In this short musing from Unlearning Autism, I share a simple, practical way I support myself in staying connected with the people I care about.

For many Autistic people, friendship isn’t about a lack of care — it’s often about capacity, a busy or overwhelmed mind, and the very real experience of “out of sight, out of mind.”

In this episode, I talk about:

• why staying in touch can feel difficult, even when relationships matter deeply
• how this can be misunderstood by others
• and a gentle “friendship hack” I use to stay connected in a way that works for me

This isn’t about trying harder or being more consistent in a neurotypical way.

It’s about creating small, intentional ways to show up — within your capacity.

If you’ve ever worried that you’re not a “good enough” friend, this may offer a different way of understanding that.

Many thanks as always to Abigail Ward for producing the podcast and to Doerte Meyer for composing and performing my podcast jingle.