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The Imperfects
Hugh van Cuylenburg, Ryan Shelton & Josh van Cuylenburg
Reuben Williams - What Happened After My Sexual Assault
1 hour 28 minutes Posted May 10, 2026 at 7:00 pm.
– An Imperfect Meet-Cute
– The night of the assault
– Identity, privilege, and idealism
– Family Dynamics
World Class Difficult Conversation
– The Waiting Game
– Reuben’s Letter
– A divine test
– Just help
– How can you be a better friend?
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Can you think of a moment that turned your life into ‘before’ and ‘after’?
For Reuben Williams, that moment was not his sexual assault, rather, the decision he made in the aftermath to pursue justice.
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Incredibly vulnerable, Reuben talks Hugh, Ryan and Josh through what it felt like in the 24 hours after the assault, how he knew, undeniably, what happened to him was wrong, and why he chose to report it.
We talk about the intricacies of healing, privilege, and having a world class difficult conversation with the ones you love.
And then, Josh asks Reuben how you can best show up for your friends who might be going through something similar.
Reuben, it was such a privilege having you in the studio.
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🫖Imperfects episodes mentioned on this episode
Rana Hussain - Belonging For Connection - https://bit.ly/49voquJ
🎧Things to listen to
SportsGrad Podcast - https://bit.ly/42V75HT
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SportsGrad - https://bit.ly/49p2hOD
🚨If you’d like to reach out to someone for support after listening to this episode, here are some great places to start
1800 RESPECT
Centre Against Sexual Assault - 03 5441 0430 (Mon-Fri 9am-5pm) OR 1800 806 292 (Sexual Assault Crisis Line)
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