We all carry things we don't talk about — grief, shame, exhaustion, ambivalence about money and power. Most of us walk into rooms and put on our composure, because that's what we've been taught is acceptable. But what happens when the weight of it finally has to land somewhere?Pastor Tonetta draws on Tim O'Brien's 'The Things They Carried' and the book of Nehemiah to make a case that you can't repair what you refuse to grieve — and that rebuilding anything worth having requires more than individual optimization. It requires commitment to particular people, a particular place, a particular wall.This one also gets honest about money — why progressive communities tend to go quiet about it, and what that silence actually costs.