The ADHDads

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The impermanence of life can be a powerful motivator to live fully. Today the Dads talk about a recent loss in the family, the conversation with our kids regarding the loss, and the reminder of the value of today (and every day). Losing a loved one is something we're never fully prepared for, because the memories we created with them remind us why it's so hard to say goodbye. Here are some ways to approach living a fulfilling life today, knowing that time is precious: Focus on the Present: Life is a constant flow of moments. By dwelling on the past or worrying about the future, we miss the richness of the present. Practice mindfulness by savoring experiences, appreciating the beauty around you, and being fully present in your interactions. Pursue Your Passions: What excites you? What brings you joy and a sense of purpose? Make time for activities that light you up, whether it's a hobby, learning a new skill, or creative expression. Embrace Growth: Life is a journey of learning and evolving. Challenge yourself to step outside your comfort zone, try new things, and learn from your experiences. Growth fosters a sense of accomplishment and keeps life interesting. Connect with Others: Strong relationships are a cornerstone of a fulfilling life. Spend time with loved ones, nurture your connections, and build a community that supports you. Give Back: Contributing to something larger than yourself can bring meaning and purpose. Volunteer your time, help others in need, or find a cause you're passionate about. Here's how you can embrace a full life as loving parents and friends, knowing life is precious: Prioritize Quality Time: Schedule dedicated time with your loved ones, free from distractions. This could be a family game night, a movie date with your partner, or a simple walk with a friend. Be Present: Put away your phone and other devices when you're with loved ones. Truly listen to them, engage in conversations, and show genuine interest in their lives. Create Memories: Plan fun activities or traditions that create lasting memories. This could be anything from a yearly camping trip to a movie marathon at home. Express Love Openly: Don't take your loved ones for granted. Tell them you love them, give hugs, and express appreciation for their presence in your life. Focus on the Small Moments: The everyday moments often hold the most significance. Show you care by making breakfast in bed, reading a story to your child, or offering a massage to your partner. Leave a Positive Legacy: Your actions and interactions shape the lives of those around you. Strive to be patient, kind, and understanding. Teach your children empathy and compassion. Build strong friendships based on trust and support. Embrace Forgiveness: Life isn't perfect, and disagreements will happen. Practice forgiveness and let go of resentment. Communicate Openly: Open communication strengthens relationships. Talk about your feelings, concerns, and hopes for the future. Encourage your children to do the same. Celebrate Each Other: Make an effort to celebrate each other's achievements, big or small. Acknowledge birthdays, graduations, or simply a good day at work. Show Gratitude: Express gratitude for your loved ones and the time you have together. Thank your children for their laughter, your partner for their support, and your friends for their loyalty. By focusing on quality time, open communication, and expressing love in the everyday moments, you can create a fulfilling and meaningful life for yourself and your loved ones. Knowing life is temporary can be a gentle reminder to cherish each other and make every moment count. Thank you for listening, and for your patience as we navigate our own ups and downs of life. We are grateful for your support! Links The Spence Children's Anxiety Scale Child General Anxiety Disorder Self-Test Screen for Child Anxiety Related Disorders --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theadhdads/support

Sanjay grew up near Compton, California, surrounded by drugs and violence. Today he shares his insights and experience to help men going through life transitions and mid-life crises. Sanjay's background includes investment banking at J.P. Morgan, business development, film and television production, and much more. He is the author of five award winning children’s books, and he started his own publication company. His books celebrate zen principles and female empowerment, as he has twin daughters. Sanjay’s passion is coaching men on spirituality, emotional well being, nutrition and physical health, creativity, communication, and regaining a sense of self and fun. On today's episode, the Dads and Sanjay discuss overcoming stress and dissatisfaction through identifying the problem, and taking the steps to achieving a successful, happy, and fulfilled adult life. Links https://sanjaynambiarcoaching.com/ Videos Email Sanjay Thank you for your support. If you like what you hear, please leave us a review. It helps get the word out. --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theadhdads/support

This week the Dads share strategies on how to respectfully communicate and divvy up chores and responsibilities in the home. A lot of fights in marriage are due to poor communication, and resentment often builds up when we feel we are doing more than our partners. 50/50 in a marriage is ideal, but oftentimes life throws us curve balls and we have to pick up the slack. Learn some strategies and tips on how to plan, communicate, and share the load around the house. The Dads get personal this week with stories from their own lives. You won’t want to miss this week’s episode of The ADHDads. Make sure to check out TheADHDads.com for more episodes and content. And thanks for your support. Show Notes The Fair Play Game --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theadhdads/support

Today the Dads welcome back superstar Shell Mendelson! Shell is an ADHD career coach who has trained with Richard Bolles, author of What Color is Your Parachute? She helps adults with ADHD navigate career decisions and transitions. She published A Course for ADHD Adults and Teens: Unlock Your Career Path. Mendelson has been on numerous podcasts and helps individuals unlock their purpose and discover true happiness in their careers. This week the Dads discuss with Shell the benefits of advocating for ourselves in our path toward a career, as well as in the workplace. If there's one thing we can stress, it's to advocate for your best self wherever you are, and when you're an adult, you're often at the office. Shell shares with the Dads some strategies to discovering our paths, and making them work for us. Website www.careercoachingwithshell.com Your Next Career Move MasterClass A Course for ADHD Adults and Teens: Unlock Your Career Path Purchase on Amazon We are incredibly grateful for Shell's return to the podcast. If you feel moved to purchase her incredible workbook, please let us know. And as always, thank you for your support! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theadhdads/support

Dr. Janie Funk is the clinical director of Behaven Kids, which focuses on building hope through mental wellness in children. They work with families and children to teach effective skills for succeeding in life and concentrate on ABA therapy, or Applied Behavior Analysis, which helps reinforce learning techniques around improving social skills in functional communication, as well as helping to decrease challenging behaviors and help educate parents on neurodiversity and ASD. Dr. Funk discusses with the Dads the benefits of ABA therapy, as well as multi-disciplinary methods for success. Creating consistency and predictability is valuable for any neurodiverse person, but is it all that one needs? Listen to our discussion to learn more. behavenkids.com Behaven Kids on Facebook ⁠Behaven Kids on Instagram ⁠⁠Behaven Kids on LinkedIn --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theadhdads/support

Becca Lory Hector was diagnosed on the autism spectrum as an adult and has since become a dedicated autism and neurodiversity advocate, researcher, consultant, speaker, and author. She now teaches a course called “Self Defined Living: A Path to a Quality Autistic Life,” which focuses on autism and neurodiversity consulting which promotes an active and positive lifestyle. On this episode, Becca discusses with the Dads how a diagnosis can change one's life, bringing peace and understanding where there once was misunderstanding and loss of direction. We appreciate your listening to this important, deep discussion on the value of learning and knowing oneself. As always, thank you for your support, and for more, check out theadhdads.com. Links https://beccalory.com/ https://www.trulyinclusiveleadership.com/ Becca on LinkedIn Becca on Instagram --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theadhdads/support

This week the Dads dive into how to press that ol’ restart button on your emotions. We all get triggered and have bad days, but what does accountability and forgiveness look like? How do we reset and forge a new path? Well, this week the guys give some strategies around just that. Learn how to hold yourself accountable, make amends, and plan for next steps. We all fall, but how we get back up and push forward is what really teaches our kids resilience. You don’t want to miss this week’s episode of The ADHDads. For more content check out TheADHDads.com And thanks for your support! CJ’s 5 steps to a reset Journaling Get all of your thoughts out. Keep writing all of the good, bad, and the ugly. Get it all out on a page and purge your troubled mind. Reflection Reflect on your journaling and decide which areas you need to take accountability for and which actions you consider wins.  Accountability Make amends, to not only your peers, family, or friends, but yourself as well. Apologize and add other perspectives to your experience by talking with others you have affected. Planning Strategize and plan how you will handle triggering scenarios moving forward. What tools, tips, tricks, or techniques will you implement when you feel emotions rise? Grace and forgiveness Check in with yourself and others regularly and offer grace and forgiveness as you learn a new behavior and way of responding.  The six elements of an effective apology, according to science (osu.edu) --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theadhdads/support

Today the Dads talk about how to "choose your hard." They discuss strategies they've used in their own situations to navigate difficult life choices, where facing a challenge was and is the only option. Choosing your hard doesn't mean bad, but rather is an opportunity for growth. Choose your hard is a motivational statement that encourages you to be proactive in facing challenges and difficulties inherent in life. It doesn't imply that life will be without difficulties, but rather that you have some agency in choosing which challenges you will confront. Here are some key aspects of this concept: 1. Acknowledging Difficulty Life is full of challenges, and "choose your hard" acknowledges this reality. It recognizes that pursuing goals, making changes, or simply living authentically will often involve overcoming difficulties. 2. Proactive Choice While we cannot control all circumstances, this phrase emphasizes that we have some level of control over which difficulties we face. It encourages us to consider different options and their potential consequences, allowing us to choose the path that aligns with our values and goals, even if it presents challenges. 3. Comparison and Awareness "Choose your hard" can also encourage us to compare the potential difficulties of different choices. For instance, staying in a stagnant job might be comfortable in the short term, but it could lead to long-term dissatisfaction and lack of growth. Conversely, pursuing a career change might be initially difficult, but it could ultimately lead to greater fulfillment and personal satisfaction. 4. Growth Mindset This phrase often aligns with a growth mindset, which believes that skills and abilities can be developed through effort and perseverance. Choosing a "hard" path often involves learning new things, stepping outside your comfort zone, and facing setbacks. However, the potential for growth and personal development can be greater on this path compared to one that avoids challenges altogether. 5. Embracing the Journey While acknowledging the difficulty, "choose your hard" doesn't glorify suffering. It's about accepting challenges as part of the journey and focusing on the potential outcomes and growth that they can bring. It's important to remember that "choose your hard" is not a universal prescription for all situations. External factors and circumstances can significantly limit individual agency in choosing their "hard." However, it can be a helpful framework for individuals who feel stuck or unsure when faced with life's complexities, encouraging them to consider their options, take ownership of their choices, and embrace the growth that comes with overcoming challenges. Referenced in this episode Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theadhdads/support

Andrew Kirkaldy is a father, lacrosse coach, recovering alcoholic, and pursuer of growth. In the latest episode of the Dad Den, the Dads discuss the evolution of men, from influences and inspirational figures in our childhood, to redemption through divorce and addiction. Life lessons can be learned and taught simultaneously, as the Dads dive into showing up for our kids with transparency and compassion while experiencing the highs and lows. This episode is a raw and real conversation. You don't have to be an addict, or a divorcee, or even a father to gain valuable takeaways for yourself and your relationships in this conversation with coach Kirkaldy. Thank you for listening, supporting, and contributing to the ADHDads! --- Support this podcast: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theadhdads/support