When everything falls apart at once, grief, divorce, addiction, and motherhood, how do you find the strength to rebuild?In this moving episode of The Moving On Method® with Michelle Dempsey-Multack, Nikki Spoelstra shares her powerful journey through loss, sobriety, and renewal. From the depths of despair to founding the Becoming Her community, Nikki reveals how radical self-trust, faith, and emotional recovery can transform the most painful moments into the foundation for an extraordinary new life.What You’ll Learn: The “Victor, Not Victim” Mindset: How reframing pain changes your entire healing trajectory. The Truth About Sobriety and Survival: Why Nikki says recovery was “divine preparation” for life’s hardest storms. Emotional Self-Trust: Learning to make decisions that honor your peace, even when others don’t understand. How to Rest, Rebuild, and Rise: Why rest isn’t weakness, it’s a necessary part of transformation. Breaking Cycles of Shame and Control: How to stop carrying what isn’t yours and start caring without over-functioning.Episode Highlights: Meet the Guest:Nikki Spoelstra is a creator, speaker, and founder of the Becoming Her community, a digital platform for women devoted to self-trust, healing, and personal growth. Through her story of faith, sobriety, and transformation, Nikki has inspired thousands to redefine strength and embrace emotional literacy in their healing journey.Tools, Frameworks, or Strategies Mentioned: The “Victor vs. Victim” Framework – A mindset reframe for overcoming adversity. The Serenity Prayer Practice – Daily grounding for recovery and emotional regulation. The “Care, Don’t Carry” Model – Learning healthy emotional boundaries. Modern Matriarch Mindset – Leadership and empowerment redefined for women post-divorce. Becoming Her Method – A self-evolution model rooted in faith, recovery, and feminine empowerment.Closing Insight:Closing Insight:“The burdens we carry aren’t meant to crush us, they’re portals that lift us higher.”Nikki’s story reminds us that healing doesn’t begin with perfection; it begins with permission.Join The Moving On Collective! A safe, judgment-free support group experience for divorced and divorcing parents: https://bit.ly/MichelleCommunityLearn from Michelle how to navigate divorce & co-parenting: https://bit.ly/MDMPodStoreSubscribe to our YouTube Channel: https://www.youtube.com/@TheMichelleDempseyWebsite - https://michelledempsey.com/Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/michelle645TikTok - https://www.tiktok.com/@themichelledempsey1LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/mldempsey/LINK TO TRANSCRIPT: https://transcripts/moving-on-method-ep270-becoming-her-nikki-spoelstraLearn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices