Let's talk getting stuck in our heads with spinning thoughts, beating up ourselves, blaming ourselves, our partner, entertaining angry or retaliative thoughts, and fantasizing about how to solve the slight, the hurt, the criticism, the put down.

You'll Do Anything for Him/Her Show 19

I realized at the age of 38 that I needed help to understand what was happening in my relationships. I wanted to know what was “wrong” with me that I kept looking to the outside for someone new while I was in a relationship. Almost immediately I was shocked to learn that I had not been “growing” emotionally. I had been stuck doing the same thing over and over again.   That realization felt so right to me.As I grew, and my self awareness took hold, I was again shocked to realize that I was looking outside my relationship to find someone new in order to get “something” that I was missing inside of me. I didn’t know that I’d been looking for… a person, who would “make me” feel good about myself.  My self-esteem and self-confidence were shot.  That was when I also decided to change my career path and go back to school to obtain a Master’s Degree in Psychology and then a PhD in Psychology.