In this episode I sit down with Dr. Nicole LePera, The Holistic Psychologist, to talk about her new book Reparenting the Inner Child: The New Science of Our Oldest Wounds and How to Heal Them.We get into why your nervous system will choose what is familiar over what is good for you, even when familiar means the same relationship pattern that hurt you as a child. Nicole explains the question underneath so much of adult behavior: when I reached for comfort or connection as a child, what happened? The answer your body learned back then is still running your relationships, your stress response, and the moments you shut down or overreact today.We cover why attachment theory alone stopped being enough, how fight, flight, freeze, and fawn show up in a grown adult who looks fine on the outside, why a healthy relationship can feel like danger to a body trained for chaos, and what the new science of stress and epigenetics says about how much of this is actually changeable. Nicole also explains why reparenting does not require blaming your parents. The real work is understanding the capacity they actually had, and building the capacity you never received as a child.This is one of my favorite conversations we have had, and it is our fourth time together for a reason.Get Dr. LePera's book here: https://theholisticpsychologist.comWork with me:Dr. Leaf's Website: https://drleaf.comNeurocycle Certification, Clinical: https://drleaf.com/clinical-certificationNeurocycle Certification, Strategist: https://drleaf.com/certified-strategistNeurocycle App: https://drleaf.com/neurocycle-appSPONSORS Making this show possible: AG1: Don't let stigma stand in the way of support. Start therapy with BetterHelp. Sign up and get 10% off at BetterHelp.com/drleaf Betterhelp: Visit drinkag1.com/LEAF and for a limited time get a free AG1 Travel Case with 7 free AG1 Travel Packs in your Welcome Kit with your first AG1 subscription order while supplies last.  Shopify: start your free trial: shopify.com/leaf Quince: Upgrade your everyday. Go to quince.com/LEAF for free shipping on your order and 365-day returns. Now available in Canada and the UK, too. Veracity: Get up up to 65% off GLP-1 support: VeracityHealth.co (code DRLEAF)