If you’ve been trying to become better for years but still secretly feel like you’re not enough this episode is going to hit hard.

In today’s conversation, I’m sits down with trauma-informed coach and intuitive healer Tori Jenae to unpack the hidden wound behind perfectionism, overachievement, people pleasing, hyper-independence, and the constant need to “fix” yourself.

Together, we explore why chasing enoughness can actually become a form of self-rejection and how so much of modern wellness culture quietly reinforces the belief that who you are right now isn’t enough.

This episode dives into:

- Why perfectionism is often a trauma response, not ambition

- The nervous system patterns behind overworking, overgiving, and burnout

- Why achieving the “dream life” still doesn’t create fulfillment

- How childhood wounds shape relationships and self-worth

- The difference between healthy growth and self-abandonment

- Why your body can’t heal when it thinks you’re unsafe

- How to stop outsourcing your worth to productivity, appearance, relationships, or validation

- What it actually looks like to feel enough without needing to earn it

If you’ve ever felt exhausted from constantly trying to improve yourself… this conversation will feel like exhaling.

This isn’t about giving up on growth. It’s about learning how to grow without abandoning yourself in the process.