips and Tricks." Mike, Kristin, and Brooke will discuss how we can support our children through this holiday season.
Season 8, episode 69. Trees! Lights! Parties! Presents! Friends! Family! How can you help your child navigate all of the overstimulation they are experiencing during this time of year?
The holiday season is full of fun and exciting sights, sounds, smells, treats, and activities. Mike and Kristin have asked their good friend, Jenn Hook, to join us today as they discuss some ways parents can handle overstimulation during the holiday season.
[Holiday Survival Tips & Tricks] Season 8, Episode 68. Today we will be kicking off our new podcast series: Holiday Survival Tips and Tricks! We will spend the next four weeks interviewing amazing therapists about how we can navigate the big emotions and hard moments, with our kids, that tend to rise up during the holiday season. Mike and Kristin are excited to kick off this series with therapist and adoptive dad, Lynn Owens, as they discuss how we can help our children process disappointment and loss.
Season 7. Episode 67. Jamie Finn knows foster care. As an active foster parent, she consistently cares for multiple children (mostly babies) at a time. She understands fully the ups, the downs, and everything in between when it comes to the emotions you'll experience. She's here today to tell you, foster care is worth it. Even when you have to say goodbye, this is worth it. Check out our interview with her now...
Season 7. Episode 66. Today, Mike and Kristin want to introduce you to the people who make Oasis happen and bring encouragement to weary parents worldwide: Karen Anderson, Jen Summers, Beaver Trumble, and Matt McCarrick. Karen, Jen, and Beaver are all adoptive and foster parents, who are part of the Oasis Care Team (the people who are available online for support), and Matt oversees content editing, emails, and publishing details. Listen in to discover what they believe makes Oasis so special!
Season 7. Episode 65. An adoptee herself, Sherrie Eldridge has a passion for helping adoptive parents understand, and respond empathetically to, the unique emotional needs of their children. You will be encouraged as Sherrie shares her story with Mike, and reflects on the journey she has taken to get where she is today.
Season 7, Episode 64. Can just three days truly be life-changing? Find out as Mike reminisces with Andrew Schneidler and Jason Morris about this year's amazing Road Trip for foster and adoptive dads. What makes this event unique and unlike anything you've ever experienced? Listen now to find out!
Season 7, Episode 63. This week on The Honestly Adoption Podcast, we are excited to share with you one of our exclusive "Backstage Pass" interviews from Oasis Community, our support and resource site for adoptive and foster parents. In this interview, Mike gets honest with Ryan North as they discuss parenting methods better suited for children from trauma. Believe us, you will not want to miss this interview!
Season 7, Episode 62. On this episode of The Honestly Adoption Podcast, Mike welcomes Dr. Gary Feldman from the Stramski Children's Developmental Center to share some insights from his work with children at their International Adoption Clinic.
Season 7, Episode 61. In this episode, Mike and Kristin interview author and speaker, Natalie Brenner, on the topic of pain and grief. This is an important topic for all adoptive and foster parents. Natalie is the author of a wonderful book, This Undeserved Life: Uncovering the gifts of grief and the fullness of life.
Season 7, Episode 60. In this episode, Mike interviews Deborah Gray (LCSW) on the topic of Attachment. Today, Deborah offers both hope, as well as amazing advice, for any parent who is dealing with attachment issues.
Season 7, Episode 59. In this episode, Mike interviews Angela Tucker, a voice for transracial adoption and the focus of the popular documentary, Closure. Today, Angela has an open and honest conversation with Kristin and Mike on transracial adoption from the perspective of a transracial adoptee.
Season 7, Episode 58. This is it! The very first episode of the Honestly Adoption podcast. Formally the Honestly Speaking Parenting Podcast, we are headed in a new direction. In this episode, Mike interviews the one and only, Dr. Ira Chasnoff, about understanding the behaviors of children with FASD.
Season 6, Episode 50. In this episode, Mike interviews one of our team members, Michelle McKinney on their journey in parenting children with a known disease that carries a lot of stigmas and mistruth.
Season 6, Episode 49. In the Season 6 debut, Mike kicks off a new summer series entitled "The Stuff I Learned." His guest in this episode is Natalie Brenner, an author and blogger from Portland, Oregon.
Season 5, Episode 45. In this episode we are answering one of the biggest questions we receive from foster and adoptive parents? How do you maintain a level of respect for birth parents when their choices are so bad?
Season 3, Episode 26. In the very first session of a 3-part series, entitled Parenting On Purpose, we're beginning by talking about the need for us to create boundaries for ourselves as parents first and foremost.