You Can Be Both
You Can Be Both
Lauren Lanzaretta
"I love You...BUT": How Conditional Love Hurts LGBTQ+ Christians
35 minutes Posted Nov 23, 2025 at 4:00 pm.
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Are you LGBTQ and grew up hearing “I love you… but”?


In today’s emotional and empowering episode of You Can Be Both, I break down how conditional love from Christian families, churches, and communities impacts LGBTQ+ people—mentally, spiritually, and emotionally.


We talk about:

✨ The trauma behind “love the sinner, hate the sin”

✨ How conditional love damages self-worth

✨ Internalized homophobia & identity splitting

✨ Why LGBTQ+ Christians struggle with shame and faith

✨ Codependency, people-pleasing, and fear of rejection

✨ Rebuilding a healthy relationship with God

✨ How to deconstruct harmful beliefs and reclaim joy

✨ Practical steps for healing (journaling, therapy, inner-child work)I also share my own story—growing up Christian, hiding who I was, dealing with depression and anxiety and eventually rebuilding my faith with unconditional love at the center.


If you’ve ever felt torn between being LGBTQ and being Christian, this episode is for you.


You are worthy. You are loved. You don’t need to change for God or anyone else.


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