There’s a reason why family advisors—therapists, coaches, lawyers, and such—refer to January as Divorce Month. The holidays can be joyful, but they also represent the end of another cycle, a gauntlet just to get through and then consider if you want to go through another cycle with your spouse.

That’s why certified divorce coach Kate Anthony’s new book, The D-Word: Making the Ultimate Decision About Your Marriage becomes available on December 26. The holidays may be over, but for some the thinking over potentially life-changing decisions is just beginning.

Along with her extensive training, Kate brings the experience of her own divorce and her renewed friendship with her ex-husband into her practice, where she helps women identify emotional and/or financial abuse and advises how to respond. She also outlines the events and emotions to expect (or are not expectable), so you can approach divorce with a clear head and some “No Shit, Sherlock” friends.

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We also talk about how to put your needs first so you can pursue them from a stable place, building proper boundaries, coping with mental illness and codependence, and why the D in “D-Word” can stand for a lot of things—even dismemberment!

Other links

* Follow Kate on Instagram and subscribe to her weekly podcast

* More people are divorcing after age 50 than ever before

* An example of imago relationship therapy

* Their Eyes Were Watching God, by Zora Neale Thurston

* The wagon wheel coffee table, and Mr. Zero knew.

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