We (ego/personality layer) feel we’ve studied/worked so hard, or given so much in a relationship and thus we deserve. But we actually do so little, and if the doing doesn’t belong to us, how can the result? Going deeper, the mistake lies in us not understanding that the knowledgeable and enlivening divinity, love, joy, or peace we seek is also within us, untouched by all our controlling and managing. Let go of the sense of doing and the entitlement to a specific result to experience the beauty that exists.