CONTROL: We are obsessed with it. We are obsessed with controlling aspects of our life that can't be controlled. We are obsessed with controlling the actions of other people, and we make ourselves miserable when we can't. HOW DO WE COPE? The first step is to admit we have a problem. Next, we need to practice tuning into the one thing we DO have control over ... ourselves. How do we let the actions of others affect the way we feel, and how is that a lost cause?