Show notes
The topic of today’s episode focuses on the top 20 things Tori wishes she had known in her 20’s, dedicated to the class of 2020. She shares her list and some of her best advice on each topic. Your 20’s are some of the most important times as you begin to define the path of your life. Key Takeaways: [0:55] - HUGE NEWS! The SheFactor will be hosting the ultimate virtual graduation party for the women of the class of 2020. There will be workshops focused on launching your life post-grad, a Keynote speech by Bethany Hamilton, and Caitlin Bristow as the emcee. [3:20] - Tori shares her list of the 20 things she wishes she had known in her 20’s, starting with #1: Finding friends — Finding people who will support you in this life is so important — find people who are passionate about the same things you are. Be open, be vulnerable, and be picky. [6:20] - #2: Keeping your friends — As you enter your 20’s, the pace of people’s lives really starts to change. Keeping your friends can be difficult when you’re on different paths, but the relationships worth keeping should be easy. Set up times to check-in and stay connected. [9:52] - #3: Letting go of toxic relationships — start looking at your friends, who they are, how they work, and what their intentions are in your relationships. Tori made a list of her important relationships and answered these questions. Focus your time and energy on relationships that aid your well-being. [14:27] - #4: Finding your passion — Just because you got a degree in a certain thing, doesn’t mean you have to stick with that in your career. Find things that get you excited and make you feel passionate, so you can take the first steps in finding the right career path for you. Tori shares how you can use mind mapping to help with this. [18:58] - #5: Conquering fear — There are a lot of unknowns in our 20’s. The feelings of uncertainty and discomfort is a sign of growth. Working through this fear is where you learn the most about what your limits are and what brings you the most joy. [23:15] - #6: It’s okay to not have something that you’re super passionate about — if you don’t have it all figured out now, that’s okay! Creating a life of passion is about knowing who you are and doing what you love, without holding on to other expectations. Advocate for yourself and the life you want. [25:51] - #7: Your dream job — your early job choices affect your future career. Your first jobs can define you and may end up boxing you into a job you don’t love. It’s also important to find a company that aligns with your values. [29:07] - #8: Work-Life balance — the thinner we spread ourselves, the more we’re sacrificing. The SheFactor spheres help you determine where you can focus your energies to get a more holistic balance in your life. [32:58] - #9: Finding the one — giving and spending your time with the right person is precious. Make a list of what you want in a relationship, and if someone doesn’t measure up, don’t waste your time. Everything shifts when you make a list and you hold yourself accountable to it. [35:50] - #10: Starting a family — everything changes when you decide to start a family. Kids become your top priority, so prepare yourself for that reality now. Give yourself time to make clear decisions about family planning.
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