38: Answering your questions about intimacy from Your Strong Relationship

38: Answering your questions about intimacy

1 hour 1 minutes Posted May 12, 2021 at 1:08 am.

Introduction 

What is desire & arousal? 

Brakes & Accelerators. 

I push myself and then I feel bad about that. (consent vs negating oneself) 

Saying ‘not now’ vs pushing myself through it. 

We have different levels of desire. 

I have some ‘conditions’ that I want for intimacy. 1

My spouse doesn’t seem to hear what I really want. 

It just feels mechanical. How do I bring that up? 

Anxiety about pregnancy is getting in the way. 

Other relationship issues impacting intimacy. 

We’re both uncomfortable talking about intimacy. 

It’s hard to bring up issues now after so many years. 

What happens in therapy? 

Getting clarification about what was learned in chosson/kallah classes. 

Getting comfortable trying something new. 

Intimacy is getting boring. How to get back on track? 

How do I tell my spouse that I just want to cuddle? 

When we schedule and then it doesn’t work out, we get disappointed. 

Building emotional intimacy. 

I feel hurt by something my spouse said about me. 

I have a need and my spouse is just not into it. 

Working through what I learned in kallah class (initiating). 

How do I hide my disappointment? 

Physical and emotional attraction. 

Arousal & climax. 

Intimacy during pregnancy and after birth. 

How to build emotional connection. 

How much time before and after intimacy is normal? 

Wrap up and contact info

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Pamela Klein, LCSW answers questions about intimacy (with Devora Krasnianski of Adai Ad)

www.adaiad.org/intimacy-series