21. Eric Berne on Games People Play from Unpacking Ideas

21. Eric Berne on Games People Play

1 hour 4 minutes Posted Sep 2, 2022 at 2:00 pm.

Intro

The 6 Types of Interactions

Withdrawal

Procedures

Rituals

Emotional Stroking 

Calculating how many strokes to give

Pastimes/Small-talk 

Types of Small-talk

How a host determines the pastimes people play at a party

The rules for small-talk

Why we engage in small-talk

The 3 Ego States

The Parent Ego State

The Child Ego State

The Adult Ego State

Complementary Transactions

Crossed Transactions

Child-Child Transaction

Adult-Adult Transaction

The 2 Levels of of an interaction (social level & psychological level)

Superficial Transactions

Ulterior Transactions

Flirtatious Games

A Thesaurus of Games

"Look Ma, No Hands!"

"Now I've got You, You Son-of-a-Bitch!"

"Why Don't You, Yes But..."

Intimacy

The Uncorrupted Child 

Operations ie. stating a need directly

Why most people settle for games

Closing Thoughts

Outro 

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Show notes

In this episode we unpack Canadian psychiatrist and analyst Eric Berne's 1964 book "Games People Play."

This book explores...

The 6 different types of social interactions

The most common games people play

What intimacy is and why it is so rare

Links to Reading

Games People Play by Eric Berne

*note* reading is not required to enjoy this episode!

Host: Zach Stehura UnpackingIdeas.com

Guest: Sonya @selfhelpsonya on TikTok & Instagram

Theme Music: Polyenso

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