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Hello, how are you doing?I hope you’re well.I’ve got a treat for you this week. My friend Nick Parker, who I interviewed in episode #75, mentioned a reading retreat that he went on and suggested I interview the guy who set it up, because that person cares very deeply about fatherhood too.That guy, Rob Poynton, turned out to be the author of a book I’d read on improvisation, and is the person I talk with in this week’s podcast.* We dive into how improvisation can help all aspects of your life, especially parenting* We discuss the need for pausing in today’s hectic world* And we also explore how to have a good conversation.As well as many other things.I love Rob’s approach to improv and as it turns out, parenting:* Notice more* Let go* Use EverythingI think this way of thinking has so much to offer and I’m going to lean into it more myself.I really hope you enjoy this conversation with Rob.Big hugRichIf you’d like to find out more about Rob, visit his website and check out his books.P.S. If you’re wondering about the photo, Rob had just cleaned the chimney.Takeaways* Improvisation is a valuable skill in everyday life, particularly in parenting and organisational contexts.* Pausing and embracing uncertainty are essential for navigating change and responding effectively to unexpected situations.* Improvisation is about being present, paying attention, and using everything that comes your way.* Creating the conditions for collaboration and inclusivity is crucial in both parenting and organisational settings.* Shifting from seeking the 'right' way to embracing 'good' ways of doing things can lead to more creativity and flexibility. Allow conversations to flow naturally and don't be constrained by rigid time limits.* Be present in conversations and avoid wasting people's time.* Use practices from improv, such as being physically present and creating action, to improve conversations.* Embrace vulnerability in conversations and create space for yourself to nourish your well-being.* Prioritise quality conversations and recognise their impact on relationships and personal growth.Chapters00:00 Introduction and Background01:13 Book Release and Background04:09 The Importance of Pausing05:09 The Power of Improvisation in Everyday Life06:08 The Difference Between Improv and Stand-Up08:00 The Audience's Response to Improv09:31 The Application of Improv in Parenting10:25 The Messiness of Parenting and Organizational Life11:50 Creating the Conditions for Collaboration15:12 The Rules of Improv20:22 Slowing Down and Letting Go22:45 Shifting from the Right Way to Good Ways24:38 Being a Facilitator in Parenting27:04 Creating the Conditions for Conversations29:52 Using Objects as Conversation Tools35:37 Including Outlier Perspectives37:33 Setting Up Family Meetings40:21 Knowing When to End a Conversation41:15 The Importance of Allowing Conversations to Flow Naturally42:44 Leadership and Sensing When a Conversation is Done44:08 Creating Quality Time and Being Present in Conversations45:33 Practices from Improv for Better Conversations48:48 Using Physical Practices to Improve Conversations49:43 Action vs Activity in Conversations51:31 Interrupting Routines to Create Action in Conversations55:53 The Essence of Good Conversation59:43 The Importance of Vulnerability in Conversations01:07:07 The Reading Retreat and Creating Space for Yourself01:12:14 Setting Healthy Boundaries for Yourself01:19:25 Taking Time for Reflection and Prioritising What Matters Get full access to The Dad Mindset at www.thedadmindset.com/subscribe
