The Erotic Realm
The Erotic Realm
Emma | Psychology of Desire
#104 The Rope Dominant: Shibari, Power & the Psychology of Surrender with Mark DeViate
1 hour 27 minutes Posted Jun 2, 2026 at 5:30 pm.
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Why do some people describe rope as a pathway into trust, presence, and altered states of consciousness?In this episode I sit down with Mark DeViate — Dominant, rope practitioner, polyamorous relationship veteran, and long-time member of the BDSM community, to explore the psychology of surrender, ethical dominance, and the transformative potential of connection-based kink.We explore:• The psychology of ethical dominance.• Shibari, rope bondage, and surrender.• Topspace, flow states, and altered consciousness.• Performance-based kink vs connection-based kink.• Long-term polyamory and relationship longevity.Research article: The Biology of BDSM: A Systematic ReviewSupporters of The Erotic Realm:Firm Tech for sexual health tracking here.Splash blanket for intimacy-friendly comfort here.ProDx Health at home STI testing here.Innovative Sex Tech:Lioness here.Kiiroo here.Luxus here.Lovense here.Science-backed libido support:Flow supplement here.Desire supplement here.Interested in Kinky Speed Dating? ⁠⁠⁠Register Here.⁠⁠⁠The Erotic Realm now has it’s own merchandise! If you love the show and want to support it check it out ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠here.⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠Visit ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠psychologyofdesire.com⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠ to apply to be on the podcast. I'd love to chat to you.Thanks for listening!Stay perverted,Emma
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