The Happy Home Podcast with Arlene Pellicane

July's Theme is Raising Boys and Girls Encore Presentation Kids and parents are way more anxious than they were in the 90s. What is happening to make anxiety so contagious and common? Pull up a chair for an illuminating, truth-filled conversation with counselor Sissy Goff as she shares principles from her new book, The Worry-Free Parent. In this conversation, you'll learn: 3:30 The two things you need to hear right now as a parent 4:25 What’s changed in counseling today versus the '90s 7:20 How does our anxiety rub off on our kids? 10:10 Which parenting style do you identify with? 14:30 Neuroplasticity - What happens if we keep reinforcing our worried brain? 18:00 I hear so much about parents who compare themselves to other parents on social media 19:10 Try this if you have a hard time falling asleep 21:30 Let go of the bottom 20% 24:00 My mom is more nurturing to me when I have panic attacks… 26:00 When parents have anxious thoughts, I want you to reframe this way 28:30 How to create more security at home with these two things Sissy Goff is the director of child and adolescent counseling at Daystar Counseling Ministries in Nashville. She speaks across the country and cohosts the popular Raising Boys and Girls with David Thomas. Sissy has authored several books such as Raising Worry Free Girls. Learn more about Sissy and her latest book, The Worry-Free Parent at raisingboysandgirls.com Follow Sissy on Instagram @sissygoff More Resources for Your Family: Arlene's Free Marriage Webinar -- Get Unstuck in Your Marriage. If you feel stuck in a rut or you've just lost that lovin' feeling, register for Arlene's free marriage webinar. Subscribe to Arlene's free email list for a monthly resource to help your home. happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's new Happy Home YouTube Channel youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome Special thanks to HireMyMom.com

July's Theme is Raising Boys and Girls Encore Presentation How would you like to let go of performance based parenting? Bestselling author Renee Swope is here to share from her latest book, A Confident Mom. With many heart warming and relatable examples from her own life, you'll learn how to focus on building character, not perfection, in the heart of your child. We'll talk about: 2:30 Ready to turn in your pink slip as a mom? 4:20 How do you mine for gold in the heart’s of your children? 6:50 When your child is mean, try this 8:00 Engaging boys in devotionals - how to make it more interactive (you can use M&Ms) 10:45 Apologizing to our kids when we are unkind 12:50 When a younger brother is frustrated that he can’t do what older brother can do 14:50 How do you encourage character in the lives of your adult children? 19:00 How to support your kids’ career choices 20:40 Adjusting your expectations as an adoptive parent, when your child has developmental delays 26:00 A surprising (beautiful) moment in the carpool lane 28:00 The Instagram reel versus real life Renee Swope is an author, podcast host, and popular speaker. She's the mom to three kids and lives in North Carolina. Find out more about Renee and her book, A Confident Mom, at her website Reneeswope.com Get Arlene's free Five Stress Busters for Moms at Happy Home University by subscribing to her email list.

July's Theme is Raising Boys and Girls Encore Presentation Is your teenager hearing from Jesus? When our kids encounter Jesus for themselves, everything changes. Drew Hill has worked with teens for more than 20 years and shares how parents can invite teens to (literally) walk with Jesus. In today's conversation, you'll learn about: 2:30 Meeting Jesus as a teenager 4:00 This Christian camp experience changed my life 6:00 Go on a walk - why is this transformational? 7:30 About the documentary Godspeed: The Pace of Being Known 9:10 What if our teens aren’t interested in spiritual things - how can we help them get more interested? 12:00 What is the biggest change you’ve seen in youth ministry since smartphones? 14:10 We imagine things all the time 16:50 When should my kid get a phone? 19:45 I know I’m a phone addict… 24:00 Personal life lessons from Dr. Gary Chapman 28:00 Who is Crash the Rhino? Drew Hill is an award-winning author and speaker. He serves as the head of school for the Covenant School in Greensboro, NC. He also works in the leadership of Young Life. He and his wife Natalie have five kids. Learn more about Drew and his book, Alongside Jesus: Devotions for Teenagers alongsideresources.com Watch the documentary Drew talked about: Godspeed, The Pace of Being Known Get Arlene's free Gratitude Workout - 10 ways to build the muscle of thanksgiving in your child's life. Subscribe at happyhomeuniversity.com The Happy Home is sponsored in part by Talk About. Use Promo Code HAPPYHOME to get 1 month free at TalkAboutDiscipleship.com.

July's Theme is Raising Boys and Girls Encore Presentation It's challenging to raise confident girls in this social media age. What if you are struggling with confidence yourself as a mom? How can women and girls develop godly confidence and courage? In today's conversation with author and mom Terra Mattson, you'll learn: 2:50 What are you seeing repeated again and again in your counseling practice with girls? 4:50 Letting go of performance-based thinking 6:30 When a boy asks your daughter for an inappropriate photo…do this 9:00 Talking with your daughter about wanting to be liked and the fear of losing friends (negative peer pressure) 11:30 What are red light, yellow light, and green light friendships? 13:10 My struggle with bulimia and what I learned 16:30 The lost art of confession 17:45 How can we encourage our girl who is scared to go to school, or scared to face a mean girl? 19:30 Going on dates with your daughter, having intentional time 23:00 What are some signs that my daughter needs extra help like counseling? Terra Mattson has 20-plus years of experience as a licensed professional counselor and marriage and family therapist. Terra and her husband Jeff founded Living Wholehearted, a counseling and organizational development firm helping people live and lead with integrity. Terra's book is Courageous: Raising Daughters Rooted in Grace. Learn more at her website. TerraMattson.com Terra also has a video course, Helping Moms Raise Confident Daughters. Learn more here. Is your child getting too much screen time? Take the free quiz at HappyHomeUniversity.com The Man in the Tree and the Brand New Start is available here. Save 25% by using code: Save25 Wherever You Go I Want You To Know is available here. Save 25% by using code: Go25

July's Theme is Raising Boys and Girls Encore Presentation "Emotionally mature" may not be the words you use to describe your son. Maybe your boy is prone to outbursts, or rarely says more than one sentence at a time. Counselor and author David Thomas is here to help us nurture and raise emotionally strong boys. In today's conversation, you'll learn: 2:30 How can we understand our boys better by using the Incredible Hulk? 5:00 Teach these three R’s to your kids so they can regulate themselves, going from stressed to settled 7:00 Work things out for yourself out loud so your child can hear how you manage stress and problems without angry outbursts 9:10 Boys funnel emotions through anger; they are more physical than girls (hitting walls, biting, etc) 11:00 How a walk, run, and movement can help your son regulate emotions 13:30 How to respond according to research when your boy says, “But I want to play my video game, it helps me calm down.” 15:00 Creating a top five list of regulation strategies 17:20 Emotional vocabulary chart - how to get one for free 19:45 The difference between saying “I am depressed” versus “I feel sad” 22:30 Suicidal ideations - how can you tell if your child is serious? 24:30 Adult men lead some of the scariest stats out there - including suicide 27:50 Practice this exercise to put events in perspective (so they know losing homework isn’t the end of the world) David Thomas is the director of family counseling at Daystar Counseling in Nashville, TN and the coauthor of 10 books. He and his fellow counselor Sissy Goff co-host the podcast Raising Boys and Girls. David’s newest book is Raising Emotionally Strong Boys: Tools Your Son Can Build on for Life. Find out more about David Thomas and his book Raising Emotionally Strong Boys at RaisingBoysandGirls.com Take the free quiz, "Is my child getting too much screen time?" at HappyHomeUniversity.org The Man in the Tree and the Brand New Start is available here. Save 25% by using code: Save25

Your kids don't need you to be perfect--what they really need is to be directed towards a perfect God. How can parents recover this central mission of raising kids who know God and bring Him glory? Juan and Jeanine Sanchez, authors of Reaching Your Child's Heart, are here to guide us back to Biblical priorities in the home. Sharing their experience from raising five daughters who are now adults, you'll learn about: 3:45 Changing your mindset about parenting 6:35 What to do when you are frustrated with your spouse 11:04 Our central mission as parents 14:18 How to deal with sin in the home 19:49 A common pitfall in parenting that you might be falling into 22:20 What is a child-centered home vs. a parent-directed home? 25:49 Creating a real relationship with your kids Dr. Juan and Jeanine Sanchez have been married more than 30 years and are the authors of Reaching Your Child's Heart: A Practical Guide to Faithful Parenting. Juan serves as the senior pastor of High Pointe Baptist Church in Austin and is a council member of The Gospel Coalition and is the cofounder and president of Coalicion. Jeanine teaches English and writing to kids, and is a women’s Bible teacher. They have five grown adult daughters. To learn more about Juan and Jeanine Sanchez and their book, Reaching Your Child's Heart, visit their website https://jandjsanchez.com/ Follow the Sanchezes on Facebook (Juan R. Sanchez), X (@manorjuan), and Instagram (@manorjuan and @jeaninedell). Get Arlene's book co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, Screen Kids to get a better grasp on tech this summer. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802422209/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0802422209&linkCode=as2&tag=arlenpelli-20&linkId=837f2447fde5b4a57b13b75b78236083 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! [email protected] More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe

Are you struggling with your kids about screen time, friends, attitudes, chores, or anything else? How can you live in a place of victory--enjoying your family instead of enduring it? Dads can lead the way, and today I have a very special guest after Father's Day - my husband James Pellicane. We have been married for more than 25 years and have three children (one in college, one high school graduate, and one high schooler). In today's conversation, we share what's in the (not-so) secret sauce of creating a happy home. You'll learn about: 3:50 Creating “winning” experiences for your child 7:25 Why it is actually good for your kids to NOT get everything that they want 12:34 How to provide leadership for kids, even when they are teens 14:30 Try these activities with your kids 21:37 Why we chose to delay giving smartphones to our kids (and the beautiful result) 25:10 Getting on the same page with your spouse James Pellicane earned his MBA and MDiv from Regent University (where he met Arlene). For five years, he worked as a full-time business coach, coaching more than 400 clients. He's appeared on the Today Show with Arlene, and he is a Realtor/Broker in San Diego where he lives with Arlene and their three kids. Interested in having James as a personal parenting coach? Inquire for more details by emailing [email protected] Get Arlene's book co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, Screen Kids to get a better grasp on tech this summer. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802422209/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0802422209&linkCode=as2&tag=arlenpelli-20&linkId=837f2447fde5b4a57b13b75b78236083 Watch the free documentary, Screen Kids: In Their Own Words about how our kids have survived without social media, smartphones, and video games at HappyHomeUniversity.com https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/ Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! [email protected] More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome Save 25% at The Good Book.com. Use code Save 25 at checkout.

Maybe you're concerned about the quality of your kids' education and the morals being taught in the classroom. Could homeschooling be for your family? Author and homeschooling mom Monica Swanson is here to ease common fears, dispel misconceptions, and give practical tips about homeschooling to help. She also has encouragement for homeschoolers in her new book, Becoming Homeschoolers: Give your kids a great education, a strong family, and a life they'll thank you for later. In today's conversation, you'll learn: 4:25 Homeschooling...is that even a possibility??? 7:51 How our kids can still socialize (even though they are homeschooled) 12:25 Getting your spouse on board with homeschooling 15:23 How homeschooling helps you grow as a parent 17:28 How and when to start homeschooling your kids 23:48 Transitioning to homeschooling in high school 27:45 My favorite thing about homeschooling Monica Swanson is a popular blogger, host of the Monica Swanson podcast (formerly the Boy Mom podcast), and author of Boy Mom, Raising Amazing, and her new book, Becoming Homeschoolers. Born and raised in the Pacific Northwest, Monica has a bachelor's degree in sports medicine and has spend much of her life as a personal coach and trainer. She and her husband Dave have four sons (one college grad, two in college, and a 13-year-old) and they live on the North Shore of Oahu, Hawaii. Find out more about Monica Swanson and her book Becoming Homeschoolers on her website https://monicaswanson.com/ Get Arlene's book co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, Screen Kids to get a better grasp on tech this summer. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802422209/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0802422209&linkCode=as2&tag=arlenpelli-20&linkId=837f2447fde5b4a57b13b75b78236083 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! [email protected] More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome Save 25% at The Good Book.com. Use code Save 25 at checkout.

When you are going through a hard time, how do you fight for the well being of your family? You'll find out today with a podcast first - a mother and daughter team being interviewed - Julie Bennett and her daughter Joy. The Bennett family said yes to God and moved across the country from Oklahoma to Los Angeles, only to be met with numerous challenges including a cancer diagnosis for Julie. In today's conversation, you'll learn: 5:05 God is faithful, even when He calls to the unexpected 11:00 What our kids need from us when we are going through a hard time 18:20 Finding joy even when you are disappointed 21:30 Why is risk is so valuable in life for both kids and adults 25:00 How to navigate risks when things seem uncertain Julie Bennett and her husband Chris are the graduates of Baylor University and have spent the majority of their 23 years of marriage working in vocational ministry. They live in Malibu California where Chris serves as lead pastor of Vintage Church. They have three sons and one daughter, Joy (who you will meet on the podcast). To learn more about the Bennett family and their book, Fighting for Family: The Relentless Pursuit of Building Belonging, visit their website https://www.fightingforfamily.org/ Follow Julie on Instagram https://www.instagram.com/juliebennett_/ Watch Julie and Chris Bennett on Good Morning America https://www.goodmorningamerica.com/gma3/video/tips-building-belonging-amidst-loneliness-epidemic-109431394 Get Arlene's book co-authored with Dr. Gary Chapman, Screen Kids to get a better grasp on tech this summer. https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0802422209/ref=as_li_tl?ie=UTF8&camp=1789&creative=9325&creativeASIN=0802422209&linkCode=as2&tag=arlenpelli-20&linkId=837f2447fde5b4a57b13b75b78236083 Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! [email protected] More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome

The summer months are moments away - are you excited? Panicked? A combination of both? We’re talking to licensed family therapist Dr. Joannie DeBrito. In this go-to summer survival guide, we're talking about: 5:24 How getting your kids outdoors has more benefits than I may think 12:10 What activities can I do with my kids to help get them off screens? 15:30 Making the most out of the summer as a working parent 19:07 How we can incorporate quiet time back into our kids’ lives? 25:04 Helping our teens recalibrate their sleep schedules 28:15 How we can help protect our kids from mental health issues 29:45 Smoothing out the summer in the midst of the challenges of having a blended family Dr. Joannie DeBrito a licensed family therapist who works with Focus on the Family, specializing in youth and young adult mental health. She’s been working in this field for more than 30 years. Find her articles on the Focus on the Family parenting blog: https://www.focusonthefamily.com/parenting/ Read her "Ask Dr. Joannie" column for grandparents at Legacy Coalition: https://legacycoalition.com/ask/ My reading list for kids and teens - one of many free resources at HappyHomeUniversity.com https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Have a question for Arlene to address on the podcast? Please email Arlene your questions and the topics you want covered on the show! [email protected] More Resources for Your Family: Subscribe to Arlene's free email list where she shares what she is learning in her home for yours. https://www.happyhomeuniversity.com/subscribe Watch a VIDEO clip from the podcast on Arlene's Happy Home YouTube Channel https://www.youtube.com/@arlenehappyhome