Was there one person in your childhood who you knew you could go to when you were in distress? You knew they would listen and allow you to have your feelings, providing comfort and support. This person represented a secure base in a world that may have been chaotic, confusing and scary. It turns out that having a secure base during your childhood makes all the difference in your whole outlook on life and relationships.  

Kevin and Niseema welcome Drs. Howard and Miriam Steele who have made it their life's work to study the benefits of having a secure base and what happens when there is none.  They have studied and developed effective ways to support parents learning the skills of being a secure base for their children and in the process learn what it means to be humble.

When parents are no longer afraid of their children and children no longer afraid of their parents then a whole new relationship is possible. A relationship that relies on co-operation, joy and a genuine interest in the emotional worlds of each other. 

Stay tuned for next week where we will expand on the ramifications of a world where striving for independence has eroded the human need for interdependence and community.
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Howard Steele, PhD, is Professor and Chair of Clinical Psychology, at the New School for Social Research in New York City. At the New School. Dr. Steele co-directs (with Dr. M. Steele) the Center for Attachment Research. Howard Steele is also senior and founding editor of the international journal, Attachment and Human Development, and founding president of the Society for Emotion and Attachment Studies, www.seasinternational.org

Miriam Steele, PhD, is Professor of Psychology, at the New School for Social Research where she co-directs (with Dr. H. Steele) the Center for Attachment Research. Dr. Miriam Steele is also an Anna Freud Center trained psychoanalyst. Miriam initiated the London Parent-Child Project, a major longitudinal study of intergenerational patterns of attachment, and has also carried out longitudinal attachment research in the context of child maltreatment and adoption.

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