Shame and condemnation often come at the end of an offense and eventually we begin to harbor unforgiveness towards those that offended us. As a result we can lose ourselves behind the choices that we make when we're hurting and cover ourselves in fig leaves (sin). The good news is that God has already forgiven us and his love and mercy is new everyday, but we must accept it to experience it. If you can find the courage to forgive yourself it becomes a lot easier to forgive others.