Trust on Purpose
Trust on Purpose
Charles Feltman and Ila Edgar
I shouldn't have to explain this
31 minutes Posted Jun 22, 2025 at 6:00 pm.
Introducing "I Shouldn't Have To" Syndrome
The Story: 95 Leaders Making Requests
Why People Resist Clear Communication
The Resentment-Frustration Cycle
The "High Performer" Paradox
Closing The Loop: Preventing Burnout
Wrapping Up: Notice Your "Shooting"
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Send us a message - we'd love to hear from you "I shouldn't have to explain this." Sound familiar? A lot of leaders feel this way about making clear requests of people. It creates a destructive cycle: vague directions lead to poor results, which fuel resentment and reinforce the belief that explanation shouldn't be necessary. The hidden cost is teams divided between mind-readers and the confused, while everyone wastes time "spinning," trying to guess what leaders actually want. What feels lik...